Advice on Dumb Boyfriends, Going to College, and More

The Mountain Goats Will Cure Your Bieber Fever: themountaingoatswillcureyourbi...
Michael Buckley's Dear Buck: / peron75
In which John answers gives advice to real nerdfighters on the topic of dumb boyfriends who say they don't like smart girls, leaving home to go to college, boys who maybe like you, dating your friends, how to conduct yourself during a job interview, catching Justin Bieber fever, and how the Mountain Goats can cure you.
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[@ingonyama70]

I have heard very few absolute truths on KZbin. John Green's comment about the Venn diagram is one of them.

[@sofiagolpe2224]

that sounded more of jhon the author than jhon de youtuber, liked it

[@TheAwesomenessCoolio]

I love the way John is like a dad or an older brother when he's giving relationship advice to nerdfighters

[@ninjabreadgirl]

Agreed! Especially since I have no one in my life to give me advice like this... I love these videos so much! :')

[@newkidwithoutbraces]

"Don't bother with someone who maybe likes you" is, i must admit, some of the best relationship advice I've heard.

[@kristenk3051]

Actually the venn diagram would be a small circle of boys who don't like smart girls within the larger circle of boys you don't want to date. Because male axe murderers who do like smart girls would hopefully also be inside that larger circle of boys you don't want to date. However, I still love that quote!

[@floriantennapel6908]

You really should remove that link to themountaingoatswillcureyourbieberfever Its a virus now.

[@cjsparks02]

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[@theamazingjason3729]

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[@spencergeller2236]

Don't go to the mountain goats website in john's pants. And don't have google translate it to english. -PSA from a helpful nerd fighters

[@loopywalrus2]

Too late.

[@spencergeller2236]

Oh boy.

[@loopywalrus2]

The internet is a magical, yet terrifying place.

[@Scazamadooo]

"Cumming diet from Nissin food products sold will be food in the modern diet food chosen by many people. Can continue eating what why elected is a product from Nissin food products that major food manufacturers so delicious taste and is rich in variations from getting tired." I love it.....

[@f0rm0r]

Spencer Geller Yes,sir, I have a question. WHY THE JOHN C CALHOUN IS "themountaingoatswillcureyourbieberfever.com/" a website in JAPANESE about the ****ing diet?

[@samvidas9599]

2:01 (turns into giant squid of anger)

[@novelplottingandpeonies9571]

That is exactly what I came for :) Thank you.

[@dkecskes2199]

John and Hank (and employees of theirs if applicable): PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE take down the first link!!! It is no longer anything like its stated mission and forgot to be awesome and turns your computer into a decepticon. Maybe find a good KZbin playlist of The Mountain Goats music with which to replace it.

[@avakining]

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[@sarahdangelo7061]

So I clicked on it before reading the comments, realized it wasn't what it used to be and closed the tab immediately. Is there anything else I need to do to ensure it won't turn my computer into a decepticon?

[@dkecskes2199]

Sarah Dangelo If I recall correctly, I just restarted my computer and all was well again, and it's been a month.

[@jrgenchristensen7240]

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[@LavenderMilkshake]

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[@MsPotatobag]

YOUR HAIR'S BEAUTIFUL, JOHN.

[@Steelersarethebomb]

This has to be my all time favorite vlogbrothers video. I just love the giant squid of anger and John's eloquent use of venn-diagrams

[@janeycreeden9122]

I have to say, I am a girl who has never dated a guy who didn't think she was too smart for him, but not in a I-wish-you-were-dumber way, in a wow-you're-smart-that's-cool way. I don't think I was smarter than either of them, but they both did, and I think a guy doesn't have to be book-smart to be happy with a girl who is, or vice versa, as long as they appreciate that about each other. And he better appreciate that a nerd girl is a gift, as much as nerd girl appreciates someone who stops her from crossing the street into traffic while she's explaining her strong feelings on a novel.

