Enneagram Types as Boyfriends

[@AbbeyHowe]

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[@maedchenausmars]

I am a 5. My husband cried on our wedding day, and I wasn’t sure what I was supposed to do except ask he was okay.

[@jfish032]

🤣😭💀 this the best Enneagram story. Especially if your husband is a 2 like me. Fucking 5s kick ass. You guys perplex me. I'll never fully get it, but that's what I love about 5s. They are soooo unrelatable that it's infinitely fascinating. The world *needs* your objective logic. ♥️💙♥️

[@JustinHeronMusic]

4w5sp here. This is the best story I've ever read about being a type 5.

[@hadstrotheluckyguy8180]

ME AND MY TI DOMS AND E5 FRIENDSS!!

[@jayjaymoss_]

I'm a type 5 and my boyfriend is a type 4, thanks to our mutual interest in the same things, curiosity about each other and communication, we are doing very well in our relationship lol he can be too dramatic sometimes but I know how to calm my drama king down

[@KendrixTermina]

The big prob with the type 9s is gettin a gf in the first place - they blend into crowds, don't stand out, don't tell much about themselves to new ppl etc. so they might not be noticed unless they're super good-looking. Whichever girl first manages to notice the undiscovered treasure that is my brother will be very lucky. He's a total dreamboat but no one knows. He's so nice, and patient, and serious, and imaginative, and civilized, and super funny, and great with children... but he goes all reserved and private around new people.

[@Sarahh.gabrielle]

Every 8 is greatly thanking you for describing us positively 🙏🏽🙏🏽😭

[@Deemonita]

My husband is a 6 and this is spot on! I recently started a ceramics class and in his eyes I already am the best ceramist in the world, and he expresses that almost exactly as your character.

[@CosmicFox808]

"I SAID WHAT I SAID!" I laughed out loud at this part 😂

[@AbbeyHowe]

that line made me laugh so much to say 😂

[@Desic123]

I'm a 9, allergic to shellfish and almost died after eating crab meatballs at a wedding. I didn't say anything until I went into shock. TL;DR I feel seen. It me!!!!!

[@AbbeyHowe]

no way!!

[@sierravanderslice2637]

I'd be like that! Don't wanna inconvenience anybody or make them feel bad for something they didn't know about!

[@fairyfits]

I can vouch for this. I'm also 9 and am allergic to certain seafoods. During a beach picnic event I had an allergic reaction, felt it coming but continued playing didn't want to cause a scene. I was doubled over on the ground, covered in hives, swollen throat difficulty breathing before I agreed for others to call an ambulance! my mouth fell open seeing that scene at the end LOL

[@williamhad]

Don't do that. -type 8

[@madman7923]

type 5w4 and this is accurate. my mom would call me a robot but i think of myself as more spock from star trek. i just learned about enneagrams a day ago and im glad to know there are other people like me... I always thought i was weird for being so detached. thanks for the funny video!

[@fernandadealencar1158]

4s are high maintenance, but, come on, we are naturally sexy and facinating.

[@wererabbit63]

Do I see “The Joy Of Cooking” on the bookshelf? My 5 wing is now obsessed with checking out what else is on that bookshelf.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Yes!! My mom just gave me that cookbook. ♥️ to be honest, haven’t cooked from it yet 😬

[@annacooksey7276]

@@AbbeyHowe Have a go at it! I'm a type 5 and I've been diving down a rabbit hole with French cooking. I've mostly started with sauces and soups and adapting these recipes to whatever application I come up with! Lol, you can't tell, but I'm trying to restrain myself. I could go on!

[@SunsetDragon]

AAAAH!!! THAT TWO--- THAT IS EXACTLY ME. TO THE EXACT... EXACT... EXACTNESS!!!!! Nothing more. Simply perfect.

[@alanhowe851]

I sometimes identify myself as my daughter’s father.

[@AbbeyHowe]

wow

[@myewzek2913]

Instead of mother omg I’m gender fluid too, we a vibe eh

[@14xx07]

I have multiple type 5s for close friends. Hope to meet more and have a partner who enjoys my enchanted lenses 😍

[@radiyhakhatun1041]

Type 5 got me laughing. I just thought of Amy from Big Bang Theory.

