AITA Wedding Edition 👀 TAKE 3️⃣ | Wedding Planner REACTS

[@crazysis02]

Perfume situation: I think we keep forgetting that his new wife spent their wedding night at her mother's. That's not a "rock and a hard place" action, that's a deliberate sign of her choosing her mother. There were several people at the wedding, the mother didn't have to go get the new outfit herself. Amazon also does same-day delivery. There were so many solutions that weren't even considered because it seems like the groom's comfort was not a priority.

[@robsonrobson9905]

Story 2: not having an allergic reaction trumps LITERALLY EVERYTHING ELSE. If he was a guest I'd say he needed to make his excuses and leave, but he's the GROOM. Without him there there's literally no wedding! I don't care if the MotB felt awkward or the bride felt torn, he shouldn't have to sit outside his own wedding while the person causing his allergies is inside having a great time. Go home (or to a hotel if that's too far), have a shower, change your outfit, hell if you don't have another outfit ask some guests who are roughly the same size if they brought a spare. It's not that hard. At the VERY least *she* should have been the one sitting outside so the GROOM COULD ACTUALLY ENJOY HIMSELF. The bride and her mother suck *so* much. The fact that the bride then stayed with her parents on their wedding night is just a cherry on top of her own selfishness.

[@hailyjohnson407]

My thoughts exactly. There's no way that no one attending a wedding didn't travel from out of town, so someone has a travel bag with spare clothes with them or at a hotel very close by. OP didnt say the size of the wedding, so if it was small or if MIL is considerably smaller/larger than average then that might not be feasible, but it sounds like from the way OP described it, MIL was unwilling to consider solutions. Even if the nearest store that sells clothes is 30-45 minutes away and it's just a Walmart or something, there was a solution for her to change her clothes, even if it may be awkward or uncomfortable for MIL to be dressed casual at the reception, and receptions are usually several hours long so she wouldn't have to miss everything and bride could just hold off anything she wanted to save for her mom until she was back, like speeches or dances or cutting the cake, etc., and just went ahead with food and games and other things they had planned the aren't pivotal moments for MIL to be there for

[@hailyjohnson407]

Or she could hang out outside and only come in for brief times to watch something like cake cutting, etc., but keeping her distance back from the groom and then going back outside

[@s.a.4358]

If it were me, I’d at least be outside with my groom, making our own party, dancing, etc. I don’t understand the bride staying inside to party with her family, while her groom, the person she just said yes to and who is the other key component of the day, is outside missing out.

[@kindredecho]

That 2nd story with the perfume...yeah...the wife was the AH. Her mother coulda come back in jeans and a t-shirt from that thrift shop and every single person would have thought she was the hero saving the day. Not a single wedding photo would have been ruined because MIL would have looked like the most gracious and resilient person on the planet. On your freaking wedding day, your spouse shouldn't be choosing anyone above you unless it's a matter of life or limb and this wasn't that. Total fail on bride and MILs parts.

[@TheKateP]

The second AITA made me think... I'm getting married in 2024 and get migraines from perfumes, is it acceptable to ask people to refrain from wearing perfume to the wedding?

[@rf-g8684]

I don't think that's rude at all.

[@akreeger7742]

I would think so, if you just put a note on the bottom of the invite and tell everyone in the wedding party, I think most people would understand

[@Sokolva]

Yes it’s totally acceptable, you could even have a gentle reminder and say it’s for health reasons or sensitivity to perfume or something. I know I’d rather know that as a guest so I can accommodate, because otherwise I’d default to perfume and so would my husband, and I’d never want someone to feel uncomfortable because of that, especially the main couple on their own wedding day. Definitely tell people!

[@SebbieSaurus22]

My fiancée also has this issue, thank you for this suggestion!

