A Transphobe Reviewed My Book

[@freddiefishton]

“They called me transphobic even though I didn’t do anything!” My sibling of the sea, you screamed every slur imaginable then proceeded to threat violence against anyone who wasn’t white cis and straight

[@Elias-ws7sc]

My grandma keeps saying that she “isn’t transphobic” even tho she’s said some gross stuff about trans people and even Michelle Obama (she thinks they’re trans…). And continues to say that Obama should have said she was trans (even tho she’s not) despite her also saying that this sort of thing “isn’t anyone’s business” and “shouldn’t be rubbed in our faces”, it’s incredibly hypocritical… then my grandma would say again “I’m not transphobic, *but*-“

[@OszkarFulop]

They have some very thick skulls

[@Lostflightwarriorcats]

​@@OszkarFulopThey probably brag at how smooth their brains are.

[@EtamirTheDemiDeer]

@@Elias-ws7scAh, the masculinization of black women. We love to see it/s

[@RavenAdrielle]

Ok I'm stealing "My sibling of the sea" because that sounds very poetic

[@fishtubefish]

I noticed they completely ignored the fact that Jamie has a PHD related to this stuff but went right for saying the other authors were mental health professionals…

[@soupy_soup2]

It’s definitely deliberate

[@user-mv5zt8qd9l]

This isn't an uncommon tactic from reactionary bigots. The exact same happened with Mama Dr Jones deliberately having her title omissed when puritist school officials were denouncing her sex ed.

[@Bildgesmythe]

I noticed that too!

[@renaissancewoman3770]

Oh that's so shady. I forgot Jamie had a doctorate. At least mention it, geez.

[@Cecilpedia]

​@@DeezNutzOnYoChinnyChinOh, they're handing degrees out like candy? Did they hand one to you? Is that how you know?

[@echoc7213]

Only people who've never worn binders on a regular basis would think a picture of a crossed-out binder was trivializing. Also, the whole "how could they chop off healthy tissue???" always cracks me up. Like bruh, these lumps are basically ridiculously annoying and uncomfortable benign tumors. And honestly, with my family history, they probably won't be benign forever.

[@Bunny_Bill]

Benign tumors got me💀💀

[@baintreachas]

And cis women get breast reductions all the time…

[@marial870]

As a cis woman who is scared of cancer, this is what I don't get. These people complain about binders and argue that they are unhealthy but then they also complain when a person gets a mastectomy. Why? It stops them from using the binder and reduces risk of breast cancer. If they are so pro-health, shouldn't they be happy for the person who has the surgery?

[@starflowers1751]

"How could they chop off healthy tissue???" I don't think they know but...the splitting of healthy cells into...more healthy cells....is how we grow. Also cancer starts from cells spliting to fast. Also do they cut their hair? Because hair cells are healthy cells.

[@FlutterBug]

@@starflowers1751 I'd just like to clarify that hair is a material and not made of cells, hair is made of keratin and is formed by follicles, which are multicellular structures in your skin (and the outer layer of your skin and your nails are also made of keratin and not living cells) and cancer is specifically caused by damage to DNA in specific areas which causes the part that regulates cell division to malfunction, which is what causes cells to split too fast

[@jerrimenard3092]

Do they even have a clue how much depression and anxiety I had being the gender I was assigned at birth? I was self harming via an eating disorder, crying myself to sleep and at one point I couldn't stand to look at my body. As a non-binary person in my 50's, I have finally found the self acceptance I was searching for by restricting my food/starving myself. I am never going back in the closet. Ironically enough, I have a new love of makeup and self care that only took hold when I came out as enby. I actually pamper myself. Others took notice and told me how refreshed and joyful I had become. It's sort of amazing and nobody should need to wait till midlife to experience some harmony.

[@xero-chan7372]

I’m happy you were able to find yourself and be open about it, I am sure it had taken a lot of guts to come out! I hope you live a long and happy life in your own (gender euphoric) way.

[@waffles3629]

Yep, like do they have any idea how messed up you feel when you're having **dreams** about getting breast cancer because it's the only way you know of to get rid of your chest while you're being sexualized as a child and told you're wrong for finding it uncomfortable?

[@sidoniegabrielle269]

congratulations! it really does shine through when you're finally able to be comfortable in your body and identity. i'm glad you were able to find yourself and openly express it 💕

[@SpecialBlanket]

i also had an out of control ED that i almost died from. completely went away when i went on T.

[@darren-nadinemesserly4022]

You do Realize that nobody cares that your non binary we just dont want you people force feading it into our children!!!

[@TallulahMorgana]

If you have a cis child you go along with them being cis, that is affirming care. So if you have a trans child you should also care for them in an affirming way. You wouldn't tell your cis child that they must be trans, so why tell a trans child that they must be cis! Support them being trans!

[@kaitlyn__L]

The sad thing is, if you go step by step they will usually agree with you - until they have to bend over backwards so far it creates a wormhole in time to reconnect to “don’t make cis kids transition” and claim ALL childhood transition, now even social nonmedical transition, is transing cis kids because of the %age of people who ultimately choose not to go on blockers/HRT. It doesn’t matter how high that %age is, or what order of magnitude of trans kids would be forced to go through the equivalent, even a single detransitioner is too many for them. And we’re ultimately disposable in the course of saving the 1-3% (range depending on definition). It’s “not their problem” if we struggle to make it to adulthood or have a more difficult transition due to waiting, even though a single detransitioner apparently requires their moral crusade. (And let’s not even go into how the majority of detransitioners are STILL supportive of the trans community, still trans allies, or even end up being even more active in the trans and intersex communities than ever due to now having a mix of both FtM and MtF experiences!)

[@karenneill9109]

It’s easy when you think that you want your child to be a happy, well adjusted, capable adult. Part of that is knowing that you are loved unconditionally. The rest just follows.

[@zemorph42]

​@@chrisbfreelancePlease. Elaborate. What logic is completely twisted? How?

[@karenneill9109]

@@chrisbfreelance I agree. I can’t fathom why anyone would do anything but support their child in whatever gender that child chooses.

[@erikasakura7721]

thing is they do believe trans people are telling cis kids that they must be trans, it's why you can't reason with transphobes because they just put words in our mouths and then argue against those instead of what we're actually saying. Technically their arguments can be seen as logical, it's just that it's logical against a thing that does not happen.

[@pinkzaism]

"We dont believe in such a thing as a 'trans child'" GUYS HELP IM DISENIGRATING

[@skyrie_on_talons]

OH NO I MUST NOT EXIST BYE I'LL BE BACK IN 5 YEARS WHEN I'M 18

[@anoxbar4428]

“Mr. Stark, I don’t feel so good.”

[@luk_143]

Bye! I’ll be back in 7 years!

[@onlinename7697]

Bruh.

[@rowanadixon9099]

@anoxbar4428 HOW DARE YOU MURDER MY HEART BY REMINDING ME OF THAT 😭/j accurate lol

[@nlpnt]

"What do to when your child says 'I'm trans' ?" I would find it very difficult not to reply with "Hi Trans, I'm Dad!"

[@jaymes3554]

Love it

[@crowdemon_archives]

Lmao

[@Glitched_System_byte]

Wholesome ally dad

[@nito8066]

i would say WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU as i am an aromantic

[@WitchDoctorMegra]

It really sounds like their take on your book is just “but what about our feelings!?” Your next book should be called “what to do when it’s not about you”

[@pissapocalypse]

The answer is to cry and get over it lol

[@KAW-69]

​@@pissapocalypse?

[@nlpnt]

I'd like to point out to the anti-trans people who claim "little 5-year-old children" are being put on hormone blockers... They're the appropriate treatment for a child that young showing signs of early puberty *regardless of gender expression* even if they're the girliest girl or most "all-boy" boy.

[@b0xbrain]

Reminder: Do not interact with trolls and hate speech in the comments. Report them and move on ❤️

[@WillieManga]

KZbin doesn't care if you report them. We can stand up to bullies as a result.

[@ScarletTiger109]

Counterpoint: interact with them so Jamie gets more money

[@jaymes3554]

Agreed

[@kevwiltshire6365]

I have a pro-trans cis gay male friend who has reservations about trans women in cis women’s ’safe spaces’ on the basis that the latter group ‘fought long and hard’ for that safety. He also maintains strongly that trans women were brought up and socialised as boys, and therefore can be ‘felt’ to be a threat to cis women (with the subtext that there is a violence bred in to boys that isn’t in to women). I’ve referenced the great evidence cited in this video and others, and put forward that this is a kind of essentialism (eg, all men are potentially violent by dint of genes/development) and misandry, but he’s resistant. It’s a shame when an ally espouses harmful arguments; and it’s a shame I can’t counter these assertions more robustly - I wonder what counterarguments could be made to these ‘nuanced’ points (ie ones that are arguably a kind of dog-whistle transphobia). I’d love a quick reference for challenger arguments to help me be a better ally. :)

[@theunintelligentlydesigned4931]

Testosterone is what influences men to make them more aggressive. Trans women receive hormone treatments to reduce the testosterone in their bodies. It is neither genes nor development.

[@greenapple9477]

Your friend is a terrible ally.

