Workplace Gossip (Rules to Avoid Office Gossip)

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thanks for watching! Do you have a lot of mean-spirited gossip in your workplace? Comment below with “Have you heard?” if you’ve ever been the subject of mean-spirited office gossip?

[@jschultzf3]

HAVE YOU HEARD..! Yes, definitely. I really try my best to stay out of it these days, but sometimes it's tough.

[@sancreation882]

Yeah but I don't want to gossip about that.

[@iancorzine]

This is such an important video -- it's so hard to avoid gossiping AND when you do it, you're showing others that you may not be trustworthy.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Exactly - which is the last thing you want to do in the professional world (or in general!) Workplace gossip could really harm your professional reputation.

[@Bluesnakes333]

This is such a manipulative tactic. Simply bc you don’t take the gossiper’s side, you’re an untrustworthy person? Only a toxic person makes you feel such a way.

[@TMillerm16]

That's why I am in my world and only work, go home, done! Never listen, everytime people gossip around me, I zone out. I say nothing to the person who is being talked behind their back, because It would mean that I take sides. Small talk? Nope, small talks are dangerous, because everytime it starts with the weather, it will end up with gossips. If people say Hi to you everyday, just smile back and say Hi, then go do your work, don't linger!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

I think that we can still foster relationships at work, we just need to be true to ourselves when it's time to step away from a conversation that is transitioning to more gossip than coworker small talk. Thanks for watching. Cheers!

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

Introverts unite, man.

[@JaneStoller]

If you ignore them, then they will gossip about you.. if you listen, they will gossip about you :)

[@AdrianaGirdler]

This is so true. No point in adding to the endless cycle. Cheers!

[@MixSonaProductions]

If you call em out, they will also gossip. And they self assume

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

@@MixSonaProductions they’ll gossip irrespective of what you’re doing or not doing. In the absence of specific social/boundary propriety training/coaching, they just can’t help themselves. They do not value trust.

[@Dawahsphere]

So true. During my initial years of working, i tried to be as passive as possible thinking they wont gossip behind me as i wasnt being interesting. Guess what.. they gossiped about me more than anyone else

[@BeátaŽáková-r5y]

If you breathe, they will gossip about you

[@ProfessorHeatherAustin]

Workplace gossip is the worst. I try to avoid this as much as possible.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

It is definitely something that should be avoided! Glad to hear you don't take part in that mean office gossip. Cheers!

[@natalieclarereadings]

This was something I used to struggle with. But even if I'm self-employed it's still happening around somewhere. I LOVE LOVE LOVE your positivity! You're addictive :)

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Yes, gossip always seems to be happening somewhere! Thank you so much for the compliment. A little positivity goes a long way. Cheers!

[@laurendempsey9644]

These are great rules on how to avoid office gossip. Workplace gossip is the worst. I've been on both sides of it; I've had rumours spread about me but I've also talked badly about others. One time, I was talking to one of my coworkers about how another lady we worked with was so over dramatic, and I turned it around by later coming back and telling that coworker that I was going to give the lady another chance. Having compassion and realizing that there is two sides to every story makes all the difference!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thank you for sharing your story! I'm glad you learned something from my rules to avoid office gossip. It truly is important to know how to deal with workplace gossip if you don't want it to ruin your reputation. I agree, having compassion is key. Cheers!

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

I'm always wary of that "one" coworker who knows about everything and everyone. I always feel like it's a bad thing when someone knows something about everyone. I once jokes with a coworker, "I bet you know more about me than I know about myself huh"? Lol

[@AdrianaGirdler]

It's so true, there is always going to be gossip in the workplace, it's just up to us as individuals to avoid being involved. Hope this video was informative on how to deal with workplace gossip. Thanks for watching and wishing you a wonderful 2020, Cheers!

[@BalancedtotheCore]

Oh man, in my last job, the venters LOVED to come into my office. I felt so trapped! I'd always make an excuse that I had to run to a meeting or something and then go hide in the bathroom until they were gone. LOL. Not a great tip. Yours are SO much better. Thanks for a great video, Adriana.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Oh man, that must have been so tricky to navigate! Sorry this video didn't come out back then, LOL. Sounds like you don't have to deal with those office gossipers anymore, but at least now if you ever come across a similar situation you'll know what you can say. Thanks for sharing your story about workplace gossip. Cheers!

[@healthyvoicetips]

So true! Office gossip is terrible but people just love it!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

I will never understand why! Have you ever had to deal with sucky office gossip?

