Jennette McCurdy shares the stories behind memoir “I’m Glad My Mom Died”

[@ITalk69]

You never would have guessed she went through all of this while watching her on iCarly. I'm glad she's doing well now!

[@JB-fl4wk]

It's called acting. She's apparently quite good at it. Good for her 🖤

[@Realone031]

Actually it makes sense her mom was horrible in the show

[@youknowho4439]

Yes. Let's pray and hope CANCEL CULTURE doesn't ruin life for her.

[@ticky2586]

Sam and Cat

[@lioking4093]

Also Disney kids & other teens & young people in Hollywood have been abused by people in the industry & she probably has nightmares of her mom .

[@inhobiswinecellar9571]

She spent her whole youth giving us Sam. Im glad we finally get to meet Jenette.

[@rosesforviolets]

this is so well said. it is so true. i appreciate jenette for being herself now. i loved, and still love the character of sam. but sam was and never will be jenette.

[@juanma2191]

She's just 30 man. She's still young and free now

[@loosemons1538]

Agreed

[@macktonight9511]

ahahahahahaa..lol

[@rayofthehunter5255]

LMAO one video and now everyone knows her differently 🤣😂

[@maebelline]

She’s so well spoken and you can tell she’s done so much hard work on healing herself, I’m unbelievably proud of her

[@rickdeckard1075]

yeah natasha lyonne can really do a great SoCal accent

[@giangtruc3376]

ok

[@bluecheesewithwings2105]

Who are you tf ? Are you the person we all are out to make feel good tf

[@maebelline]

@@bluecheesewithwings2105 what

[@velvetchiharu]

Legit tho, I did not care whatsoever about that show at the time, but seeing the person she’s developed into today I am excited for her future and to see what comes next. She is so, so composed. She carries herself with such humility.

[@PhoenixInFirestadium]

Props to the interviewer not interrupting when Jennette needed to collect herself there for a moment. It resulted in such a powerful message. She's not a victim any longer, she's a survivor.

[@gabrierodriguez9586]

So The mother had cancer and , she kept her daughter on a healthy diet , she gaved her medical exams to make sure she’s okay , and also bathe her to make sure she was clean . Don’t get how she was abusive

[@piper7091]

@@gabrierodriguez9586she washed her daughter until she was 18! Giving her no privacy, and when she moved into her own apartment to escape this her mum then ended up staying in her apartment for so long!

[@gabrierodriguez9586]

@@piper7091 wow her life is much worse than the kids over at Palestine

[@piper7091]

@@gabrierodriguez9586 I never said her life was worse im just explaining to you how that is abusive. Oh and let’s not forgot how her mum gave her a eating disorder encouraging her to stay small, having her limit her carb intake so she was terribly underweight to the point where she didn’t go through puberty at the right age. Dont question someone’s life if you don’t know the full story

[@gabrierodriguez9586]

@@piper7091that’s not abuse

[@brookeelle5687]

I was disappointed at first that she wasn’t on the icarly reboot but now I am so glad she chose herself and her well being over the show. She deserves the world.

[@pumpkinwarrior7138]

I also love that her character is allowed to just be wild and free and that’s it

[@ramenwithaliens5431]

samee

[@pandagirl_05]

Same☺️🙆‍♀️

[@pandagirl_05]

@@pumpkinwarrior7138 I would still watch iCarly and Sam Cat just to watch Sam and Spencer when I have a rough days. It's like I would watch just to have a belly laugh😅💕

[@SimplyJustin]

Right, and I’m glad that even though she’s not in the reboot they still mention her sometimes in the show😭💗

[@sistergwennith]

The interviewer is so great. Not being super invasive, letting her just let it all out, and cracking a joke here and there to ease the tension so perfectly. We need more ppl in the media like her

[@fablesofkitkat]

Yes. Well spoken. The interviewer prompts her with respect. And I love how she matched Jennette's tone at certain parts like when Jen mentioned about charade with Tom Hanks and she replied with a playful 'how dare she.'

[@rodjjt7742]

Too many interviewers seem like they are constantly trying to get that gotcha moment where they can go viral and get attention.

[@xviphoenix69]

There are plenty of interviewer like her and are poc like her that shows progress is happening whether white America is ready for it or not. Kudos to her and the new breed of journalist like her that representing minorities in that field.

[@jazzyBaby0107]

I love this interviewer and when she does Crime Watch Daily she's awesome and Dateline!! ❤❤💜💜 I Feel bad for her Jeanette is a strong girl I hope God does his work with her!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💔💔😢😢

[@colinstanhouse6663]

The interviewer is Juju Chang. And dont give her to much credit, because from what I understand, she and her husband are part of the Hollywood and Main stream Media child abusers !!!!!

[@spencerallegra]

I hope she realizes how brave she is for talking about all of this. Other child stars will see this and realize what’s happening to them isn’t normal or okay. She’s truly saving lives.

[@dirtygirl2808]

Brave? She's been complaining for years

[@jacksonmaner5997]

@@dirtygirl2808 complaining? she was abused by multiple people. thats not complaining. and coming out to say these things publicly, when she could've taken literal hush-money? that is brave.

[@clownworld6926]

Not rly. Hollywood never changes

[@nessapie23]

I got emotional when she said she chose the hard path to live with integrity. She really did and I am so proud for her.

[@dirtygirl2808]

@@jacksonmaner5997 well you were bully at school and never fight back but complaint later,you're not brave

[@AuntieMamie]

I’m in my 70’s and can identify. I’m glad this courageous young woman is breaking the taboo. Bravo. She should be extremely proud of herself and deserves a very happy life.

[@andrewharald88]

Hi 👋

[@jerricreamer2144]

​@andrewharald88 . Dude are you scamming woman on this channel??? Seriously ??

[@jtsy4239]

God bless you 🙏

[@MushroomHhUuMmAaNn]

@@jerricreamer2144bro he just said hi 🤦‍♂️

[@3bannasplit]

@@MushroomHhUuMmAaNn have you seen his profile?? 😑

[@cris404]

I love how she willingly admitted her jealousy of costars. It takes a ton of personal maturity and self awareness to admit emotions such as that

[@yanilowkz]

& it was not … beauty jealousy it was how privileged someone was jealousy

[@yourmom3640]

@@yanilowkz huh

[@unionunicorn6776]

@@yanilowkz She was jealous of the healthy relationship Ariana had with her mother which is so sad (and I know how that feels) 🥺

[@yowatchie]

@@yourmom3640 I think they’re trying to say not jealousy over appearance but over career or things like someone’s perceived home life compared to hers.

[@in_wino_veritas]

of course, she was jealous of her having a career in the music industry and for being known outside of the Nickelodeon bubble, I bet, everyone was and am sure, many other co stars have already admitted to this.

[@lwilso9152]

You can tell how much therapy how much personal work she’s gone through in the vocabulary she uses and the thoughtful way she talks. I’m proud of her

[@marquistf1996]

Yes its inspiring.

[@onemillionpercent]

yes, exactly what i thought

[@valeriedeleon3711]

TRUE🥺

[@mdosmanmdosman8401]

true

[@onemillionpercent]

@@k-mart7475 what?

[@tinamarie8061]

“Accepting that mom was abusive would be reframing my whole life…” this is so real

[@kathynicholson103]

I can totally relate. When you do accept it, it feels like the earth shifts on it's axis.

[@LXSeaV]

It’s a humbling and heartbreaking journey but it worth it to live in truth no matter what.

[@ceeejay9112]

As long as she acknowledges it, she doesn't need to think any further on it....that is obviously too much for her at this point, perhaps later, perhaps never. I myself wonder why her mom was invasive in this way, very weird and very very wrong (understatement or what!?)

[@JennyJeong425]

I'm in my forties. With the help of good friend and a therapist, I'm just now unraveling the years of abuse I suffered at the hands of my mother, and how she continues to treat me horribly. I'm stuck taking care of her, and it is a very odd feeling trying to come to terms with all the anxiety she gave me while watching her deteriorate.

[@ccalexander1924]

I’m in my 30s ( close to 40), and I have just went into no contact with my mom ( and maybe one of my sisters ). Both of them are very manipulative and just evil . I have been so abused by my mom my entire life and there were times I had to walk away from and I even moved out of state for a couple years to get away from her. I didn’t miss her for one second but I missed not ever really having a loving mother that I could have a good relationship with. I moved back home bc she was getting older and thought maybe if she needs help etc then her manipulative behaviors started up again as she was blaming me for things I never did , giving me the silent treatment again etc and about 8 weeks ago ( as she started the rounds of silent treatment again ) I decided I have had it. I now travel for work so I can be in a different state etc and this will give me time to think about if I want a complete disconnect from her forever. Or do I just move to another state and have very little contact with her ? I don’t know but I want to go to therapy and think about how she has affected my entire life. She is the reason I never wanted kids bc I was always afraid I would pass down her horrible mothering. I have things I know I need to work on. One of my sisters I feel the same about. Why I had to be born In such an unhappy unstable dysfunctional family that I am not sure how to recover from. I wish I had her insight on things before I hit 30

[@soccerchick9841]

Her book is FANTASTIC. I couldn’t put it down. She’s a great writer! She went through SO much.