[@erraticonteuse]

I love the idea that we "fought long and hard" for...sex-segregated bathrooms? Those were just the default, weren't they? 😆

[@SmolEli]

Your friend is lying about being a trans ally, or maybe he's just uneducated. If you have *any* questions, I can help answer what I know

[@JosilyneTwigg]

​@@erraticonteuseactually Prior to world war 1, public restrooms were reserved for men, as men were the ones with the jobs and outdoor lives When WWI started and women were needed to work in order to keep society functional, that's when they started using the public restrooms, all fine and dandy until the war ended and the men came back, expecting their jobs and positions back The women, some of which wishes to keep their newfound freedoms did have to fight to keep them And after a while gender-specific restroom became a mainstay due to the men wanting the old lives back This is also what happened with gender-specific sports as well

[@irmalair9861]

I'm not trans, I'm not even lgbtq+, but if you like Lego, you my man you my bro we friends forever

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

No gender No sexual orentation No romantic orentation *All the matters is **Lego**!*

[@SmolEli]

You're my token cis het friend now

[@irmalair9861]

Agreed!!@@Finnley-supports-translives

[@irmalair9861]

Thank you@@SmolEli

[@SmolEli]

@@irmalair9861 Not actually token though, I just like you and *lego*

[@LiteraryStoner]

I didn't fully realize and come out as trans until i was 30. I'm 34 now and just started T earlier this year. But I didn't know trans guys were a thing as a kid... yet I still said things like "I feel like a boy" "I wish I could be a boy" and puberty felt like a betrayal and I was miserable and i'm still waiting for top surgery (Scheduled already for Feb 8th though, just 3 months!). Even without knowing about trans people... I still knew I was always a boy. And even without the words, I was miserable. This year has been a roller coaster for me. I started out the year wanting to unalive...i'm ending it wanting to live and excited. f the transphobes.

[@aftonstan5494]

Congratulations on the top surgery HOORAY

[@SmolEli]

Ahh! You're getting your chesticles chopped off!! Testosterone is a need these days, I can't wait to be old enough to get my chesticles chopped off one day and start T!!

[@LiteraryStoner]

You'll get there!@@SmolEli

[@LiteraryStoner]

Thank you :)@@aftonstan5494

[@SmolEli]

@@LiteraryStoner Thank you, time is going quick!!

[@katerinakompiadou6150]

Wow.. Being neither trans nor young 😂 I have news for that narrow-minded fluff. Some of us are cis and are here to understand, support and celebrate different person's experiences. Keepitup Jamie, thank you for opening up minds ❤

[@kiedisboughen5318]

Very based comment, you're amazing ❤️

[@LoraLoibu]

We in the business call them "allies" Keep bein' cool

[@AmbiguousWyrdling]

Narrow-minded fluff is great

[@lilpsyche6971]

I'm not trans. I'm genderfluid. And these videos still hit. There's times when you say stuff within the trans experience and I just go "Pomni in the Void"

[@Stephen-Fox]

🥔 "Rapid onset gender dysphoria" - Or, how it was called back in my day, "coming out". What did werewolves do to deserve being compared to transphobes :(

[@Milana161]

36:57 OKAY BUT, the fun thing is, one of my favorite examples that were given to explain the Derrida's concept of binary mind and its dangers WAS A ZOMBIE. Derrida more or less said our brains put everything into opposite, ALWAYS clearly separate, unchangeable black-white pairs to simplify understanding of the parts of the world we're not interested in and to save space for information that matters, thus leading to majority of people having very shallow understanding of most things outside their spectrum of specialization. When this binary worldview is endangered, ppl leash out, bc it would require sacrificing brain power (possibly needed to ie. sense danger) to discover the grey area. The Zombies were shown as a form that disturbs the binary pair of alive-dead by being "living dead", thus not fitting binary. Because it shatters the worldview, it's dangerous and needs to be shoved back into the frame of binary by making it "dead dead" (note how there's never a thought of "maybe we should try to find another way to fix it" in the zombie apocalypse's setting). My lecturer in uni said that if we were to apply the logic to modern problems, Derrida's theory could be used to explain why some people are downright hostile to non-binary and intersex people - not fitting the male-female binary worldview - and why transphobes struggle - bc male-female stops being unchangeable. That was me geeking out about stuff I've learned more than three years ago by now still staying somewhat relevant lol. Thanks for the promotional vid! I might get the book once I visit the UK (since it's more likely than me visiting the US xD)

[@YourQueerGreatAuntie]

At least the reviewer didn't misgender you!?!?!? Your book is still on my TBR, though I will have to petition my local library to get it in stock. Best of luck with the US tour! Hope you and the sparkling Shaaba manage some holiday time too - ye both work so damned hard!

[@calicojacque]

So like, "Raines" is super evil for using a cartoon zombie and legos as metaphor, but *this* book advocating for mental and emotional torture ...? What a warm and welcoming book!

[@victoriaroberts7034]

What, Jamie had citations for his points 🤔 Anyone would think not only is he a trans man but he had also got PhD and this was the topic of his theses 😂

[@Eliza_and_Odin]

🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔 I'm so excited your book is coming out in the US! I'm expecting 🤰and as a cis-het woman with a cis-het partner, I'm psyched to be able to read about your experiences and gain more understanding for any/all possible eventualities. I was not raised in an... accepting or nurturing environment and want to make sure my kids are, funnily enough, protected from the negative issues and foster a loving and accepting relationship with them regardless of their future sexuality or gender identity. I found your videos through a comment left in a Ben Sharpiro video after I'd gone down a rabbit hole. Looking back, I think I was actually transphobic without realizing it. Regardless of a negative review here or there, thank you for helping me be a better human (I think) and a better mom (I hope). You rock dude

[@beccah461]

This has just reminded me I haven't bought your book yet, grateful to the reviewer for prompting me to get it which I'm sure is what they wanted!

[@erinjohnson7329]

I'm an audience member who's 40, cis, straight, and neurodiverse. I decided I like you as content-provider-person before I picked up that you're trans. Your content is not exclusive in its reach - that's very much the point.

[@Bildgesmythe]

Yes! He's just a nice funny guy!

[@GingerThereforeNoSoul]

I'm 34, and queer. I'm Omnisexual, and in the United States, I just purchased your book on Audible!!! Can't wait to listen to it! ❤🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️❤

[@lancerspades1603]

Um, i hope you don't mind me asking, but what does omnisexual mean?

[@GingerThereforeNoSoul]

@lancerspades1603 I don't mind at all, it just means I'm attracted to all gender identities, and while a person who's Pansexual also is attracted to all gender identities, I as an Omnisexual still still sees gender as part of who someone is and how I'm attracted to them. Some people will say the biggest difference between a Pansexual and Omnisexual is that Pansexuals are gender blind and Omnisexuals aren't.

[@lancerspades1603]

Thank you very much for the information @@GingerThereforeNoSoul 👍

[@GingerThereforeNoSoul]

@lancerspades1603 not a problem, I'm glad you asked. As many don't know what it means. I much perfer to help educate, as it helps others understand and aids in acceptance.

[@benjicord9849]

just a reminder to listen to trans people when it comes to trans issues and experiences! 🥔🥔🥔

[@tenshinewman1468]

please!! Please come to albuquerque, new mexico… we don’t get a lot of people here on their tours and most of us here can’t afford to travel 6+ hours to a different city 😢 i would love to see you and get a signing and such if you do come here!!

[@nikoappsmuggred7220]

im trans, how am i destroyed?@user-dz9eg4bx8q

[@JosilyneTwigg]

​@user-dz9eg4bx8q Over 100 comments in just over a week joining KZbin It'd be impressive it it weren't so sad How obsessed you are Get better soon

[@shiroganetsuki9634]

I also find it very curious how this article conveniently leaves out the fact that Jamie has a PhD, yet mentions the authors of the other book are "mental health professionals".

[@Volume.3]

I had a dream where you were my english substitute teacher

[@asympti2185]

What an oddly specific but pleasant dream!

[@Carolhealthfan28823]

I am in my 40s and nonbinary..You have helped me understand myself a bit more and I live in Virginia maybe you could do a book talk at Diversity..

[@AppImage]

A fun thing to say when someone makes the "argument" that HRT causes permanent changes and a child might regret it is that puberty causes permanent changes that children might regret so by that logic everyone should be put on puberty blockers even if they want to go through puberty.

[@SakuraNyan]

29:29 There's also the sheer number of transphobic cis women that seem rather keen on the idea of trans women being sexually assaulted.

[@ScarletTiger109]

Most common retort from them being “better a tr*nny than a woman”

[@Melaniy-un3kr]

I'm a Transfem in my 40's and so many of my life issues trace back to having to go through male puberty, including homelessness and substance abuse. I wish your book was available to my parents. 🥔

[@angelmagickcosplay4162]

I would like to say as a cus gendered woman, who assumes she's straight, cause I've not been attracted that way to my own gender or any in between, thank you for your videos. They're informative and entertaining. I do wish these hateful people would get a life and live and let live, as they say... unless I've got the sayings mixed up again. The person who wrote the other book and the writer sound hateful and full of fear. I get an image of a puritan from the witch trails in my head when discussing (for lack of a better word) these matters. Their methods are archaic and full of fear for something they don't understand. Ignorance isn't bliss, it's dangerous and often nasty. I must remember to order your book next pay day. 🥰

[@Lizard_Ri]

This is a bit unlinked, but I'm clueless and desperate :p Im omnisexual, i plan coming out soon, but every time i try, it seems like i can't talk. (I even stood near a bisexual coloured plastic panda, it became that pathetic) anyone got any suggestions on how to start? Im pretty sure my parents are gonna be supportive about it, but we dont really talk about news or stuff so I can't unsuspiciously sneak in pride topics. Im terrible at starting conversations, and at being social, but we're currently at a weird state, so my anxiety is also stopping me from delaying it (a good thing, i had to give myself a deadline to be able to actually speak xd). I plan to say bisexual instead of omni (to not confuse them too much) for the start by the way. It looks like a mess, sorry😅 Shortcut: desperate 15 year old with (probably) supportive parents can't start a conversation and is very conveniently not straight

[@zefiro6829]

I feel you. It took many attempts to tell my mother I'm not straight. I wish you luck with your endeavors!

