After 20 Years My Father Wants To Reconnect And Mom Is Angry I'm Refusing r/Relationships

[@ComaLies225]

Imagine disowning your son because you’d rather defend your deadbeat ex who abandoned and cheated on you. She better keep that same energy when John disappoints the family again….

[@michamocha]

I can already see it. She'll come crying about the importance of forgiveness and fAmILy when the guilt finally hits her.

[@MogofWar]

Sounds like she disowned him for having a multiracial GF.

[@momo382844]

I bet money that deadbeat dad and mom are sleeping together. And this is their sick way of bringing the “family” back together.

[@LunaP1]

Ex mom is a narcissist with possible unknown mental illness (her behavior and reaction), ex dad is a scumbag of the highest degree (money had to be involved) and the rest of the families that kept villainizing OP are just as unstable as ex mom. It's already weird that ex mom didn't defend herself from the defaming her ex made in front of her, but right off the bat she starts sh1t by insulting OP's gf unprovoked.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

@@momo382844 A distinct possibility. Or the deadbeat has found out his wife (about 65 now or so) is dying, has $$ and OP's mom and sis want to cash in on that by welcoming him with open arms. What a mess of a family that is.

[@colleens1107]

Man OPs mom is the biggest ah of all. To side with the man who left you for another woman over the child he abandoned? Yeah OP is better off without these people

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Yeah, wow, that's hard to figure out rationally. Regardless, they're *both* nuts. 400 euros a month to ensure your genetic line with no emotional involvement was a very cheap price for him to pay. Then for them all to try and cast you out when you don't go along with their wacky narrative is even worse. Hopefully OP can be comforted with the knowledge that he's cleaned out the crazy from his life.

[@july_paradox3094]

She just attacked OP's gf too. Like what the hell she do other than just existing. I will never understand some people's mindsets

[@judohunter1]

It’s because the mom is an adult child and worthless as a result. She needs her “love” and that’s what matters as she is too stupid to realize it.

[@Iflie]

Yeah sounds like the older wife died and the mom is desperate to get the guy back and play happy family for some reason. You hear the story of trying to get into contact with kids as they get old and less healthy too, he has no other kids to take care of him. Well this racist crap family can do what they wish with this old man now, he's probably as racis as they are. My father moved to a whole other country after the divorce also claimed to have been out of sorts after the relationship but no real father who loves their kids moves and has no contact with them. Even as a kid I was a good judge of character and when he came back and forced visitation I refused as soon as I was allowed to. He is such a narc. He even tried to move back again (he went back and forth over the years leaving another family and kids) as he got sick and old and tried to stay with my brother. He luckily went back again after figuring out it wasn't easy peasy to live here and my brother had finally grown tired of his bull and grew a spine. An example of the bizar things he'd say was cal me and ask me if I had gotten fat....

[@catsncrows]

I think John isn't here to stay and mom is going to be contacting op "😭😭😭"

[@juliemcgugan1244]

‘Be the bigger person’ Translation: “Lie flatter, doormat, so we don’t have to be so uncomfortable while walking all over you.”

[@Domino365]

I don't remember where I saw it, but I once read somewhere that if you always have to be the bigger person, it's because you're surrounded by small people.

[@Sunflowerbounce]

Both of these comments 💯 🔥☝️

[@marktwain2053]

Being the bigger person just makes you a bigger target.

[@allisoncastle]

Wowww you have an amazing way of putting things! That is so spot on

[@n.g.l.]

Man I wish KZbin would allow us to save comments smh

[@Heydodoakskdkdjf]

I would have ended the call and blocked the moment my mom called my partner a racial slur. At that point you know the person you’re dealing with is not worth the energy.

[@sersastark]

Yep

[@judohunter1]

Don’t worry. She will whine later on about it being a misunderstanding and family is family blah blah

[@thylionheart]

Amen. I don’t blame OP for staying on the call to try and get closure from their dad but I don’t think I personally would’ve been able to handle the anger and mortification that would come from hearing such a vile thing come out of my mom’s mouth

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1: *"OP, I want you to know that I don't want anything more to do with you. You've hurt us a lot and decided enough was enough. I have no longer a son. I told everyone of our relatives about how rude you were to us and we all agreed to cut all contact with you since you clearly don't need us anymore"* So a man can abandon his kids for two decades and be forgiven but a son who’s upset about said man abandoning him cant be forgiven because he’s justifiably hurt? Oh okay, the logic is make sense/s

[@dragonrider1549]

More than likely it was just an excuse used because either A. They would have gotten something out of OP forgiving John, or B. Because OP is dating a women they are racist against and don’t want to admit that’s the reason.

