Are You Guilty of These INFP Contradictions?!

[@bellat3842]

🙋🏻‍♀️Jack of all trades, Master of none.

[@andrewmccullough7576]

Lol, I feel like this quote resonates with many of us here :)

[@mikevandernoordt4507]

Jack of all trades, Master of some ;)

[@mcgil8891]

Same 😭😭

[@umbrieliya7867]

Same as well

[@mercedesmcvey1776]

Jack of all trades, master of none seems more like ENFP,

[@beardedrancher]

Definitely found that overstimulation thing to be accurate. Too much noise or too many people and I'm out.

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

Yes! When I was a kid I would get really sweaty palms at the supermarket. Turns out I was just overstimulated.

[@beardedrancher]

@@Lexmorningstarnz I always go find a quiet area during gatherings lol. I'll socialize and mingle a little bit, but then I go find whoever else is sitting alone and have a one on one conversation instead of being in the middle of it all.

[@destiny5730]

It took me for forever to realize a lot of my anxiety comes from overstimulation.

[@carmen1144]

I went to the theater to watch scary stories to tell in the dark and one of the characters gave what I thought was a gut wrenching scream and I got so scared, almost cried (mind you i love scary movies and watch them all the time) and all my friends were like wtf that wasn’t scary at all and now I got the explanation I needed so thank you

[@ladydede88]

My cousin had her birthday party at a club(I was so irritated) but I ended up going and it was so many people the music was so loud there was lights flashing I ended up sleeping in the backseat of the car for like two hours because I just had to get out of there.

[@CagedxBirdx]

I jump hobbies like nobody’s business and have always been so annoyed with myself for it, glad to have that part of me explained. It’d be nice to actually finish something I start for once. I just feel so inspired to try so many things but I never get very good at any one thing.

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

I feel ya! I like to call myself the Jack of all arts.

[@anonymous_alien1469]

you just described me

[@Marvin_Alain]

Same! I'm not sure of it's procrastination or I just have the attention span of a toddler haha!

[@annaperkins5818]

That was me too! Recently I've had more of a "niche" and I'm more apathetic now and I miss my creative hobbies but I remember praying to find one thing I could focus on and become successful at it..soo it's like.... really.. I'm still working on the successful part. I don't have the passion but I'm trying to recreate it because I only have passion for "new" experiences and hobbies it seems.

[@jesusislord5275]

That's me too 100% one week and I'm on to the next thing

[@claudy_sky]

Sometimes, when I find myself in social situations, I tend to withdraw, forcing a smile and hating myself for faking it so much; but at the same time I wish with all my heart to relate to them. I really want to belong without having to fake emotions or opinions just for the sake of fit in.

[@lelelew2735]

Right like eyor or however you spell it from winnie the pooh lol hes authentically himself moping In sadness and despair yet they all accept him and connect with him anyways 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@checkersssss9]

"I struggle to have conversations that kind of lead to nowhere." 😂 This couldn't be more true for me 😅

[@racoonplont]

Like, what do they want lol!

[@friarpesel]

I Never Finish Projects

[@kleenesuessmaus1234]

Friar Pesel YEEEEES

[@Lisa-ze7yk]

SAME IT SUCKS

[@oldmanjinkinsskyrim737]

I Feel You.

[@mcgil8891]

Same 😭😭😭

[@mcgil8891]

@@cosasderu it's kinda difficult to live with that. Even difficult to think anyone would hire an employee who might not finish what she started

[@Marvin_Alain]

If the conversation leads to nowhere (no consensus, no learnings, no emotional/ mental connection) I feel like I wasted my time especially if the person is not THAT important to me.

[@euomu]

Don't want to be too negative, but I honestly feel like being an INFP is a curse. Most of the things that make my life difficult are in some way, shape or form connected to my personality type

[@olavonogueira8944]

All the personality types have vantages and disadvantages, your personality would only change the problems you would have to face. The solution is to learn how other INFPs face those obstacles.

[@euomu]

@@olavonogueira8944 You're not wrong, but some personality types just aren't as beneficial to have in western society. I personally think the INFP has it hardest.

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

I can relate to that!!

[@olavonogueira8944]

@@euomu Yeah I know what you mean, it's not easy.

[@meghnalekshman4137]

@@euomu It's not just western society.

[@louera]

1.) Driven yet Apathetic- In highschool, I was always on top, till I realized there were other things I was passionate about than just academics so I started not caring too much about school. 2.) Perfectionist or Negligent- If I'm not in charge of a project, I will be negligent. If I am though, I will want it to be perfect(also if I'm passionate about the project vs. not passionate about it). 3.) Want relationships but limit human contact- this!!! I just want to connect with everyone but if I feel like people around me can't deal with deepness, I become withdrawn from them/ I will single out one from the group who likes a meaningul interaction. 4.) Gentle yet Fierce- I will fight indeed if it seems like my values are getting stomped on. And I have gotten into trouble many times for this, but I will never regret fighting for what I believe in. On the flipside, I can be ever so gentle and chill :) 5.) Needs Autonomy but wants to stay grounded- too true. I will want a new environment so long as I know my old one will always be there to remind me of who I truly am. Thank you for this video! It really makes me feel relieved I'm not the only one with these contradictions.