[@cloudyskye13]

coming out is different for everyone so don’t take what i say as gospel BUT i do have experience (mostly out 15 year old lesbian with unsupportive parents but other incredible adults in their life)

[@RandomCommentMakerPerson]

Just start buying a ton of blahajs and other plushes with meaning until they get suspicious and ask

[@Lizard_Ri]

@@zefiro6829 thank you so much! I hope your mom will understand soon, I can't imagine trying to come out more than once D:

[@Lizard_Ri]

@@cloudyskye13 yeah, i heard people saying it. Thanks tho, i hope your parents will learn to accept you as you are!

[@acoelomate2984]

The thing that gets me is that you’re literally an expert in this field! It would take 10 seconds of googling to see that you’ve studied this sort of thing at a academic level, so why are they acting like you’re some random person trying to “trans the kids” Almost like their point isn’t about science or research at all

[@Liatriss]

It's wild how much "social factors" have become a norm for their arguments. I came out to my mom when I was 11 (I'm 33 now), back when being trans and information about being trans wasn't even a "relevant topic" and finding support was incredibly hard outside of a few sketchy sources. It's incredible how far the community has come for support over the years. I'm sorry as more people come out that youth have to deal with the aftermath of bigots.

[@stephaniewhite9526]

5:40 I fully respect your channel is for all ages. I am 58 post operative m2f and really benefit from your content during these politically challenging times for us all.

[@x_the.officia1.a1pha.wo1f_4]

Cis people trying to say that a trans man who wrote a book about the trans experience is shallow and insincere is absolutely absurd

[@goodgollymissmolly7624]

i clicked ‘cause i thought i hadn’t seen this video before, but turns out i have. watched it all the way through again ‘cause it’s a great video, and Jamie deserves all the love and support in the world!

[@pluckylump]

I think I found the reason people keep calling the reviewer a transphobe. It seems to be because they keep saying transphobic things.

[@keeprollin9911]

no now you have gone to far. think about how much it must pain the reviewer to have such slurs as "transphobe" thrown at them ='(((((((((((((

[@cloudyskyz2237]

Funny how those things work, right?

[@prageruwu69]

what??? no way!!!!!!

[@DemiSuaton]

@@keeprollin9911Oh my god this person is bullying them :( I can’t believe they realized that the review was transphobic 😭

[@ijakoan]

Some transphobes unironically be like: "Won't somebody please think of the poor transphobes that can't even be open transphobes without being called transphobic".

[@minohki]

Let’s be honest. The author of the article did not read Jamie’a book. They skimmed it for things they can disagree with and made up the rest.

[@cloudyskyz2237]

You…are probably right.

[@barrylangille3523]

If they actually read it they're straight up lying. I've read the book.

[@majestic_defalt]

They did seem to focus a lot on parts that had a picture nearby...

[@minohki]

@@majestic_defalt 😭

[@pomegranate.commenter]

@@majestic_defalt wait hold on.. their dumb logic? only reading near pictures? sounds like the brain of a 5 year old to me

[@ligma212]

"Transphobe is a slur stop discriminating against me!" Bro you accused trans people of being groomers and recycled 70s "gay people are pedos" rhetoric.

[@Daeneiracorn]

Some people still believe the gays are pedos. Sad sad world we live in. You think if they went back to the "I got a tumor that turned me into a girl/boy" that they'd buy it again?

[@one-onessadhalf3393]

It’s not even 70’s it goes back to around the 50’s, and it’s WAY older depending on what marginalized group it’s been applied to

[@TheTransDevin520]

I'm beginning to think they don't even know what a pedophile is. How can I be a pedophile when it's an instant turn off to find out someone is more than 10 years younger than I am? "You're still a pedophile!". I'm almost 40. How is not being attracted to people under 30 a pedophile?

[@unofficialspider-man465]

Did you know that back in the 40s leather jackets used to be a way gay people (specifically men) flagged each other. 🏳️‍🌈The more you know🏳️‍🌈

[@ceryxfigmenti5377]

@@one-onessadhalf3393 and it goes further still. Its literal actual nazi propaganda. There was the crime of "sexual deviance" that included pedos, zoophiles, sex offenders(excluding the countless times that the nazis did it ofc), and it ALSO just so happened to include gay men and amab transppl, like transwomen. This lead to them all being treated like shit

[@karenneill9109]

My name is Karen. I’m 50. I grew up in the suburbs in the 80’s. I’m overweight and I have dark blonde hair. And I can rant like the best Karen on the planet. (I don’t, because I’m empathetic and non confrontational, but I can…). I’m as cis as it gets, I’ve been married to one man for 22 years. And I LOVE watching Jamie. So no, Jamie’s main audience is much broader than ‘trans youth’.

[@EmoBearRights]

Same but with a different name and darker hair and a kid.

[@Lizard_Ri]

​@@EmoBearRightssame but with everything you just mentioned and bisexual

[@Lizard_Ri]

Nice to see allies, ally gang unite :p

[@SQUID0NKEY]

Miss, Karen, you are a legend!

[@karenneill9109]

@@SQUID0NKEY Why thank you. I actually considered starting a KZbin channel called ‘Karen Rants’, but make it about social justice, equality, etc. But I decided I didn’t want to deal with the negativity.

[@chancewill6910]

"We don't believe there is such a thing as trans children." My fellow earthling, where do you think trans adults come from?? As soon as I turned 18, I got dysphoria and chest scars? People have no idea how we work

[@AviKats66]

This could just as easily be flipped to “we don’t believe there is such a thing as a Christian (or any other abstract aspect of identity) child”. Like fine, you can believe or not believe what you want but those beliefs don’t give you the right to restrict and remove the rights of other people with differing beliefs.

[@hannahk1306]

This reminds me a lot of the argument "autistic adults don't exist" - it's like some people think brain chemistry and structure magically changes on your 18th birthday!

[@probablynotblufur]

@@hannahk1306yeah everyone knows that your brain gets rebuilt the second you turn 18 /j

[@theunintelligentlydesigned4931]

"We don't believe there is such a thing as a 'trans child'," My ex wife said, "I don't believe in divorce." I told her, "That's like saying you don't believe in being mauled by a bear while you're being mauled by a bear." I really don't care what you believe or don't believe.

[@pantherinae_art]

This is like when I told my parents my best friend was non binary and my dad said "I don't believe in that" and I was like.. okay.. but it's still happening. 😂 And my parents wonder why my bestie hasn't been to visit them in years 🤦🏻‍♀️ ffs, I'm not subjecting them to deliberate misgendering and deadnaming so my parents can act like they can "fix them" somehow. Ugggh. Every time my parents bring them up in conversation with me, they forcefully deadname and misgender them to me. I correct them and carry on. "I don't believe in it!!!!" 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@theunintelligentlydesigned4931]

@user-dz9eg4bx8q Some of what you say is true but a lot of what you say, you need to back up with sources. Especially when you say 99% will grow out of it, what study are you citing?

[@bdarecords_]

@user-dz9eg4bx8q Hey, adult from europe here. Interestingly, repeating things over and over again does not make them through and progress can only be hindered, not stopped. The entire scientific consensus and even most big health institutions disagree with the "opinion" that you stated here. You can believe that stating otherwise equates to political activism, maybe even believe that it will have any impact but it won't. It only reaffirms the cruelty within you because everything we do and everything we entertain and reproduce, shapes us further. The only "winning" you may achieve is that you will sadly become the person you never wanted to become as a child.

[@lizd2943]

There is no such thing as "gender identity disorder." Gender role is mostly a social construct. Gender identity seems to be innate. You are deeply confused.@user-dz9eg4bx8q

[@theunintelligentlydesigned4931]

@user-dz9eg4bx8q blah, blah, blah. I asked for a source and the only sources you give me, you delete. But I will check out Susan Bradly at University of Toronto and get back to you.

[@Tachii31]

"Avoid becoming as obsessed with gender as your child" - book written by several transphobes, including at least one who has made a career out of psychologically torturing trans people in an attempt to make them not trans anymore

[@renaissancewoman3770]

I guess gender to them means not just gender but like affirming gender. If you deny it it's like not gender. Or something

[@electronics-girl]

I would say avoid becoming as obsessed with gender as Graham Linehan, because it really isn't turning out well for him.

[@questrequested9171]

maybe the author of the article should follow their own advise and stop being obsessed by gender 🤷‍♀

[@arol1644]

The fact that the conservatives I know are the ones that seem to be obsessed with gender never ceases to amaze me

[@darren-nadinemesserly4022]

Are you not all there in the head?

[@bootstheory]

"aimed at young trans people" whoops as a 39-year-old cis woman I'd better get myself out of here then 😱

[@RedLion502]

😮 oh no I just got the news too! I’ll also get my 38 yr old trans man self outta here too!

[@normamcphee8956]

55yo straight cis woman here. Stumbled on Jamie when researching trans stuff to better understand my niece. Stayed because I love his wholesome vibe.

