Hoarders ❤️ Extreme DeClutter the Messy Bedroom Without Feeling Shame

[@brooke_22328]

I love your idea of putting the nail stickers in the scrapbook!

[@crystalsdance]

Clutter aside, your bed still looks perfect! Would love to see you do a DIY and refinish/ paint your bedside tables! A light gray like your headboard would be beautiful and tie them together! Ummmmm, wrote this before I heard t your night stand is from 6th? Grade! Wow! They definitely deserve a refresh! And, you deserve the refresh!

[@theverbind]

I love this so much! Such a pleasing nail album!

[@rosyv5081]

I believe that I struggle with hoarding. My room was always messy. I have an autoimmune disease that I’ve had since I was 16 which makes it to where I never have any energy. In fact I’ve never really felt super rested in my life. I am also on the spectrum and struggle with comorbid anxiety disorder and severe major depressive disorder. I hoard all of my old drawings and writings from when I was growing up and a teenager, all of the t shirts from various events, all of my old toys, old stuffed animals and constantly bringing in more stuffed animals and dolls. All of the cards ever given to me by friends and family. I think it’s because I was bullied a lot, misunderstood and alone, always had a hard time with my dad and constant arguments. I didn’t much enjoy growing up except for new toys. We were low income so we constantly thrifted. My mom always has had somewhat of a shopping addiction I’d say and we loved to find bargains. Every card I was given meant so much to me. Because it showed somebody thought of me and cared. And now I’m struggling because I can’t let them go, the cards, the stuffed animals, the toys. And of course I feel constantly weak, tired, depressed. Cleaning is hard for me. With clothes and even food I hold onto things because what if I need it someday. It’s like I’m afraid I won’t be able to afford to get what I need. I don’t know, I guess I’m just ranting and I apologize for that. I just don’t want to live my life as a full blown hoarder in filth like I’ve seen on TV. But it’s so hard to clean and it’s so hard to let go of things. But yet I know they don’t really make me happy. They’re not really of any value. I’m also afraid I’ll forget who I am. I was so alone. I don’t want to forget myself since I was already forgotten by others so much it feels like. But I guess it’s just good to see someone who is going through something similar.

[@JMA864]

Late to this but you might be encouraged by going back to her very first video, which is from 2018 I think. Back then she had SUCH a hard time with letting go of one or two pieces of paper, just agonized over it. She’s an amazing guide to changing, so honest about those early struggles. It’s hard but possible. Internet hugs to you❤

[@Andonapansonkey]

You should put a mini tossy tossy bin at every corner which collects clutter. One just right beside your bed would be helpful to collect the obvious trash 😊 once a week you’ll go through all of the bins and recycle them. This can also be a task for your boys if they are willing to help. It might turn into a treasure hunt for them 😊❤

[@ahoardersheart]

This is a wonderful and practical idea and I’m very grateful you shared this! That’s exactly what I’ll do 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼

[@beckysam3913]

i do that too, i use small matt gold metall bin (which is sold for plants but who cares). works fine to declutter quick and toss on weekly basis.

[@ursulahansen7478]

I am going to try this too. I'm a butterfly 🦋 too. I love your videos because they are soooo helpful

[@JessieBenson93]

Yes, I was about to type this :) You need a little paper recycling bin and/or bin near the bed, so you can immediately 'put things away' in one easy step. xx

[@loisbolton1800]

I love that you found so much money!! 😂 talk about a dopamine hit - 😊

[@maumau1958]

You're my very favorite inspiration 💛

[@clairechocolate12]

Thank you!!!!!!!

