That's Not How Trans People Work

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Some really really bad trans anatomy

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

I wore the trousers in high school instead of the skirt. I'm not trans. I'm not a boy. Wearing trousers did not magically make me less of a girl. The skirts were just hideous while the trousers were comfortable and had pockets. Transphobes: "oh, if I were growing up now, they would have made me be trans." Coming from a girl who grew up liking Star Wars and preferring trousers - nope, nobody ever suggested to me that I was not a girl. If you're not trans, nothing can make you be trans. These people's arguments are so ridiculous. Kids know their gender. Whether you accept that or not will not impact their gender or their perception of their gender, only their mental health.

[@kreuner11]

Preach

[@SunIsLost]

Yep

[@lolymop333]

My mom use to say junk like "If I grew up in these times, people would have told me I was trans." I explained to her why that definitely would not be the case. Then it turned into " I would have thought I was trans." I explained why even if that was the case, that wouldn't exactly be a bad thing, and that it's perfectly normal and okay for children to explore their identities, and all transitioning that would potentially have been done at such a young age is completely reversible. Then it turned into "Well, I just never really ever felt like other girls, so I just assumed you were like me." I then explained again the difference between being trans and being a tomboy, and that I was definitely never a tomboy, nor notably masculine just as much as never being notably feminine and I hated being called a tomboy because it impled 1. I was a girl 2. I was like a boy, and I felt neither applied to me. Then it turned into "Do you think I would have turned out differently if I had been raised in modern times?" Then it turned into "But your dad is straight, and I love him." Then it turned into "I think my true inner self separated from my body would be a boy." At this point, I'm like, "You know, mom, it's never too late." She's really been fixated on this lately.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

@@lolymop333 Oh... oh no... yeah, I think she has some thinking to do. I wish all the best to you and your family ❤hopefully you all find peace and happiness no matter what form that comes in. Does sound like she might be getting close to an "oh shit" moment though 😂at least it sounds like she has you to talk her through it

[@poisonedkilljoy9304]

I, as a kid, was pretty tomboyish (skirts are just ANNOYING ngl), but in secondary school i wore skirts for a while (desperate bid to conform). then switched to trousers cos i’d had enough now, ok, i did end up being trans. it wasn’t about the trousers. i’d never particularly identified with girlhood or womanhood, but so many women had talked about how being a woman sucks i hadn’t even noticed anything was off. i just preferred trousers in a practical sense (still do, but also still love a skirt). but i also ended up, entirely separately to all of this, being trans. i realised when i was like 15. fully came out (name change and all) at 16. i’m now almost 22 - i still tend to wear trousers because they’re just the more practical option. it’s just more sensible

[@PlatinumAltaria]

Forcing a child into a skirt to appease a bigoted adult is absolutely disgusting.

[@J_Lynn]

Fr. Even if they want to pretend tans people don't exist, many cis girls feel uncomfortable in skirts and dresses. It's not good for anybody.

[@SunIsLost]

Yea true

[@LuunaFoxx]

I hate bigots.. TRANS RIGHTS 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

[@tornado4588]

Inversely forcing a child into jeans to appease a bigoted adult is also absolutely disgusting

[@tornado4588]

Also nice pfp

[@lwolfstar7618]

That person who thinks you can discern between cis and trans people by making eye contact across the room must be really confused by lesbians and gay guys 😂

[@rebeccasatterley1542]

Autistic bisexual 😂

[@J_Lynn]

I think that's a transvestigator thing (basically conspiracy theory nonsense). They think a person's gaze has "boy/girly energy" and will ultimately use that as the final determining factor.

[@DocKrazy]

Don't they usually also believe that gaydars are a real thing straight people can do?

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

It also sounds like they just know some insanely horny women, but that's just my interpretation LMAO

[@The1Ryu]

The person in the video obsessively identifies everyone they even slightly disagree with as a transphobe. I don't think you should be casting stones from this glass house.

[@nickiebanchou]

"women can ALWAYS TELL if you're trans" meanwhile female nurses asking me "but are you REALLY sure you're not possibly pregnant?" yes, i am, very indeed. 🙃

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

My girlfriend has also been asked to take a pregnancy test before at new doctors 💀 but yeah memorably we kissed once and another couple walked into the bar at the same time, and one of them said to her girlfriend: "See? All the lesbians hang out here!" (we're actually both bisexual but I was so happy for her getting gendered correctly)

[@The1Ryu]

It sounds like it would be easier if that information was simply prominently displayed in your medical records. You also could probably just explain why you could not be pregnant.

[@nickiebanchou]

@@The1Ryu well obviously yes but sometimes you just go for some X-ray or whatever tooth pulling and you don't really need to elaborate on the basic checklist points so much, y'know, it's just "yes i didn't drink or smoke, yes i'm not pregnant, yes i don't have known allergies" and you just move on ;)

[@oliviawolcott8351]

I was reminded of when I had just come out, wasn't on hormones yet or anything. my hair was still short too. and I had people tell me "I had no idea you were trans?"

[@The1Ryu]

@@nickiebanchou If nurses are pressing you on the the point it's clearly not a basic checklist point.

[@columbojumpscare]

"everyone must be aware of a student's biological sex" i'm sure this wouldn't massively lead to harassment and assault/sarcasm

[@ScarletTiger109]

Not to mention it qualifies as a child sex crime to demand to see a child’s genitals

[@plantainsame2049]

And definitely isn't creepy to be obsessed with children's genitals

[@disrespecc9678]

isn’t it easy enough to just be like “well this is (what you identify as) my sex”

[@CathySW]

I'm Gen X cis woman and trust me, I would have a beard down to my knees if I left it alone. And I'm not the only one. I also remember the 80s when boomers complained about not knowing who's a girl and who's a boy. So now you tell them and that's wrong too. They need to make their minds up.

[@mpatey63]

There's a lot of talk about "respect " on here, but remember it goes both ways. Yes, I was born in the 'baby boom' years, but please, do not refer to me as a " Boomer " in a derogatory, disrespectful way. I don't generalise about other generations, so don't lump all the so called "Boomers" together. There are narrow minded, nasty people in all age groups ! Thanks.

[@Sentient-potato]

Huh

[@auntbee6993]

I'm a millennial cis woman and my friend called me Hulk Hogan in middle school because of the mustache I was cultivating😂 I think about it everytime I pluck/shave my face, it's one of my favorite memories now

[@The1Ryu]

Everyone wants people to act in a way that seems reasonable to them.

[@cottoncandyjkkj]

Right like do people not realize cis women wax and or shave? On a regular basis

[@imanightmare3017]

The person on reddit in the last part first went "how can I be misogynistic, I'm just praising women" and then like two sentences later "we bear responsibility of our acts because of our intellectual abilities. Women just act on feelings."

[@SunIsLost]

Yea. It's the equivalent of "I don't hate Gay People, I just think they are groomers."

[@defaultdan7923]

“you can’t call me misogynistic because i’ve already decided that i’m *not* misogynistic!”

[@ScizzoringGirlz]

“How can i be misogynistic when i’m just misogynistic!? 🙄”

[@The1Ryu]

Maybe he considers the emotional intelligence of women to be praiseworthy.

[@robokill387]

Except "acting on your feelings" is not emotional intelligence.

[@alba2162]

Ok so here's how the blood works It's kinda like a gender reveal You set it on fire, and it either burns baby blue or pink If it burns literally any colour that fire would normally burn, or doesn't burn because liquids don't like to burn, that person gets to choose

[@NXTangl]

My gender is John Carpenter's The Thing, and soon, yours will be too…

[@neon17.08]

Now I would've assumed your blood type told you what gender you were. O-, A+, A-, B+,B-, AB+, etc Anyone with AB blood type is clearly nonbinary, anyone with O is agenda, A could be for woman, and B for Men.

[@MereMeerkat]

Female blood has glitter particles in it, and since male blood vessels are narrower, if a male gets a blood transfusion from a female, he'll instantly have a blood clot and die. /s

[@AlatheD]

@@NXTangl Sorry, I'm already a cryptid. My ideal body is Mothman's.

[@mjtruth1039]

@@PaperMan-pi1xv Define “groomer”.

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

"Transphobia is closet misogyny" Cis woman with trans girlfriend. Can confirm, we literally see the parallels together on AT MINIMUM a weekly basis.

[@The1Ryu]

Some people see the parallels between the illuminati and lizard-people on a weekly basis.

