AITA Update: Went No Contact With BIL When He Accused Me Of Flaunting Wealth - Reddit Stories

[@gaxalee7392]

The Op in the necklace story is high key wholesome. “My wife worked hard during a time of financial instability? I’m gonna thank her with a classy little diamond necklace because I love her.” Love this Op and his understanding wife.

[@markgoodwin6266]

BIL, is just a cheap, petty POS.

[@demariejones3438]

@@markgoodwin6266 so very true…. What an ass!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Me too. OP and his dear wife are perfect for each other. ❤️💕❤️ BIL is probably just jealous that OP gave his wife a great gift in comparison to his probably crappy gifts.

[@nerdygeekgamer5528]

the man bought the necklace as a thank you gift for his wife for toughing it out and sticking by him through a very hard time he has a right to spoil her if he wants to as long as it's with in reason of their budget and they agree and are on the same page

[@ohno8398]

For story 2, the woman was already berated in public and therefore likely berated in private, OP standing up for her wouldn't have changed that, only shown her that she wasn't alone and provided a ray of light. However, I am not enough of an expert on abuse to know that would make it dangerous for her, could someone explain that? Surely everyone sitting by and ignoring it would be worse? It only solidifies for her that this is how she deserves to be treated.

[@ilydowa]

"I feel like you would be one of those women that used to shame me for formula feeding my children because they made assumptions about me" says the commenter making assumptions.... ooof

[@schbern8835]

I feel this would be the kind of person that if they saw a guy taking a fist to his girl would ignore it because they don’t want to make “assumptions “.

[@ilydowa]

@@schbern8835exactly!

[@xdsc96]

I just cant stop laughing at mark going "huh what?" at the YTA comment from the necklace story🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Me too. I'm pretty sure that commenter was joking around. 😂

[@ABaker-pl6nk]

In story 2: I felt like the boyfriend was more mad that it happened in front of his friends than the fact that his girlfriend stood up for the breastfeeding mom. I think he values maintaining appearances more and the gf cares more about doing the right thing. That’s probably going to be a point of tension between them. Honestly though, if I was one of the friends I would have been impressed with OP for being so badass.

[@alyzu4755]

First story: Yeah, BIL absolutely seems like the type who needs to "win". He has no right to call his sister names. What a tool.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

My thoughts exactly! He shouldn't be surprised if something goes wrong and OP's wife has no sympathy for him.

[@riceracm]

19:00 At 80-years-old, Mr. CrankyPants should have enough common sense to understand that once he said OP was no longer his friend, that OP would no longer do him friendly deeds…🤦‍♀️😆

[@itsjustmaddisen]

A perfect example of age doesn’t equal wisdom lol.

[@Val_Benko]

I'm torn on story 2, but I do want to point out that if OP could clearly hear the man loudly berating the mother from 2 tables away, the odds are extremely high that plenty of people in the restaurant were already shamelessly eavesdropping on the conversation. The one commenter who said something about a "small private tiff" seems to have missed the fact that he was clearly loud and almost certainly drawing attention. I think OP could have gone about this a much better way, but some commenters seem to think that nobody else in the restaurant other than OP could have possibly already been watching and listening to this situation. Plus a crying/fussing baby always draws attention

[@Sherwoody]

If I had witnessed this (I’m a guy btw) I would have applauded OP right there.

[@ianesgrecia8568]

@@SherwoodyFor an outbust from a stranger that will probably only cause problems for the mother when that family comes homes? Yeah. I don't think so. If I was OP partner I'd leave her ass

[@groggyowl6871]

​@@ianesgrecia8568what op did could’ve been the catalyst for that woman leaving her ahole husband. So I call that a win in my book. If boyfriend leaves op for this that's another win. Just means he's ok being on the sidelines while mistreatment happens.

[@ianesgrecia8568]

@@groggyowl6871 So a win for everyone! I couldn't agree more.

[@sgm8265]

No one, no one wants to eat with a screaming baby nearby. If OP hadn't spoken up someone else would have. And may have yelled at the mom putting the onus of the situation solely on her. Just as the others at her table were doing.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA OP doesn't control his wife. Not only that but everything the BIL said is nonsense. Just because BIL FEELS pressure, does not mean OP made him feel that way. His insecurities are not OP's problem. Edit after update: so BIL came around a lot when they were having issues and are now rsiling against them when they are above water.... yeah dude sounds like a real charmer.

[@pansprayers]

My husband and I make good money, but to guess by looking at us, you'd think we were busted broke, unless you really know that our simple staples aren't cheap. Being said, if someone EVER suggested that I had to ask his permission for ANYTHING, he'd look at you like you announced the second coming, before laughing until he cried.