[@melanietrester]

Hello from Germany and hi miss heart and miow pepper, good job, cool ideas, thx for say that. Be safe

[@fierafirefairy315]

It does often pay off, even not being a hoarder. I have one desk drawer which I pretty much just put anything I didn't want to "lose" into b/c you can never find that "safe" place you put things, and decided to de clutter it. Well at some point I had been putting birthday money I was given into an envelope to help save up to buy a house. I found that envelope in there....and since we had already bought the house(a couple of years ago), it was even nicer to find. That being said I did use to keep everything b/c my family was always of a mind of "you might need it someday". I had a friend force me to clean and declutter my bedroom when I was younger and without her having done that and getting that feeling of a clean space early on, I am not sure what my spaces would've ended up looking like. And I still find myself sometimes hanging on to things that "I might need someday" only to later realize that its something i'm either never going to need, or so easily replaceable, like get more of it without even trying, that there is really no need to hang on to it. That and I am probably still holding on to a bunch of paper I don't need, because while I do not find it that difficult to go through items. I have a really hard time differentiating what paper needs to stay and what needs to go. I am absolutely amazed how easily you seem to get through your paper clutter. I usually get part way through and end up having enough and just throwing whatever is left that was obviously a "tossy tossy" back into where ever I took it out from.

[@margaret1336]

It’s not mess it’s life. Please don’t think that you’re the only one with some clutter that you just haven’t had time to deal with. You’re doing great!❤❤🦄

[@eSusan12]

I don’t think of you as back sliding as you are learning a new way of doing things. You didn’t t learn to read or walk in one try, so learning and implementing new ways takes time. Looking good!

[@pinkroses135]

You're right about reworking your wiring. It's a personal growth process. ❤

[@mosha3007]

How about a nice decorative bowl on your night stand to collect and corral the jewelry that you take off at night.

[@susannem6192]

Between the holiday season and illness in January that 'backslide' was not bad at all! Look how quickly you were able to restore order. Very well done.

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so much my friend, I’m so grateful for your kind sweet message ♥️🙏🏼♥️

[@zambranaml]

"Try it again and again and again." YES! Always find at least ONE item to "tossy-tossy" (even a tiny paper tag!) and hold onto your faith in yourself.

[@ahoardersheart]

Yesssss!! Perfectly written 💜🌟♥️🦄

[@massey1299]

Havent finished the video yet, but I want to say that I just love the attitude of not being hard on yourself or having the unrealistic expectations. 2 steps forward one step back is still forward. Also, I think its wonderful too that you can acknowledge the "sliding back" and instead of saying "i give up" you're taking a moment to notice and then address it. Thank you for sharing this, helps me feel better about my messes too!

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you my friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼 I don’t want anyone to be hard on themselves because we are learning and growing together!! I wish I could give everyone a hug and let them know it will be okay!! By being open and vulnerable with my own emotions, my hope is that it helps people give themselves the same love and grace 🦄🙏🏼🌟💜

[@massey1299]

@@ahoardersheart I cant speak for everyone, but you're hopes been fulfilled with me 💗💗💗

[@pinemartin6604]

@@ahoardersheart for you it's been more like 10 steps forward one step back. I hadn't seen your videos in a couple of years until recently. It's really inspiring how far you've come, it gives me hope dealing with my clutter.

[@SynesthetiX]

That nail sticker album was SO SATISFYING! Brilliant job again Mrs. Heart!

[@ahoardersheart]

Oh yayyyy!!! Yes, I figured this would help be in a grateful state of enjoying what I already have 🙏🏼🦄💜🌟💗

[@yahyeet4383]

That was a brilliant idea 💡

[@alanbirkner1958]

I bought a pair of shoes today. I was down to 2 pairs of shoes and one pair of flip-flops. I hate to buy anything new. Tina, Al's wife

[@yahyeet4383]

Decluttering works best in layers so we can adjust to each new level and see what we actually use and how good it feels to have less to manage. You’re onion is just a little bigger than some other people’s 😁. It’s so cool and inspiring to see how much growth and progress you’ve made over the last couple of years!

[@lipbalmqueen]

Great declutter

[@dutchen39]

Every time you "backslide", there is less clutter than before. You are catching it and cleaning it up much sooner as well. There is continual progression and growth. Knowing your organization style is a game changer. 😊💕

[@camillaanderberg2956]

Love your videos ❤️ keep up the good work!