[@gabrierodriguez9586]

So The mother had cancer and , she kept her daughter on a healthy diet , she gaved her medical exams to make sure she’s okay , and also bathe her to make sure she was clean . Don’t get how she was abusive

[@nativenation11]

@@gabrierodriguez9586 @buse is more than physical. In her case it was verbal, emotional, and mental @buse. None of them are fun.

[@gabrierodriguez9586]

@@nativenation11 you are soft

[@curlyheadpigeon]

you sound a lot like a predator.. @@gabrierodriguez9586

[@molsongrrrl]

​@gabrierodriguez9586 ffs. Her mother did not have her on a healthy diet. She pushed her daughter into anorexia which is not healthy. Not even close. And showering her daughter until age 16 is not healthy. Not even close. Normal mothers do not do that. I'd suggest actually reading the book, rather than commenting ignorantly.

[@cynthiastarich6844]

"Accepting she was abusive meant I would have to reframe my entire life." And she had the courage to reframe anyway. The darkest truths lead to the most transformative healing. So much admiration for her!

[@More13Feen]

And thats why its so hard! I am going through that right now and I can totaly understand how ppl just keep on repressing and not looking at theyr abuse. I don't want to cuz I want to protect my own children and get my actual reality back.

[@cynthiastarich6844]

@@More13Feen You are every bit strong, courageous, and BRAVE for what you're doing. Your kids will thank you someday.

[@sin3358]

I truly truly admire her. I've gone through that experience myself, although it wasn't as bad as hers I suppose, but the feeling of viewing your parents for what they are is deeply traumatic. I saw them as abusive to begin with, so my issue was the opposite. It was having to see them as human beings. That really effs you up. You start to question your own reality. That's the reason I NEEDED to start therapy to begin with

[@shannonp5262]

She’s speaking the truth. This quote resonates closely with my journey of healing from abuse. Before any healing could begin, I had to find the humility to admit I was broken. And through my confessions, I could be free to reach out for grace that was offered to me through Christ. Forgiveness sets us free when we are honest with ourselves

[@Destinyisforlosers24]

I know exactly what you mean. Nothing harder than realizing that your parents were not only human but may have went through exactly what they put you through. Being a mom myself now has made me have to face the fact that my mother wasn’t evil incarnate she became that way because she had been raised by generations of evil…if I didn’t face that then I’d be at risk of continuing the cycle. My son and daughter will be raised by the all that is good, endless love and abundant forgiveness and I pray they will raise their children with those same things. We are healing generations of pain and I’m so proud to have it start with my children.

[@II-eb6mw]

I can listen to Jennette speak all day. She expresses herself so well. It feels therapeutic listening to her speak of her journey.

[@rashidasnead865]

Exactly

[@wolfphoebe20]

her podcast is great!

[@drippinwet774]

Almost. Jenette does a great job speaking for *herself*, and not for the girls around the world who have to survive on a bowl or 2 of rice per day. Moms don't exactly come into the world equipped with a "how to grow up & and how to raise kids" manual either.

[@Andramih]

@@drippinwet774 there is so much information out there these days about raising children and sorting yourself out. it's every adult's responsibility to not pass on their pain to their children

[@koioio]

​@@drippinwet774 it's very obvious saying this but everyone is responsible for their actions towards others, doesn't matter if it's a mother, a father, a friend or a stranger. Of course there are simpler places where people have children for the sake of it, or to have more "working hands". In my country there was a secular saying that translates to "after the 4th children, they raise themselves off"; implying that after a certain ammount of kids they would simply raise each other and the parents wouldn't have to worry. Even if it was a common thing at the time, it wasn't in the slightest bit responsible and I'm sure so many of them had very rough childhoods, so much so that these were the easiest families to break apart and never see each of the members again. Sure, they were simple people and didn't necessarily cause harm because of malice, but because of ignorance; and yet they were still responsible for the "scars" left in their children.

[@alliewickam5850]

"I've chosen a path of integrity, and it hasn't always been easy." Powerful words.

[@ChurchofPhillyWatch]

Good for her 🙏💕🙌🙌🙌💕

[@Rodinj10]

Still crying about that

[@ebmena]

@@Rodinj10 It brought tears to my eyes too!

[@nicolelouisjeune7387]

That path is never to grow up in, sometimes you need to plant your own seeds and watch them grow, some parents don't understand that, sometimes all they see is a child that can take them out of their own issues.

[@ApacheJulie]

I got chills during that part.

[@NicoleMoriel]

My mom died 3 months ago and I’m 23, starting my career on Monday. It’s crazy how much I relate to Jeanette, same feelings but different experiences. When the book came out, I couldn’t help but wait for this day. I’m happy and sad at the same time. I’m excited to begin my teaching career.

[@winged_cat_4571]

Congratulations and I’m so sorry I hope your career goes well

[@sneakymaaike5633]

Congratulations on your career! You're going to be a great teacher and I'm so sorry about all your bad experiences similar to jennette's. I hope You're doing better too

[@Chloe-ju7rp]

Deuteronomy 31:8💙💙💙

[@izzy7744]

❤️

[@jtsy4239]

Sorry for your lost, she will be in your heart 🙏🫂

[@bryannaelyse4384]

“I’ve chosen a path of integrity and it hasn’t always been easy” what a woman

[@irenez7439]

But if she doesn't say who that man is he might be doing that to some little girl and that would be on her shoulders because she should have stopped him.

[@honeyful1667]

@@irenez7439 Not at all. Look into these situations. Majority of perps are given a plea bargain and free that day. I thought that too when I told the truth and the court told me that he was sorry and he got a year. Now he's a dad to a little girl.

[@kooscherries]

​@@irenez7439 It's pretty obvious it's Dan Schneider, use your head better before trying to put blame on her.

[@hol8642]

@@kooscherries yeah it’s 100% Dan ‘feet guy’ schneider

[@irenez7439]

@@kooscherries I don't know who it is but the name needs to be out there everywhere.

[@Sunset.lover13]

When she said “Im proud of myself” and you can tell from her face she was in shock and said, “omg I’m proud of myself” again, then cried! You can tell she never hears those words from herself. And the fact that she subconsciously said it and cried broke my heart. Thank you Jennette for continuing to give us a childhood even if that meant you got stripped from yours. 💔

[@leighmartin9187]

I think her tears are both joy and pain. It must be hard for her to speak about the trauma, but also for her to see how far she came is a wow moment

[@cookie_puente8145]

Damn

[@2Sides1Stone]

You shouldn't look forward to hearing it from yourself. That quickly turns to arrogance unchecked.

[@Something125_]

2,000th like😌

[@ceeejay9112]

When the interviewer asked "why, why are you proud of yourself?", my immediate response was, cos she DIDN'T SELL OUT!! She did well, good the hell on her!

[@whale2207]

The fact that she thought the money could had put her nieces through college, she still saw herself as the bread winner and responsible for others. Heartbreaking. I hope her future is bright and beautiful she deserves it.

[@xymzk]

Right she thought about what she could've done for others with it. Wow.

[@fairy_dust6588]

Yeah she sounds like Asian people who always help family …

[@bossycoconut847]

That is not a burden that should be put on any child.

[@LadyGreyBlack]

It always burns my blood when you hear about cases like this. Here's hoping the rest of Jeanette's life is on her terms from now on.

[@gracieryanloauv]

@@fairy_dust6588 what😭

[@Helllooooooo278]

Jeanette is so well spoken and self aware. I’m proud of her for healing after such a difficult journey.

[@yankeegirl3380]

I just read her book and now, I understand why she did it, why she used that title. And why she told her story. She's going to help a lot of people. God bless you, Jeanette.

[@Turnpost2552]

Provided they actually read the book but we can spread that message

[@d3ad_n_burried]

*jennette

[@stephenking5852]

I looked up the book on Wikipedia, and Mommy Dearest was a related article.

[@darkmacintosh]

Listening to her book is cathartic to me having grown in a very volatile environment with a narcissistic mother

[@Deidredit]

The book was incredibly insightful. I read it as I am also going through accepting that I have abusive parents, and it reframed a lot of childhood memories that I now understand was abuse.

[@mmichy]

You can tell she is a very emotionally intelligent woman. You can tell she has done the hard work of processing your trauma for the hope of a better future and life. Well done - thank you for sharing.

[@kingquan3826]

Not gonna I got attracted to her just watching and hearing her story.