[@DarkbutNotsinister]

This is “not my monkey, not my circus” events. BIL’s insecurities are not OPs problem. My husband would also be laughing if anyone insinuated he, or anyone else, had any control over me. Once upon a time, I was the manager of a Kay’s Jewelers. No mortgage, no car payments, just getting married, making some cash as a manager, bought lots of obnoxious jewelry. I still love it!! Other people’s feelings about my jewelry isn’t my problem. It wasn’t for THEM. It’s for ME.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Honestly, I hope Sister in law Mary leaves him in the future. She deserves better than OP's brother in law AKA wife's brother.

[@pamelajohnson6425]

Sounds like BIL has a #1 complex or main character syndrome...always has to be the first and best. His fragile little ego can't take someone else doing better than him. And God forbid a man treat his wife as an appreciated equal!

[@eliability]

Story 1: Oh gosh NTA BIL sounds extremely jealous and they asked about it, OP’s wife was just happy to talk about it I love how Mark did a double take. They had us in the first half ngl

[@xdsc96]

When you read something out loud and then it registers afterwards 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you say it out loud and then realize how it sounds🤣🤣 too funny

[@lyragwen1895]

I applaud you OP for talking to the people at the table. The smile you received from the woman says it all!

[@als2480]

Breastfeeding story- NTA. We need more people willing to put asshats in their place. I was once that mom, handling the baby alone and struggling. Thank you.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Being an 80 year old doesn't excuse being an idiot. My Nanna is about to be 99 in a few days, even we make sure she isn't being nasty to people. Be polite, gets you further with people.

[@xarsta]

Yeah plus didn't that old bastard say he was going to report their dog to the hoa

[@ashh4929]

And 9 times out of 10 they were horrible ass hats BEFORE they got old. My grandma's in her 90's and she's been a raging bitch and horrid human my whole life and my mom's whole life. The only thing that changes is that they don't care about saving face publicly anymore when they're being awful to people. Instead of you knowing through actions and deed that they don't care about you, they flat out tell you they don't give a shit about you, only what you can do for them.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

@@ashh4929 ... I think you just predicted what my MIL, FIL and SIL would be like... lord have souls for the ones who still think they're worthy of being around.

[@ashh4929]

@@kerribottriell-baxter7345 Sweetie I feel for you, it's bad enough when you have one, you've got the unholy trifecta going there, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. 🤞💜 I suggest reading "The Art of War" and get multiple strategies ready. Lol And I don't know what high powered juju let my mom be the polar opposite of her (and thank all things shiny and good in the world for that) but she STILL tries to win her affection and helps her the way a child with a close relationship with a parent would do. I think that's one of the things that kills me most about the whole thing, is she always tries to be the bigger person and knows in her head she'll never get the motherly love she wants but in her heart she still wants it and keeps trying for it. All that for this woman who, when her junkie criminal son overdosed and died, she straight up said that of . the two, "why did HE have to be the one who died?" I could write a novel of the things she's done over the years that are way worse, but it's just cuz "she's old", right? 🙄

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

Same with my oma honestly! She's in her 90's too and is still the kindest lady ever

[@dulcilass]

Story 1 BIL sounds like he's of the persuasion that wives should get, coffee pots, toasters, or vacuum cleaners for presents. He's just angry that you got your wife a truly loving gift. And a gift for no reason except to say "I love you" Good for OP

[@joaolima7131]

Ikr, his sexist comments are disgusting and it's about his own sister and wife who was in the same room, he sounds toughtless af, I guessing he probably gave her a toaster to his wife on her birthday..., I would take a harder look on this marriage, she doesn't sound like a bad person, just married with a bad husband.

[@lorifiedler13]

BIL probably was planning to get wife another small kitchen appliance or cleaning tool. For that money he could buy her a nice piece of jewelry.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@joaolima7131 I agree with you. Honestly, I hope Sister in law Mary leaves him in the future. She deserves better than OP's brother in law AKA wife's brother.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

When I wad dating my ex husband he gave me flowers, candy, and jewelry. After we got married he stopped doing that. I got baking items, kitchen tools, knives, craft supplies and books.

[@redconvoy]

Story2: I think Op read the situation right since the woman smiled at her after. Someone should have helped her and they probably do that to her all of the time. I am glad OP said something.

[@zerobolt9506]

Agreed

[@AllenTax]

Eye. And as that dumb last poster. You can only go by what is going on at the moment. Not go by and do A interview. No different if was some kids bullying another kid. It stops right now. Is as if someone was getting physically abused by their partner. Do you just ignore it because you don't know them. They could end up dead and it be on you. In some places ignoring such A thing can in fact get you arrested and jail time. At least 1-5 years. As you be charged with accessory to murder/second degree/witness.