[@jenm1]

I've always felt that transphobia, while it has become its own horrendous monster, is an extension of the hatred for anything fem, with trans women not being inherently feminine enough and trans men not being real men. And I'm sure they don't care, but these gender expectations harm cis people too

[@kaiyakershaw1028]

💯

[@beam_me_up_scotty69]

Instant respect for the Buttercup pfp

[@uspockdad6429]

Not trans, but transphobes really rub me the wrong way. Anytime a transphobe intentionally misgenders someone, I go out of my way to misgender them. Sometimes all it takes is feeling what they feel for them to realize how hurtful it can be.

[@Chaos-._]

Can relate with this entire comment.

[@BlooMonkiMan]

As of just now, same.

[@disableddragonborn]

I'm a very passive person, so I doubt I'd have the courage to do that, but I love that.

[@electronics-girl]

I just don't let transphobes rub me at all.

[@Sepi-chu_loves_moths]

Based

[@Spirit_Of_Wrath]

6:25 ish. Transphobes be like "Everyone in this school must know what parts this child has" And if that ain't creepy, idk what is.

[@Insertia_Nameia]

But no, it's trans and lgbtq+ people that are the ones obsessed with children's genitals. 🙄

[@dakrabking]

Honestly transphobes seem to think about whats in trans people's pants more than actual trans people think about it.

[@BlooMonkiMan]

On god

[@EmotionalParaquat714神离天]

Basically they are groomers

[@Montesama314]

Yeah, like what the fuck? "Welcome to middle school, drop your trousers, it's for safety"?

[@CarysCreatesThings]

Thinking that only trans women will see a sticker on the underside of a toilet seat is so ridiculous. I have a chronic illness that often causes nausea and vomiting, and when I need to throw up in a public toilet I always lift the seat first!

[@yourladbrennen3130]

And as if we can't also just sit?

[@dark7859]

Also, people usually, you know, walk to the toilets, you can't tell me no one will end up walking in while the seat just happens to be up

[@angelainamarie9656]

I haven't stood up to use the restroom in 9 years. Kind of the point about fitting in

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

I would much rather have come out to Tickles the Hamster than to transphobic school staff members.

[@katanah3195]

Me too. At least the hamster won't tell me gender is a binary and there's no such thing as gender fluidity, he only wants to know if I brought him lettuce.

[@grampa.corybreshears]

The h in hrt stands for hamster

[@lyn6768]

I feel like the fact that my home country doesn't have mandatory school uniforms is why so many of my fellow classmates were able to express their gender/sexuality/personality, and everything else, so early on and without a judgement. The only rule was and still is, no flip flops :') But that's just because of injuries wearing them can cause.

[@esmeraldagreengate4354]

I have no problems with uniforms per se. I wore a school uniform my entire school life and appreciated not having to worry about wearing the right clothes to school on top of all the other things. My only gripe is schools that force girls to wear skirts or dresses, especially in the winter. I don't think skirts are a great idea for school for many reasons.

[@teritt]

@@esmeraldagreengate4354 Or even denying boys shorts??? There was a school that refused to let boys wear shorts so they started just wearing the girls skirts.

[@esmeraldagreengate4354]

@@teritt really? So they had to wear long pants all year? Where was this? I can't imagine having to wear long pants in the Aussie summer 🥵🥵 I bet the skirt wearing got them to change their tune quick though.

[@teritt]

@@esmeraldagreengate4354 I can’t exactly remember where it was but I do remember an image of the boy doing dorm chores in a skirt, and multiple comments cheering him on.

[@Akab]

I do support uniforms, but they have to be actually "uniform" according to its name, regardless of what gender, rank or social status we have 👍

[@1bfnmusic1]

Me, a trans woman, wondering how to see peoples chromosomes in public

[@Beru_stan]

Same

[@sabrel4975]

Transphobes just go around with magnifying glasses looking at random people on the street

[@mikuumelody]

@@sabrel4975true

[@avocado_pop]

apparently transphobes can sniff out those chromosomes. like raccoons can smell fear

[@sunshinesquares]

I don’t know what my chromosomes are…but I thoroughly enjoy being a woman. And I can’t imagine what that feeling would feel like if my body didn’t match how I felt. I have much respect for trans people and empathy for the struggles they go through. Y’all keep on being your wonderful selves. ❤

[@Vahlee-A]

The thing that upsets me so much about transphobes is that they call ME all these slurs and then IMMEDIATELY RANT ABOUT MY GENITALS.

[@KindlyKalen]

Yeah, i hear the word tr*** half the time

[@Vahlee-A]

@@PaperMan-pi1xv- Why is that good?

[@This_dumb_guy]

@@PaperMan-pi1xvget a life and go to an hospital (:

[@joshuacoleman8000]

​@@PaperMan-pi1xvPervert.

[@Amara87387]

@@PaperMan-pi1xv*wow* are you desperate. Did one of your old accounts get banned? Which one? Was it Dusty? Is that you? anyways, you’re weirdly obsessed with trans people, you should see a psychiatrist

[@Phoenix_Wright2]

I’m just going to assume nobody will see this. I’m trans FtM and still in school. I’m unaccepted in my house and I was also forbidden to use my preferred name and pronouns at school. Til this day I am still extremely paranoid that my mom will find out if I used my name and preferred pronouns at school and follow through on the threat of taking everything I love. I don’t know what to do. It’s exhausting having to keep up with all my work and trying not to out myself in anyway and hell I can’t even follow through on certain social standards because they don’t click in time. I’m so tired. What am I even supposed to do in this situation?

[@kiedisboughen5318]

That sounds horrible, I really hope life gets better soon ❤❤❤. I'm afraid I can't offer some kind of instant fix all, but I hope that your situation gets better. You're an amazing dude and don't let anyone make you feel that you aren't. Life may suck now but it gets better ❤

[@teritt]

If you can, research local lgbt+ organizations who may be able to help you. Your mother making threats against you is a very serious matter, and they may be able to offer legal assistance because that sounds rather abusive. They may also help you be able to fix your school to be more accepting, as this discrimination is against most laws.

[@zemorph42]

Be safe. Bide your time until you get to a place where you can be yourself without those threats hanging over you.

[@yorp.]

Ignore the comment above me

[@fevre_dream8542]

Unfortunately, at this point erring on the side of safety is probably your best bet. Once you're in a safer place you can live authentically and freely. I'm a cis woman, but lived in a viciously abusive household for the majority of my childhood and teens. Survival takes priority. Once you're done surviving, and youre out of that threatening situation, you'll have the space to start _living_ , and even thriving. I'm sorry you're in a situation to receive this advice. Once you're on the other side, we all look forward to greeting the real, authentic and free you. Until then, we'll be here quietly supporting you.

[@SheilaRough]

About 15 years ago, the church I attend had a special meeting. It was called because the 6 yo child of a couple who attended had come out as trans. The child wanted to be called by their new name & wear clothing more associated with their preferred gender. The child's therapist recommended having this meeting to explain and answer any questions. I believe they had a similar meeting with child's school. After explaining what the meeting was about, the overwhelming support and love for the child threw the therapist for a loop. They had expected backlash, angry parents saying that they didn't want their children to attend Sunday school with a trans kid. Instead the congregation wanted to know how to make the child more comfortable with their transition.

[@OVERDRIVE_78]

And that's how the Christian community should act towards others!

[@John_Weiss]

Oh! _Actual_ Christians, and not the Christian-Taliban.

[@endless_song]

That is an example of real Christianity - my church does the same. It's interesting, isn't it, that across many religions, the loudest "believers" are often those that have strayed the farthest from the true teachings of their faith. Truly I tell you, they have already received their reward.

[@darkshadowrule2952]

​@@BlooMonkiManwhy would it be the church of the old testimate? Unless this is a movie reference or something I'm missing, the church was in theory far more inclusionary after the introduction of Jesus and his open armed approach with society's most rejected

[@sybariticcupboardrat3763]

@@BlooMonkiMan The old testament contains the two most often cited examples of god being against the gays, so I don't get the reference. Side note, this sounds like a euphemistic way to ask if they were jewish.

[@AmyStrikesBack]

Denying someone's trans identity because ""theres no thing as a trans kid"" doesn't make us less trans, it only makes us pissed

[@Alucia0]

And in a lot of cases, makes us dead. That is exactly what they want though, they want us to die. We aren't people to them.

[@SpyMC-vo8gi]

Yep. And having dysphoria SUCKKSSSSS (have not transitioned yet and also haven’t come out to anyone except my sisters :( )

[@Demuu2]

*denying

[@zemorph42]

​@@Demuu2First word in a sentence is capitalized. That's proper English grammar.

