Today we're looking at some asexual memes and learning more about asexuality. Drop a comment below and let me know what you think of the video!
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@f.lynnfilms3 жыл бұрын
Two asexuals sitting in a tree . . . help us we are stuck
@michealco.83943 жыл бұрын
lmaoooo
@amberr36623 жыл бұрын
_immediately gets ladder_
@medicalbasils3 жыл бұрын
LMAO
@noazoelevin54623 жыл бұрын
One of my favorites
@Ihaveabigdicklol3 жыл бұрын
Nice profile picture
@unusedaccountlmfaooooo3 жыл бұрын
People: "You're gonna die a virgin!!" Most Asexuals: "God I sure hope I do"
@vocaloid22633 жыл бұрын
It's funny, before I learned I was ace, I told myself that I wouldn't mind dying a virgin 😂
@dragonnymphs58823 жыл бұрын
The faster the better amirite🥵😎
@Laura-xy5he3 жыл бұрын
TRUTH
@elenas35713 жыл бұрын
Sex-repulsed asexual here! I feel seen!
@ivoryphoenix73 жыл бұрын
me lol
@OneTopic3 жыл бұрын
I *do* enjoy it here!
@localqueer60643 жыл бұрын
Hello 👋
@su-chithecat32533 жыл бұрын
Ello yes
@localqueer60643 жыл бұрын
We do too 😄😄
@lake_siren62063 жыл бұрын
Hi ot! :D
@tls-mz1fu3 жыл бұрын
yes
@diamondgirlmc33162 жыл бұрын
"Sexual Attraction makes you human" Asexuals (including me): *WE'RE GODS*
@fishysc0okielife2 жыл бұрын
🎶It's tough to be a god🎶
@diamondgirlmc33162 жыл бұрын
@@fishysc0okielife🎶but if you get the peoples' nod 🎶
@gacha_xxtuber22182 жыл бұрын
(A questioning asexual here): 🎶count your blessings, keep ‘em sweet, that’s our advice!🎶 ✨it’s great advice✨🎶
@anerdydisasterb42932 жыл бұрын
🎶Be a symbol of perfection Be a legend Be a cult 🎶
@thatcrowkiddraws2 жыл бұрын
🎶take their praise take the collection as the multitudes exalt! 🎶
@smallishkae3 жыл бұрын
When I was younger, I thought “having a crush” was arbitrarily picking the most conventionally attractive boy in my class...
@pluto31943 жыл бұрын
I always thought having a crush wasn't actually a thing people did and just an exaggeration. I also thought sending nudes was a meme for a very long while. Yeah I had that proven wrong in a way that was extremely uncomfortable.
@wordforger3 жыл бұрын
Hah. I thought that's what everyone was doing and it weirded me out. I was too much an odd duck to begin with to 'play along' and consequently received a lot of head scratching and the usual "Everyone likes SOMEONE" comments.
@ladykarolyn13 жыл бұрын
Thiiiis!! There was basically a corkboard in my mind with thumbtacks and strings all trying to figure out what the socially acceptable answer to "so who do you like?" or "Who's your celebrity crush?" was. For celebs, I ended up either saying I liked fairly obscure British actors or giving what I'm pretty sure is the most demisexual answer of all time, "I want to marry Samwise Gamgee." 😆
@nikki6073 жыл бұрын
SAME
@riji_monogatari3 жыл бұрын
damn same lmao
@TheManWithTheFlan3 жыл бұрын
Marie Antoinette: "Let them eat cake" Asexuals: **Polite Applause**
@nathanzylbermann53913 жыл бұрын
Underrated joke of the century
@smileyfacegr66913 жыл бұрын
@@nathanzylbermann5391 it is trully inderrated
@authorindisguise51733 жыл бұрын
Brilliant
@BeeMoth..03 жыл бұрын
Edidy lizard (I think that’s how you spell his name ) “cake or death” asexuals “cake please” him “let them have cake🎂”
@creativerealms3 жыл бұрын
GlaDOS "The cake is a lie." Asexuals: cries.
@EchoGillette3 жыл бұрын
I'm using that perfume example forever
@coena93773 жыл бұрын
Oh hi Echo, fancy seeing you here
@midnight_blue_moon3 жыл бұрын
Didn't expect to see you here Echo!
@conlon43323 жыл бұрын
By the way your doorknob example was better.
@nataliedawnshade99583 жыл бұрын
oh hi echo😁💜
@kianarojas56523 жыл бұрын
:0 a wild echo!
@maria_aguiar4886 Жыл бұрын
it's a "joke" in the ace community that we would rather eat cake than have sex, tbh cake is delicious and we all love it
@joycondrift Жыл бұрын
🎂
@rebel6301 Жыл бұрын
we simply know what's good
@nicterida Жыл бұрын
and garlic bread
@nicterida Жыл бұрын
@@rebel6301 yes
@someoneontheinternet072 Жыл бұрын
“I’d rather eat cake” is the saying I think
@onyxsavior71793 жыл бұрын
“No sex for two years-“ Me, a 15 year old: *I am four parallel universes ahead of you*
@hah-no.3 жыл бұрын
I couldn’t of said it better
@FiSH-iSH3 жыл бұрын
by the age of seventy one i will be the richest of all the world and also a virgin muahaha evil laughter
@almaszericebean14013 жыл бұрын
Me a 13 yr old
@Miissy993 жыл бұрын
17 years on my part lol
@frogcake3 жыл бұрын
ikr
@MyNameHere1013 жыл бұрын
The cake thing is a joke in the community: "Sex is fine but cake is better."
@Lyssabooo3 жыл бұрын
I love cake
@updated_autopsy_report3 жыл бұрын
_but have you seen the dragons_ /j
@mariekramer1563 жыл бұрын
It is also traditional to present asexual people with cake when they come out. (It's an old tradition from the mid 2000s online ace culture on the AVEN forums, where people would respond to new aces coming out with cake related image replies, and has continued to now be cake gifs, emojis, ect. Cake is also an appropriate coming out gift for aces irl, too.)
@peiithos3 жыл бұрын
i personally love garlic bread better
@peiithos3 жыл бұрын
@@updated_autopsy_report dragons are poggers
@melanopygus3 жыл бұрын
Cake is the oldest asexual symbol for 'sex is cool and all, but have you tried ___?' Basically aces would rather have cake than sex in every instance lol. One that came after that was dragons. Why have sex when you could have a DRAGON or why be sexual when you could be a badass dragon? More recently, garlic bread has become an ace symbol. Garlic bread is very much better than sex. Black rings are a sign of asexuality within the community. Worn on the middle of the right hand, it means you're asexual. Worn on the middle of the left, it shows you're asexual and aromantic. It's a cool way to find fellow aces in the wild.
@sylvie95623 жыл бұрын
cake and garlic bread, what else do you need?
@47ratsinahoodie3 жыл бұрын
@@sylvie9562 Dragons and world dominatio-I mean a good book
@sylvie95623 жыл бұрын
@@47ratsinahoodie ohh yes-
@nicomoist53363 жыл бұрын
I would like to know how to tell people im grayace and grayaro with a possibility of demi Because I dont want to completely say that ill never have a romantic/sexual relationship
@exist40463 жыл бұрын
@@nicomoist5336 thats alright! Some people spend their whole lives just learning more about themself! Personally i believe at this point that Im Demisexual
@tic857 Жыл бұрын
"Its so aesthetically pleasing" me an ace: Oh yeah that's like a big part of it. You're getting it already.
@ezekiel_king3 жыл бұрын
Telling an asexual person that they just haven't found the right person yet is like telling someone who is allergic to cats that they just haven't found the right cat yet. It makes. No. Fucking. Sense.
@SomeOnlinePerson3 жыл бұрын
Just in case someone tries to actually counter you with it: People with cat allergies are usually actually allergic to the dander and are just fine with hairless cats. Some can even handle particularly short-haired breeds. 'Course, in this context, that's not really a valid or relevant counter-argument. It just misses the point.
@knuffelmuff76823 жыл бұрын
But there can be "the cat" that you are not allergic to, as the allergy is a reaction to proteins in the saliva and sometimes a cat can exist that does not produce that or those protein(s). It is possibly. So no allergic reaction cat might be more like an ace discovering they are demi
@nevermore44553 жыл бұрын
Y'all chill with the counter-arguments you know what they meant. Replace cat with peanut or something and you've got it.
@KycklingsoppaDeluxe3 жыл бұрын
It think this might make the cat analogy almost better. Especially if you're allergic to cats and aren't much of a "cat person". People who love cats find this difficult to fathom. Cats are alright, but they impair my breathing and frankly I think the people who get all crazy about cats are much cuter than the cats themselves. My, let's say complictated and mostly disinterested, relationship to sex, and my cat allergy and scepticism of cats, very similarily makes dating a BIT of a hassle. My motives for attempting to accomodating sex or cats into my life would be almost entirely related to wanting a relationship with a specific person, not the sex or the cat itself. I get that for others maybe some other allergen might be more suitable. I just wanted to insert that I found this analogy very relatable ^^'
@noinnyun12443 жыл бұрын
@@SomeOnlinePerson yes i have cat and allergies doesnt make sense
@jacksonlevy54643 жыл бұрын
Heterosexual: You're standing on one leg Homosexual: You're standing on the other Bisexual: You're standing on both Pansexual: You're lying on the ground Asexual: You're levitating Basically, asexuals are magical. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk.
