Why Are You Becoming So Lonely? Explained With DATA

[@aevytv]

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[@allenmano]

Hey Aevy please post important business analysis videos, I loved the dairy milk silk video you guys did before, Love your work ♥

[@Abhimanyu_Gupta_05]

10:06 the left side guy is handsome. What's his insta id?

[@allenmano]

@@Abhimanyu_Gupta_05 fr💀 ?

[@Abhimanyu_Gupta_05]

@@allenmano yeah not the one with specs, the guy on right hand side of the guy in center. Are u him?

[@allenmano]

@@Abhimanyu_Gupta_05 I can see whom you seeing....I'm not the one, ig I'm better lmao 💀 jk

[@arnabbhattacharjee3618]

One other effect of social media is that a lot of people have forgotten how to have a face-to-face conversation, especially a wholesome conversation. It has been almost 8 years I have deleted almost all my social media accounts (except KZbin and Whatsapp if you count KZbin as social media). When I try to converse with someone close to my age (i'm 28) face to face it's as if they just want to end the conversation as soon as possible and go back to their phones

[@lolong5976]

KZbin is a social media. Since it's initial purpose was to make videos and share it with other people. Cause back then other apps like Facebook and insta didn't have video uploading option. Only photos. Its weird that lot of yall people think y'all are different for not using other social media apps but use KZbin. And then justify yourself saying KZbin is a social media app lol. You making a comment here is itself a feature of social media, you do understand that right?

[@imKeshav]

I’m experiencing the same as well. People these days have stopped caring about reading, writing or levelling up their vocabularies because it seems that they’re just simply not interested in doing conversations with anyone anymore. All they want is to scroll down in order to get the next dopamine hit as quickly as possible. Some morons send me reels instead of text messages and expect me to reply with another reel! I mean like what on this f*ckin’ planet is this kinda “conversation” supposed to be? How have these people stooped so low that they’ve to rely on f*ckin’ reels and shorts to start or engage in a conversation? The situation is bad, and it will get worse.

[@imKeshav]

@@lolong5976 Let’s get this straight - KZbin is a hybrid platform which encompasses the characteristics of both the social media and the search engines. Some folks (like me) prefer to use this platform for it’s sheer excellence as a search engine while we still have options to engage with other users via those social media features which the platform offers.

[@bindutiwari4263]

​@@lolong5976nope , it's not even remotely as harming and addictive as other true social media like Instagram. It's a platform to produce and upload content not lifestyle. So the op's correct . You're just coping with the fact that you're a social media addict

[@Apurvanotfound]

I am a 17 year old guy studying for JEE. Loneliness was a prominent feeling which constantly felt during 7-8th grade. That was the year of covid. During class 10th I suffered depression. But later for grade 11, I adopted stoicism. Now whenever I feel lonely, sad, or even happiness, I write that feeling down in my notebook. idk why it works for me. I also follow the 'monk mode' by Iman Gadhzi. I just have whatsapp and reddit. People on reddit are helpful. I hope that I become successful in life. But even if I come on road tomorrow, I will still be happy for myself. I cannot control my feelings, I can only control the work that i can do

[@AmanSharma-sn8js]

Well - I am surprised to see an Indian channel addressing this. THANKS A TON Achina & Team Aevy!

[@shantanusingh7600]

Why are you surprised ?? Inferiority complex of Indians can be a topic of another video.

[@rexsongodinho5623]

Soch By Mohak Mangal also talked about ut

[@shivamarya2135]

This video is misleading with some random studies to make you work from office.. I agree some people might be suffering from loneliness.. go to gym work on health which will increase your dopamine.. everyone is not on social media and lonely.. I am WFH with my family and happy

[@shivamarya2135]

I would advise the aevy to increase the scope of knowledge and research like dhruv rathee

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@athxrw]

Loneliness has followed me my whole life. Everywhere. In bars, in cars, sidewalks, stores, everywhere. There's no escape. I'm God's lonely man.

[@LightBrandX]

What's ironic is you're not alone

[@TypicalIndian1981]

Bro same for me but I had learned how to cope with it and I feel better being lonely and I don’t feel lonely I know god so with me and I always think about god and can feel gods presence only thing is I don’t communicate with humans

[@RawhitOnTheBeat]

Us bro

[@ind_milsimp4551]

taxi chalate ho kya bhai noir york mein?

[@RawhitOnTheBeat]

@@ind_milsimp4551 ha vroo

[@visaalyadav]

01:46 Loneliness is becoming an epidemic worldwide. 03:30 Loneliness in Indian men due to migration and social media 06:24 Seeking attention on social media is not a substitute for real connection. 08:04 Building offline friendships is important, but many people lack the energy or time to make friends. 09:43 The world is becoming more tribal, impacting our social relationships and leading to loneliness. 12:23 Loneliness is a significant issue in India with over 40% of Indians estimated to be suffering from loneliness. 13:57 15% of men today don't have a close male friend 15:29 Building face-to-face relationships is essential to combat loneliness in the digital age. Crafted by Merlin AI.

[@rockyh1652]

Thanks bro 😂 life and time saver

[@amanraibole]

06:10 most ironic statement of the entier video

[@YASHASARTZOFFICIAL]

Abe this is more in abroad also Ye log views ke liye 😂 Bend ki

[@luckybasanti8684]

Did you made AI watch the whole video and make timestamps

[@visaalyadav]

you get it right, and in just one click

[@ashyurieka6860]

My teacher once said:- "Computers are most useful invention while smartphones are most useless invention."