[@emoratboy]

I can relate to you on 4.) I tend to be a pacifist, I’ve let people walk all over me. But when it comes to my values being threatened, or disrespected I get this courage and anger that I don’t have in any other case ( ◠‿◠ )

[@christinagrant3252]

Woah. I'm the same with all of those things!

[@messinalyle4030]

So how many of my fellow INFPs have had people that so often tend to judge our overall level of competence/conscientiousness based on the things that we are negligent in, so they put us in a box of being these helpless babies and decide that they must need to do all of our thinking for us, and they criticize us about an area in which our perfectionist side comes through, and their words come out a bit condescending, and we end up wishing all kinds of violence on them? Anybody relate to that?

[@tariqalodat720]

Amen

[@Bellajjoe]

Definitely, ive been called stupid several times i really hate that🥴🙃

[@Candican2]

Haha! Yup! Not that long ago this happened to me and ever since I've been replaying different "speeches" on how I should confront this person ....it's been two weeks. I don't think this confrontation will ever happen and I'm sure this person doesn't even remember what they've said by now hahaha!

[@iknowwhatsup2880]

Lol on wishing all kinds of violence. The secret mind of an infp, so completely unsuspecting.

[@oldmanjinkinsskyrim737]

Yes 😔

[@hannahsenga03]

As an INFP, I feel like two different people many times. Even when I was young, I remember wondering whether the "real" me was the outgoing one who enjoyed time with friends and activities, or the thoughtful, introspective one who liked to write or sit and listen to music. As I've learned more about the INFP function stack, I suspect that it has been a different feeling between engaging my top two vs. bottom two functions. But even now, it makes me feel split, and less authentic. How do other INFPs handle this? In your opinion, is it better to involve yourself in activities that harmonize the different cognitive functions in a cohesive way, (and what ARE those activities?) or jump back and forth between more "outgoing" and "introspective?" I guess I am uncomfortable with the compartmentalization that has to happen.

[@luckyduchesse8924]

I can't speak for you, but I can share my own experiences, hoping that it can help you. For me, I always tried to fit in with the people, I always forced myself to be more extrovert, to go talk to other people, to force myself to smile and be social. I always feeled fake and nauseous when I was doing that, it was extremely hard on me. I was convinced that I needed to do that to have friends and to be loved. I thought that I couldn't achieve that if I wasn't forcing myself to act like that. But, I realised that the friends I was making by acting this way wasn't what I was seeking for. Like Lex said, INFPs want a real and deep connection with someone, and I couldn't achieve that by being what was clearly not me. I realised that I would never be happy with others if I'm forcing myself to act a certain way to appeal to them. And I wouldn't be happy with myself either. So I tried to be myself. To really be myself. Of course, it's hard to make friends this way, but I feel so muchhh better with myself. I realised that not having friends wasn't a big deal if it makes me finally happy with myself. What I wanted to say to you is that the real you is when you don't feel like you're acting. You don't feel this uneasiness in your guts, you feel at peace. If both sides of your personnality, aka the outgoing and the introspective, feel right to you, if it doesn't make you uneasy and nauseous, so it means that they are both ''You''. A person can have many sides. Clearly, I wasn't an outgoing person and my guts clearly told me that. So, what about you ? How do you feel about each side that you talked ? Ps: Sorry for any eventual mistakes, English isn't my native language. Have a good day !

[@righteeeyeh]

Im confused with this as well, a part of me wants to be outgoing and the other feels like its not entirely right. When i'm with very outgoing people, in groups i can clearly see thats not my place, but at the same time, when im with introverted people i feel like i want to go on an adventure when they want to chill at home. Recently, something that really fulfilled my life was doing the extroverted things i wanted to do, like travelling, but with people like myself and on a slower pace. I think finding the right company is so important. People that want to do the same things as you want, but that have similar values and needs as you.

[@ForeverFashionGirl21]

I get mistaken by some friends as being extroverted because I genuinely love people and getting to know them (deep conversations galore) - so I am talkative/make lots of friends but it is usually always one on one friendships or a trio maybe quad if I am feeling ambitious. I sometimes have the weird feeling that I am doing or saying things for social cues and I hate it. I find for me to truly be myself I have to be around someone regularly and for a long period of time in very deep ways. All three of those don't normally happen so it can be hard to achieve. I love adventure but also alone time. I am actually struggling with being content with where I am at right now instead of chasing the next thing. I have the mindset that the grass is greener on the other side which can be truly terrible place to be. Don't know if this was helpful as I am working through a lot.

I "solved" it by carefully destroying every friendship I had over the course of 3 years. Now I only talk to people who have the bad luck of being related to me. I work graveyard by myself as a janitor, I talk to my boss for maybe 5-10 minutes per day then I am alone for the rest of my shift. It has helped me massively in my personal life, now every minute I am not at work I can determine how I spend my time instead of being required to talk to "friends", and it allowed me to break my gambling addiction because I no longer have a reason to go to the casino.

[@intheshadows7152]

Completely relate!