[@TheMistOfThePast]

THIS

[@nickynak3]

Janey Creeden I am a nerd girl engaged to a nerd boy who is cleverer than me, but I'm pretty sure (if he had to choose between me being smarter or stupider than I am) he'd prefer me to be smarter. I think any person who is secure about their own strengths is unlikely to be intimidated by strength in their partner, and vice versa.

[@emilygray2025]

Talking about novels while walking into trafic is such a mood omg

[@bamboozi]

The everything ends advice feels especially relevant now. (2020, pandemic times).

[@marissagrace23]

Can't wait until John is giving Henry this kind of advice :) Henry is very lucky to have a dad like John.

[@johnc6497]

Stumbled onto this as KZbin auto-played into it from another video. You good sir earned yourself another sub!

[@highfivehangten]

+John Cummings Welcome to the Nerdfighter family! The weather is always awesome because we live indoors :)

[@insertcheesypunhere]

Welcome to the Dork Side. We have cookies, John and Hank Green, and a ton of rad celebrities. Please enjoy your stay, because it will probably last forever.

[@adammartinelli8274]

Also occasionally Obama...?

[@jessykaros]

"Now Im not a physician I'm just the guy whos wearing a cheap suit jacket, no pants, and my own face on a shirt" New Motto

[@kellycrawley4861]

I’ve always been a nerd and I’ve always loved your videos, but recently my mom has started watching them with me. She loves them and loves you guys and thinks because of you maybe the Internet isn’t so terrible. Thanks

[@usharegames]

did anyone else notice how he wrote "patience grasshopper," in the fault in our stars, and said it in this video?

[@sheaelliott942]

John's advice makes me so happy. I forgot how much I loved the vlogbrothers until now. I can only thank myself for finally going back... Gosh I love Nerdfighteria(and the fact that my computer now recognizes that it is a word) DFTBA and Best Wishes!!!!

[@RedVolly]

This was such an awesome video...loved it John :) DFTBA!

[@haileyjeantipton-duggirala9810]

Patience grasshopper. I am officially fangirling. That was maybe my favorite moment from the book!!

[@skylerwitherspoon]

the beginning of dubious advice

[@alextcherdak5896]

Um John, the longest time someone's ever had the hiccups is 42 years... Just saying...

[@supervoid2651]

nathalie alexandra Tcherdak The answer to life, the universe, and everything is hiccups.

[@alextcherdak5896]

stargirl in the dustlight​ tru dat XD

[@alextcherdak5896]

I believe you're one year short on that otherwise beautiful reference ;)

[@squidlover1005]

This was my first vlogbrothers video and I fell in love, I started at the beginning and I am very excited to get to this one, I thought it would be farther along, it makes me happy that I'm getting closer to now ;)

[@Jilybeanrb]

Johnnnnnnn I'm addicted to your videos now. This was great, I look forward to the next advice vid :D

[@rainingwishes6226]

My boyfriend recently (like half an hour ago) told me his was intimidated by my intelligence, and I remembered that John once answered a similar question, so I dug through the archives to find this video. But I'm by sure his advice really applies. Any nerdfighters who see this, could you help a girl out and give me some advice on what to do?

[@StephanG007]

I would let him know that intelligence, is a strength like every other kind of strength, physical, financial, influence, etc. And just like every other kind of strength it exists to serve others and improve their lives. And just like every other kind of strength, it can be abused. Then, you could let him know that you are fully committed to wielding your intelligence with gentleness and compassion to leave others better off than before they met you. And that if you ever did something that made explicitly made him feel "less than", that it would be an abuse of your gift on your part, and that he should let you know. Then you could ask him if he would be prepared to enjoy your intelligence with you, as something that makes life better, just as you enjoy the various strengths that he uses to make your life better. It might also be worth mentioning that although it's one of the strengths our current culture celebrates the most, it's not necessarily even the greatest strength. Most geniuses with IQ's well above 160 make no meaningful contributions to society. And many of history's heroes were people who primarily wielded other strengths: William Wilberforce used his capacity to instantly connect with people to start a hundred thousand conversations over dinner, until he swung the opinion of the entire nation so they could abolish slavery without a war. Mandela changed his though his capacity to listen compassionately and react to pain gracefully. What matters isn't the strengths we bring to the table, but the way we wield it to serve the people around us.