[@celiaeven878]

Story 2: Health over "perfect day", 100%! My own mother would've offered to shower/change if she had seen the incredibly bad reaction her parfume had done. I don't care what she's wearing, allergic reaction is a dangereous thing AND it ruined the wedding day of THE PERSON GETTING MARRIED. Like take a photo with your mom and have her change outfit (and if she didn't want her mom to go for a little time… like are you really going to spend allllll night with her? Don't you have family and friends to greet? It's your wedding, you can just ask to wait for the cake etc)

[@TEWMUCH]

lol idk what my mom would have done cus she's a total narcissist and gets very controlling in special moments. but I do know for sure between her and all the aunts and cousins, somebody would have had an extra outfit even if my mom refused to shower. she may have got a towel to wipe off in the bathroom.

[@salamanda11]

Perfume story: NTA. Of course it wasn’t the MIL’s fault because she didn’t know it would happen, but MIL needs to change so that the groom can enjoy his own day. Unless she drove hours away to get to the wedding and arrived in her wedding outfit, there is no excuse for her to stay and continue wearing that outfit. If she had absolutely no way to change clothes, she needed to be the one staying outside. And I can’t believe she didn’t feel that way when she saw how he was reacting to her perfume. Did she (and the bride) really think her presence was more important than the health of her daughter’s new husband?? Groom didn’t do anything wrong. I can’t believe the bride was mad at him and stayed with her parents that night. What was he supposed to do?

[@s.a.4358]

Agreed. It is not the mother in law’s fault because she didn’t expect the groom to have an allergic reaction, but her and the bride’s attitude makes them the AH. The MIL should be the one who stays outside, if anyone, if there is really no way for her to change clothes. I also do not understand the bride and to me that is a red flag about her putting her mother / family before her husband. There is no way I’d want to not be with my groom on our wedding day, even if it means we end up slow dancing alone outside or leaving the party early.

[@alyj6398]

I feel like if it was the bride having the allergic reaction to her MIL's perfume, and she had no options but to spend most of her wedding outside with her bridesmaids because the MIL wouldn't or couldn't change, and the husband didn't join her, and then left to spend the night with his parents, people would be even more irate. The OP was totally NTA, and at the very least, the wife should have spent her wedding outside with her new husband rather than away from him. And that she left him on their wedding night over a health issue is sad.

[@caityjayde96]

For the second one, I don't think that the groom would have suggested MIL finding an alternate outfit if it wasn't a feasible option. Also, I do kinda understand why people have a problem with the wife, too. It's the groom's wedding, too, and he should be able to enjoy it. It's also supposed to be a celebration of their love and commitment to each other, and basically declaring each other to be their number 1 priority. Instead, she prioritised her wants and her mother's presence over her new husband's legitimate health needs, and that's not exactly a great start to their marriage - if anything, I'd say it's a red flag (a small red flag, maybe, but a red flag nonetheless). I get that weddings are emotional, but MIL should have left for a bit to get changed and the bride should have sucked it up and asked her mum to change even though it'd mean she'd miss part of the reception, because her groom's ability to breathe is far more important. I don't want to jump on the 'divorce' bandwagon because there must be some love there and some level of compatibility if they decided to get married, but I don't think the bride's choice is going to bode well for their marriage, let alone her audacity to be mad at him for trying to not have an allergic reation at their wedding.

[@harley69]

Right? The wife staying at her parents because husband didn’t want to put himself around a health concern seems ridiculous and mean spirited

[@sdarling6518]

Yep, definitely a red flag.

[@christinashanks4497]

Well said!!

[@alloallie]

Right, like I would definitely prioritise my husband's health over my mom being there, as much as I love her.

[@buecherphoria]

To be honest, I can't believe the MOL stayed. I'm wondering if they didn't communicate clearly enough how severely her perfum affected the groom's health and their entire wedding day. I understand the MOL wanted to be there with her daugther (and the other way around obviously), however, putting myself into her shoes: I would have left as fast I could - making sure my daughter and her husband can have the best time ever! What's the point in me having a great time at their wedding if they are not happy. But obviously it's hard to judge the situation as we probably don't know all the details.