[@TheBoredomGuru]

Yup i am guilty of every single point you said. Im going to bed rn, I shoved all the clothes on my bed to the ground. They wont be cleaned tomorrow either, they’ll probably only be removed when i can no longer physically open my bedroom door

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

This is accurate! I shove everything on the sofa in our studio (where I film). So toward the right of me , no one would know this, but I have a huge pile of unfolded clothes. Another fun fact, I wear my fat pants in every single one of my videos. At least I'm a KZbinr who actually wears pants in videos though.

[@annaengstrom4249]

Same here, you just described my room for the past 4 months😂 The clothes serves as a comfy place to lay on while I'm listening to music and staring up at roof thinking about lifes mysteries

[@Noor-jw2tn]

This was me as a child. I have improved. I still have a pile at times but the floorr is not covered.

[@ladahealer]

I think one other contradiction is that it may be difficult for many people to know INFPs (I mean, truly know them) because they like to retreat into their shell but sometimes INFPs can be oversharers too (especially, when they feel inspiration or strong emotions). Or maybe it's just me, I don't know))

[@mkhn4018]

That's so true, I usually tell my sister everything when I am excited about something. But if she actually ask me something about how I really feel, I would just take it as a joke or change the conversation (even though I wanna tell her, I just idk it seems weird for me)

[@ForeverFashionGirl21]

I definitely had a problem of oversharing- I did not like that as I felt everyone knew too much- social media and stuff but I get it's natural when we have strong emotions- I usually would just attach to the first person there so if I did not have my go to person or that person wasn't there it could be anyone deemed fit enough which does not mean much lol - I also would be confused by that because I would think I am really open but then realize it was only with certain subjects and the rest was very hidden to myself

[@joshuatheseeker5069]

I love how infp's stare at other people it makes you feel like they truly care and are interested I just love being around people like me and I adore your channel

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

Josh Andrews awwh that’s so lovely. Thank you ☺️🌸

[@joshuatheseeker5069]

@@Lexmorningstarnz your so welcome!! You stare like I do. I guess because were both infps? And by the way you have the best outlook on our type. Thank you

[@INFPHD]

Yep, yep, and MORE yep! Math was soooo my worst subject! Not sure if that’s an INFP type thing, but yeah I feel it’s due to the one logical pathway to one answer and that’s it - BORING!! 😂 I also agree that I don’t need anyone to deliver a punishment as I can handle that on my own better than anyone! I hate to fail, mess up, or let someone down. Obviously in life these things are going to happen, and when they do it’s a rough little ride for me until I process and slap myself around a bit lol. Yeah especially in a new environment I will stay quite for a good bit. During this time I’m taking in all the personalities around me and essentially planning my navigation route amongst the group. I look at it as a subtle snowball effect where I quietly gain traction with a more long term approach to getting to know each person instead of “HEY EVERYONE I’M SEAN!!” lol. If too many new people grab on to me and basically move me in the center of the crowd then I get very uncomfortable and feel unprotected. Overtime however, I can become a valid piece of the group when I myself acquire that comfortable feeling.. ...ok have to FINALLY go mow the grass now 🙄🙄 Thanks again Lex! Sean

[@sethjg3d]

War of Art... get it on audible 😁👍

[@asktheetruscans9857]

I was good at math once I realized there were underlying abstract concepts, but I still got bad grades because I didn't show my work. I just used Ne to arrive at the answer. Didn't care for the affirmations of "grades," anyway. Who cares!? I knew what I learned. Like accounting, doing math the long way and showing the work, is akin to nails on the chalkboard of my soul.

[@othernothing2950]

@@asktheetruscans9857 everything you said I relate to exactly! The one thing I would always get in trouble for at school was that I would never show my work- now I know why!

[@Sharkztft]

I love math tho, i like the fact that i can solve a problem. And I'm typed as infp. Man i think i need to take this mbti types test again

[@JJ-io9ms]

math is my worst subject too

[@cassielee1114]

You know the kitchen situation is bad when you’re stirring your tea with a chopping knife 😅

[@Mel_jfh]

I relate so much to this, especially resistance to routines and restrictions. I love INFP positives but I am so challenged by how much I love and value my friends, yet I can go AGES without getting in touch with them because I get so into my own thing. So while I’m still going to try to work on it, thanks for giving me some hope that I’m not just self absorbed.

[@annagriffiths8230]

Thank you for forever making me feel less crazy! As a 17 year old INFP, it can be difficult trying to figure this all out but your videos put my heart into words. Thank you!

[@Katie-qg7xz]

I would have been so appreciative to know what you know at such a young age. It would have made it bearable back then! I am glad you have it now.

[@IVXXIV]

I watch your videos to help recharge and validate how I'm feeling as an INFP. Thanks for always coming in clutch!

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

Awwwh I'm so glad. You're very welcome.

[@Sam-es2gf]

All of these are true! As I've gotten older, I've improved at covering some of the "weaknesses" that are down to me (like neglecting practical things due to hyperfocus on "the passion") but I've also gotten more stubborn with things that are caused by other people. My idealism makes me try very hard to listen and make life better for other people, so when they can't return basic respect? I'm out. I've been spending way more time on my own the past couple of years and honestly feel better for it. I've prioritised myself getting fitter, learning new skills and spending time in nature. My health has improved, anxiety has disappeared and I feel a sense of inner peace and calm. "Hell is other people" after all.

