The Psychology of Depression - How to Ruin Your Life

[@academyofideas]

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[@TaunellE]

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[@dayaaning4948]

If this channel is about ideas...How about discuss other areas?

[@astraldragon5483]

the entire video hilariously focused on one failed self contradicting argument, blaming the individual for depending on a dominant other or the opinions of other people for one's own self worth, but then blaming individual's for not allowing others to determine their self worth and setting their self worth based on personal goals. the entire argument in the video collapses in on itself. The video avoided the existence of situational depression, where the environment/society/poor working conditions is responsible for provoking mental pain, because it's a fact of life that the human species consists of 7 billion+ individuals who all want different things. Attempting to argue that no one's mental pain should ever escalate to the extremes of severe depression, is a pathetic and mediocre denial of reality and the fact that some people WILL suffer more than others for a *very complex and infinite variety of reasons and factors which vary from individual to individual* the video avoided the fact that people can be responsible for causing the extreme psychological pain of others. the video laughably takes the arrogant and pathetic subtitle of "how to ruin your life" while avoiding the fact that people can directly cause the suffering of other people and ruin other people's lives, pain is a natural result of the reality that most people live in constant conflict in a society of constant political/economic/social/or even violent, disputes. the entire video hilariously tried to spin this failed and pathetic idea that depression/severe mental pain is the individual's fault for not letting other people determine the person's self worth but simultaneously blaming the individual if the individual is independent and makes their own basis for self worth, while avoiding the basic psychological fact that much of depression comes from the simple fact that life is NOT a pleasant or tolerable experience for everyone, some people do not have the luxury of only having temporary suffering followed by good luck and relief, many people live in constant extreme stressful circumstances which WILL push the person over the edge at some point. it's a psychological fact that every single person has a different breaking point, and it's a fact of reality that we do not live in a perfect world, the video failed to touch on the fact that it is a inevitability that some people will suffer extreme mental pain while others will by random chance be lucky enough to suffer only temporarily.

[@monakw]

Academy of Ideas I love your use of art works. Thank you

[@ishajac3637]

@@astraldragon5483 I don't know you personally, but THANK YOU for this rebuttal. It reinforces my thoughts on this video except you were able to make a more thorough objection of the "opinions" lauded in this rubbish.

[@georgeplunkitt5565]

I’ve been more cruel to myself than the world has been cruel to me.

[@thedevil9742]

George Plunkitt love , forgive, sympathize with yourself and learn from your falls... you will be unstoppable

[@georgeplunkitt5565]

Pascual _73 That’s good stuff. Thanks for sharing

[@polleh8644]

couldn't describe it better.. bad thing is when you believe you deserve this cruelty youre giving yourself.. hoping there is a light in the tunnel

[@polleh8644]

@@astondias810 you're sad

[@ximing1457]

@@astondias810 empathy goes a long way, especially for those who are in a dark place like hell

[@CodyBMcGuire]

Jokes on you, I don't need a KZbin video to tell me how to ruin my life.

[@kintsuki99]

But it is already nice to know how to do it profissionally.

[@raginald7mars408]

we always can improve and do better...youtube is of great help!

[@noirdreuhwy6559]

I, for one, will take all the help available. I just put this one in my ''tutorials'' list.

[@dk-qx3ev]

Their funding is from the Kochs

[@gypsylee73]

These videos teach you about standing on the shoulders of giants.. Nietzsche, Jung, the many great thinkers who have gone before us. You can take advantage of that or go it alone.

[@kimanih617]

The source of my depression is a lack of discipline. I have great potential, awesome ideas and above par intellectual capacity. But I simply cannot bring myself to consistently act on that potential. I sit in an open prison of my own creation.

[@aishashaikh5699]

kimani h me as well

[@energy_waves]

This is my exact situation. I've been blessed with so much but I waste so much of my potential.

[@wolferine6466]

I relate with those feelings. Sometimes what helps me is to try to learn something new or try to find a new art to channel your creativity. Smoking weed helps as well, some say it is a form of escape but people say lots of dumb things. Hope you get through the depression as I have been through this many times.

[@eclipse5393]

Cowardice.

[@eclipse5393]

He-Man ! Yea, imposters claim they are more than what they are. Stop telling yourself that. You are what you actually accomplish.

[@TremenDirio]

Man's greatest burden: unfulfilled potential.

[@TremenDirio]

@@Jackgritty28 POTent observation. Enlighten up, my friend.

[@kam9908]

me

[@iancorybutler]

Ugh. True

[@Derrinxzg]

Me I screwed myself over 6 years 🥲🥲🥲🥲😔😔😔😔I could have been an amazing drummer, amazing basketball player a Healthy teen but I one handedly ruined my life thinking too hard about my porn addiction, projecting and overthinking I was always stuck in a cycle. It’s affected me and my mom 🥲🥲🥲🥲😢😢😢😢

[@luna-oi3zj]

@@Derrinxzg Never too late to become your true self. I ve felt the same brother, lets stop regretting and move on. There is plenty of time for us to be great still.

[@faaaukkk309]

Childhood trauma is a major factor setting people up for depression. Shitty parenting in particular distorts development of sense of the self, leading to part of the self (child and parent introjects) not working together. This is a key factor behind depression in many cases, because life feels hopeless when trauma is not dealt with and the 'conflicts' it creates between parts of the personality. Unfortunately for people trying to resolve these traumas, Western society praises and supports various forms of dissociation from trauma (sex, status, money, codependent romances, starting families). People who call-out child abuse in all its forms (e.g. emotional neglect, shaming) are thought of as weird as it threatens to confront them with realising what harm they perhaps have done to others, or had done to them. I've found work on childhood trauma by Alice Miller and Daniella Sieff amongst others made a lot of sense of the depression and dysfunction in my own life and some others people I've known and observed.