[@mikef2811]

If I was OP I would have text back and thank her and that toxic family for getting out of my life with laughing emoji. But I am that kind of person.

[@Vipre-]

@@dragonrider1549 Or C: The story about John OP was fed his entire life isn't true and by not playing along he's putting his mom and her family at risk of exposure. Only way to avoid that is for her to cut him out and put the blame on him...interesting how that seems to be a pattern on second look.

[@allisoncastle]

@@Vipre- Huh? Why wouldn’t he try to contact him for TWENTY YEARS then? What a reach dude.

[@Vipre-]

@@allisoncastle He wouldn't be the first guy cut off from his kids by a vengeful ex then made out as the villain by her. Just look at what kind of person she's presented as through direct action here. She has zero issue making up a lie about OP and spreading it around blaming him for her actions. OP split the country as well right after 18 so there's no way John could contact him without going through the family. What changed is the real question, what does his mother want so badly from John that's conditioned on OP's cooperation.

[@AndyyWithAY]

20 years is the time it takes a person to go from newborn to a sophomore/junior in college. That's INSANE. You can miss someone's entire life in that time. 20 years is well past the time it takes for someone to be dead after they're MIA. Keep considering him dead to you

[@IzzyPR2010]

This so called man refused to be in OP's life when he needed him the most, he doesn't get to try and come back after the hardest part of raising a child is already past. Likely he needs something from Op or Op's family, he can get told to get lost. Never forget that most of the people who are telling OP to give in would never do the same if they were in that same situation.

[@asmith8692]

After 20 years these people are complete strangers. Doesn't matter if you are related or not.

[@babytone54]

Story 1: racists are usually not very kind in other ways so it makes sense that the extreme to disown her son was taken. She likely has feelings and sis still wants a relationship with dear ol' dad. The best revenge is a life well lived. My mom used to say, "They will need me before I need them". OP needs to keep living his best life!

[@availanila]

It's true, I still think of that Neo-N@z1 family that was shocked their Neo-N@z1 friend kidnapped, SA'd and ended their daughter 😢😢. Better the wokest friend than the most inti-woke one (family included). And OP's mom definitely thinks she'll get that man back and OP too when he needs her. Let's hope he thrives.

[@gremlininblue2601]

​@@availanilafr they'll just look shocked pikachu face because "how was i supposed to know a piece of shit awful person was a piece of shit awful person!"

[@uncle0eric]

I once had a roommate whose mom left her when she was about 3 to be with her AP. 15 years later she calls on my roommates birthday and is just like John in this story - wanting to pretend everything can just pick up as though nothing had ever happened. Then I found out that the mom hadn't even left town, but had been in the same city with her kids for 15 years and never contacted them AT ALL.

[@nick-brothwood]

Hope that roommate told her to pound sand.

[@DryPaperHammerBro]

Well, if OP's going to hell, he'll need to stay away from his toxic family down there. NTFA.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

I still think of this kid in French class, he was from Africa and a refugee. A classmate said he’s going to hell if he doesn’t convert and he won’t get into heaven. He looked her dead in the eye and asked if that means he won’t have to see her again, because that sounds like heaven 😂😂😂😂 even our French teacher needed a moment from laughing too hard

[@LunaP1]

​@@drewthistlethwaite8909that kid is a legend.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@mandalorianhunter1]

​@@drewthistlethwaite8909omg that's a amazing comeback

[@joy4210]

@@drewthistlethwaite8909 the only correct answer! what a legend 😆

[@francinetitherington4060]

IF OP does go to hell that will put him back in the company of those entitled jerks for sure.