[@magic13christispage]

I related so much to your comment, it's like most of it could come out of me. The problem with me, though, is that I still feel guilty when I focus on me, and despite I actually keep doing it, I can't ever feel good about it, so I am not on the one end, neither on the other one, I feel trapped, and that may even be one of my main problems at the point. So, thank you for the inspiration:)

[@hidayasoumaya2700]

yeah that comment could have been written by me too. i started getting back on track when i started back focusing on myself and stop worrying about how other people would perceive my need for loneliness. i spent a lot of energy to try to fit in by sacrificing my needs. i'm don't care anymore about criticism. now, my motto is "if you don't accept me the way i am, the door is opened." and it feels so liberating and refreshing To act on it in my everyday life . because at the end of the day, you'll see that people who really loves you will stick to you and accept you with what they perceive as flaws. the other persons who will reject you for showing who you are, don't deserve your frienship.

[@charmmaeonineza1501]

INFPs get pushed to the limelight because they see something has to be done and, in many cases, it just happens no one can seem to do it right. It has happened to me so many times, especially in high school. When I studied in a university, since there were more people more willing to stay in the limelight I found myself contented writing the script or designing things..

[@Wolf-pi5sr]

I put on a good show around most people, friendly and funny, but almost no person knows the real me, I actually avoid contact with others if possible. I really enjoy your shows, my daughter is also an INFP, I shared you with her today. Take care Lex and keep up the good work

[@analuisajewelry3472]

Our Kinoko Marble earrings fit you so well. It looks like they were made for you!

[@chaseknowlton2892]

5 for 5, I completely relate with all these contradictions and it really has confused me my entire life. Thank you again Lex for your perseverance with these topics, and your wonderful commentary that has truly lifted my being. Congratulations on your sponsorship, you deserve it and I will always support this channel. I'm very picky when it comes to content, you have pure motives and a big heart(very rare these days). All fellow infp's rock!

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

Chase Knowlton awwwh once again your comment just warms me! 😂🌸 thank you so much for your support. I’m lucky to have awesome subscribers!!

[@boris5950]

=== [ Chapters ] === 02:00 : #1. Driven and apathetic 05:24 : #2. Perfectionists and negligent 08:02 : #3. Want relationships, but also limit human contact 11:26 : #4. Gentle yet fierce 15:01 : #5. Need autonomy but also need to feel safe

[@ohifonlyx33]

Like... I want to be independent but OHMYGOSH I need someone to tell me how to be, what to do, and to hold me accountable.

[@Summerhaven97]

My former husband was extremely critical of my tolerance of mess while I was raising toddlers. I wanted a clean house but simply prioritized interacting with my kids over picking up their toys. He came home angry every day. He was emotionally abusive to me in many ways, but I have a deep feeling of incompetence in my housekeeping. Now that the kids are older I can keep things looking much better, but I always feel like I have to apologize if anything is out of place to anyone who comes over, especially my extremely tidy mother. Sometimes I wish I could divorce her like I divorced my husband, but alas, she loves me fiercely in many ways so I forgive! She’s just not my best friend. I tend to let others take advantage of my desire to make them happy but I have and will continue to stand up to bosses who are condescending and cruel to my hard working and human coworkers.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey Lex! Great to finally come across your channel! Awesome to see another female killing it in the typology community. Congrats on the sponsorship too.

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

L J thank you so much for your comment. I’m loving being able to connect with you all ❤️❤️❤️

[@CloudTalesVideos]

Another INFP stay at home mother here. Four daughters, three sons. I could see you welling up when you said trapped. I know the guilt all too well. It's okay. You're not alone.

[@hidayasoumaya2700]

wow 7 children!! you must have a great extraverted husband. because with my 3 children, i feel so overwhelmed because of a lack of loneliness To recharge. and yes, i totally relate to the feeling of being trapped because of being a mother. and i used to feel guilty about this feeling. but i learned To welcome my feelings. we shouldn't feel guilty about having negative thoughts about our children or other matters because those feelings are just the expressions of our unattended needs and it's healthy to express them. why feel guilty since we don't act on it?

[@not-a-raccoon]

This is uncomfortably accurate.. 😂😂

[@lauranadine8950]

I can absolutely relate to everything you've just said. I thought I was an INFJ for a few years but I'm starting to see I'm actually an INFP so thank you for this video 👍

[@AndreS_-df2nw]

Scary how real this is.... In relationships, the moment I'm crossed, or compromised, I draw in. Had a group of 'friends' I trusted in jr high that gave me a silent treatment for a few weeks. I ended those relationships that day because I felt severely alienated. I didn't find a new group of trusted friends at school until high school. Some were from scout camp, some later from church both were mostly positive environments. That said, them alienating me was the best thing for my grades, I went from being a C-D student to being an A-B student in spite of my dislexia, sloppyness and disorganization, because I was able focus on my studies more. I had a 4.0 until my senior year, where love interests and group of friends really became a distraction.... And my grades cratered again, homework became low priority.