[@kateg3815]

As someone super sensitive to certain scents, they give me a migraine, the bride and her mom were absolutely in the wrong. Allergies can be debilitating and their attitude is really off putting, especially when the day should be about the bride and groom, not the bride and her mother. The post even says she usually doesn't wear perfume, so why pick the wedding as the day to wear it when he has had reactions in the past?

[@michellek1203]

I've heard this story before and it literally made me add a question to my rsvp about guest no wearing certain scents due to medical issues (migraines) and having them acknowledge it!

[@charlene336]

I also live with pretty severe perfume/chemical sensitivity. I listed on my website that it is a perfume-free event & will even text out reminders the day before to my small list of guests. A person should never be gaslit regarding any illness. How would anyone know if someone is faking?

[@lizard3755]

I also have migraines and on more than one occasion had to leave work due to someone wearing a very strong perfume and it triggering a migraine and/or asthma attack. I never thought to have my wedding be "perfume free" but that actually sounds like a great idea, especially since I have other family members that can have reactions to strong scents.

[@YentlLega]

8:01 “whether you agree with me or don’t disagree with me” 😂 got it👍 Love your humor and energy ❤

[@maddy78912]

Why didn't they just ask one of the groomsmen or bridesmaids to go and buy a new dress for the mother in law?

[@cheekybella123]

The ten year old child performer really got me hahaha! This child has obviously gained a sense of entitlement that they are the star and everyone wants to see them perform at every opportunity, which is clearly not the case. I would like to know which previous wedding this little diva was allowed to perform at (which relative was it?) If anything, a reality check now, when she's ten, will do more good than indulging her and her finding out later in life that she's only got potential.

[@rachhhnicole]

imagine a child doing a mediocre performance that’s longer than your wedding ceremony, all because her parents can’t set reasonable expectations 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@itssteph263]

For the perfume allergy one, that one is so difficult. I still think they should have tried attempting to get MIL a new dress or outfit. That does however depend entirely on how far away from the nearest store they were. It was an unfortunate situation and I hope the couple can laugh about the situation later on.

[@hg2917]

It was the mother in laws fault for prioritizing herself and seeing herself more important than the grooms health. Daughter could have asked another close guest to swap clothes with her mom temporary and bring something new for mom so the mom doesn’t have to miss anything. Maybe another family member that knows the mom and wants to help out. Wife should be concerned about her husbands health first before her mom just being present. Maybe they are close, then mom should even more want her daughter to have a great start to her marriage

[@TEWMUCH]

@@hg2917 exactly an aunt or someone less important like a cousin could have ran to the store or ran back to the hotel and got even a robe. they just didnt try and it's trifling. the mom refused and that wasn't right.

[@nriamond8010]

Story 3: At my wedding (nearly 1 year ago) my husband's family all got super excited and did lots of games and performances without telling our wedding witnesses beforehand (as we told in our invitation) and though it was really done out of love (it was the first wedding in the family in our generation; my husband's siblings and cousins are all long-time single and we're all around 30 or older, so the last wedding was decades ago) and I liked all of it: It took HOURS. German weddings are much longer than American ones (our reception was 12 hours, not counting the 75 minutes-ceremony) but still, I would have liked to enjoy more of my beautiful venue when it still was daytime and talk to more guests. I think that a wedding reception is most often too short for the couple so it's not right to take away more of their time - especially if the child doesn't do it for the couple but because she wants to perform. That is just selfish.

[@writerspen010]

I don't normally enjoy AITA videos from non-reddit-focused channels, because, well, if I wanted to read these posts, I'd just check out the subreddit. BUT, I do very much enjoy them from you, because you actually tie in good, practical wedding advice and etiquette into your responses, which remains on point for the goal of your channel. It also keeps things entertaining for those of us who are finally past the need of your usual wedding planning advice and gives us something to keep in our back pockets if or when we find ourselves in a position of supporting friends and family getting married who might be going through awkward situations. I say keep'em coming!

[@LilyLuluko]

Yay you did another one of these! My day is made! Story 1: Sara should take it up with her boyfriend, not the bride, holy moly. Story 2: No Assholes Here and I feel bad for everyone. Story 3: Oooof jeez, this poor kid is getting set up for disappointment later, are her parents crazy???

