Acting more rational - changing our automatic behavior | Ashley Zahabian | TEDxStanleyPark

Our feelings naturally determine our behavior, but learning to become aware and change our behavior for a better outcome takes emotional intelligence. How can we learn and increase emotional intellect? Ashley Zahabian teaches us two practical ways we can all biologically and actively change the way we behave for better outcomes, and how we can think more clearly and rationally towards life success.
Ashley Zahabian is a well sought-out presenter on leadership and emotional intelligence in business and life. Visit Ashley at www.ashleyzahabian.com, or email her at [e-mail].
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@shumakr]

This is one of the best talks I've heard. Super impressed. This young lady has a bright future.

[@dawidpodziewski4157]

1. Become aware about your feeling and people around 2. Harness these emotions (what is best possible action i can do now for best possible outcome) 3. Act for best outcome regardless your feeling Medidation is best exercise for increase emotional intelligence (breath). You can better control how do you feel and behave. I like this talk. Feeling are just information, dont ignore it and don't react automatic acording to past experience just do the right thing in present - every situation is other but mind learn to act the same everytime (more economy).

[@cheliae8560]

When you write something down, the very act of writing it down, takes it from your emotional side of the brain, to the logical side of the brain and there, you have just recorded that event: past or present, in your LOGIC side of your brain and now you will feel less emotional about that event/subject.

[@monsterjesse]

sweet. that helps alot.

[@malikayoussouf9406]

Beautifully phrased, thank you!

[@ClassicGaming7]

Thank you, that makes sense to me now

[@salwan231]

I was just trying to get information to write my essay and now Im crying, cool.

[@breannakeller7896]

Mood.

[@Drum3Matrix]

Words cannot describe how happy I am for you! EQ is not easy.

[@assafassaf2974]

One of the best speeches that I have ever watched... Thanks, Ashley!

[@ehbaboo]

Deep, rich and thought provoking! Ashley, you're living proof of someone with an abundance of emotional intelligence!

[@katiet6569]

At school, we have to choose a declamation to say in front of everyone.... So I chose this one. Every one else is choosing a famous person (Queen of England, famous sport players, etc) but this one of Ashley's speeches(a speech? A declamation?) stood out to me the most. I think it might be able to help the kids, and maybe even the teachers too! I was going to choose the one about like don't give up, and rebuilding self-esteem, etc. But the teacher who assigned this said no because I don't know where she said it... Then while looking later, it was made for a certain 'group' of people online. I looked everywhere and it wasn't said. So I chose this one...

[@XffTheGrid411]

This was easily one of the most insightful and most powerful Ted talks I've ever witnessed. This info is life changing. Thank you so much.

[@rosemar917]

I absolutely love this! I think this is so insightful and useful and I stumbled upon this exactly when I needed to!

[@patrickskilz2182]

Thank you for reminding me how clueless we are at 22 years old 😊

[@simpleAZmom]

I absolutely LOVE that you're teaching this powerful practice! These things you've taught are all outlined in detail in the evidence-based practice of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, and I recommend to anyone that loves your presentation to take a course in DBT to protocol. It is life-changing and good for anyone who wants to truly advance Emotional Intelligence! Thank you Ashly for sharing your amazing story and journey and being an inspiration!

[@umamaheswariMurthy]

This is one of my best Ted talk Thank you 😇

[@NuNu-xi8mc]

This is an incredibly insightful and meaningful talk, thank you so much! I hope it reaches more people that need it, it is amazingly helpful!

[@duhiii2226]

Thank you for beautiful lesson

[@steeojabb1]

Masterful gestures. Salient points.

[@wholesome4557]

This TED talk is under rated.

[@firefighter8485]

Ashley, thank you. I am going through hard times now which requires EI. Thank you

[@firefighter8485]

Ashley Zahabian Ashley, Is there a way I can talk with you, (skype, viber..) It would change my world..

[@jamalwillabus6470]

Yes ashley ! Im so proud of you!!!! Omg this is crazyyyyyy!!!!! Im puting this in my favorites ! To think that I had class with you and we conversated about so many things, and now you have eveolved into an amazing woman (which you already were)

[@234pinnni]

I don’t know what to say You presented to me my all life I still don’t know I got to this video But I believe it’s from god! Thank you!!

[@lacasonarestaurante7420]

Great story, Great talk, great girl, great advice. Loved it!

[@peraruor]

Congratulation and thank you. That was worth watching, every secund of it. Is the best talk about EI ever heard. I'm a highly emotional person and now I think I've got the tools I need to harness my own emotions. It's gonna take time and a lot of efort, but now I know what to do. Thank you very much. I sure your talk is gonna change my live.

[@gourovpaul3227]

Why have you removed earlier videos, from your youtube channel..??...I'am a big fan of yours, from INDIA...I've learnt so much from your earlier videos on emotional intelligence..please put those videos back..!!....