[@chershannahjackson1992]

I remember when I was 18, and my uncle asked me that his brother. My biological father wanted to get to know me again after not talking for 8 years, and I told him no, I didn't wanna talk to him. I didn't wanna know anything about him, and that was that he said, okay. I love you, talk to you later. I'm 27 now, and my uncle hasn't asked me about him again 😊 The last time I spoke to my biological father.He told me my grandmother had died She had cancer so we knew it was going to happen and that he would picked me up for the funeral he never showed up.I never got to say goodbye to my grandmother I was 10

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1 through update: I’m pretty sure the mother and daughter will regret their actions when the dad falls back to his old routines

[@RG-vs8qz]

Story 1: Years later when those same people try to re-enter OPs life, he should show them that message and just keep moving forward without them

[@saldiven2009]

It's always weird to me that someone will treat others badly for years upon years and then expect a single, "I'm sorry," to miraculously make everything all better. To me, if you're really sorry, if you've really changed, you would put as much effort into making up for your bad behavior as you did in performing that bad behavior in the first place. If you spent twenty years neglecting your children, you shouldn't expect them to forgive you before twenty years of penance. They can forgive you earlier, if they want, but you shouldn't _expect_ forgiveness before then.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

My family taught me that if you’re really sorry, your actions will show it because words are easy to say.

[@C.L.Hinton]

Mark, just so you know: When you finished that story about the deadbeat dad and seemed to be moving on, I literally said out loud, "Hey, you promised us a waffle!" 😆 So just be aware that lots of us appreciate hearing your tales. 👍🏽

[@rhonafenwick5643]

A hundred percent! I mentioned in another comment, I'm never going to forget his story about the insurance claim on the damaged sofa 🤣

[@icecreamnoodles3742]

Yeah! He literally put super easy to use and efficient time stamps in the desc. Anyone who is complaining is just complaining to complain at that point. Love his content and personal spin and takes on everything! And appreciate all the work and effort he puts into this.

[@podlingspodcast551]

I'm in my 40s, never met my dad, met his folks 3 times after i grew up. They tried to use the possibility of seeing my father as a way to get me to bring my kids to meet them. All i asked is if my father WANTED to see me. They hung up. Don't waste your time on people who never made the effort for you.

[@emperorwai]

First story, dad got back together with mom and money is on the line, I betcha. Second, sweet Mark, don't feel bad for the waffling. You have your stories you want to share, please share them. The people who get ugly about it, their probably new and expected the same format as those ai spoken reddit reader channels. You're lovely and doing great. Please don't be discouraged by others. 😊

[@cmsxcb]

"I have no other kids except you and Maria". And the red flags begin waving in the wind 🌬🔖🔖🔖 My guess (prior to update) is that mom and dad have got back together and understand what a shit-show it's gonna cause when they go public.

[@Neokogirl]

Personally, I think the ap wasn't able to have kids, and now he wants to pull the children he abandoned back into his life.

[@TheDarwinProject1]

Thank you, Mark, so much for including the captions for your own personal "waffle"! Really helps for those of us who have hearing comprehension struggles & when our brains wander away from the story & we need to pause to re-read what was just said. 😳 I love when you include your own stories when they relate to the reddit ones!

[@SergioBicerra]

Story 1: my guess, dad's wife is in her mid 60's so no fun anymore, and tries to rekindle his relationship with op's mom, so, he has to make ammends with op to make the perfect family picture frame, and that's why mom is furious with op's negative..

[@Wildpeonies23]

Story1. Sounds like my life. Sperm donor left family for drugs and one day 20 something years later he Facebook messaged me to tell me that he was alive. I said cool. He said I deserve respect as your father. I hit the block button. Now he had random women thinking they can gaslight me to converse with the sperm donor. I don’t take kindly to gaslighting. Luckily he got the message and stopped.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

It takes more than siring a child to make someone a real father who deserves respect.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

I’m gonna throw in my two cents and guess that the reason everyone’s mad at OP is because they were hoping to get money from John or something, maybe an inheritance. Or maybe they have been in contact for a while and John is forcing them to harass OP lest he do something drastic. ETA: 😬 Yikes on bikes, talk about an escalation. Well, regardless, OP might be hurting now but in the end it’s for the best the trash took itself out, his life will be a million times better without that circus of a family.

[@shanelchamik2177]

He must have promised her something in return

[@BruinPhD2009]

@@shanelchamik2177OR, now hear me out, John needs to have a relationship with OP in order to get an inheritance from HIS family. The reaction of the mother and the rest of the family is so ridiculous and over the top, that the reason for their behavior had better be equally ridiculous and over the top. If the reason is any combination of “John is great in bed” or “OP’s mother really is that big of an idiot,” I’m gonna be very unhappy. 😅

[@AngelaVEdwards]

Look at the divorced men who are decent fathers. Do any of them ignore their children for 20 years? No. No, they do not. Most of them cherish every minute they get to be with their children and a good number of them have figured out how to have a decent coparening relationship with their ex wives. This John guy is not a good father at all.