[@RVersity]

Man I use to get in trouble for not participating in the gossip. It was damned if I do and damned if I don't. I have sooooo many stories. I even lost a bonus one year because of something someone "said about me that hurt my bosses feelings". I found out a year later when my boss was drunk and he decided to vomit this info. WOW just WOW. Thanks for all these great points and tips on how to deal with gossip in the office Adriana ❤🙌🙏🙋

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Wow, that is the WORST! Perfect example of why workplace gossip sucks! I can't believe you lost a bonus because of it. That is crazy! You should direct all those people to this video on how to avoid office gossip, lol! Hope things are better with your work going forward. Cheers!

[@heathercunningham4824]

Workplace gossip is pretty much a given. Great tips for how to try and avoid the gossip or if you can't...at least don't spread it. Gossip can definitely create conflict or hurt your reputation. As you said, best just to avoid it.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Exactly. Thanks for watching my video on rules to avoid office gossip. I hope you don't have to deal with lots of workplace gossip in the future - but at least now you'll know what to do! Cheers!

[@CliffordStarks1]

Nice video Andriana! So true loose lips sink ships. Gossip is dangerous for yourself and others 👍

[@AdrianaGirdler]

It truly is. Have you ever had to deal with workplace gossip? Cheers!

[@CliffordStarks1]

@@AdrianaGirdler 😂😂😂 Oh yeah, my demeanor in life has always saved me from getting caught in the middle of it all though 😀👍

[@AdrianaGirdler]

That's awesome! So glad to hear that you're a pro with this already!

[@LittleRavensArtNest]

From someone who worked in an accounting office that took us all to Seattle and Hollywood on annual trips...gossip isn't worth it to make friends, 9/10 times one wrong move and You become the new subject. When I went to a new company they didn't even know I had kids until 7 months later. Keep it to yourself unless it's positive, that's my best advice if you make small talk. Otherwise do the job and go home, not everyone is your friend...

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Well said and very true.

[@BWoodPhotography]

Stopping it with you and not passing it on is crucial. It can become a huge black hole that you get sucked into if you participate in it.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Exactly. And the more it gets passed on, the bigger the problem gets.... Which is not good for a work environment! Cheers!

[@YourBestDesignedCareer]

Pick your friends wisely is great advice for all kinds of reasons! Good strategies on avoiding the pitfalls of gossip Adriana!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thank you! Have you picked wisely throughout your career?

[@asadb1990]

thats simple there are no friends at work. just that you have to be friendly and polite. anyone who says otherwise is not to be trusted.

[@karinakeith2695]

Workplace gossip can be so distracting and unproductive. Mean-spirited office gossip can only hurt your career.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Workplace gossip is no good for anyone! Thanks for learning my rules to avoid office gossip. Cheers!

[@therestartspecialist9229]

Gossip around the watering hole. So lets get rid of all water fountains. This is such a great video and so practical.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Haha, yes! Thank you so much, I'm glad you found it helpful. Have you ever had to deal with workplace gossip?

[@sajeedadihyat]

I said to the gossiper: don't talk negative, it is hurting u, dont hit ur self, and the irony is they still continued talking!!! people don't change! avoiding is best!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Unfortunately some people don't change. Thanks for watching, cheers!

[@DalDhaliwalOfficial]

Great video Adriana. Excellent tips and advice on avoiding office gossip. Thanks for sharing.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thanks, Dal! Have you ever had to navigate a tricky situation with office gossip?

[@MidlifeCredo]

Oh, I'm so glad that I have not worked in a place like that, but good tips!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

You are so lucky that you haven't had to deal with workplace gossip! Thanks for watching, cheers!

[@foushoo]

Man I used to be this person, looking back at it- it made my workplace toxic. I decided to adapt a new mindset going into a new job, that being less chatty and more responsible. Turns out, the people I work with are exactly like this. I ignore, I hm’n, I nod and I don’t respond and I still have no idea why people even talk to me ab dumb fucking gossip. I’m not interested, I don’t even show an interest. Do you have any tips on what to say? Even my HR director is like this.. it’s so embarrassing

[@AdrianaGirdler]

I am so happy to hear that you decided to adopt a new mindset. Making this change will only set you up for greater success. I have a video about dealing with Toxic coworkers that I think may help. Here is the link kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWrQnH6alt2pfZI Wishing you all the best and thanks for watching, cheers!

[@LucyGriffithsdotcom]

Gossipers are really awful and probably in the same league as bullies! As someone who has been bullied in the workplace, I appreciate this video a lot. :)

[@AdrianaGirdler]

I'm so sorry to hear you've had to deal with that. It is no fun for anyone and only creates a toxic work environment. I hope that the tips in this video help you if you ever come across this again! Cheers!