[@wetsock6539]

giggled at this

[@skyrie_on_talons]

Me: 13 year old trans guy, figured out I was trans, looked around for trans youtubers, found jamie, did a silent cheer of awesomeness, have been watching his channel for multiple years. I watch his videos, and as a young trans person, I can tell that his videos are not aimed towards only young trans people.

[@zzhoward]

50 year old cis man here checking in!

[@carpevinum8645]

Okay, so, until people are 30 no lifelong decisions. No transitioning. No Tattoos. No piercings. No marriage. No kids. No Abortions. No hormones - inc birth control. So, no sex. No plastic surgery. No career decisions. No big purchases. No credit cards or loans. No moving out of home... like if you think people need to be 30 to make big decisions, this is what you're saying, right?

[@SakuraNyan]

It should *also* be noted that a *lot* of people make major decisions about their future education well under the age of 18.

[@electronics-girl]

Strangely, you do have to be 30 to rent a convertible. I always thought that was pretty ageist.

[@kaspianepps7946]

@@electronics-girl Is that actually a law? Sounds more like a company policy which is probably related to insurance costs.

[@kaspianepps7946]

@@SakuraNyan In the UK you can join the Army at 16, but people are trying to get even blockers banned until people are 18.

[@electronics-girl]

@@kaspianepps7946 No, it's not a law. It's just a policy that rental car companies have.

[@TheJenIsMightier]

The whole "oh no! Puberty blockers!" thing makes me want to hit my head against a wall repeatedly. Puberty blockers have been in use for a long time. Guess who gets them? Kids who start puberty too early. Usually cis kids. And no one is arguing against them getting blockers.

[@missdaydreamss]

It's different

[@TheJenIsMightier]

​@@missdaydreamsshow?

[@scarlettptheoriginal]

​@@missdaydreamss yes, please explain how it's different. In both cases, they are given to children for the purpose of delaying puberty. In both cases, if the child stops taking puberty blockers, biological puberty proceeds. Please explain how it's different.

[@abnormaluser5553]

@missdaydreamss Lmao you didn’t even try or bother to explain your bull$hit point 💀

[@-Spring-Trap-]

bro is too scared to reply back you might as well delete your comment before you make an even bigger fool of yourself @@missdaydreamss

[@Morna777]

If you're getting haters it means you have a significant audience. Pay them no mind.

[@keeprollin9911]

this reminds me of back when i commented on a friends (his last name was gray) youtube video that his name should be _first name_ gay. when he got angry upset another friend (who was in on the joke) and me told him how he should be proud that he got his first hater yada yada yada. that gray guy was a massive homophobe and i thought i was a lesbian back then (im actually a trans guy) and it was just so much fun to see how angry he got. my other friend and me were rolling on the floor laughing. looking back maybe it wasnt fair tho esp for gay ppl bc i still used gay as an insult of some sort. =/

[@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit]

@@keeprollin9911 I'm gay and I too have made a homophobe angry by calling him gay. It's just funny. What was not funny was that he ended up saying the f slur. I think the difference between a homophobe calling someone gay and someone calling a homophobe gay is kind of the intend in it. The homophobe says it because they think that it is a bad thing, but in the other situation it's just not the case. You obviously just did it to make fun of homophobia. I wouldn't say it's unfair to gay people to do that.

[@Roger-IDF]

Don’t ignore them, make a Video about it were you make fun of them and at the same time make money

[@soupy_soup2]

@@Roger-IDFIf your gonna get haters may as well capitalize off them.

[@GENERIC_CHANNEL_HANDLE]

​@@Roger-IDF*B E E G BRAIN* moment. Love it

[@momamiandkiddokelsi9027]

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈 Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are! 🏳️‍🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@timothyisstupid]

Thank you

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

Thanks!

[@LunaDrawsDucks]

Thank you ^^

[@MoonAndStars25]

Thanks you are too ❤

[@waffledkai]

❤

[@JuMixBoox]

Okay, the article was already pretty bad, but when they accused you of transitioning for male/straight privilege out of nowhere in a book review, that crossed so many lines they can't come back from.

[@Salikino]

It’s actually insane because being trans he’d have less privileged than any cis man (or cis people in general). Of course by now he passes very well. Many trans people don’t pass well and wouldn’t transition just for privilege. That’s not possible for many and that’s not the reason ever. Such a silly argument.

[@Genderanarchy]

Also the Islamophobia like, implying that just because Shaaba’s family is Muslim (and conservative) that just explains the queer phobia, instead of just leaving it as “conservative” which basically on any political spectrum implies certain closed minded thinking patterns. Also like, it’s always TERFS that trod into racism, Classism, and etc when they try to be transphobic. The Venn diagram of closed minded bigots like the “all lives matter” crowd and the TERFs is just a circle.

[@pjaypender1009]

Especially because he's not straight.

[@Maerahn]

I know! It was literally "Did Jamie only transition to a man so that his grilfriend could date/marry him without her parents calling her a lesbian?" 😦 I'm suddenly hearing the Meatloaf song in my head "I would do any-thing for luuurve... but I won't dooo thaaaaaat...!"

[@raye-raphaelsashay8521]

Yep, that was definitely the biggest "holy shit wtf?" moment of the video for me. Just like Jamie, I didn't realize what they were insinuating at first, and the idea that anyone would be that offensively brazen absolutely shocked me.

[@melugo2895]

"Don't be obsessed with gender." Yes, please. Let everybody live their own life their own way in the gender they feel comfortable with.

[@andredepadua8799]

As if straight cisgender people (and the patriarchy) aren't obsessed with gender

[@ImaginaryAlchemist]

Seriously, the ones most obsessed with gender are almost always transphobes. They *never* shut up about it, even bringing it up when it's not at all relevant. They bring up gender and gender related topics way more than any trans person I've interacted with

[@jacobstinson4863]

I am one of the rare cases of detransitioning, but, just because it wasnt the long term right decision for me does not mean that applies across the fucking board. I have several fellow friends who are trans and are absolutely living their best life. People need to stop using our detrans stories as ammunition against trans people. It gets fucking old.

[@baintreachas]

do you feel that the mainstream detrans representatives reflect your experiences? (obviously ignoring the part where they decide that they need to stop the trans propaganda etc etc). sorry if that's too personal of a question

[@sixty5notch796]

BASED!!! Please everyone help explain that detransitioning people is a small minority, and that there are no real permenant costs of transitioning without surgery!

[@kristalpower292]

No trans children is like saying there are no ADHD adults like magically when we turn 18 we are cured.

[@M_M_ODonnell]

According to those particular haters, I _double_ unexist.

[@verenabecker2724]

​@@M_M_ODonnellDo they cancel each other out like a double negative, then?

[@Lizard_Ri]

​@@M_M_ODonnellare you transparent? I had too

[@SQUID0NKEY]

Wow... my girlfriend is trans, has adhd and autism. Is she triple nonexistent?😂

[@ArtisanYozora]

@@SQUID0NKEY Honestly she's an ethereal, otherworldy being at this point 😅

[@SoapCanFan]

Below 1% of trans people detransition perminantly, around 4-8% detransition temporarily and pretty much everyone who detransitions does so due to preasures from society and family

[@kaelin_cherise]

More people regret getting leg-surgery than people who regret transitioning- and yet, WE STILL PERFORM LEG SURGERY.

[@nicked_fenyx]

More people regret having children than regret medically transitioning, yet we don't ban childbirth. Knee replacement surgery, nose jobs, and many more procedures (including many performed on children) all have much higher regret rates than transitioning, yet we don't hear loads of people pushing for bans on those things. For those who want evidence, a published review of 27 studies, representing just under 8,000 transgender individuals, found a pooled regret rate of 1% (Bustos, Bustos, Manrique, 2021). They also found what the OP shared here re: reasons for detransitioning being overwhelmingly due to social pressures or lack of resources, and the vast majority of detransitioners only doing so temporarily. Anyone who knows anything about major medical procedures knows there is always a regret rate, and 1% is *incredibly* low. Transphobes don't have a single leg to stand on here.

[@OdinsSage]

Genuinely curious, what is leg surgery? I know more people regret any form of plastic surgery (breast, rhinoplasty, etc) than regret transitioning. But I haven't heard of "leg surgery"

[@ArAsDeCos]

​@@OdinsSageLeg lengthening maybe?

[@freddiefishton]

@@kaelin_cheriseya see, the difference is, uh… it’s that trans is… uhhh. Because legs… yes

[@WishGender]

Huh, I wonder why the reviewer didn't call Jamie by his title when introducing him... It really should say Dr. Jamie Raines, Ph.D. Because surprise, surprise, Jamie is highly educated on this topic, even beyond personal experience. It's almost like bigots don't want to accept that he has a Master's Degree *AND* a Ph.D in Psychology!!!!

[@leofreaking]

@@chrisbfreelance Having internet access doesn't make you immune from spouting transphobic BS on KZbin

[@BLZ231]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@chrisbfreelanceBut it does mean that he is far more educated and informed on the subject than most other people. Also, deliberately misgendering a trans person, especially a trans person who has clearly completed their transition, just makes you look like an idiot and an asshole.

[@SQUID0NKEY]

Absolutely! He even did his dissertation in this topic! He literally was proven to be reliable to talk about the thing! It's so wilde to me how transphobes have to put down educated people like Jamie to feel comfortable with their dumb uneducated opinion😂

[@WishGender]

@@chrisbfreelance _He_ did _his_ dissertation on the topic of being trans. If _his_ research wasn't reliable or accurate, _he_ would not have _his_ master's degree or _his_ PhD

[@dark7859]

@@chrisbfreelance How does that even matter to the topic at hand?