[@Simonsayssomething]

You describe INFPs so well. I agree with everything you said. Always refreshing to understand yourself better. On an INFP here. Haha. Thank you

[@amasterofone]

"Don't have any plates to eat off of" You mean like how I have literally no clean silverware right now because I haven't done dishes in over a week? lol

[@Tisme123]

Watching this made me tear up. I've really been trying to find who I am lately. I'm gonna be starting college next year and I've been feeling like I have no direction. Almost everything you said was true. It feels good to know that someone else out there in the world know what I truly am feeling almost all the time😂

[@slimechime8504]

Yeah I completely aggre with all of your statements, what really got me what when you talked about how we didn't want to be in a cage but wana feel safe, or like always staying in the same routine bc its "Safe" But I also wana explore things that I never could, like one of my dreams is to go visit or like work at Japan possibly live there, but because of the fear of leaving my family behind and the language barriers its gonna take a lot of dedication to do It BUT I BELIEVE IN IT AND WILL TRY ME BEST :D . Thanks for reading this I just really love your content. It gave me a better understanding of myself. Truly I appreciate all you do. I KNOW U CAN GO EXPLORE TO JUST WITH SOME TYPE OF MOTIVATION WE CAN ALL DO IT!! #INFP MOTIVATION. *Sending hugs*

[@pamdawkins13]

The struggle to open up is so true, although I identify with most of these.

[@عبدالرحمنسليمان.المايسترو]

U have the vibe of a happily crowned young queen And how about Making a video explaining The moth to flame chemistry between Infp and ntps

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

Awwwh that's a lovely compliment. Thanks for the request. I had started a series between the INFP and other types and certainly haven't forgotten about it. Perhaps the next type I can do is INFP vs INTP

[@عبدالرحمنسليمان.المايسترو]

@@Lexmorningstarnz I believe Infps and entps Got a better chemistry The Ne in infp is away wide open in terms of emotion than intps I do believe this is the point where Entps and infps meet Entps use their Ne wider faster even more clearer than the intps So they have lived and experienced more intense emotions than intps I am Entp

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

oh, I see you meant ENTP. I can certainly look into that 🌸عبدالرحمن سليمان.المايسترو

[@FaceOfTheCity.StPete]

Interesting that you would mention that. Most of my romantic relationships have been entps

[@2587Lucky]

Lots of great points! As a fellow INFP I appreciate how clearly and thoughtfully you explain these elements! Great work!

[@cristianzamora4332]

These videos give me so much happiness to know that there other people out there that are like me and im not completely alone ❤ keep up the amazing viedos

[@_ojosdegato]

Yes to all of these especially having a hard time charging ppl. I just like helping but no one else ever likes just helping I’ve experienced

[@jen03smith]

Wow!!!! You sooo made my day!!! I feel like I understand myself more and more as I learn about being an IFNP . . AND DANG!!! I TOTALLY resonated and I SO appreciate your videos on MBTI 🙏 THANKS FOR BEING YOU💜

[@labriniadamopoulou7625]

So glad I found you!!! I felt like l wanted to give you a hug! Being an INFP makes me feel so misunderstood and you made me feel completely understood! Thank you! ❤

[@nataliatorz5959]

Omg, there is no such a long time since I found your yt channel and now, seeing this video i can 100% relate to your statement about feeling safe. You were talking about your husband and the home environment he provides you. Speaking about all these things makes you touched and i saw you've been emotional... and i think this is it - the essence of INFP: on one hand - loving to death and on the other hand - hating to guts. I can feel you in here. Sending love, yours INFP spirit

[@minacchiii8932]

They can also be...quite negligent of other things in their lives Me as an INFP: *forgets I'm hungry and skips meal when I'm too focused on drawing* THAT'S BIG NEGLIGENT RIGHT THERE. Also it might just be me. BUT I ACTUALLY LIKE MATH. (like, not love) as long as I understood it and the teacher is quite good at explaining, I often get high marks on quizzes (not much on exam though xD coz every topic are included there and by then I already forgot how to solve them XD)

[@fernandadealencar1158]

anything that is mundane infp's: i despise you, you don't exist to me

[@kiyaleelevyrunaya9495]

Being an INFP in itself is already a contradiction. We're walking contradictions. It's why no one gets us. It's why we often don't get ourselves, especially in socially pressured situations where you're pushed to reveal your inner thoughts and suddenly realize you know what to say, but you the words just won't come out. Confusing the already confused conversation partner you're having while simultaneously loading yourself up with all kinds of anxiety

[@luminyam6145]

I became a nurse and it saved me. I find I can express my ideology in this profession and I can help ppl, it is so fulfilling.

[@ethanbehee3942]

Loved the editing with the music at the beginning! I’ll go through weird clean streaks where everything will be pristine for two weeks and then the next week I let the mess build up. I always feel more inclined to do things when my space is clean too. Also always feel bad charging a lot for my creative work so I definitely undercharge (especially since I spend a lot of unnecessary time on things being a perfectionist), but one of my friends connected me to a client and they told the client a higher number than what I told my friend and the client didn’t care at all, so now I’ve been charging a little more.

[@sarakjeldsen769]

I like the way you said "Math". Hahaha. I know the feeling. I ended up doing really well at it when I was older, but it still gave me anxiety. Oh! And I totally did the free bird travelling thing where i stayed in hostels or staff accommodation filled with transient people and it used to really excite me, but once that lifestyle was fulfilled, I'm finding I really want that safe haven (my own home) that's more permanent.