[@AbbeyHowe]

totally! I could see that 😂

[@Manah16]

My boyfriend is a type 4 and oh boy, this is so accurate xD The romantic cheesiness is real, and I'm all here for it!

[@AbbeyHowe]

all the YES to romantic cheesiness!

[@JustinHeronMusic]

I dunno. Maybe it was true for me when I was younger. After being burned a few times I've really leaned into my 5 wing approaching relationships. I still feel intensely, but when it comes to relationships I tend not to trust that my feelings are authoritative in decision making. I'm suuuper down for wine, a walk in the park, and an arthouse movie - seldom does the evening meet my expectations. Romance is often something we perform but often it is never reciprocal.

[@Manah16]

@@JustinHeronMusic Well, I think it's important to remain a little down to earth, for sure. I typically allow myself to dive into romance only once I have enough confirmation that my feelings are at least somewhat reciprocated. And I have long come to terms with being ok with rejections or the possibility of relations being short-lived, whatever may be the reason. Killing expectations while remaining optimistic helps me a lot too. And I agree it's true that feelings alone can't be the decision makers, lest it would lead to heartbreak or unhealthy relationships. Like most things in life, I think it's a matter of balance, remaining true to oneself yet remaining lucid. Also, romance is most wonderful and takes effort on both sides. And most importantly, communication is key! Anyhoot, just some thoughts, sorry for the blurb. I wish you all the best with your romantic endeavours!

[@fernandadealencar1158]

being a 4 in a relationship is either feel you are tragic flawed and no one will ever be a gooodpartner and feel that love is the best thing to exist on earth and how much life is more colorful to have a oerson to share a intimate universe with you.

[@blurplecrow]

oh yeah, I think the worst part of being an 4 is this tragic feeling when people turn out to be less enthusiastic/invested/ anything like that, it's just, that alienation in realizing that other people just don't tend to care this much, it fucking breaks me

[@KKTanaa]

@@blurplecrow it does break me too. I tend to begin to overthink and begin to realize that I will never be truly love on such a deep level (and there should be a stronger word than deep to explain what I mean but I can’t seem to find it). But then if someone loved me on this level, I would fear that eventually it will end because they will see I’m incredibly flawed. I struggle with feeling unique to flawed and it’s crushing.

[@anaghaps3044]

@@blurplecrow me too

[@14xx07]

Can you do one on perfect proposal for each type? :D

[@_purplewinter_]

Type 5 sounds like Mr. Darcy 😂

[@sophiesmith9005]

And type 4 sounds like Mr. Collins!!

[@AbbeyHowe]

this comment thread is perfection

[@joris2982]

😂😂

[@rosefisher1714]

YES!!

[@kelseywarren-bryant2682]

I thought the same thing 😂😂

[@faderkorall]

Omg that crying on type 5 is so well acted and so funny in the context lol

[@rosieraptor1093]

Ok, the type 9 skit is hilarious that was literally me in high school XD. I wanna see the boyfriends types in alignment! :)

[@gigibabineaux5142]

My boyfriend is a four and he is the sweetest and romantic person. As I am also a four, we are like the cheesiest couple but we adore it 🤣😍

[@Cjeejc7]

I’m a type 4 with a HEAVY 5 wing and my girlfriend is a type 3. The roles must be reversed in our relationship because she’s more expressive than I am!

[@shaunrutherford7764]

I find it suspect that the SkillShare ad was right before the type 5 description

[@NikkiCox81]

My husband is a 3 and he makes a very big effort to make time for me and not allow his work to overcome him. I know if he is putting work aside to spend time with me that means I am important to him and I don't take that for granted because he has to be intentional about it. I think being a 1 that helps me from being so in my feelings about not getting so much of his attention. Also I have heard "Can you close the door, I have a meeting." soooooo many times. LOL

[@madeniquevanwyk]

GAH I just want a sappy romantic type 4 bf but I wonder if we will get absolutely nothing done and spend our last dollar on an art print 😩 but gahhh it will be worth it

[@14xx07]

I am type 4, had an ex bf who’s type 3. The opening scene was the very sentence he always go by. That cut a wound. 😅 During touch patches, he felt meeting once a week (2hrs) was sufficient, no calls no text.. he just keep working and working.... erm... for 2 years straight, I suppose I was in a relationship with my dream dates, planning for them and never get to go anywhere with him.

