After 27 Yrs Of Denying Paternity, Ex & His Fam Are Mad They Got Rejected Trying To Reconnect.. AITA

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[@BusArch42]

On the 27 years absent bio family, I think she and her son need to go to the police with the friend who knows the bio dad is stalking them. Take the threats etc and the stalking and file a restraining order. That is not normal behavior and she needs to protect her other kids if they are minors. If they are adults then they should also be involved in the police report and RO.

[@warjdani]

1st story OP, your son needs to get a restraining order for his so called father and his family. Your son is a man now he needs to be the one to put that boundary.

[@paperkay]

Do they just give out restraining orders where you are from, to ban your fans? Because where I am from, there needs to be an element of threat or imminent danger involved, not just because a long lost relative is following you on Facebook. But we are probably from different cultures and you can just go to a judge and say: these people are following me on social media, I want a restraining order against that.

[@IzzyPR2010]

If they trash you on social media, go to that same social media and say it all, throw out the crap they pulled. That the father and family never involved themselves in the child's life and stayed away.

[@wendymartin6479]

Story 1: This is so typical of deadbeat dads and their families. They do not want to contribute in any way when the child is growing but as soon as that child is an adult they are suddenly on the scene. This happened to a friend of mine whose father suddenly appeared when she graduated with an MBA, she told him to take a hike.

[@MegaHarvickFan29]

Me and my brother had a similar situation with our mother. She was mostly absent/distant most of our childhood. We're only a year apart in age and I'm about to graduate college and my brother has a high paying job as a machinist in the orthopedics industry. Guess who suddenly wanted to know anything and everything about our lives and make up for lost time. Yeah, my brother especially told her what he thought of her. Mom died less than a year after that from a drug overdose. Wasn't all that surprising really. Been 10 years now and I can honestly say I don't miss her.

[@RedPanda74]

Do not contact them. OP’s son needs to either 1. Block them and never contact them either or 2. Let them know that he wants all photos of himself removed from their social media pages and none of them are to ever try to contact him again.

[@IzzyPR2010]

Last story, GF wants her son to go along as her spy, that's why she's insisting on it.

[@feodrich]

Story 4 - "Well obviously don't let him drink and smoke" this woman clearly does not understand the point of "Guys Night Out". If we're hanging out with our friends to relaxe, we are in no way interested in being responsible for someone elses kids. If he can't drink and smoke he shouldn't be AROUND people who, part of why they're there, is to drink and smoke. The way i behave with my friends when we chill is INSANELY inappropriate, but we do it to hang out and be relaxed. Having to suddenly "be on good behavior" completely defeats the purpose, we want a space where we can be comfortable with each other and not have to WORRY about what we might do or say. If this kid can't be in that kind of environment, he has no business being there. The dude is right, it's his time to relaxe, he has no interest in being a role model for a kid when he's already doing that the rest of his time. I'm sure the kid is the same way with his OWN friends. Maybe "Girls night out" is different, in which case, good for you ladies! The way men are and the way we treat each other, is not the same, never will be and we don't want it to be.

[@paperkay]

The irony is, this toxic in-law mess had followed OP and their kid on social media, watching them have a nice life, thrive and be happy and loved, and thought: this could have been us. OP's ex hated his mom for fucking it up for him and wished he could be a proper dad, proper husband, how he had to watch from a distance for the past 27 years, too proud to admit they messed up. In the meanwhile, cousins and other relatives married, had babies and had nice family lives, while OP's ex suffered a miserable, lonely servitude in their mother's shadow, longing for what he could have had. I imagine they believe 'in the next life; because they squandered this one.