[@DDs878]

So many dads fight to be in there children's lives. Whether its only 3 days a week or 1 week a month. They're there. They find the time. As mine and so many others did/do.

[@Vipre-]

This assumes the mother's story is actually true. It wouldn't be the first time a man was cut off from his kids by an ex. How can we take anything OP knows about John at face value when all of it comes from his mother and her family. "Why," you might ask, "didn't John try and get ahold of OP after he turned 18 if that's the case?" OP says himself he split the country soon after. There's no way John would have the contact info.

[@Hajiyt]

@@Vipre- I think you missed the update. John himself said he cheated because OP's mother wasn't giving him enough attention.

[@Vipre-]

@@Hajiyt Yeah that's what was said but it smells fishy, like it was rehearsed specifically for pre-planned video call. There's just something off about it all that has warning alarms going off with regards to the mother's involvement in everything.

[@ScurvyRascal]

Story 1. I reckon mum still has feelings for dad. I've been on the receiving end of racism my whole life. OP is better off out of that hatred gutter!

[@devegas4910]

Story 1: I remember that story. I didn’t remember racist mom story. She would’ve been getting cussed out all up and down the street. She’s abusive too. She will very well be back when she finds out that op is doing well for himself. He should maintain the disowning

[@LunaMane]

Give it time. Before long OP's incubator parent will want to "go back to how things used to be" with them after the deadbeat bails on her again. Likely with whatever savings she has.

[@elibeetle-owo7]

I’ve been NC with my mother for over a year now. I got the “be the bigger person” crap almost daily from the rest of my family who just “couldn’t understand, we’re family! You know how she is” So I put my foot down and said I’m firm in my no contact, it’s not changing until I am damn well and ready. Well they stopped pushing me to reconnect with her but now they won’t shut up about how she’s my mother, how she’s doing, what she’s up to, “don’t forget it’s her birthday. Oh. Wait.” Or my new favorite “she really is getting better, I mean she’s still acting exactly the same but she’s getting better,” and when I commented that it was good for her, I hope she is doing better, I got the “well maybe you should… yknow… I mean who knows how long it’ll last”

[@W0lfscythe]

Anyone who says "be the bigger person" really doesn't know what the fuck it really means.

[@elibeetle-owo7]

@@W0lfscythe seriously! Last I checked it didn’t translate to “be my emotional doormat, thanks” In my mind, being the bigger person is not getting into an argument where someone crashed their shopping cart into yours and then didn’t apologize or just gracefully accepting the apology and leaving it at that if they did. Mundane situations that do not impact yours or the other persons way of life outside of this finite moment.

[@elibeetle-owo7]

@@LostSoulchild89 I feel you! I literally had to tell my grandparents one night “I am the CHILD and I do not owe it to her to be a doormat for the rest of my life, and frankly, neither do you!” I just got a huff and an eye roll. “Oh don’t be so dramatic.” I’m. Literally. Not??? That’s what she’s doing! That’s what you’re doing!

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

When someone excuses bad behavior by saying. "You know how they are," I tell them, that's exactly why I'm cutting contact!

[@dm9078]

OP left home at 18 left country shortly after and maintained minimal contact with mother and sister after. So being disowned sounds as if it meant very little to him! $4000 WTF? How do you ignore something like that?

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

If someone wants to reconnect with a family member who was previously NC, they can do so. But they cannot force other people to do the same. Also, it doesn’t really matter if he changed now. It doesn’t change the past.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

I have a feeling he’ll abandon them again and these fools will actually be shocked.

[@justaperson4656]

​@@itsjustmaddisenoh 110%

[@Vipre-]

I suspect the story OP's mom and her family gave him is not what actually happened. Everyone is bagging on John but he wouldn't be the first guy who got cut off by his kids' mother and made out to be the bad guy over it. Something about the mom is very sketchy.

[@locusxe1411]

This story is actually crazy to me because my mom literally just gave me my dads phone number yesterday cause he wanted to reach out to me after 20 years of barely any contact. Only difference is she isn’t forcing me to do anything. She just have me his number and told me to do what I will with it

[@HennaK17]

That's a lot to take in after 20 years, hope you're doing okay

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 this man has been emotionally abusing OP a long time. She needs to safely get out. I'd try to see if you can no longer be responsible for his debt. But, get a divorce expeditiously.