[@moriahjmiller]

I agree. I think people dismiss how traumatizing divorce can be (not just what led to the divorce - ie abuse, negligence) to a child. Having to split your love and attention between two separated parents, the potential of feeling replaced and betrayed when a parent moves on, remarries, and has children. The constant nagging that it could be all your fault, and always feeling second best. Intrusive thoughts like those can persist even when parents try their best to relieve them.

[@ratclan5491]

do you know anything about children that grow up with a drug addicted parent?

[@ratclan5491]

anybody? /:

[@2Siders]

Christopher Hall As the commenter R-type mentioned, I think that in a way we all fall under each and every category. Some more some less. Categorizing yourself and boxing yourself in is not very useful I feel. Reading about personality types is very cool - I’ve myself read a book on Carl Jung’s 4 male archetypes, but it’s like a self-pleasuring prophecy or something.

[@thehypest6118]

Hoo'ah brother

[@CosmicTurbo949]

I believe the 'Caesar or nothing' mentality can be inspired by vengefulness as well as the desire to prove one's self-worth to oneself. Someone who has been rejected may desire to rise to such a stature that they cast a shadow over all those who they feel wronged them. Success as revenge.

[@michaelnurse9089]

According to me, someone seeking to prove their self worth to themselves would be "Ceaser, or whatever else God wills".

[@tonyrandall3146]

Hate can sustain as much as love, it's true.

[@fleskimiso]

That's very true. Success is vengeful revenge to rejection.

[@animeshpathak3921]

It can be but it's not always true

[@fleskimiso]

@@animeshpathak3921 Agree with you

[@salraw6998]

I feel failure. I see everyone moving forward in their lives and I am stuck in my place . I don’t wanna be irrelevant . I wanna have an impact before I die . God it feels sucks :(

[@Gokanaru]

Improve yourself man, consciously do it. It won't come by commenting, only by acting :/ If you feel valuable other people will naturally place value in you.

[@kabbanihadi93]

I had the same feelings and still do sometimes.. but something that helped me was asking myself (and then discussing with a therapist) "why do i feel this way?" it brought me some peace knowing that certain events in my past make me think that "I need to be SOMEONE". And the point of this video was to realize that this doesn't define your self worth. Anyway I dunno man good luck

[@thestrawberryshogun8373]

Sal Raw I feel that literally every fucking day.

[@tigerduckswagbroi5596]

I think one of the best ways if not the best to feel better is to help others and accept help from them. Just being nice and meaning it makes your feeling of self worth go up alot, but do not try to force yourself to it. If you dont feel like it maybe be a bit nicer than you feel like. If you are in such a depressed state it is really good to accept advice and help of others, even though you might feel unworthy or think there is a better way. Try to just go with it

[@jmleroux7400]

Step 1. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Step 2. Keep a journal. Write down thoughts, self study , and write down personal psychological insights. (Undertstand yourself and how you operate.) Step 3. Look after yourself. Exercise eat properly, shower daily, keep yourself looking clean. Step 4. Practice balancing chaos and order. (Clean up where you can. Introduce some plants into your life and keep them alive.) Step 5. Find an aim and stick to it. Step 6. Once you have mastered the other 4 steps, then you can look for a partner because you can manage the responsibility of caring for another. ( You cannot love another if you hold contempment for yourself.) Step 7. Compare yourself to what you were by reffering to your thoughts in your journal. See how far you have come or fallen, either way you will have a physical record of your OWN history. Step 8. Embody your philisophy and act it out into the world, and carefully watch how people respond to you. Step 9. Remain humble. Do not expect exterior praise for your accomplishments. Step 10. Die in peace. Depression is usually caused by exterior factors ( unless the problem is infact neurological ) therefore by tweaking and changing exterior factors within your own personal life you hold the key to your own cure. A great example. Whatever is making you feel like a failure address it and conquer it. Depression is a state of mind. It speaks, acts and manipulates physical reality to suit its perception ( If you hold a deep resentment for life then your actions, philosophy and environment will begin to reflect that.) That being said look around at things that exist within physical reality and decide whether what is being represented truely reflects who you are as an individual. We are often caught up in someone elses idea of perfect existence and refuse to live out our own indvidual experience. Depression is tricky. There are many factors that can cause it to rise and fester, and it infects everything around it. Imagine yourself as a conduit for personalities to speak through, and everything you touch or come into contact with is deeply affected as a result of your interaction. Soon you will find yourself taking a more patient, tempered approach to life, and more importantly, to yourself.

[@huckmart2017]

I've come into a time in my life where I'm trying to accept the fact that mere existence is OKAY. I don't need the approval of my life style from others and society at large. And I don't need some grandiose potential self to keep me going. I just want to take things a day at a time and be okay knowing that I don't need to live up to some imaginary standard. I can just be. And what happens happens. No judgement, just do what I want to do, when I want to do it, upholding my own ideals. I've had a lot of programming from my teens and early 20s that told me my existence was a burden. That my wants and needs were selfish. And that my individuality was an error that needed correcting, not nourishment. I want to be done with that. But it's hard not to revert. So, thanks for putting out this video. It was a good reminder

[@huckmart2017]

Lmao on what?

[@laurenlockridge5583]

This sounds too familiar for me as well. Wish you luck w everything

[@huckmart2017]

@@laurenlockridge5583 thanks dawg. I'd wish you luck too, but we don't need it. We're the masters of our own destiny's, and whatever that may be, is up to us, and nobody else.

[@laurenlockridge5583]

Huck Mart true. I need to think of a better well wishing phrase 🧐🙂

[@michaelnurse9089]

If you work very hard at it - you are master of what you do. The worldly outcomes of those actions are at at best half under your control. (edit : a word)

[@johnvliet523]

I’ve been subject to and studied depression on and off for 40 years but never heard this line of thinking. It’s quite accurate and a revelation to me, thank you for presenting it.

[@elijahragland8498]

i dont think we talk about this enough in our culture. i mean anti-depressants are a fantastic tool but constantly thinking of depression of “just an imbalance” cannot allow us to enact change on the social factors that contextualize it.