[@colorbugoriginals4457]

i think sometimes that is all they want 😢

[@TransDaughterOfWater]

I'm a trans woman who's handicapped but if I could walk I would peel that sticker off the toilet, throw it into the toilet, and piss standing up into the toilet. I am *_NOT_* joking!

[@katelynna10000]

Girl I'm a cis disabled woman, but same. I can walk enough to try, at least. Why can't people just use the toilet in peace?

[@RainbyFIN]

I support you, let me prop you up and help you do it 😂

[@Robb3636]

Hard agree, although only please put stickers in the bin, rather than down the toilet!

[@Emma-Maze]

Lady, we would all carry you to that bathroom to get the damn sticker 😤💛

[@jayfalcon-rw3qc]

I just find it hilarious that a transphobe put their bare hand on the under side of a public toilet, and I'm not going to feel sorry for them if they get a staph infection

[@Malnxxty]

trans rights are human rights

[@Amara87387]

🏳️‍⚧️!

[@mikuumelody]

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[@eboone]

@@PaperMan-pi1xv are you ever gonna tell us why? or just say "Nope" on every comment

[@Amara87387]

@@eboone same old same old for them. They can’t ever make a good point. Same old tired rhetoric. I think she might be closeted tho

[@sandrols7]

​@@PaperMan-pi1xvif you're too lazy to elaborate on your point a second time, your opinion might not be worth that much anyway

[@YourQueerGreatAuntie]

I'm non-trans female, and went to a school with gender-segregated uniforms, toilets, changing rooms, sports et.c (80s and early 90s). I railed against all of it on the grounds of equality. I don't know how any transphobe can consider themselves feminist. Sending all the love to my trans, intersex and NB siblings!

[@lauraelliott6909]

In my high school, the concert band uniforms were dresses for the girls and tuxes for the boys. We had an AFAB band member who abhorred feminine presenting clothes and had a neutral hairstyle. They were allowed to wear a tux. They were very comfortable, and no one had an issue with it. I don't know their gender identity, thus the neutral pronouns.

[@argonanarchy3882]

I love you for this. I tried to get unisex toilets at my school, and someone brought up rapists. So the teachers shut it down. Ugh

[@The1Ryu]

What about the people who are not comfortable with sharing these spaces, how are you assuring equal consideration for them?

[@AmbiguousWyrdling]

​@@The1Ryuthey can mind their own fucking business or leave, if they fully cannot handle having a trans person in the bathroom or changing room then they can wait until they're out instead of believing everything is going to go to their liking

[@The1Ryu]

@@AmbiguousWyrdling That's not equality, for one, and for two, you are revealing your own bigotry, because example didn't say anything about trans people nor was it referring to any comfort level of sharing spaces with them.

[@ShortForMertchel]

On misgendering animals: I have two male cats who are only allowed outside with harnesses and one of them (Zen) always wears a pink harness while the other's (Zeal's) harness is always a blue or black one bc I feel those colors go best with each of their shades of gray fur. And without fail anyone who meets my boys uses she/her pronouns for Zen. It's really funny how conciliatory ppl get about misgendering a cat. Like, he doesn't care, he doesn't understand pronouns. He only understands his name and the the command words of tricks that he gets treats for doing.

[@j.apenrose7896]

Had a great encounter the other day in the dog park. An older lady was chatting to me about an article of "men who think they're women needing to see gynaecologists." I kinda just went, "was this about transmen, out of interest?" She agreed, so I explained that some transmen still have a uterus or ovaries, so they need to get tests and things for there health, just like cis women do. She was a bit taken aback, so I figured to drive the point home with "I mean, I'm not a woman and I still have to see a gynaecologist." The most shocked look I could've imagined on her face. Thankfully she mostly was just ignorant rather than hateful. She did do the "well I know someone whose child is trans, so I'm totally all good with it!" But yeah. Overall she was fairly polite about it, and took my correction in her stride.

[@BlooMonkiMan]

You've heard it in the bible, my fellow yankees, and now you've heard it here. Stride over Pride.

[@j.apenrose7896]

@@BlooMonkiMan May you clarify what this means? I've read it too many times now and still have no clue

[@AryaFairywren]

@@j.apenrose7896 possibly, that "taking it in stride" is superiour to "pride in your opinion no matter how wrong"?

[@BlooMonkiMan]

Yeah, I was referring to how Pride is a Deadly Sin whereas an example of the Heavenly Virtue of Humility is taking things in stride.

[@j.apenrose7896]

@@BlooMonkiMan So, I'm so sorry but I can still interpret this in multiple ways. 1. Pride is sin and bad. Therefore LGBT+ people are sinful. However, simply taking it in your stride and being kind is the best option as it shows humility. 2. Being proud is sinful. Therefore it is better to be humble and treat people with respect than to be proud and refusing to budge from your views.

[@jacquelynsmith2351]

Why is it more acceptable for me, a cis woman, to wear trousers than it is for a trans man to wear trousers? (I originally put "pants" because I'm in the USA, but a lot of you are in the UK and that would be all sorts of awkward)

[@5Rice5Cake5]

😂

[@Alucia0]

I have never head anyone using David Reimer as an anti transition example before and I wish that I never had...The fact that they would use one of the most horrible and abusive examples of human experimentation as an argument about is full on enrages me. He was abused so servilely that he could not live with the trauma even after he gained back control of his life. He was not trans and should never have been put into that position. What makes it that much worse is that these ass hats genuinely believe that this is what we are doing to children, that we are forcing them to transition and it's despicable to ever insinuate that we are abusing kids like that, what kind of evil psycho would put their own child through such a horrifyingly bad experience?

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

His story is also a perfect example of why nobody should impose an unwanted gender identity on trans kids. He was not allowed to be himself, and was altered to fit the gender that society had assigned him. This is a horrible experience that many trans people can relate to. Reimer actually supports the argument for trans rights, but like everything else, transphobes have twisted it around and turned their own offenses into accusations.

[@Chaos-._]

@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Exactly this. I use David Reimer as an example of how being trans isn't a "social contagion" as bigots like to argue.

[@acutechicken5798]

Also keep in mind that transphobes write exceptions for genital mutilation in the context of circumcision and intersex reassignment surgery. They are the ones forcibly transitioning kids, and they know it. They just think that forcibly transitioning someone to fit into their antiquated and disgusting worldview is ok while allowing someone the freedom to choose their own path is not.

[@SunIsLost]

​@@FrozEnbyWolf150yep

[@SunIsLost]

The experiment proved 2 things: - Cisgender people exist, people just don't "become trans". - Trans people are valid.

[@nicked_fenyx]

Gotta love the one about how women can supposedly "smell and feel" when people are male. Back when I was an afab teen who didn't know what "transgender" was or why I felt the way I did, I can't count the number of times women would look at me uncomfortably or pointedly tell me "this is the *women's* restroom" whenever I went to the bathroom. The number of times I had to awkwardly trigger my own dysphoria by saying, "I am a girl/woman" to ease their fears was insane... and even then some of them seemed suspicious. There were also plenty of times when kids would come up to me and ask, "are you a girl or a boy?" These events happened even after I developed rather noticeably in the chest and hips, much to my chagrin. I never fit in with girls/women. Never. There was always this feeling that I wasn't quite like them - a feeling which clearly existed on both ends. So no. You cannot always tell. You can't even tell when the person standing next to you in the bathroom is, indeed, female. I feel bad for all of the cisgender women who get accused and/or assaulted for not looking "feminine" enough in women's spaces. Transphobes really need to stop transphobing. For all our sakes.

[@lizzylinks789]

trans rights are human rights!

[@sashathedonut]

🏳️‍⚧️!!!

[@blowinatranny]

Name an amendment that does not apply to trans people

[@mjtruth1039]

@@blowinatranny You say that like Amendments haven’t been ignored by right wingers.

[@teritt]

@@blowinatranny The right to liberty, freedom, and the pursuit of happiness are especially threatened in America. There are also many attempts to deny them the right to healthcare. In other countries their right to life is threatened constantly. There are also torture camps all across the world.

[@blowinatranny]

@@mjtruth1039 I don't care about right wingers fuck the left fuck the right

[@Aeverwander]

The toilet sticker is more likely to be seen by a cisgender boy who has to go to the women's bathroom with his mother because he's too young to go to the other one alone. So that's creepy AF.

[@intercat4907]

Start with, "creepy af". Stop there. The sticker just expresses the fact that somebody out there wishes they could watch in person. Don't let them.