[@KaydeenJahmoya]

Sorry, but for the perfume story, the wife is DEFINITELY the a*hole. Not for wanting her mother there, but for being mad at her husband for not being able to breathe. Her spending the night at her parents house was immature and childish. Your husband literally couldn’t breathe at his own wedding and you didn’t care not one bit. That’s a red flag and selfish. Not for wanting her mom to stay, but for her literal lack of care for the man she was marrying. She wasn’t marrying her mom. She would’ve been okay if her mom left for an hour or so to change. People are so weird…

[@caitlinhanson8631]

Even if she REALLY wanted her mom there the whole time, they could've asked someone to go grab her some clothes!

[@jordansutherland183]

Story 1: Sara is definitely TAH for trying to dictate someone else’s wedding. Bride is also kinda an AH for how she responded. She had me at the first half but the part about her brother breaking up with her was not classy and was uncalled for. Story 2: groom is not the AH, wife and MIL are TAH. A person’s physical health comes FIRST, especially since it’s the groom. Changing clothes is a minor discomfort compared to missing out on YOUR OWN WEDDING DAY.

[@jordansutherland183]

Also, just noticed it doesn’t look like you’re wearing a top in the thumbnail 😂

[@jenniferdaniels701]

Yeah, story 2 makes me feel like maybe MIL wants to kill OP. Making the best of the situation is getting rid of the allergen so the GROOM CAN BREATHE!

[@nervousbreakdown711]

Number 2 is why you have to be very careful when applying anything scented.

[@midnightedevane4131]

Am I the only one having sound issues? It's very distorted to me

[@caitlinhanson8631]

Same, I thought my ear buds weren't working properly at first

[@jadecat9897]

Story 2: the bride was the A-hole. She can't be without her mother for ONE single hour on her wedding day??? Is this a child bride? That's the most selfish thing I've heard of. That woman could have gotten clothes (any kind of clothes) somewhere, anywhere, so the groom could participate in his own wedding. Leave her!

[@abi1457]

Story 2. I'm with you, no ones TA, it's hard. I have severe asthma and I can't be near people with any kind of perfume or body spray or anything. I'd be literally dying and wouldn't know what to do. I'd say for the future just make everyone aware of any allergies before had, as you never know what reaction you might have.

[@Zil_Senczy]

So I absolutely love these videos. Both because I feel like they help prepare me for things that may come up that I wouldn't be prepared for otherwise. But mainly I enjoy the wedding tea and all the spicy comments that come with. Please continue to do these from time to time!

[@christinashanks4497]

I absolutely LOVE your AITA videos!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 In a way it makes me feel better about having an intimate nuptials day with immediate family!

[@blueamodio7452]

For some reason, the audio quality in this video is much worse than most of your videos jsyk!

[@orionspero560]

For the first story, if I were the bride, I would set up a public Facebook post that made it clear if I had to choose between the bridesmaid and the brother, the bridesmaid wins. It would end with an Olive branch about seeking a reconciliation that would restore the brothers invite.

[@Grace-rh4em]

I wonder what was in that perfume! 😅

[@StayAtHomeMeme]

For the first story, if I were the bride, I’d ask Ms. CrazyPants to go out to brunch with me and try to have a civil, in-person conversation. I’d observe her behavior and see how volatile she became when I explained that it was one of my best friends and regardless of ex status, she’d be in my wedding. I’d say that I understand if that makes you uncomfortable and if she didn’t want to come maybe that would be for the best but I wasn’t changing my bridal party. If she blew up in person, I’d fully remind her invitation. Second story: If you’re having a huge allergic reaction at your own wedding, you’re not an a-hole for trying to fix it. It’s just an unfortunate situation. 3rd: Tell that little girl no lol. I own a wedding venue. (We live on a farm and have a beautiful wedding barn, so I see a lot of weddings)TRUST me, No one wants to see that lol!!!