[@saturatedneowax]

faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaax bruh

[@ZombiePanda501]

what if the social factor is society

[@ZombiePanda501]

@Violet Violet, do you have a therapist? If you think you have motivational issues, I would strongly encourage getting tested for ADHD. I and many others thought they had depression but it was all being caused by ADHD.

[@XxSyl]

Finally someone said it!!

[@jonathanlove7078]

wow, that was a profound way of putting it. I’ve been struggling with this for some time now so I feel that deeply

[@Valorince]

This is why psychology is so fascinating to me, I know there are people out there who need a helping hand once in a while, specially when it comes to personal issues. I want to help those people in a professional loving way, I have my own experiences that have driven me towards this path. I never want someone to go through what I’ve gone through, but if they have, then I want to be the person who helps rather than destroys.

[@benjaminisbester3582]

I feel like the struggle is necessary to avoid blissful ignorance

[@TaunellE]

Same. I can't get enough.

[@Valorince]

Benjamin Isbester I agree, but in life people struggle long after learning the lesson they needed.

[@benjaminisbester3582]

@@Valorince I found reading about psychology and philosophy helped me to understand myself and others. The journey starts within. You can't love others unless you love yourself first

[@naturallaw1733]

+Nirahankara Deepak is that you? 🤭

[@nc-pf3qm]

life is the most unique exam in whole world...you get the test first then you learn the lesson

[@randmusician410]

Brilliant comment Naveen;, that's wisdom that most definitely should be promoted and remembered daily. Thank you♥

[@nc-pf3qm]

@@randmusician410 thnkx

[@nc-pf3qm]

@@randmusician410 thats what my maths teacher taught us

[@Bristecom]

Especially when your parents or preachers or mentors don't really teach you much of anything growing up. Then you have to struggle with all sorts of things that you weren't even prepared for or don't know how to handle properly. I mostly blame poor parenting.

[@0live0wire0]

It's very unstandardized also - everyone gets a different test. And also the lesson is never made very clear, a clue here and there - just like school!

[@timturner8183]

I feel like I’m standing alone in a dark place screaming at the top of my lungs and nobody hears me...I’m married and lonely...I have fought my whole life and feel like a failure....I have worked hard only to be broke...because I am unsuccessful I am losing my family...I refuse to give up but I am loosing everything I love and I am trying to find the hope I need to to keep fighting....I am lost and I don’t know how to find my way back.

[@keepcalmcarryon3358]

Hope you still have those you love around you... Hope you turned the corner...

[@pulilinda]

Are you alright now? I hope things have gotten much better for you. It seems like you've been pushing yourself too hard to provide to your family while fighting your loneliness. But this too shall pass. So take care. Good luck, I hope you find your way.

[@sewcrazy9433]

I hope you learn sooner than me that you can't go back, only through. The needed strength is in you alone. Be gentle and forgiving of yourself. Know I walk with you, friend.

[@Sam-nb8ev]

The only way out is through. Hope you're out by now. Best wishes from India.

[@BAC-bm8em]

When you don’t care what others think of you, you’ve reached a higher level of freedom.

[@PAK-Indulekha-Nair]

Osho

[@kingpubg4865]

It's only for people who tend to overthink anything. But for braindead people, they need to apply the opposite for theirselves. Think more, care more, reevaluate more what people think of them.

[@judahtirona9487]

What about guilt? I heard that it plays a big part in the physiology of depression.

[@kadambaripathania3866]

It does. Guilt of not being able to do what you wish to. Guilt of not achieving your potential. Guilt of not living upto expectations, not being good enough. Guilt of failing everyone around you. Guilty of wasting time away when you know you need to get up and do something. Guilt will be different for everyone. So yes, guilt leads to this continued sadness.

[@Hammett175]

You feel guilty because you ARE guilty.

[@RachelPun]

I guess guilt can be paraphrased into an attachment, as he says, to some kind of responsibility/obligation? Be flexible about it

[@SepticFuddy]

Not always. It was not the case for me, anyways, though it often may be for others.

[@psyche1988]

​​@@Hammett175 that means you sound like a moron because you ARE a moron.

[@siddsen95]

10 minutes of telling someone to overcome depression is not easy. But you did it better than almost any therapist can. Thank you.

[@kulanchandrasekaran4462]

Great comment. I could not have put is as succinctly. Really describes this valuable video.

[@willtheaspie498]

Certain people hold the gift but most psychologists just talk to you that's what I found.

[@friendandpoet]

the simple fact that we can all relate, so easily, is both a major comfort and a great distress to me.

[@TheDrSuperGenius]

I have watched all of your videos from start to finish and I feel I am a better person for it. Thank you. You are more likely making positive changes in the people who listen. I look forward to your next as soon as I finish your last. THANK YOU !!!

[@marcrobson6157]

Agreed.Knowledge to be shared by all & for all. Thanks for posting Warmest regards Marc

[@paroxysm8588]

I can't count how many times this channel has continued to help me, and as I'm sure, many others. Life is a tricky, difficult journey more often then not and being able to have a good source for enlightenment is always appreciated.

[@SolveEtCoagula93]

Like so many things, the method for solving a problem so obvious when you learn the solution. Although these ideas have been kicking around in my, very depressed, head for years, somehow, by hearing them from the outside something seems to have been triggered inside of me. Having spent 10 years in severe, clincial depression no solution is going to happen instantly but this really makes me think - and makes so much sense. Many things come into focus. Thank you!

[@bilalkhanmuhammadzai3340]

This video describes me 100%.I thought i was different but it seems like many are facing the same circumstances,this video has initiated a huge turn in my life.

[@zoochquo4341]

Depression drove me to try lsd for the first time, making me spiral deeper and deeper into losing any worth I had left.But it made me realize how alone I was and how I am is my choice despite anyone else.

[@cyrille6323]

How do you feel now? Did things get better?

[@chad4452]

I'm curious, what realizations did you discover?

