ADHD vs SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS

[@kat6737]

That last one is so important. I can tell when I'm just too over stimulated after several out of the ordinary instances or events that have gone on and I just need to go in the bathroom hide for a couple minutes and force myself to cry it out and then it's like a switch is flipped and I instantly feel better and reset.

[@Jay-ql4gp]

The value of a hug isn't talked about enough. Thank you so much!

[@ADHD_love]

Oh I know, they are THE BEST! 🫂🩵

[@capricedowsland3068]

And yet few ever hug me except my pet chickens before they died from 100+ degree weather.

[@borleyboo5613]

Feeling emotions deeply is definitely me. I watched an FB reel last night which was a dog and two butterflies. I sobbed my heart out for ages afterwards. Then i felt tired and drained. 😢

[@ADHD_love]

I mean, a dog and butterflies?? I’d def be a weeping mess! Xx

[@knackeredrovers]

I had 24 jobs in a 20 year period, and that includes doing four years as an apprentice and three years at uni, so 23 jobs in 17 years really. Then I found a job as a train driver. Been doing it nearly twenty years now.

[@ADHD_love]

Amazing. When we find that one thing. That passion. 🩵

[@knackeredrovers]

Yep. Finally found a “me” shaped hole and backed into it like a hermit crab! 🤣

[@brendatomlinson]

My ADHD has taken me through many dissimilar careers. I needed major changes! I’m glad I don’t have to explain myself in interviews anymore: Mortgage banker Trucking company co-owner Massage therapist Soap business HR admin Executive assistant to med school chancellor Pet sitter currently eBay seller currently This is where I’m staying!! Finally doing what I love.

[@TheMacDiesel]

'I don't have to explain myself in interviews anymore' is the ultimate goal lol I hate them so much but I can't deny that I'm a pro at being interviewed at this point.

[@ADHD_love]

Variety is the spice of life! Just think of all the extra skills you’ve acquired from all of the jobs. 😃🩵

[@brendatomlinson]

@@TheMacDiesel Oh yeah believe me I did some mental gymnastics at explaining all this! I finally deleted trucking company from my resume. It was a whim my friend and I did for a year. It was bizarro and I looked unstable. That became “massage school” training time LOL You can do this, it took me 20 years before achieving my dream of working with animals.

[@brendatomlinson]

@@ADHD_love Yes I’m sometimes amazed at the random info I pull from my brain! I left out my year as a real estate agent who never sold anything lol

[@capricedowsland3068]

I can't get a job doing what i love. I fill the apps and never hear from them so i still am job hopping. Pretty soon i'll be a jack of all trades master of none. Lol

[@pancakeboi6797]

I’m so bad at organization and cleaning. Besides doing dishes I really only clean when someone’s coming over or if it’s obviously dirty. I have to have a motive to clean. One time I bought a new Lego set so I mustard the motivation to dust my shelves cause I wanted to redecorate my shelves.

[@EmeraldsFire]

I bake cookies when the counter needs cleared off 😅

[@negakirine]

That last one! I call it: “letting my boohoos out”. 😅

[@elleneades9421]

I got to the Paris airport 5 hours early two days ago which was lucky because the train I was on to get there forked and took the wrong fork. I had to get off, change platforms, and go back the other way in order to get to the airport. So glad my ADD got me there in plenty of time for this sort of chaos to happen!

[@drmeam406]

I do find (but I never want to do it) exercise helps - tiring myself out helps. Also I find some peace doing cooking and listening to a BBC drama or something funny at same time and it helps me slow down. However I live alone and its all impulsive takeaways and instant meals for me but i can an cook for others I can enjoy the process and I never normally enjoy any task that risks being more than 2 minutes.

[@justanotherchad9554]

I can't tell you how many times I lose focus even watching these videos, even though they are so relatable and amazing. You say something that resonates with me and then I think about that one thing, missing everything else. Then I have to watch it again. I bet this sure helps with your view counts!! Thanks guys for posting!

[@brendatomlinson]

Same! I’ll have to watch a few more times bc I was focused on seeing the tag on her overalls 😂

[@holleighlordel1575]

Ditto

[@TheMacDiesel]

Lol I think about how relatable one is until the end of the video and rewind it.. at least 4 times 😅

[@ADHD_love]

Haha! Happy they help and thank you for the extra views!! 😂

[@sara-mc86]

​@@brendatomlinson and don't forget the mini search to see where to buy them haha

[@smugandsmarmy]

I can’t express how much I needed to hear this today. Truly. It’s amazing how powerful it is to feel seen and heard. Thank you so much. 💙💚

[@ADHD_love]

Thank you for your kind words. ☺️🩵

[@ChrisM716]

I just wanna say i LOVE this channel. You guys are helping me learn more about myself than i ever had before and i wish i could come to Australia to give you guys a hug!!!!