[@LoveLove-ur8qx]

Your Generosity towards my infection called Herpes virus is Incomparable. You assured me of getting healed and surprisingly after 14 days of taking the medication I ,tested Herpes Negative. Thanks .#drehimen I will keep letting the world know about your KZbin channel ,

[@peters10456170]

Well living that type of traumatic life forces you to grow up young.

[@RR-sf1wj]

You can tell

[@dumbgenious1960]

The way she is just says so much. Her silence, her quantity of words, her shorter answers and her longer ones. Made me cry when all she could say was “I chose a path of integrity, it wasn’t always easy”

[@BroJo676]

So, all the child stars who stayed in the industry are basically immoral monsters?

[@angelak.winbon1225]

Same

[@amymbartell]

The book is devastatingly good. Heartbreaking, but so well written.

[@lamorrafierro2573]

@@amymbartell so heartbreaking , While I was reading I had to pause and take a break and process what I just read .

[@EmiIsHerexo]

"You're gonna be fine, kid" How many of us would want to tell our younger selves that? I know I do. And I think I can. I'm so proud of Jennette for telling her story. She's such a brave woman.

[@dayleslie426]

"Accepting that she was abusive would have meant reframing my entire life." How true for children of abuse. Your parent is a CRITICAL part of your development. When you realize the perspective they gave you is damaged it's hard to just...fix all of that.

[@kaili5050]

100%

[@leahflower9924]

She talks about this better than family therapists

[@Lady-Y]

As someone who’s currently in the early stages of that same boat, you have no idea how accurate that is. When you’ve been told your whole life you exist exclusively to be an extension of someone else - being your parent - you literally feel like you are nothing and that your existence serves no point, when that purpose is gone. I’m glad I’m far enough along to know that lack of self-worth can change, but that initial shock is such an intense combination of sadness and terror that I wouldn’t inflict on anyone.

[@ratedr7845]

Hard, but is it impossible?

[@Lady-Y]

@@ratedr7845 take it from someone who’s lived through a lot of it… no. It’s not impossible.

[@MEJICASTLE]

“I chose a path of integrity.” Such powerful and infinitely gracious words. Thank you for your courage and wisdom sister!

[@subteeninhumansamuraiamphi5019]

courage and wisdom...what a joke lol

[@tweedpenguin712]

Why do you guys act like she said something breathtakingly original lol

[@texasvet2729]

@@subteeninhumansamuraiamphi5019 Calm down incel

[@Pack_Watch]

BRUH

[@minggnim]

@@subteeninhumansamuraiamphi5019 - Troll

[@caseygibbs1]

She is a perfect example of how parents can really ruin a child. She is so strong!

[@AlexanderGucci]

she is the example of an amazing spirit, she literally didn’t kill herzelf after all that and instead learned it is wrong what they did to her and other kids and teens… she deserves 1 billion dollars

[@miraspaho5562]

Ok but begin happy for her death not makes her better then she. At last was her mother have her blood I think people not have mercy are evil as well

[@Picasso_737]

@@miraspaho5562 u don’t know what she went through be in her shoes then judge, the Jennette u say is evil was abused by that mother sexually and physically “u r evil” for thinking that mother didn’t deserve it. She made her sick and took advantage of her eating disorder “anorexia” pushed her into something she didn’t want to, to pay bills she didn’t deserve all this now shut up

[@moaningmyrtlehp7355]

Like Lindsey Lohan's parents

[@grocerybag8468]

@@miraspaho5562 If her mother hadn’t died she would’ve still been down a depressive path. It’s not like she celebrated her death, it’s more like her mom dying allowed her to escape and find herself. Family being blood doesn’t mean they’re immune to being abusive or terrible to their own.

[@markjohnson7002]

Jennette is a terrific writer. Her analysis is so careful and thorough that you assume it's a part of her nature. Until you get to the middle of her book and realize the impressive amount of work she did. Bravo!

[@123451248ify]

Yeah, I guess making numerous accusations about your mother when she's are not here to defend herself does make you a better writer. We don't really know if what she said happened or not.

[@markjohnson7002]

​@@123451248ify How do accusations make you a better writer?

[@123451248ify]

@@markjohnson7002 I was being sarcastic.

[@markjohnson7002]

Ok, I was confused

[@MegaOscarmendez]

​@@123451248ify You're. a moron

[@anamariamalo]

She expresses herself very well. No wonder she’s writing and continuing to write.

[@hkeszler13]

Agreed! Her words are chosen so precisely, she is wise beyond her years!

[@isabelmontoya9797]

She has a life behind and ahead of her to write about.

[@ianfortuna9385]

@Elizabeth Campos that doesn’t make any difference

[@ianfortuna9385]

@Elizabeth Campos she’s going to be successful without that monster in her life

[@jennifferviracacha5847]

She always loved writing but her mom forced her to put that dream away and focus on acting.

[@gee777]

I’ll never get over the way she said “I’m proud of myself”. That statement sounded so powerful and she really could’ve easily taken that money and yet she didn’t and picked writing about her experiences and growing up. I am so excited to see her future. I hope this gives her peace and healing ❤️‍🩹

[@TM-zq7qx]

I can’t believe the interviewer dared to ask her: “why?”…sorry, but if she can’t see the reason she is compliant with the human devouring machine the showbiz is!

[@cWjkL8ysxOkrH66]

@@TM-zq7qx interviewers don't make questions because they don't know the answers, they do it to make sure the audience knows what's being said, and also to let the guests explain their thoughts.

[@lesliemorganking3283]

@@TM-zq7qx as I read your comment she said that.

[@nickhorgan2977]

This is just to distract people while they kill off the poor with inflation to prevent any uprising.

[@juanfortis4397]

When she said I chose a path of integrity, wow.

[@mizzysparrots4874]

I wish more people understood not all moms are amazing people. I’m currently not talking to my mom because I am coming to terms with my messed up childhood and people have the nerve to tell me I’m wrong, being stupid, and dramatic. They don’t see the whole story. Someone just told me the other day that I’ll regret not speaking to her and I’m like… nah. I don’t wish her to die but for my own sanity she needs to not be in my life at this moment. I think people just like to assume moms are best, most caring creatures in this world and sadly that’s not always true Edit : wow thanks for the support guys 🥰 I made this comment more so to get my feelings out and never expected so many to understand. To clarify : my mom has always been an extreme conspiracy theorist, neglectful, and allowed my brother to continually abuse us. I am now 31 and she’s gotten worse with her conspiracies because of the internet, she found others who are like her and she’s just running wild with fake news and pretty much screams at everyone who disagrees with her. I just can’t handle it anymore. I cut my brother out of my life completely about 6 years ago, and I finally realized I need to do the same with her. We haven’t spoken in 4 months so far. I’m actually debating on writing a memoir about my life, that’s how I ended up at this video

[@catmom7777]

i’m going through the EXACT same thing. you’re not alone and your feelings are 100% valid!!🧡 we got this! we’re strong as hell.

[@donyale6]

I agree with everything you said. Congratulations on doing what is best for you, despite what other people think. That takes courage.

[@TheKingOfAmalek]

Good. You know yourself more than anyone. Don't listen to a word anyone else says and only do what you think is best.

[@jkar1747]

I get it! I haven't talked to mine in 6 years. People can't fathom it, and it use to infuriate me but now it just bothers me. Just because women have reproductive organs doesn't mean they are fit for kids. My mother use to make me wear the same clothes for a week, lived in a hoarder home and threw scissors in my face toppled with verbal abuse. There are mothers who rape their own kids worst case scenario....There's also this thing calls Satanic Ritual abuse, I'm not sure how it works but I know that the parents are involved.... At this point I don't bother with people, I keep it short and simple, some people I don't even tell at all. If they were to continue pushing me I wouldn't open up but I'd say some mother's go to jail some mother's die at birth.....not everyone has a mom....and just walk away...There are just details that are to intimate to share with people and it's ok to say I will not talk about it.....Maybe you might not agree but what has helped me was finding healing in God and of course I've gone through therapy....Lord knows how much my emotions were damaged but parts of me have healed and I once again thank God!

[@lilachodan4941]

Yes. So true

[@vksof]

Just finished her book and cried so many times. Growing up with an abusive mother is terrifying and we need this kind of public honesty about it! The public needs to know how vulnerable children are and how some mothers are not safe whatsoever!

[@vksof]

Her mother is so similar to mine, this boook is so groundbreaking just to finally have the truth exposed of mothers like that.

[@johnnycage3881]

​@@vksofExactly. Especially when considering sexual abuse in which people don't believe women do that or just ignore or overlooked it altogether. At least in America.

[@K_Awake]

Absolutely spot on ❤

[@KDMeowmmy]

A good lot of the mothers on “Say yes to the dress” are evil.