[@hsdffdsffs8006]

​@@aravindrangan6339how much million did you earn

[@iam.mystic]

Every thing has its own set of pros and cons. Ultimately it's just less competition 😂

[@vijayrangarajanramakrishna318]

Says someone communicating with someone in other part of the globe with the same invention lol

[@Kanayuesque]

She was prolly braindead lol .

[@parthbarua6155]

Your teacher is shortsighted and I don’t mean that in a literal sense

[@brianeshilo]

Maturity is when you realise you don’t need to share everything on social media but instead share it with people when you actually meet them. In fact, talking about something to someone will always make you happier than just counting likes and comments, especially if it’s not a business. What has happened is people just get some sort of pseudo-satisfaction by posting their moments online. Live in the moment!Memories were never meant to be publicised or be applauded for…it’s your memory, why would you expect a stranger to react to that? Much needed video❤

[@Creative___Mind]

The key to a genuine connection is a sort of understanding. You are free to act how you want, say what you want, without fear of judgement or backlash. You have this understanding that even if you end up offending the other person, they will see it as a simple mistake and not a character trait. Of course there are nuances to it with people being toxic, not respecting boundaries and what not, but at the heart, you should feel safe in being your authentic real self while knowing that the other person became your friend for that very thing. Not for your money, status, or one particular behaviour or interest of yours.

[@techworld6163]

👏👏

[@axel3895]

So you want me dead

[@aj-zv1zk]

Feeling lonely when you live alone or have no friends is still understandable but feeling lonely even while surrounded by family/friends is the real danger 🤕!

[@sanathjoshi5952]

Hats off to Aevy team to address this issue ❤️ lots of love guys

[@Mugiwara_Sanjii]

Tbh I like being alone, i don't care what people think about me, apne kaam se kaam rakho that's my motto. A person can enjoy life even if he/she is alone.

[@bhargavsai8014]

Same Apna kaam banta bhaad mein jaaye janta ♥️

[@NewstatePlayer100]

​​@@bhargavsai8014yeh chiz sarkari mantri nhi bol sakta Respect yar 😡

[@bhargavsai8014]

@@NewstatePlayer100 I didn't understood what u meant?

[@tarunmehta4896]

This is wrong statement bro aise to apna hath jagtnath bhi bolte h this is also wrong noooo😅

[@crazyop5165]

Yes

[@dhawalmadankar4471]

I always hated COVID. It felt good initially as a break from everything but I soon realised that it is the worst thing that happened to us.

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@dragoonxgamer]

yeah i lost all my friends it took me a whole to find new one

[@nexusten8868]

Blame the CCP

[@pranshu2op]

Problem started before covid

[@anushreekumbhare5762]

Besides my family, I only have 3 friends, but that's where it ends. I have been friends with 2 of them for 5+ years. I love spending time with myself and those few people who are my 'tribe'. Social Media has taken away abilities to converse in real life for many, I like to spend 6 months off social media and 6 months on it to create a balance but every time I leave it, I feel like never coming back. A life without social media is much more peaceful and productive for me.

[@pallavsingh8932]

I felt pretty lonely back in 11th and 12th grade cuz of a new school. I consider myself as introverted (kinda) but my social life took a hard hit. It started from no friends to bad grades and isolation from family and the people who I had little contact with just seemed to disappear. It sometimes physically hurt and IDK the science behind it, but it does. I felt invisible even when I was in the middle of a group. Three years later, I'm still trying to make friends and interact and socialize more but its not that easy as it is shown in movies and shows. I'm better and still trying and I think that makes a difference. Thank you so much for making a video on this topic. P.S. you guys should make more videos on topics which affect the human personality, like this one. Just a suggestion. Godspeed!!!

[@slayer_142]

Bhai m 25 ka ho gaya mujhe aaj bhi log bacha samjate h 😂 tu bc 17 saal m apne apko mard samj rha h 🤣

[@pallavsingh8932]

@@slayer_142 from where did you get the idea I am 17?

[@slayer_142]

@@pallavsingh8932 you are 30+?

[@pallavsingh8932]

@@slayer_142 ofc not... Shifting towards mid 20s... Besides age is just a number for people. You can be an adult by the age of 20 and still be a kid at the age of 40... Different maturity levels, different responsibilities

[@slayer_142]

@@pallavsingh8932 40+ valo ko India m attractive nhi samja jata h 😂 bollywood actor's are exception unki baat na karna

[@ano3000nymous]

"We don't understand the difference between connection and attention". This statement really changed my mind. When I get involved in a chain of comments under a meme or a post, I feel like surrounded by like minded people, friends, but it is not connection at all. As soon as the dust settles they are gone. It was only temporary attention.

[@AmanSingh-ee9so]

"Social animal to Social Media Bots" Man I'm preparing for civil services and I can use plenty of example from this video in essay in short the content is that good. Great work... Good topic and actually good easy explanation.

[@motivation4you494]

I recently came across your video addressing the challenges of loneliness, and I must express my gratitude for the insightful content you provided. Your video holds immense value, particularly for those who may be grappling with feelings of isolation without fully understanding their emotional state. As social beings, genuine connections are integral to our well-being, and your message resonated deeply. I sincerely request you to consider creating more content tailored to the modern era, focusing on the younger generation and mental health. Your current video stands out as one of the finest on the internet concerning this crucial topic, and I believe that your continued efforts in this direction would be highly appreciated. Thank you for your dedication to fostering understanding and awareness around mental health issues. I look forward to more enlightening content from you. Love From Pakistan!!