[@nanikoreoyaoya7677]

I’m a female eight but i can see the resemblance 😂

[@BombshElle_7]

Facts

[@priscilamenjivar6741]

I really liked how you explained the enneagram types. I like how u said not only their stereotypes which we all know but how they realistically act too. Great video 👌

[@josephkupper3173]

I had to laugh about the Point 2 'Friendly Hands'. I have experienced that feeling of 'all yucky' on the receiving end.

[@atelierhuenerhusli1111]

LOL Type 8 was hilarious 😂😍

[@dylanengo7152]

As an 8w7, I’m surprised how I relate to both and then some 5 aspects lol

[@sridharvaishnava9003]

as a type 4, I feel pride watching this.

[@francesca.pellegrino]

The 8 kinda reminded me of my dad. XD I don't know what you like, but I got these things for you. ENJOY THEM.

[@AbbeyHowe]

hahahah I love this. ENJOY THEM

[@Belrooski]

5s sound like Dwight from the Office😭😂

[@tinabruck7030]

I'm a 5 and I don't know what I should feel with your comment 😔

[@sierravanderslice2637]

Haha, I know everyone was talking about the 5 already, but literally the guy who let me read the enneagram books is a 5 and that sounds like him :D It's not a bad thing, just hilarious XD

[@rb1599]

So I wonder how many other 5's fell right into your well-placed ad for Skillshare. "Before we get to the 5's," then you go on to talk about a 5's dream. It felt like my life ended in that moment and I would now be able to just sit and take every one of the classes that they offer. Then I snapped out of it and realized that I had just been successfully fooled(in a good way, I think). I hope you read this comment Abby because that doesn't happen easily. Now I have to decide if I actually want to do Skillshare because I've been manipulated. Thanks for the videos. My wife is very much a 4 😬 and its good to be able to laugh about our differences while understanding eachother a bit more.

[@deadpoolvega]

Very accurate as a 7. I had many relationship apps and I love this new experience and new people that apps gives to us lol

[@kenzaplenty]

LOL Every time I have dinner at a larger family gathering and someone makes a shellfish dish I always get so uncomfortable when people say "Let Mackenzie get her food first" so nothing is cross-contaminated... don't get me wrong, it's nice. Yes, I am a 9.

[@criotene]

It’s good to hear some positivity about 8s

[@seraphiinas]

yo... my real name is james and i’m a type 2 and when i tell u the first five seconds having type 2 named james freaked me out... i fr wasn’t ready

[@hugh_f]

Really nice video, thanks as ever for great content, Abbey

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks, Hugh! Glad you enjoyed it! 😊

[@HisJoy7]

This was oddly helpful now I really only see myself dating a 4,5,7,8! Obviously, I won't cut off people solely on the purpose that they are not those enneagrams but thx! (I'm an Enneagram 1 and MBTI ENTJ for those who are curious)

[@shawpaperiekas600]

I am type two but my love language is quality time with words of affirmation a close second.

[@fernandadealencar1158]

i agree that 4s want that they emotional needs to be prioritized all time. i do that.

[@shawnmoore1319]

Oh gawd… I’m def a 4. No matter how hard I’ve fought it 😬

[@margaretjudice8944]

Great video! Thank you for sharing.

[@silverrain530]

I know I'm a type 9 because I'm going to the college I'm going to now to avoid fighting over other options with my dad and to make my sister happy.

[@sylvett9383]

It'd be interesting if you could describe enneagrams with Zodiacs, and possibly have a section for zodiacs and such. I'd like to see that.

[@Thr3leven]

Pfft. As a 5 who leans heavily into 4, I always find myself deeply emotional occasionally, but then just stoic the rest of the time.

[@mwatson4970]

Same here. Though my 4 allows me to be a more entertaining/persuasive speaker when asking for more information/help/data. Just saying.

[@JH-yj7kk]

I'm also a 5w4 and I feel like a walking pardox sometimes. I'm so detached and analytical yet so emotional and extra at the same time. Somehow, it's possible.