[@KainosJoyPodcast]

Yes- the last one is so important for sure. Hugs are a great remedy!! 🥰

[@SynthDecay]

The job thing with hours of concentration… that’s the bane of me. Found a job recently where I can listen to music and podcasts all day while being generally undisturbed. This is a W in my book.

[@ADHD_love]

Nice! Happy you’ve found a job that is working for you! 😍

[@angeladyson7367]

It's videos like this that make me love your channel because nearly everything you said clicks so much with me. I struggle so much with focusing on anything unless I'm super into it. I must have watched about 10 short videos on KZbin whilst making my afternoon snack smoothie. Nearly an hour and 30 mins has passed since I started making the smoothie. 🤦 Time management is probably one of the hardest things in the world for me. I'm very rarely early for anything and usually chronically late looking like a sweaty mess as you say. I have good days and bad days with the tidiness ans clutter issue. If I have my Bluetooth headphones and some classical music or a podcast and plenty of energy that day I can be loke a whirlwind picking up clutter, washing etc on the way and get jobs done but all it takes is one day of feeling exhausted and if hubby's exhausted too it becomes a mess again. Please say you have a video about body doubling? I used ro be terrible for impulsive remarks and have had many impulsive purchases in the past. I think I've got better and become more frugal but I still have to be careful around charity shops when we have more money 😬 I have a history of jobs that did not last, my sister too. The job I had the longest was that of a self employed gardener/horticulturalist. I loved it then my health crashed so now I'm reviving my drawing/artistry skills and a trainee freelance photographer. I do indeed feel things very deeply and wrestle through a bunch of different emotions when something hits me but I'm also autistic and a slow processor of emotions and information. It can take several hours or a day or two for me to realise how I feel about something but when I realise how I feel it hits me like ton of bricks and can do for several weeks, depending on how bad it is it may even take a couple of years to get over unless it's put right. 🫤

[@MaulyMayhem]

I just got diagnosed within the past 2-3 years, and your videos were what got me noticing my own patterns and asking my therapist and psychiatrist if I had adhd. Now that I have been diagnosed, all my patterns and issues I’ve had were so glaringly obvious that I was so happy to have an answer and so annoyed no one else considered it when I had been open and honest about it. Now following a few channels on here about adhd has helped me see more and more of those patterns to at least discuss them further with my therapist (a newer one who has been a gem. I recommended your videos to her to grasp a better perspective). I even recognized patterns in my mom, suggested she talk about it with her therapist/psychiatrist and turns out she has it too. You two have had such a big impact on my life. I did not expect to view a short and have my entire life changed and to walk away knowing more about adhd than I did. You two make a difference and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for it. There are still so many hurdles, but seeing someone my age, who was diagnosed late as well go through the same ones with a partner who is supportive like mine is, is so uplifting and encouraging. Helps me to step back mentally, to feel or do what needs to be done for that moment without the guilt constantly weighing me down. Not to mention, they are just cute and fun videos.

[@ADHD_love]

Wow, thank you so much for your kind words. I’m so unbelievably happy that our videos have helped you so much, and now your mum. 🥰🩵

[@Remcore020]

I had so many jobs I lost count, I had so many periods of complete burnout that I lost count, I had so many doctor's visits to seek help. 6th time now and again I am on a waiting list after filling some *#!$ questionnaires. The wait is at least 9 up to 12 months I've been told. I visited my GP 6 months ago so by the time I will maybe have had to deal with 15 to 18 months of stress, panic attacks and burnout. I hope I will not flee to my old coping mechanisms. I hope this time it will be different. I've also learnt that hope is a foolish endeavour. I still hope I am wrong. Just needed to vent on this Thanks for all that you do ❤

[@brendatomlinson]

Mind my asking why you’re on a waiting list? I didn’t follow.

[@Remcore020]

@@brendatomlinson that is the current waiting list to get started on treatment in the Netherlands unfortunately

[@TheMacDiesel]

​@@Remcore020 I relate to how you feel on a lot of these things. I just want to do something fulfilling and survive. I feel that every career that I would thrive in, requires a degree I have no business sitting through.