[@pamelajohnson6425]

Story 3: as someone who went through a similar situation (feeling stuck in an abusive relationship with kids, house, etc) I will say, OP please, please, please get out. For your children and for yourself. The first step is the scariest, and yes, it will be hard in the beginning, but you can't yet imagine how much happier you and your kids will be. And how much good you'll be doing for the sake of your kids futures, your future, and the mental and emotional health of all of you. There's a bright, happy, beautiful life waiting for you, right outside that door. You just have to find the courage to take the first step and get out. Sending love and positivity

[@nadirimyers6643]

Story 3: girl if you don’t leave him…… wtf 160k in 3 years. F him. She deff needs to get EVERY CENT!! let him sell the house and dissolve the business and leave

[@CrimsonAngelWinges]

If she can she needs to force the sell of the cards and house in the divorce.

[@peterwilliams6361]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

[@peterwilliams6361]

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@ltiPatel]

The government has really called things more difficult for its citizens, and we can't sit back and bear all the consequences of the bad governance. It's obvious we are headed for inflation,it is always the poor who take the hit.

[@rmainej]

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[@rmainej]

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[@Brenda_woe]

​@@rmainejThis sounds so good and I would like to be a party to this, is there any way I can speak with her?

[@rmainej]

I will leave her info below this comment

[@rmainej]

+187

[@sos61]

There are people who don't like the waffles? 😱 The only thing better than you waffling is you losing it mid-story 😆

[@emmathereb]

How can someone claim waffle gang membership and not like the WAFFLES

[@ThePaintedFerret]

Exactly! I love marks waffling stories

[@D-M-K-1-2]

Seems like they're a pancake fan in waffle clothing

[@paden1865able]

His waffles are the best!

[@TheLilyMustang]

You speak the facts!!!

[@DHasty]

Im NC with my father, but for complicated reasons, a lot of his side of the family dont know. Theyll know eventually because i do plan on telling them why it has happened. I also plan on letting them know that if they ever try to convince me to reconnect with him, or try to invite us to the same event as a way to get us to meet again, I'll go NC with them too. I'm fully willing to go scorched earth here. Honestly it's insane to me that people try to push us to reconnect when we clearly dont want to.

[@andreychen6523]

Having subtitles for the Waffle section is much appreciated! Thanks a lot for that!

[@ashassassin]

Wtf is going on with ops mom? No wonder he basically went no contact as soon as he moved out. There might be a chance for op to save his relationship with his sister. But yikes. I really don't understand this type of family at all... so many of my family members cut out deadbeat dads and all I would say is congratulations. So weird.

[@TheBlueDsc]

Story 1: And nothing of value was lost.

[@AngelaVEdwards]

Why would anyone get upset when Mark shares from his own background? This is one of my most favorite channels and that’s BECAUSE of Mark. Not only does he read the stories well but he’s extremely personable and sometimes shares a little bit of himself with us. That’s a GOOD thing. 😊

[@mamm7223]

I LOVE it when you give us small bits of your life story! Waffle on, Mark!!! You make my day!

[@WolfyFancyLads]

Hey OP3..... *_Sell the cards when he's at work then serve him divorce papers._* You're married. The money was taken from the joint account into his personal account, which means ultimately they were bought with JOINT money. YOUR money. Ergo, they belong to you as well, ergo they're your property, ergo you can sell them as they were essentially bought with money both man and wife has access to (cos, again, HIS account didn't decrease in funds, he topped it up with Joint money. The JOINT account was left empty, not his.) Or, if you wanted to be super malicious: divorce him, find a lawyer who'll take the cards in the divorce, then mail him an envelope of them all cut into teeny tiny pieces.

[@Odd_Interaction]

S1: I haven’t spoken to my parents since 1976, and have absolutely no plans to do so. I have six siblings, four of which were insufferable twats who I haven’t spoken to since 1976. Well one of them did call back in the early 1990s, but I hung up and changed my home phone number immediately upon them identifying herself. There used to be no need to play nice with someone who abandoned you, regardless of familiar ties trying to make you do so. Tell them in no uncertain terms that they are more than welcome to do so, but that if they expect to have any contact with you that they will not pressure you into doing something you are adamant about not doing. Make your own family and move on. S2: NTA, but your husband is definitely a massive arse hole. Might be a good idea for you to talk with your lawyer. One that works for you and not your husband.