[@francescamele8077]

Stephan Goosen and this is why I love Nerdfighteria.

[@StephanG007]

Francesca Mele I am thrilled that you like that my comment. (If that's what you're implying). But, I'm not a part of Nerdfighteria. In fact, I don't even know what it is. I'm just a random youtuber drifting around all over the place.

[@eddycree8]

your reply was over eleven months ago, and I kindheartedly hope you have taken the time to learn and consider yourself to be part of Nerdfighteria... DFTBA (Don't Forget To Be Awesome!)

[@c.y.i.didnt.change.my.handle]

Hey, so, since I now know you answer totally random questions and concerns: I think I've known quite a few people in abusive relationships. Most of them were girls being abused by boys, but most of them also got out of those relationships fairly quickly (2 years max). The others are boys being abused by their girlfriends. They stay in these relationships much longer (2 years min) and seem even less willing than girls to accept advice/help. I think it's because of this strong manly man image guys think they have to live up to (and that they think you have to be week to be abused). My question is, how do you think our society (and individuals) can start supporting guys who need to leave abusive partners? Also, no one ever listens to their peers when it comes to advice on their abusive relationships. I think they might actually hear it if you say it.

[@SteampunkPirates]

that's great!!! glad it worked!!! hope you enjoy your shirt! Best Wishes, DFTBA

[@Dollanganger]

I don't think I could love you more right now, John. You mentioned Neutral Milk Hotel in Will Grayson, and you linked to a website about how The Mountain Goats will kill your Bieber fever. Way to mention my two favorite bands of all time. So proud to be a nerdfighter right now.

[@ijustflewaway]

Excuse me, that Venn diagram is a donut. With that dealbreaker as the hole in the middle. xD

[@gdarrowood]

About going being a freshman: Ignore the drinking part, and follow up on what John says about how you're all in the same boat. Make relationships with those you meet, and actively seek friendships. If you sit in your room moping about missing your parents, that's all you'll do- but if you go out and make an effort to meet people and new friends, you may become too busy to be sad at all. Don't forget your family, but forge your own identity outside of it while keeping them in your heart.

[@yoroxie]

I love you john green and hank green. I look up to y'all and find you very inspiring and understanding

[@ffzman]

When procrastinating instead of studying for finals one day, I stumbled upon this video because it had just come out and youtube thought it was important enough that it was on the front page. Deciding to give youtube the benefit of the doubt, I watched it. John's love of the Mountain Goats is what initially hooked me but since that day of first watching over 2 years ago I have now watched all the videos on this channel. You guys never forget to be awesome, and I want to thank you for it.

[@Askingak097]

The page doesn't exist anymore D:

[@horsecrazy2266]

omg it's a japanese diet page now

[@wogdog985]

for me it was a “rewards for apple user” thing it’s a virus but as long as you delete the tab without clicking anything on the page you should be fine

[@thereformer]

I was watching and i can't help but notice...that picture of a pony.

[@mrsplays9817]

Where?

[@thereformer]

look for it. like a wheres waldo thing

[@comedyforage]

jeremiah peever Ah! Found it. Lol.

[@14newage14]

This was definetly one of the best videos ever for the Vlog Brothers.

[@thatkidwithabook]

Thank you so much. Seriously. You, my friend, have saved me a lot of time and effort. :)

[@raquelfantoni2812]

How do you recommend girls should respond to unwanted male attention in the form of off-color comments and innuendoes? Are we supposed to ignore it? Call them out? Laugh it off? (I'm not referring to strangers cat-calling, I mean comments from acquaintances and coworkers)

[@CleopatraKing]

Call them out and report them to HR

[@Etheliajumper]

I finally found where this quote is from! I saw a gif of this long before I knew who John Green was, and look at me now, I'm a nerdfighter!