[@ernestmarshall5846]

So what if the bad husband who op called out was also drunk and decided to try and fight op followed by ops bf having to do the fighting for her, would she still not be the ahole? What if her bf ended up getting severely injured or killed while defending op? Would op still be in the right? Look at all the videos of guys getting stabbed, shot or severely beaten up cause their gf decided to start a fight with another man then expects to sit back as the bf has to pay the price for her ego. Sounds like the bad husband looked physically intimidating for ops bf to get that mad at her for instigating a fight with him. I don’t think ops bf would have been as mad if the bad husband looked like rick moranis or sheldon cooper.

[@Sammvoy]

@@ernestmarshall5846 sounds like you are projecting based on your own experience bc it seems like op read the situation right. Also it’s not op’s fault if 2 grown men decide to get physical

[@WhitneyDahlin]

@@ernestmarshall5846 interesting I didn't even consider that point! It's definitely possible. Let's assume you are right. What if OP was alone at that table and then did everything exactly the same. Would you still consider her TA? or only because she dragged her BF into the situation by confronting them? I completely agree she should have been more careful especially if she's going to drag other people into it

[@delmaplain6823]

If someone in my family can dress better and wear expensive jewelry, good for them! I am glad they are doing so well! BIL is jealous, and a single solitaire stone is not flashy!NTA!

[@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334]

All narcs have one fear and one fear only: LOOKING bad. Not BEING bad, no, they love that, but they don't want anyone to notice. He's mad because he can't or won't buy his wife something similar and instead of addressing that himself he's going to throw a tantrum at the "competition" for doing better than he is.

[@trainerlesseevee478]

The way Mark zoomed across the screen at the mention of an HOA made laugh harder than I should have 🤣

[@jessicamccollumm]

100% his giggle and little face across the screen sent me

[@Russman67]

The last story: The husband did exactly what needed to be done in this case. What the brother-in-law said was rude and uncalled for. Husband checked his ass on the spot. Mom treating him like a precious baby is exactly why he'll stay single. Not the asshole for backing up husband.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yeah. OP's brother is essentially a little monster of her parents' making. OP and her husband would be right to distance themselves from that incel brat and their enabling family.

[@delmaplain6823]

NTA! You did right calling him out. Be a jerk in public and someone will call you out!

[@nobinary2296]

Breastfeeding one is a half and half scenario. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. But OP shouldn't be ashamed of doing the right thing. I have seen to many scenarios like that and it always breaks my heart to see women shamed for something natural. Should OP have handled it better? That's more of a "would've, could've, should've" situation. But how much worse would it be if she had done nothing? The woman was obviously struggling and she was obviously being affected. So sometimes everyone needs a friend to be there. It's not like we're all psychics. So what? Are we all not supposed to help someone EVERYTIME because that person MIGHT be in a situation we don't know about? How are we supposed to know? And will YOUR inaction kill them? Being a bystander is just as deadly. But I remember freezing once and not saying anything when I was witness to the most heighnous racism I had seen... From shock. I couldn't believe it had happened so openly and casually that I had to double take. The worst part? They made eye contact with me but I still froze. And after the unimaginable guilt I felt I promised to NEVER freeze again. So I haven't since. Too many people want to be keyboard warriors. There's so many "what if's" in life at every moment and in every day. We can't just drop everything. We can't just freeze because of some imaginary scenario your brain cooks up. If you jump the gun? Apologize. At least your heart was in the right place and most people are understanding. Grateful that someone would even care to pay attention to their body language/situation.

[@groofromtheup5719]

OP came off as a bit to full of herself and overly self congratulatory. I'd give the woman less than 50-50 odds of being actually thankful.

[@katwiltz1134]

Truth !!! Whether you know it or not you made a conscious decision not to be the sheep and not to be the wolf the shepherd is what you've decided to be. Not my business? Ok Please don't let it happen in front of me because what my eyes see & my ears hear IS my business.

[@katwiltz1134]

​@@groofromtheup5719 you do wrong 50% of the time. Doesn't matter you act in a manner that I find repulsive and I got to eat around you you going to hear it I don't give a f*** what's going on or if she's thankful. The term mind your own business it's a saying for a reason. But you cross paths in a heinous or repulsive manner in front of me in a place where I'm supposed to be free of it imma let you know bullies are a dime a dozen. I'm pretty sure that the girl could see because she paid attention to her body language she paid attention to everybody's body language which made it impossible for her to ignore. But this is done after some wives give birth by some husbands just like cheating is prevalent while the wife's pregnant not cuz she's ugly and fat but because there's something going on in men's heads biologically it said this female's pregnant move to the next it's why you hear so many people having more than one baby but only one wife. But there's also the one that has to do this in public because if they don't do this in public the wife won't know that not only will you get in trouble but your nose will get rubbed in it and nobody will help because you are stuck with that infant and vulnerable and you can't get away because nobody will help you. They rely on Schmucks that keep their mouth shut to prove to the woman that there is no hope and he can do whatever he wants to do to her in public and nobody bat and eyelash.