[@Moraenil]

9-12 months? That's pretty quick! In the US I was told that it could take at least 2 years to just to be able to make an appointment, and then it could be another 6 months to a year or so after making the appointment to actually having the appointment. But I'm 47, and I figure what's another couple/few years to confirm what I already really know?

[@Moraenil]

@@TheMacDiesel I'm sort of in the opposite position, but can relate. I have 2 degrees and can't get a job because I don't have any experience.

[@efitz3397]

I recently learned that people with ADHD when listening to a story from another person will relate it to something in their own life. I do this and only realised it when someone criticised me for it. Their criticism has changed me, I had thought I was showing empathy but apparently it could be read as being about me. I’m confused!

[@grimsqueaker5333]

I heard the same thing. I was starting to think I'm very self centered, while actually I was empathising with someone. Now I just say: "I've had a similair experience, I feel for you. Please tell me more/ how did you handle this part?" I bring the conversation back to their issue so I still empathise and relate in my way without coming across as making it all about me.

[@AdelesingsL]

This is me so much, esp, the part about feeling things deeply and saying things impulsively and the multiple jobs and the either being extremely early or very late…and I could always use a hug!

[@Alwaysblessed1219]

I love your channel. A few years ago I started looking into ADHD because my oldest was always saying he had it. I thought it was an excuse at the time because he was never hyper or anything . Got good grades. Then I started watching KZbin videos and realized I HAVE ADHD 😂 now I realize all my kids have it and I work with them to get through it. We’re greater than our focus issues even if they do throw us off track a lot 😂

[@LOVEANGEL-hm6oj]

it's always so nice to know I'm not the only one

[@ADHD_love]

You are not alone! 🫶🩵🫶

[@kavita9756]

Thank you for all the videos! Sometimes I have trouble relating to videos about adhd as it seems that maybe they are based around hyperactivity traits. Obviously everyone is different individually even with their adhd, but your videos were the first where I was like "omg that's me!" Thank you Rox for sharing your adhd with us as I feel relatable to you more than anyone. Sensitivities, cleaning, mess, crying at anything. It has been impacting my relationships and I've had it drilled into me that I'm lazy and misunderstood when im upset. I got diagnosed a couple of years ago at 35. My parents don't get it, and think it's an excuse. Others don't get it. Seeing your videos helps me know some get it out there. The floordrobe 😂😂, I couldn't believe it when I saw it. I have a floordrobe also and for exactly the same reasons 😂. Loved it! So thank you ❤

[@Serothil_and_stuff]

Yeah I switch between not feeling anything at all, to feeling EVERYTHING!!! to Feeling what the person opposite to me feels to feeling what someone somewhere around me is feeling. Try explaining that to someone...

[@shortbred67]

My partner who has ADHD calls that one of his super powers.

[@capricedowsland3068]

Me too😂

[@ial6274]

Sounds just like me, everything's always black or white to me. All or nothing. Live or die. High or low. I'm never in a gray zone, "in the middle" if you get my point. That's so frustrating...

[@wickedphantommisgirl]

Your videos have helped me be so much kinder to myself! Thank you both oodles!

[@peacehope7365]

This is absolutely spot on 👏

[@loullabelle80]

Yesterday I was diagnosed as having combined ADHD. Watching you makes me feel less alone. Wish I could ask you all my questions!

[@ADHD_love]

So happy that our videos have helped you. 🩵🩵

[@amgoudman]

We strongly suspect I have ADHD although I don't have a formal diagnosis. Watching your videos has reinforced this and shown me that I'm not alone and that I'm not just some crazy weirdo. Especially the disorganization and emotions bits. TOTALLY me.

[@delphinium5555]

I feel the need to be telling everyone about the tasks I've completed, praising myself up. Is that an adhd thing? Is it because nobody else ever did? I reckon so.

[@loner1295]

You two are seriously helping me shed the shame! Thanks a million.

[@gillpop]

Pretty much everything checks out. And I had so many jobs, I basically just leave the ones I liked the least on my CV on purpose to make room. Sweaty mess when I’m late definitely checks out, which is why I really wanna get there 2 hours before.