[@helenatube]

As a child who grew up with a narcissistic abusive mother, it's almost surreal to me to hear someone talk publicly about maternal abuse in such a clear and honest voice. She's very inspiring. I never watched any of her work before today, but I think I may now be a fan of this brave and special soul.

[@VaylaRyan]

Agreed.

[@violetmoon6233]

Well said ✨🌻💛also your a brave & special soul too. She is just mirroring it back to you .

[@wearitlikeadiva]

I have dealt with a narcissistic mother and I am still dealing with her. She ruined my adult life, turned everyone against me including my only son who is 27. She is 82 and I can’t wait until she dies. I will be at peace.

[@RosanneSol]

@mitxie phoebe It is surprising because a lot of people dismiss the feelings of children abused by their parents and don´t believe them. It goes a little deeper than ´hating your mom´ when there´s trauma involved. So yeah, we need more people like Jennette and less people who try to minimize victims.

[@harryginnyalways]

She has an excellent podcast called Empty Inside, where she's brutally honest about a range of issues. If you enjoy hearing her speak I'd highly recommend listening to it.

[@LaDimplez91]

When she said "I'm proud of myself".. i cried. I've been working on being kind to myself and hearing someone else be nice to themselves makes me happy. Because she SHOULD BE PROUD of herself.

[@violetmoon6233]

I hope you get to be kind& gentle with yourself .You truly deserve it .

[@darleneachille491]

Amen!!! That’s Awesome!!!!

[@themskarinaj]

Truly

[@tima7818]

Agreed🥹

[@nashnash3644]

You are sucha child .grow up.

[@UniversoulLady]

She is so articulate and self aware. I'm amazed at her progress after the life she had. Good for her!

[@UjamesH]

Very articulate indeed.

[@leahflower9924]

I'm glad she said she held her breath in the house I had that too there's nothing worse than always being on edge around your parents or siblings

[@cb4664]

Facts. Never seen her on tv. But I’m officially a fan.

[@HappinessOverload766]

No she not

[@mariotrujillo4927]

She's wearing what a man wears. I don't think you should take any advice from her.

[@digitalharmony26]

I’m so fricken happy for this woman. She’s worked so damn hard to heal herself and the way she deals with everything. Such class and integrity. I hope she continues to be happy in life. She seems like a wonderful soul.

[@issaphae9659]

her book is selling out everywhere, i’m glad she’s found such success sharing her truth. i’m very proud of her

[@zanttheusurperking]

“Her truth”

[@issaphae9659]

@@zanttheusurperking shut up

[@Jackhansxn]

@@zanttheusurperking whats that supposed to mean

[@josiahgonzalez942]

@@Jackhansxn he quoted a line what's there to get offended about Jack?

[@mo-pb5ek]

@@josiahgonzalez942 well JOSIAH, it sounded condescending.

[@AngelaJung99]

She’s extremely strong and intelligent. I wish her nothing but healing and success

[@joshuasmith6346]

Not that strong she shoulda talked about the stuff that really went on on the set of icarly

[@psn-nightmarez_tk-fanboy5899]

Her $hitter tastes good too

[@psn-nightmarez_tk-fanboy5899]

@@joshuasmith6346 the producer ate her stankhole

[@melanievargas9597]

@@joshuasmith6346 It was probably very traumatic and it was already a known fact that he made them do things that weren't okay.

[@Ro-mh3qh]

@ashley1994 and you look like donald trump with a wig on lol. what do her looks even have to do with anything? she’s prettier than you

[@faeri_]

Tell me why I started crying when she thought about putting her nieces through college after turning the hush money down. Just the fact that she thought of someone else who could’ve benefited from that money, but knowing she needed to benefit herself first. I’m so proud of her and who she’s become, even if I don’t personally know her.

[@libby6494]

Look up "parentification"

[@bethanyoneal5789]

I know. That’s so sweet of her to think about her nieces, not how that money could’ve benefited her. I’m glad she turned down the hush money

[@philip-op6de]

This just further shows that nickelodeon knew exactly what was going on and for a long long time…

[@faeri_]

@@philip-op6de exactlyyyy

[@VivaStefania]

Just finished her book, i’m devastated she was going through all that while I was watching her on iCarly as a kid. I’m so happy she has rebuilt her life into something positive and inspiring.

[@Tilleyforever44]

Your interviewer is so respectful and you can tell she either really read the book or whoever wrote the questions did, and had some very thoughtful questions.

[@BonJoviBeatlesLedZep]

Absolutely. The producers did a great job with this interview.

[@retinas]

@Janel yeah it is, but there are people who do interviewing the wrong way, they'll ask questions regardless if it were personal to a person and not know a barrier between whats right and wrong to say

[@gretas950]

@Janel sometimes they do it really badly

[@ayarriba9093]

@Janel people can easily do their job badly. Why not praise people who do it well ?

[@annam.7646]

The way she describes coming to terms with her mothers abuse and why it took so long to process it really hits how relatable that is. One of the most difficult things I had to accept in my life is my dad was my abuser.

[@myrandiamullowney5437]

Same

[@laurapitmon1253]

I agree.

[@aoedemontague1489]

It's a hard truth to admit, but once I did it was so freeing.

[@khalifsiyad4498]

I WILL NEVER DISRESPECT MY LOVELY MUM LIKE THAT…….subhanalah

[@yessy5334]

Same, it took me 22 years to realize the abuse my father put me through. Once I realized I cut off all contact and haven’t spoken to him.

[@chanceysanchez3461]

She should feel proud! She took a stand for everything she believes in! She is amazingly strong.

[@tramnguyenduy954]

ok

[@dansrod5952]

@@tramnguyenduy954 People like you, I will never understand. I think youve got issues...

[@WalidBarca.]

@@tramnguyenduy954 what ok you will never never achieve what said has achieved

[@SkippyBippy]

@@WalidBarca. & you will?

[@brandonrivera5363]

@The Good amen he can heal the broken hearted.

[@starlingswallow]

I'm reading her book at the moment. I'm floored. Narcissistic abuse to the umpteenth degree. Her mom & the Creator. My heart just breaks for her journey~ praying for healing for you, Jeannette ❤

[@mentalalchemy4819]

When she’s talking about her mother being dead yet still hearing the constant criticisms in her head, I felt that one so hard.

[@lubazak636]

Yes, I still hear them too, and I just became a senior, and my mother passed away. You need to fight to heal and keep healing, because you are dealing with trauma.

[@goldenlamb777]

Get over yourself. Wishing your family member death over criticism? Wow.

[@shelbyhurlburt9828]

@@goldenlamb777 no one’s wishing them dead. Christ have some respect. You have no idea what other people have been through.

[@lubazak636]

@@goldenlamb777 You come from a harsh society. My parents were Russian refugees. If one is educated and has some reference from child psychology, unkind parenting perpetuates the evil in our world, inflicting invisible wounds, as well as visible wounds, from physical and emotional abuse.

[@pattypetty9615]

You need to learn to forgive & move on! Why keep crying victim! Why keep torturing yourself! Her mother probably felt it was her only choice to get through this & not loose her family in the process! Did her mother have a brain tumor she's not saying but illness can bring out alot of thing's that really were not deliberate or intended to harm anyone!

[@raynasoto1007]

“You’re gonna be fine kid” I don’t know why, but that’s the part that got me. She really is such a beautiful soul and I can’t help but to be proud of her too

[@joshuaisaacs5546]

@@rockcactus5586 this is a very odd place to plug your music 💀 maybe do some insensitive self promo

[@zayaline]

such a kind soul

[@LoveLove-ur8qx]

Your Generosity towards my infection called Herpes virus is Incomparable. You assured me of getting healed and surprisingly after 14 days of taking the medication I ,tested Herpes Negative. Thanks .#drehimen I will keep letting the world know about your KZbin channel ,

[@d.stackzzz]

@@joshuaisaacs5546 100% they need to read the room, this is a comment section with many vurnable people, and @bu$is3 survivors.

[@angelasoria2080]

The price of $300K is nothing compared to pricelessness of having integrity. Having integrity in a money hungry world especially when you're struggling is a rarity indeed...and that's your goldmine. Good on you, Jennette. ❤️

[@maurice1263]

Agreed. Also must mention jenette ended up signing a book deal valued at a few million dollars after the success of this. See how God rewarded her for keeping her integrity

[@ghostagent3157]

300K is trash change

[@maurice1263]

@@ghostagent3157 won’t even buy you a house these days tbh

[@kellyolson1952]

@@ghostagent3157 it really is for what she’s been put through. Jennette seems like she has a good head on her shoulders in the end and is in a good place in her life which is a rarity for child stars.