[@madisonl3401]

I love the waffling! Would love a full video of waffles lol

[@villageidiot7584]

Mark apologizing for waffling always makes me so sad. I love his stories! If I wanted to watch a Reddit channel with no input I would just go to one of those so text to speech ones. Your input and your stories are what make your channel special!

[@1Katakana]

Story 1: I can guess why it took 20 years. Either because the option for him to have new/other kids have gone, he needs money, or he has limited time left and just want to make himself feel better (or he has the change of surviving though getting an organ from one of his kids). Either way, the audacity/gall of walking back into his kids life after 20 years of missing in action, and expecting his kids to wait for and want him, as if this is just a conversation that got cut off, and not ruining/life changing and just a bunch of bad memories/emotions now.

[@Vipre-]

Assuming he walked out and wasn't cut out. The mom doesn't come off as the most honest of people and I'm not sure how much of John's backstory can be taken at face value as a result.

[@Lholt5647]

Hey, Mark, just want you to know the reason I love your channel is that you allow your personality to shine through. Please don’t hesitate to drop your own stories as we all learn from each other. Sure, folks who feel differently can use the timestamps, but I think they are few and far between. You (and Poppy) have a LOT of Internet friends!!

[@jancatperson8329]

Mom: “Son, I’m disowning you because you won’t forgive my POS ex who abandoned us.” OP: “Hey, thanks for taking the rest of the trash out.”

[@rathorclemenger6125]

OP’s bio-dad probably wanted either money or an organ transplant.

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

Kidney was my first thought ❤

[@whitneybennett4857]

Or maybe it's because he and the new woman can't reproduce. He now realizes he'll never be able to have the pride or bragging rights of taking part in "fatherly privileges" (weddings, grandkids, etc.) like the rest of his friends or coworkers unless he resorts to his existing backup children.

[@amysunday0]

WHO? Who has the audacity to dislike mark's waffling, I just wanna talk 😤

[@lostshadows768]

Last story: OP is better off with the money. Sometimes collectables are worth a lot and sometimes people pay a ton of money for them because they think they'll be worth a lot. Also, selling them can be a pita and may involve people who get a cut or pay under market value because they need to make a profit selling them.

[@katemarr1984]

Excellent point, I agree 💯

[@merlinathrawes746]

Disowned story: In that last zoom call I would have asked point blank why he was trying to contact me. But the rest of the family appears to be even worse. You did well to leave when you did OP. I'm sorry you had to go through this. Best wishes.

[@RedCeltay]

Mark, many of us actually love your waffle stories. It makes this group feel more like friends. We the viewers do our own waffles in the comments ourselves. ❤❤❤

[@rhonafenwick5643]

Story within a story, we all love it

[@kieramaccourt8717]

Love the waffles! Never stop, Mark. I enjoy your stories as much as the others.

[@Ospyro3em]

There's definitely more to this that they aren't telling OP. Regardless, how dare they just expect OP to.let that deadbeat waltz back into their lives like it's all sunshine and rainbows

[@Twowings2fly]

Story 3: Yes it'll be hell for a while, but after that it'll be smoother, you'll be happier, and you won't be in an abusive relationship. Weather out the rough because there's better times ahead.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

It's not really an abusive relationship. It is a weird mix of 2 "Subs" with the husband doing what he thinks he can get away with knowing the OP will be a big "Sub" to him. The thing is, the OP doesn't have to be a big "Sub" to him as he has shown when push comes to shove, he will back down every time. He might yell and scream and throw a childlike tantrum, but in the end, he will cave to the OP because he is a "Sub" as well. If the OP "took over" and started being "the boss" he would cave to her. But the OP doesn't have what it takes. These two people should NOT be a couple. Eventually, one or both of them will do something so stupid that it will implode their lives and they will both walk away with nothing. The OP should quietly sell off some of the more expensive Baseball Cards, hide the cash and slowly remove the money from their/her bank accounts and convert it to cash to hide as well. That way, when their marriage implodes, she will not end up being the victim who the courts won't really help out anyway. But then again, I think the OP likes playing and being the "victim" since she has done very little to better her situation always waiting for her husband to make the first moves on everything. How sad for the OP.