[@Me-vn3gz]

I love the subtitles, they're hilarious.

[@Dukeoftacos]

After hearing you go on and on about them, I finally started to listen to the Mountain Goats. Apart from being awesome, they have the line about people being wrong about saying it's darkest before the sunrise. That misconception just makes me think how much time people are wasting in bed. Get up and watch the dawn every once and a while. It's pretty awesome.

[@pharlik]

Hahaha, the Venn diagram reference was AMAZING. You guys rock :)

[@stephr222]

I am excited by the Jasper Fforde book on his shelf.

[@Chagan80]

KUNFU REFERENCE! I love you this much more now , thanks for that , i needed that

[@avar.3768]

Some of the best and most hilarious advice i've heard all day. And that boyfriend ven diagram analogy is PRICELESS.

[@dandilionqeen]

my brother drove the mountain goats cross country while they were on tour this last november, they are wicked awesome.

[@tlasz24]

John, you're the man. This video is epic

[@supertheaedithman]

"It's kinda an act of... yuck!" Whoa, your qualities as an author, really shines trough! ;)

[@StorytimewithAlexFamily]

YAY! my favorite John Green quote revisited! Venn Diagrams FTW!

[@newsieluver]

John, your advice on wearing vlogbrothers tee worked on getting more nerd fighter friends IRL. I got to start talking a guy I was crushing on in seventh grade (I'm now a senior) and I was indimidated at first, as he's really cool, so I geeked out. I truly am a nerd girl :)

[@MsAshch]

I love to rewatch this video over and over simply for the squid of anger and the truth in the Venn diagram

[@doncarnine]

Hahaha, first time watching your videos. Going through them now. Great information! Really cought my interest.

[@missregal_]

To me that sounds pretty intriguing. Keep going with it :)

[@Neomi189]

Ohhhh! I finally got it! Thank you so much!

[@snowgrett14]

I didn't know you wrote Looking for Alaska! I read it a few years ago. THE PIECES ARE FINALLY COMING TOGETHER :D

[@besties4ever18]

I love how you have soo many books behind u

[@cloebaby97]

OMG I LOVE YOU FOR MENTIONING BUCK! lol not that I didn't love you before... You still rock

[@springheeledjacques]

I had to pause after "giant squid of anger" because I was laughing too hard. John, please do that again sometime.

[@gwenzeezee]

the video title is speaking and calling to me, John, how are you able to answer to my questions. 😂

[@TacticusPrime]

The Venn Diagram thing rocks. Speak the truth John.

[@MangoSplishSplash]

John, awesome vid! I'm really looking forward to the next vid like this :) Quick question: How did you decide writing was the career for you? As a recent university grad, i'm lost!

[@Cakeontheroof]

I love these videos :)

[@TheMightyFangirl]

I LOVE YOUR HAIR.

[@CodedLockFilms]

Sweet! I love advice videos!

[@iloveteal36]

Why does this amuse me so much??

[@themightychickens]

John, thanks a lot for reminding me how good the mountain goats are.

[@eshant94]

So this is how Dear Hank and John started

[@SerenitySong6]

John I just read 'Paper Towns' and it freaking blew my mind! Its the best book I've read in quite a while. Very Cool. I'm gonna go get your other books :)

[@luchilenium]

It's so awesome that you have Jasper Fforde book on your bookshelf. Maybe you should recommend him to nerdfighters?

[@kaylasea8098]

its 2017 all of this dubious advice still stands!

[@Natturs]

Dear Buck is amazing! And this is too! Woohoo for advice

[@SoDashing1990]

John, you are my hero. No question.

[@Damianarose]

Puff levels are SOOOO high in this video! Gosh John!!