[@deimmartillo1674]

If a trans woman happens to be a rapist, she is a very bad individual, not the voice and personality that represents every single trans woman in existence.

[@SmolEli]

Exactly, and if that trans woman is a rapist, it's not because she's trans

[@djebuscool]

all rapists are bad what are you talking about

[@SmolEli]

@@djebuscool Where did they say rapists aren't bad, they're saying if a trans woman is, it doesn't represent the trans community, jus like a rapist man doesn't define all men

[@EmoBearRights]

Yeah considering most r ists are cis men then I think we can safely say that none of these people are reps for their gender id. As great people come in all sorts so do the opposite of great.

[@deimmartillo1674]

@@SmolEli not to sound pretentious but I am a he.

[@beatblocksgaming]

I wonder why thinly veiled transphobia was heavily criticised while an informative and personal book by someone being supportive and open received near universal praise, 🤷‍♂️ can’t imagine

[@joshuanorman2]

Everyone else must be wrong! I am right in every way! These hundreds of reviews that disagree with me are proof that I'm right!

[@beatblocksgaming]

@@joshuanorman2 couldn’t be anything else, just the “liberals” trying to silence the truth, no need to self reflect

[@joshuanorman2]

@@chrisbfreelance then where is the criticism from your so called "silent majority"

[@Amara87387]

@@chrisbfreelanceyou know what’s funny? I dunno where you are, but in the US 23 elections, the reps lost a lot of ground. You wanna know where the majority is? They don’t care. They’re here for economics and what we’re going to do about different conflicts we’re in. They don’t care for the anti trans nonsense being peddled by republicans. Why? Because it doesn’t matter to them. To them being trans is an “okay…? It doesn’t really effect me, so just do what you feel like you need to. Your body your choice.” At the end of the day, you’re the only one here continually yelling about things you don’t understand. Let me ask you a different question, is it worth it? Is all this time being a dick to other people worth it? Of all the things you could do, you do this. Day in, day out. To what end? What do you hope to accomplish? Are you so bland of a person that you need to get a rise out of people for entertainment or do you think being an ass will change reality? You can keep commenting all you want, I won’t stop you, but that’s good time wasted. Here, if you want something good to do, go to your pc, open steam, and play Outer Wilds and it’s DLC. don’t look up anything more than the store page description, it’s best to go in blind, but it is a profound experience, and one everyone deserves to have

[@wacawaka1802]

Transphobia: not adhering to a social construct. Why are you a bigot?

[@ILoveYou-rv3pd]

As someone that voiced being trans(not in those words) at the age of 8 for the first time, and then got scared back into the closet until the age of 35, I think we should maybe listen to kids.

[@darrenk284]

The transphobic talking point that people transition to escape homophobia is utterly absurd. Please tell me where I can find these apparent armies of homophobes (at least in western countries) who treat trans people better.

[@spooniejusticewarrior]

Right? Like I've met pro-LGB transphobes, but i have never in my life met, seen, heard of, or otherwise glimpsed a pro trans homophobe.

[@JosilyneTwigg]

​@@spooniejusticewarrior Actually, for a while in Christianity It was seen as better to be trans rather than gay As it "specifically states" gay people in the bible (it doesn't) but doesn't state trans people in the bible Just a little interesting tidbit of information

[@vidyasreeram2587]

Tbf I have heard of that kind of thing happening in places like Iran (cause gender affirming procedures are allowed but being gay is punishable by death there) but yes, not in western countries.

[@gingy3778]

And also, I transitioned m2f and am attracted to girls, so I instead ran towards homophobia I guess 😂

[@spooniejusticewarrior]

@@gingy3778 right? These people pretend like gay, bisexual, and asexual trans people don't exist.

[@Hatsoonmeek]

Transitioning when i was a kid ment an email to my school and a binder. Its not as deep as cis people think

[@cinnamon5100]

Sorry you can't unsend the email classic liberal snow flake L!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@sixty5notch796]

For real! They act like using she her pronouns and dressing different and more is some "permenant mistake", even puberty blockers can be reverted, the only thing that is actually permenant is surgery, which is something that is nearly impossible for trans kids to access. There is no harm in letting somebody, trans male or female cross dress and go by different pronouns. It is SO easy to detransition if all youve done is cross dress, wear a binder if your a trans male, go by different pronouns, try to speak in a more feminine or masculine voice, maybe use puberty blockers, etc. the only real point of no return is surgery which is something that trans kids cant even access.🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️ My only real problem with this post is the phrasing "cis people" being a bit of an overgeneralization. I am hetero and cis myself but i try to be a good ally to the LGBTQIA+ community.

[@neon17.08]

I remember this quote from Hunter Schaffer "My Childhood didn't start until 16" or something like that, but she said that her childhood didn't start until she transitioned, by denying trans kids their true identity is to deny them of a childhood, it is cruel. In this society only cis kids are permitted to have a childhood that reflects them, not trans or nonbinary kids. I do think Hunter is also enbyphobic but I'm not 100% sure.

[@poochy]

People who are genuinely bigoted love to “claim” people as agreeing with them at all costs. Like, “oh she’s a *bigot* too“. We really just have to proceed with caution and normal kindness. A mistake is not forever.

[@CorwinFound]

Potential problematic views aside, this is a valid expression of how many trans people feel. I came out at 45 and three years later I actually feel a lot like a 19 year old. That rush of self-exploration and internal drama is so typical of teenage people that it's hard to _not_ make the comparison. I wouldn't say I missed out on it as a young person, rather that I got v2.0 in my middle age.

[@Salikino]

What did she say about enbies?

[@ringsystemmusic]

@@CorwinFound*writes note* punt gender identity problems to middle age to avoid mid-life crisis

[@neon17.08]

@@Salikino Just found what she said: "I hope all of the people (enbies) who fought to have trans identities no longer considered a medical condition that requires dysphoria are happy because you've won," the post Schafer commented on and liked begins. "The red states are beginning to agree with you. HRT and gender affirming surgery are no longer deemed medically necessary for adults in Florida and it's not going to stop there." "Y'all just couldn't stand to let binary trans people be the voice of this community," it continues. "You had to dismantle all of the guidelines around being trans to fit your narrative so you could feel valid and then you demonized trans people who challenged your ideals and called them truscum/transmedicalists." "What you don't understand is that binary trans women and men don't have the luxury of playing around with what it means to be trans the same way that you do," it says. "You challenge gender ideologies from the safety of a cis body that requires no medical treatment. We have to play the game and live by the guidelines that cis people have created for us because that is how we survive." "You're not helping. You're not dismantling the gender binary. You're not expanding the minds of cis people," it concludes. "You are making them hate us." Too bad conservatives don't have the capabilities of an open mind, they weren't even open minded to binary trans people anyway, red states are constantly complaining about something, first it was gay people, then 5g(?), next it was covid and now they haven't got covid mandates, it became abortion and now its trans people. Tbf they hate women and children too, yet they won't talk about them as much and hide their hatred under "protect women and children" when really all they're doing is the opposite.

[@Galvatron759]

Hey, I’m coming out to my parents as a trans woman within the next couple of weeks Wish me luck everyone

[@WillieManga]

@@trevorchester4439 What's this? Coming from someone who calls people just wanting to exist a bigot?

[@mjtruth1039]

@@trevorchester4439 How do they in any way fit the definition?

[@toptextbottomtext6104]

Good luck!

[@WillieManga]

@@trevorchester4439Still waiting for a proper answer.

[@Just_A_Transperson]

Good Luck!

[@rinkuraku5251]

I knew I'm a girl since I've been old enough to remember. All the times my mother hit me and told me I looked ridiculous didn't make me not trans, it didn't make me a boy, it just made me miserable, hate myself, and be afraid to express who I am. I just turned 44, I started transitioning when I was 43. I've been on HRT for a little over three months now and I feel a lot better. I still have depression, fear, and anxiety, but just starting to take steps to be the person I've always been inside helps. But if my parents had just sat down with me and talked when I got caught wearing a dress, I feel like I could have started much sooner and have much better results both with the transition and emotionally. That I'd be able to be more open and less fearful. I'm a deeply unhappy person and being myself, while it's a huge help, doesn't undo the damage of having my identity not only denied, but actively suppressed. I can't bring myself to really even trust anyone. I'm always afraid someone is going to hurt me, because that's how I grew up. That's what transphobia does to people, and I don't want any kids to grow up like I did.

[@CorwinFound]

Late in life transitioned guy here. Came out and started HRT three years ago at age 45. The sad reality, especially for us older folk, is that the trauma and struggles of literal decades never goes away. Hell, I'd even say that it often never "heals." But I've noticed in the last year a slow, almost unnoticed, but really transformative change. A feeling of finally moving on. I'd hoped in transitioning that the depression I'd lived with most of my life would magically melt away. It didn't. It got better but coming out, HRT, top surgery didn't "cure" me. After a year or so I kind of just accepted that depression and the negativity I'd acquired from decades living as a woman would always be there. Imagine my surprise when after almost three years I suddenly noticed that I was... content. I wasn't depressed. I started paying attention and realized that over the previous months I'd begun eating more healthfully, working out, got some decades overdue dental work, started getting politically active, and actually gained some friends. When the F--K did that happen?!? I'm not saying this will happen to you. I hope it does. But I think what happened for me was just a product of time. Decades of harm don't just go away overnight. It takes time to settle into your new self and for those changes you've made to seep into your subconscious. A hopefully fitting metaphor. A teen will hit a growth spurt and suddenly they become clumsy and awkward physically. But within a few years their brain catches up to what's happened to their body. And they become comfortable in their adult body. So you are in a growth spurt physically, mentally and emotionally. There will be bumps and bruises as you get accustomed to the changes, but I hope that comfort will happen for you. Congratulations on your transition and I wish you all the best!