[@priscillalange1222]

I clapped at the end of this video. You were so extremely busy at the end of last year that it is no surprise that the bedroom got messy again. With your system of baby steps, you will get the whole bedroom cleaned in no time. Very proud of you and you are an inspiration!!🤩❤️😍🥰

[@taraa3456]

Also a Butterfly (ADHD and battling hoarding genes) looking to make my bedroom work better - looking forward to this! ❤

[@MichellesCraftsandMore]

Call me crazy but I was wanting a way to organize my bracelets without spending a ton of money on a fancy bracelet holder, so when at the thrift store I happened to run across a handmade cup holder for a couple dollars. Now it sits on my nightstand and holds all my bracelets and my watch! Maybe that is something to look for.

[@AllTheMiniThings]

I watch your videos before getting started on my own place and I have to say your wisdom is something that is so wonderful - so many other channels will show great decluttering but without that core conversation as to WHY folks might have trouble letting things go or get overwhelmed once they get started. I love how gentle you are on yourself, which allows me to remember to be gentle on myself too. I come from a home where you'd get yelled at WHILE cleaning and this video somehow unlocked that memory for me (in a positive way) and with that knowledge I can heal that part of myself and say that I don't have to feel shame anymore and no one is standing over me yelling at me anymore. Thank you!

[@alexalc]

Love the nail album, great way to store and display! Another job well done today! 🙂

[@SalsaNube]

I love that "my house is paying me" attitude:) It is nice to find nice surprises, instead of feeling bad about it. Cheers, you rock, Mrs 💜:) ☺️ And the displaying of the stickers is a great idea!

[@marybacker6743]

I'm not a hoarder, but I do struggle to let things go. You continue to be a wonderful example to me by explaining and accepting your challenges. You have come such a long way! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so much my dear friend 🦄🌟🙏🏼💜 Your message made my heart so happy!!!

[@eileenlester4342]

Same here! 💜

[@croccatcher]

I went through all my clothes, loads to go. Tidying my bedroom today, and doing top of stairs I've dumped a ton of stuff on my unit.

[@nellieb4252]

❤️💗♥️

[@carla2012app]

I resonated so much with her, and watching and listening to her inspired me to just start, even if it isn't a perfect solution yet, it will evolve in to the system that will work for me, just through doing something. Little movements make such a satisfying difference! Thank you for sharing your journey through declutter.

[@rg-mi5hh]

The area where you sit on your bed looks very calming. Good job!

[@MRPandoraHartDR]

If you're finding your jewellery keeps ending up in piles cos you're taking it off at night and leaving it there, then tbh I'd say work with your habit and just use a pretty basket to keep it corralled and looking less cluttered. 🦋☺

[@josephdaly2015]

Miss Pepper knows you can handle this so she’s just chilling in the room with you 🐈 I wouldn’t really call that back sliding tbh because ye were all sick and ye still had work, boys at school and sports and running the house. It’s just a little catch up. I love getting paid to do clean up too and it proves money will always come to you. I’m so glad you’re not being hard on yourself and reminding us all to do the same (be kind and gentle with yourself). Time has gone so fast to think it’s a year since you did yer bedroom. Have a great weekend. Mary, Joes wife 🙇‍♀️👏💪👍🤞🙏💐🐈

[@francinehogsett3065]

Great job 😊❤️

[@marlawegrzyn6991]

Your channel has helped me to see why my daughter does what she does. Thank you! You have also helped me in my decluttering!!

[@laurayeo7832]

I am sure this has been suggested but may not work for you (you seem to have your own system) Every week, the evening before garbage pick up - we go through every room looking for trash and recyclebles. (AS much as we can find.. ie. emptying the dryer lint trap) It's almost turned into a contest lol Its also the best day to do a quick scan of the fridge and toss out and old leftovers! I am always amazed we are able to fill up both bins every single week... and we're not even really decluttering any of our belongings anymore.. just getting the obvious trash and recycling out.

[@johannadong]

I love it when your house pays you to declutter!

[@martinagigelova3270]

love your journey, and that you move from decluterring to organising stuff. Thumbs up

[@Shepz963]

So satisfying and look how quick you cleaned up! I think going through your nightstand and getting it set up for use instead of being storage will be super helpful. My only comment is do you have a trash can in your room? I find that if I put a piece of trash down instead of in a bin it will attract more and more. And since I’m not putting anything gross like food in it I can go through the can when it’s full and sort out any recycling when emptying.