[@HeatherGerhardt]

Love the dog with the earphones! So important to not be a part of the gossip problem, and instead be a part of the solution. Great tips!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thanks, Heather! Yes, there is already enough workplace gossip out there so there is no point in adding to the issue. Have you ever come across workplace gossip?

[@MikeSarge]

So TRUE!!! Thanks for sharing! 😀

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thank YOU for watching! Cheers!

[@jamessamy]

Yes gossip is everywhere 😊

[@AdrianaGirdler]

It really is, which is why it's important to know how to deal with it. Have you ever had a bad experience with workplace gossip?

[@jamessamy]

@@AdrianaGirdler cannot really recall exactly. The word of me being no good at work and not corporative .. so on. But actual fact is that there is no such thing. The one who gossiped is the one not doing the work. Sometimes things go against and gossip is dangerous

[@AdrianaGirdler]

@@jamessamy I agree, gossip is one of the most dangerous behaviours to a workplace environment. Thank you for sharing your experience. Cheers!

[@Dawahsphere]

Deflect the negativity Ignore the gossiper Dont vent

[@HowToMakeDinner]

Good reminders to just steer clear of all that nonsense! Nice one Adriana :)

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Yes, no point in getting involved with it! Thanks for watching, so glad you found it helpful. Cheers!

[@SimpleMarketingAcademy]

Great tips, Adriana! Another reason I'm so glad I work for myself.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Wonderful! So glad you love what you do and don't have to worry about certain things like workplace gossip. Cheers!

[@greekmamalife]

I love this video. Gossip is for people with no interest :)

[@AdrianaGirdler]

I love the way you put that. If you are truly interested in keeping up with your professional reputation, gossip is the worst thing you can do. Cheers!

[@menacemonk4000]

This is a great video! Every time I was wondering around a lot of people there was always gossip going on ugh.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

That is no fun to encounter. Do you have any strategies for dealing with gossip?

[@menacemonk4000]

@@AdrianaGirdler When it comes to gossip whether it be in the workplace or not, I try to avoid it. Ever since I was little I tried to stay far away from it because it would drain me to hear or talk negatively about others. I always figured I had so many of my own issues so what place do I have to speak down on anyone else.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

@@menacemonk4000 That's such a great perspective to have. It's true, we all have our own issues to deal with so there is no point in using gossip to create more problems. Thanks for sharing and I'm glad you're making the world a better place by avoiding gossip! Cheers!

[@Drostvideo]

I liked the examples you shared

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thank you! Which tip was your favourite?

[@lukeswain1752]

I heard it said that people who gossip to you about others also gossip about you to others. I just want to do the job and go home. Let's not say a word to eachother! 🤣

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Unfortunately that is so very true but it's still important to develop positive working relationships. Thanks for commenting and watching, cheers!

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

Just don’t talk to anyone at work when you don’t have to (unless you’re actually friends with them). I feel like nurses have a good reason to befriend each other (because it’s very much community-based and nurses in general are of a very respectable, down-to-Earth disposition) but if you work in an office your co-workers generally shouldn’t be anything like friends. Ditto for housemates/random acquaintances you don’t actually vibe with like that. People in general talk far too much and if you give them a reason to have dirt on you in those closed environments, they’ll utilise that opportunity with the most peculiarly-ready alacrity. They ain’t got no chill when it comes to disrespecting and violating the personal space and privacy of the people around them. It’s not something they value highly by default nature. They have to be told specifically to control their tongues and not gossip about unassuming co-workers they barely know, otherwise they’ll just fabricate and babble away.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thanks for sharing your thought and for watching, cheers!

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

@@AdrianaGirdler any time. I’m drawn to videos like this like a magnet so I’m always going to chime in and add my two cents. ;)

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Fantastic! 😊 Hope you have a wonderful day!

[@lamajigmeg]

great opening!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thanks so much! Cheers!

[@colynmajor]

Avoid Office Gossip: Follow these Rules 1. Ignore-Avoid Them Whenever Possible 2. Do not Vent 3. Do not spread the news

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Great tips! Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment. Cheers!

[@ARLREALITYLIFEMOMENT]

Thank you very much for your tips and information. More please madam.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

You are so welcome! I have new videos on my channel every Wednesday. Be sure to check them out. Thanks for watching, cheers!

[@ARLREALITYLIFEMOMENT]

@@AdrianaGirdleryes please. The bell will notify me. I have also my channel, but you are the best.