[@kimcarter129]

I’m sorry your parents weren’t supportive. As a supportive mom, I can’t imagine not supporting my son. I actually didn’t know anything about trans people until my son came out to me. He helped me learn about trans people and gave me books to read about trans people. He also told me about different great TouTuber’s. We found a great great gender clinic and we’re able to change his name and sex on his birth certificate, his social security card, his drivers license, his car insurance, his medical insurance, etc. We were able to save up so he could get top surgery, so he didn’t have to wear a binder anymore. I make sure I support him and other trans people. I make sure I go to my state legislature and fight against anti trans bills. I just want you to know that there are people out there fighting for you, even if your family isn’t supportive.

[@CorwinFound]

@@kimcarter129 That is so great. Older queer people (especially if they come out later in life) experience what is really close to generational trauma. It's amazing to see so many of the next generation come out into support and love in a way that was extraordinarily rare for us older folks. Not that your son will never experience difficulties but he'll be able to face them with an internal foundation of strength and support that you've helped provide him. Good job and thanks for contributing to these comments.

[@MidnightSonnet]

I'm enjoying the hell outta comments from older queer people like me. I'm 41 and didn't grow up with any LGBTQ info. Didn't discover who I was till my late twenties. I haven't done any transitioning yet, but I want to. It just feels "weird" doing it at an older age. But it does feel less confining accepting myself as enby after all these decades.

[@rosemarielee7775]

May you live your best life from now on.

[@awkwardukulele6077]

I’m always peeved when transphobes say “we’re only saying biological sex is real!” Because, like, what do you _think_ trans people are saying? Transgender literally means, “across-gender” or “opposite-side gender”. The same way “transcontinental railway” is a railway that goes from one end of the continent to the other. So…what do they think we’re saying gender is “across from?” Because the answer is biological sex. Trans people _know_ their sex isn’t their gender, that’s _the whole point._

[@SpecialBlanket]

but when you take hormones you are literally changing yr biological sex

[@ryanwillingham]

imagine thinking that because someone wants to take a train from boston to new york that they're denying boston's existence. like no, it's because i don't want to be there (no hate to people from boston. tis just a metaphor)

[@spankyjeffro5320]

I think the main thing they're disputing is a Trans Man stating they're a Man. They are not the same. You can Identify as a Man. But to state you are a Man has requisites that can't yet be met by a Trans Man.

[@beetlebob4675]

​​​@@spankyjeffro5320 Why would you hold a complete stranger to that level of expectation?? I have served several trans people in my profession, and I could only tell that one of them was trans by appearance. The others I only knew about because they were open and said so, or because their information in the system wouldn't allow us to use their preferred name. It would be so unbelievably rude of me to call my customer "Joanna" when he clearly wants to be called "John" and CLEARLY has been taking testosterone. No identifying feminine traits whatsoever. I had to update his profile several times to reflect who he CLEARLY IS. He is a man named John. He is lean, grows facial hair, has a deep voice, and socializes himself as masculine in the way he wears his hair and clothes. I would have to be a crazy person to insist that "no, he's a woman". Like, if I could show you a picture of this person, you'd see how idiotic you'd have to be to push this issue. ESPECIALLY if you didn't even know he was trans, because it is absolutely NOT obvious. NONE of my coworkers even knew until I told them about the recurring issue with his personal information. NOT EVEN MY BOSS.

[@lizd2943]

A trans man is a type of man tho. Sometimes, what makes someone biologically a man or a woman can be a little more complicated than transphobes want it to be. There are a number of biological variations on the standard XX female or XY male that occur in a tiny percentage of the population, and a considerable body of peer reviewed research has piled up over the past quarter century showing that transsexuality is indeed one of them.@@spankyjeffro5320

[@DinosaurNick]

I'm 40. I was 38 when I found you. I thought I was cis at the time. You helped me to explore my identity. I am now happily agender. And I'm definately not a 'young trans' person.

[@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023]

👋 (waves) in agender solidarity from a boomer from Finland

[@1th_to_comment.]

You're agender? Which one? Sorry, I needed to make a pun.

[@kaitlyn__L]

@@1th_to_comment.there secretly is a gender agenda, but it’s an agender agenda not a gendered gender agenda. gender

[@jerrimenard3092]

​@@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023Kiitos from Oregon!

[@MoonlitBookworm73]

@@1th_to_comment.I- 😭

[@riss.h2478]

Stay strong 💪 trans rights are human rights ❤🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

[@nissancrazy8366]

Bullshit

[@Straightastheycome]

No they are not. Going into the ladies bathroom as a man or vice versa is not human right. Getting children neutered is not. And so on.

[@riss.h2478]

@@Straightastheycome 😂 misinformation right there trans women are women they look like women and they go to the bathroom to have a waz that's it.

[@Amara87387]

Hey did someone hear something? I coulda sworn there was a reply above mine but I can’t seem to find it? Anyways, trans rights!! 🏳️‍⚧️

[@SarastistheSerpent]

@@Straightastheycomeforcing men to go into the ladies room is actually a thing that transphobes like yourself do. Also, no one is neutering kids. Trans rights are human rights! 🏳️‍⚧️

[@marmartin9822]

They clearly didn’t read the book if they used the terms “fraught and angry” to describe you. You’re passionate about educating everyone and protecting trans people but you are very kind and wholesome and the people who don’t see that clearly said or did something hateful.

[@gracelovely3838]

This writer saw an opportunity to pit a "KZbinr" against "experts" for an easy win, ignoring the "doctor" versus "sham science believer" aspect of the story. Also, some of those comments about Jamie are crazy and show how little fact checking they actually did before writing the article.

[@mmori673]

also nuts that they chose someone with a phd to come after. like Jamie of all people knows what he's talking about, didn't he write his dissertation on this?

[@JuMixBoox]

Them leaving out your PhD and confining you to the KZbin space, which they have an easier time minimising because it is less understood by older generations and less regulated and therefore legitimised, seems very intentional.

[@Bildgesmythe]

Absolutely!

[@trashcat4886]

The most annoying thing about the whole "Trans Kids Panic" is that... kids as young as TEN, ELEVEN, and TWELVE have to pick out /their entire career path/. Kids as young as middle school NEED to specifically set up their classes in order to pursue the paths that they want to take. If you don't take certain classes in high school, your chances of getting into college might be lower. If you want to pursue certain career paths, you're urged to start preparing in high school- if not SOONER. Sixteen and seventeen year olds can finish school early just to get into college early. You're old enough to get a job, to plan out your career path, get into HEAPS of student loan debt... but not to know who you are or how you feel in regards to your gender... unless you're cis of course. Some cishet teens HAVE KIDS, but they can't /possibly/ know they're gay psh.

[@LoraLoibu]

Funnily enough, the "Trans Boom" is similar to what happened with *left-handedness.* When that got destigmatized there was a "boom" of left-handed people, which eventually levelled out. *Same thing's happening here with transness*

[@sockatoo_]

i've never heard an argument for trans rights more valid than this one. really. if you can start thinking about what you're going to do for the rest of your life, then you can think about your own identity and self-expression. it's not that f*cking hard (pardon the curse- i'm extremely passionate about this, as i am a minor that has been exploring what i want to do with my life and also exploring my identity. and my parents are making the latter quite difficult...)

[@AutisticFrogs]

1. Just realised I'm fucked career wise. 2. My friend, who is a trans man, was told by his mother that he couldn't possible know that until he is 40.

[@LoraLoibu]

@user-vw1yz3cb3l *Nobody* is telling them that they were "born into the wrong body"

[@Cecilpedia]

​@user-vw1yz3cb3lWith all that is happening in the world, do you think we WANT to make cisgender kids into transgender kids? No. We want to make transgender kids into transgender adults.

[@SakuraNyan]

13:00 Observation, many of the same people that are like "14 is too young to be trans" would *also* object to a 14 year old getting an abortion.

[@neon17.08]

"14 is too young for an abortion but old enough to give birth" Thats something I never understood, why force a child too give birth? They're way too young for that.

[@Rettequetette]

Yeah, because bringing another person into the world would NOT completely change your life forever... /s

[@ilikebeingsmart]

I don’t want to throw America under the bus in that way, but that is a genuine and “good faith” argument being made when it comes to children getting pregnant. Great point.