[@L.I.T.H.I.U.M]

The real problem is the trade-off between friendship and work. I guess you can work with friends, but how realistic is it? You can get them to work with you but you can't focus with them around, and when everyone wants to pull off a way to avoid being spoon-fed by robots working for you, you can't waste time. Checking KZbin takes no commitment, 20 minutes and you can decide to work anytime you want since you're still in your working space. Going out with your friends is guaranteed a lot of time. It's a big commitment.

[@L.I.T.H.I.U.M]

*to take

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@yogeshsivan570]

I'd say that many parts of the video were relatable with the kind of person I've become with my screen time. Thanks for shedding light on everything loneliness, Aevy TV team!

[@saumyadeepdasgupta4340]

Don't know about being Lonely. Everytime Aevy Tv's notification pops up, i know for a fact, it's going to both Educational and fun.

[@rahulpare4414]

When you focus on your career, you want to have a bright and better future, you must need to be lonely, you gotta walk on your own path alone by eliminating all distraction and pursue your passion. The World and India has been through a lot of changes.

[@tauqueerahmedkhan2917]

It's ok to do that but now people think they have connection with others due to social media and too lazy to initiate any conversation with others and keep keep themselves busy with KZbin or reels.

[@NewstatePlayer100]

I used to think like this But it's useless for me Things sometimes tends to be neutral

[@NewstatePlayer100]

​@@tauqueerahmedkhan2917religious hate is another internet war

[@ritushree8262]

Thank you for reminding people that they are lonely through this video. Loneliness, no friends is a pandemic today. There was a time when there was no internet, no social media, no mobile phones. People were forced to socialize, engage with each other. But now we live in a time where neibours dont know each other.

[@N7_YES]

Yes make smartphone internet so expensive that only fewer people can access them.. If it happens then there will be no smartphone no internet and people will force to socialsize with their neighbour...

[@ShivamKumar-xh5wf]

We're in our 20's, So we should definitely try to be more socialize and make friends. As we grow, It'll more difficult to do so..

[@mr-x-unknown9320]

It took me so long to remember how to conversate with normal people... I couldn't even maintain eye contact. Due to my low-self esteem(which became worse when I got called weird), I wasn't confident in talking to people... people thought I was weird. I guess online bullying is another major issue, anyone can be a 'someone' nowadays, and abuse anyone else. I'm a young teenager and the people I am referring to are teenagers(about 14). I can already see the future of the country.

[@divyam432]

There is no solution; the older you get, the worse it becomes. While you can attempt to address this problem, success is elusive because capitalism has deeply impacted everyone for the sake of greed, either making money or printing it. Successful men and women are those who prepare for their worst times during their happier days.

[@manangarg1]

This is just a so incredible video about loneliness with the perfect solution. The problem, the causes every thing has been perfectly aligned and stated in the video. Thank you Aevy team!

[@anonymousbro3889]

hi aveyTV, Its exactly me u r talking about. extremly lonely getting suicidal thoughts every single. not able to found a group that i can fit in. i am earning enough amount of money but not getting a social connection not even a single person i can spent time with.... i got seviourly bullied in my childhood and toxic house environment... so i locked myself in room and narrow down mind to only focus on my career may be with that i will be able to attention from people ... i earned money but i am still a fearful child inside me.... who is always feeling suppresed by the whole world in my mind ..... I FEEL EXTREMELY left out I Cry out loud inside my car in a silent room and getting suicidal thoughts everyday doing this comment from my anonmyus account because i feel anxious if i do it from i real account ;)

[@allenmano]

Humans life span are said to last about 80, know one knows how's your next year gotta be.....Live to get the best years of your life, It will come soon......my luck and wishes with you =)

[@mrjiophone4987]

Try finding a hobby and join its community, for example car community /offroading cars/ swimming. Once you are in a hobby try communicating with others having same hobby then you will find ypur circle. Also improve diet, avoid caffeine, tobacco, alcohol and start a better diet as it also affects the brain. Also try jogging in the morning amd read literature. Its hard to communicate if you are afraid of it or your brain relases bad chemical, fiest imporve other aspects then try communicating, will work. Ps its coming from a medical professional not a incel.

[@nith9n]

buddy don't always think how to end your life think how can you not end it or how can you come out of that feeling just go out in your leisure time I think there will be that one friend who will chill out with you, hang out with them That's it from my side I think I am younger than you but I also got those suicidical thoughts but I somehow got out of it myself I hope you will also get out from that feeling and start having a happy life 😊❤

[@hariharansivan2585]

You are not alone. You are the case of almost every school topper in India who were forced by their parents to sacrifice simple joys in life for the bigger goal(doctor, IIT, IIM) Such kids become a target for bullying and never get good friends as their friends circle is filled with kids who just want to group study or share notes. After 25 years,you realise whether it was all worth it that you sacrificed your entire childhood for a good college/job and left alone. People will always say " forget the past ,look at bright side etc " but they don't understand the pain you are going through. Also forming friendship is very tough in late 20s. So it's better just to spend time with people with no longer term plans. If they don't reciprocate,then just move to other groups. Don't get immersed into social media as It will make you even worse

[@meowrbius]

hey...this is not a solution or something. But just saying there are lot of poor people out there who can't even get basic necessities in their life. If you can show some help for them, you can't even comprehend the amount of love they will give to you. You will become like God to them. They will never forget you till their end. I'm not even joking. Just try for once and see their reaction. I'm saying this only becuz you said you're financially well. And don't isolate yourself. Isolation increases negative thoughts. Also stay away from fking reel apps. One more thing is fix this trio if you haven't yet: Sleep well, Exercise right, Eat healthy. After doing all this, if you still feel the same, only then reply to me.