[@The1Ryu]

He should probably go to the men's bathroom with his father.

[@sleepieste]

what do u mean? @@intercat4907

[@veronicasipe2017]

@@The1Ryu So male children must always be accompanied by a male parent in public at all times. Even if they don't have one. Got it.

[@The1Ryu]

@@veronicasipe2017 Based on that do you think the OP is saying male children must always be accompanied by a female parent in public at all times, even if they don't have one? Becuase if you are only criticizing one of our comments, that makes you sound like a hypocrite.

[@stellanera98]

Ill be calling it Twitter. Musk doesnt respect his trans childs name or pronouns so he's not getting his silly apps name respected either

[@ShiningStar396]

Same

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

wrong logic

[@mjtruth1039]

@@transsexual_computer_faery How is it wrong?

[@joshuacoleman8000]

​@@transsexual_computer_faeryHow?

[@ceryxfigmenti5377]

@@transsexual_computer_faery in spite of the state of americas opinions, a company is not a person. so fuck em.

[@SimonClarkstone]

I noticed that Jamie's below-lip-above-chin patch of beard looks like a bow-tie, and now I can't unsee it. (LOL)

[@kiedisboughen5318]

Damn now I can't unsee it TwT

[@roswell5065]

Now I can't unsee it either

[@Montesama314]

When your face wants to be fancy

[@ultimatehawkeyefangirl]

You just had to inflict it on all of us, xD

[@sillybritishbomb]

it does lmao

[@megmarie2153]

In high school, my sister and I wore the 'boys' pants because we found them more comfortable than the 'girls' ones. No one said anything (we're both cis). It isn't just about gender but it's also a personal preference to clothes

[@Werevampiwolf]

I know you didn't show the picture of the cis woman with the beard who has PCOS, but I've seen it before and I literally know the woman in the picture. She's really cool. She's got a really gorgeous watercolor octopus tattoo on her chest now, and her beard is even more magnificent. She also responded to the post on tumblr.

[@fevre_dream8542]

Look, I'm a woman and I WISH I could grow facial hair, it would be so dang cool

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

@@fevre_dream8542 nice

[@5Rice5Cake5]

@@fevre_dream8542I have pcos and it. Is HELL 😭

[@fevre_dream8542]

@@5Rice5Cake5 Oh yeah no, I know PCOS is awful, some of my patients have a really awful time with it. I don't want PCOS, just facial hair lol. Also, sorry you have to put up with it :/ hopefully you're under the care of a decent GP or Gyn

[@5Rice5Cake5]

@@fevre_dream8542 thank you 😊

[@skelebee]

the example of people respecting the pronouns of pets better than humans always gets me cause I have a small dog and a lot of people assume he's female. I'll tell them his masculine name and use he/him pronouns and they'll continue to refer to him as a girl. I usually don't correct twice because I know my dog doesn't care but the lack of listening of the human's half is interesting.

[@animeotaku307]

Same with my cat (though TBF his name sounds feminine).

[@endless_song]

He's right though that everyone assumes that cats are female. I also have 2 boy cats, and they always get called "good girl".....which they're generally quite happy about since their English isn't so good.

[@skelebee]

I did not say he was wrong about cats being assumed to be girls? When you tell people your cats are boys do they continue to call them girls and use she/her? Because honoring pronouns is specifically what I was talking about. @@endless_song

[@Montesama314]

"Did you just ASSUME MY DOG'S GENDER?" "Oh, God, look, I'm sorry, I-" "Ha. I'm fucking with you. Believe me, she's far more interested in this bone than pronouns."

[@The1Ryu]

It is quite commonly known that it is much easier to identify the sex of some animals over other animals.

[@LaylaSpellwind]

I hope you enjoyed Buffy. It might interest you to know that Anthony Stewart Head helped a trans man out and invited him to hang out on his farm. Super wholesome story which is worth looking up!

[@NomadSoul76]

I read that story a while ago. It was so sweet.

[@iiscatt.]

NO THE HAMSTER SHOULD NOT KNOW MY GENDER

[@jurassicsmackdown6359]

THE HAMSTER WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU, DONT LET IT KNOW

[@Angua-tu3ot]

Money was a monster. John was a twin. He had a twin brother and Money had them come to him for "counseling" and he had them play act sexual behavior with each other. It messed them both up so much that they both unalived themselves a few years apart.

[@robertabarnhart6240]

There was a Law & Order: SVU (TV) episode that I think was based on that. Only in the show, one of the twins unalived the doctor, but they couldn't figure out which from the DNA because they were identical.

[@ScarletTiger109]

Which is why anyone that uses him as an example when it comes to trans people should be disregarded

[@enbyishimaru]

I had someone recently said that they could confidently tell that my Labrador Retriever was a boy, i as a trans person had so much delight in telling them "Her name is Hayley "

[@_foxpuppet]

When I went through school (Australia, 90s-10s) sex ed was coed. I don't know what the reasoning was, but it was definitely a good decision, imo. The whole concept of "you don't get this information because it's not about you specifically" is so bizarre in education. Like, what if they applied that to literally any other subject? "You're not a lightbulb, so you don't get to know how they work!"

[@EllieM552]

Also in Australia, 80’s to 99. In my primary school, they started us out together, then separated, then together again. The whole thing was done over 3 days and that was it. I think the idea was so we’d feel comfortable asking sex-specific questions. But they taught everything to everyone. In high school, there was no separation.

[@I_Like_SharksHamish]

Sex ed is still coed in my school (all girls school, even though I'm a boy), even though it's less specific, we learn enough

[@NomadSoul76]

I live in America and our schools have no consistent way to teach sex ed. But in my school district in the '90s the class itself was coed but the sexes were split up for some specific subjects. I don't think the girls sat in when we covered testicular self-exams, and the girls went off on their own for some other subjects. I'm not going to argue the subject either way, but I think the idea was something like the logic between gender and bathrooms or other things. We grow up learning to be casual among the people of the same gender about some things where we would feel awkward if we were on people of the other gender. Plus kids can be cruel and it might have been considered better to leave those that it didn't apply to out of the conversation. Ideally it certainly does make sense to have everyone learn all of this stuff. Even if it doesn't apply to your body you might have a partner one day for whom it does.

[@unknownunknown-un9xw]

I was in school for the same time period is aust. I think the idea is seperate them because the boys could be really immature. But in my experience it was co-ed...but....most of the class was about men and their anatomy, issues, exams, "this is how to use a condom", stds and "don't have sex". I learned jack shit about the female body outside of periods. Like....i had to find out female anatomy and issues on my own.....as an adult. But it was a catholic school

[@loverrlee]

“You didn’t die in a war, so you don’t need to know history!” 🙄

[@Groffili]

21:00 The AITA thing. Yep, that is how these people "think". They can say the most offensive stuff and claim that it is not offensive. Just recently I ran into some misogynistic person who ranted about "being replaced by feminism", and suggested that the solution would be to "remove women from all the jobs they occupy". And he was completely baffled when I pointed out that this was not very consistent.

[@myhvKun]

In terms of "sex based lessons", we used to have home econ.(cooking, sewing, other "wife" stuff) and something called "labour". The latter was mostly woodworking and using tools. So at the end we had boys who could not use a stove and girls who had no idea how to hold a hammer correctly, and everybody was worse off.

[@IntrovertAncom]

That sounds like what my parents had in the 1960s. Boys took shop. Girls took home ec. In the 1980s, when I was in grade 7, everyone had to take a semester of each, and then in grade 8 we had to choose one or the other (so I took shop), and then in grade 9, I took a year of woodworking as an elective. Now they want to go back to how it was in the 1960s? Smh.

[@myhvKun]

@@IntrovertAncom It was mid '00s, probably was still a thing in '10s as well 💀

[@IntrovertAncom]

@@myhvKun Yikes! That's awful. 💀 indeed.

[@ceryxfigmenti5377]

yeah, the odd thing is that the end goal for many of these transphobes seem suspiciously misogynistic and enforcing very old gender stereotypes that are... not good for women

[@The1Ryu]

You sound old, both sexes have been taking both for 30-40 years at least.