[@ahoardersheart]

So I do have a trash can like 6 feet away in my little bathroom. I do want to try a second trash can right to see if it would help! That ADHD brain moves fast so I think it would be helpful!

[@carla2012app]

@@ahoardersheart I had never associated the ADHD brain with the clutter brain. This has given me a new perspective on my own self, and why I tend to hoard, and struggle to declutter and let things go. Systems that work help so much. Thank you for your encouragement to not bad talk myself, but to just try and do something. Little by little we get where we want to go! Today was my day I had set aside to do some real decluttering. This is giving me a good mental boost to move forward.

[@ingmariohman8242]

I love that you don't shame yourself and that you don't give up. That shows so much wisdom. You have a goal and you keep working towards that goal. Good job!

[@joannevenz5045]

This was great. I like how the Tossy tossy was all in a container for this video. One day you will be so strong that you will do a whole room.

[@labsareperfect]

Dang! That’s a good payment for this de clutter! You should start doing a running total of how much your past self paid you!

[@ahoardersheart]

Right!!!! And that’s a GREAT IDEA!! The past 2 weeks were a lot!!

[@emilywoods4869]

Your “backsliding” is nothing when you remember where you came from! Plus you are jumping on it now before it gets any worse. At the end of the day, two steps forwards and one step back is still progress. Keep up the great work! 💜

[@tirzahmyers3392]

Oh my gosh it’s like that photo album was made for the mail stickers! That made my ocd very happy.

[@IceCreamHoldingFee]

Firstly, I'm super proud of you for all of your healing from your hoarding and ADHD habits! You are a really good lived experience educator and I'm completely fixated and fascinated by every single one of your videos. Secondly, yes, I would very much like to see a video where you organize your night stand and around your night stand as a butterfly. Thirdly, on a move forward basis, I would challenge you to process all incoming shopping and gifts at the kitchen table and refrain from bringing bags of ANYTHING into your bedroom at all, and only bring processed clothing (eg. new but tags removed; washed and dry and ready to hang) that belongs in your dresser and closets into the bedroom and when you walk into your bedroom with them remember "Don't put it down, put it away". I would encourage you to keep your "unprocessed piles and bags" of stuff centralized at your front door near your kitchen table until you are ready to process the contents. That way, you are less likely to forget about something you bought a year ago because the kitchen table is a high traffic area where as behind a door in your bedroom is not. Also, I would encourage you to centralize all paperwork (including receipts and bills) to your kitchen table in your mail basket, again, until you are ready to sit down and properly process them (Look up "Sunday basket Organize 365"...I think it would work really well for you and will help you conquer your paper clutter migration once and for all). Lastly, you may wish to designate your bedroom into the very specific "zoned" purposes of sleeping and resting, clothing storage and "romantical time" with hubbie and nothing else. If an item doesn't fall into those 3 categories, it's a good idea keep it out of the bedroom. I actually think you are at the point of being really, really close to organizing and managing your bedroom in a way where you are actually going to break your old habits in this space once and for all, and your bedroom is going to be able to stay clean and tidy on a move forward basis. I believe in you. You got this! 💜

[@rebeckamattisson5083]

I'm happy that you don't put yourself down for the messes, you use to work so many hours every week, you are making long time changes and that is the most important. Yes, great idea to clear out the nightstand in another video. You will find many interesting things. :) Lots of love, have a great weekend!

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you my dear friend, you know exactly what to write and I’m so happy for our friendship 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼

[@rebeckamattisson5083]

@@ahoardersheart me too!!

[@advi8143]

Hi! By watching your videos, I became motivated to declutter all of my doom piles and entire doom pile room (just filled up with clutter to where you couldn’t even walk). The feelings were so heavy I put it off for months after moving into our new place. I really like how you word things, feeling “safe” to let go of stuff! Thank you for sharing your process.

[@timekabolden5309]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 83' baby!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️😆

[@lenarobins2480]

Just an idea but you could re organize your nail stickers like your closet , in rainbow order, so you can look at similar shades closer together when you pick which to use.

[@The_Joy_Finder]

I love that you are at the point where you can try different systems to find what works. I'm so excited for you for this year. Each time you declutter the bedroom it's less and goes faster. And you go deeper. Pretty cool. 💛

[@vanessawhitneypro]

No Shame! Keep going & Much love!