[@Than_os]

Now a days friendship for majority means a way to exploit money & kindness of others for their selfish needs..so it is common for the victims to retreat into themselves for their own sake.. Also a wise man qouted:-" if you feel lonely when you are alone that means you are in a bad company"..i believe all you need in your life is confidence and believe in yourself and don't ever seek validation from others. And most importantly learn to control our emotions even if it is happy or sad it should be under our control..

[@karansena]

Finding a good genuine friend is impossible nowadays. Just like you I got so used to being alone. It has become my second nature.

[@omkarthorat9651]

i have been dealing with this for months now. although in my case i didnt leave my house but i came back to it. i dont certainly feel lonely but i miss my friends and my college days which i recently graduated from. this is because i dont have any friends in my hometown. now making friends as an adult is not easy. with social media and constant validation in our hand 24 7 even worse. but i faced this during the lockdown as well and when i went for my graduation everything seemed fine. not once have i felt lonely when i was there. its a real issue and it can be solved but as you mentioned it really needs some effort. i hope everyone figures it out.

[@amalbvas5793]

Same condition 😢

[@Welliam706]

Hope you are fine

[@NewstatePlayer100]

Same shame 😢

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@meowrbius]

You're right...Its very hard to make friends after the college. People around us in the workplace will never become friends. They just stay as colleagues or work mates or business partners. Only way is to join some like minded communities where competitive mindset doesn't exist.

[@Paras-vl7zf]

Great case study! I myself have suffered from loneliness during covid times and during jee preparation. But I don't think that playing games with someone or joining communities do really help people. According to me, you need to put efforts and time both to make a friendship. The faster these temporary things start, the faster they diminish. If possible go frequently to your home, find your old college and school friends to talk. Quality matters!

[@bhavyakjain]

Much needed topic for today's society!! Thanks a lot for shedding light on this.

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@valochamp7979]

In my opinion Meditation is really great for decreasing loneliness, it is like 1 of the best tools that can help get out of loneliness

[@user-qd9ei3gx3f]

how?

[@valochamp7979]

Are you spiritual or have basic knowledge of it?, if not it will be hard to explain buddy

[@user-qd9ei3gx3f]

no i mean how does meditation get you out of lonliness? by making your mood better?@@valochamp7979

[@baazinews1027]

how do u do it ?

[@notybiscuit]

starting act was mad lol

[@adityaagrahari5997]

Hahahaha frfr

[@wedney2707]

additionally its not only smartphones and social media but there are cases of "gen z" as they call themselves dont relate to the mindset of their older generation people i.e includes parents relatives etc and yea stuff happens where you uk slowly lose ur presence within that very family or u itself distance urself due to them not being able to understand ur "genz' mindset in this case as well people choose to be lonely not because of choice at times they have developed such a mindset where they feel like until they get the right person who supports them in whatever they do good or bad they gonna stay lonely and either enjoy or suffer. (idk what i said in the above para if u get offended i am sorry )

[@robotcodm7668]

wonderfully said and i agree with you (Im a gen-z). I don't even know what to reply but what you said is true and i completely acknowledge it.

[@nerduser1000]

+ i second this @@robotcodm7668

[@NewstatePlayer100]

​@@robotcodm7668yes bot bro

[@Ankitx21]

I'm rn 17th studying in class 12th PCM . I would be taking a drop year to prepare for Jee Mains I also have 0 friends / person whom i can share my day to day life issues , after doing all the work studies at the end of day there is no one whom I can talk with it feel too much empty Most of my school mates go on short trip nearby hill station by contributing 1000-1500 . They never ask me to come with themselves because i belong from lower middle class family and Yes 1000rs isn't small amount No one wants to be alone by choice 😢

[@aloneonuniverse]

From my own experience I can tell you Don't feel such thing It's just part of life . At the end of day, no one stays with you permanently. So learn to survive alone.

[@allenmano]

this is a hard time in our lifes bro, I can understand cuz im student too, We know why we are doing all these for, we know for what reason we prepare Jee for, jee isnt everything but I hope yk Life turns out beautiful someday for everyone, mostly sm like you too ♥

[@passionate_jj]

Same

[@allenmano]

@@passionate_jj time would answer & heal

[@unpredictableace732]

Money is not the issue here the main problem is that you havent made good relationships when u had time. Do not wory lufe is full of opportunities do your preparation abd get a job than you can start making new relationships. Good luck

[@vetiarvind]

Loneliness is a global problem, not just in india. I think it started with social media and smartphones. I mitigate this with forcing myself to meet friends atleast once or twice a week. Just hangout, drink, race, sports, whatever, as long as it's social.