@rebeccak9183 жыл бұрын
Sexualities as doors Heterosexual: door swings one way Homosexual: door swings the other way Bisexual: door swings both ways Pansexual: revolving door Demisexual: door is locked, one person has key Asexual: door is automatic Asexual/Aromantic: door is actually a wall edit: spell check didn't know demisexual >:( edit 2: changed asexual, added asexual/aromantic (thanks @ThouArtWhatThouArt !)
@danka60163 жыл бұрын
b e a u t i f u l
@phraseology68583 жыл бұрын
I'm on my tiptoes! Guess what I am.
@jacksonlevy54643 жыл бұрын
@@phraseology6858 A super valid demisexual?
@marqueemparc66573 жыл бұрын
Reminder that ace people can still experience romantic attraction! So for the door analogy, you could just say that for ace people, the door is automatic; it doesn't require touch to let you in :) And then aroace would be the wall!
@bendertherobot403 жыл бұрын
The cake thing is literally just. cake is good. I don’t want sex. I want cake. Same thing with garlic bread and dragons. Edit: I’m a disgrace to the ace-spec community. I forgot space and plants.
@therewillbefire18333 жыл бұрын
And space, don't forget space.
@mailyak4423 жыл бұрын
YESSSSS 😍
@jay85693 жыл бұрын
@@therewillbefire1833 Wait... space is an ace thing too? How did I not realize sooner that I'm ace?
@therewillbefire18333 жыл бұрын
@@jay8569 SpAce Ace.
@---md9mq3 жыл бұрын
Garlic bread is bae, in a platonic wae edit: garlic bread is mine i will give u slice if u polite
@lucindasmith5893 жыл бұрын
Have just realised my sexuality (asexuality) at 50. So wish all of these memes (and discussion) had been around when I was younger. My life would have made so much more sense!
@1980rlquinn Жыл бұрын
At any age, happy self-discovery! 🖤🐺🤍💜 🎂
@ellisburton87335 ай бұрын
Ditto, hope you doing well.
@Zyphon3 жыл бұрын
You really aced this video
@blazeboy75863 жыл бұрын
Hi
@Paycheck2fan3 жыл бұрын
:O Zyphon watches JammiDodger?
@MeowFacegmailcom3 жыл бұрын
This should be pinned
@degenerateyellow3 жыл бұрын
I was not expecting you here lol
@saraarja13833 жыл бұрын
Lol I love that
@Lynk563 жыл бұрын
Friendly reminder that being ace doesn’t mean you hate sex, it means a lack of attraction. You can be ace and have a high libido, or be bisexual and have a low libido and be sex repulsed. It just happens that ace people are more commonly sex repulsed than any other Orientations.
@Xoannon13 жыл бұрын
Me: Extremely insistent libido. Also me: Sad Demisexual noises.
@nonexistingvoid3 жыл бұрын
Me: pan and not a fan of sex. Or should I say: the idea of having sex brings me anxiety and even makes me feel physically ill. For me, this mostly comes from trauma, having been forced too often to count, having sex thrown in my face at any time without warning, without consent, and without even waiting until I was old enough for it. I can imagine this might happen to asexuals too, especially when people try to "cure them" or "prove asexuality isn't real" Even just reading about these things happening can traumatise people, so I'm not surprised that it's so common in the ace community.
@buecherdrache13 жыл бұрын
I like to compare it to hunger and appetite. Libido is like hunger a purely physical reaction of your body asking for certain things. Sexual attraction and appetite are your body not necessarily needing those things, but you mentally want them. Sometimes hunger goes without appetite (standing in front of the fridge, hungry, but not really wanting to eat anything) and appetite without hunger (just having eaten, but that desert just looks awesome). And the same goes for libido and sexual attraction. You can have one without having the other.
@MissEarthling3 жыл бұрын
@@nonexistingvoid Oh my god... I’m... I’m so sorry.
@nonexistingvoid3 жыл бұрын
@@MissEarthling unfortunately, it's very common for people who were AFAB to experience these things. I'm much better now, though. Learning where this trauma comes from has helped me move on from my past, and makes me want to fight for young people everywhere to not have to go through the same things I went through.
@assjackson3 жыл бұрын
He missed a very important opportunity to say that the flag was "ace-thetically pleasing" and I'm not mad, I'm just dissapointed.
@SusanOnTVShows3 жыл бұрын
I was waiting for that too!
@helmipollo98033 жыл бұрын
i was looking for this comment
@christinesizemore33 жыл бұрын
He did it accidentally near the end. :)
@egonescio90173 жыл бұрын
I'm just d-ace-appointed
@earlgrey51142 жыл бұрын
Explaining the cake thing: We often generalize the fact that eating good food is better than sex, so cake and garlic bread (among other things) as very popular feel-good foods have become symbols of asexuality. It's like tea drinkers vs. non-tea drinkers, many of the non-tea drinkers believe coffee is better than tea, thus coffee is often associated with people who don't drink tea.
@lightrayy2 жыл бұрын
And also cakeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee is so good
@earlgrey51142 жыл бұрын
@@lightrayy YES
@lightrayy2 жыл бұрын
@@earlgrey5114 what flavour ?
@earlgrey51142 жыл бұрын
@@lightrayy Personally, red velvet/dark chocolate, you?
@lightrayy2 жыл бұрын
@@earlgrey5114 my nanny ( grandma, not maid ) is really good at making chocolate biscuit cake so probably that
@prz983 жыл бұрын
Ok, but the idea of “dating” app for ace people is such a good idea, considering how most “regular” app of this kind are filled with sexual offers to the point that ace people can’t feel comfortable.
@manyabhartipsychology1stye743 жыл бұрын
We aces realllllyyy neeeeeed that It would be soooo funn😂💜
@Onest00p1d_vampire3 жыл бұрын
Bro I'd be so down for that!
@katiecrooked3 жыл бұрын
There are ace dating apps, but there’s not enough people using them for there to be much success. I looked at one and in my area there were only a few people on it and none of them had a romantic orientation that aligned, that’s before getting to if we even had any common interests. I wonder how many ace people have just given up on romantic interest as well.
@silviakbellavite3153 жыл бұрын
@@katiecrooked instead of giving up, since I've never even met another ace irl, I just got used to sex. It's not really my thing and I wish it didn't take that much time in a relationship, but it's kinda interesting in a weird way and I now can definitely bear it.
@jokehr39553 жыл бұрын
@@katiecrooked And that's why I'm glad that the big dating apps now allow you to select "asexual" as a sexuality. Hasn't helped me on the apps at all, but it's a start. I found another ace on Hinge, but they never responded either, so you run into the same things anyway.
@This_Is_Just_To_Say3 жыл бұрын
Someone: it's impossible to live a fulfilling life without sex Aces: clearly you do not know about cake
@five_times_avy3 жыл бұрын
And a 2000-piece Lego Creator Expert set!
@lunalovegood86093 жыл бұрын
It's all about the cake
@cassandramuller73373 жыл бұрын
Or garlic bread
@elizabethresurreccion72343 жыл бұрын
Dragons
@lunalovegood86093 жыл бұрын
@@elizabethresurreccion7234 oh yes, I love dragons
@quinnthebean3 жыл бұрын
As an asexual person who has no sense of smell, I can confirm that the one about the perfume is 100% accurate in both instances
@sadboihours8083 жыл бұрын
Omg I think I found my group cause that be me too fhnddkdk
@Ana-Ma.S3 жыл бұрын
That makes four of us, my friends!
@conlon43323 жыл бұрын
...People spray perfume in your face?
@KetsuekiRose3 жыл бұрын
wow, yeah, my stepson is ace with no sense of smell, too! I'm aroace and I define that as a lack of any gendered orientation, which is a bit different.
@fictional-girl_053 жыл бұрын
Same
@HelloThere-ki5mg2 жыл бұрын
Should've realized I was ace when I went to the library and said "do you guys have any books without romance?" And this lady legit comes back with 12 WW2 books. What... Crazy just how much unnecessary romance books and movies have
@JhericFury Жыл бұрын
Right?! Books, movies, songs?! I can enjoy a good tragic romance, but in every story? Can the will they won't they friends ever just stay friends? Does the super hero need to also fall in love?
@koalatydm Жыл бұрын
maybe this explains why I like WW2 history... or history in general...
@the_olm Жыл бұрын
I mean, I did find a WW2 book with a little bit of romance... like, a character had a crush on the main character, but he didn't reciprocate, he just found her kinda creepy and went on with the story
@Montesama314 Жыл бұрын
"So I'm thinking of these two intellectual 1900s women bucking social norms by going into science, but also being really emotionally close..." "Eh, a period piece about smart secret lesbians? Kinda cliche, isn't it?" "No, that's it, they're close... Just friends." "IMPOSSIBLE"
@saix_unicorn2 ай бұрын
me, an aroace men, making a comic with 2 couples and one trouple (two in the trouple are asexuals tho, and i do have a aroace character too)
@caitrinsweeney5353 жыл бұрын
To add to the perfume analogy, being demi is kinda like that, except one day someone you care about deeply makes their own perfume and suddenly you can smell it, but only that specific perfume. And then everyone sees this and starts spraying more perfume in your face saying "See? You could smell all along!" but you still can't smell any of their perfumes. It's just the one made by the person you care about and you still really wish everyone else would stop spraying other perfumes in your face.