[@mauiwowielmsv]

Leeeex, fellow infp, this video rung true for me-all of your points hit home-especially the last one talking about traveling and after a while, yearning to have a sense of home, and groundedness, again. I remember having a ceaseless yearning to belong. I was traveling for almost 4 years when the pandemic broke out. I was already low on money, unemployed, feeling desensitized, and a maybe even a little disenchanted by travel, which leaves me to where I am now-at my parents house. I'm kind of glad I had no other choice but to go home, because I am one stubborn infp. I resisted it at first, well for 4 years, but actually I think it has been good for me to be back- Now I have my mind set on another challenge :D thanks Lex for your quality content!

[@sheandg]

As an ISFP I relate to pretty much every point as well! Our Fi really takes the wheel and I’m like, hmm what will my mood be today?

[@Elethia441]

OMG, soul sister, I just discovered you with this vid and I absolutely adore you! You nailed it! I feel you!

[@ProverbiosOcho]

CONGRATULATIONS FOR THE SPONSORSHIP. I watched your old videos and it's like... I don't know, the feeling when you have seen a process. I can see how you have been changing through time and it makes me happy to see how are you doing and to see this beautiful channel being appreciated. Excellent video and take care!

[@allanapaoli1503]

I loooooooooove to see I'm not alone with those struggles!!! And more and more I see how lucky I'm for having someone by my side as well that makes me feel safe

[@beaudupre3248]

Such a good topic, so may comments were coming to mind throughout and now they've mostly escaped me. On getting out and about, it's like a necessary evil for me. I try to prepare myself in advance for the battle ahead, quickly and efficiently check off the tasks and then, like the proverbial horse headed for the barn, get back inside the sanctuary fast and lock the door. Things may be different if I worked from home or something, but as it is, I get enough people time at work and feel like I could be happy living out in the woods and hanging out with the squirrels lol. As long as I could get groceries delivered, so maybe not too far out in the woods. Thank you Lex, great vid!

[@BeingShweta]

I just love your videos and second almost everything. Overstimulation sometimes cause stubbornness and shutting down, which is part and parcel of daily life 😂... Lovely video dear, best wishes for sponsorship.

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

Yes, that shutting down and becoming stubborn is something I definitely do! Glad you can relate! Thank you for your kind wishes... it's a milestone for this channel AND simultaneously we also hit 10,000 subs! I think it calls for a cake.

[@biancaaustin5859]

THANK YOU THIS BEAUTIFUL LADY ‼️❤️🙏🏻🤩 I feel so heard ❤️ from 🇿🇦

[@stoffls]

Just found your channel. And yes, I am full of contradictions and very often painfully aware of this.

[@checkersssss9]

You really hit the nail on the head with everything in this video 💯

[@realtoreal321]

When you were explaining number 2 of the contradictory list I really loved and admired your honesty about your house being so messy . Most infps tend to cover up and or deny this weakness maybe even because of their idealism ! (Another conrtradicton lol)

[@moth8190]

im so glad i found your channel. i relate to everything and its really comforting in a way to see how you and so many other people are like me and understand what im like. your videos also give me a better/clearer understanding of myself. love your vids very much keep up the good work 💗

[@serenitysoulforever]

I love how you speak my truth ☺️. Thank you🙏, I can understand myself better by knowing I wasn't alone ☺️

[@alyssamccall3828]

This is the most spot on video I have seen of INFP characteristics I relate to! Thank you, Lex! I relate to every point you talked about, especially #3. I’m 40 and only now feel more confident in myself, yet I will always be hardest on myself when I make any kind of mistakes. It’s also taken a lot of practice acting more extroverted when it’s needed. I’ve gotten good enough at it that some people are surprised I’m truly an introvert. The need to have alone time in my safe space is always necessary and key if others don’t want to see my drained and angry side. I know lots of people but only a handful know me best and they are the few I feel safe sharing the most vulnerable parts of my personality with. Those loved ones didn’t earn those spots easily, it’s taken time and effort on both our parts. For me, part of that longer road to gaining my deep trust is because of past relationships I felt judged and unsafe to be myself. It’s taken a lot of personal work to like myself more and open my heart to them. I’ve also been the stay at home mom when my kids were babies. It’s tough, but you are doing great! Reaching out is important, when you feel ready. 😉 Thanks again for sharing yourself and making these videos! 🤗hugs

[@deucewildcard]

Lol thank you, I had to laugh because I do let mundane things go and am super picky about things I’m really interested in and work. Everything is organized and nice. When I’m just sitting there I look around and I’m like… I really need to straighten this up or do this and that. Then I’ll probably put on some music or an audible book and think I’ll get it later. In self reflection I’ve always wondered why I was so meticulous yet uncaring at the same time.