[@UchuKejiMovan]

Mom being a racist was enough to cut her off, siding with her cheating ex is the nail in her coffin. Whoa that messafe she sent would've had me at her door smh

[@heymikey4025]

Story01: I’m personally wondering about the cousin’s story…the one that OP’s egg donor told him to burn in hell with…maybe that particular cousin knows more about what’s going on?

[@teamaang7915]

2nd story the level of financial and emotional abuse😱

[@Dira7411]

Who doesn’t love hearing your stories??? 👀👀👀 I’ll wait

[@justinecorrington4106]

Story 1: I honesty think there is a possible inheritance from John, and they are hoping for a piece. He after all has no other children. But op was already low contact, so this will just set him free from obligation

[@BritInvLvr]

I, for one love Mark’s stories of his old neighborhood. Reminds me of my own. Keep it up, Mark. Cuz the haters are gonna hate.

[@Forrestjelly]

Oof.. story 1, the trash took itself out.

[@millicentspears]

🎯🎯

[@kateemma22]

Where do people keep getting this audacity? Is there a factory somewhere?

[@paden1865able]

I think it's in the water, to be honest.

[@albertgongora6944]

All right I think the number one reason that the family alongside OP's mother wanted him to forgive his father John was due to the fact that he was not only going to plan to get back with her because his second wife probably couldn't have kids but also to the fact that he wanted to give his inheritance to OP his sister along with his mom but of course when John found out that Op wanted nothing to do with him that pissed him off enough because the guy sounds like he's used to having his way and having control over others that he probably gave OP's mother and sister an ultimatum of they don't take his side and get OP to forgive him he's not going to give them the money so the other situation was probably for them to cut out OP from their lives so both the mom and the sister will probably trying to find reasons to do this so of course when op mom racist mindset saw that Op was with somebody they didn't agree with that was the perfect reason for a course the cut him out of the will or the inheritance and of course their lives that way they would just get all the money and not have to split it with OP but just the sister of Op so that's my little thoughts on why the whole entire family wanted OP to forgive his deadbeat dad and the same thing went for his mom and I also have a flame the mom promised the family that she would give them each like $100,000 or something like that or a good amount of money where they could just live off of that money so it would make a lot of sense that you know deadly dad basically has to be pretty wealthy for the whole entire family to just forgive him and turn against Op

[@IzzyPR2010]

Yeah I'm reminded of a story where a person was cut off by his parents but years later begged him to get back in contact because the person's grandfather was cutting them out of his will if they did not fix things with the person.

[@lilmsmetal]

Mark, don’t apologise for you doing you. There are 100’s of channels doing Reddit stories, the moaning gits can go watch them. Your stories add to the experience, they don’t detract. I love the waffle!

[@MusicGirl881]

Mom, sis and their side of the family better keep that same energy when John leaves again. I wish OP and his girlfriend the best and that OP changed his number and email so his ex-family and their drama can stay out of his life.

[@macylouwho1187]

Family are sometimes the ties that bind and gag. You get nothing but pain and misery from people like that. You’ll be freer and happier without them. Cut them loose, walk away. I’m living proof that you can do so and prosper. I’m ten times happier without them than I am with them. I haven’t spoken to my mother since before Christmas and these have been the most calm and peaceful months of my life. She only has the power to hurt me and seems to delight in it. Why the hell would anyone sign up for that??? No thank you.

[@macylouwho1187]

@@LostSoulchild89 thank you, that is very kind. I appreciate it and wish you all the best, too.

[@bellagaur6594]

Be assured Mark, I genuinely enjoy your stories and hope you keep bringing it up more.

[@nekorei2023]

Yess more videos from Mark! I was just watching a video from Mark, Today starts the festival of Songkarn (a Thai festival where it involves throwing water at each other) & its been a bit tiring but ending the day with mark is the best!

[@GK-ob1ni]

Who could have a problem with the waffle stuff or Mark's stories? I love when you include those little nuggets of information. There's always someone who can relate to it and might find it helpful. Ignore the haters, Mark. You do you. Proud member of the Waffle Gang here! 😊

[@folgore1]

Truly insane behavior on the part of the mother! The deadbeat father/husband must have money!

[@FoxForever90]

Who doesn't like Mark's waffling? Mark fans don't claim these people!