[@resourceress7]

The combo of vampires and then "we can smell your gender, it's in your blood." 😂

[@KindlyKalen]

“What’s your gender?” “O+”

[@ShiningStar396]

Or sharks

[@DocKrazy]

Lady Gaga in AHS Hotel (btw. She was pro trans rights)

[@cryochick9044]

Ya know I know this isn't in the vid, but can I say something that really puts a nail in some homophobes ideas. I am abrosexual and for the longest time (from when I started having sexual attraction in my teens untill I was 21) I never knew what exactly I was I never 'stayed' straight or gay or bi. It genuinely confused me and frustrated me cause I couldn't figure out what I am, it took untill I learned what abrosexuality is at 21 to figure out that is what I am. It was a bit of comfort in a way knowing there is a term and understanding that a bit more. If I learned about stuff like fluid sexuality (what abrosexual is) in sex ed or anywhere else I would NEVER have spend a decade ish of my life confused about sexuality. This is what I want, and I think most people want to tell kids these things exist. Not knowing that fluid sexuality was a thing didn't make me not sexually fluid it just made me confused.

[@mythicalgirl2005]

Literally, cis boys and men should know about periods because no matter what, at some point in their life they are going to interact with someone who experiences them, probably multiple people who do.

[@M_M_ODonnell]

If the transphobes get their way and start enacting absolute gender segregation, they might prevent AMAB people from interacting with anyone dealing with a period.

[@erink476]

and might end up in a position where they're making rules that affect people with periods, whether it's micromanaging an office's or classroom's toilet use, or in parliament/congress.

[@The1Ryu]

Most learn about it in elementary school sex-ed.

[@ArtsyKnox25]

​@@The1Ryu not in America they don't!

[@The1Ryu]

@@ArtsyKnox25 They do, I can assure you. It's the norm not the exception.

[@ryn2844]

7:47 No Jamie, 'review policies to avoid discriminating between boys and girls' means they want to do away with such policies, and discriminate more, because girls and boys are supposedly inherently different, so they should be treated differently. They do not mean 'stop discriminating'.

[@Jammidodger]

OMG 😱 what the heck - thank you for clarifying. Makes sense now, also makes it horrendous

[@al_eggs]

@@PaperMan-pi1xvbearded, yes; but clearly not a lady in identification or expression

[@ShiningStar396]

​@@PaperMan-pi1xvBearded man actually

[@ceryxfigmenti5377]

@@Jammidodger unfortunately it seems like transphobes feel very comfortable about announcing their misogynistic views that inform their transphobia, and theyre trying to make lifes of women worse by pushing their transphobic stuff these days so damn often I hope cis people will realize that but Im afraid it looks like many of them still struggle with seeing us as human :/

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

​@@PaperMan-pi1xv He is more of a man than you will ever be

[@SilverStarlight5555]

Me, age 6: (argues about wanting to wear pants instead of a skirt with my school uniform) My mom, when I came out: who would have thought you'd turn out to be trans?

[@snakebitepellehue]

9:10 I'm a cis woman with PCOS and this is kind of *new fear unlocked*

[@eboone]

crazy that cis women are being attacked by transphobes

[@5Rice5Cake5]

Same 😢

[@loverrlee]

Yeah and I have really dark hair and super light skin, so even when I try to not have any facial hair, it’s still kind of visible under my skin 😢

[@ez9566]

Its stupid to listen to the hate. Even if being trans was in any way hurtful and destructive for an individual, noone should have the right to be able to legislate what others do with their body.

[@saje239]

That works so long as children aren’t being transitioned. We let adults engage in harmful behaviors for themselves such as smoking and drinking because they’re capable of understanding the significance of the risks and detriments. In general, we don’t allow children to engage in those activities.

[@AryaFairywren]

@@saje239 Kids transitioning is an intervention applied when a kid is under distress from the way their body is developing, distress that comes with a flurry of negative mental health side effects, including an increased risk of suicide but also many other nasty things. Why do you want trans kids to go through a body horror experience?

[@saje239]

@@AryaFairywren I don’t want them to go through a horrible experience anymore than I want people who experience anorexia or body integrity dysphoria to go through a horrible experience. Mental health issues and s**cidality are sadly becoming much more common in minors. Being s**cidal doesn’t increase a child’s ability to consent. If anything, it’s diminished when any individual is mentally ill to that degree.

[@dark7859]

@@saje239 "Being s**cidal doesn’t increase a child’s ability to consent" funny, that didn't come up when I needed anti-depressants as a child...

[@saje239]

@@dark7859 That’s because you weren’t the one consenting to the treatment. It was your parents who were hopefully of sound mind. Additionally, you know as well as I do that antidepressants aren’t going to impact development like preventing a child from going through puberty and giving them cross sex hormones. It’s a really disingenuous comparison

[@zapmasterarts9996]

I just came out to my parents that im questioning my gender, and the situation is not great yet. Im happy to be able to watch your channel after the stress.

[@EllieM552]

🫶🏻

[@missnaomi613]

Please accept some mama hugs. ❤🧡💛💙💜🖤🤎💙💗🤍

[@Lizard_Ri]

Im happy you managed to come out! It really sucks that they aren't supportive, I'll hope your parents will be able to learn

[@zapmasterarts9996]

@@Lizard_Ri I think it's more that it cought them by surprise. Thank you for the support.

[@melvinthebravefish9788]

The person at 10 minutes "we can smell and sense you" Is.... is this the omegaverse or something?

[@DinosaurNick]

It's funny how they respect the pronouns of animals that could careless ... and call inanimate objects gendered pronouns ... but struggle to respect people

[@John_Weiss]

…but, they don't want to respect people … _they want people that _*_they can abuse._*

[@DinosaurNick]

This is true. And then some people just don't respect anyone or anything.@@Knightsfrown

[@DinosaurNick]

I mean, you're not wrong.@@John_Weiss

[@maskedmallard537]

Or guys who call vehicles she, but then put nuts on their trucks. Ok. Trans truck now! 🏳️‍⚧️

[@MST-cf9ds]

its funny how animals only have 2 genders (aside from those that can change from 1 to another). and then theres these people who made up their own identity. I dont mind trans people of course (it doesnt affect me) , but there are a few trans that are obnoxious and ruins the image of trans sadly

[@EzraSprouts]

Elon literally had an agender partner for years, and is presumably still co-parenting little R2D2 with them. Being so antagonistic to LGBTQ+ identities could cause a lot of conflict for the poor babby :(

[@cuttwice3905]

One of my favorite rebellions about gendered clothes came in 2017. The weather was rather warm (30˚C) and the boys were not allowed to wear shorts; many chose to borrow skirts because girls could wear them and they were a comfortable and freeing experience.

[@WantedVisual]

The toilet stickers are especially weird considering that there are cis women who stand to pee. Shewee markets itself to people in ski gear, or military(-like) uniform, formal gowns, or certain medical situations, like pregnancy or injury. Just imagine, you have considered if you really, really need to pee, compromised to avoid the faff with sitting down, get to a stall, raise the seat to be considerate of other people using the facilities and then there's just a sticker accusing you of child abuse.

[@vieravrem6810]

I'm just here to learn, it's always nice to understand things I don't know about yet!

[@kiedisboughen5318]

Extremely based

[@christinakyleloves]

Love you Jamie!!💛💛🥔🥔

[@jgcoverkknot5701]

I forgot spuds were slang for potatoes so I was confused as to why you were calling him a potato 😅

[@charlie.spring56]

“Your blood tells if you’re a man or woman” love these videos 😅😁

[@sashathedonut]

IF YOUR BLOOD IS BLUE YOU ARE PENISPERSON, IF YOU BLOOD IS PINK U ARE VAGINAPERSON

[@teritt]

@@sashathedonut “I bleed pink” - Poppy in her pop music is a cult era

[@hexhollows]

@@Lord-Griff HRT and surgery says otherwise

[@teritt]

⁠@@Lord-Griff “Born in the wrong body” is not a literal phrase, it’s a metaphorical saying that describes the way dysphoria feels. Things _feel_ wrong. Of course gender dysphoria is in the mind, nobodies denying that, that’s why there’s treatment for it. Nobodies changing how they were born, they’re getting treated for a disorder. Transgender people are born transgender.

[@hexhollows]

@@Lord-Griff you clearly cannot be reasoned with

[@richardryley3660]

The rule "Children's actual sex must be known to everyone" is acknowledgment that "actual" sex is a nonsensical, irrelevant classification. A child's gender CAN be indentified. It is the gender he or she presents as. Arguing about "actual sex" is acknowledgement that sometimes an individual's apparent gender does not match assigned gender at birth, and that they want to force children to conform to a gender that isn't physically obvious. They're assuming that a trans gender identity is a deception, not the individual's attempt to express their true sense of identity. It shows that transphobia is at its heart homophobia, because the transphobe doesn't want to find a woman attractive, and then find out they're a trans woman. And these rules aren't even meant for adults, they're for kids and teenagers, who probably just want to wear clothes they like.