[@frankmash]

Great talk.. Sending her love and light for making this video..

[@vanshikakalra7277]

It is definitely one of the best ted talks i have ever watched...I can relate with this so much ..thank you😊

[@krike13]

Very good speech! Congratulations!

[@sharanyayapa6507]

Ashley..you are amazing..

[@rolfiedsilva7499]

underrated....

[@urbanforester6478]

Best influential speech!

[@stephennjuguna2531]

Wow!..thanks Ashley

[@melissajhaynes]

Thank you for sharing your message Ashley!

[@ashzahabian]

My pleasure, Melissa!

[@oursavior9339]

I’m pretty sure you are the second person in my life beside Bruce lee to change me with reality. Thanks for uploading this. Very inspirational speaker, great words.

[@camayankjain2075]

Thanks for sharing your views on eq😊

[@gaylenemellor105]

Only We can work on our temperament

[@You-jt2ku]

Best talks!

[@nidamarif8550]

Very strong.

[@swathieprabhakara2539]

Perfect 👏 thank you !

[@Gedankenful]

Amazing talk! Love it.

[@mrmoonlight9668]

very good ideas

[@maheshvangala8472]

Best of all

[@hencogrobler4402]

Awesome!

[@gourovpaul3227]

I DON'T FIGURE IT OUT, WHY THIS BRILLIANT VIDEO STILL LACKS SUBSTANTIAL NUMBER OF VIEWS......!!.....JUST RIDICULOUS...!!.....

[@emadahmed3782]

Nice video

[@mudasirabrar2381]

Excellent

[@latoyahenry5881]

LIGHT BULB momet. Thank you little one...

[@mar-mar3700]

Wonderful talk 🙏💐💖

[@Luis-vi9is]

Good Job, Ashley!

[@ashzahabian]

Thank you!

[@seneca7170]

she is very pretty 🥰

[@visualelement7youtubechann941]

Yes To know thyself

[@coura1474]

Amazing

[@susanaplantbasedadoptacat1677]

este discurso ya no puede superarse.

[@LewdCustomer]

Behavior is closely related to diet, as are metabolic diseases.

[@Scott21]

I am a rational person and because of that I feel like I lack any emotion that others have. It sucks yet a lot of the time I feel like I am open to forgive others easiar. I still struggle with any emotion because of how rationality affects my life. I just hope to develop some sort emotional connections in my life.

[@anuoluwapolebile4055]

The very first step towards change begins with yourself. You have to show emotion to yourself , then you can change your attitude towards each other.

[@letsthink5832]

She is very impressive story teller. But I wish she explained how exactly she has become emotionally intelligent.

[@9414350148]

Same story here dear

[@FoodTrucksForDummies]

Our feelings can be controlled 👀 👂🏾

[@parakhj911]

No

[@AlagTunes]

same!! same!! same story

[@paulbeck2816]

Wow

[@jany0125]

💜💜💜

[@worchuikashung6958]

Wowwwwwww

[@elanahammer1076]

Hmmm 🤔 a good reminder that we can learn from our young instead eating and berating our youth! Lol

[@musselchee9560]

That wasn't a Cinderella childhood. Cinders was the bullied step daughter forced to do all the work around the home.

[@ange7422]

I was thinking the same thing.

[@emiliaashurova130]

my apologies, only for english

[@ozanerdogan9914]

am i the only one who did not lkle this video. i mean it felt so cheap, all she was doing give a morale boost which goes away very easily.

[@lighthouse6120]

I'm thinking its common among young women. Except most young adults know you can't go jumping up on a horse !

[@ye2855]

Why not just get to the point instead of useless blabber? Ugh

[@JKingProductions]

attention

[@rahulc4403]

Rip

[@mikazukisato4185]

I didn't like this talk

[@cezhou2412]

Can u share the reason plz

[@GrindLikeNoTomorrow]

She sounds like Meg from Family Guy.

[@sandymahamed3710]

So you mean Mila Kunis

[@GrindLikeNoTomorrow]

Sandy Mahamed Bingo! Lol

[@jestectivegaming0469]

I cant trust any of you here cuz my couzins must die fore what they dou tou me

[@jefrijude4742]

Oops first know what is intelligence and what is rational . Intelligence is something that's irrelevant in this topic . Intelligence is just your capabilities of solving something like problems or quiz something like that . So if there is a part called emotion comes inbetween then it'll be a another topic so know the difference amd speak

[@user-jd1hy9bg1d]

haha, nice girl, i love u already, marry pls ^^ hehe .. smartie ^^

[@incl_00]

Are you still single?

[@user-jd1hy9bg1d]

YUP@@incl_00

[@solitario779]

Lets be honest fellas.. this chick has real bad energies I bet that most of you were disgusted by her same as me