[@daviszollars3356]

Lsd made me see life as an elaborate puppet show. Took a while for me to take anything serious.. Just take it day by day fam.

[@domzbu]

Worth is very subjective, not just by individual but within each individual, your own feeling of self worth yesterday may be completely different to today and tomorrow, depending on how you assign worth, what measurements you use, what choices you make in every moment, and how you frame and or reframe things.

[@benjaminisbester3582]

Agreed. Lsd cured my depression a few weeks back it was a depression of 6 years long and now I feel like a reborn human. Reborn psychologically like carl Jung speaks of. Post ego death revealed to me how my mind was twisting the way people spoke and turning it against myself when in reality my friends were not of that nature. I cried with joy after realising how my mind or my depressive nature could skew every sentence people spoke in such a way. 6 years of depression gone in a night of lsd, music, camp fire and good company. For anyone willing to try it, go for it with no fear, surround yourself with good company and go camping in a forest with music. Nothing to fear but fear itself and you will gain the inner wisdom you need. Also research family history of mental illness and what to expect from certain doses. Nothing can prepare you for the wacky nature of lsd though so just ride that train for 8 hours and spend the last 2 to 3 talking with friends.

[@TheBlazinAsian96]

This... Explains everything. I was at a loss for words when you described my situation so accurately... Now I am aware of it. Thank you, Academy Of Ideas, you've helped me a lot.

[@Chewywrinkles]

I find myself taking screen shots of so many quotes from your videos. Excellent channel, a guide to philosophy for people in a hurry, keep up the great work

[@tackyman2011]

"LIFE is pain, princess. Anyone who says different is selling something." -Westley, The Princess Bride.

[@2009joseastorga]

The key is to work and work and keep working on getting better on anything. As you get better at the chosen craft your begin to love it and as you start to love it, that love helps you push through the hard parts. Also an artist is not just a painter or dancer an artist is also the master plumber as is the chief Engineer. Art is anything done with love and care.

[@Sunkissbabe2]

Jose Astorga-Maquez I agree!!! 🦋

[@naturelover4148]

Real depression is when you lose interest in everything. Even your passion, hobby, lover,etc. seems a burden to you. You get drowned in the darkest depths of life where everything appears dull and meaningless. Being awake seems a torture to soul, you want to sleep the whole day or if possible get out of this life. "I didn't had the freedom to start my life, maybe atleast I should be granted the freedom to end it" thats what comes to my mind. The remedy you suggested is for people who have temporary anxiety, I wish if only it were that simple for a depressed soul.

[@rainbowodysseybyjonlion]

When i feel bad i play basketball or other hea y workout and i feel great afterward. Especially coupled eith sauna and hot tub.

[@rainbowodysseybyjonlion]

​@@naturelover4148 theres many activities even if you lose interest. Its been done befire.

[@Anonymous-ee7si]

@@rainbowodysseybyjonlionyou all don’t actually understand depression lol. It’s not when you “feel bad.”

[@yangzhou5530]

This explanation accurately describes my depression. Thank you so so much! I feel compelled to study more on psychology! Your work is really important to us!

[@timhenley3602]

A beautiful description of how depression can ruin one's life, albeit incomplete. Depression, and by extension the human mind is far too complex to boil it down to one or two specific causes.

[@montesa9136]

Well said!

[@HasanKhan-bp8cp]

Can't agree more

[@rainbowodysseybyjonlion]

Bit this doesnt mean that bits and pieces of boiling it down are incorrect This video is very spot on for the material it presents.

[@arkansastrey9694]

" All I can say is that my life is pretty plain , I like watching the puddles gather rain "

[@DarlingPhenylethylamine]

Dear Blind Melon! :)

[@satchelyork]

Love that song. Of course he killed himself too.

[@Kylemathews1]

Then you gotta listen to "Change" by Blind Melon. What he says in that song are the answers to getting out of depression.

[@azoique]

Get your 6-8 hours of sleep. Keep a schedule. Excercise, or at least be somewhat physically active regularly. Try to eat as well and varied as you can. I can also recommend C, D and B12 vitamins. Plus Omega-3 and CBD oil. I was deep down in the depths of depression and anxiety 1-2 years ago and this has brought me back to a normal state of being where i feel happy with who i am and what i've got. I have no grandiose goals in life and i've never relied on personal relationships for approval and gratification. I believe some just get dealt this card and i do feel like a better person after having gone through it.

[@laurentdemaisonneuve4990]

balleur Doesn’t work in many, many cases unfortunately. I spent years fighting *against* depression instead of fighting depression itself. I did exactly what you did: I found external value that I thought would make me feel better, and it did for a while. But depression always came back, worsening every time until suicide became a concrete thought. All those years I needed (and still need) to address what was broken; being active only served as a defence mechanism.

[@dragonfishing]

+Laurent de Maisonneuve you speak as though you are broken and you are, the large sum of your intelligence takes you at your word and can't distinguish between true or false.

[@untro7287]

Yeah, something that always comes up is the "excercise, eat better, get a hobby!" argument. Even if you find yourself with the strength and ability to reform towards healthier habits, the breadth and width of the experience of depression means that that simply won't work for everyone. I am very active professionally, physically and socially, and have been working towards more complete physical health, but the specter of depression colours everything I do.

[@אנונימיתאנונימי]

Laurent de Maisonneuve As Van Gogh himself said the depression won't go away

[@אנונימיתאנונימי]

Lightest Asian Those anti-department pills are shit too, it's fucking toxix and mess up with your brain and health, also making you numb. Maybe we should just accept somethings can't be fixed.

[@chrisrosenkreuz23]

I am so depressed that I don't even care about being depressed anymore

[@Rosi_in_space]

0:17 Tragic event? You surely mean birth.

[@newworldlord643]

Exactly...being here is enough

[@sheilamay6928]

My mind blocked my own birth out . Very traumatic. I came late, had to force me into the world, which resonates with my soul.