[@dl2725]

AND it’s sexualizing children 😒

[@PlatinumAltaria]

The people who want mandatory genital inspections for children and to force those kids to wear armbands indicating their gender... these are the people claiming that WE'RE creeps xD

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

trying to be trans inclusive but saying "he or she". please tell me you are 9 years old

[@richardryley3660]

@@transsexual_computer_faery Gatekeeping much?

[@aencya]

@@richardryley3660 While I do agree the comment could have been formulated better, and it could have been assumed that the OP didn't know. Using "they" would indeed be more inclusive and leave less people out, especially leave less trans people out. Not that on this sentence it matters a lot, but it's good to think about it, especially since there are people trying to be trans inclusive but who rejects non-binary people, people with gender neutral pronouns and/or neo-pronouns. To clarify, I am not saying OP is one of them or anything, just that there is more inclusive wording out there that one could use and it's better for them to be aware of it.

[@BringDeathByPickles]

Buffy is absolutely amazing! Willow was my gay awakening and Spike is one of few males I can also get the hots for. XD The audible episode is so much fun!

[@tod1way]

You sound fine! You always sound perfect. Had you said nothing, I would not have noticed. Your voice is like therapy to me. Even my real therapist I didn't see twice a week! In the States, during the Thanksgiving holiday, it's a tradition with some families to go around the table and say what each is thankful for. Since that's this Thursday, I just want to say I'm thankful for you, Jamie! 🙂

[@sierramullett]

I'm taking a much needed break from work to watch this!❤️

[@LITMasonEdits]

if you're looking for a new franchise to get into after buffy, i recommend The Librarians. It starts with a trilogy of made for tv movies, and then it got a tv show that was really good, and now it's getting another tv show coming in 2024. It has strong female leads and some queer representation (like one of those strong female leads being bisexual and polyamorous) and is in the same type of genre of tv as shows like buffy about fighting magical threats and solving magical mysteries with a side of scifi. I like to describe it as Indiana Jones with magic, better worldbuilding, and all the characters are obviously neurodivergent.

[@lamemechose7072]

The movies are more “easy fun” media and the show, while based on the movies, is more in-depth fantasy/sci-fi. I love both, but they’re for different moods. Dean Devlin, the genius go gave us Leverage, Leverage: Redemption, and Almost Paradise, is also responsible for The Librarians. There are many ND characters, which is great to see. I wouldn’t have thought to connect Buffy directly to Librarians, but it makes a lot of sense. Highly recommend anything Dean Devlin tbh.

[@thesmartestidiotonearth8782]

As a cis person, i feel like everyone should question their gender personally! I questioned my gender, tried on all the labels, tried out all the pronouns, and ended up settling on being cis - and now I'm very comfortable where i stand and am very healthy! Everyone should question their gender, so i dont understand why people get so upset over it sometimes

[@4akrosslastname764]

Agreed, I think we should normalize and encourage kids to question their gender (and gender norms while we are at it) at least once in their lives. Seems like a healthy thing to do that will leave you more confident in themselves later on, I think.

[@ThisIsNoahHii]

thank you for making my Sunday better with this great video❤

[@quietlychaotically]

9:55 i think this person got "women" and "werewolves" mixed up common mistake, i'm sure

[@dannyfoxboi]

Of course, everyone knows women get their periods on the full moon. (This is a joke, for anyone that needs the disclaimer.)

[@quietlychaotically]

@@dannyfoxboi transmen and enbys are freed frrom the Curse of Estrogen And Progesterone and are allowed to get their periods at different times of the month

[@teritt]

@@quietlychaotically Damn I wish

[@KindlyKalen]

@@quietlychaoticallytrans women get the same curse when they say these accursed words: “I am not a man.”

[@maddykrantz]

My k-8 school was a private hippy schoool, so my 4th grade bio class included a lesson on what it means to be intersex, trans, and cisgender. We had this bi-weekly lesson called "meet the person" where we'd have a zoom call with a person from the group we were learning about in our weekly biology class. Our first one was when we got to meet a gay man who talked to us about his life and what it means to be LGBT. He also talked to us about the different labels of sexuality (Gay, bi, pan, aro, ace, aroace, straight, questioning, polyam), and how his husband (who is pansexual) describes himself. It was very cool. We also got to talk to a transwoman during one of our "meet the person" zoom calls. The other ones I remember were an intersex man, a man with mixed race parents .(he said his dad was Indian, and his mom was half Irish and half Columbian) We also met a woman with vitiligo, a man who is an amputee who also has heterochromia. (from the elbow down his left arm is amputated because of a serious motorcycle accident. Also, his left eye is blue and his right eye is brown.) We also met a woman with ADHD and OCD, who talked about how the 2 conditions affect her and how her need for perfect organization conflicts with her lack of motivation to cleen things cuz of her adhd. We also met a blind man, who happens to also be partially def in his right ear, and we met a fully def woman who is also Blue & Orange color blind, and she was really cool because she has never been able to hear. She told us that the extent of her hearing loss means she has a cohler implant which allows her to sort of hear again, but she had our teeacher type out our questions and comments into the zoom chat so she could know what we said. We also met an autistic man, who told us his special interests were golf, the nutcracker ballet, The shining by Steven King (but only the book version), power puff girls, and water polo. Also, we met and a man with down syndrome, and he introduced us to his 2 cats at the end of the zoom. This was a fun and interactive way to learn about the biology we were studying while learning with people who had these lived experiences. And each week we learned about the medical contition/bio charastic, and then the friday lesson WAS the one where we met the person. Also, this heppened every other week, because we still did normal biology stuff too and didn't spend the whole time lerning about medical issues and all that.

[@LeLe-pm2pr]

take some of those fr tho i struggled reading this absolute wall of text, but very cool

[@Raphtor13]

Love the Buffy references (big fan of the series!). When you were talking about girl 'trousers' , it kind of took me back to my childhood when girls (me = CIS woman) were forced to wear dresses or skirts. I hated it. I always preferred pants but I was not permitted to wear them. To be honest, although I am CIS and hetero - I have never been 'froofy' or girly and never liked skirts/dresses or makeup and hated when people tried tell me what I was by the clothes or accessories I chose to wear or not wear. I also hated being misgendered simply because I preferred pants and short hair. So glad my husband never cared about surface garbage (married 33 years).

[@PumkRock]

Ooo ooo story time about school uniform. I remember as a 7 year old kid, I used to hang out with mostly girls at breaktimes. I had a very gender neutral upbringing, but not intentionally so. honestly- I don't really think I understood just how important everyone thought the differences between boys and girls were. I wanted to be like my friends, I wanted to wear my hair long and be pretty like them, and I was allowed to- we would braid each other's hair, it was lovely. We all wore the same uniform. But then summer of a certain school year came around, I think it might have been year five? and all of my friends got these really pretty red and white summer dresses... and I was given this ugly red polo shirt and a pair of shorts. I remember being sat with them in the grass at lunch, now dressed very differently from all of my friends, and I asked "how come you all got dresses, and I got this?" One of my friends said "Because you are a boy? boys don't wear dresses". "What if I want to be a girl instead?" "I don't think you can? You can't be a girl" And that was the first time I ever remember feeling what I now understand to be gender dysphoria. Something about being told that hurt me in a way I didn't understand. I started to cry. My friends were concerned for me, and one of my friends said "but you can pretend to be a girl with us if you like!" The next day she snuck a spare summer dress into her bookbag, for me to wear at lunchtime. And that's what I did for a few weeks, I was so happy. Until I was caught doing it. I decided one day that I wouldn't change back before returning to class. I kept my hair braided, and I kept the dress on. We all got into trouble. The school put me in lunchtime exclusion for a month, parents were involved. When I was finally allowed back outside for lunch, most of my friends didn't want to hang out with me anymore, it had been explained to them, just as it was to me, that what we had been doing was very serious and very wrong. This was the start of decades of shame and internal struggle, until I eventually came out in my 20s. Funny how a bunch of primary school children managed to figure out the correct approach to transgender identity among ourselves - and then the responsible adults in the room basically crushed me and cut me off from my friends instead.