[@purple3506]

There's a lot of echo

[@knittedbywhitney]

I LOVE this series! It's so great to hear your opinions as someone who has more experience dealing with wedding situations.

[@msspriss94]

Giiiirlll! You look so good in that hat!! I love it! ❤️

[@lmsutton09]

We need more of these videos. Please post these more often!

[@orionspero560]

13:00 I'm, i'm worried that this is a bright problem, not a mother-in-law problem. Given the groom's allergies, how did the mother of the bride who was also made of honor end up sprayed with perfume like that in the first place? Either the bride failed to warn her mother off heavy perfume or the bride is supporting her mother after defying her safety requests. In either case the bride is an a h and not ready to be married.

[@joellaogilvie2744]

The fact that the wife spent her wedding night at her mom’s would be a deal breaker for me. What happened was unfortunate but the wife took it too far by not caring that her new husband felt awful and supporting him.

[@ckee8437]

Dang, I can see that girls family lettung her put on her own show if they go to the theater 😂

[@JeanMachine17]

Love your reddit reaction vids Jamie!! Although the audio seems to be a little funky on this one…? But Please keep makin these! :)

[@Housewarmin]

Jaime, I have been watching your channel in preparation for my engagement...and me and my partner just broke up... I am devastated... but these kinds of videos make me smile and feel better

[@Alissaxboyle]

I need more of these videos more often

[@glossbones]

Would it be possible to please add timestamps for these in the future? 😊

[@Jpaynesmith]

Why is the audio quality so low?

[@shannoneckler7293]

Love this series but it seems like the audio is a little off.

[@geethenerd]

As someone with a lot of allergies, when I’m the guest and keep sneezing and have watery eyes, I tend to keep it in. But if an event was about me, and I was too busy dying because someone, for whom the event is not for, wasn’t trying to be accommodating to me. I would cry. Edit: that person clearly doesn’t care about you, only themselves.

[@crittaable]

I LOVE THESE VIDEOS SO MUCH!

[@user-zo2yl6bg6k]

Seriously… if I’m causing someone to have an allergic reaction then I would definitely feel embarrassed but I would also do everything I could to fix the problem… also I know damn well I wouldn’t even have to ask my parent to leave if they where the cause… they would have already left to fix the perfume issue… Very poorly handled by the bride and the mother

[@rel546]

Audio isn’t good.

[@melonyrobinson9944]

As a fellow theatre kid, in reaction to the last story... WHAT?? 15 minutes is a LONG performance! Most songs are like 6 minutes MAX. By 45 you might as well just put on a full one act play. 10 year olds are cute, but not cute enough to endure 15-45 minutes of subpar performance. Especially not uninvited at a totally unrelated event that is not exclusive to family

[@klm_shadow]

Dude didn’t exactly ask MIL to leave and stay gone. He just asked her to go change into anything else and come back. If they could go bring cake to MIL they have to live close enough or have a cousin go get an outfit. Something could have been done but the wife and MIL didn’t seem to want to compromise.

[@kristismyk1930]

The perfume one is so sad 😭😭 sorry but I’d choose my husband on our wedding day/night over anyone else, she should’ve just changed clothes, heck put a pair of jeans on who cares over the poor man’s HEALTH

[@s.a.4358]

Definitely would choose my groom over anyone else on our wedding! Even if it means we need to dance alone outside or leave early. I would also find it strange - and judge a little bit - if I were a guest at a wedding where the groom is hanging out outside while the bride is inside having fun.

[@TEWMUCH]

1. She not an a hole. She had the right to tell her off. If she didnt curse her out or call her names, what she said was TRUE and acceptable. It's her choice to respond or not to respond. I wouldnt allow her crazy self at my wedding either. 2. It's happened 2 times already, and y'all couldn't warn anybody NOT to wear perfume ahead of time?... I don't understand why someone else who is less important to the event couldn't go get her another outfit.What about the cousins, aunts, sisters, anybody with a bath robe... this mother and daughter just didnt try and completely disregarded this man's health!! it's not a good way to start off a marriage especially being that she didnt spend the night with her husband. looks like she wanted to stay married to her family! 3. Absolutely not! Children are not wedding entertainment. give a strong NO and DO NOT FEEL BAD.