[@promisesmithee943]

😂😂😂😂

[@avisco01]

turbostewi Today’s my birthday and I couldn’t agree more.

[@danielforrester1579]

Hah. That makes my night! And tomorrow the enduring of suffering will ensue. Yay.

[@doubleriee17]

This video explains the backbone mentality of my current life stage. Thank you for giving deeper understanding of myself.

[@bryancoombesart]

I love the use of art to describe your narrative, brilliant!

[@annamermaid2918]

My favorite are the comments that think they cured depression is a couple of words they experienced themselves. The lack of depth in society to understand depression can get depressing.

[@BobrLovr]

I mean, depression itself is pretty straight forward, it's just a series of thought patterns that end in a negative personal image. The cure to depression in itself is actually really straightforward as well, just change the thought patterns. But where you're getting hung up, is that you're probably frustrated because they're making it seem like it's easy to do, and for some people its easier than others. Some people are more prone to depression, and some people have more difficulties pulling through compared to others. So no, they don't "lack depth of understanding" I'd say that's you who lacks the understanding, everyone is different.

[@shuacliff_7029]

@@BobrLovr "just change your thought patterns" telling that to a person under the weight of depression is like telling the person tumbling down the mountain "just stop falling". Sure straightforward. Thanks for the tip bro. Lol

[@BobrLovr]

@@shuacliff_7029 That's literally what Cognitive Behavioral therapy is (the SCIENTIFICALLY and EMPIRICALLY proven method for dealing with depression). CBT is essentially just adjusting thought patterns :P What did you think it was? Jedi mind tricks voodoo magic? You either put in the work or you don't. If you wait around for a magic cure you'll be waiting for a long time friend Good luck, have a good one :)

[@BobrLovr]

@@shuacliff_7029 When all of my friends killed themselves and died in accidents I got very depressed. I was angry, pitty'd myself and would argue with random people getting triggered on the internet like you. But after I sat down and actually took responsibility for my life and my emotions things became much better, I hope you can do the same :)

[@Pilgrimsrummet]

@@BobrLovr CBT is no more effective than other therapies. Works for some, sometimes. Your way of expressing yourself lacks depth and that certain wisdom and empathy those who have suffered enough to be humble and able to live in the space of 'not knowing'.

[@whynotgp1058]

This is hands down one of the best Channels on KZbin.

[@claire112]

I think it’s funny how my parents say that they want what’s best for me and want me to be happy but yet raised me in such a way that not only do I need a dominant other but I also need a grandiose gesture putting me at the ultimate highest risk to be depressed and unsatisfied.

[@TheSilverGate]

The best chanel in KZbin. It is rare to find such value in other chanels.

[@easyskankingdude]

“The root of suffering is attachment.” Gautama Buddha

[@elizabethwinsor-strumpetqueen]

That is true ...but "letting go" is an immensely hard thing to do...until you do it ! and its very very easy to fall back into the trap ...self doubt is the primary cause of needing attachment in the first place, if you aren't sure of "Who you are" then you will seek confirmation and reassurance of this unknown ....causing you to be dependant on others ...trust yourself and enjoy your fuck ups ...they're just part of the journey !

[@sophiafake-virus2456]

"The attachment of the root is suffering". - A Dentist

[@foekist7312]

@@sophiafake-virus2456 😂😂😁

[@minhducnguyen674]

@the cancelled one huh Nah, he had a royal family. Royal families are the pinnacle of toxicity. You get the option of getting killed or roasted to death. And even the one on top isn't always safe.

[@melodygruber3431]

Part of my sadness and loneliness is feeling so much difficulty in trusting that I don't make attachments.

[@yearofthegarden]

Wow. You describeddescribed me better than I could. I have been running my business by myself for years, like a hermit, and the gloom I perceive when I see the fragility of others and the system we pertain to, has even cultivated over the years of my own sufferings and loss, while observing the worst of society to understand the psychology that isn't full filled in others who turn to addiction and the homeless afflictions it brings to their existence. My drug of choice is cramming knowledge and working 16-18 hour days, but it is exhausting with the only ambition to know enough so when I'm old and physically useless, I can teach my lessons to those who will listen

[@owenlee9474]

This week, as my business collapses (that I built over the last 4 years-after I escaped corporate) ...I realise I placed my entire self worth in it. I am feeling utterly defeated and worst off all Im alone and its month 2 of quarantine. This is truly a bad time. I was really hoping the video had a cure or an answer or something I could do. Hitting 40 and not a cent to my name feels real bad.

[@asteroxfoundation]

Hope you are doing better these days and rising from the ashes like the Phoenix.

[@datsdajazz_man1646]

Choose a life of virtue, any man, in any situation always has the option of doing the right thing. Every single day, do the right thing to the best of your ability and you will feel fulfilled.

[@energy_waves]

I like this.

[@RasberrySkittle]

How do you recognize what is right?

[@csDeuce]

How very stoic of you

[@augustin19tube]

Absence of power would generally speaking be categorized as virtous; but maybe that comes from the lack of it

[@RasberrySkittle]

@@augustin19tube From a nietzschean perspective, the will to power is the virtuous thing, because it is what motivates progress and development. Moral attainment is also a form of power game, but your influence, and your own received gains plays out differently. It's another form of hierarchy, but the virtue is still the will to power.

[@niallwatts789]

"Action is the high road to self esteem" - Bruce Lee. I believe in this as I'm sure many of us here often have creative ideas of ways to better ourselves, but seldom act upon them. What do you think are the main reasons that we so often don't act? And do you think this was much different than 100 years ago?

[@manzimfura]

This one was very special to me, It is almost talking to me... Thanks a lot Academy of Ideas for your work!

[@awesomebears]

Its like Naruto always said: "Im gonna become hokage one day, then everyone in the village will recognize me and respect me! BELIEVE IT!"

[@jaideepsingh4395]

Ahh i see, a man of culture.

[@sleepless974]

Just what I was thinking

[@Mozzarellapumpkin]

🦅

[@peepalfarm]

I love your videos!