[@jakeand9020]

She absolutely is TAH. She doesn't know this woman or her situation. What she does know is the guy is willing to "loudly berate her" in public, imagine what he's willing to do in private. She may have just earned that woman the worse beating she's gotten since the baby was born for all she knows, but she's too busy congratulating herself to consider that woman at all.

[@sammieg8641]

Eloquently said!

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

I just got my Switch this morning so seeing this made my day better! NTA second story, there's a reason that breastfeeding is legally protected in public, most babies can't even drink formula at the age this baby is at, and if the husband was loud enough OP could hear him, then her raising her voice isn't wrong. She needs to band together with that mom so they both can get away from their toxic af partners

[@fionap19]

Story 2 I definitely think you were fantastic sticking up for the mother. I’ve been in similar situation and I’d have been so grateful to have that support! You probably said what loads of others in the room were thinking!!

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA probably going to get slammed for this but OP showed remarkable compassion for a struggling other who was being left to fend for herself while(presumably) a child's father sat there doing nothing. He then called her DISGUSTING for feeding her baby...at a dinner table. Nah, they deserved to be shamed in front of the entire restaurant. Dude is a useless parent and she needed help so she could eat. Instead he insulted and degraded her in public. He got what he deserved.

[@pansprayers]

Not only that, but they didn't think twice about what is likely a rare hot meal going stone cold. F*ck.

[@darkshadow5581]

I'm kinda stuck between NAH, and ESH, leaning to NAH. I think what OP did was right to a certain extent, but I also feel there where better ways to help the mom without possibly making her situation worse, and If I was the Mother I'd be embarrassed. I can handle dealing with idiots, but all the eyes on me from someone else defending me would really make me uncomfortable. I do think it's just a difference of handling things, hence NAH, but I do get why people say ESH or YTA, because "the road to hell is paved with good intentions".

[@NotQuiteUseful]

@@darkshadow5581 Wanting to help a struggling mother? NTA. The moment OP started to make a scene, the story moved into YTA for me. The poor mother was probably self conscious enough with the dad or w/e telling her off, she definitely didn't need some random woman drawing attention to her. I'm willing to bet that very few people other than the original table and OP even noticed the breastfeeding until OP made a scene.

[@zerobolt9506]

Agreed 👍

[@zerobolt9506]

@@melodyharpole8272 agreed

[@AndyyWithAY]

BIL is an AH. He is just immature and making ridiculous drama. The wife didn't even bring it up. BIL's wife brought it up and wife was just happy to talk about her great gift

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Exactly! He's probably just mad that OP unintentionally bruised his ego by getting his wife a lovely gift. LoL 😂

[@clairebear-96]

On the one with the mum breastfeeding in the restaurant - NTA i’d say, good for OP for standing up for that poor struggling woman; she could’ve done it in a different way honestly tho

[@StubbyandShifu]

So we should stand by and watch abuse unless it can be handled tactfully?

[@chenlee9835]

Story 1: OP is NTA. What he should do is not only buy the bracelet and in the future matching earrings.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#2 NTA, Loved the comment that baby daddy takes his food and eats in a bathroom stall. Slight ah for speaking so loudly so others heard, could have just geared convo to that table.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

The last part is redundant, if he was speaking loud enough OP could hear him screaming at his wife then it's perfectly reasonable to be loud so he actually listens over the sound of his own voice

[@anahernandezliceras2070]

Story 4: well, if mama believes no woman deserves such a "precious person" like him, guess which woman is gonna be stuck caring for his big baby ass for the rest of her life. Also, am I getting inc3l vibes from the dude?

[@briant7134]

I think the moral of some of these stories is, “Don’t give it if you can’t take it.”

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

I don't know how hard I can face palm with the last story. Good grief. NTA OP, you're doing what a wife is meant to for a husband who deserves to be sided with.