@scrablse26133 жыл бұрын
That is a great way to explain demisexuality! :0
@aishwariyaroy16363 жыл бұрын
As a grayace, it's like this: You can't smell perfume 99.999% of the time, but the .0001% you DO smell it, people tell you that you could smell it all along.
@kcthefrogusedyt83193 жыл бұрын
This comment is very underrated and needs more attention
@shreyak21013 жыл бұрын
As being both demi and gray I can relate
@julecaesara4823 жыл бұрын
OOOHHHHHH OOHOHOHOHOHOHO! THANK YOU now I know how to describe myself. Demi you say? Right I'm off scrolling through Wikipedia articles.
@ElementalofAir3 жыл бұрын
No wonder the ace flag is so pretty. We love things that are aesthetically pleasing.
@robloxxxxxbreak16043 жыл бұрын
Yea- I'm a asexual and lesbian
@shnolfy3 жыл бұрын
Acethetic
@fra93ilgrande3 жыл бұрын
Yes sir 🖖🏻
@GACHAShadow-cb5kf3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I'm Asexual and aromantic
@lairoslairoslairos3 жыл бұрын
@@robloxxxxxbreak1604 i think you mean asexual and homoromantic
@hayamikano473 жыл бұрын
Okay an asexual here to explain. There’s a huge common joke in the community with either cake or garlic bread. It’s essentially “I would rather eat cake/garlic bread than do the nasty” but when there’s no context I can see how that’s confusing. Pretty much every asexual knows this joke and partakes in it because it’s hilarious to us.
@moonperson81323 жыл бұрын
Lol y e s-
@elianaswims3 жыл бұрын
yep
@ifiinch3 жыл бұрын
I’m disappointed there weren’t any memes about dragons because dragons just as great as cake
@user-ml7tp1dn4s3 жыл бұрын
This!
@Worm.soup6663 жыл бұрын
@@ifiinch yep they are
@queenofsleepdeprivation73583 жыл бұрын
As a kid I thought “liking” people was necessary and now I know that I’m a little older I understand. I find people attractive, but I don’t feel romantic attraction until I know the other person thinks I’m attractive as well. It’s hard to explain. Basically I just don’t feel attracted until I feel it back I guess?
@bearVshark1003 жыл бұрын
I think thats on the aroace spectrum. I've only started reading about it recently but it sounds familiar.
@averylarson81392 жыл бұрын
that sounds familiar to demiromantic or grayromantic but what feels best to you is best, and you don’t need a label if you don’t want one! pick your poison friend :)
@foxonfire72 жыл бұрын
I think i heared about something similar to this. So i share Recipromantic: someon who does not experienc romantic attraction unless they know that the other person is romanticaly attracted to them first. Hope this helps😊
@mariethedove39092 жыл бұрын
As pretty much everyone else replying to this, I also think this sounds something on the aroace spectrum, I’m not the one to tell you how to identify yourself, and neither is anyone else but yourself, but I hope you find an identity you feel comfortable with! :D
@dumpsterracoon99203 жыл бұрын
Fun story! My great aunt (who’s in her 70s) asked me what asexual meant. I explained and she realized that she’s actually ace. She had been in few romantic relationships and was never interested in a sexual relationship. This proves that asexuality isn’t just a new trend or whatever
@beth79353 жыл бұрын
I think maybe for some ace people in the past, like Mediaeval Europe, it made joining a religious order a particularly good choice- & since chastity was so highly regarded, some ace people may have been admired for that... not that ace people invariably want 100% lifetime chastity, but not being "tormented by the demon of lust" would have been seen as a good thing- even tho LGBT _identities_ in general didn't exist, LGBT _people_ obviously did...
@wordforger3 жыл бұрын
@@beth7935 Hell, Paul of the New Testament may have been asexual if his letters are any indication. That's nigh 2000 year ago.
@beth79353 жыл бұрын
@@wordforger That's really interesting! I seem to recall he wasn't a fan of women & marriage- was he the guy who said "better to marry than to burn, but better not to marry at all"?
@wordforger3 жыл бұрын
@@beth7935 Yep. And also indicated he didn't have that kind of burning passion. Sounds pretty asexual to me. Just saying.
@beth79353 жыл бұрын
@@wordforger Yeah, like most historical figures, the _concept_ of asexuality didn't exist for him to think about, & if we time-travelled & explained it in a morally neutral way, we can't know if he'd say "yep, that's me", but even tho I'm very tentative about such things, what he said sounds a _lot_ like asexuality (note: I'm not ace), & it's easy to imagine him identifying as ace today (apart from the prejudice Christianity often has against LGBT+ people.)
@kaya36453 жыл бұрын
two asexuals sitting in a tree eating cake their dragons are flying around and their garlic bread will come out of oven shortly
@thisjustquinn27393 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes yes
@SCI3N3N0mber13 жыл бұрын
An accurate summary of how these events happen.
@patiencekillz3 жыл бұрын
Yes please🥰
@anaceweirdo15793 жыл бұрын
I'm stuck in a tree- there are fire ants everywhere and it hurts getting bit.
@kaya36453 жыл бұрын
@@evacesartcorner9840 nah they don't rhyme, it's bothering me too but idk what to change that part with :'
@sarahneuhaus53073 жыл бұрын
alternate title: Jamie Talks About How Aesthetically Pleasing the Ace Flag Is For 10 Minutes
@PeteSchult3 жыл бұрын
Or how Ace-thetically pleasing it is?
@jewelsthecat53313 жыл бұрын
@@PeteSchult ayeee
@fenixmeaney61703 жыл бұрын
@@jewelsthecat5331 ayeeece
@loggingfire13 жыл бұрын
It is my favourite flag though, it's beautiful, just like the people
@alchemysaga37453 жыл бұрын
I mean... it is tho. So much so when I was younger I was worried I wasn't actually ace, but just really liked the flag and blurred the two together for that reason. Turns out, yep, Ace as hell and Aro to boot.
@enbyarchmage3 жыл бұрын
As the only son of conservative (albeit not entirely close-minded) parents, I've never truly been able to think about gender and other socially relevant topics until a very small number of years ago. This channel, which I discovered only recently, has been helping me quite a lot to understand the nuances of gender and related subjects. Watching this video in particular, made me 100% sure that I'm under the asexual umbrella. Seriously, Jammi, words cannot express how grateful I am to you, for helping me to better understand both the world and myself 😁 P.S Sorry for the long comment, but the happier I am, the more I write 😌
@underthetable732 жыл бұрын
I can relate to the every single word... (exept "son")... As happy and as thankful to Jammi as you....
@enbyarchmage2 жыл бұрын
@@underthetable73 After five long months of self-discovery, not even I relate to the "son" part, at least not as much as I did when I wrote the original comment! Speaking of writing, I'm about to write A LOT of stuff down below, because I'm eager to share with you (and anyone else, really) some information that I learned in the past half year, and might help you in your own journey. Please read if you have the time and energy to do so: I have Asperger's, so I tend to get "a little" wordy and overexcited when I write/talk about things I like 😅 -------------------------------------------------- I've been identifying as nonbinary (they/he) for the past few months, partly because of KZbinrs (in particular Jammi, One Topic at a Time, Lilly Alexander and Kross), but also because of books on History, Anthropology and other subjects. The main takeaway I got from all of those books and videos, as well from many other past experiences, was that identities are always changing. That being said, it's totally ok to doubt yourself from time to time and experiment using (privately or in public) different labels of gender, sexuality etc. to refer to yourself, even if you end up discarding them later. In the end, what matters is that, eventually, you learn to accept your own fluidity and start living in relative peace with yourself, never losing the drive to improve, but trying just as hard to make sure it doesn't turn into Impostor Syndrome. That philosophy (which I'm struggling to successfully implement in my daily life, but at least I'm trying) is kind of why I chose nonbinary as my current gender label: it's my way to remind myself that identities are neither black-and-white nor set in stone, while also relieving myself from a huge chunk of that socially constructed urge we all have (and will always have, to some extent) to live according to arbitrary standards of masculinity, femininity etc. That's just my take on the matter, though. Please, do both of us a favor, and be yourself. Warm greetings from Brazil 🤗
@DanielledeVreede2 жыл бұрын
So happy you found yourself. Welcome!🖤🤍💜
@sidereaper2810 Жыл бұрын
Well i sure hope to be reading your first novel soon :)
@enbyarchmage Жыл бұрын
@@sidereaper2810 I do plan to write for a living: I'm a History undergrad, and my goal is to write books, papers, brochures etc. that'll entertain and educate people at the same time. I want my readers to engage with the past, and with the lessons we can learn from it, as much as I do! 😁
@nyssarc1463 жыл бұрын
As an asexual, seeing anyone who’s not ace make a video about it always puts me instinctively on edge. But it’s always nice when it’s a positive video of folks educating themselves and/or appreciating the memes, so thank you for this lovely bit of my day
@KoshTimeStepper3 жыл бұрын
I'm a 42 y/o ace... I used to get in the whole "you just need to find the right guy" thing when I was younger. It took my mother many years to get used to the idea of me never expanding the family tree.