[@carolgarringer4786]

Bride chose her mother on her wedding night over her husband? That's a very bad sign. Are they still married? I don't care if the ten year old niece sang like Celine Dion, not at my wedding!

[@j.rourke3333]

By the way I'm PREGNANT! "Soon to be a mother of 4" Nice way to slip that in there. Congratulations!

[@ryntintynvin]

This is why I so rarely wear perfume, you never know whose day you’re going to ruin just by being too close for too long (like sharing an elevator for a few floors). Bride should have been more understanding, he can’t control having a negative reaction to something. If I was the MIL I would have insisted on changing and coming back. The groom is more important at the wedding than the mother of the bride, there’s no way you can argue otherwise. NTA, bride needs to support her partner better. While I feel for the bride, her response of spending THEIR WEDDING NIGHT at her parents’ house makes her the AH, hands down.

[@misslyntheena]

First one: it’s just a terrible situation and entirely the brothers and “Grace”s fault in my opinion. Imagine you started dating a guy and his family is just viewing you as a replacement or a space holder and waiting for you to be tossed away so you can be replaced by the clearly favoured ex again. If I was the girlfriend I wouldn’t take this out on the sister and her wedding but instead have a deep talk with my boyfriend and break up if need be

[@nicolehutchinson4242]

As a migraine sufferer…. Peoples perfume or cologne can literally put me in bed for days. I feel bad for OP.

[@eeshazor]

As a migraine bride, I am very worried about the fragrance thing, lol 🤣😳😳😬

[@becca1189]

As someone who also suffers from migraines, the strong scents... yeah. Straight to my brain!!! I don't think it's unreasonable to ask people to refrain from wearing perfume/cologne (just part of the dress code). Anyone who truly cares about you & your fiance will be glad to do what they can to make sure that the two of you enjoy your wedding day. Congratulations!!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@cathybrookeburt2616]

Story 1 Sara the plus one should have been UNinvited the minute she swore at OP & called her the C word. End of discussion. Problem solved. Story 2 As sucky as it was, MIL should have left to get a change of clothes after the ceremony & quick photos. It sucked, but you can't have a wedding without a groom & I am a mother of 2 girls & grandmother of 7 girls. SHE was not 'necessary' & should have figured it out & come back. I wouldn't let my presence jeopardize my daughter's wedding for any reason. Story 3 The bride should make the wedding child free & that would eliminate the problem with Shirley Temple. No need to turn down her performance if she isn't invited in the first place.

[@soccerchick9841]

For, the MIL perfume story. I think the wife and the MIL were both being selfish. It's the grooms day too, not just the brides. I don't think it was a unreasonable request for the MIL to get a change of clothes. She could have went to a Wal-Mart or somewhere to get a change of clothes real quick and then came back. Instead, the bride pushed the groom to the side and made him miss some of his own wedding day.

[@cowreacts]

Love these videos ❤❤❤

[@readerunite]

Photos were taken. MIL could change now and it would make a fun story when people look at the wedding photos to see her in a different outfit. If my son's bride had a bad reaction to anything I had on - I am allergic to many perfumes getting instantaneous migrains and I can love the scent - I would have washed myself as completely as possible and stayed away from her yet within sight. If this had happened at my son's recent wedding, it was a long way from the wedding and the reception from the hotels. I would have begged to switch dresses with someone or looked for any kind of outfit change.

[@thatgirl_tab]

For story 2, what I don't understand is who in the wedding party arrives in their outfit? You get ready wherever the wedding is unless you all got ready really close by. In which case she either had an outfit on premises or close enough to drive and be back in under an hour.

[@chrisk4053]

Couldn’t mother in law just have stayed away from groom -

[@rf-g8684]

Jamie, MIL and wife are the AHs!!!! 100%. You kidding?