[@imasmurfy1]

Mom said I cried for days after I was born. Somehow I knew Earth was a hell hole right from the start.

[@aguywholifts680]

damn

[@SepticFuddy]

Somehow you were born with a toxic perspective on existence right from the start. I wouldn't be surprised if your mother was wrestling with a lot of psychological difficulty and passed that onto you even in the womb. You can certainly overcome it though, both of you

[@docusi2674]

I tried to die shortly after my first breath. I was forced to stay. I have always known that it was a mistake to come here

[@EbroNatali]

This Video Made me Change my Feelings about my neurosis: "I am not guilty of my neurosis, i am proud that i am curing it!" And these words: “If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life.” They are so true and so sobering, They gonna motivate me all my Life:) Thank you for your work, really appreciated it.

[@robertafierro5592]

I love the Art that was selected.

[@StitchWaters7]

Amazing job on these videos. Unlike other channels, your videos dive deep into these issues and consolidates a lot of research. You are helping a lot of us navigate through these mental issues.

[@Pieceoreece]

It's simple; I jump between being either depressed or too stoned to realise I'm still depressed.

[@keepcalmcarryon3358]

Heard that. Sometimes I break the cycle with periods of killing my physical self slowly with food or my remaining mental stability with prostitutes.

[@ketchup5344]

This is so intelligent, so canny, so true. For my own part, I have never encountered a difficulty that did not become less difficult with the application of insight. With insight I believe, it is possible to unravel this grand dellusion of life and cast off its heaviness, see it for what it is and learn to smile at all the games people play

[@mario6279]

The funny thing is my depression stems from low self esteem and anxiety/stress due to my parents I figured out that everything they taught me, their “ideologies” were simply a reflection of their own upbringing and that they truly never believed that they were just programmed to believe like that. Once I realized my self conscious thoughts were sounding like my parents giving me guilt trips over me being happy I realized I had to think for myself and rewire my brain like a baby. Form my own thoughts and what not they set me up for failure which is the reason I’m scared to have children I don’t want to raise a child with bad habits and a poor future because of me. There’s a video on KZbin that’s called “why the rich stay rich and poor stay poor” it explains that each party has a certain way of thinking and why things don’t change for their future children etc it’s interesting but yeah I’m happy to see people in deep though are out there I’m used to seeing sheep and cattle wander the streets

[@nandamaharjan2985]

I have been observing myself very closely for the last 9 months, every thoughts, behaviour, thinking patterns, compulsiveness, fleeting happiness, pain, cycles including my body. The revelations I have been having are amazing. I don’t need a psychologist to deal with my anxiety, sorrow, pain and depression, I am learning on my own just by watching the random videos and using my own life experience.

[@jakebetzer5]

I think this video shares a lot of insight from a lot of literature and art. It's nice work and helped identify some personal things for myself more clearly. So thank you

[@ola6482]

I can relate to this Video. It’s ok to go through “depression “ it’s a part of one’s evolution.

[@rationalmystic5]

Amazing insights. Love your channel. It has helped me a lot. Deep gratitude. Wish you well.

[@aghost6041]

I challenged myself to do a real life speed run by seeing how fast I can descend into a living hell.

[@ezodragon]

do not commit to mortal goals if you don't want your spiritual fulfillment to die. feed the spirit by praising the highest values and show love by helping people in need around you, at least a bit day to day. nothing else can bring this kind of peace of mind

[@DannySullivanMusic]

Thanks for all of these amazing videos. They are mentally engaging and visually interesting.

[@avi7845]

Great video. I think one area this doesn't touch in regards to mental health and depression is regarding those that have gone through severe levels of abuse, which without help result in the individual having pretty much no capacity to change the state that they have been left in for their life.

[@MaxTimoney]

Unreal work, perfect production as well with the beautiful paintings

[@CalvinHikes]

Timoney yeah the art choices were excellent.

[@jawarholol4651]

What I got from this is that we should all foster relationships with numerous people who will reinforce our self-worth in order to avoid relying too heavily on only one person who can validate us.

[@destruction8946]

When he said "famous musician, or writer" I was like, oh fuck he got me. Yeah, a chronic lack of interpersonal connections + a grandiose vision = depression. I guess it's still worth pursuing music and writing, but to be happy there are more important matters.

[@amberwaller6375]

Thank you so much for what you provide! Will be donating soon ❤

[@metal0n0v]

I was expecting a lengthy instruction on how to ruin my life. wth!?

[@Rosi_in_space]

Marry. Get divorced. TADA!

[@jmleroux7400]

How can you instruct a master at his own craft??

[@asolarasolarasolar]

Crack cocaine.

[@laughteraddict1003]

Epic sarcasm. Thanks for the laugh !

[@EFCasual]

Make sure that when you make choices that your life gets worse.

[@thecurr88]

This is insanely accurate. Stunned.

[@anhusinha5047]

I really despise you for this video. It was a cold tight slap across my face. Emotionally unavailable parents, chasing a grandiose dream, faking a persona of a happy and wise person are all that happening to me. But this ideology of chasing a dream that I adopted was a way of combating my prolonged depression, now you are robbing me of that panacea. I can see the truth in your words but living an existential crisis is not an easy deal. You say to experiment with new habits and environment, well it is hard to escape oneself.

[@zumekasime2137]

Dope Fiend please don’t do that, I’m feeling the same thing, I feel like I’ve been living an existential crisis my whole life(19 now). You can contact me personally if you ever want to talk to anyone, [e-mail] . Misery calls for company, & the only company you can have that will truly help is people experiencing the same thing.

[@KoffeeKat18]

Anhu Sinha Read a book called “Your Soul’s Plan”. Very inspiring. Helped me tremendously. Even if you don’t believe everything he espouses, the idea of it is empowering.