@juni60223 жыл бұрын
Me: a hopeless romantic desperate for a partner to ride or die with Also me: asexual and afraid of emotional intimacy 🤡
@demonicz81263 жыл бұрын
I know exactly how you feel. I'm a hopeless romantic too and I'm literally sooo afraid that I'll never ever find the right person because of that 😅 I'm afraid that my expectations in a relationship are way too high... but I can't help being hopelessly romantic and demi 😅 I feel like I should live in a cliché romantic novel or so 😂 Lots of love to you! ❤
@wiseforcommonsense3 жыл бұрын
You will find the person that will understand that and love you for it. I was lucky enough to find a guy that has been with me through my journey of getting that I wasn't just not ready for sex, I might never want it. Through my fear of relationships, And then figuring out that I'm demisexual. And through it all they have showered me with flowers and words of love, and most recently a ace flag sticker for my birthday. You can be highly romantic and asexual! Don't let society tell you how a relationship is suppose to be, buy a bunch of books or anime and Binge read or watch throughout the night. Cuddle on the couch and then bid your partner goodnight. Live your beat life!
@beetle77103 жыл бұрын
therapy first, then a partner.
@codywilcox2143 жыл бұрын
Exact same. New to this entire term of asexual, but sure it applies to me and scared af.
@hopesanddreams29983 жыл бұрын
Damn calling both of us out like that
@cchain_link90663 жыл бұрын
Just for those who wanted a copy paste Being asexual is like being born without a sense of smell but everywhere you go people are spraying perfume in your face and when you ask them to stop and tell them it’s irritating and you can’t smell the perfume anyway they get huffy and respond with “don’t lie to me; I can clearly see you have a nose. Everybody has a nose and therefore everybody smells things and besides maybe you just haven’t found the right scent yet”. And then you want to scream.
@someone288333 жыл бұрын
thanks! :)
@voidcat83333 жыл бұрын
We need to make more jokes on the "you haven't met the right person thing" because I feel its really a good joke to be made
@saitohajime99393 жыл бұрын
Seriously this is my family at me. But also, it isn’t just Ace who get this spiel sadly, Aro people get it too and it’s extremely annoying when your Aro/Ace so you suffer with both sides.
@el.the.mushroom.gal.3 жыл бұрын
As someone who cannot smell at all and identifies as an asexual person, this is the best comment I've ever read.
@FiSH-iSH3 жыл бұрын
oh the pain of using mobile to watch youtube
@gooses-trenchcoat3 жыл бұрын
the "YES GET THAT D QUEEN- wait no" conversation is exactly one i would have with my best friend,, like she has no clue but she is sooo supportive all the time! ps asexual people are valid! 💜
@xiphos42013 жыл бұрын
Me, an asexual: *sees the one meme with the lego millennium falcon* Me: *looks up at the lego millennium falcon on my dresser* Me: accurate
@someoneontheinternet163 жыл бұрын
Truly accurate, i have it too
@Cougath3 жыл бұрын
Same. Ace with the Lego Falcon. (Do we all have one?)
@themailman89933 жыл бұрын
Me too, I felt really called out
@anna-lena93133 жыл бұрын
@@Cougath yesss
@slavishentity67053 жыл бұрын
@@Cougath Lego Chima is better
@che_gozira3 жыл бұрын
Basically, "I’d rather eat cake" is an inside joke in the asexual community. Cake is better than sex.
@siorganism3 жыл бұрын
Doubt garlic bread is better
@gl40813 жыл бұрын
@@siorganism lol
@Randomd0g3 жыл бұрын
@@siorganism i would die for garlic bread 🤤
@hyalophora3 жыл бұрын
I don't like cake
@che_gozira3 жыл бұрын
@@siorganism nah sweet and savory aren't comparable. Garlic bread IS the shit but so is chocolate cake
@faefolkarts3 жыл бұрын
As an ace person who is sexually active and who's neutral to the thought of sex I'm thankful that little comic included that aspect of the ace spectrum because it's often overlooked
@bills-beard3 жыл бұрын
Holla at me, fellow aces who enjoy sex but dont experience sexual attraction 👂🤚
@faefolkarts3 жыл бұрын
@@bills-beard eyyyy✌️✌️✌️
@riversrhodell23593 жыл бұрын
Even as someone who fits the stereotypical image of an ace person in a lot of ways, I find it annoying when people assume I'm sex-repulsed or are not generally inclusive of the other parts of our community.
@HasabeMizurukara3 жыл бұрын
Same!
@BlytheSoul72713 жыл бұрын
I was holding my breath, afraid that the sex favourable among us wouldn't be included. I was also worried about aromantic being overlooked because they did the 'but we can still love romantically' line. Was really glad when both were included.
@terencew.29182 жыл бұрын
My response to the perfume thing would be" I'm allergic to perfume". I'm a 57 year old Trans guy who's Asexual and quite happy to be so, even though I found out that being Asexual was something real while watching the afternoon news only about seven years ago. I spent so much of my life thinking I was just weird until there was a news story about it that described me perfectly. Videos like this are a great way to help people understand and accept themselves and it's a great feeling when you realize that you're not alone. I've learned so much about myself and my transition from your videos and I really enjoyed this one today. These videos really help so many people, thanks.
@saix_unicorn2 ай бұрын
i'm also an asexual trans man! (i'm aro too) and they helped me a lot to figure out myself, i'm 19 but i found out two years ago about it, i'm happy to see others like me
@AnotherRandomChannel138 күн бұрын
@@saix_unicorn I'm aroace and it sounds weird but I realized last year because of Alastor from Hazbin Hotel. 😅 He's a really cool character, so I did research on him and found that he was aroace (or at least ace) and that made me go down a research rabbit hole about the topic. I'm so glad I did, because I can feel proud of myself and not base my "success" in life around stuff that doesn't matter to me! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙
@saix_unicorn7 күн бұрын
@@AnotherRandomChannel13 that's exactly for this reason we need more queer characters! :) i'm really happy you found out this abt yourself! welcome to the team! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙
@-throw_me-away_11593 жыл бұрын
Technically all “love triangles” are actually love corners, they can’t be a love triangle unless one of them is gay and likes the two others...
@someoneontheinternet163 жыл бұрын
I always think about that, like, a love triangle would be that al the corners like the other 2 corners
@irisnora15253 жыл бұрын
Love angles
@sayven3 жыл бұрын
I mean you could say that the two who don't love each other still have a line for their hate/competition, which is part of the trope
@DevPreston3 жыл бұрын
Doesn't require one to be gay - what about bi or pan, or even otherwise straight in all settings but this one? Plenty of ways that threes can be mutual triangles.
@piranhasz4273 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU THIS HAS LITERALLY BEEN BOTHERING ME FOR YEARS
@leobasketcase29863 жыл бұрын
The ace cake thing can simply be summarized as “Yeah, sex is cool and all, but have you hade cake?”
@yukkihaps80253 жыл бұрын
Also garlic bread!
@Dami_personal3 жыл бұрын
@@yukkihaps8025 Why not both
@isabellalepik65953 жыл бұрын
@@yukkihaps8025 i came here to say that but deep down, i knew someone already mentioned garlic bread :D
@peppermintmum31773 жыл бұрын
i know it's got nothing to do with food but dragons seem to be an ace thing too for some reason?
@WraithReaper093 жыл бұрын
@@peppermintmum3177 Dragon hordes. (lot of Aces tend to have collections they're very passionate about) Also dragons are one of the mythological creatures that aren't connected with sexual attraction in some way.
@janrobnettwordweaver22273 жыл бұрын
As an elderly Asexual, finding out I was Asexual in my mid-50s, I can honestly say that your wonderful support of this community is AWESOME! Also, we wear black rings on our right middle fingers to identify us as Asexuals to others. It's sort of a code style thing.
@sugar-and-stardust3 жыл бұрын
That's awesome! I'm happy for you :)
@olive64663 жыл бұрын
ive always worn my black wing on my right middle finger, *i couldve known the whole time*
@penofwildfire3 жыл бұрын
my mom bought me a black ring and I wear it on my middle finger!
@AnaLu073 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy for you finding out who you are. It's always time to be yourself.
@MoonlightGlxssy3 жыл бұрын
@Brett Wagland wtf is your problem?
@SonarTheBat5 ай бұрын
As an asexual, I can confirm the perfume analogy is spot on.
@jaymixo6073 жыл бұрын
i'm in the "i grew up thinking sexual attraction is a fake thing that people made up for movies" club. i was so confused when i heard some people actually experiences sexual attraction
@Catilinah3 жыл бұрын
As an aromantic, I had the same with crushes too. At age 22 I realised that it's not just a cheap trope to generate tension in a work of fiction, and honestly, I still can't quite believe it.
@gabbylee40623 жыл бұрын
Im asexual aromantic and I thought crushes were you just chose someone. Then my friends tarted talking about their crushes and how they make them feel and I was like "Wait! You don't just chose someone to say is your crush?"
@katiecrooked3 жыл бұрын
Pretty sure the latter half of my teens was just me being constantly surprised every time a friend or acquaintance told me they’d had sex and actually wanted that. I think I realised around 19 that I was the unusual one xD;
@lampekartoffel3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Same here. And people's desperate talk about how they NEED a partner was also something I thought was made up or exaggerated until I realised I'm Asexual
@lexlovesblondsz3 жыл бұрын
oh same!! and how people get crushes on celebrities?? it took me a while to realize that some people actually are sexually attracted to celebrities...i thought people had crushes on celebs because they were pretty and aesthetically pleasing to the eyes
@kayajackson1763 жыл бұрын
Aroace: * Sees someone aesthetically attractive that is a nice person * Aroace: *Is this attraction? Do I want to date them?*
@shincodedd2203 жыл бұрын
as someone who just found out they might be aro/ace after calling themselves panromantic for years because they wanted a close platonic connection with others (not influenced by gender) and thought they were aesthetically pleasing........ yeah basically
@rilla50583 жыл бұрын
@@shincodedd220 I'm trying to work out whether I'm aro or pan, I know for a fact I'm ace, but I find it hard to tell whether the attraction I feel for people is romantic or not :)
@GACHAShadow-cb5kf3 жыл бұрын
Hey! You're a fellow aroace!