[@capricedowsland3068]

I constantly crack up because every dang video on this channel is spot on me to the "t" except one: i don't t-rex walk but every other walk i do and everything else is spot on me. I'd think she was psychic about me but naw she just probably is and it takes one to know one here. Lol. Ergo we are probably just all alike us with add. And i guess im the internalizer because i don't act hyper. You won't see me jumping up and down like Woody woodpecker, tho i do fidget a lot and toss and turn in my sleep.

[@TheMacDiesel]

Ah yes I'm truly a jack of all trades, master of none. I've landed so many careers and get just good enough that I can be lazy.. until I inevitably get bored and leave with no warning 🤣

[@drmeam406]

I am very similar

[@Laiuka1]

Every time I watch your videos I wish I could really express my gratitude. From across the pond you’ve helped a mum.

[@kierafyles5245]

Oooo...so is all that not "normal"?! Every time I watch your videos, I think I am getting a step closer to an epiphany!

[@anibalsoriano3329]

the last one hits hard, it took me a lot of years to understand that you don't feel that way doesn't automatically mean I'm overreacting, it's more like you can't believe someone feels diferent about the things than you do.

[@delphinium5555]

Love this couple. I have bipolar and C-ptsd. I don't have an adhd diagnosis although therapist did ask me once if I thought I had it. I think many of the traits overlap, I certainly relate to much of what they say. Lovely people.

[@RationalNon-conformist]

Yes, this is why people think they have ADHD l, but they don’t-it’s good you understand that symptoms can overlap. I have Tourette’s and ADHD, my childhood was not easy. I think it’s sad that people are also pretending they have Tourette’s, or think they have it, when they’ve never dealt with the tortuous feeling of tics and uncontrollable sounds that come to the surface. I was so embarrassed/mortified because I’d be in the store and someone would look at me like I’m psychotic, lol. I mostly try to control them and then they get worse when I’m alone. However, since changing my diet, I’ve see on significant improvements in ADHD/Tourette symptoms. No dairy, sugar, grains, soy, nightshades, etc. I’ve even read that you can minimize PTSD symptoms with diet too, Dr. Chris Palmer had a great book called ‘Brain Energy’.

[@SjarMenace]

Awwww i have adhd too i know the struggle. Its actually true when i have a body double i can clean.

[@krism6260]

I was undergoing diagnostics last Tuesday. It still surprised me that at the end of the day, the psychiatrist said, the crying i had done regularly throughout the day, are actually a symptom of ADHD. Goes to show how a bias towards male expression of emotion in ADHD (getting angry or agitated easily) can really throw sand in peoples eyes in regards to a more female display of emotional disregulation. Never, ever has anyone said to me: you're so easy to cry, have you ever tested for ADHD? Your brother has it... 🤷‍♀️

[@daleearnshaw9087]

Well done this is so help full.be proud.i have adhd diagnosed at 50.thank you so much❤️

[@TheVibesAreOff]

This is just so good. Currently reading Small Talk and the validation I'm receiving is actually helping me to dig myself out of a dark place. I was right on the precipice of sliding into a very unhappy, dark and torturous place.... reading and learning about the ADHD Lies and feeling the support come at me from the pages is just.... well, everything I need at this time. Thank you both, you beautiful people ❤

[@ADHD_love]

Gosh, I’m so so happy that Small Talk is helping you. Keep working at calling yourself out for the negative, be kind and compassionate to yourself. It’s hard, but keep at it. Sending love. 🩵🩵

[@TheVibesAreOff]

@ADHD_love Thank you so much for what you do. I fully appreciate you have jobs and lives and family, quite apart from your social media presence. On top of that, you're dealing with ADHD and all it's fu*kery. So I massively appreciate your output and the superhuman effort you will sometimes have to put in, in order to give us this awesomeness. You're both making SUCH a huge difference ❤️❤️❤️

[@katherinebuchanan9350]

I used to be told that it showed 'lack' (of who knows what) when I had 18 different jobs for my resumé - so a strategy is to only list jobs demonstrating the skills required for that job .... Not every job

[@holleighlordel1575]

Preach it!!! 🙌🏻 although I can’t say I’ve ever arrived 2 hours early for anything ever 🤣

[@ADHD_love]

😂😂

[@ELLA888]

You are lovely ❤.. I understand this very well. . Because I go through it. 😊

[@sherrymiller-nk6uv]

Love you guys so much! If all of us just had a partner who understood it would be a game changer! Thanks for all the great encouragement 😘😘😘

[@ADHD_love]

You’re welcome, thank you for your kind words. 🥰🩵

[@alittlepieceofearth]

You've had 25 jobs? Good on you for being able to keep track; I've lost count.