[@HiAdrian]

_"Emotionally unavailable parents, chasing a ..."_ Have you tried venturing to these original causes? Immediate action helps more in the short term, but what if you could make gains in how to interpret your past, some kind of catharsis? Mental/emotional energy might be tied up trying to heal these old wounds by doing things that never seem to work. Just a thought, I wish you good luck!

[@2Siders]

Adrian Interesting comment thanks for sharing. Most people nowadays know that Catharsis is bad for you. It’s funny, because back in the day it was the opposite. “Punch a pillow when you feel angry.” But apparently acting on your emotions (Catharsis) only serves to create another bad habit aka “what if in the moment you cannot punch a pillow when you are angry?” You would be more infuriated. All in all I am disappointed in this science; I really thought catharsis would be my ticket out. But we have to accept reality I guess.

[@anhusinha5047]

@@zumekasime2137 suicide! It has come so many times in my head but I know I won't because no matter what, I'm a fighter and no one can make me kneel down, not even my inner voice. Please read 'If' by Rudyard Kipling, I always find it inspiring, I remind myself I am a snowcapped mountain and I will keep standing high.

[@robbyalp]

You just earner a subscriber my friend... I have never quite so thoroughly had the causes and experiences of my depression manifested so piercingly in words

[@thealishow9125]

If you dont want to be depressed you need to build yourself to become what you want to be. To not lose hope set small goals that will help you feel fullfiled trough the process of becoming who you really are

[@zensvlognotapro]

Just keep moving, appreciate little, believe in you and others, love ourselves , exercise, pray or meditate, deep breathing. Be enthusiastic be hopeful, believe that life is still good. Be healthy physically, mentally and spiritually. Appreciate what we have, who we are , where we are Believe in the power of Now. First things first. Be well everyone❣️🙏🤗

[@keepcalmcarryon3358]

Ha. Blah.

[@bagfootbandit8745]

This is pretty hard hitting. I'm that guy who wants to achieve something grandiose, to a tee. I've written three books in the attempt to become that guy I want to be. Should I still hope and aspire? Probably. Should I put my hopes in it? No. But I don't feel like I have that much.

[@TheGishwin]

Awesome !! Can I get a copy of your book !

[@bagfootbandit8745]

Hey, sure! It's on Amazon. It's called The Western Gods. www.amazon.com/Western-Gods-Caleb-Eatough-ebook/dp/B00DPCY0EW

[@BaconNCereal]

If you honestly have a passion and love your craft you’ll find success, but if you’re doing it with expectations of recognition and admiration you’ll fall flat

[@gansonaki]

taylor kxng I agree with this. Pour your passion into appreciating the smaller things along the way-value the journey, never the goal, because it’s the journey that holds the secret to your happiness. When you throw everything you have at just your end goal, even if you do achieve it, you’ll be unhappy again once the novelty of it wears off-you’ll always need a new goal to reach to be happy, and that is precisely how you perpetuate unhappines, lack of fulfillment, and depression.

[@Hammett175]

Go git it.

[@showwick6546]

Wasted 16 years of my life, I just want to start again.

[@QuasarKid620]

I've felt the same way for most of my life. After a lot of growing, I have come to realize the only reason I exist now is because of the mistakes I have made. While I may not have succeeded in one aspect, I've still grown and developed in a way that I wouldn't have been able to if I had succeeded. Time can not be wasted, it can only happen. It's our choice whether or not we let more of it happen with or without us. I hope the past year has helped you in seeing that, and please try to remember that life is about living, not thinking.

[@showwick6546]

@QuasarKid620 true finally detached from my thoughts and living in present All the things has happened exactly led me to be here, to make me who I am supposed to be... Hope you're all well.

[@coachmark82]

Today is 30 December 2020, and I’ve just discovered this video. Thank you, I received a lot of truth applicable to me. Happy New Year!

[@sunrise5567]

This is by far one of my top best, most insightful and enriching videos I have ever seen. Its so well presented and the information in itself so invaluable that I believe it should be taught in school, preferably in high school. There is so much benefit to be found through such a course, I honestly think it would better people’s lives, their choices, mindsets and behaviors, and thus benefit society as a whole. Bravo to the creator and narrator of this video as well- you’re truly talented at what you do! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@mimiccave]

My depression comes more from the 'Caesar or nothing' mentality. My whole life I've had problems talking to women. So I thought that I had to become rich and famous and there was no other way for me to get a girlfriend. So I wasted years of my life trying to achieve that goal. Then one day I got a girlfriend and I realized that I don't have to be rich or famous, I just need to be myself. So now I'm going back to school to try and get a decent job. I realized that I don't have to 'make it' in order to be happy. I don't have to be famous in order for people to like me. I haven't given up on my music or writing, I just realized that it's not that big of a deal if I'm not successful.

[@sparthacuster]

BattyMusic u just described me dear☺️

[@NPC-fr6wo]

Ah yes, the "I'm a depressed musician, if I just got a break my genius would be allowed to flow" Depression trope.

[@mitchellalexander9162]

Fall in love with a Profession, then the women will fall in love with you.

[@beaverones41]

BattyMusic The desire for things we will never get is what makes people depressed. Everyone cannot be successful which means it is very risky to put everything into trying to be successful. It is possible to find happiness in whatever you do and most importantly in yourself. You just have to not give a fuck about what others think. Everyone is different, whatever you chooce to do there will be a partner for you who will love you for who you are.

[@wearejungians]

BattyMusic hey there! I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Please get in contact with me as I’d like to offer you some free coaching. I’m not a trained therapist but I do have some wisdom to guide people to at least focus on SOME things that will help them in the present moment. It’s a natural gift I was blessed with! Email me, don’t be shy! [e-mail] -Gabriel from TheNeuroticAlpha

[@BiggoSuave]

Why do we attach self-worth to external factors? Best solution is to remember you’re attaching your self-worth and happiness to the mediocre herd not the higher human beings, once you become at peace with being ok to fail and expecting nothing from the herd is when you can focus on yourself to achieve the wonderful state of pride. Hope this helps

[@BiggoSuave]

In addition expectations can turn into doubts, then those doubts turn into fear... that’s when you quit.