[@nadiaonwezen4166]

Maybe it is easier for you make a downloadable link to put the no spend challenge in your video description. People can just download it themselves if it doesn’t work :) I love the fact that asking by email is more personal ❤

[@moniquefuselier7711]

Great job! Looking forward to you transforming your nightstand into a functional rather than memory keeping piece.

[@ahoardersheart]

Yessss! I think that would be better too! I’m actually excited for it! Lol

[@sailorPinata]

at the end I thought you were gonna do a before after with your cat, showing she didn't even bother to change position XD

[@jenniferr-f3157]

I’d love to see a nightstand declutter! I’d bet it could be way more functional for how you live in 2023! I wonder if for safety reasons, you shouldn’t reveal when you find cash in your house… if it were me, I’d be concerned about break-ins.

[@EODSuperDuty13]

You have unicorns mine are corgi gifts 🎁

[@bethbranson9050]

Great job!! I think Pepper missed the whole thing! She didn’t hardly flinch a whisker!🐾🐾♥️

[@ucfhillcollege8296]

Perhaps use the gift cards to still do fun things in no spend February?

[@bunacat1]

Not backsliding, just life getting in the way. Look how fast you picked up!

[@susanmunoz7688]

You got this our sweet Ms Heart ❤👍

[@timekabolden5309]

That nail album was 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@MsArtistwannabe]

Love how much you share about what’s going on for you and why you do what you do. Thank you.

[@ahoardersheart]

You’re so welcome ♥️ My hope is that it will help other people with similar struggles 🙏🏼

[@debbiedawdry4593]

Love the photo album for the nail wraps , but I thought you had a big tub of them all sorted into sets and colours?

[@merry191]

I love your 90s/2000s stuff!

[@Diniecita]

I am here for Pepper! What a cutie! I miss my kitties. My husband developed allergies so I am not getting new kitties. But I pet my friends every time I go over.

[@tngirlz4622]

I just spent time ‘resetting’ my previously decluttered, messy again bedroom, sat down with a cup of tea and found your video! I guess great minds think alike! 😁 Excellent work,and bravo for not beating yourself up! 👏👏👏 Life happens - when the mess piles up, just get back in there and sort it out - it will get easier and easier. The first declutter took me weeks and weeks - this go round, I got it done in an hour. (I still need to pack some items to return, and put a few things away.) THANK YOU for your inspiration!🦄💜💙💚💛🧡❤️

[@leezasims9959]

Great job🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I agree it takes time for a new habit to become ingrained and it makes sense that we will go back to old habits from time to time but I appreciate you accepting that and then continuing to progress forward. Great job 🎉🎉🎉 I like how kind you are to yourself ❤❤❤❤❤

[@goblinqueen0141]

Your videos have helped me tremendously in not wearing myself out decluttering. I’ve been able to work on small areas a little bit at a time instead of feeling like I have to do the entire house at one time like my ADHD/OCD wants me to do. Thank you for your videos!

[@carla2012app]

yes! I look at the whole room and become discouraged and frozen to even begin, since what mess do I start with!? Can't make up my mind, so I don't do anything. Since I was sick yesterday, I looked at declutter videos and this has been so motivating and inspiring for me. So many others struggle with the same things I struggle with----I need that affirmation that I am not alone, not stupid, not lazy, but have a common problem many others also have----and, can overcome and move forward in my life in my growth as a human just as they have. Thank you everyone for your comments that help me to even start the process!

[@carolebridges798]

I am not a hoarder but I do get lazy and have little piles around that I take care of after a few days cause they drive me crazy. I am in my 60’s and it’s just my husband and I and I don’t get mad at myself anymore. It’s just the way I am. My theory is if someone is coming over I can clean up in 30 minutes all is good.

[@brg2743]

We use baskets in the bathroom for shampoos, etc. There aren't lids on them. It helps us.

[@carolperdue7534]

My bedroom is my challenge too. I keep trying to convince myself I need a bigger room but that ain’t gonna happen. So I need to make some hard decisions about my stuff.