[@Carolinaeyecandy]

Thanks for sharing!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thanks so much for watching! Have you ever had to deal with workplace gossip? Cheers!

[@mangalkanojiya9236]

Nice tricks

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thanks for watching, cheers!

[@luffyy8194]

I just wanted to know, that if we talk with coworkers about topics like hobbies, does that also count as gossip, I mean what is good and bad, should we talk only about work??

[@AdrianaGirdler]

First let’s start with the definition of gossip…. casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true…..it’s ok to talk about life at work, like hobbies, family, shows you are watching. It’s not ok when we spread rumours that are not true as this hurts people (aka gossip). So chat away but be respectful and if you don’t know details to be true, then don’t talk about. Treat people the way you want to be treated and it usually works out.

[@lessismore8533]

@@AdrianaGirdler amen to the golden rule

[@jimcostafilms]

Great ideas.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thank you! Have you ever had to deal with workplace gossip?

[@jimcostafilms]

@@AdrianaGirdler Maybe being responsible for it ;)

[@AdrianaGirdler]

@@jimcostafilms Oh no! Haha, we have all been that person at some point or other. Cheers!

[@anishasworldofwonder1697]

At middle school there is a lot of gossip at lunch time in the cafeteria

[@AdrianaGirdler]

I can imagine! These tips are great for the workplace but will also work for you at school. Which one are you going to use when people start gossiping at lunch time?

[@ifahhh4563]

Hi Adriana, I really need your help. I'm working as a part time staff at a workplace. I would like to be a permanent staff there, but since my attendance not really good, I'm afraid I would get that job or not. I can see my supervisors quite upset with me. I usually prone to get sick. Due to this my attendance quite poor. I need your advice what can I do?

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Focus on getting healthy. A full time job will have more responsibility and more stress. You can also talk to your manager about this and ask them what you need to do to be considered for the full time position. All the best.

[@RVersity]

Dam* water cooler!

[@ExperienceCalm]

Love these tips, i hate gossip ; )

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Workplace gossip is the worst! Glad you found the tips helpful. Cheers!

[@youngvanocomedy1118]

Hello fam, you ae right all of what you just said. Keep doing what you doing, new friend joining your channel with the bell on

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thank you so much for your support! Have you ever had to deal with mean-spirited workplace gossip? Would love to know. Cheers!

[@egfchannel1699]

I had such experience when i gossip my colleague and it came back to me but i actually regretted it and dont know how to make it up to her

[@AdrianaGirdler]

All you can do is apologize and then refrain from future gossip 😊 Hope you can both connect again. Thanks for watching, cheers!

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

She doesn’t even have to forgive you like that. If that was me I’d be fuming.

[@The12thSeahorse]

Loved your video, 💕but at 1:28 you didn’t explain why gossip can be so addictive.....and many times more addictive then cocaine? Or is that for another video?

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Than you so much!! Explaining the ins and outs as to why people gossip and why they thrive on it is definitely a video all on its own. Thank you for your comment, I will put this on our KZbin video idea list for the future. Cheers!

[@TLscreechflarexx]

Great now I know how to avoid it just look the other way wish there was a Button haha 😂

[@sarahsmith3302]

I didn’t think I was a gossiper 😩 why can’t I shut my fat mouth!! I’m a venter..hmmm recalculating now

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Hi Sarah. It’s ok to vent but make sure it’s outside of the office and not with those you work with. Sometimes we all need to blow off a little steam. Thanks for watching, cheers!

[@wildwomanenchanted6742]

I never got involved with this. I was always too busy! ... but I do remember as a group way back we all use to go to the pub on Friday and that was the spot we used and chilled out the week ... and it was those of us that were close ... This is great advice! ~Elizabeth

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Hey, Elizabeth - so glad to hear that you never got involved in workplace gossip! It sounds like you focused on your own professional career and kept up your reputation by surrounding yourself with good people, which is awesome. Cheers!

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[@AdrianaGirdler]

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[@AdrianaGirdler]

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[@AdrianaGirdler]

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[@MixSonaProductions]

Whisperers are cowards There is nothing to whisper or gossip about. Nothing to hide.

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thank you for watching and for your comment. Nothing good ever comes from the whispers at work so best to avoid these situations.

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[@AdrianaGirdler]

Thanks so much for watching! Cheers!

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[@AdrianaGirdler]

@SheilaMcNutt. Thanks for watching to the end of the video. I really appreciate it. You caught one of our earlier renditions of a video when we use to promote that document, hence the reading of the title. As channels grow, content evolves. Please check out some of our latest videos that have even more great career and project management advice. Cheers.

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