[@indianspartan76]

Story 4: that dude needs to be held accountable and was. NTA

[@TP-bw5jx]

Mark's excitement over the entitled neighbour story brightened my day

[@civivva4501]

🤣Flavor Flave’s clock is your go to for big, clunky over the top jewellery. 🤣

[@MarkNarrations]

Oh whenever I see big jewellery that's all I can think of lol. Expect to hear more of him :)

[@alexlibby5087]

Story 2: NTA I’m wondering if those saying YTA have ever been in that moms shoes? Being overwhelmed, taking care of a baby by yourself in public is so stressful! Than to have 3 people ignoring it until your told to go sit in the bathroom by yourself? Unable to partake in conversation or eat is isolating and may even deter her from wanting to be social at all. I feel sad for the women saying they’d be angry at OP for blowing it up - being told it’s disgusting your feeding your infant and go hide yourself would make me seriously question my relationship w this individual. If she’s in danger because of DV; from my personal experience - the second he said something about the breastfeeding he already had it in his head to ‘address’ it once alone. It’d still be horrible if it amplifies his reaction but there’s also some hope that someone else noticing her mistreatment will validate to the mom that this isn’t ok Edit: I do think OP could’ve waited and if the other woman did go to the bathroom, had a conversation there

[@Resilient_Sage88]

The irony of one of the replies calling OP presumptuous, then proceeding to say "I bet you shame formula feeders." Though lol

[@wmdkitty]

The mother CHOSE that situation. She had the choice to bottle feed, and be publicly appropriate, but she chose to whip out her boobs in public. She brought the whole thing on herself, and has no right to complain.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

@@wmdkittyDon't judge other people for how they choose to feed their children. It's no one's business but the parents. The alternative is to let the baby go hungry if the mother doesn't have formula on hand, or any pre-pumped. She was just trying to calm her child, and the types of people that have a problem with it are judgemental assholes that have nothing better to do with their time.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

I'm not even a mom and I can see why it's a fucking asshole move to tell her she can't feed her damn baby wherever she wants

[@supersinger234]

@@wmdkitty for thr love of God Shawna get over your fear of breast for their natural function, it's fucking weird. Not every baby can use formula, and not every mom has a pump to get breast milk into the bottle. These women are feeding their babies. Why are you upset about that?

[@sharonhoupt5053]

Story 3. He may be 80 years old, but he didn't become an AH over night when he suddenly became a senior citizen. This is a lifetime of AH-ness. The only thing age has done for him is to break all of his mouth filters.

[@sagesaria]

Story 1: Wait, so BIL *knew* that they'd been struggling, and now he's accusing them of flaunting their 'good fortune'?! He sounds like the kind of person who would accuse poor people of misdealings for having a 3DS or smart phone.

[@albertgongora6944]

I'm not going to lie on the last story I would love to see an update to this actual story but I think it would be interesting to see how it goes because the only way I can see it is Opie and her husband going no contact with the whole entire family maybe except for the good sister that's on their side but clearly these people are so toxic and have their heads so far up their asses because the fact that you don't Opie's older brother who is 33 years old that entitled and that spoiled is frightening that they would allow that behavior to go on this really does sound like a nice guy story but it's like nice guys meets entitled parents at the same time

[@joaolima7131]

I wonder if BIL even gives some type of present to his wife on important dates, like her birthday, holidays, etc, by his comments, he sounds like the type of person who gives crap gifts or no gifts at all, he sounds toughtless and I feel bad for his wife, she sounds like a nice person.

[@Tammohawk1]

Speaking of Flavor Flav and his giant clock... My youngest sons birthday is the day before Halloween and he used to have a Halloween themed birthday party almost every year. One year we had a costume contest and this one kid came dressed as Flavor Flav. I about died, I thought it was awesome. He won the prize too. He had the hat, the cape, everything, it was just great.

[@kellyalves756]

The teeth? Did he get a fake grill? 😃

[@maggpiprime954]

Story 1, b4 update: NTA. I live on social assistance, but I don't get bent out of shape over my family members' material belongings. A diamond solitaire is not dripping opulence ffs. Buddy needs to get a grip lol

[@eliability]

Happy to be here! Currently vibing in some blankets while drawing and listening in to drown out the feels of these wicked cramps. How’s everyone doin?

[@alma5147]

I just found out that I got accepted into uni while listening to this. All hail the Mighty Mark! Seriously, you've gotten me through some tough and unpleasent times and now things are looking up.

[@melanellie_art]

The breastfeeding in a restaurant OP was totally in the right but IMO went over the line by berating the other unrelated tables for any potential breastfeeding fear that she had no basis for, as well as loudly describing a sex act (men sucking on women’s breasts) in a public place.

[@Perceptionreflection]

She didn't say anything to the other tables, just loudly said it to the table she was confronting.

[@melanellie_art]

@@Perceptionreflection “And then I said loud enough that the tables around could hear that anyone who is offended..” This reads to me that she was addressing everyone in the immediate vicinity

[@audreym3908]

@@melanellie_art or the tables were closes enough that they could hear her, what's your point?