[@poetryqn]

Story 2: If he would make divorce hell, I can't believe the marriage would be any better. Cut your losses now.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 2. He probably realized how much money he would have to give OP of divorces. A friend of mine and her husband separated and were talking about divorce. But her husband put the breaks. They own a black Angus cattle farm, and he learned he would have to split everything with her. Like the 300-acre farm, the cattle, farm equipment, house, 401K, pension, savings, investments, etc. He would have to give her millions. They have been married 35 years and have put their blood, sweat, and money into the farm, so I am not sure why he was surprised everything would get split. They are in marriage counseling now to see if they can save their marriage.

[@mikeremski2102]

Baseball cards: divorce and demand half the collections or use it for bargaining. "Give me the house and I'll let you keep all your cards"

[@spikeoramathon]

So mother calls OP's girlfriend a racist slur and then complains that HE's rude? I would've clicked 'end call' at the racist slur. I have zero tolerance for intolerance. For the record, I LOVE the waffle! I'd love to hear your complete story!

[@stellamccoy5259]

Thank you for todays video. I hope that everyone has an amazing Friday.

[@TheLilyMustang]

One of my favourite creators just passed and I listened to her because of her personality. I love the waffle moments. There are a lot of people that post similar content but the personal touch is why i suscribe & listen everyday. Don’t change Mark

[@joshuanavarro8925]

Your personal stories, anecdotes, insight, and cheeky comments are what have kept me coming back to this channel daily since 2020. You should totally put out full-length videos of your own life experiences, even if it's only for those who choose to join your channel. Premium content ftw, lol. If you do it weekly, maybe you could call it "Waffle Wednesdays" or something. 😅🤷🏾‍♂️

[@sharzg697]

I love Mark's Waffle stories and whenever he goes off on a tale. Thank you for everything you do, Mark. I love listening to this when I'm working. Keeps me entertained for hours.

[@YuToobVideos]

Story1: I have a very very very very low tolerance for racism of any kind (being the "wrong" race, as I've been told by past girlfriend's parents), the the exact moment his mom made a racist slur toward his GF would have ended the call!

[@englishclasschaug]

I LOVE THE WAFFLE SIDE!!!! The waffle side is one of my fav parts. Waffle on Mark, Stay Waffle Pony Boy!

[@ruthsaunders9507]

#1 So, all that and he still doesn't know why everyone wants him to talk to his father. Strange family.

[@seahorse82]

I love your waffling Mark, I find the stories fascinating 😊

[@photofreak56]

I don't understand why everyone is mad at OP for not wanting to talk to a man who disappeared for 20 fucking years. My dad is no longer alive but when he was he hated guys like John. Because deadbeats like that who only send a little bit of money or don't send any child support at all act all offended when they aren't praised for doing the bare minimum. In fact my dad used to garnish their unemployment and send it to the Child Support office so that the mothers of the children would be getting the unemployment benefit since the guy wasn't paying child support or paying the bare minimum. I'm wondering why the rest of the family is so mad that OP is setting the boundary of you weren't there so you don't get to come back and act like nothing happened.

[@barneytaylor9338]

"I still have a lot of questions" You and me both Mark. You and me both

[@Swnsasy]

Thank you for the story Mark! I love the stories you tell 😊❤

[@jackwatt8988]

Best part of the video is always marks waffling. That's why I'm here.

[@RobertCampsall]

Last story: I suspect hubby is also probably guilty of embezzlement from "their" business. Too often, people don't realize you can't use business funds for personal spending all willy-nilly like.

[@KarmikCykle]

"My family disowned me. To quote Ron Burgundy: "Well, that escalated quickly. I mean, that really got out of hand."

[@chasefrost1401]

"I guess I didn't really NEED a father growing up, and I certainly don't have need of one, now."

[@hollyberry0602]

Perfect timing! I just sat down for lunch! Hope everyone's having a good day!

[@katraylor]

Story 2: That husband sounds like the typed to get violent if pushed far enough. A lot of true-crime stories start this way. OP needs to get out for her and kids' own safety.

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Lots of love to all of you guys! ❤️

[@PinkOwl31]

I really like the waffling. Please keep your takes and stories in the videos. 😊

[@JoJoGranum]

Hey everyone! Happy Friday Mark !!

[@KarinWaffle]

Hey JoJo, happy Friday

Anyone who doesn't like the waffling can fight me

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Ah, just what I was missing, Mark’s dulcet tones in the morning.

[@moimeself1088]

Dulcet tones is exactly right! ❤