[@williamjt31]

Type 4 was hilarious

[@AbbeyHowe]

That was one of my personal faves to film 😜

[@celestinalunar6902]

Type 5 sounds like Eugene from The Walking Dead 🤣😂

[@AbbeyHowe]

😂 totally!

[@TheBetterAdultProject]

Brilliant! Love your videos :)

[@fuzei]

My enneagram 4 boyfriend has all the drama with very little of the romance. SMH but I love him

[@robinorene]

You’re hilarious! 🤣 I love your videos!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks Robin!

[@AMoniqueOcampo]

This is taking me back to my theater days. I actually dressed as a man for a play. (Silent role.) This is also VERY good writing research!

[@AbbeyHowe]

amazing! in my theater days, I played a couple of guys as well (Fabian in Twelfth Night is one I can remember off the top of my head!)

[@evaanjos]

the 9.......... i can't not laugh at that

[@AbbeyHowe]

hehehe

[@KitKatnotthecandylol]

Never seen so many type 5 in enneagram content...it’s nice 😌

[@noor-qk5kz]

im a type 5 and an intp but im the biggest procrastinator and lazy person you’ll meet hahaha

[@mikarenner5155]

Gotta say that was the most creative way of doing it🤣

[@cheese__lasagna868]

Omg love her Fleet Foxes shirtttttt ❤️

[@srijeetm]

Accurate Type 7 descript. Can confirm 😅

[@alisteyn6]

I'm a 9 and I feel very called out.

[@josephazevedo2332]

As a 5, it's my dream to be able to talk like that, and it be socially acceptable.

[@KitKatnotthecandylol]

Wow. How much I relate to this comment in this moment. Since I can’t freely do so either, I sometimes do it as a joke to relieve my desire to do it for real 😂 Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn’t 😅

[@thaliawhisperwind4013]

As a two, yes. Just, yes. 🤣🤣🤣

[@BombshElle_7]

Type 9 made me bust out laughing.

[@tyleremery7088]

Ooh, someone else who likes the super dark chocolate. (Or maybe not, but why else would you use chocolate that dark if you didn't?) 👌

[@AbbeyHowe]

that's all we have in our fridge! so good!

[@Sriniket]

"I said what I said!" - the most 8 line ever(I'm an 8w7)

[@juliegolick]

Ahahahaha! As I 9, I'd let someone know about allergies, but I might be quieter about food preferences. Like, I really don't like mushrooms, but if someone I cared for made a mushroom-based-something for me (without knowing I don't like them), I'd probably at least try to eat it. What's the alternative? Getting there and saying, "Oh, sorry, forgot to mention that I really hate mushrooms -guess you should throw out this lovely dinner you made for us"? (I... may have issues lol)🤣

[@ameliasnoch2128]

My adventure with enneagram is like: 4w5 --> 7w6 --> 5w4 --> 9w8 and after this movie i know that's 4w5 or 7w6, the circle is smaller, thank you xD

[@nat1XP]

R.e skillshare Since i used your link in the past then became a member I've done the speaking and comedy writing courses and both are fun and easy to follow and remember clear tips🥳

[@AbbeyHowe]

yay amazing! who was the teacher for the comedy writing courses?

[@nat1XP]

@@AbbeyHowe so the course i got into that i was thinkng about was comedy filmmaking with Amber Schaefer who talked about the story too, my bad but i recently checked out one for skits by marshall rimmer. this is a new world for me though

[@sierravanderslice2637]

Sorry for all the comments, but I "yell" compliments at my 8 brother when I get slightly frustrated with him. It works and just makes us both laugh (or at least lighten up lol XD)

[@AbbeyHowe]

I love this!

[@danielcherry4675]

5W6 myself

[@rebeccawoods4488]

Excellent! The wig works! ;-)

[@sierravanderslice2637]

Did you say "Yebba's boyfriend" because that's your name spelled backwards?

[@AbbeyHowe]

HEHEHEHEHEHEHHEHEE

[@sierravanderslice2637]

@@AbbeyHowe XD

[@cherisebeekman]

Oh my gosh, my type nine husband is actually allergic to shellfish!! 👀

[@KendrixTermina]

i love your costumes

[@Gooniegirl3333]

It was today that I realized, as a 4, I couldn't date a 4. 😂😂😂😂😂 Also, your acting slays, queen.