[@Turnpost2552]

In the book if you read it. She constsntly skepitcal of religion I wouldnt think God would have wanted that book to succeed

[@Audio_books_Mystery]

Perfect example of how someone can experience abuse their whole life while believing they are loved. The abuser believing they’re doing everything out of love. Sometimes that love is suffocating and dangerous. Candidly written, beautifully read. I'm talking about her audiobook

[@Bree128]

I’m actually down to read her book. The way she speaks on her struggles is so honest and relatable and clearly coming from a place of growth. I think it will help a lot of people.

[@googlebanmetoomuch2601]

She's probably a druggie

[@FKTheLGBPTCFUIA-ke8kv]

Same

[@sarahrowan3946]

I agree 100

[@CallMeMelllow]

I never buy books, but i got hers for $11 as a kindle e-book and its totally worth the read. She has such insightful stories that really put you into her shoes. Plus the chapters are very short and pretty digestible. Its also funny and really sad at the same time?

[@NHILUSAGE111]

@@FKTheLGBPTCFUIA-ke8kv your username is awful. How could you read a book about healing and yet encourage the same energy that needs healing.

[@user-pr1lr8bc1w]

The irony of her always eating meat on icarly but actually having an eating disorder. The irony of her character being mean yet she's very well spoken and vulnerable. Wow, she is so strong ❤️ love her even more

[@sarahwho33]

I was lookim through comments thinking "surely im not the only one who noticed the irony"

[@Some_One_One]

- How in the world can a teenager have an eating disorder? I mean really. Teenager's bodies require them to have voracious appetites, even girls. They don't gain much weight when they eat and if they gain, it's only a little but they burn it off in two weeks. - So when you're hungry you eat; when you're not you don't. How in the WORLD can you disorder that?!

[@ludytoons]

She also had a shitty mom on icarly

[@kiera2850]

dan schnider did that to torture her. sam also had a bad relationship with her mom

[@fadalerabrasool3563]

to further add the irony the sams mom episode

[@ikariiprince]

“I wish I could’ve told my 20 year old self there was something to look forward to” well you’re doing it for millions of girls right now ❤️

[@MrChrisbtacos]

And guys too....... don't be a misandrist.

[@xfreja]

@@MrChrisbtacos shut the hell up 💀 it always has to be about men too, doesn’t it? nah gtfo

[@jassybird9090]

@@MrChrisbtacos yes guys too, you're wrong about the misandry, chill

[@Btn1136]

@@MrChrisbtacos oh shut up

[@cydneyyt]

@@MrChrisbtacos Ego is hurt. If someone is not talking about men then y’all get hurt. Please get help

[@JennaKelly-x8p]

I read the book a few months ago, and was stunned and heartbroken of what she had gone through. Jeannette is very well spoken and articulate. I hope she writes more in the future

[@shaniaroseboudville]

"I chose the path of integrity" Jennette Mccurdy. This was the most empowering epiphany to witness. Seeing Mccurdy's self proud moment was beautiful. Considering what OTHER people did to her as a minor. Her feeling proud of herself is so beautiful 😊

[@luiseduardolima1223]

She's really a big woman. I'm proud of her, that rather keep a clear conscience than pass her whole life muzzled ,without saying a woe

[@gabrierodriguez9586]

So The mother had cancer and , she kept her daughter on a healthy diet , she gaved her medical exams to make sure she’s okay , and also bathe her to make sure she was clean . Don’t get how she was abusive

[@elisabethrobbins1053]

She clearly stated that she was plenty old enough to wash herself but yet her mother would touch her private bits. If you don't see something wrong here, YOU are of the same spirit & problem. People who touch children earn a special seat in hell!

[@doublebubblebarb7606]

@@gabrierodriguez9586womp womp go pay some bills

[@kandiswatts]

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@leslienicole4545]

She’s a beautiful person. She’s so healed and mature for her age. I will pray for her continued recovery.

[@davidlafleche1142]

She is a dead ringer for Barbara Eden.

[@user-sf9gs2pg1b]

@@davidlafleche1142 I had no idea what dead ringer was and was so confused, lol. But yeah, she looks just like her!

[@damnmuggle]

@@user-sf9gs2pg1b means look alike

[@firstlast9846]

Matured for her age? She’s 30

[@davidlafleche1142]

@@user-sf9gs2pg1b I wrote a story about a child actress ("Catch a Falling Star"--see homepage/about). I'll bet any teen actress could read it, and, say, "That's me."

[@Hello61Jello]

I was abused as kid and no one believed me because I laughed too much. Abused kids don't always look or behave a certain way. Some of the saddest people have smiles on their faces. I laughed in school so much because that is where I was the happiest and safest.

[@brigittea5110]

Laughing is a coping skill. Some people who grew up with abuse have a strange , weird sense of humor. We cope by laughing things off. It is a releave of stressful emotions. Crying too, but I rather laugh all day than cry all day. Laughter is the best medicine! Crying is a releave too, but it makes you feel small and helpless. Laughing makes you feel strong. If I can still laugh about my abuser ,I am not broken, I can look ahead and plan my escape.

[@Sakkara1331Midnyte4ever]

I laughed a lot when I was embarrassed or insecure, I was sexually abused from age 2 - 9 and a 1/2, physically and emotionally until I left my mother at age 16

[@tud-music]

Laughing was my coping mechanism. Learning how to make others laugh and be relatable is my coping mechanism as well cuz I feel the need to be liked by my peers

[@sstaralien]

I was SA abused by my uncle when I was 7 and 13 for a long time I always thought it was my fault

[@RatIceCream]

This is so relatable

[@emilyburnett2792]

Her stance on all of this is so healing. I relate to her background with her mom so much and instantly understood and related to the title before even reading it. I love seeing her display who she is now after growing and healing from this

[@animalyze7120]

"The Path of Integrity" She totally owned that statement. People who have never been through what She has can never fully understand the mixed emotions and all the easy way outs one would consider. She didn't take the bribe and instead took the way She felt was Her own and that speaks volumes on how far She's come. Good for you Jennette, you made us all laugh and feel good while you couldn't a that time, and speaking for fans, You have our Respect and Love. We got your back, if ever and whenever you may need it.

[@candilease938]

It so heart breaking to know that she was enduring such pain while she was giving others such joy at the time of those shows!

[@remylebae3395]

Why did you capitalize she and her?

[@LoveLove-ur8qx]

Your Generosity towards my infection called Herpes virus is Incomparable. You assured me of getting healed and surprisingly after 14 days of taking the medication I ,tested Herpes Negative. Thanks .#drehimen I will keep letting the world know about your KZbin channel ,

[@Caallina99]

When Jenette got emotional I could feel the depth of her tears. She could have easily taken that money, moved out of the limelight and changed careers, but instead she chose to highlight her trauma in order to fully recover. Her writing is her weapon!! She can help so many heal❤️ She is truly an inspiration!!!

[@againstthepods4316]

she probably earned much more than 300k from being on those shows though. its still very tempting but she wasnt desperate for money and probably still isnt.

[@lizacrochets98]

I mean as much as I'm loving how she can be herself now , Saying she could have easily taken that money and not said a thing just isn't true . She would make that much per episode or 2 so it literally meant nothing to her .

[@dalemau5]

@@lizacrochets98 But she was already walking away from making that kind of money though, no more acting for Nick means no paycheck from them, right? So yes, like she said, it could’ve helped out but she made the right choice in the end.

[@lizacrochets98]

@@dalemau5 yah no more paycheck from Nick but she still get paychecks from Netflix rn and other things she's been doing after nickelodeon . She wasn't just on I Carly and stopped acting completely. She been having a money flow . I'm glad she wrote her book and had the courage to do and I hope it's more successful than she planned it out to be . 😊

[@raymondthomas1574]

That doesn't even make any sense how can you feel somebody else when they cry sound dumb as hell on here

[@natalie9884]

She is wise beyond her years. So emotionally and psychologically aware, intelligent, and insightful. She should be a psychotherapist.

[@soniarivas5420]

This could be a trauma response (being mature or wise beyond her years). She had to grow up too quickly. She is very aware and I think it helps her process and healing sooo much!!

[@beckyann8389]

I personally agree

[@ST-kr7hz]

@@soniarivas5420 yes, you are exactly right. When you meet a kid who is "so mature for their age", it's not a good thing. Few people understand this.

[@ericjaviermejia]

Agreed. I was the kid who was always “so mature” for my age and I knew from years of Therapy, it wasn’t a good thing. I used to joke, you can thank trauma for that. T me it meant I had to grow up quick in order to navigate the pitfalls of the abuse I suffered at the hands of my parents and my classmates.The hardest part about that kind of alienation, most kids my age I couldn’t connect with. Thus I always dated and had friends that were sometimes even 30-40+ years older than me. While normal kids and teens would be worried about their boyfriends and going out dancing, I was worried about my career and being “independent”. I didn’t actually start to live my life until after I sought Therapy. I pretty much worked all throughout my teens and 20s and never really went to parties. I thought they were too “juvenile.” After Therapy I realized I missed out on key parts of development that are probably the funnest times in a persons lives. It was sad.