@suumee3 жыл бұрын
@@rilla5058 same
@seauqis3 жыл бұрын
@@GACHAShadow-cb5kf you're a fellow aroace too !
@janedough89973 жыл бұрын
The cake thing: We like to joke that we'd rather have cake than sex.
@five_times_avy3 жыл бұрын
"joke" ?
@cassandramuller73373 жыл бұрын
Or garlic bread. All depends on mood or wether you prefer sweet or salty
@bronwyngibson49253 жыл бұрын
Idk about you but I'm dead serious when I say that ;)
@rhiannon.de.rohan-thomas3 жыл бұрын
Cake is never a joke. 😐 🎂😍🍰😋
@naomideoliveira18863 жыл бұрын
Cake is superior to everything
@sovietbot670811 ай бұрын
Important: not all asexual people experience absolutely no sexual attraction. I experience sexual attraction, but it's very rare and only after I develop an emotional connection. I'm demisexual which is under the asexual umbrella.
@snailofkale3 жыл бұрын
“No shrex for two years for 700 million” Youths, asexuals, unmarried religious folks, and people who aren’t very hee hoo feeling: I am four parallel universes ahead of you.
@mikkogeneration3 жыл бұрын
also sad virgins...
@OriginalCreatorSama3 жыл бұрын
"people who aren't very heehoo feeling"???? i might start describing my asexuality that way... 🤔
@snailofkale3 жыл бұрын
@@OriginalCreatorSama u know what I meant but since this is yt I had to put that but yes accurate
@ravenlebean3613 жыл бұрын
How about oblivious Non-binary pansexuals who are too young to care?
@snailofkale3 жыл бұрын
@@ravenlebean361 I’d say that falls under children. I’ll change it to “youths”
@redacted57683 жыл бұрын
"Noo you cant not have romantic or sexual attraction its what makes us fundamentally human!!" Aces: Gods? Aros: Gods.
@redacted57683 жыл бұрын
(for clarification, the "Aces" in this instance are asking the "Aros" if they would be considered gods, and the "Aros" in this meme answer with yes) (Also would like to clarify I am ace)
@kittyplayz14803 жыл бұрын
Lmao I know the Tumblr post this came from
@inkyraven35863 жыл бұрын
If anything we Aces and Aros are even better then the old gods. Zeus did some pretty kinky and questionable things to fill that sensual urge. He turned into a bull, a swan, an eagle, and a shower of gold (that is to say a literal shower of gold) to procreate with multiple women and one man. So... there is your history lesson kids! Have a good time and eat your veggies.
@mudkipqueen9203 жыл бұрын
@@inkyraven3586 meanwhile Athena and Artemis are kicking ass and actually doing their jobs
@sophie-raine16573 жыл бұрын
Both: Mighty and Powerful Gods!
@korrajustkorra48223 жыл бұрын
The cake thing is just a meme that came from someone saying they would rather eat cake than have sexual intercourse. Naturally, because it is a meme, we, aces, use it all the time.
@mailyak4423 жыл бұрын
Also now garlic bread 😂🥖
@izzyoranges80053 жыл бұрын
But cake is so good, how could anyone rate sex over cake???
@korrajustkorra48223 жыл бұрын
@@izzyoranges8005 Personal preferences? I don't get it either.
@sharks25713 жыл бұрын
@@izzyoranges8005 apparently lots of people prefer sex... it does boggle the mind
@crystalmoonlgdc3 жыл бұрын
Because everyone knows that we, the LGBTQ+ community, have both the power of love *and* memes on our side!
@JhericFury Жыл бұрын
Of all the wonderful realisations that came with figuring out I'm ace, that our flag is so aesthetically pleasing is one of the best. So lucky. Well done whoever designed it.
@luka_83 жыл бұрын
Ace rings are a symbol in the Ace community, similar to how the earring is known in the gay one. A black ring on the middle finger of your right hand symbolizes Asexuality, while (lesser known) a white ring on the middle finger of the left hand symbolizes Aromantizism. As an Ace/Aro I wear both! And one of my friends recently asked me about it, and when I said that she said "oh that's cool I have one too but I don't wear mine so often" so that's how I found out how my friend of 4 years was a fellow Ace lol
@skymaiden73023 жыл бұрын
Yep! I feel like its kinda like a secret sign to identify fellow aces and supporters! Getting my Ace ring soon and I'll be on the lookout for my fellow ace gang :D
@anon_charli32253 жыл бұрын
hi! i’ve known i was asexual for a few years now, but only found out about being demiromantic a few months ago is there a ring to wear for being demiromantic or should i wear the white ring? or maybe just not wear one? :/
@anne86633 жыл бұрын
@@anon_charli3225 Same! And I wonder too , is there a ring for us? 🤔
@LieutenantSheep3 жыл бұрын
thats cool! kind of like the hanky code from back in the day. Glad yall found each other
@OuattaHand3 жыл бұрын
If there is any weebs here, just know that the R-rated hero Midnight wears black rings on her middle fingers in her hero costume. Just the smal details in life that make one smile.
@reneehunt55903 жыл бұрын
Dragons are also popular icons in the Ace community. Basically, we'd rather talk about dragons than have sex. 🖤🤍💜 What we have as our horde varies from person to person.
@jaidadraco3 жыл бұрын
space and plants
@samtheflutegirl13733 жыл бұрын
What if my horde... ... IS dragons???
@norakelley51123 жыл бұрын
I'm definitely not asexual but I fucking love dragons, and cake, and garlic bread..... hmm maybe I gotta re-evaluate some things
@kitsymitsykat65483 жыл бұрын
Oh my god before I even knew I was ace I would always change the topic from sex to dragons HOW DID I NEVER NOTICE THIS
@emilystewart61753 жыл бұрын
As an ace, my hoarde might be transformer
@lemon_scented_rat45593 жыл бұрын
Lovely reminder for everyone: Asexuality is fluid, just as everything else is!! In short it just means you experience little to no sexual attraction. That "little" is very important, because some ace people can still have limited sexual attraction to people, or may want to have sex when they are in a close romantic relationship with someone. On the other end there's other ace people who feel no sexual attraction what so ever, and some are even sex repulsed entirely. It all depends on the person and how they specifically identify 🖤 (EDIT: Thank you all so much for the love and support on this, I've never had a comment of mine blow up like this, and the feedback in the replies has been extremely lovely and sweet. I'm so glad I could help spread light on the topic and help better educate some people. Again, thank you!! 💕)
@davv66283 жыл бұрын
I was just about to comment this
@exist40463 жыл бұрын
Im Demi!! Sexual attraction only once very close to someone! Thank you for mentioning this, people dont seem to fully understand that Demisexual IS in fact different than "how its meant to work" or something like that
@lemon_scented_rat45593 жыл бұрын
@@exist4046 I'm potentially Demi/Grey-ace myself!! I know I'm asexual but I haven't been out as such for very long so I'm still trying to figure it out completely (definitely not as easy as the first two times I've came out lol). Regardless I know how often asexuality gets boiled down to just those who are sex repulsed/don't feel any sexual attraction at all, which is extremely unfair and completely erases a large portion of the community. Those who still feel limited sexual attraction or want sex with close partners are just as valid as Asexuals that don't 💖
@enbiaroace3 жыл бұрын
As a sex repulsed asexual, I welcome demisexuals/grey aces/etc. with open arms and will gladly tell you you're valid! 💕
@lemon_scented_rat45593 жыл бұрын
@@enbiaroace We appreciate you uwu 💕
@Ratsfrom423 жыл бұрын
Thank you, much appreciated as an ace, it's a lonely life when everyone thinks you're broken.
@abbyj27833 жыл бұрын
The cake is a common joke about “things I would rather have than sex”. Cake, Garlic Bread, and Dragons are the common ones.
@Jessica-kb8jf3 жыл бұрын
Also people think a-spec people don't exist, like dragons, so I think that's where that one came from
@divijaagarwal42663 жыл бұрын
oooh and also space
@toxic_thoughts_xx26733 жыл бұрын
umm im sorry am i ace? ID RATHER HAVE CAKE GARLIC BREAD AND DRAGONS THAN SEX?!?! (Am i? this is a real question???)
@a-wild-goose3 жыл бұрын
@@toxic_thoughts_xx2673 Haha lol! You can definitely prefer those things without being asexual, but you'll have to determine how you want to identify for yourself!
@soren_tyler43943 жыл бұрын
I didn’t know about the dragon one until I read this and I immediately started smiling because of how I’ve always liked dragons and I looked around my room to find I had one dragon on all of my walls and technically the floor (like drawings and pictures). So since I’m asexual can I have my dragon now?
@Siennarchist3 жыл бұрын
Jamie, please make an aromantic part two, please dont let us aces erase our Aro peeps, especially since a lot of these "ace" labelled posts are actually aro and it helps a lot to separate and provide a distinction between the two. (Please boost to get him to see this)
@kenanjones34813 жыл бұрын
Yes, this! I'm aroace, so I get the representation from both, but aro gets forgotten so frequently. All you aro peeps out there are hella valid! 💚
@KaiahAurora3 жыл бұрын
Boost! Aces gotta look our for our aro friends because they're looking out for us too!