[@glee_again2594]

I see your nightstand and it looks cozy and familiar to me. On the one hand I want things clean/organized, but overcoming the comfort we can’t explain of even the messes of stuff is hard. I’m also working little by little. Always trying to create better routines and let go of more “stuff”.’

[@charishurt1768]

Great job once again congratulations 💜🦄l looks fantastic 🎊🥳🥰

[@ritatharp5238]

Thank you for sharing.

[@summerbaby4600]

Awwww, Pepper❤ So adorable ❤

[@Savy_Mom]

Always love your videos. You rock!

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so much ☺️🙏🏼✨💜🌟

[@nancykaplan7163]

you said some of the collectiob is from last year. but what i saw on your nightstand was remnants of the flu. between your very bust holidays and then that horrid flu everyobe was slammed with looks like you didn't do that bad. you need a wastebasket in your bedroom it might help with some of this "end of the day to tired" stuff. I use those everbreeding plastic bags as liners for wastebaskets in the bathrooms and bedrooms.

[@alexandrahunt8895]

🦄 yay!

[@joanneverreau2546]

Your room looks awesome, great job. My bedroom looks like yours also, before you decluttered I mean. Lots of stuff, unbelievable amount. I just have such a hard time letting go of things, I’ll keep trying though, your very inspiring 💕🙏🏻😊. I just love ms. Pepper🐱

[@nancycosgrove4005]

Great job- the closet looks beautiful!

[@gweldrod8849]

An idea for the essential oils… I have a rack that I hung the wall. For others, I bought a tiered nail polish holder (with individual squares) and have my oils stored that way. I am not a butterfly but I think it would still display them nicely for you.

[@rochellesiegel5199]

You go gurl!

[@MsP0le]

I love you! ❤️

[@ahoardersheart]

Awe, I love you too 🦄💜🌟♥️🙏🏼

[@Benkissel1]

I am so excited to see you go through and organize your nightstand, there is so much cool stuff in there! also not trying to be the internet police here but just have to say essential oils are toxic to cats. I had no idea and I had to stop using essential oils, incense, room sprays... basically all of those things can give cats asthma and more severe illnesses, including death. I guess they are pretty bad for humans too because this year I found out that I am allergic to purfumes, only after i developed asthma :(

[@ashcraft555]

I love how much your house is paying you to declutter lately - it's nice of it to reinforce your new great habits by rewarding you! Do you have something special you do with this "found" money?

[@marieortiz158]

I need an backsliding bin! I just got back from vacation and I did a big "give it a home" spree. Guess what? It took one day to unpack! My bedroom wasn't finished when I left so thats what I am working on. Anybody got a good space to display crystals? Thx for the inspiration as always! Love you🥰🥰🥰

[@meredithnadine]

❤ your journey! ❤ your honesty! ❤ your bravery! Have you considered taking the doors off your closet, Ms Butterfly? ❤🐝

[@rickystephens4689]

Really cute name for the cat pepper

[@CherryXValanceX]

Omg I love the idea of the nail decals in the photo album! I’m going to do this with my sticker collection so I can see them all and enjoy them!

[@annettesceon8156]

You are doing great.

[@amystewart9228]

You did a great job girl!!!

[@ekaterinapak]

So satisfying! Thank you❤️

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so much my friend 🦄💜🌟♥️🙏🏼

[@capridillon]

I just found your channel and I feel like I have found what I have been needing. Do you have specific videos that target the need to escape? I am very ADD and OCD (and I jokingly add "and all the other DDD's") I am really trying to learn how to deal with the hoarding issue in addition to the DDD's! Any help is so appreciated.

[@nancykaplan7163]

nice finding these envelopes of $$$ in the kitchen and bedroom. underlines that your nedd to look at each bit of paper is not wrong.

[@lucyrademakers4188]

❤❤❤❤😊

[@megan2176]

Rotation of bracelets!! I love that!! I tend to only wear earrings and always the same ones. I love the idea of intentionally wearing a rotation of different pairs, to add a bit of joy to my life! Seems like such a simple thing, but it really inspired me!! Thanks! 🥰

[@kadrikiis8654]

❤️

[@ahoardersheart]

🦄💜🌟♥️🙏🏼