[@vaskylark]

@@ericjaviermejia That is sad for you, it really is and I hope you have health and healing now. I too was mature for my age. I was even doing peer counseling in highschool as I was recommended for it. I didn't suffer any trauma though, so someone being mature (and yes I did date older guys but not that much older) for their age isn't always a bad thing. I was a responsible kid from a decent family, the youngest of three girls. Having older sisters probably contributed to me maturing faster but it wasn't a bad thing. It doesn't always have to spell disaster.

[@octoberlaylow9177]

I did a speech on the child abuse and exploitation behind the scenes of the acting industry, so my debate teacher recommended me her book- and it was amazing. She’s a fantastic writer I’m so proud of how far she has come and for being able to admit to all of that happening to her as abuse because it WAS

[@Thepateisgreat]

“I think I’ve chosen a path of integrity” Proud of her. Not many people can say that and be honest.

[@AngieKazama2892]

She has done an incredible job reconstructing herself. I'm glad she's healthy and above all happy. I'm sure anything she does after this will be for herself

[@amylee8969]

I agree! The best thing that can happen to any child star, is to finally quit acting and stay away from cameras. Sad but true. Fame is not your friend! Fame will use and abuse you until you’re no longer beneficial to them, then they dump you! Oh! And if you mess up, fame will make your life miserable and give you a bad rep.

[@ThineLesser]

you mean the plastic surgeries?

[@mxx058]

@@ThineLesser what surgeries?

[@ThineLesser]

@@mxx058 the reconstructing

[@Sunrisesize2shoe]

From someone’s who’s mother committed suicide a few hours after their birthday I salute her for being honest with her emotions towards her mother. The person you want to love the most in the world isn’t always looking out for your best interest, even if they think they are.

[@AntoinetteChanel]

💯💯💯 agree with you and 💛💚💙💜 I’m sorry for what you had to endure.

[@fluffypuppy0]

Your birthday??? Omg so sorry you went through that

[@psn-nightmarez_tk-fanboy5899]

Tongue out the bung out. Keep em alive when your Tongue dives.

[@ngndnd]

wait so she did it on purpose? im assuming she did it on purpose because ur making it seem like she did it to make ur life miserable

[@SanteezArmy]

@@ngndnd ? Can you .. not? They said their mom committed which means it was intentional. What are you on about??

[@mica1k]

she's so admirable in every way. her writing is incredible, and her strength in sharing such sensitive topics and experiences is something i think we all needed. i'm so glad she got it all out in this book. it's my favorite book yet.

[@retarot1742]

“Accepting my mom was abusive means rewriting my entire story.” I relate so much.

[@BurritoMaster]

Same ;~; I'm still struggling

[@GarageStudio7]

"Reframing my entire life"*

[@yappers7038]

Oh shut up bro

[@irissupercoolsy]

i can see that especially because her mom helped with her anorexia (in a bad bad way). "My mom helps me stay thin, so I want her around"... would be my thoughts when I was still anorexic.

[@irene4912]

Narcissistic mothers are the worst. They may not hit you but the psychological abuse is the worst. You go through life walking on eggshells and when they touch you, you cringe. You are never good enough. You are the scapegoat for mostly everything. It’s especially bad if you are Indian or African because you are taught that a mother is saintly…..

[@nataliebaddour3089]

She is so incredibly articulate. I’m so impressed by her

[@cb4664]

Facts

[@BornAgainGeneration]

She is it’s very admirable 💖

[@punkgrl325]

I mean, she’s 30 lol

[@joycedominguez1828]

I find her words very disturbing and disrespectful. She'll never work again. You can bet on that. She continues the cycle of abuse to others by writing and telling the world how awful certain people she was close to that they effed up her life. Ok thanks for the info now go get therapy. Hollywood has no empathy or space for this boo hoo story. She better keep her money from her tell all book. She just ended whatever career she might of had. For her to giggle and say she might want to continue acting shows her narcissist ways. She is her mother's daughter.

[@babysam3768]

@@joycedominguez1828 sounds like you’re the one that needs therapy

[@SweetNightmares_]

“I’m proud of myself” I didn’t think I’d tear up at that but my god she said that so hesitantly as affirmatively 😭

[@sarahzeltron8616]

That was a really special moment. What a strong person she is

[@imrosegogi1714]

I hated how the reporter asked “why are you proud of urself” LIKE DID U NOT LISTEN

[@tiffanystancil3087]

You are so awesome. Thanks for sharing . Keep up the good work. Thanks for being a shining star . Bless you.

[@ziutasow2244]

Then the damn reporter cold AF “why, why are you proud of yourself”.

[@streetlights11]

@@imrosegogi1714 It's the reporter's job to make sure the audience understands the why. She wasn't being insulting or doubtful. The question helps internalize the moment for both Jennette AND the audience. I think it would have been even more rude to completely ignore her statement and move on in the interview as if she wasn't having a moment.

[@killjoyneonashes5736]

Thank you Jennette, for giving us a glimpse into your life and how you're healing. When I was a kid, I related a lot to Sam Puckett, the broken home she had and her toughness. Reading your book, I also relate to some of the situations you've written about. I'm in the process of starting to heal, I have been in therapy for almost a year, and while it's baby steps, I'm still moving forward. Your book showed me that it's okay to have a hard time and.have conflicting feelings while healing, but we'll get there, I'm sure of it. 💚

[@goodgrief888]

My mother just died. And she was toxic right up until the end, spreading lies, manipulating all of my siblings and I, and pitting us against eachother right up until the last time I spoke with her a few days before she too her last breath. So I understand completely how you can love your mother, and yet know deep down that she’s been the source of most of the damage in your life. I am so proud of Jeannette McCurdy for speaking her truth and having the guts to give her book that title. It takes ovaries of steel to go there in a culture that encourages us to stick with family no matter how much they continue to damage us. I hope she sells a million copies and finds herself never having to go back to a profession which seems to have traumatized her. Or if she ever chooses to do so, she can do it after a lot of healing and some distance and on her terms. Much love!

[@AFrameReno]

This sounds like my grandmother. She is the source of all toxicity in my family. Disowning everyone including me. She offered to take me to a surgery and I agreed because I wanted to let her in. Big mistake. The bitch didn’t get my medication and left me without any pain meds knowing I couldn’t get out of bed. She is the reason I don’t have a loving relationship with my mom or brother. No one talks to my grandmother except for her maid (slave) that’s she’s been mentally abusing for 35 years.

[@goodgrief888]

@@AFrameReno Wow that’s terrible. I’m sorry that happened to you. And I’m sure that’s not the only time she let you down, just the example that was so obviously egregious that you finally couldn’t deny her behavior anymore. At least that’s how I felt about my mother during our final visit. For me, anyway, it was almost a relief to realize “No, I’m not crazy. No I didn’t imagine all of it. She really has been lying about so many things, being so manipulative.” And having it become so obvious was almost refreshing in a way that made me able to come to terms with so many instances in the past that made me doubt my own eyes and ears. It’s crazy making when you’re literally seeing things and hearing things as they happen, and people are telling you that that’s not what’s going on. AND that you’re a bad person for noticing the reality of the situation.

[@Vibrantly_Monochromatic]

Ovaries of steel, I should use that more

[@missymanny8286]

I’m so so sorry. I wish I had something better to say. Thank goodness you have the insight, even after so many years of abuse, to know that it was all HER & not YOU. I’m sorry that you lost your Mom but glad that you may have some feeling of freedom too. Now treat & love yourself the way you should’ve been treated & loved. 💙

[@christinebailey999]

i'm particulary blessed to have a wonderful mom, but I did have a husband exactly like that for over 20 years. Gaslighting, narcissist, substance abuser. They make you feel despondent, frustrated, insane, and hopeless. There were times that I wished bad things to happen to him to make him leave my life. I completely understand and I'm sorry. I hope you're getting help. I am getting therapy after the divorce to help.

[@Xavierpng]

I’m praying for all children placed in these abusively controlled situations. It’s amazing yet unfortunate how much a person can go through silently

[@xaythearsonist2003]

1. here can only be one Xavier and that's me. And 2. I couldn't have said it better.

[@puli36]

Thank you xavier

[@annetlinkedin5021]

Wait, you’re also here? My funniest person on the internet😂😂👏

[@trisha56238]

And yet she’s on a network owned by Disney. Disney also abused children. She is just a puppet.

[@swissmiss820]

aren't you the guy on twitter lol

[@davefyffe6607]

I read the book. Turns out she's a GREAT writer! Can't wait to see what comes next.

[@TheAverageSavage1021]

Just finished the last page. I couldn’t put it down. It’s truly a great read, but so dark. It’s an important message

[@masterroshi3994]

@@TheAverageSavage1021 too lazy to read a book

[@ImSchneckenhaus]

@@masterroshi3994 then listen to it. The audiobook is narrated by Jeanette as well

[@masterroshi3994]

@@ImSchneckenhaus okay i will.