[@drmeam406]

I'm looking at the mess that is my flat and the clothes all over the floor and a week of high energy TILL today where I've achieved nothing and feel dreadful and had to leave the office for a bit to escape the bombardment. Good to know we not alone. I would a break from that constant feeling of being on high alert and buzzing for no reason at all.

[@brendatomlinson]

OT: I need those overalls! I screenshot them and going to search for them

[@HobbitBroad]

Both my daughter snd I have very strong emotional responses. My daughter gets over hers really fast. I don't. We did have a long discussion about it and I went into great detail that when I'm overwhelmed I am not angry at her. It's very hard to teach a child emotional regulation when it's never been taught to you. Yes we are both getting outside help with this because we know how important it is. I am very proud of my daughter actually. She tells me everything going on in her life and is very open with me on her feelings. One thing I try never to do is be dismissive of her feeling.

[@jerhaden]

I'm a rare case of having had the same employer for 23 years, but I have held 12 different positions in that time, so I guess that might count as having different jobs. Everything else definitely hits hard!

[@Investigativebean]

I found my fixation of a career in mobile pet grooming. It was perfect, because I was able to stay on the go, and I was always working intermittently with the owner. Things like scheduling were handled for me with my time consciousness issues in mind. It was beautiful to be able to move about, enjoying the day somewhat outside. I had to interact with the humans, but they were mainly pet people like me. My hyperfocus made me even better at my job. The cooperative animals made it a comfort, and the fearful ones made it a challenge I gladly accepted. I am a stay at home mom nowadays, but I love that I can go back to my career later in life if I decide it is the right time. If I ever got super brave and ambitious I could start my own business.

[@lisastenzel5713]

I know a person unable to get any "normal" and society approved job that earns at least somewhat of the amount a person in this country needs to live...and after hanging on to an income 1/5th of what she needs over years and years... finally someone told her, she should get checked out or ADHD. She fits this video to the T and is afraid of the results, even though the test is 6 months away. I like her so much and then there is that moment where I start asking myself: why does she has no live due to no income? She is so awesome... The answer was there all along. She was the only one around willing to help me, when I was quarantined and needed groceries. She took 2 hours to get me 6 items from the store and pick up my to-go meal from the place 2 minutes from the store. She didn't even mention that she had major anxiety about grocery shopping, especially in stores she didn't know. And she didn't even mention it afterwards. Like over a year later I figured it out, cos she was telling me a story about a doctors visit and why she suddenly didn't answer her phone. And I was like: Girl, that sounds like an anxiety attack...big time. That's when she said "yes my therapist says I got some issues about that." In fact her entire life is build to function around her anxiety. She doesn't do anything that could provoke anxiety and the main thing here is the job. That is just mind-blowing to me and unfair and not cool, that she had to live like this all this time. And non of her friends or family is doing anything!!! Like, her mother owns a house that she rents and her father has money on end, and she gets ZERO financial help

[@cucumberwhale]

Even if it takes me a hundred different jobs to figure out that forever interest so be it 😤 Aiming for a bright and colorful life experience should be something to strive for, not something to be ashamed of! (easier to say than do but damn do I want to believe in the possibility!)

[@Dancestar1981]

Only any good if your not blocked from doing what you actually want to do

[@misty7897]

Love this! ❤❤❤

[@catrinholmes7026]

I just need a cuddle. Yess, cuddles free over here❤❤❤

[@blouburkette]

Do remember not to use your ADHD as an excuse to abuse people with your intense and unregulated reactions. They are not responsible to give you the benefit of the doubt. We live in a society and we all need to respect each other.

[@krism6260]

Practice what you preach.

[@gabihagelstein515]

I’ve had more than a handful of jobs, but I’ve always known that I wanted to be a software developer ❤️ I loved learning how to do cool stuff with the computer as a kid and even digitized my grandma’s cassette tapes for her 😂 I took one coding class in high school and I knew that’s what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. Now I’m 28 and recently accepted a full time position where I’ve been interning. It’s a dream come true.

