When Your Addicted/Alcoholic Loved One Isn't Experiencing Any Consequences... Do This

Does it seem like, your addicted loved one is just getting away with their bad behavior without having any consequences? Are you fearful that they'll never get out of denial? Although it may be hard to see from the outside, there are always negative consequences of addiction. In this video, I'll show you how to break through their denial by uncovering the hidden consequences of their addiction.
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[@KarinMoser-hx3xz]

Rachel I feel like I’m watching myself when hearing what you’re experiencing. I know the daily pain. Sending hugs and hope.

[@josephsnearline2022]

It seems to me that people with addictions face a couple big internal obstacles to change and I think you alluded to both of them today. One is they have a strong aversion to being seen as wrong. The other is that they don’t want to be seen as vulnerable and weak. I would love to learn more about how the techniques you talk about today help them get past these obstacles.

[@bubbles6142]

Great question !

[@saskiaguy1940]

Loving your new space, Amber! Looks very pro and smart!! 👌🏼

[@cindykemmer4840]

The addicts I deal with know their totally lacking in their responsibilities but it’s not enough to even initiate any type of treatment nor does going to prison/jail over and over

[@brannels]

Hi Amber 😌 I just want to say you’re doing amazing, & you make it enjoyable to hear some tough stuff💕 Thank you for showing up the way you do, & inspiring us all to do the same🙏

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Awww thank you so much for the kind words of support, Brannels! 😀

[@gloriataylor2459]

You are an awesome gift from God - thank you for all you do to educate the public🙏♥️

[@terriesparza9572]

I’m very grateful for your videos. I have learned very much. Thank you.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are very welcome

[@Trenttrumps]

Love your reading and understanding the human heart. The deep blue, dramatic background rocks. Praying for you, Amber!

[@AmyWimberly-l5g]

My husband went to rehab and got clean from pills but started self medicating with weed months after he got home, he refuses to go to any kind of treatment/meetings and when I try to talk to him about it we end up in a disagreement. I’m putting in work and going to CR, it’s very frustrating feeling like I’m the only one fighting for my marriage.

[@hoodfellah]

You’re speaking directly to me

[@kitimaboonmala4364]

I always find something helpful from your video Amber thank you❤

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm so glad!

[@johnnyjames9705]

To add. We openly talk about my brothers keeper and faith and we openly talk about inspirational dissatisfaction. Because. We can identify and accept when we need prayer and rest. We can identify that yes we did something self sabotaging but that is in step with recognizing our daily walking into inspirational dissatisfaction moments. We can say that we are taking steps towards problems getting bigger. We can accept ourselves as having some good grasp on our personal scale of how we are personally not being pro active on our behalfs. In order to avert having to hit flat bottom. My son came up with a saying. He says. You better check yourself before you wreck yourself.

[@WYOGAL1890]

My husband has the idea he is better than any other alcoholic. They are losers, they have 4 DUIs, they are calling in sick because they are hung over, while at the same time he is doing all of it himself. He also argues 12 step is not for him. He can't explain why. It just isn't for him. I have told him i know you are having difficulty with handling stress, but he disagrees. I don't know how to respond to him anymore. I now avoid him. Not the best way to handle a marriage.

[@sz4179]

Oh Sue... don't jyst dont go BACK into an abusive relationship. It's not WHAT to sa to work it out with him, it's no longer your responsibility to say the RIGHT thing.. just be so glad to get away and NOT have to put up with being his target of blame. Absolutely he sounds like a Narcissist. Whether he is or not doesn't matter as long as hes drinking he will BEHAVE like one! Hes not accepting blame, hes learned to say words to suck you back in!

[@jayhulrs1435]

Are there alcoholics that can just drink heavily and have no consequences? My person drank, and drank, every day until he fell asleep. So much vodka. He’s had zero consequences. He never misses work, makes tons of money, and just keeps drinking . He ruined our relationship by cheating on a bender. That’s the only thing . And he lost me, but that wasn’t enough to matter . He keeps drinking.

[@twigandstring]

He said, that's right. Then he said "why won't you let me [protect the family and be a good father]?" 😮‍💨

[@ashleigh9659]

Just confronted my friend of 17 years whose been avoiding me while she spirals. Pretty upsetting how fast it seems to have gone from functioning to dire. Ive tried all the wrong things with someone else and im hoping i can ease her in the right direction

[@maryirick3579]

Thank you ❤

[@highvibrationalalignment]

If I said I know you feel the pressure, he would spin it around and blame me or the kids, so how does that work?

[@karenherrera287]

Who do they want to be? What are their hard core values? Identify their good intentions.

[@davidcasson5602]

Hi Amber ,,my addicted loved one ,, ,, back story , I am an identical twin,, and she was a fraternal non identical twin,,, . Her sister had had 3 children, and by the age of 34 my ADO was under pressure from all angles to follow suit . Problem , having seen the changes to her sister , she didn’t want to even think about it , if she did ,she broke out in spots . This 💭 left an empty space where her future lay ,,, so “” permanent party girl” hitting the drinks 🍷 . Getting some responsibility into her life was difficult as she’d dodged that one . At the time everyone had a baby 👶 my sister had 3 , her other sister, all her work colleagues. It’s not the whole story but it is a factor , especially the empty space and the way she held a bottle.

[@highvibrationalalignment]

My husband will never feel anything he is from.the day I met him a true narcissist, it's never been him he's always right .. in 28 years never apologised, only uses the spill of I am not perfect lol the thing he's done, he is the devil .. he has no core values none

[@jeanniej9110]

It really works for my qualifier❤

[@karenherrera287]

What are the pressures they feel? What are the obstacles that they face?

[@angj6454]

What if they seem to not care about anything anymore i.e. they have no goals or desires anymore?????

[@theresareynolds3834]

Hi Amber. I ask my husband to spend more time with me and he avoids the situation. I believe its because he knows that i dont agree with how much he drinks and he has shame and needs to hide the amount from me. I know he is thinking how do i spend more time with her and still drink the same amount. He is high functioning . How do i appriach this. I have done all things wrong and been in the bad guy role but dor about a year now have been watching your videos and have stooped being bad guy.

[@carolrichardson678]

How can I find your services and get an appt.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Here's a link to our website: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/

[@twigandstring]

What's the next step to this?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Get him to talk more about what he means by that

[@pamelaromanow9686]

You need to stop saying addiction it is a trigger to so man5 people, please try saying substance use. Other wise you are hurting and harming people who are on their journey to recovery.

[@christiebailey9941]

I understand what you are saying but you can call it "flowers," "addiction," or even substance abuse. Doesn't matter what you call it, it is a problem. My recovered friends (ranging from 5 to 25 years sober) say, with no problem, "It's addiction" or it wouldn't be a problem. The trick is owning the problem, that's the issue

[@AssyrianAngel16]

✨✨✨✨✨ 👍👍👍

[@modernmonarch5816]

My addict is on the vivitrol shot and he relapsed HORRIBLE, I’ve never seen anything like this. I feel worried.

[@MohdGhouse-jf8oi]

Rr