[@Akamebrewer_]

​@Don Ramón I've always hated reading books. This was my first book that I've completed. I can't wait to read her next one.

[@shynye]

I listened to her entire audiobook in less than 3 days. I just couldn't stop, it was absolutely riveting and heartwrenching. We wish you the best Jenette.

[@corirodriquez2889]

Such a beautiful intelligent interview. I believe the reason she was proud of herself for refusing hush money is because she stood up to another person trying to control her. Mother violated her during her growing years and now a pervert tv show persons tried to take advantage of her and control the situation with offering her a mere lump of money. What an awesome young lady!!! She’s going further then acting!!!!

[@asongforyou383]

“Am I going to church faithfully or in unbelief, yet I still feel TERRIBLE”? “Dunamis Tabernacle” on youtube is an additional source for Word of God. “Tools of a Dead Man” (3:11:08[timestamp]). 👂🏼🫀

[@psn-nightmarez_tk-fanboy5899]

She loves her chocolate pudding hatch eaten Nd I'll do it for her.

[@daith_izumi]

Seriously. She seems very intelligent

[@TimeBucks]

Hope you are healing and loving yourself every day.

[@mlislam234]

Nice

[@carolannaitken5812]

I'm almost finished Jenette's book, "I'm glad my mother died" and at times it was difficult to read everything she was put through. I hope her book nets her more than Nikelodeon's 300,000 hush money she deserves every penny and more. I admire her integrity and strength.

[@wareforcoin5780]

It's been sold out everywhere, I'm sure she blew that hush money out of the water.

[@fashionglobally.2075]

What is that book is about can somebody tell me ??????

[@alextroy9202]

@@fashionglobally.2075her life, career, time on the show

[@fashionglobally.2075]

@@alextroy9202 ok well the title of book excites me as I have the worst mother in the world and I am just so depressed because of this bitch my mother so I just asked I hope my mother die soon 🙏🙏🙏

[@catooomen8238]

@@fashionglobally.2075 Basically about her childhood and her disordered relationship with her mother. And how she was forced into acting and had to endure abuse

[@Imagi77]

What a woman she has become... I always admired her as years went on and never fully realized how much pain she had to go through... The media is so sick. Never go back. Now she has fire - never let it go out!

[@edwincarreno9455]

I grew up watching Jennette McCurdy on iCarly when I was a little boy back in 2008 and after reading her book and hearing what she said happened behind the scenes and how it took a toll on her I feel bad and upset that she sacrificed her emotional and mental health to make a bunch of young kids and I smile and laugh. Hearing her say "I'm proud of myself" broke my heart I'm happy that she's in a happier and stable place in her life. ❤

[@kristinwallace6551]

Totally agree. Heartbreaking knowing what was going on behind the scenes.

[@karlpomare6774]

@DANIEL CHUKWUKERE I was 8 in 2008. Always watched Icarly every time after school.

[@miaa1762]

@DANIEL CHUKWUKERE I was six in 2008

[@steph9123]

@DANIEL CHUKWUKERE I was 14 :) and watched a lot of Icarly during my teenage years

[@chloieciru2039]

same :(

[@megsblue]

She chose a path of integrity. That was a beautiful statement and full of emotion. This was a great interview and I always knew I liked her. ❤️

[@BroJo676]

@dcoog anml So, all the child stars who stayed in the industry are basically immoral monsters?

[@onemillionpercent]

yes!!

[@psn-nightmarez_tk-fanboy5899]

She loves her fartbox licked like a push pop.

[@maryg7494]

Totally agree

[@Daniel-ni1it]

You can see the pain behind her eyes. Such a gentle soul, I genuinely hope she is happy and has amazing people around her.

[@maggie1711]

Grateful for her sharing her story. I'm sure it has helped people already, and also hopefully a cathartic experience for her as well to finally be able to share her feelings and what's in her mind and heart. Great book!

[@TheReneej19]

It’s crazy to me that I seen her personality/ character as Sam on ICarly, as strong and tough. However she was dealing with the worst kind of trauma. I was always wishing to be more assertive like her as Sam. However I never knew she had to deal with others being abusive to her. My little child self thought that “no one can mess with Sam” and it’s saddening to know older adults were messing with her. That sometimes it’s the strongest ones out there that are battling wars no one knows about.

[@SebastiansLeftGlove0731]

This comment right here. I felt the same way. A shame the adults in her life failed her

[@TaySwiftFan94]

Same. I always loved Sam’s personality and it breaks my heart to hear that Jeannette was being so badly treated by those that she’s supposed to trust

[@incognito-dn4yl]

This is proof that Jeannette is truly a strong person, that even though she was going through struggles at that age she still inspired people to go through their own-and this interview is testament to her continued growth

[@superfoo8258]

Fr she was so cool when I was young sad she was struggling bad behind The scenes

[@jesswats2080]

100% agree and thought the same thing!!! I used to watch this show when I was younger and then my daughter started watching it and sam & cat and I just cannot believe the trauma and abuse she went through…. I just started listening to her book on audible and I’m already 1/2 way done and it’s just… wow

[@annamosqueda3313]

"I've chosen a path of integrity..." That statement is so raw and honest. It literally brings tears 😢 to my eyes watching her say that...I could feel her emotional pain 🌹

[@22lyric]

Just because someone SAYS they've chosen a path of integrity doesn't mean they HAVE.

[@Skyler_Momoko]

@@22lyric ? How would accepting $300,000 from abusers show integrity.

[@yoellopez82]

@@22lyric Though what she did about not accepting hush money shows integrity.

[@gaze5393]

@@22lyric Not sure how you came to this conclusion, did you not listen to Jeanette's interview?

[@laurab.8941]

Could someone pls translate the word integrity in simple words? I'm German and honestly don't know what she meant by that :(

[@KR973]

this is a very wholesome & self aware human, i respect her endlessly for her strength & perspective. her way with words & means of experiencing & reacting to the world around her is powerful & humbling, shout out to you girl

[@trisha56238]

She is not self aware. She is on a network that is owned by Disney, a company that also abuses children. 🤷‍♀️

[@pinkdiamanteNM]

Amazing words x I agree wholeheartedly

[@shannonsimmons4647]

You go Jeannette!! I’m so very proud of the woman that you have worked so very hard to become. You should be proud of yourself! Rediscovering your humanity and self worth are beautiful things to experience. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

[@kayyipee]

Her vocabulary and the emotional intelligence in this whole interview just amazing. She speaks so much better than most celebrity interviews held these days. Hoping she continues to finds peace and her true passion. It’s very true that “not all moms are amazing super moms” Some people that don’t understand this thinks that she’s having a “Britney melt down” moment as they called it and it’s like grow up and read more in-depth guys. This is years of therapy and a healing revelation shining thru for her! It’s not bad(:

[@vliciouss]

!!!

[@leekyonion]

You may say that but celebrity children are suffering from a problem where they are so detached from society and aren't able to reintegrate properly and get into a lot of problems as they become older and are removed from the spotlight. I wouldn't hold it against them personally.

[@fishface123ism]

I thought it was super-human for her to recognize and understand her own jealousy of Arianna Grande. It a hard thing to recognize AND do something about it healthy for the Self, and if a person doesn't see it in themselves, it is one of the most destructive emotions. I was so impressed with her and I wish her well.

[@valeriedeleon3711]

I agree with you🤍

[@st5934]

When an abusive parent dies or you cut contact, as I did, you are plagued with memories for years that resurface one after the other and it’s almost like revisiting your whole life and finally seeing it through your eyes and not theres. It’s exhausting and devastating but it’s also the path to healing and finally becoming who you authentically are. This interview really resonated with me on so many levels. So many people are suffering through this and we need to support woman who are survivors and speaking out about it - interviews like this change peoples lives for the better.

[@sayayangtahu6519]

Oh, it worse to do it while they're alive, u know?

[@bookywooky2259]

@@sayayangtahu6519 hush with that.

[@jojobani8235]

I moved out of the household for the same reason with my old man being so controlling. Love it that he doesn't admit his faults and blames others (even to my cats that he barely interacts with) for his misgivings especially towards my mother. I'm constantly plagued about my self worth.

[@fredcoyote9477]

I had cut off my violent, abusive, homophobic, misogynistic conservative republican Dad long ago. After he died we found out he left most to his secret gay lover.

[@lilid3295]

My mom was very abusive I don't understand why she got kids I don't get it😒

[@valentinenjeru4730]

I'm loving this interviewer. So gentle, such a good listener, and really asking the questions that are probing but also good for Jennette's wholesome telling of her story. It's beautiful to watch

[@ccpr15]

I agree

[@kina8575]

I really love just hearing how authentic she is and all that she’s battled and is working through. She’s amazing.