[@jessluxsozzy]

Story 2 NTA not all heroes wear capes. The only people that should be embarrassed is the baby's father and his parents for being self-absorbed and uncaring for the new mother.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Last story, I’m not even OP’s husband and I would have knocked the brother out. The husband has shown more maturity and restraint than the entire family (besides sister on their side and OP).

[@bulmauchiha3973]

Story number 2# to op yes and no its great that you stood up for her when no one else would, but as a survivor myself, lord only knows what happened to that poor women when she got home...

[@gypsygem9395]

As someone pointed out, she'd probably have had some kind of backlash regardless since she already got told she was disgusting. But as a survivor myself, her smiling at op in the car park probably means there's no DV there. I wouldn't have looked at anyone if that had been me, much less smiled at them (in case I got seen by abusive partner)

[@LordBison98]

Story 2: OP is NTA. Why is it that when a stranger is getting abused in front of everyone it's "none of your business"?? Ok, let me just sit there and watch poor lady getting ignored and neglected as she can't even eat because of her baby.

[@lorifiedler13]

Favorite quote. Those that mind dont matter. Those that matter don't mind. Dr. Seuss

[@maddy8328]

Story 2, NTA. You helped her. Breastfeeding is not disgusting

[@groofromtheup5719]

It isn't, but she didn't actually help.

[@greyscaleanon7551]

@@groofromtheup5719 Maybe she didn't change the minds of the AHs, but judging from the smile, she at least made that woman feel less alone.

[@susanlosey9511]

What the blazes? He insulted you in front of the family, and your family enabled his behavior. Go low contact with your family and no contact with your brother. I admire your husband for sticking up for you!

[@kaitohkid7229]

Story 2: well done. I read too much storys were young wifes get treated like this.

[@teafox8]

The last commenter for Story 2 is on something because what the heck are those questions??? "Are you sure that was the dad's baby or was it a brother?" Why the heck would the lady breastfeed his brother???? I don't even..? What? "Was she even hungry? Maybe she didn't like the food or ate ahead of time." Dude literally did not read the rest of the post cause OP said that the lady started eating

[@BlackW0lfie]

Good day to you, good sir! Cheers from a Portuguese person living in the uk

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 1, Tell your bil that if he is insecure about what I get his sister, then he needs to get a better job. Then he can get better things. Story 2, I think that op did the right thing. It's also telling that you're bf would just set there and let this happen.

[@jjgonzalez7703]

The highlight of the video was mark's slide-by when HOA was mentioned in story 3😂😂😂

[@gypsygem9395]

Yesss!!!

[@MarkNarrations]

Oooooooo!

[@jjgonzalez7703]

@@MarkNarrations that part😂

[@jennifersilves4195]

Every time anyone told me to breastfeed in the bathroom I told them exactly that, "You go eat in the bathroom".

[@terrex28]

Story 2: the Hero we need!

[@Logitah]

To the OP in the first story, get that bracelet!!! I bet it will look gorgeous on your wife!

[@dancingkitty11]

It's Baz Luhrmann - Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen....it came out in 1999. Great song.

[@peggyseabrun4829]

Story2 good on you OP ,if they ignored her like that in public I don't think they're supportive in private either. The ahole husband could have fed her. We ladies need to support each other and if he knows he'd get a bollocking ifhe ever tried that again hed think twice. Hopefully hes learned his lesson

[@shannonbullock2202]

"It's not like it was a big Flavor Flav clock" 😂😂😂😂😂 almost spit coffee across the room

[@theresatrahan6282]

Neighbor thinking he's entitled to you clearing his drive. Play Stupid games, win stupid prizes!!!! 😆 😆 😆

[@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334]

Story 2: Sometimes NOT minding your own business is the right thing to do. Good for you, ma'am. You didn't cause a scene. You ended one. If your BF is mad at you for doing the right thing, he's trash, frankly.

[@joan-mariacbrooks]

Story 2: I breastfed but always had a large poncho to cover me and baby when I fed him if we were out. OP handled that beautifully; no one else, including her bf, would help that young mother so OP did. Anyone who had issues will get over it, everybody else does.

[@JJerseyGirl]

1st story- BIL acts like the wife had the HOPE diamond around her neck.😂

[@smokingsoilder]

Are we just gonna skip over the fact that the neighbor story put mark in a great mood

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

Not at all; his chant of, "neighbours, neighbours!" Hade me gleeful.

[@smokingsoilder]

@@slytherinlibrarian3501 he really does get joyfull about nightmare neighbors

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

@@smokingsoilder And I in turn, love his joy of it.