[@Mr.And.Mrs.Wedding]

1. NTA I'd do the same!!! Id take away my brother plus one and explain why to him. 2. I get you, you can't do anything about the perfume making you sick. But I also feel bad for MIL because she probably didn't know.I do think MIL is TA because she could have easily went and changed but refused.Also wife should understand how bad it is and should have told her mom to go change and come back. 3. NTA, it's your wedding not a show expecally because its 15-45 minutes. If it was like 3 then id be like okay whatever

[@sarahhuse9709]

For story 2 I feel so bad for the groom. I used to think that people with perfume allergies were just being dramatic....and I definitely think so are, but when essential oils/all things lavender became popular I discovered that I am very, very allergic to lavender (and cedar and eucalyptus) and if I am around them I am miserable. If I smell them in the air I immediately go the other direction and I avoid people and situations where I am likely to be around those scents because it's just that awful, not to mention that allergic reactions can be very serious, not just annoying. So I have a lot of sympathy. I do think that Jamie has some really good points about how we don't know the surrounding circumstances (like maybe the wedding was late and in a woodland far from a town so getting clothes would have been really difficult). We also don't know if OP was a jerk in how he spoke. But I have to say I really, really don't like that the wife spent the night with her parents.

[@justalittlebitmo]

I feel for the MOB in the allergy story. There's a chance her dress cost hundreds of dollars and had been altered to fit her perfectly. Running out to grab a new dress may have felt super insulting. That said, the poor groom. He's now your son. Part of your family. Like others have said in the comments, there were plenty of potential solutions. I wonder where the couple is at now

[@Bodine22infp]

Perfume story: I am completely on the groom's side in all but one thing. A lot of people (myself included) make perfume and/or flower concessions for loved ones. Why can't the MIL change into jeans or something from her home? Send another family member. Anyone who thinks people can just 'push through' or 'deal with it' have never experienced severe allergic reactions. That said, don't post your marital problems online.

[@songpoetry1]

I'm kind of surprised that a kid, especially a relative, performing something at a wedding is seen as odd, but maybe that's just a cultural difference. Expecting a 15 - 40 minute time slot is a lot though and ultimately it is up to the bride and groom anyways. If they don't want something for their wedding then it generally should be respected without complaints.

[@michelleslifeonrepeat]

Love this

[@Terri-x2r]

Perfume boy could be a covert narcissist and needed to ruin his wife's wedding and make it about him ...

[@alohilanizapata53]

😂😅🤦🏼‍♀️ I'd rather listen to 40mins total of toasts, than that long of a kid dancing weird/singing. I'm a Nanny, and as cute as it is here and there, yeah heck nope.

[@becca1189]

❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@elladash0love]

For the second one, I do think the groom should have told people in the bridal party ahead of time that he has occasionally had reactions to perfumes and if people could abstain that would be appreciated. I sometimes get terrible migraines from perfumes and when it comes to important events, I tell people ahead of time that though their perfumes smell nice I just can't take the risk of getting a terrible migraine and ask them to hold off on it. Is it possible that if they wore it that I would be fine? Sure I suppose. But it's not worth the risk on important milestone days.

[@salamanda11]

I think he said it’s only happened 2 other times, so he probably wasn’t thinking of it. You’re thinking of a million things planning your wedding, and something that’s only happened a couple of times could easily slip your mind. If I was that MIL I wouldn’t be able to live with myself causing that reaction to the groom. I would find a solution or stay outside myself.

[@NessyNess182]

Story 2: uhhhhh... if it is a severe reaction actually, this is rough. I have a weird feeling this guy might be a whiny Beta~male, and I would've had someone from the wedding party to grab some Sudafed, what ever it's called and sucked it up. I get WICKED hay fever, and chlor tripolon always does the trick for this. As stated earlier, if this was and actual SEVERE allergic reaction, I apologize. The MIL isn't the A. This requires a little more context.

[@susancook1448]

For the perfume:who the heck spritzes it all over a dress?? She should have volunteered to go home and change or go find a shop. Maybe the mother in law should offer to go with her. But parents should do what’s best for the couple!