[@dannylions]

Honestly, her book is perfectly named. She struggled a lot at such a young age, pressured into a life she didn't want, had an ed as a young teen. All roots to her moms' actions in one way or another. You can't blame her for not liking her mom, or I guess for being glad her mom died.

[@ericaalladin7054]

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[@robertdiez3854]

Part of it is also that the death of her mom was the only way she could begin healing

[@SEABIRDSYMPHONY]

@@robertdiez3854 I know exactly what she went through. My mother was narcissistic, vindictive, manipulative, majorly controlling, alienating all in one. It was her way or hell to pay. She pitted my brother's and sister against each of us. She would tell us almost on a daily basis that we (her kids) ruined her life. She personally ruined my life my marriage and my childhood. And the day she died I felt a HUGE relief RELIEF OFF OF ME. I kid you not. You have to have lived through it to understand what she is trying to get through here. I also was unable to start the healing process myself until she died. You know you hear people say mother-in-law from hell, my mother was not only the mother-in-law from hell, but the mother from hell.. I kid you not !!! She was a sociopath and knew what personality she needed to present to each environment to get whatever she wanted. If I had to name a person that the world is aware of to give you an example of a person that I am explaining to you here. One person I know of that off the top of my head that could resemble the way my mother was, is Jodi Arias. Yep just imagine!!! And then you'll understand what it means when people like her here and myself tell you that...we're glad our mother's dead...

[@Moist_Otherworld]

@@King9tails Right so shes not allowed to get compensation for the decades of abuse? Her smiling with the urn is meant to be dark, no one wants to say something so fucking horrible about their parents but when you have your parents abusing you mentally and physically and only letting you eat 400-500 cal a day which brought around eating disorders. She is already famous, to people who know about her they've done the research already, to people who know of her this book is meant to show the struggles of her life and what so many other child stars actually go through. If its off putting for you thats okay but this is what she feels, shes happy that her mother is dead because now she can fucking move on, hence the title.

[@jenfren723]

@@King9tails I get what you're saying, but I honestly think that's fine. If she did it for shock and money I don't blame her. Her mother exploited her to pay the bills for years. She said her mother used her acting to pay for everything. Her mother can return some of that (indirectly) with this book. Dark? Maybe, but her mother was far worse.

[@chels5069]

I love that Jeannette is using her platform to speak about this. Mothers are supposed to be loving, nurturing, and motherly. Unfortunately there are monsters out there (mine included) that are disgusting and evil. Sadly a lot of them get away with their filthy behaviour becsuse we are too scared to come forward. No one ever believes that a mother can physically, emotionally, and sexually abuse their own child. The hatred these mothers have for their own flesh and blood, is astounding. Jeannette is a strong woman and I hope this motivates more women to come forward and speak their truth. No matter if you're 16 or 60, it's never too late to heal ❤️

[@mannyb332211]

I wouldn't say all bad mother's have genuine hatred towards their kids. In this case Jannets mother was obsessed with the fame and money her daughter was providing. She was doing (in her mind) what was best for her daughter to succeed even further and secure wealth.. Imo that was twisted and wrong by all standards of course. But in her mind it was the only way (even tho it was wrong) maybe done non-maliciously on her part. She didn't know she was being horrible to her daughter at the time.

[@rockscousteau]

You are so out of touch with reality......you will never recover.

[@Idontparticipate]

Me too💛

[@violetmoon6233]

Sending love to all who has the mother wound . You deserve all the love in the world .💛✨May you get the love , peace & support you deserve to heal . 🙏💫💚

[@potato1084]

@Repent and believe in Jesus Christ Go away. Jesus called me to tell you to stop spreading misinformation and making him look bad.

[@kswizzz9962]

"That $ could've put my nieces through college, that's a lot of money". Given how successful this book alone has been, I hope she makes far more than just $300,000 and gets MANY more business deals. She seriously deserves it. Sometimes I feel like "child actors" shouldn't even be allowed anymore. If a minor can't legally consent to (most) things in general and cannot legally sign a contract by their self... doesn't it seem odd that parents are allowed to consent to their (minor) children doing such extreme jobs so young? And ffs - there is SO much evidence of child ab*se on these sets!!!

[@pickinforalivin]

well said.

[@CoffeeTXqueen]

@@beautifulangel7723 cgi

[@partydowntown]

@@CoffeeTXqueen I'd rather just not have kids in anything at that point.

[@dmargot2828]

@@beautifulangel7723 I think what we're talking about is child stars and not child actors. There is a lot of pressure associated with a child star who is bolstered as the one to beat. Child actors, with a lot of support and less stress to remain at the top of their game can have a successful acting career without the added overwhelming incentives and million dollar contracts etc. Parents also need to get their hands out of these young actors pockets. That's huge incentive for some guardians to put their children in unsafe conditions.

[@SanteezArmy]

@@CoffeeTXqueen lmao that'd be so obvious

[@cav5506]

When she said "Ive chosen a path of integrity... and it hasnt always been easy" she is such an amazing person

[@sanyangi]

It’s so refreshing to see someone not mince words/be so transparent with such sensitive topics, and that really reflects how much she has gone through. She looks like a new person, someone happy and able to be free for once. And as someone who has had similar experiences as hers, I wish the best for her moving forward.

[@RBFINISHMOVE]

Watch bojack horseman he says a lot but they hide it with comedy in there shows

[@lyoness6]

"Out of body experiences" are extremely common in survivors of childhood sexual abuse. A child's mind simple cannot process the trauma so it removes them from the situation mentally. It's just a coping mechanism. It's amazing she's been able to deal with this and she should be proud of herself.

[@yourlocaldyke]

I was assaulted by my godmother's son when I was like 2 or 3 and I actually forgot about that incident until I saw him one day when I was 16. I remembered that when that happened I didn't even know what was happening, I only realised after I was 16

[@violetmoon6233]

@@yourlocaldyke thank you for sharing . I'm truly sorry you experienced that . 🙏

[@potato1084]

@IT'S PEANUT BUTTER JELLY TIME! Uhm…dissociation is very very different from that. It’s far from a positive experience. I used to get it a lot cause I have a lovely combo of adhd and anxiety and it would trigger bad panic attacks. I’m still not sure why exactly. I don’t have much trauma.

[@landoc808]

@@T1999-c6u Exactly. WTF did that have to do with anything here?

[@julietteletters]

I was abused at 13 and I experienced the same thing. I'm kind of relieved that I'm not the only one struggling with remembering along with healing.

[@namitales]

I love the fact that I looked up to her as a child, but now that the truth is out, I look up to her even more. So proud of her.

[@TheBlackBeautyyy]

Yes I was always drawn to her

[@seeyoucu]

Yes

[@anna_banana7019]

I cried so much when I read the choc chip cookie part of the book. I'm so happy she's doing well. The book really was harrowing to read at parts but so worth. It's so important to highlight these little victories you get with ED's. A wonderful insight into her life and recovery. So proud of her

[@jeaniebird999]

Titling her book, the way she did, is HUGE, for me. I know a lot of people are upset about it, but I feel like I can finally breathe now that it's ok to say that, out loud. Most of us love our mothers, and for good reason, but it's perfectly ok NOT to love your mother and, for me, Jennette is telling me it's ok not to love my mother. I needed that.

[@krabby-patty]

Exactly - I don't see why people are so pressed about the title. It's her mother not theirs and no-one has the right to tell her how to feel.

[@jordanjones7985]

I’ve not seen any of these people upset over the name.. Quite the opposite.

[@notspaz]

Not everyone deserves love, she has every right to not love her mother.

[@eheh3231]

Twitter is full of people being angry over the title. I hate when people go with the whole "but it's family! it's your blood!" Thing. Being family doesn't give people a free pass to hurt you without consequences.

[@Adriana-bi1pu]

100 same for me

[@yhern1181]

"I choose the path of integrity." Wow! That brought tears to my eyes. Hollywood lacks so much integrity that fact that she choose integrity over money speaks volumes to the amazing woman she is. Jeanette McCordy may God bless you and keep you. May his face shine upon and grant you peace. Sending you hugs wherever you are!

[@E5_Mayor]

AMEN

[@MaxOakland]

The fact that she turned down the hush money is just so inspiring

[@calibean7736]

Probably because she knew she’d make more by selling out her mother

[@MaxOakland]

@@calibean7736 yeah she sold out her abusive, evil mother by telling the truth You sound like an abuser

[@leighmartin9187]

I 100% agree.

[@Iliadic]

If hush money doesn't involve a contract, you can break it.

[@ModernMayhem]

@@Iliadic hush money ALWAYS involves a contract...that's the entire point of it!

[@dylanbarrett5454]

She’s such a good example of why going to therapy is so important