[@priyanshsharma1744]

These are *not* the only reason for loneliness, for example a person not getting the job due to recession, because they are now only hiring experienced candidates while his friends have job and are now having 2 years of experience. The person would not be able to talk to friends out of the insecurity *not* because of the social media. Another example - let's suppose someone tried for government job for 3years and was unsuccessful, now his friends have 3years of experience and are earning well in private sector, the guy would then shy away and restrict himself from any socialization. *My point is, the loneliness root cause is insecurity and inferiority complex. It's true that social media and online work facilitate it but they are not the reason for it*

[@NewstatePlayer100]

I'm insecure 😢😢

[@Byrdmaniax65]

Exactly. There's also the neurodivergence aspect, where ppl with Adhd, asd, bpd, anxiety disorder etc. find it much harder to socialize plus probably have made poorer career choices that further aggravated their loneliness. Social media, video games, and internet are easy targets to blame, while the underlying issues of brutal capitalistic rat race, lack of employment opportunities, lack of proper mental health care and its acceptance are not explored properly.

[@brobamaa]

Aevy tv is the best thing that has happened to the Indian internet since AIB and TVF.

[@SO_SELL_ICE.]

Even when I was small I struggled to make some genuine connections with my social groups, I felt I was par & ahead of my peer's mindset & still this continues today. It is okay to keep yourself different if you do not fit into any group or so. I see people are so desperate to be part of any group or to belong somewhere, especially girls. If I had made some connections then they would have left me because of some circumstances so I felt unlucky at times. I realized that the quality of friendship is much more important than any superficial relationship & it shall be cherished if you get some. In today's generation, it even gets harder. My advice is to Let it be Natural & go with the flow, prioritize Quality over Quantity at 1st, then go for Quantity later. Sometimes even ignore other's imperfections to keep the connections in place. (In my opinion we are built to survive in any given circumstance we are not at all weak)

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@darshanajha1397]

While watching this I realised there was a boom in covid when everyone started talking very actively about mental health... And now that people have gotten into work from office model, the discussions and thoughts have decreased significantly. We are more considerate than before but have gone back to being reluctant about these conversations

[@enigma6149]

Happy you guys made a video to address this issue, I recall my days when there were no screens back then and was easy to tackle social media by meeting up in person. "It's true technology is a curse to humanity at times" I repeat at times !

[@aasishwarsaravana5748]

You put all my thoughts and experiences into this wonderfully well presented video! I too struggled with loneliness and the dreaded pit in the stomach when you are part of a group and yet feel that you arent part of a conversation, which made me even more secluded and unwilling to talk to other people Then at the lowest point in my life, due to few close male friends who supported me in my harsh times, i realized how valued i was to a very few group of people. And then it struck me. It didnt matter whether people accepted me or not, there will always be one or two people who will like me for my personality and characteristics. This realization was the catalyst that made me break out of my shell and made me open up more to people and get to know them better as many people have their own experiences and unique stories to tell! This made me more friends and new close friends too! However, i never let go of my old close friends and even to this day, even though we cant physically meet often, i put effort into speaking to them once in a while and catching up with them Once you decide to make your conversations with people real and offline, you realize how much there is in the world and that most people are friendly and not hate driven and selective like social media has led us to believe. I stopped spending time on social media especially instagram, as it gives a fake outlook of a good life while in fact, a good life is one with both ups and downs. So in the end, try to open up to people and be honest and real with them, as they may teach you valuable life lessons, and building connections is generally good in your future prospects and endeavours. That said, always keep you core moral values and principles firm so that you arent influenced easily by mob mentality and are a unique person amongst the crowd. Also wven if you make many friends, always put effort into maintaining personal relationships with your closest friends as even though many people would like a good talk from time to time, its the closest friends who truly value your presence and make you feel comfortable and truly care about your well being!

[@pistachioguy]

Great am lazy, I can't read it all

[@aasishwarsaravana5748]

@@pistachioguy lol 😂

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@mauing]

How do you maintain relationships as I know most of my friends or colleagues they don't pick the call they message and there is no one has time to meet . So how to keep up the friendship.

[@akanshayadav7749]

I am living away from my home since 3 years. Here i have people, but i feel loneliness because they don't get into conversation with me. I told it to my mom but she never get that. Its great that you guys have made this video. I am definitely going to show it to my mom.

[@TheIndianTuts]

Same for me 🥲 want to be a friend?

[@nerduser1000]

sure!@@TheIndianTuts

[@dobil6815]

When I was working in Mumbai I had really friendly roommates and some colleagues but after lockdown I settled in my hometown and I had some friends in my society but they were too mean to me and I always encouraged them to go out on a tour together but always rejected so I stopped meeting them and I'm an introvert so can't make new friends too. Also I'm a gamer, so any free time I play games as it's an escape from reality. Now only chances of the end of loneliness is arranged marriage and not too lucky with that too.

[@slayer_142]

In India 40+ people don't use social media they don't know how to use 😂 but western countries m aisa nhi h

[@dobil6815]

@@slayer_142 I'm not 40+ bro what are you trying to say?

[@slayer_142]

m bhi to vahi bol raha hu jab bhi m western page follow krta hu vaha 40+ vale aged log zyda milte h but jab Indian page follow krta hu vaha mostly 20+ vale log milte h 😂

[@NewstatePlayer100]

​@@slayer_142yeah Mummy papa ko nhi aata social media expect youtube aur WhatsApp 😂

[@NewstatePlayer100]

​@@slayer_142whi toh saalon ka fark Western se 60 - 64 -73 age vale milta hai India mai dada dadi nhi milte social media mai 😂

[@natrajc4423]

I can totally relate to it. The pain that i go through in loneliness is immense. After working on floor for 10 yes in industry I switched to to remote since then I started facing the heat

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@madhavkhandelwal8123]

Thanks a ton guys at Aevy for addressing such a big issue. Here's a suggestion from my side as well...one can join gym..I think this is the easiest way to interact with new people.