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@neon17.08 because they blame the child for having sex

[@scarlettptheoriginal]

​@@ScarletTiger109 never mind that in the vast majority of cases where a child that young got pregnant, it's due to r*pe/inc3st... but "she shoulda kept her legs shut", ammirite? 🤬

[@katanah3195]

I am very young, but was born and raised in a behind the times conservative cesspit. I remember the homophobic fuss demanding lesbians not be allowed to use women's toilets and changing rooms. I remember not coming out at school because I didn't want to have to ask admin for the key to the handicapped restroom or a staff toilet. I remember going to the swimming pool, with female relatives, and changing in a toilet stall while they used the public change area, and then rushing out to the pool deck to wait for them and not accidentally look at older ladies changing. I remember an incident as a young teenager on a road trip, that involved ladies in dresses throwing me out of a public toilet because I was dressed too masculine, and my mum getting mad, but saying it's not worth the fight, and she made my dad drive us out on the highway and found me a bush to pee behind, which is hard as a girl but is preferable to wetting yourself. I remember learning far too young, use a gender neutral or family toilet or changeroom, if I have to use the ladies, consciously avoid looking at anyone and be as fast as possible. I have never felt safe in a ladies toilet - as a child I looked like a boy if I didn't wear pink or a skirt, when puberty hit there was the whole "only gender conforming cishet women allowed in women's spaces" thing, and now with the gender fluidity thing I can't go in the ladies or the gents. The only toilets I have ever felt safe in, is when I was a young child and my dad would take me into "family" toilets and changerooms, or gender neutral toilets in small places that don't have gendered loos because there's only one single occupant loo. I can't be accused of using the wrong toilet if there’s only one toilet.

[@abigailr.9601]

I’m so sorry you went through that! That is just awful. And it shows so clearly how, often, the people in the most danger in a restroom are the marginalized LGBTQ+ identifying people. Transphobes and homophobes refuse to acknowledge others’ real, lived experiences in favor of holding onto their own “morality.”

[@supermangarritano6636]

At least it’s pissing the right type of people off.

[@tyghe_bright]

The people who are against puberty blockers will also make fun of or clutch pearls over trans women who don't pass perfectly because of their secondary sex characteristics.

[@user-mv5zt8qd9l]

It's almost like their agenda is to bash on others rather than actually care about their wellbeing

[@ShinyAvalon]

And that's exactly _why_ they're against puberty blockers. They _want_ people not to pass, so they have clear targets for discrimination.

[@terrifiedofhumans1129]

They also clutch pearls when they get confronted for calling a cis woman trans due to hormone issues (PCOS) and grow unwanted "Male pattern" hair growth.

[@paulhammond6978]

Look, you've gotta stop expecting logical argument from any of these people. It's all about how they feel.

[@jessicaK_wolfspirit00]

That's part of why they oppose puberty blockers. They don't want trans women to pass. They want them to develop enough male sex characteristics so they could clock them, harass them, and harm them.

[@naturalthemelodious]

"who you are at ages 14-16 may not even come close to the person you are at ages 21-30" Yeah, totally! When I was 16, I identified as a cisgender lesbian and now, at 26, I identify as an agender omnisexual. It *is* weird how people change over the years...

[@Bunny_Bill]

So real. I identified as girlflux for a week before realising that _that_ (as my third incorrect label) was also wrong. It took another year to realise I was a trans guy. People are wrong about themselves all the time; it takes experience to know who you are.

[@Sizeofabigbitch]

Me at 18: I am a straight man. Manly and straight! At 25: ok I'm definitely bi, but still a man. At 30: I'm cis, but barely, it's ok though because gender is a spectrum! At 32: holy shit I'm trans. At 35: out and socially absolutely a woman now!

[@dannyforduk]

Won't somebody think of the parents! Seriously though, I'm so sick of this manufacturered moral panic. Thanks for being you Jamie and for writing this book. It's on my list to read.

[@catsmom129]

As a parent, I am so sick of “parents’ rights” groups trying to deny my right to support my son. The main thing parents are up against is ignorance and fear mongering.

[@zefiro6829]

When I saw the notification, I let out a long, breathy "ffffffffhhhhhhhhhhh" out of disappointment for the transphobes. I should've known this would happen eventually.

[@DemiSuaton]

I keep getting transphobic ads from Prager-U and other channels, it’s pissing me off. And all I can do is sigh and try not to look at it.

[@VedaTurner-yk9lj]

@@DemiSuatonsame it’s always before Jamie’s Videos of something too

[@DG_Toti]

@@VedaTurner-yk9ljyoutube seriously needs to work on that. is there like, absolutely no quality control with what ads are played before what videos?

[@kaitlyn__L]

@@DG_Totioh there is - they control for the quality of money, and PragerU pays big bucks to run ads with whatever tags they choose. So they choose tags used by actual trans, race, disability, etc activists instead of their own terminology. And Google takes a fat cheque to the bank.

[@Milk-ck1wv]

​@@DemiSuatonI report then block them even though I still SEE THEM!

[@traciechakraborty3829]

blaming "gender-distressed" kids on trans folks is such BS! 25 years ago, I worked @ a kids' hospital. There was this patient who wrapped a rope around his penis & swung off a loft, painfully castrating himself. The docs managed to reattach it. Only to have the kid DO IT AGAIN! Dude lived deep in the country & this was waaay before smart phones, so I seriously doubt he had even heard of transgender. I think his probable ignorance of what was happening to him makes his story a million times sadder. Knowledge of something doesn't force you to take part, but it DEF gives you tools to help deal w it

[@freshoranges27]

That first paragraph made me recoil in second hand pain.

[@frankenfreakie]

christ, that poor kid/person :( if they’re still alive, i hope they’re okay and maybe got some help or knowledge or something…

[@hannahk1306]

A kid in my class was always deeply unhappy throughout school to the point of attempted suicide at the age of 12! Luckily she survived and as an adult came out as trans and seems to be so much happier now. I sometimes think that if she'd had the resources that trans kids have now she would have been so much happier and done so much better at school as a result.

[@TCHorwood-xq7mw]

If your kid actually said "'I'm trans.", the only correct response is "Hi Trans, I'm Dad." (or Mum, or whatever.)

[@M_M_ODonnell]

Regardless of the parent's gender, that's definitely a dad joke, so "Dad" might be appropriate anyway.

[@gracenc]

beautiful, this is the truth

[@terrifiedofhumans1129]

When my sis came out as lesbian I accidently did the casual "yeah, I know, don't tell [male parent]". She was very confused, we have a mother/daughter type relationship now.

[@vidyasreeram2587]

​@@terrifiedofhumans1129that sounds wholesome ❤

[@18booma]

If a trans person comes out to their sister, is the correct terminology "Hi trans, I'm sis" or "Hi trans, I'm cis"?

[@forsidious]

You notice they describe Jamie as a "youtuber" while the other 3 authors are "mental health professionals"....meanwhile....

[@asympti2185]

Yeah, I'd put his PhD in this area up against whatever the other "professionals" have.

[@Bildgesmythe]

They show their bias!

[@IndigoViolent]

@@asympti2185 At least one of them is a self-described Freudian psychologist, which is sort of like meeting a physicist who says they don't waste their time with anyone who came after Newton.

[@widojay2048]

No! Not the transphobiaphobia! Can’t we just have love from everyone

[@lab_is_not_listening]

How did you send the trans flag hearts? Are they emojis, I can't find them? 🥔🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

[@eboone]

@@lab_is_not_listening I believe it's because they're a chanel member

[@Orange-ti4bh]

@@lab_is_not_listeningyeah how do you do that?

[@Thornsnstuff]

@@KateWick1997no?

[@supermangarritano6636]

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@Ben-ki3yh]

My mum read your book (and my comments/answers to the questions in the books) and now, after over a year of her knowing I am trans, she finally started listening to me and supporting me in a way that actually feels like she is not trying to just change me. I’m very grateful that you wrote that book, thank you so much❤ (And btw I am 14 and came out at 12/13 so I am living evidence that trans kids do in fact exist (oh what a shocker):D

[@renaissancewoman3770]

I'm very happy for you that it helped! The book will help get people like Jamie's voice out to more people.

[@Lizard_Ri]

Goodjob!! Happy to hear your mom is supportive now!

[@LoraLoibu]

People can indeed change, if they just *try.*

[@susannairisastarte5192]

Yes! So glad there is much more awareness and vocabulary nowadays. I knew I was different from about age 6. But that was 1976, so 🤷 glad we have progressed a lot. ❤

[@sylverdoqqo]

if two violent trans women “define the whole community” according to that author, then i wonder what that logic will affect white men…

[@AutisticFrogs]

"No, no that's different! You can't hate all white men just because one abused/r*ped/harassed/drugged/was rude to you!"

[@hopetravis2786]

I love how he's almost more offended about the fact that the person reviewing the book didn't think the jokes were funny. Then he was that the person was a transphobe 😅

[@artistdudebro]

That was a part of it, sure, but the reviewer was also being pretty damn transphobic, such as saying there aren't any trans kids or pushing for even more limitation and hoops to jump through for transgender people's medical treatment.

[@samarnadra]

Transphobes are just mean and their opinions on trans matters don't have merit, but people not liking your jokes is _personal._

[@ladycavalier]

Loool

[@gabornemeth7174]

@@artistdudebro The sad is that the reviewer technically never said there aren't any trans kinds. He was just quoting an "expert", which in his head absolves him from all responsibility.

[@DamselMinnieMandy]

Lmao the "healthy tissue" part always cracks me up. Breast tissue is usually completely useless, it's constantly in the way, can harm one's spine, and is incredibly prone to cancer. It's objectively beneficial to anyone (who doesnt plan to breastfeed) to just get a mastectomy asap. I would if my country let me. My spine is KILLING me. But noooo, the poor little "girls", amputating their precious "healthy breasts"!!!!! Ugh

[@greenapple9477]

That's so gross 🤢🤮(the last bit)

[@Dancinglemon]

As someone with chest dysphoria, the term ‘healthy breasts’ makes me throw up in my mouth every time I hear it. Also hilarious how they never mention cis women having reductions or augmentations, I wonder why.