[@AbbeyHowe]

thank youuuuu

[@AbbeyHowe]

thank youuuuu

[@kodeth5200]

7w6!

[@cicelysmith7371]

Fleet foxes!!!

[@AbbeyHowe]

It’s my husband’s shirt. He will be pleased you commented this 😊

[@Jonwatchin]

@@AbbeyHowe I am pleased. 😁

[@belleofthecamp6530]

Lol that was the best 💖

[@TheKgal89]

As a 9 fixer, this makes me so uncomfy but this video was way off base with the 3 and the 7, and the 2. 6 seemed more like a 6w7. You are unfortunately perpetuating bad stereotypes about the 7. A 7 in love is just about the most positive, overwhelmingly affectionate partner ever even to the point of clinginess but also we detach fast and hard if we anticipate pain. That does not mean that we log on to dating portals stat. My 3 boyfriend is a dedicated champion, not only to his career but also to me. He actively strives to be the best boyfriend ever. Lol, he has even asked me sometimes if other exes did the kind of stuff he does 😂 I low key enjoy playing with that as a 7 myself. Your 9 was spot on. I wish the 2 had been a bit more vocal and expressive, placing emphasis on the Other's feelings and emotions to the exclusion of their own.

[@AbbeyHowe]

I totally get that I am perpetuating stereotypes here. I hope it comes across that I am exaggerating the out of alignment traits that can SOMETIMES happen in each enneagram number. Unfortunately, super healthy people do not make the funniest little skits. And I just love making myself and other people laugh. Also, yes, 7s are awesome!! I'm just exaggerating an aspect of their out of alignment traits!

[@TheKgal89]

@@AbbeyHowe Yeah I do get that these are supposed to be caricatures but at the same time I look forward to your videos as infotainment ya know? So I would like some accurate info as well 😁

[@AbbeyHowe]

@@TheKgal89 I hear ya! Well I’ve got a new series coming out this month where I interview actual enneagram types about their lives and we are kicking off the series with a Type 7! That will be more informative than a comedy video ♥️

[@TheKgal89]

@@AbbeyHowe Thanks for hearing my concerns. Btw, your collab with Leanne and Michelle was brilliant. You should do more collabs, ooh how about Frank James? Happy Thanksgiving btw!

[@TheKgal89]

@@AbbeyHowe I wonder if I have a 1 fix after all? Or is it the 3 fix (I am supposed to be a 739 so/sp) that makes me critique you like this? On the other hand, I love your stuff and just want you to be the best, that's all.

[@gratefulviolet1514]

Type 2 😂🤣

[@AbbeyHowe]

🤣

[@Whynot-xi7mu]

you re so funny

[@DrTranofEvil]

Umm. Type 5: yep. 😓

[@Andi-y8e]

I’m a 9 and long for an 8 husband tbh

[@williamhad]

Dude I like your trance playlist on your channel. -Type 8

[@Andi-y8e]

@@williamhad aww tysm 🥺

[@PerfectguyMrdushX]

❤️👍

[@isaac9071-j9b]

Um I didn't really like the Type 4 one. It was pretty stereotypical.

[@AbbeyHowe]

dang- sorry it didn't resonate with you!

[@xavierdomenico]

It’s a joke, silly. I’m a type 4 and it was hilarious. Maybe learn to laugh a bit.

[@AbbeyHowe]

@@xavierdomenico eh, no I don’t like throwing that around in the comments. Not all 4s look like “the romantic.” I hope to make some videos in the future about type 4s who don’t present like the stereotypical 4.

[@xavierdomenico]

You know what, I am not going to back down. You don’t have to like the video, but publicly stating “I’m not like other girls” (even if you’re a guy) is more stereotypical of a four than what this video was portraying, which was generalizations each type could at least partially relate with.

[@Rurubahahamas]

Oh wow, Abbey! Your videos are the best enneagram videos ever!❤ keep up the good work!! 🤍🤍 -infj 6w5

[@AbbeyHowe]

Glad you like them!

[@Rurubahahamas]

@@AbbeyHowe 🤍🤍🤍