[@kate_ponochovna]

Thank you so much, Lex! Your videos truly help me understand myself ♥️ Love and hugs from Ukraine, Eastern Europe 🙏🏽

[@kristenpatrick704]

Thank you for making these videos! It's nice to know that there are other people out there who are like me. The biggest contradiction I have is that I absolutely hate being in the limelight, but I'm majoring in Music in Vocal Performance. I'm still wondering why I'm doing this to myself, but I guess I've realized that in order to express my true self (which I can really only do through song), I need to grin and bare it. I'm learning that while there is so much involved in storytelling or expressing yourself through song, there is so much to be gained as well.

[@samwilbur6155]

So many relatables! Learning to open up freely has been a big and recent development for me. Sometimes it feels liberating to share deep inner throughts and feelings, other tines it feels like spilling my soul onto a cold hard uncaring floor.. 😂

[@sarahfriend324]

I AM A WALKING TALKING BREATHING CONTRADICTION. I am a Pisces. I'm so gentle but I am a warrior. I don't have friends (only very few) i'm awkward in social situations, i'm weird, i'm quiet, I observe more in social settings, i'm eccentric to say the least. I enjoy really deep conversation. But when i want be social I am all in.

[@Synnabelle]

I tried learning instruments, painting, journaling, poetry, 3D modeling, coding, language learning, writing, and I imagine a million things and maybe only go hard for a day or two and then they're never touched again. 😔

[@magic13christispage]

Your video actually moved me at some points Lex. So related; you really revealed my whole life's battles with myself. Thank you for being here keeping company and voicing inner struggles, for all of us, whether in good or in bad moments. Keep up, you're great:) PS Your introduction was beautiful! I was doubtful the moment I saw the sponsorship, but then I heard what I needed to hear to keep me pleasant and cool: the actual choice for the sponsorship, based on ethical grounds - the prime concern to me. So, that's good job:)

[@eunicegonzalez1436]

Thanks for this video! I think that what's true for me is the one about meaningful connections. I really love meaningful conversations with the people that I believe has the same passion for a cause or beliefs. I am open to listen to anyone who passionately and respectfully shares one's thoughts and ideas without pushing me to do the same. However, I can really be aloof most of the time, especially when I find a conversation or a thing to be of less sense. So now, especially this lockdown period, I am longing for meaningful connections but I am also picky not to make shallow connections to just anyone. I hope you get what I mean. 😅 Thanks again for your videos. I really find them helpful and encouraging. You are, in your own INFP ways, inspiring! ❤️

[@sammartina8574]

3 and 4 were especially relatable for me. Love your channel.

[@renefranke2472]

Hi Lex, thank you for sharing your insights. This has opened up alot of self-discovery for me.

[@jennmari7425]

I'm guilty as fuck with 90%.of your words.. Thanks you for continuing to post up for us INFPs😘

[@bow7378]

I relate to you sooo much. I’m also a musician/artistic, stay at home mum. You have helped me a lot. Thank you xxx

[@user-sn1ms4rq2f]

I’m 21 and in college and I’ve barely recognized that I need space to be creative in order to feel like myself but for my whole life I’ve been school this and school that and of course I feel drained all the time because that environment is so the opposite of the kind that I now know and feel I thrive in and it leaves no room for freedom.

[@imbamjeonbam9991]

Good luck

[@knighttaylor4272]

I feel the same. I'd like to explore new avenues of socializing. Something more tangible, in person.

[@readingnarcissism]

You are awesome! Yes I can also relate to all the traits too and for me its just a case striking a balance as much as I can to minimise the impact some of the impact these have on my life.

[@SoftChroma]

I have heard it said like this before. We only have two times, right now, and not right now

[@joanaferreiramartins7654]

Contradictions, I wanted to live abroad so I went to many different countries, worked in all sorts of "perfect-what-else-could-you-want?" organizations, realized I was unhappy as a frustrated environmental engineer, finally succumbed to the idea of quitting that profession, returning to my country, buying land with ex boyfriend, realizing I love having a farm, being creative on planting trees and making positive changes in the landscape but craving at the same time living in the city and creative cultural events, knowing that I could do so much more with my skills on expressing my self through writing, taking pictures, and so many more qualities that I never invest enough time at because 1) it does not give me money 2) I think I'm not good enough 3) I will probably get tired and find a new interest, 4) there are always so many reasons for not to pursue my potential. Had done psycoterapy, psycoanalysis but still seem not to know who I am and self-sabotage myself

[@flutenanyidk1806]

I feel like ENFJ and INFP look really similar from a distance. Yet they function very differently.

[@luminyam6145]

This was a wonderful video, thank you. You really nailed my personality.

[@putritiara9083]

Over stimulation also can ruin your relationship cause you act base of your scenario that u create in your, wich is so wrong and we’re often not even relize it

[@shellbell8062]

Speaking as in INFP in my 40's, Im not sorry that I have had so many different hobbies and interests. I can speak a few languages, sew, cut hair, make my own skincare products, dance, design a room, know a ton about health and wellbeing and run my own business. I do wish I pushed further with a few things so that I mastered them, but I love that this personality (although it has some drawbacks) leaves you with many skills (and a messy-ass house:)).

[@sharonpahalan]

Thanks so much for making these videos, I totally relate to it all and really appreciate that there are others like me!! Thanks for sharing what it’s like to be an infp. Not something many people understand.

[@kasseydye9501]

I cannot believe how much I can relate! 💜 I appreciate this so much!