@Firegen13 жыл бұрын
Upvote this
@dovee13 жыл бұрын
Exactly, we've all gone ignored for so long, we can't only have one of us getting recognition!
@maelin68633 жыл бұрын
@@kenanjones3481 ditto. And the community's gotta take care of each other 💚
@mailyak4423 жыл бұрын
ON CAKE AND RINGS: the ace community chose a ring like 15 years ago to represent our orientations and like signal others - a black ring on the middle finger of the right hand :) As for cake, we just have jokes about how we’d rather eat cake than have sex, also dragons are a thing - we get more excited about dragons than sex, and a strong love of garlic bread is also just starting to come through... 😂
@scooter-kid3 жыл бұрын
yeah I just wrote my own comment about ace rings before i saw yours haha!
@mailyak4423 жыл бұрын
@@scooter-kid oh cool! Yeah I wanna spread awareness of them so there's actually some point to wearing mine hahaha. Did I miss anything?? :))
@yuricranberrysprite43063 жыл бұрын
Also wanting to float forever in space
@Hannah-uw2yj3 жыл бұрын
I don’t love garlic but the rest of it yes 100%
@Daesma9993 жыл бұрын
..now I'd really like to eat some cake or garlic bread :D You made me hungry xD
@thomasoreoittheyhe45893 жыл бұрын
I once had a friend who was bi and trans. I figured they knew about the LGBTQ+ community so I listened to them. One time when I was twelve someone else was reading smut. I said I was going to leave and when they asked why I said that I was asexual. This “friend” said I wasn’t because you had to be 18 or older. I was forced to stay and listen to something that traumatised me. I knew I was asexual because everyone else my age was talking about sex and sexual crushes and I was busy getting platonic relationships confused with romantic ones and never having any sexual thoughts. I lied and pretended I had these feelings for 4 years, to this day I invalidate myself and cry. A sexuality is valid. Don’t hurt people the way people hurt me.
@immortalhorsefang3 жыл бұрын
Jammie: posts Ace video Me, an asexual: Holy crap. Does this mean I exist?
@akitokutikabanae70103 жыл бұрын
YOU DO AND YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL 🌺
@sophiemelchiorri45423 жыл бұрын
YES
@irishviolet90623 жыл бұрын
When I saw it I freaked out for a moment! I was like “Holly cow a creator I like made a video about ace-ness!”
@rpgeoffrey3 жыл бұрын
Me and my fellow Aces today, "Witness me!"
@shreejatadas99223 жыл бұрын
@@irishviolet9062 do you watch "One topic at a time"? He also makes a lot of pro-lgbtq content that includes ace people. He is a really great ally
@NexsGalaxy3 жыл бұрын
The ace community have made this thing where it’s like “I just want to eat cake” so it’s like a different way of saying “I don’t like/want sex”
@alyxm.66623 жыл бұрын
I mean, c'mon cake is just so much better! Sincerely, the epitome of "f*ck society", (I am agender & aro-ace)
@C.0.ll.1.n3 жыл бұрын
@@alyxm.6662 Hello person that is also Agender!
@biizham91543 жыл бұрын
Cake is much better then sex, am ace, can confirm.
@butterskutz3 жыл бұрын
@SourRye and now I too want some garlic bread. Mmmm, bread~
@NexsGalaxy3 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry to everyone who replied AHHAHA I like responding to responses it’s amazing, but all y’all 100% chef kiss
@kaine10533 жыл бұрын
The cake thing is a running joke in the community that we would rather have cake over sex and would ignore sexual advances in favor of food
@nyxstyx3883 жыл бұрын
Also garlic bread, I'm genuinely surprised I didn't see garlic bread in this video
@gardeniac.37823 жыл бұрын
@@nyxstyx388 me too.
@childharvester81313 жыл бұрын
Yesssss! :DD
@brianpickford30313 жыл бұрын
I saw something and it was two people texting and it was: Person one: What are you doing Person two: I’m in bed eating cereal Person two: What would you do if I was there? Person one: .....Eat my cereal? Person two: What if you didn’t have your cereal? Person one: Go get my cereal?
@theplaguedoctor55283 жыл бұрын
Far to accurate for me and its scary.. I'd give anything for food
@poli79973 жыл бұрын
i’ve never seen you on youtube before and this video warmed my heart, i’m asexual myself, so watching someone talk about us in such a lovely manner was sooo nice
@emerynyx93103 жыл бұрын
Jammi: _posts video about ace memes_ All of us Aces: *_Happiness noises_*
@sofia.s.c34783 жыл бұрын
I literally sent this to my sister with a screaming gif
@mailyak4423 жыл бұрын
YES! 😭😍
@apetranek52353 жыл бұрын
*happy ace noises*
@lilhigh14253 жыл бұрын
Yesss I was so happy to see it!!! I almost never see ace content and as an asexual person I’m so glad that Jamie made this video!!!😄😄😄
@chasingstars56143 жыл бұрын
Yesss
@silkedavid88763 жыл бұрын
I never heard of the term asexual until maybe 3 years ago, and finally at the age of 45 finding out what I struggled with all my life, what a relief!
@stardolphin7833 жыл бұрын
Good for you !!
@stardolphin7833 жыл бұрын
Im glad for u !!!❤
@jampoptart11803 жыл бұрын
Good for you!! LGBTQIA+ people have always existed, and I'm super happy to see that people who weren't able to be informed about their identities in the past are finding ways to identify themselves now. With love from an asexual gen-z person :)
@HiHello-cw9vc3 жыл бұрын
Good for you! That’s great!
@TheHiddenDirector3 жыл бұрын
Same thing for me, four years ago when I was 30. I've really come to realize and embrace that you're never too old to discover yourself. I'm still learning new things about myself.
@aroad27883 жыл бұрын
Here's a list to understating asexual memes and stuff: Aces is what many asexuals call asexual people. Also ace is short for asexual. Aces are said to be dragons or to just really like them. Aces use black rings on the middle finger on their right hands to help discreetly identify each other as ace but it is not a requirement. Aces are said to love cake and garlic bread because they are "way better than sex". That character from bojack horseman is named Todd and is one of the very rare characters to be canonically ace. That's just a few.
@pooolB3 жыл бұрын
I love Todd!!!! Bojack actually did an incredible job representing asexuality (Spoilers if you haven't seen it!!!) Not only is one of their main characters ace, it also shows him learning about it himself and getting comfortable using it as a label, talks about all the different types and how some aces have sex/masturbate and have relationships, and he's also not the only ace character on the show!! Theres at least 2 side characters and they show multiple frequently seen background characters going to an asexual meet up he's apart of!! It's so cool
@Tori_1003 жыл бұрын
I should have known I was ace when I was in love with how to train your dragon
@moonspider553 жыл бұрын
I really want a black ring, but rings bother me. I was thinking about just getting it tattooed.
@commentmccommentface52333 жыл бұрын
Canonically ace but is represented well unlike the I must be cured kind of representation
@someoneontheinternet163 жыл бұрын
Okey, so i need a ring for mi middle finger and another for my chubby finger? (Bisexual people use a ring in the chubby finger, right hand if you are in a relationship and left hand if you are single)
@SeanStrife2 жыл бұрын
As someone who's just been recently coming to terms with his own asexuality... these memes have really been putting a lot of things into perspective about me growing up and... I'm finally beginning to realize why I could never hold a relationship down... or why some people thought I was gay because I didn't act overly horny around women the way they did.
@TheDepreed3 жыл бұрын
Honestly I’m asexual, got tired of answering why I don’t want sex that’s weird, I now reply ‘why do you want sex? That’s weird’ normally ends that conversation and we move on
@warmhoney58293 жыл бұрын
I'm going to use that
@picgamer32173 жыл бұрын
You are so me!!! :D
@TarunoNafs3 жыл бұрын
Oh I'll steal that!
@cabbageman21842 жыл бұрын
IM USING THAT
@HarpyMortem2 жыл бұрын
Noice😁
@caillienotcali47013 жыл бұрын
The cake thing is a giant meme amongst asexuals - it kinda started with "If you're having s3x and you'd rather be eating cake, you're probably ace." A black ring on the middle finger of your right hand is a secret symbol between asexuals which has a deep meaning about solidarity and not getting married but it's mostly just you see someone with a black ring and go "OMG ARE YOU ACE TOO??" hope that helps :)
@oliviawolcott83513 жыл бұрын
my girlfriend is Ace and now I must get her this ring!
@gearsandsteam13 жыл бұрын
I have an ace ring and it makes me super happy whenever a fellow ace sees my ring and says hello!
@WukongTheMonkeyKing3 жыл бұрын
The earliest cake thing I know about is basically "You think sex is good? Have you tried cake?"
@danielleforrest27633 жыл бұрын
I’ve worn an ace ring for years. Have yet to have anyone comment. Still waiting for someone I know to clue in with, “wait does that mean you’re ace?”
@daniellebresette58043 жыл бұрын
I would like an ace ring....but I am married. Can I still get one? Edit: silly question I know. I can do what I want. I was just saying
@jadaluvr13 жыл бұрын
I am in love with how obsessed Jamie is with the asexual flag. But seriously though, I am ace myself and it means so much to me that this video exists.