[@breadstick4458]

Damn, we should just raise all kids gender neutral and let them decide for themselves

[@PumkRock]

@@breadstick4458 It was less that I was intentionally raised gender neutral, I was told that I was a boy. But my early interests weren't really dictated to me based on that, it just didn't come up a lot. If I wanted to be the pink power-ranger for Halloween, nobody stepped in to say I couldn't. After the thing with the dress at school, the usual "cissification" routine was put into play, telling me how I should behave, dress, act based on my gender assigned at birth. It just made me confused and miserable. Considering I'm a trans woman as an adult- it obviously worked super well and didn't just lead to a whole bunch of confusion growing up.

[@skyball130]

Can we talk about how the part of Jamie's beard under his lip looks like a tiny bowtie???

[@bellarosethorne]

I'm not alone! Yes I saw it and loved it!

[@skyball130]

@@bellarosethorne ikr?? I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Natural hair growth patterns can be so annoying and blotchy, but it's just so perfect here, especially on Jamie

[@loverrlee]

Glad I’m not the only one who saw that! It’s cute 😅

[@Mimori_Viollet]

"what ages badly?" humans, humans my firen

[@kiedisboughen5318]

Vampires are pretty bad at aging too

[@teritt]

@@kiedisboughen5318🥁

[@yshktdhnkppfffryu69]

​@@kiedisboughen5318*wheeze*

[@TheEnmineer]

@@kiedisboughen5318 In a completely different way! Funny that

[@Montesama314]

A quick rule of thumb: if someone is smelling and feeling your "maleness," then you are probably a character in a smut fanfiction and I hope the writer is good.

[@arcadiaberger9204]

The nightmarish case of David Reimer is proof that even when a child is put through decades of "reparative therapy", literally from infancy, *_IT WILL NOT WORK._* Conclusion: Hey, TERF! Leave trans kids alone! Let them transition.

[@Aarenby]

Terms not getting the point is infuriating

[@melissabarrett9750]

The obvious fact is that the brain determines a person's sex identity, the anatomy is more able to be successfully altered

[@thefemalecaptain]

I remember at college back in 2010 an email went out to every single student telling us that one of the lecturers had transitioned. Why? I had never met this teacher and found it really odd then that the whole student population needed notifying like it was any of our business. I’m sure their students already knew

[@PinksMonkey]

Buffy The Vampire Slayer is one of my favourite shows!!! Yay! I got so excited when you mentioned it! :D

[@Eva-Millie.1885]

"Protect children" until it comes to trans children

[@joshuacoleman8000]

Or brown Arab children.

[@jurassicsmackdown6359]

Or neurodivergent children Hell what you say applies to LGBT kids in general

[@Eva-Millie.1885]

@jurassicsmackdown6359 Anyone who isn't "normal" which they can't agree on what it even means

[@ShiningStar396]

​@@PaperMan-pi1xvNope

[@BlooMonkiMan]

​@@PaperMan-pi1xv On a totally unrelated note, if you get drafted, make sure you sign away all visitation rights to your kids. You'll never know when a landmine will leave you without your manhood...

[@philopharynx7910]

So id blood determines your sex, then if they want to enforce bathroom rights, then are they going to put a blood lab on every restroom? "I don't care how much you have to pee, I need to prick your finger." Even as a cisgendered student, I would have preferred cubicles or divinders in the locker room. Whose idea is it to have everybody show their bodies to everybody else? That's pretty sick. The "sex-specific antivenom" is as contrived a situation as possible.

[@bellarosethorne]

"your blood shows it" I.. hope so. entire reason I had a vial taken the other week, to show whether my sex is being sufficiently altered by the hormones I'm taking. XD But I get the feeling that's not what they mean...

[@The1Ryu]

Well most people can tell via secondary sex characteristic like 99% of the time You sound really puritanical Hypotheticals are by their nature contrived.

[@angelikaskoroszyn8495]

@The1Ryu Can they? I've seen too many people claiming that Michelle Obama is trans to believe in that. "We can always tell". Yeah, sure

[@philopharynx7910]

@@The1Ryu True, but there are hypotheticals that are somewhat realistic, and hypotheticals that are completely out there and designed just to make a specific point. Even so, as Jamie showed, the hypothetical didn't include enough detail to actually prove it in this case.

[@ArtsyKnox25]

​@@The1Ryunope! There are more than three things that determine gender bestie.

[@xarfram]

The worst part about taking E has to be the absolutely excruciating pain of growing an extra rib over the past year

[@BlooMonkiMan]

So THAT'S where Adam's rib wound up...

[@NomadSoul76]

Apparently biology teachers sometimes deal with students who actually do believe that men have one less rib than women.

[@velvetbutterfly]

Thanks for the new joke to tell my friends

[@SpoiledMilk.D.E.C]

My Uncle Doesn't Know I'm A Trans Man, And Apparently He Went On A Rant While Walking With My Brother About How Schools Are Making Kids Think They're Not Their Birth Sex. My Cis Younger Brother, Who Is Supportive And Knows I'm Trans, Tried To Shut His Transphobic BS Down And My Uncle Said "What? Don't Tell Me You Think You're Not A Boy, Don't Be Stupid." My Uncle Is SO Lucky My Brother Waited Until He Left Before Telling Me About It Because I Seriously Would've Hurt Him.

[@fevre_dream8542]

Why Are You Typing In Camel Case

[@dakrabking]

Im sorry but why the fuck is every word capitalized

[@ShinyAvalon]

@@fevre_dream8542 - They're just typing with all words capitalized. "Camel Case" is where you _also_ eliminate the spaces between words. ThisSentenceWouldBeConsideredCamelCase.

[@whyis2plus2]

@@ShinyAvalon thisSentenceWouldBeConsideredPascalCase this_sentence_would_be_considered_snake_case

[@The1Ryu]

Reasonable people don't respond to words with physical violence, we progressed past that non-sense.

[@eriklagergren7124]

That school in the beginning would break Swedish laws. (2008§567 for those curious) I think it would result in fines, and if it continues jail time for principal and teachers involved

[@kurotsuki7427]

The stickers under the toilet seat, all they are doing is pissing off the cleaner that has to remember it.

[@RB-vo4gi]

The school “sex segregated rules” post made me genuinely uncomfortable. Ugh. I’m just completely baffled by what “rules or lessons” are meant to be sex segregated. I don’t even think sex ed should be segregated (or if it is just for when they’re really young and might feel too uncomfortable to ask questions otherwise) I think everyone should be learning the same information.

[@John_Weiss]

/smh The illogic of these bigots. They want to ban any and all information about the existence of gays and lesbians, "bEcAuSe ChIlDrEn WiLl CaTcH tEh GaY," but then turn around and _refuse_ to teach their kids about heterosexuality!

[@cubesolver2564]

That also just sounds incredibly confusing and pointless as a learning experience. They'll "teach" you a subject, but they've had a couple people (women may be included, but don't count on it) decide which one goes for which sex. If you like a subject, well fuck you, you get to miss out on half or maybe even all of it, because you're not the right sex. If you hate a subject, well tough shit, this is *your* sex's subject! Get to studying.

[@plonmk]

@ 9:46 THE "WE CAN SMELL THAT YOU ARE MALE" TOOK ME OUT i have never heard transphobia more absurd than that

[@bellarosethorne]

it's... one of the few that has a grain of truth. testosterone can make sweat more pungent. A change many in transition have noticed. You can't smell "maleness" though.

[@electronics-girl]

@@bellarosethorne Every morning when we would get up, my girlfriend would make a big show of airing out the room, saying "It smells like MAN in here!" (This was long before I transitioned.)

[@ScarletTiger109]

I smelled like a fully grown man from the time I came out of the oven. I am a cis woman.

[@bellarosethorne]

@@ScarletTiger109 lol, for every rule there's always someone who breaks it XD

[@liamparker98]

Jamie!! I’m literally listening to YOUR book right now on audible!! Listened to over half of it in one sitting before my eyes literally couldn’t stay open anymore!! I’m going to recommend it to my parents. Thank you for all that you do 💛

[@3v1lp1ngv1n]

To be fair some fruit will not age badly at all, some of them even age like fine wine

[@janespear6843]

Hey Jamie! My name is Kris and I’m a closeted trans boy from Utah. I just wanted to say that I love your channel and it brings me happiness to see a trans guy on KZbin who I can relate to. Keep being awesome!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Thank you for making my Sundays! 👏🏽 P.S ‘Ace Ventura’ was a horrifying experience, yes.

[@Werevampiwolf]

My dad showed me Ace Ventura as a teen, and I had no idea what happens in it and my father couldn't understand how I thought the movie was funny right until a particular scene, and then I just sat there, dead silent, for the rest of the movie. And I just looked at him like "do I really have to explain to you what the problem is??"