[@twoofeleven]

​​@@DancinglemonAs a cis woman who got a chest reduction (though wish I was flatter still), sadly I got a ton of comments grieving my poor healthy tiddies too 🫠 So while I guess it's less offensive for them because it's not immediately obvious unless they've known you before, they do still view it as mutilation :x Augmentation less so because they like big boobs I guess? 🥲

[@gracen8010]

It’s honestly such a gross way of talking about women’s bodies. My mom got breast reduction surgery, partially to help with back pain but primarily for cosmetic reasons and didn’t think much of it. But now, she talks about trans men getting the EXACT SAME SURGERY SHE HAD as if it’s mutilation. I’m sitting there thinking “girlie you got your tiddies chopped off just because you didn’t like them, why can’t trans men do the same?” She’s also of the opinion that trans men need to be checked for mental illnesses before being allowed to get top surgery. Something she didn’t have to do btw. She literally just walked into the clinic, got a consultation, pre-op instructions, and once she was cleared medically, she got the surgery, simple as that. But trans men need years of counseling and a slew of mental health exams before doing the same thing? It literally just doesn’t make sense.

[@LiterallyAllNamesAreTaken]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@gracen8010 ludicrous. please tell me you’ve called her out.

[@KeniQilin]

It's like people saying the RuPaul Bear is 'indoctrinating' kids. IT'S LITERALLY SOLD ON THE ADULT (BEAR CAVE) SECTION OF BUILD A BEAR'S WEBSITE.

[@ijakoan]

That was one of the dumbest manufactured outrage moments... kids won't have the cultural context so to them it will be nothing more than a stuffed bear that comes with a dress.

[@Flippylover_69]

I think the funniest part about that “drama” is the fact that kids have no idea who RuPaul even is. And since the build a bear bears are all gender neutral by default, the average kid would have no idea that bear was meant to represent a drag queen. All they’d see is a bear in a sparkly dress.

[@samboi123]

Build a bear has an adult section?

[@RedLion502]

@@samboi123they do! I didn’t know that either 😂

[@KeniQilin]

yeah, it's called The Bear Cave@@samboi123

[@Z.A.M.1359]

I'm surprised the article got the trans man and trans women parts right. But the ageism of not trusting a child or teen to have reflective thoughts or any knowledge of their own self... 🤦‍♂️ And the ageism of, 'Jaime looks young and is part of internet culture. Therefore, this must be for teens.'

[@raygoodspeed2382]

I'm 64 and got a signed copy from Jamie in a London bookshop.nice to be one of the "youngsters"

[@undamaged1813]

I have the T in LGBT on my desk and I read a parts of it on a regular basis. I originally bought it because I had made some trans friends and was just starting to date a trans woman, the book introduced me to non-binary identities in a bit more detail which helped me fine who I was as I had never felt like my agab but being the opposite gender never felt right either ***** - Would recommend for cis allies and trans people alike

[@maple7093]

"Trans kids aren't real!!!" "Why don't my kids talk to me anymore? ;;;;-;;;"

[@SalomeMin]

Interesting how the authors of the transphobic book are referred to “mental health professionals” but you don’t get your doctorate in psychology mentioned. I found your channel in my forties after my best mate came out as a trans man, I didn’t want to hurt him with a stupid question.

[@NoxBVansyn]

I was a nonbinary child, I just didn't know because the term didn't exist when I was growing up. I didn't figure it out until my late twenties (I'm 32) and it was all thanks to OT and Jammidodger for their videos on trans/nonbinary topics. 🥔🏳‍⚧

[@GetOfflineGetGood]

Hey I'm 30, I didn't come out really until after college. I feel like I had been searching for the word "nonbinary" my entire life and it was younger trans friends of mine that showed me the light

[@MidnightSonnet]

Same here. The Internet didn't exist when I was growing up, much less accessible info on LGBTQ anything. I didn't discover the terms agender and non-binary till my late twenties when I'd finally had enough of not knowing what I was feeling for so long.

[@waffles3629]

Yep. I hated puberty with a passion, literally called it torture (and got mocked for it by adults who told me I should feel privileged to have a body men would love 🤮🤬), and didn't think anything of it when people 'mistook' me for a boy. I didn't really feel like a boy, but never took into account that I didn't feel like a girl at all. Only two options right? So instead I was pushed hardcore into "embracing your feminity and being proud to be a girl" which literally only made me feel worse and worse and worse.

[@Devlinator61116]

I could have written this exact same comment. I found both Jamie and OT by looking for trans memes.

[@ashla3712]

⁠@@waffles3629”privileged to have a body men would love” What an absolutely disgusting thing to say to someone, especially to a child. Wtf

[@rhondaphipps9533]

Im not transgender, but i totally respect your right to live your life the way that makes you happy . I am do sorry you have to deal with crappy rude people. You are pretty cool. You are very smart and communicate very well. You approach to difficult conversations with real statistics and factual education as well as your experience. Do these rude people do the same? No they are just hateful and manipulate the truth to try to prove their point. Its stupid, your experience outweighs there hateful Opinion . K. Keep strong, Thumbs up to you! I love Shaaba as well, yoy guys are so nice, i hope things change.

[@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees]

Well done, thank you for joining the trans side

[@keeprollin9911]

@@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees as if we were in star wars lol with the dark side and the trans side side. and the members of the trans side get a certificat saying "thank you for your service to the rebellion"

[@poochy]

@@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees😁 no sides lol. Just normal human dignity

[@rhondaphipps9533]

I just believe that we should all try to see each others side, its not my right to trll others how to live their life. The way Jamie approaches his view is awesome, he is not mean or rude. He uses snarts and speeking from his i own experience. Its not confrontational. Thats what i was saying.

[@kaitlyn__L]

@@keeprollin9911where’s my Service to The Rebellion certificate :( I’ve been at this over half my life now!

[@Skyk0_0]

It’s frustrating because we have the evidence and we have the data but they just don’t care. We could show them a million unbiased studies and they would never care about the outcome unless it’s in their favor.

[@veronicafoxx8590]

Holy cow. Jamie isn't even 30?!? I feel so unaccomplished... Grats on getting the first lengthy hate review on your book so you could debunk every word of it! Also, thank you supremely for being a trans YTer, and helping me to feel less alone in the world by being such an amazing public figure

[@freddiefishton]

You might think that you’ve done nothing. But to someone else, you are everything

[@shadowldrago]

@@freddiefishton That actually made me smile. I needed that. Thanks.

[@freddiefishton]

@@shadowldrago no worries, only sending help to those who want/need it. And deserve!

[@shadowldrago]

@@freddiefishton Much appreciated.

[@user-mv5zt8qd9l]

​@@shadowldrago Everyone is at a different stage. For some, simply getting out of bed and being productive for their own self is an accomplishment that deserves recognition.

[@lab_is_not_listening]

Congratulations Jamie on your book getting published in America. I would be really anxious to go on a tour in America given the current climate. Your bravery and strength is overwhelming. Much love. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🥔

[@tbuk8350]

My northerner ass thought for a second that you were saying it wouldn't be a good time because it's winter lmfao.

[@ricequin]

I’m shocked that the author of the review didn’t continually misgender you.

[@CrayCrayslab]

I find it genuinely hilarious that some people still actively try to misgender him... Like, girl... He looks more like a man than my 28 year old brother lmaoo

[@costelinha1867]

@@CrayCrayslab The only reason I was able to realize Jamie was trans, is because HE specifically said so in his videos. Otherwise I would have never know. (Specially, since unlike bigots, I don't obssess over people's gender identities, I just respect said identities.)

[@CrayCrayslab]

@@costelinha1867 sameeee

[@Madamoizillion]

To me it does give the air of people who overemphasize pronouns, sort of as malicious compliance, as a way to later argue that they're not transphobic (while totally making it obvious they don't respect the trans person they're talking about). E.g. "HE said that HE did this..." blah blah blah, when talking about a trans man.

[@fluffly3606]

@@costelinha1867, Same for me but with the comments tipping me off instead. Passing doesn't have to be important (it arguably isn't for me) but damn does he

[@anyght]

Real tired of grown adults using kids as pawns for things that make the adult uncomfortable because they lack the braincells to research and understand what they don't know. Good grief the reach this person makes wth

[@DemiSuaton]

I had an adult at my school tell me that I’m confused, and she uses the fact that I’m young to defend herself. It’s annoying and encourages extremely toxic and harmful behavior.

[@anyght]

@demiSuaton terrible! Some adults need to remember that being older doesn't make you smarter than anyone younger. You also cannot tell someone how that person feels like??? I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. It's not right

[@user-mv5zt8qd9l]

​​​@demiSuaton The insistence that kids are clueless to their own identity and emotions is harming children. Plain and simple. I had similar to me when I experienced interpersonal conflict growing up. It's so frustrating, hurtful and thoroughly invalidating to go through.

[@Lizard_Ri]

Yeah, i think they dont remember how they thought when they were kids, or how much it doesn't hurt to be open minded. I dont understand why would it hurt anyone at all to be aware hey! Trans people exist and are very valid!

[@andrewmackie5110]

The intent of zeroing in on children is to bypass a parents' reasoning, and get them to panic. If I was persuaded that something might hurt my child, no matter how innocuous, I would hustle to eliminate that "threat". This review is written to do exactly that, and I'm glad that Jamie tackled it head-on.