[@MarkNarrations]

Got to love a neighbor story haha

[@smokingsoilder]

@@MarkNarrations man I have to tell you. I am proud of you.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: NTA. You were helping a (maybe) a mother, whose husband and in-laws weren’t helping. Yes, maybe there might have been a less confrontational way but this was the time to be confrontational

[@Deaznkid280]

Mark I cried at the “Nice Guys” comment at the end, thank you!

[@pansprayers]

The second someone suggested that he *allowed* me to do anything (tattoos, piercings, my day-to-day uniform reminiscent of the original Tomb Raider, name it, we've heard it), my husband would have laughed until he cried. Because he views me as an adult and a human, lol. I'm not even into girly sh*t (jewelry collects flour and germs, make-up is useless - not good for a chef).

[@WyntheRogue]

Same,I work with my hands too much to wear rings for a long period of time or get fancy manicures. [I'd feel terrible messing up the artist's nail art while painting or making props for cosplays now that physical conventions are making a slow return go the masses. ] OPs BiL sounds super insecure to feel one upped from OP getting a sweet gift for his wife.

[@pansprayers]

@@WyntheRogue yeah, the *really* funny thing is, my former mother (toxic, axed her out of my life legally) actually asked my husband - during one of our final interactions - when he was going to put his foot down, and 'stop letting her buy such cheap and trashy clothing, and make her dress like a lady?' The outfit I was wearing cost 500$ - black tailored bespoke slacks (because pockets are terrible in women's clothing and I have weird measurements), a pair of higher end black platform heels and a black cashmere sweater. That outfit lasted TEN YEARS in both quality any style.

[@groofromtheup5719]

I'd definitely discuss perment body modifications with my wife before doing them.

[@scousemouse9566]

Story 4, NTA, he will be alone till he finds a woman he can bully, his parents and sister will bully the woman too. He deserves to be alone and you dont need to put up with his s**t 🧇🧇🧇🧇

[@Deergon]

Mark always acts like Christmas came early when a neighbor story comes up

[@MarkNarrations]

Oh I love it! I'm such a nosy so and so

[@markbizinski6425]

Story 2 , O. P. is N T A Way To Go Girl ! ! !

[@Hellion912]

I'm listening either at work, a licensed electrician, or home sewing. I made the Ren Faire cloak of my dreams this week while listening to Mark. 🥰

[@Tammohawk1]

I made a medieval style dress years ago for my niece. Turned out great until the end when my grommet gun broke. I love to sew also. I'm currently making a comforter set for my bedroom.

[@judyjohnson9610]

Oh, it's all about the clothes.

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful day

[@justjenny5437]

Hi Katie! Hope you’re doing well today!!💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@katiesmith2031]

@@justjenny5437 I'm shattered didn't sleep last night and have a headache since yesterday other than that I'm great thank you. Hope you are having a wonderful day

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Thank you broken I will try didn't sleep last night bad headache. Hope you have a wonderful day

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 oh no feel better soon m8 much love 🤗🤗💜💜

[@Steampunkkids]

@Mark Narrations Thank you for brightening up my day with this video. I love your discussion about Flav-O-Flav. I was so tickled to hear that even young people like you know his name. And, I’m glad you enjoy One Topic at a Time’s channel as much as I do. You both have so much compassion and kindness for your fellow human beings. You warm my heart!

[@You_said_what1]

Eat your sandwich on the toilet......LOVE HER!!

[@rupturedduck6981]

Story #3 : The old Fart went from Mr. Rogers to Oscar the Grouch real quick didn't he ? I would have cleared a path one snow shovels with (the legal limit in most jurisdictions)so the fire department and paramedics could drag his sorry ass out in case of a medical emergency.

[@drizzter1374]

To the OP with the man-baby brother-in-law: The next time he throws a tantrum, you and your wife need to calmly reassure him that the new baby will never replace him as the neediest and most coddled infant in his mommy and sister's hearts. There's enough love for everyone and before you know it, the baby will grow up and everyone can go back to making sure BIL knows he's the most special little man in the family! Then ask if he made a poopy in his pants and needs mommy to powder his tushy before nap time.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Oh my gosh! That would be soooooo petty! And yet sooo hilarious! 🤣

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Absolutely NTA. OP and his dearly beloved wife are perfect for each other. ❤️💕❤️ BIL is probably just jealous that OP gave his wife a great gift in comparison to his probably crappy gifts. Honestly, I hope Sister in law Mary leaves him in the future. She deserves better than OP's brother in law AKA wife's brother.