[@FireandIce-eh7mx]

As a JEE aspirant studying online. I constlantly feel FOMO and loneliness as i have no friend to talk now i always stay at home always. I dont have friends always ready to listen me uplike i had in regular school. Cant talk with parents much about my prep my mental health and all

[@im-Anarchy]

I can understand your situation, but genuinly I feel like people of your category(aspirants) are the most suffering living creatures on the planet, however I left that aspiration and pursued an easier and most certain path to success. btw GANBATTE!

[@FireandIce-eh7mx]

@@im-Anarchy what's that path?

[@cosmicgadgets4167]

@@im-Anarchy don't tell me it's something related to freelancing or content creation

[@im-Anarchy]

​@@cosmicgadgets4167​ Not quite, but ​why freelancing and content came to your mind first, my perspective has changed a bit past few years, my way is like first classify how world works what is sold, what is important(not some rote based examinations), then learn apply and then learn apply learn apply, earn money from that, then marry, have kids, don't stress much, live a comfort and honorable life, then die a natural death. and Voila! that was a good life!

[@Pakajana]

I myself am in a similar situation. Also am a Jee aspirant. Any way we could connect?

[@anikeshbh]

the solutions which you shared is the most realistic solution ever i have heard from anyone because i was huge introvert once, but doing the same things which you said i made so many friends and willing to make more in my college and i am also socializing myself more i feel. great video by the way

[@Adamwyatt20]

The topic they have picked up they deserve a huge round of applause for this. This topic should be bought in front and discussed. There is a need that this topic should be discussed with our youth

[@hunkai5804]

Didi aapko dekh lete hain to sara stress chala jata hai. Thanks for the Info🤩

[@plexusgamer1105]

Damn as someone who's living alone tens of thousands of miles away from parents for survival and ensuring they're able to lead a happy and comfortable life, this hit home.

[@naturelovers8644]

You didn't manage to address the problem of why there is such a big jump in mental health issues, social media is one of it but not the main reason

[@PrabhatKumar-fn4vy]

When you are living a country like India loneliness is a bless

[@NewstatePlayer100]

Yeah home is best place 😂 after a stressful section outdoor

[@arslaan2001]

This so called career chase, career growth, leaves you actually lonely and unhappy. Growth and money can happen with happiness and patience, with brotherhood

[@pratikjadhao9452]

The most detailed and very well explained video.

[@dipeshkumar947]

Mai to poora pagal ho gya hu , kya voice hai , kya khoobsurat hai ❤❤❤❤

[@ageless1003]

I love loneliness. It makes you come closer to yourself OR it can break you. Choice is yours. Also, i love a place where nobody knows you.

[@_Marathi_Jatt]

there are people who are fine alone but feel extremely lonely while people are around them.

[@AmolMY]

I never had problems making friends. I never had problem getting girls. In fact, I was the one who had to say no to girls many times. But I choose to be alone. It's better than being with the wrong people and dealing with their BS. One has got to be mentally strong to live alone. Have few genuine friends in your life and focus on your dreams. Socializing will just mess you up mentally. Stay isolated and happy.

[@shubham9672]

Exactly same man Soo true and relatable...

[@rahultriveditrivedi5451]

u dont know how lucky you are

[@NewstatePlayer100]

Isolation 🤖 COVID killed us

[@justahuman6928]

💯

[@ademonizedwretchguy003]

Bro said stay isolated and happy hahaha😂😂😂 what this doesn't make sense we are human beings we are social creature what is u talking about

[@satyaranjanmishra1421]

It is incredible to see this many people sharing their experiences & opening up. Too good to be true. More power to you for speaking on issues like this.

[@jyotiradityajadhav2243]

Honestly, loneliness can also be caused due to extreme commitment to something else like career, and it’s a fact that work-life balance doesnt exists if you want to excel exceptionally, there is no cure to such problem if we prioritise something else.

[@crazyop5165]

Yes

[@kunaln7]

i want youtube to separate shots from app..😅

[@snigdhasingh5682]

I think there's relatively less loneliness in india, if we compare to west or Japan, where there is much less of a "human" culture. I dont know really, ive heard this from relatives, but still, its definitely not something to be ignored

[@sampreetroy9189]

And this culture is slowly fading away, thanks to the rebel mindset of today's kids to not listen to elders

[@abhayagarwal5097]

​@@sampreetroy9189 elders don't know shit and never cared . Truth is no one cares in this dystopian world.

[@NewstatePlayer100]

😢

[@iamnoob7593]

@@sampreetroy9189 People are corcened about genz culture what a joke , Illogical set of people. Concentrate on imp things

[@Mohammed-tq3ut]

Great work! The information was valuable.