@huh20863 жыл бұрын
Same
@eowynelfstone94023 жыл бұрын
Same
@chihoshiba20383 жыл бұрын
Same.
@alphastormeex94683 жыл бұрын
Same 🖤🤍💜
@TheChocoCattt3 жыл бұрын
Hi fellow ace buds!
@kadynisapanda2 жыл бұрын
I actually have a silly guide for types of attraction because it took me until the covid era (at roughly age 24/25) to come to terms with being demi-pansexual. Here is the guide: Sexual attraction- "oh, gorgeous, must boink" Romantic attraction- "lovely human, must date" Platonic attraction- "friend shaped, take my familial affection" Aesthetic attraction- "oh, beautiful, moving on"
@Victoria-wg8ek3 жыл бұрын
as an ace, it was so validating to see this-- very many people don't recognise asexuality as an actual orientation, and among those that do, many try to say we don't belong in the LGBTQIA+ community. i really appreciate you including us on your channel :)
@floopyboo3 жыл бұрын
WTF, that's twisted. As a very sexual person, I am so sorry for the way ace & aro people are treated in the community. Of course you are welcome, just remember to step around the bigots and if they don't get out of your way, don't be afraid to crush their bigotty toes.
@LittleSprout733 жыл бұрын
I had someone tell me "some people experience sexual attraction, others don't therefore ASEXUAL IS NOT A SEXUAL ORIENTATION YOU'RE JUST A NORMAL PERSON WANTING TO BE SPECIAL" I was.... So confused....
@TheBaldingPied3 жыл бұрын
right? I hate being subly nudged out of lgbt spaces for being "basically straight" and nudged out of cis spaces because "smh loosen up i bet you'd really like it if you did it more"
@nutelllla_3 жыл бұрын
@@LittleSprout73 how did they come to that conclusion tf??
@alecto90573 жыл бұрын
Lmao it’s like what do they think the the a is for, ally??
@Hannah-dg1kf3 жыл бұрын
When you’re ace and you’ve actually called someone “aesthetically pleasing”
@asta-is-dead3 жыл бұрын
call that acethetically pleasing 🤩
@sugar-and-stardust3 жыл бұрын
@@asta-is-dead ACETHETICALLY PLEASING OML
@jelatinosa3 жыл бұрын
100% can relate lol
@danielleneville37253 жыл бұрын
When you're not sure if you classify as ace but "aesthetically pleasing" is your go to compliment anyway.
@kae413 жыл бұрын
i tell if someone is someone i should have a crush on if i think they would look nice on one of those Pinterest aesthetic boards its a foolproof system
@DYT-er7de3 жыл бұрын
my biology teacher said that asexuality isn’t real... I guess I’m just a creation of everyone’s imagination *starts disappearing from reality *
@kookiecream72593 жыл бұрын
Sorry I didn't want you to know you were my imagination....damn your biology teacher
@Itachiuchiha-nz8hh3 жыл бұрын
Half of my friends: *slowly turns into cake*
@patroclusheadass3 жыл бұрын
if you dont exist that means you cant be arrested
@cassandramuller73373 жыл бұрын
@@patroclusheadass Now this is what we call a strategy
@casfolsom82283 жыл бұрын
My health teacher was like that
@OrcaMorca3 жыл бұрын
The post about normalizing not having any experiance with sex or romantic relationships, that one hit me hard. I can see younger me, jsut feeling ugly, unloveble, feeling broken because I didn't understand (and still do not) the sexual attraction thing, I felt so. Wrong. 2021 has been a journey, where I slowly has started to understand myself, and begun to embrace being an Ace. Also the Lego memes. Yes. 10/10
@themelnova3 жыл бұрын
I have an ace-aro friend, and she's out to most people at school, and one day this kid said to her whilst she was eating chocolate nibbles "wait, so you like those chocolate nibbles more than real people?" and she paused for a second, then said "pretty much, yeah."
@immyradcliffe60623 жыл бұрын
I take my hat off to your friend!
@therealkr1mstar3 жыл бұрын
As an another ace-aro, daaaaamn!
@doopdoop63303 жыл бұрын
Me, also aro ace: *yes*
@gabbylee40623 жыл бұрын
Me, another aro-ace: Exactly
@lumvilumvi3 жыл бұрын
Me, another aro-ace: That’s a messed up thing to say and a dumb stereotype that they use against us all the time
@reynaavilaramirez-arellano84683 жыл бұрын
Everybody talks about the "trans-it" and all that but am I the only one who's ever freaked out over the word aromatic because I thought it was aromanitc?
@allisavercool2273 жыл бұрын
You are not the only one
@UmbraKrameri3 жыл бұрын
I guess I just did it right now. XD
@tortis63423 жыл бұрын
I can confidently say that an aroma has never experienced romantic attraction, so what's the difference?
@pheonixrises113 жыл бұрын
I get excited and disappointed every time
@lizardperson7803 жыл бұрын
Every time. Scented candle labels are the death of me
@soniaruzafaangosto91623 жыл бұрын
I read these somewhere and they're my new internal anthems: Someone: "So who wears the pants in the relationship" Ace couple: "hopefully both of us" And then: "the only thing I'm f*cking is stupid"
@cosmictranquility27783 жыл бұрын
This is the first time I've heard that one, and i am stealing it to use everywhere. Love it!
@soniaruzafaangosto91623 жыл бұрын
@@cosmictranquility2778 noice ✨
@evelyngrace83963 жыл бұрын
I love that so much 😂😂
@jestersagetooth36663 жыл бұрын
Ha, same
@aceatlasska43433 жыл бұрын
Everyone wears pants actually, they're underwear 😂 (funny differences between US and UK English lol)
@juliasings61312 жыл бұрын
7:39 THIS WARMS MY HEART AND MADE ME TEAR UP WHICH IS QUITE THE ACCOMPLISHMENT CAUSE I DONT USUALLY CRY AT STUFF LIKE THIS BUT JUST THE ACCEPTANCE ITS SO ADORABLE AND SWEET I CANT- My parents are accepting and all but just- *the note and the cake and the rings it's just like- they're so dang supportive and I love them*
@illusion63433 жыл бұрын
me, an asexual who's been fricking waiting for this: *happilly cries in ace*
@tired.daydream35243 жыл бұрын
*happy ace sounds*
@illusion63433 жыл бұрын
@@tired.daydream3524 yeah :)
@ljames43473 жыл бұрын
Thought the point was we aren't fricking anything 😂
@aroach92103 жыл бұрын
Happy ace noises
@illusion63433 жыл бұрын
@@ljames4347 dude, we obviously arent. this is language. i mean, i could change the sentence, any ideas for rephrasing? 😂
@mrbeans40023 жыл бұрын
I swear ace people have the best dad jokes.
@benstarkey36833 жыл бұрын
This is a true statement
@Boo.i.scared.u3 жыл бұрын
That’s ni-ace of you to say
@eight80923 жыл бұрын
As we may never have children of our own, we are gifted with the powers of dad jokes from a young age, and with growing up with them, we perfect the art.
@therewillbefire18333 жыл бұрын
The amount of puns we can make with Ace alone makes it really easy.
@scrablse26133 жыл бұрын
Why thank you!
@sageandroses26823 жыл бұрын
I once helped this kid in middle school, the other boys were picking on him cause they would ask “do you like girls” and he would say no and they would call him gay and make fun of him and he would get pretty sad. So I talked to him and I was like “yo it’s ok to be gay” and he explained that he’s not gay and just really wasn’t interested in people like that so I asked if he was ace and he didn’t know what it was, to cut it short he’s a very happy ace and I am so proud :) Edit:I don’t usually comment but I’m happy I shared this story, honestly Asexual people just don’t get enough love ❤️
@ilincatope35513 жыл бұрын
That's wholesome
@iciajay68913 жыл бұрын
Awww
@theshywolfie66553 жыл бұрын
DJSKLQDJQKH THATS SO SWEEEEEEEET
@rodent_withapen3 жыл бұрын
Ace boys are everything
@cegspace50333 жыл бұрын
AS AN ASEXUAL I LOVE THIS SO MUCH
@lorafox8713 жыл бұрын
I was married for 17 years and I always thought that something was wrong with me because I just didn't really want to have sex or even ever feel arousal. That's not to say that I didn't love my husband, but I just didn't want to have sex. Of course, this was a big issue with my ex and ultimately led to a divorce. For many years I just thought something was wrong with me and that maybe it was a psychological issue, but now I know that I'm asexual and that it's okay. There isn't anything wrong with me. I now understand my sexual orientation and why I always tried to steer away from sexual contact. I feel so much better now that I know I am valid and there are so many other people who are just like me.
@lenapaatz6933 жыл бұрын
Society: your sexual Feelings are what make you human, you can't live without it and you will probably die! Just be normal! Asexuals: 🎶it's tough to be a god~🎶
@lenapaatz6933 жыл бұрын
@The Emo Trans Bimbo of course! I compleatly agree with you, It's Just that a Lot of Asexual people get told that we're a Glitch in the system or something, all because we don't Always want or even feel sexual Attraction. ;-;🤍
@merlinsmycology15413 жыл бұрын
I see no god here... ONLY ME
@heiditaylor17423 жыл бұрын
This is just perfect.