[@aellalee4767]

I have the 'tism. I've had 12 different types of jobs, and worked for more companies than that (change in company ownership or changed location made me technically employed by someone different). I changed jobs so much because people wouldn't explain how they worked and expected me to "just figure it out." My current career is seasonal, so it's expected you change companies often. I'm having to do another job so I can go to university for a secondary career to have during the off season of my main career now. Wonder why I'm using working with people who are also ND? 😂

[@Sarah_H]

"You need to keep your work spaces and your home clean and tidy." Fortunately my ADHD coincided with growing up in a hoarding situation. If I do not obsessively put things where they are meant to go and clean/organize every bit of clutter in my space, I LOSE MY FUCKING MIND

[@HaneenIAdam]

Your my newest hero❤

[@drmeam406]

I ALWAYS ALWAYS get everywhere mega early. And I'm regarded as "over sensitive," coz I do respond emotionally to changes in my environment.

[@melissagodwin1594]

Forever Fixation. Oh man, THIS. I’ve been wondering what to call this myriad of things that just keep coming back. I will obviously never perma stop doing them, even if I do take a break every now and then. Now I just need to figure out how to milk them for $ without losing my love for them… 🤔

[@Wednesdaywoe1975]

Same! I made a little list the other day of the things I know I will be focused on on my deathbed.

[@moniquerichards6099]

I love the dungarees 😊

[@bagodrago]

Not me getting distracted at work and watching this 😥

[@rainbomg]

*ADVICE? HALP? should I get a degree?* _question for anyone, really_ I’m 40, and this channel has been the biggest step toward self love that I’ve ever taken. Part of that means I’m trying to reassess and reorient my career & $$ right now; trying to find the best route someone with primary inattentive ADD (that has knuckle tattoos 😙) might choose to guarantee future success. I’m really leaning into getting a degree of some kind bc it seems like the only way to _possibly_ avoid crushing poverty is through hire-ability. I’m fairly book-smart, slightly above average (I test in the 99th percentile but I’m a good test-taker) so I leaned on this _heavily_ to succeed in school; I was in advanced placement courses where I was able to learn the material during discussion, then pass any in-class work/tests with high scores easily but I really struggled to complete projects on time or remember homework, especially on “easy” subjects. So from what I’m told college isn’t really about knowledge acquisition, it’s about schoolwork and showing up. So at my age and level of self-taught knowledge, plus the experiences I’ve had, I’m assuming I’ll have to finish a lot of “busy work” on subjects I’ve already learned. Are there resources for this type of challenge? For ADHD? It scares me bc I’m terrified of failing in a way that involves so much build up and promise. I’m afraid of getting all these people involved in enrolling and starting something so big and expensive just to fail in a way that appears to others to be deliberate and purposeful. Also I’m too old to waste another second. I know doing nothing is worse than doing something, but I just have so much emotion wrapped up in this. Should I even bother with this? I’m an artist and I’ve survived for a long time this way but I really want earnability and stability that don’t directly depend on my ability to create art 100% of the time, bc even in that industry not having a degree is a major detriment. My time blindness and procrastination are easily my biggest setbacks with this disorder, so I’m used to being scrappy, non-traditional and “hustling” to accommodate my ADHD. I’m ready to spend the 2nd half of my life with less of a feast/famine drive of desperation, (plus I’ve been told that being hot really helped my art sell by jerks I’ve dated, and I’ve only got maybe 5 years left of that _tops_ ) I don’t know how to be a person, really, but I want to be able to afford luxuries such as healthcare and housing. I’ve hustled without one for 20 years, I need a degree. I have crippling fears of failing due to my own seemingly “lazy” inability to “apply myself” to the tedium of higher education. I think online programs are a necessity bc there’s no way I’m going to reliably make a 55 minute drive for classes every day. I just know _at best_ I’ll be late every day bc my absolute BEST is late. Like, if I’m *_thriving_* maybe I’m only 10 minutes late. I just know online is the only way for me to do it and even have a chance. This comment in and of itself is an act of procrastination and avoidance. HALP ME ADHD PPL HOW DO U SCHOOL PLZ

[@scarba]

If you live in the US and it doesn’t work out then you will have debt and regret. Can you also do an apprenticeship? A qualification which is specific to what you enjoy? Alternatively you could apply to study abroad, the Netherlands, Germany, Scotland. You don’t pay fees there. I got a degree as a mature student but I didn’t know I had adhd and handed in my work and studied for everything the night before thanks to hyperfocus. You could do a graphic design qualification?