[@cokedupnormies2651]

5:00 I can relate to all of them. I had moved to Vellore for BTech and was instantly isolated pro max. I made some friends on similar tastes in art (anime, music, etc) but it faded soon. It didn't help that Vellore was going through a racist period where Dravidian politics was worst. Teachers continually abused children for speaking their mother tongues and even Muslims who spoke Urdu refused to speak to Hindus in Urdu as it would "pollute their Urdu with Hindi words". The loneliness was so bad that I gained 20kgs in 3 months!!! I think it's worse for men because of a lack of Masculinism as a movement. Women have Feminism. It is highly pushed institutionally. Most women see other women and see each other as a "class for itself" and are able to form tribes around that fact. They can bond with each other over "women only issues" and with media and art constantly reinforcing their issues they need little to no context to relate to one another. Men, on the other hand, don't have these perks, and society sometimes actively dissuades them from discussing their issues as well. There is no way men can "form a tribe" simply via their gender identity alone. We are forced into individualism while women have the advantage to choose collectivism as a protection shield. I would never shame any 18-19 year old to use their identity as a safety net, but we need to push society towards stronger bonds which are constructive and beyond the surface level. Religion is one way to do it. But there has to be a deeper connection, an emphasis on commonality, etc. same with Gender wrt men. Our issues should be discussed more openly. Thankfully, I see things changing now. It makes me happy. I hope one day we can look back at this moment the same way feminists look back at 100 years ago. I also hope we are able to surpass the gender identity as a whole and embrace androgynity in society wrt family and personality quirks. We are not the same; yet, we are all human. We can all learn from each other. Men can learn from women just as much as women can learn from men. I just wish men were allowed to do better by society. That's all.

[@N7_YES]

Bhai tune boys ka gangnhi dekha hai.. Ja kay un group say baat kr peet dengay tujhe wo...

[@cokedupnormies2651]

@@N7_YES kaun launde hai lol mein unhe peet dunga mein darrta nahi + Vellore waale Tamil khud Bajrang Dal mein bhaag le rahe yeh The Boys ka lallu si cheez hai 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@infinity1726]

A lot of women are not feminists. I am not. And a lot of men are also just neutral. If you don't find people your age, look for people a bit older or younger. Men & women. & Start travelling. You'll find people. Coz they are alone & wanting to interact.

[@cokedupnormies2651]

@@infinity1726 I do travel now and have a happy relationship but it isn't possible when you're bogged down with the stress of your B-Tech and it seems neverending. I'm glad the NEP is here now younger kids can change fields as per their wishes. But yeah, it is bad when you're just busy doing something you'd not even want to think about that too when you know you're in the prime of your life and could spend that energy doing something better.

[@shreeanshshukla148]

Main problem is also that. Friends play mind game with each other, instead of playing with the "Third Guy" who just came to create mess and fun with them.

[@Loveyourlife-ch3ol]

i think for me joining the gym helped... i think it increase your self esteem..and also it's easier to make friends there.. i mean there will be always someone who will be needing spot for either bench or squat... your are forced to talk to people there either for asking for weights or for doing a workout alternately in a machine..

[@rohit.chetry]

So true I became the victim of loneliness after COVID. I had better life back then.

[@spandanghosh_]

3:00 me on my way to smoke 10 packs and make friends with tapri wala, for health reasons ofc

[@sampreetroy9189]

So u will still b better off as compared to a lone non smoker haha

[@aren6]

you explain things so well, I commend you guys for your amazing work, and brilliant effort

[@Malicious_direction]

Sometimes I Used To Think You All Are From Europe 😂😂

[@rohan7212]

why?

[@raigaurav8]

Loneliness is just a state of mind. One who can master it can easily enjoy the journey of alone .Some people are alone but not lone

[@darkvader125]

as introvert i dont feel loneliness in my life

[@Sijo_Saji]

Our infinite energy 🗿💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

[@Vikrum_]

How do I determine if I'm lonely, I have quit Facebook years ago, Instagram a year ago, and no Twitter. It really helps guys. Value your attention, it is the most valuable asset.

[@pavansuhasl]

This is great that you guys are acknowledging the problems but plssss also give solutions if possible in your videos!

[@slayer_142]

In India 40+ people don't use social media they don't know how to use 😂 but western old people use social media

[@mayankkr.246]

Last part video ka dekho

[@kavishgupta1710]

In 2019, I left my hometown n moved to a new city, I tried making friends in my new school, however my classmates bullied me, they didn't accept me, i tried having conversations with them but it felt like they were just not interested in talking to me, it has been 5 years now n till this day i feel lonely n very terrible, i have a friend but there's not good bonding b/w us, my only hope is to move from this city n never come back here ever again🥺😔

[@robbiesonowal5613]

I was also going through the this recently and maybe still I am. This is because of My new college, where everyone is a stranger and it's seems kind of difficult to approach people and due to this I was going through a long period of stress and depression. Cuz there was No One to talk to, and I mean real talk heart to heart kinda. But thankfully Our college provide student counselling, where I get the chance to open myself. And Nowadays I feel pretty nice compared to my previous self, although I still doesn't have that heart to heart though. But I think I will find that too...hehehehe😁

[@Prasad_Nasu.]

If you become a teacher.. every student in India will pass. You're good at explaining Almost everything

[@Contactbps]

Age: 30 Status: Alone, No friends, no GF, Never had one. Numbers of demons inside my brain: Infinite. Are you in a similar situation?

[@im-Anarchy]

Im 16, yes. also +SuccessStruggle(had frinds but lost because of this), +vigrinity, +no money, +ugly, +unhealthy(fatty), +bad genes, +rabies infected....still I won't stop until I reach my end goal

[@Contactbps]

@@im-Anarchy lets gooo!

[@MyDreamLife]

Deng I have been smoking 16 packets of cigarettes a day for more than 10 years now... That's legendary level, no?

[@abhi1985pradhan]

Whosoever wrote the script needs to be applauded. Good work and nicely selected words to explain the crux of the matter. Thank you, it may not have added to improve ones skill but it surely has helped people to identify what and why of their current behaviour and things they unconsciously do in day to day lives that's harming their mental psyche.

[@Zxcvbnmq527]

Social media was supposed to make people us. But it had reverse impact people are more divided today than ever hating each other.