[@rudd749]

I enjoyed this whole episode, but especially at 14:14 and 15:03, I identified with what you were saying. I have had some really harsh experiences in the workplace, am currently job-hunting while being miserable with my current one. I feel better knowing that I'm not being unreasonable about finding the type of career I want. I'm planning on going back to school in January to update my degree, but have to find some different work before then...it was hard to have stood up for myself only to be told I wasn't the right fit no matter how much time I put in. I was really beating myself up after working in my current industry for the last 5 years.

[@artemismoonbow2475]

I like Jung's definitions of introversion/extroversion as it focuses on how one processes the world not sociability. It is about does one place emphasis on the object (the external) or the subject (the internal) in processing information. The sociability aspect is secondary and is only apparent as a side effect of this object/subject focus. Related to that, I hid behind an ENTP persona, or rather I adopted that to survive as a trans girl in the 90s. And a stent in the Army and a research based education trained the more action oriented and logic based modes of being. As an INFP, I was able to really convince myself of that too as being solid in conviction once declared is a part of it. Bottom line: Like all of the types, they are just general headings if you take the hands off the wheel, you can still steer in the direction you want. Personally, I am happy to be reconnecting with the INTP core and I am happy to throw off the persona's. Cheers

[@jordannacrosby2730]

I feel personally attacked😂 my kitchen is very messy all the time

[@shalaylaw7933]

I've never related more when you talked about being abused in the workplace by managers. My tolerance for being treated like crap has gone down after so many similar situations and as an INFP I can get into "trouble" by just being fierce in my beliefs and sticking up for myself. The day I can finally leave retail will be a happy one. I also agree about being overwhelmed, it's nearly like being claustrophobic to sound and energy. Never have had a lot of friends, I'm mostly okay with it since I value quality over quantity.

[@wimsylogic65]

As a child and I was a very small child when Diana was killed I loved her. I remember back when what they called life size dolls which were just really big dolls for kids We're just starting to be a thing I wanted a princess Diana doll. I remember not really knowing who she was cause I lacked that kind of understanding I was under the age of 10 . I can still remember how much I loved her how much I really like her. I don't know anything about any of the other Royal family only her. I wasn't even aware of all the stuff that she Did.

[@mrz4252]

I definitely relate to a lot of this. Great shout out to Catherine! She was one of the first MBTI channels I discovered.

[@Lexmorningstarnz]

Z Iquebal I loved her article and related to many of the points 💜 I’m glad you caught on too - it’s so important to plug who inspires us and share the love around

[@mrz4252]

@@Lexmorningstarnz Yeah, I agree. Before I started learning about MBTI, I wondered why I noticed contradictions in myself. I was amused at the "gentle yet fierce" part of your video, because it can be two ways for me. Either people feel intimidated by me due to my facial expressions or they underestimate me for perceiving me to be passive and confused.

[@generaldemian5370]

So I am an Infp (of course haha) and I'd also want a good relationship with someone, but I also don't really start opening up to strangers. If ppl ask me things I can tell them a lot about myself, but I find it very dificult to make the first moves. And everytime I've eventually told the girl about my feelings, she didn't feel the same. So how would I do things right as an Infp?

[@sethjg3d]

Try to make sure you aren't painting your emotions onto someone... but try to gauge their emotions... if they have good intentions then you will know... we don't really like opening up to people when we first meet them and we definitely don't want to lie... so just dial it back and gauge their reactions... again you will know if they care about you... most people don't want to go on a date first thing either... so try just being a really good friend and ask if they want to hang out when the time is right... keep checking in on them and eventually if they want to move things further, then ask them on a date... remember a great relationship starts with a solid foundation, so if you don't try establishing a great friendship, your relationship with have nothing to stand on.

[@generaldemian5370]

@@sethjg3d that sounds reasonable, I'll give that a try. Thank you very much for your answer :P

[@pikalee3492]

I definitely relate to all of these. Currently I am getting bored at work which makes me fear I'll get apathetic and f*ck up by being negligent. I'm known for being detailed oriented and ambitious at work though! 😅🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Animation_JULIEN]

I do agree with you on how we can be. But i honestly feel like this video is more so for you, a message to yourself. You kick ass dont dought yourself and you will get things done! I belibe in you.

[@chdrosche]

Thanks Lex for all the amazing videos... It's weird and cool to see someone talk about all the quirks I keep to myself. It's like looking into my own head. 🙂

[@miriamcooper1320]

Loved this!

[@diamondcentury21]

I relate to 3 so much 😭 idk why I do it, like I crave talking to other people and find out more about them but I shut down not because I find it difficult to open up I just don’t think my thoughts, ideas and opinions are as significant as others. Also as a born minimalist I don’t relate to being a messy person, I can’t stand dirty or unorganized spaces it stresses me out 😂🙈

[@7Nebulae7]

I feel like an outsider in a social situation like 99,9 times out of 100. I guess it comes from the feeling that no one really understands me. I also wanted to comment on being trapped inside four walls. It really wrecks havoc inside my mind if I spend too much time home alone because it makes me feel even more disconnected from the world and other people. But at the same time, I really yearn being alone in my own bubble, so I end up feeling really frustrated with myself, lol.