[@jorginhojoji4520]

I love you because you are me

[@BiggoSuave]

Jorginho Joji glad to find someone that thinks like me

[@goofyahhh254]

Yeah, many ideas discussed here are things I already know. It's like a glimpse into universal truth of the human condition? It's weird but occasionally I'll be in these (existential?) States of being.

[@BiggoSuave]

Armands Sviķis herd mentality is seductive along with conformity, it deceives you w/ security & comfort but it deadens your own set of thinking, i know i still have to fight comfort and laziness myself!

[@artisticwhistleblower1756]

Fabulous artwork used in this presentation. ❤

[@3dstuffin]

This is an Incredible explanation about depression....very much insightful and should be strongly considered by all

[@centurionstrengthandfitnes3694]

I still can't get over the raw quality and value of this channel. I wish I'd had it on hand 25 years ago, and again 8 years ago... but it's on hand now. So bring it on, Life, you back-stabbing bastard! ;)

[@bbomg02]

I am always trying to work on my mental illnesses to make them less destructive in my life. Of course I will always have things like bipolar affecting my life, but trying to make positive moves never hurts. Often times when in manic states I use that extra serotonin burst to get things done that I want to get done because it will give me something to work with when I'm not so good. You have to use your struggle to learn.

Life-changing video. Thank you a lot. Much love.

[@francisnwokedi581]

I am torn my the native feeling that my material existence means nothing and the desire to envoke meaning into it. I feel the world is a desolate place magnifying false values and Id be best running off to hunt and farm. However, I hold the pragmatic understanding that our world is increasingly folding into a technological prison designed by those who intend on nothing less than the subjugation of all living beings. I wrestle with the desire to step back amd watch it burn and the compulsion to act to save it. I am full of great ideas but conflicted by a reluctance to share them with people i feel undeserving of a better future. The paradox of existence.

[@randmusician410]

Very profound comment brother, and amazingly similar to how I also feel and relate to our world as well. We could just be two peas from the same pod;-) Welcome to connect and contact me if you like - randmusician at gmail dot com Peace to you and yours either way...

[@SepticFuddy]

Find people who do deserve a better future and share it with them.

[@Soniphex]

Those last sentences hit me hard. I needed this.

[@reemkhaled7938]

You and KZbin algorithm may have literally just saved my life. Thank you...

[@mostawesomedudeever1]

I don't need advice on this, I think I'm doing a pretty good job all on my own!

[@jammasterj13]

Depression is Anger turned inwards. Unresolved anger is trapped inside the nervous system and the subconcious mind which can be released through Hatha Yoga, Qigong, Tai Chi. Treating with medication just makes the problem worse, just a band aid on a hidden wound. Talking therapies just make the unfortunate individual relive the cause the their depression. Dysfunctional families are the root cause of the problem. And starts the process of bullying, dehumanising energies which increase exponentially. Till the depressed person decides enough is enough release their pain in a holistic way.....

[@Kheni11]

I hoped to have learned something about lost memory, which is one of the ails associated with this mind-rottedness. Overthinking is one thing, but when your memory is impaired, down goes potential to learn as well.

[@sheepshark]

Kheni11 this is my memory

[@Kheni11]

Perhaps my own words could be the source of bad memory? Just learning to remember what I've said.

[@seven9583]

I really like how the video suggestions in the end are so interconnected that you could go on forever and it would seem like he just took a pause to take a breath.

[@cold.raviolis]

This video is incredible! I've seen so many videos on depression and they always focuse on so many things that didn't apply to me at all but this is somehow different

[@yaongingyfmm1571]

With all due respect, whoever made this video hasn't experience depression, at least not for long periods of time. I find little of value in what he says, this a shallow approach to depression, because regardless of whether you want to feel valued or not, biology and trauma are far more damaging...

[@אנונימיתאנונימי]

Yaongingy Fmm Psychologists and psychiatrists are shit and technology is overrated.

[@אנונימיתאנונימי]

Frizzurd The whole reason many of us exist is because we broke natural selection with technology. Your dumb engineered eugenics is part of the problem , not solution.

[@frigglebiscuit7484]

@Frizzurd drrrt! me nazi! me use eugenics and genocide to solve problems!

[@sjames1955]

This is 19th century nonsense

[@BaconNCereal]

The mind is a powerful thing. If you let yourself blame the things that happened to you in life instead of facing them you’ll never overcome the trauma.

[@lumoc.]

Please, do a video on perfectionism. It's killing me.

[@tysonkonken6184]

I dont need someone to show me how to ruin my life, did a pretty good job of that by myself!

[@mesleyraves9983]

I just found this channel. What a gem. Thank you Academy of Ideas.

[@rajivghazi1959]

Loved to see all the paintings

[@ovidiudrobota2182]

I was depressed my whole life but I didn't know that. I suffered from depression since I was an infant. In the past two years I took massive action to fix myself and become the greatest version I could be. I rarely have a temporary episode of depression and I'm convinced that in the near future I'll be completely free of depression. If you really wish to be happy, you have to do what's necessary to achieve it.

[@anakinsaephanh2134]

"This tactic is often resorted to by individuals who lack satisfying interpersonal relationships, perhaps such a person grew up with emotionally distant parents, was ostracized by his or her peers or experiences too much rejection later in life..." tfw you feel like you fit all of those requirements, oh boi.

[@James-ck4bg]

The weird thing is how I know I'm blessed with all the attributes given to me, but still feel tired and sad all the time.

[@JohnMahon]

The second shared of yours Ive shared. So very insightful, as someone who had an angst phase from neglectful parenting which lead to depression, the grandoise point became oh so relevant. I wanted to be the best musician, but now am accepting myself more and moee. This channel is far less preachy than School of Life aswell it is a welcome change. I wish I saw these sources when I became depressed because it makes your realise you are not alone.