@isabelcast77923 жыл бұрын
Food and sleep is all we need
@_spilled_milk_pro-champion38713 жыл бұрын
@@isabelcast7792 and water
@jibsjensen25873 жыл бұрын
Me is trans and ace: *existing noises* Society: *telling me I don’t exist* Me: *vanishes*
@a-wild-goose3 жыл бұрын
Me, also trans and ace: *dissolving* Hey! Where we goin'?
@kayacea3 жыл бұрын
Me: *a cis panromantic ace* Get back here, I need help eating cake and garlic bread!
@weeblewooblewop3 жыл бұрын
me: agender asexual also me: turns to dust
@paggetio88473 жыл бұрын
Me: crumbling to sand. Also me: frantically shoving garlic bread into my pockets for the afterlife.
@moonperson81323 жыл бұрын
Me, a random ace: get back here i need help with my pet dragon and may cake
@siaskies17043 жыл бұрын
After literal years of seeing tumblr's rampant acephobia, seeing so much openness and positivity regarding asexuality really makes my heart so much lighter. I'm so glad there's still a robust ace community that hasn't been attacked into recloseting themselves, and I might actually join them. I've missed the kind acceptance, along with the cake and dragon jokes.
@stardolphin7833 жыл бұрын
Ive found a lot of safety in discord! If you want you can look up "the Ace cafe" in disboard, its good small and cute
@HiHello-cw9vc3 жыл бұрын
I saw a comment on a super straight vid saying asexuality isn’t valid, I feel better seeing this video now.
@toniodejimi39053 жыл бұрын
I would love if someone analyzed the “Down with the Aces” Tumblr phase and its negative affect it has on asexuals to this DAY.
@TheHiddenDirector3 жыл бұрын
@@toniodejimi3905 I don't know if they improved, but this attitude on Tumblr is the reason I ended up leaving about four years ago. It's hard to believe it was still so recently.
@elieli28933 жыл бұрын
I'll just drop the website AVEN:s (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) name here in case someone wasn't already aware of them :3 There's useful info there, and the forums are full of wholesome, ace people just vibing together :D
@tdsollog Жыл бұрын
I’m a gluten free demisexual. I’m all about that aesthetically pleasing GF cake.
@cme_epicness3 жыл бұрын
*this video just proved to me that I’m asexual - I’ve been trying to realise who I am for the last few years, thank you so much!*
@arcanelore37913 жыл бұрын
Heck yes, welcome fellow ace!
@cme_epicness3 жыл бұрын
@@arcanelore3791 thank you :)
@moyano61973 жыл бұрын
X2
@angelinabrown31423 жыл бұрын
When I was a kid, no one ever said the word asexual. I thought I was broken for decades. I didn't have a word for who I am until I was in my 40's, thanks to social media.
@fictional-girl_053 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the community!
@alexrightnow25313 жыл бұрын
*asexual happiness noises*
@localqueer60643 жыл бұрын
🖤🤍💜🖤
@su-chithecat32533 жыл бұрын
Yes 🖤🤍💜
@amberr36623 жыл бұрын
I am happy when the aces are happy even if I'm not ace myself (I don't think I am anyway I'm still questioning my identity)
@tubalv24153 жыл бұрын
@@amberr3662 Im straight(I think) but I support you guys
@shensiki24353 жыл бұрын
*smiley face*
@becklong51113 жыл бұрын
Two asexuals sitting in a tree... T-A-L-K-I-N-G
@WukongTheMonkeyKing3 жыл бұрын
@ash halliday No... you're stuck down there!
@WukongTheMonkeyKing3 жыл бұрын
@ash hallidayThree asexuals sitting in a tree, T-A-L-K-I-N-G
@WukongTheMonkeyKing3 жыл бұрын
@ash halliday One of you... says "ash". Not suspicious at all, Ash... No fires at all until ASH arrives... hmmm.... Yeah, probably Timmy.
@sunflowersandsarcasm45183 жыл бұрын
h u g g i n g
@WukongTheMonkeyKing3 жыл бұрын
@ash halliday Like... more houses? Because he's already got 3 going...
@Andreas-gh6is Жыл бұрын
I always felt like I can pass comfortably as a dysfunctional heterosexual. Then in my late thirties I realized that "comfortably" doesn't really describe a life long history of depression.
@acatnamedtaz21673 жыл бұрын
When my son told me he is asexual , all he said was I'm asexual just so you know , I gave him a big hug . He is not a big talker of feelings , though we do talk openly about anything. He is logical and to the point I love my boy
@sakurablossom123 жыл бұрын
You sound like a wonderful parent! 💜✨ 🤗 Your son is very lucky to have grown up in an environment so full of love and respect that he felt comfortable enough to open up to you about this
@da_alexjeanes3 жыл бұрын
Be my mom, please
@acatnamedtaz21673 жыл бұрын
@@da_alexjeanes sending you mom hugs
@da_alexjeanes3 жыл бұрын
@@acatnamedtaz2167 Thank you
@urtransgenderrat23323 жыл бұрын
My respect for you is higher than cake
@ja_is_v01d663 жыл бұрын
I’m panromantic asexual. The cake thing basically means that we would rather eat cake than have sex. Hope that helps :D
@ainikki70063 жыл бұрын
I don't understand why anyone would pick sex over cake. Cake is like pizza. Even if it's bad, it's still good. Sex (based on what I've heard?) can easily be pretty bad...
@mailyak4423 жыл бұрын
Also now garlic bread 😂👌🥖
@tannermackinnon57343 жыл бұрын
I would chose cake over sex any day haha
@Charlie-yq8hu3 жыл бұрын
Cake and garlic bread, food of the dragons.
@emilyshafron83 жыл бұрын
Wait... is that what the cake by the ocean song is about...
@buchelaruzit3 жыл бұрын
another explanation that i haven't seen: while asexual people don't experience sexual attraction, we can still recognize "beauty" and can find someone pretty. that is actually called "aesthetic attraction". it's a pretty useful term even for allo (the cis of trans) people since finding things or people aesthetically pleasing is a thing you also experience. that distinction b/w "pretty" and "hot". you just have to conclude that ace people only feel the "pretty" feeling, and not the "hot" one.
@madethistocomment7273 жыл бұрын
The way I explained that to my brother was, "I like to look at people, but I don't want to touch them" (ew) lol
@iheartkiecats3 жыл бұрын
Referring to allo as like cis to trans made me think of the phrase "assigned hetero at birth" and now I can't stop thinking about how true that actually is.
@missnaomi6133 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this explanation. It's very helpful. I'm not ace, but one of my kids is. Y'all have a blessed day!
@Randomd0g3 жыл бұрын
People can be pretty but peanuts and Virginias gross
@LittleMissDoobug3 жыл бұрын
For me, I use 'hot' to be when I'm turned on romantically by someone, but 'sexy' is a weird word that I don't identify with at all
@bookishblossom86702 жыл бұрын
As a young gal quite possibly on the asexual spectrum who is currently way too awkward and socially anxious to even consider going on a date, but who still daydreams about one day having a wife, I really appreciate a lot of the messages in this video! Who knows, maybe one day in my late twenties I'll be comfortable enough to go out, meet someone new, and forge a connection with them. Until then, I'll just work towards my other goal of living comfortably in the woods with a few cats ^^
@acidbunny53 жыл бұрын
Ace people do not come out of the closet They come out of the deck
@scrablse26133 жыл бұрын
HELL YEAH
@asta-is-dead3 жыл бұрын
damn right bestie‼️
@UnknownVir3 жыл бұрын
I love your joke and now I'm just thinking about reaching into a closet full of cards and seeing if it's an ace of not 😹
@yimingsofyiaxuefan46413 жыл бұрын
Spill
@rose_gold_gamer3 жыл бұрын
YES 🖤🤍💜
@Monochrome20043 жыл бұрын
i remember before i realized i was asexual and i used to see those memes like "no sex for x amount of time can you do it?" and i always used to be like "that's not even hard, you dont HAVE to have sex all the time" the day i discovered that all that horniness was actually real and not a joke/meme and it was actually I who simply didnt possess it was an enlightening and frightening day, to say the least
@merry16333 жыл бұрын
Same here. I don't get how people can feel like that. But okay, you do you I guess xD
@rilla50583 жыл бұрын
Yeah exact same, I remember being horrified when I learnt it was actually something people felt
@trypotherapy74783 жыл бұрын
*Wait, no, THAT'S ACTUALLY REAL?!! No it can't be THAT hard for other people not to have sex..... Can it?.... I mean Having sex too much can count as an addiction!... wha-? .... not being able to withstand from sex sounds like an odd medical condition if anything....* *OOF Whatever, I'm so glad I'm not dependent on it. Goodness imagine what a curse that would be!*
@certifiednerd5423 жыл бұрын
That’s the first thing someone said to me when I came out as ace. “So you don’t get horny?” And then I realized. That was an experience
@okuno542 жыл бұрын
I still don't understand allos... I just have to trust that they are reporting their experiences accurately
@semisentiententity54863 жыл бұрын
Person: *talking about dragons* Sadly, they're just legends- Alienes: Human lifeforms, we have used genetic engineering to bring forth our dragons!! Asexuals: *incoherent happiness noises*
@jadlad96663 жыл бұрын
As an aromantic asexual, I am so so so so happy to have found this video and your channel! Thank you so much for sharing these memes, I'm so used to aspecs being shut out of queer spaces and this is such a lovely change to see folks like you being great allies and spreading info and love! Thank you!!🤗