[@vraptor1491]

S2: This is the exact reason why the "What Would You Do?" exists. A situation where some is in a uncomfortable state in public with no form of aid from the people who're supposed to care about her. The ESH and YTA votes have tangible reasons, but you have to ask: would you literally snub your nose a mother being shunned by her family whilst caring for her/a baby? We can't always let the genovese effect win

[@PuppyKatt]

Bravo to the op who backed up the woman who was feeding her baby with her God-given baby bottles. I had 5 children, and nursed them all. If I was in a location where people made nasty/rude comments, I would double-check to make sure I was well covered, usually with a receiving blanket, tell them if they did not like it, then don't look, and perhaps move out of eye range. NTA, your bf is.

[@acatnamedtaz2167]

HOA , "ooooooooh" and a little head across the bottom of the screen, had me laughing

[@lienemeid]

My cheeky McDonald's arrived seconds ago, again with the perfect timing 🥰 hope everyone is having a lovely day ❤️

[@ukchanak]

The comments this time were hilarious! Love your work and the comments you pick out are the best

[@shirleyramirez4441]

That Flava Flav comment got me man! I'm busted out laughing, almost woke up my babies! Hah! It was GOLD!

[@marinaenlund3124]

Haha, I can relate to story 1. I got a classic Mercedes 350 SL from my husband when we've been together for 30 years. It started a lot of commotion in the rest of the family.

[@xxratsrcutexx3494]

Sculpted a frog yesterday in art class :) going to paint once dry enough :D

[@TevanaZelta]

Story 2: This just reminds me of that reality show "What would you do?" I honestly feel conflicted, mostly cuz I think OP did the right thing while not 100% sure if how she did it was the right thing to do. Im just disgusted that the mother was shamed for doing what any mother would naturally do and feed their child.😑

[@amyhamilton-romans3293]

Mark Narrations (Relating to story #1 when you mentioned favorite quotes) This is my favorite quote, written by me 😊. Here goes, "If you always do what you have always done, You will always get what you have always gotten."

[@FlamesofJagger]

🎶 🎵 Am I the buuuuuttthhhoooolllleeee 🎶 🎵 Sing it Mark. Heading into work when you posted. So prepping for stress. Anyway... Much love 💘 ❤️ 💗 💕 💛 💙 💘 Stay chill 😎 and waffle 🧇 on. Waffle 🧇 Gaaannnnggggg forever!!!

[@gypsygem9395]

Reading/listening whilst traveling through Bradford with my sister to look at a car!

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - BIL sounds like TA to me. Also, I'm glad OP was wise enough to put the word "let" in quotes. What kind of AH in this day and age talks about "letting" or "not letting" his wife do something? Story 2 - OP is a legend! I'm disgusted with the BF giving her the silent treatment until she bows down and apologizes. Does she really need this guy? Story 3 - 17:54 - Before OP does anything else, s/he should contact someone in authority in the HOA and tell them everything s/he told us, so that if the A-Hole neighbor does try to get them to make OP give up the dog they have the real story. Story 3 - Later - If the neighbor has any family in the area and there's any way OP can contact them, maybe they need to have him assessed for the early stages of dementia. Story 4 - There are no words!

[@nobinary2296]

Love the story with the necklace what a lovely thing to do for his wife. Love the story and shame on the BIL!

[@NeroTheDarklord]

Story 2 got me thinking... Why does the boyfriend feel embarrassed? Nothing about this situation was about him. OP screamed at unhelpful adults a table over. She embarrassed them. What leg does the boyfriend have to stand on to feel embarrassed? That his girlfriend who caused a scene sits at the same table as him? Nobody would even care about him as all the fokus went to OP and the people a table over. It kinda feels entitled from the boyfriend. Like he's so important that he needs to keep his partner in check or it will look bad on him. It doesn't make sense.

[@jadedflames2809]

2: I don't like the esh/yta comments. The woman was struggling to calm the baby and couldn't eat. Yes, it could be worrying about the aftermath, but she was getting berated and OP had high empathy. Was there a better way? Probably, but OP was not wrong at all. bf needs to grow up

[@AutumnLeafdust]

Oooh, new video! Perfect time killer whilst I feel sluggish from getting my booster shot yesterday, heh. No worries, I'm mostly alright, only with a sore arm and a teeny headache, but no fever! Hopefully everyone's doing alright so far though!

[@LadyJoolree]

Story 1: "What time is it?" YEEEAH BOIIIII! 🤣🤣🤣💀

[@TheNekomata8]

You're a One Topic fan!!! That's awesome!!

[@MarkNarrations]

He's a great guy! :)

[@sweett2924]

I'm sorry...you're reaction to the guy threatening to call the hoa....lmao I about choked on my drink! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@bartvansliedregt5482]

Have a good time everyone. This internet stranger loves you and is proud of you