[@Leeknows_Iris777]

It's not just social media but family structure and according to my observation when you we do over correction to break off from the curse of old patriarchal toxic suffocating family structure (the middle class trap with suffocating moral values, forcefully imposed religious views and virtue signalling, etc) we end up choosing the other side of the spectrum which is individuality to the point it's lonely. So there's this new over correction of choosing friends as family (because of poor family dynamics) which is also alarming cause at the end of the day your friends will leave you for having a family of their own and it's true. All in all, it's not just social media but it's freedom because of money and an upgradation in lifestyle that we very much want but also many downsides to it.

[@may091985]

That’s a good observation, there seems to be no middle ground in this situation, even if one becomes aware of it, it’s tough task to tread this thin line for the sake of balance.

[@hardikmodhavadia2401]

It is a very good video! Informative, motivating and overall helpful!

[@user-tx3mo1ez2n]

Actually no one cares, creators are just making videos on trending topics.

[@drwar5585]

This video hits deep, good work AvyTv. Eye opener

[@manikanthvivek6520]

Thank you once again for discussing an important issue. Huge respect to the whole team. The comedy part at the start of the video alone summarised the whole video. It shows that a lot of thought has been put in the comedy part. How we started and how we strayed from social contact and the temporary high and the eventual low making him to realise old fashioned way is the best one. Cherry on the cake is how you showed junk food(chips) has taken over this generation as compared to healthy food besides the phone and social media. Please continue making such LONG DURATION VIDEOS about Relevant topics.

[@anthonycosta128]

There is a difference between being lonely and being a loner a loner prefers to spend his or her time alone and likes it but lonely people are looking for companies and they don't like being alone

[@vikrantkhedkar6451]

The skit deserves a Oscar for sure

[@18football18]

I'm a girl and the reason is I don't talk to guys is simply because 1)they don't understand platonic conversations 2) a lot of guys are just so disrespectful and shameless and don't deserve to be friends with.

[@TheAshuV]

I am not lonely I am a millennial, i choose not to produce . Yes but genz are depressed for sure . So many factors - Higher dreams ( Achievable only for probably 2-5 % individual , not all of them ) Dreams are valued based on money Their social life and standard of living Expensive education Way tough competition

[@abhaymalvi5458]

Kudos to Aevy Tv for addressing such a important issue publicly! Very few people knows about this problem. Aevy is a Vibe! ❤

[@usoppgod8107]

This is surprisingly good. On the point and quite thorough. I love that instead of offering alternatives, we have come to acknowledge the real problem and try to solve it despite it has an initial inertia. Obviously we cannot keep running away and make do with stupid alternatives. We have got to do what our biology asks us to do. Go out, make friends. Stupid Phones have been traumatizing this generation for their bottom line. Thanks for this wonderful video.

[@omban1861]

She is talking it RightAway, Work and make you Burnout, and No work can Lead to Lonliness

[@utkarsh13101]

Such an important topic you have raised. I wish more popular influencers like you would raise this awareness amongst the youngsters on our country. And its very much a bigger problem amongst the male , whatever are the reasons. The only way out they see is to go in a pub and drink.

[@theManagementLab]

One of the very few videos where I clicked the like button while only halfway through it. A prominent and alarming issue of loneliness. Great job @Aevy TV 👏

[@karansena]

Loneliness is higher when you turn in 30s.

[@pratikjoshi3819]

kudos to aevy tv for making it and saying it out loud!!!

[@sardakeshav]

Brilliant piece of content. I’m an observer of this phenomena and also a victim. Our generation needs genuine relationships and friendships to be happy and joyful like previous generations. Now that big families are not a thing in most big city’s, we need to find other ways of building relationships and communities.

[@alqamahasnain6428]

Good job Aevy team on the content and efforts taken. Wish you tons of success!

[@user-007Lingaraj]

Loneliness is not a problem,it is a gift to self discovery, we are not suffering due to loneliness,we suffer because we are not aware about us,we suffer because of fear, desire,lack of knowledge we suffer because nobody (or very less) can sit calmly, now, and biggest problem is we are searching to fill it. If you searching happiness,then you will became lonely mentally and physically whole life because you will get depand on others,and everybody get left you. Ever thought why lord Shiva meditate for so long time alone? Why lord Shiva not wearing gold or any precious things? He should wear more because he is Mahadev. Why everybody loves him,if he is Yogi and want to meditate alone. in short loneliness is not a problem, problem is something else.

[@balachandran7501]

I just have to say that I was concerned with the same thing and address it to people who I see. Its just few of them who constantly try to build a meaningful relationship via social media. Being an ambivert, I struggle more on the side to be along an active meaningful community despite me being with a friendly nature. The situation has made people be influenced to mind their own business in every aspect and be very less open.Still figuring out ways to make people come along.I know everyone isn't like me but being a person who love to be around people it strikes me hard when things like this happen.(Being genuinely busy with work/family/exploring solo is definitely fine and required but making them just excuses to face people and collaborate is when things take a turn and hit oneself). As she states clearly in this video, just go out there and try to make meaningful relations..There should always be a start and trust me don't wait for the other person to come and talk to you..If that thought arises ask yourself who the fuck you are and just go initiate the conversation by saying a simple Hi.

[@RawhitOnTheBeat]

Its been 15 days i have quit Facebook & Instagram! Life has changed somewhat to be honest... I feel less lonely now being with myself is curing my mental health slowly