[@danininja94]

My friend wore her pizza John shirt to Disneyland and we found a fellow nerdfighter. it was awesome!

[@ReggieChan23]

Well I just love this guy. How did I not know of him for the last three years?

[@ellencradd10]

okay, "patience, grasshopper" & john's likening of everyday situations with venn diagrams are two definite TFIOS references. these have been over looked... UNTIL NOW!

[@GirlTalkWithCarol]

Wow, that was LOL and wise too -- and I'm an advice columnist so I take advice seriously! I also was at the Edgar Awards when you won -- so cool! Congratulations on your books and vlogs!! (I'm a vloggin' novelist too...)

[@feetonfire1]

I just realized every time I have ever thrown up always ALWAYS hashes a story to go with it.

[@socathy]

i've been saying "this is the last video!" for the past 30 mins ....there just too good.

[@sonorpaiste702]

LOVE the Mountain Goats reference.

[@MrBenram]

The pizza shirt helped me recognise a fellow nerd fighter on holiday in Majorca. Might get one

[@fionasimagination]

Spotted The Big Over Easy in the background. Now I adore him even more! :)

[@zachariah.j.j]

I love it when John gets so pissed, cos it's hilarious

[@colinvarner9579]

John has several copies of all his books. John also has a copy of his books from each country and language they are printed in. He spent years of his life writing them, and now they're like trophies reminding him of how much awesome pumps through his veins.

[@purplelilikoi1]

you are the older sibling/cool younger uncle i never had. just thank you, thank you

[@thExRADiCALS]

JOHN GREEN YOUR ANGER IS EXCELLENT.

[@iliveinadaydream]

"Patience, grasshopper!" AAAAAAH. SO MANY TFIOS REFERENCES. :D

[@AlisonMejury]

I met a girl in my history class because of her John Green pizza shirt. We've since started many conversations about nerdfighteria, and our mutual excitement for TFiOS. A new friendship has since emerged :)

[@Lorenzio77]

“The Venn Diagram of boys who don’t like smart girls and boys you don’t wanna date, is a circle!” I love you John

[@frogsandfrosty]

Definitely join clubs, or find some group in your school that makes something: music, a play, films, sculptures, whatever. I'm happiest when I feel like I'm a part of something, and it's so much easier to do that in college. I used to write for my school's sketch show, and I made some cool friends.

[@Kboss66]

I could not explain how much I adore you. Ever.

[@lailinshale]

I never got drunk or threw up in college, but I DID get introduced to Doctor Who and the amazing complexity of the human psyche and made friends via mutual nerdiness and philosophical discussions. I had a good time.

[@ScottKorin]

It's Dear Johnsock and John!

[@DeathdealerNina]

dorky ppl ftw... i love you guys, your movies make my day.

[@gregorlamar9922]

The Mountain Goats are my favorite band of all time. So so so so so sosososososososo soso good.

[@PrettyGreenGoat]

Pssst John. Guess what. I had my AP test for Language & Composition yesterday, and I wrote about YOU. Yes. It gave me much enjoyment. Well, as much enjoyment as one can have when taking an AP.

[@ziggy071621]

mountain goats are amazing and to know that website exist is amazing

[@annalouise9914]

This video will forever be iconic

[@danininja94]

Yeah I've started rock climbing with one of my best friends and bringing other college friends along too. I joined Dumbledore's Army, though we don't meet a lot it's a lot of fun and they're really cool people. My major is also really small and our professors have us over to their house to hang out so I've started to develop friendships there too. Thanks.

[@FireFlyHorzey]

You my good person are a perfect mix of nerd fighter-whovian. I applaud your fantastic taste ;)

[@ScienceWinsEveryTime]

Hey John, just noticed after watching Hank's rap, that your video on Friday will be the channel's 666th video. Spooky! But also inspiring that you have stuck with us (or have we stuck with you?) for that long! Congrats, and try not to become possessed!