[@katzenbekloppt_mf]

Like You two a lot😊❤

[@thewonderfulworldofkatushya950]

As someone with ADHD type symptoms, I found that hyperfixating on being early helps prevent being late😂

[@theguywhodoesstuffstuff]

wow yeah so deep and meaningful..its really cool how youve found an excuse for all the stuff you do that annoys others. well done. maybe its society that needs to change for YOU!!.. all you are doing is giving yourself a dopamine instant gratification fix by thinking this is all good and others should have a "oh thats just your fun quirky adhdness.. ahahaha lets forgive and excuse every transgression or issue youve caused others.... or how about this instead.. Dopamine sensitivity is something that the individual can control. The more you force yourself to delay reward, the more sensitive to dopamine you will be and the better equipped you will be to navigate social expectations and situations. look at the jelly bean test as an example.

[@drmeam406]

I've had a bad super low energy day today and feel.guilty but It will pass. I know I'm not bad. I work hard. I just have energy levels that fluctuate and with the surges of energy and achievement I get troughs of exhaustion and withdrawl

[@Tiggerfox12]

Oh yes, a cuddle & a cry❤

[@sn0wflake742]

To biggest issue ive ever had about being neurodivergent is having to deal with normies (themselves, masked to the gills) treating me as if my diagnosis is a sickness or deficiency. Maybe they had to, or the else divs would build confidence and actualize their full potential, leaving normies behind to compete over who is "the most average."

[@Dancestar1981]

I’ve lost count too totally traumatised by the whole experience

[@ratk0zm0z]

Someone tell me how to get organized without body doubling because I have the most severe performance anxiety in the world like I can’t even put butter on toast in front of someone without completely losing all sense of reason or relation to my body or remembering how to just function brain to body :,) I get stage fright being alive

[@damenkapric586]

Yes, just a cuddle and I am fine ❤

[@ADHD_love]

🫂🫂

[@cheyloo]

I have a tag on my key that says, "NEVER NOT LATE"!!!

[@rebbbgiunta4450]

Soo true xx

[@futurecongress21]

So true.

[@moxon80]

No two people are the same, that is true for people with ADHD too. Food for thought

[@delphinium5555]

As I'm doing chores I say out loud what I'm doing. Is this an adhd thing?

[@Wednesdaywoe1975]

It helps!

[@a_921]

How do you guys manage to have so many jobs?! I am SOOOO slow at learning new stuff. And I'm not just imagining that. At work, in hobbies, games at social events, I'm LAWAYS the last one to "grasp it", usually long after everybody else is doing it without even thinking. Getting a new job every year or two seems like a nightmare to me, even if I've at times had bosses that caused me to cry i the bathroom on a daily basis

[@BadKittyNoMilk]

Does anyone know how we can find out fixations so we can have a job or own a business that we excel at? Thats a puzzle I’d like to solve. I’m tired of making corporate companies richer. It’s my turn.

[@crlake]

True.

[@vinnytnecniv]

😊😘

[@Come-findme]

What the hell is time management I have no clue what that is also I love the body double app also I will only hyper focused on astrophysics

[@hollister9661]

But wait! How do i find my forever fixation 😂. Im experimenting with adderall and as a person in recovery it kinda terrifies me. Anyone know of any suggestions? Or maybe is this even a good idea? Cuz it do be really out of control lately thats why i have resorted to this. Help! Lol😂. ❤the vody double thing. I never realized it had a name!

[@Curiopus]

💯

[@victoriazwergmaus9813]

Yes to all of them

[@evadebruijn]

❤️✌️

[@southney7211]

Glad I’m not the only one who’s had over 20 jobs 😄

[@asaandersson9214]

❤

[@metamorphic8]

G💎LD

[@TimJameson-jg8sl]

Wow..me.

[@bonnacon1610]

Hey, where' the Like button?!

[@kristinburton4953]

They made a sneaky change, you have to click on the numbers.

[@mammybelle7302]

i always turn up too early

[@BlueeyeswhiteGamer]

I have no one

[@ashwilliams4959]

I was struggling to focus on your slow spoken sentences 😂🤦‍♂️

[@JoonaDanielTuhkanen]

Ai että hampaiden pesu kielletää

[@15minoflame]

[@sarahrichard8441]

Ok whatever

[@ironmaven1760]

Impulsive! I see my clutter, my floordrobe, my unfinished everything piles, bills to pay... and i say to my husband " Lets go for a DriVe to the MouNtAinS!" anywhere but here..too much adulting to be done here!🫣😂😂