[@electronics-girl]

So glad I never saw that movie!

[@yagirldiana365]

Fun fact, the first image is from a manga called "Baki". It's famous for being very bloody and very homoerotic.

[@abigailkaterbergcolibaba]

Ah yes. Letting a child wear the clothes they want and go by a name they prefer. Sounds very abusive 🙄x ♾️

[@SheilaRough]

The toilet seat stickers, what if the person identified as cis, but uses a colostomy or urostomy and has to stand to empty their bag into the toilet?

[@eyreaus2736]

So much of women's current fashion started out as men's fashion, including makeup, leggings, purses, and high heels. "Trousers" were successfully generalised for everyone too. Dresses and skirts should be next and even cut and styled for men.

[@CrazyCreator04]

I just recently had a gender crisis and figured out I was a demi-girl!

[@teritt]

Well I hope you at least feel more relieved now that you know your identity 😊

[@_StarlightRose_]

I hope you are comfortable with your new label/identity, and if you still need timelto figure it out too, good luck my friend

[@CrazyCreator04]

​@@terittI do thanks!

[@CrazyCreator04]

​@@_StarlightRose_I am, and thank you!

[@_StarlightRose_]

​@@CrazyCreator04np

[@rivroyerr]

i can’t express enough how happy it makes me when people bring up buffy the vampire slayer

[@lucykitsune4619]

About the antivenom thing: Let's let them cook for a bit and say that this highly specific and for some reason gendered antivenom exists. How does it distinguish between male and female physiology? Because contrary to popular belief apart from some organs being arranged a bit differently male and female bodies are actually not that different. The only thing that comes to mind is if they have some sort of chemical interaction with hormones, in which case it depends on whether or not the trans women is on HRT and how long she has been on HRT for. I have been on HRT for 1.5 years now and my hormone-levels are very much in the range of a cis woman. Also to be much more realistic: 1) I do not believe such a miracle cover all bases anti-venom exists 2) You could achieve similar results by binding down the limb the snake bit to stop the spread of the poison 3) If your miracle cover all bases antivenom is that volatile based on miniscule concentrations of highly specific molecules in your blood, SURELY you would also split them by blood-type, right?

[@John_Weiss]

These transphobes probably believe their Y-chromosome is the only thing keeping their pee-pee from falling off. FunFact: Not only is the "default-setting" in human fetal development to grow female genitalia, but the Y-chromosome doesn't contain the "masculinity-gene" … because _there is none._ The Y-chromosome contains: 1) A bunch of junk-DNA that appears to do nothing. 2) A few genes that are also on the X-chromosome. 3) A few genes that are not on the X-chromosome, but serve the same function as counterpart-genes on the X-chromosome. 4) The lone-gene that turns on the androgens at a specific point in fetal development. Then it shuts off and does nothing ever again for the remainder of your life. 5) Genes encoding proteins that are specific to sperm production. #4 and #5 are the only genes that are "specifically male", and only #5 is a "specifically-male gene" active during a cis-man's adult lifetime. I wouldn't define a cis-man's maleness based on the ability to produce sperm, so #5 doesn't exactly "confer maleness". Other than genitalia, all traits that we identify with "maleness" are a result of marinating in high-testosterone levels for a few years. In cis-men, this is due to the testes, not the Y-chromosome. So is the presence or absence of functioning testes what makes a person a man? Saying, "yes," is telling cis- men who've lost a ball to testicular cancer that they're no longer men. It's also a rather medieval idea that asserts that eunuchs aren't "real men". Which is a really barbaric thing to believe.

[@NomadSoul76]

It really is telling that they had to come up with a completely fictional thing that is biologically implausible if not outright possible in order to make their case.

[@John_Weiss]

@@NomadSoul76 Trans women still need to worry about prostate cancer. Nobody's going around telling them, "yOu'Re A mAn! AdMiT iT, oR wE lEt YoU dIe!" because _that would not only violate the Hyppocratic Oath _*_and_*_ be unethical,_ but it's *_NOT_* what doctors and nurses do. …well, okay, _maybe_ Christian-Taliban doctors and nurses would do that. __ And the state of Texass isn't far off passing a law alowing people to refuse to treat patients because of "deeply-held religious beliefs." If they haven't done already. 🙄 So yeah, the proper response to that "Gotcha!" question is: "No, doctors are gonna ask, 'Are you trans?' so that they can administer the correct antivenom … because _doctors want to save lives,_ not be a%%holes to their patients. _You're_ the ones who are the a%%holes, not everyone else."

[@mythicalgirl2005]

I say "transing" but usually when I'm talking about how transphobes think everyone wants to turn kids trans. Also this one time I accidentally used my dad and brother's deodorant with a blue bottle and upon realizing I jokingly said "Oh no! I used the boy deodorant, my gender has been transed!"

[@RawrItsJuul]

You can make it sound as ridiculous as you want, doesn't mean that children aren't highly gullible and be made to believe all kinds of nonsense. Stop pretending that a lot of this stuff can't be very confusing to kids. Their parents are allowed to not want their kids to be exposed to this ideology.

[@velvetbutterfly]

@@RawrItsJuulbut that's the point of education. Teaching them things removes the confusion.

[@RawrItsJuul]

@@velvetbutterfly that really depends on what and how. How old are the children this needs to be taught to? Cause I think children below the age of 10 generally don't have the capacity to understand these complex topics. Especially when you see many adults talking about it as if it is so difficult and hard to know what you are, but in the same breath we expect kids to be able to understand this. This does not need to be taught, all you need to teach kids is to respect and be nice to each other. When stuff like this comes up you can comment on it, and move on. We don't need to dedicate time to fill children's minds with this stuff unprompted.

[@velvetbutterfly]

@@RawrItsJuul in my school sex education was broken down quite easily. In like Kindergarten or Grade 1 we were taught about bathing-suit parts and places not to touch, how to respect boundaries and that there were differences between people. In like Grades 2-4 we vaguely touched on a couple more terms for anatomy units, which naturally had students ask stuff like, why does the guy picture have an adam's apple but the girl picture doesn't? Then in middle school we learned about hormones and puberty. And early high school we learned about the opposite sex and the mechanics of starting a family. There is really no difficulty in adding the idea of trans people to this. Instead of saying "boys and girls are different" say "some people have different bodies" When you start learning about hormones, explain how for nearly a hundred years now doctors have been able to give hormones to fix various ailments and that while most people will naturally go through puberty, there are people (cis, trans, intersex, other) that sometimes need to take medicine to make sure they grow strong and healthy. And heck. I'm only a tutor, not a teacher yet so I have no say in what gets taught. But two of the girls I help, they're 9 years old, and they already have been taught about trans people. About how a person feels inside doesn't always match the outside but that doesn't make them strange or bad. Sure, I don't know the ins and outs of how or what all they were taught, but they seem to understand it more fully than most adults I met.

[@mythicalgirl2005]

@@RawrItsJuul Chilldren are smarter than you think. And it’s not “nonsense”, or an “ideology”.

[@sol7952]

I came out to my best friend as genderfluid yesterday, and it's been rough. Your videos make me smile so much. Thank you Jamie.

[@susannairisastarte5192]

Hey you will be OK. I am also genderfluid/genderqueer. Had no words for it until 2008, but knew since 1976. Hooray for you, Sibling.

[@sol7952]

@@susannairisastarte5192 Thank you for your kindness. Things are a little better now. I hope you are doing well.

[@susannairisastarte5192]

@sol7952 Glad to hear things are getting better. Happy new year 🎉

[@gracelovely3838]

Jamie's "biology means we will lock eyes across the room" sent me 😂

[@sadiemae6854]

CIS woman with PCOS here; if I went to the dr, and another woman with PCOS walked in, I'D BE F***ING STOKED. A doctor who understands my condition? PERFECT. **Would also be super comfortable with a trans woman with a beard. Having a Queer doctor would be cool af.

[@ratsika3]

Hey, just found you after watching your delightful collaboration with @TheClick. I love your content. Thank you for putting yourself out there.

[@thischannelmakesuselessvid9529]

About the doctor thing. I think id feel more safe ifmy doctor was trans, because theyre more likely to be intrested in what I say, and are probably more likely to respect boundries and if you change your mind last second.

[@silviaconsonni586]

If I were a mum and had any teens going to that school, I'd simply get sick at the number of times that presentation used the word sx describing the everyday life of some minors. I'm sx positive. Grew up in a positive and progressive family. God, that presentation still makes me want to take a bath with désinfectant soap !