YOUNG MILITARY WIFE Q&A | what it’s like to be a military wife/marine wife

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Allison McPhail

Allison McPhail

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@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Are there any questions you guys still have??? If you’re a more seasoned military wife and I missed an important point please share that too!
@yaraws1735
@yaraws1735 4 жыл бұрын
These are such cool and interesting videos!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you think so! I'm always worried I'm scaring away people who follow me just for the organization videos when I share military related content, so thank you for sticking around :)
@yaraws1735
@yaraws1735 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail not at all! It’s obviously a huge part of your life, and it’s great to get a little insight! My husband was a US Marine for 10 years prior to us meeting and i always wonder what it would have been like to be with him then!
@alyssafrields6171
@alyssafrields6171 4 жыл бұрын
do you prefer shopping on base or off base? what are some good/bad surprises you found while being a military wife?
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
@Yara I'm so glad I can fill you in a little! It would be safe to assume that you're life would a lot more chaotic if you guys were married then!
@estebe-anap.5499
@estebe-anap.5499 3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend is away at Marine Bootcamp. we've been together almost two years but we're friends before that. I want to marry him one day. I kept seeing videos about how dating or marrying a service man is a bad idea, so your videos help soothe me and calm my nerves ! So thank you!!!
@mamalove3945
@mamalove3945 4 жыл бұрын
Seasoned spouse here, a lot of really good tips. My main suggestion is to be flexible and have humor in everything. Military life is sporatic and insanely frustrating. I really appreciated you mentioning having friends outside of the military. Don't be afraid of civilians, I have made so many wonderful friends at all of our duty stations. If you have little kiddos, join your local Y. (obviously not right now, but in the future!) They have childcare and you can have an uninterrupted shower or even just sit in the lobby and read a book. It's two hours of uninterrupted time, I used to work out and knew my children were safe, it was heavenly. Also, don't be afraid to live off base, too. They take all of your BAH and that is money that you can have working for you. If your rent/mortgage is below the BAH limit, you won't pay out of pocket for utilities. This is something my husband and I do, and it has been so fun living in different communities. Just some thoughts, good luck to all of you new spouses, my family and I are encroaching on retirement and could not be more excited. haha
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! What great advice about the Y! Thank you for sharing!
@Lea2008-k8b
@Lea2008-k8b 4 жыл бұрын
I was a military wife for 24 years. It was the most difficult but also the best life. Get involved with your spouses unit, volunteer if you can. And remember your life is what you both will make it. I miss the life everyday.
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the advice Lea!
@HappilyEverHearrell
@HappilyEverHearrell 4 жыл бұрын
Being flexible is the biggest thing I tell everyone!! I used to be so scheduled and stress if things didn’t go how they should, and since my husband joined the military I have learned to be much more flexible, but I think that’s positive!!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
I agree! Learning to let go of control was the first thing I learned because I'll never be in control of his schedule!
@ksme1776
@ksme1776 3 жыл бұрын
"As a military wife you are still a civilian, not your spouse's rank" this is the best way I've heard anyone put it! My boyfriend of 3 years just went to Marine basic, so I've been finding videos, and yours are the best I've seen so far!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Kim!
@sydnee1320
@sydnee1320 7 ай бұрын
Watching this 3 years later and this has been the BEST advice I’ve heard since being a military wife. So real and to the point. I appreciate the tough love you share in this.❤️
@kalliligon
@kalliligon 4 жыл бұрын
As a new military spouse, I loove these kinds of videos!!💓💓 great advice!!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
So glad you like these videos! Maybe I'll do more in the future!
@chicky2759
@chicky2759 Жыл бұрын
So much of this lines up with my life plans more than i thought- omg lol, My boyfriend is currently in boot camp at Parris island and idk you never know what could happen im just get getting prepared
@nancyphillips7558
@nancyphillips7558 4 жыл бұрын
You aced these questions and had some really good advice. I was raised in the military, dad was Army career 32 years, then I was an Army wife. Being raised in the Army I think made me more of the independent type of wife when I grew up. Seeing how mom handled dad being away helped me know it's ok they are away, entertain yourself and keep busy and the time will go by faster than if one sulks all day. So, with my experience you explained it like it is, gave excellent advice which is totally needed for "new wives," and yes, knowing Jesus helps so much, you definitely have your act together! Kudos to you! I enjoy watching you and it brings back memories for me of good times. I am 68 now so it's nice tune in to your channel and take a trip down memory lane.
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Nancy! Thank you so much for your kindness. I’m so glad I was able to take you down memory lane 😊
@synnoveafairbanks3738
@synnoveafairbanks3738 4 жыл бұрын
My husband is at basic right now for the Army and all your videos make this time so much easier, thank you so much.
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad I can keep you company during this time! I hope time flies for the both of you!!
@kelseyrae792
@kelseyrae792 4 жыл бұрын
My husband is also in basic right now at fort benning! I started watching military wives early this year and has made the difference I feel 😄
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad Kelsey! Who are some of your favorites to watch?? I'm always looking for more people to follow :)
@tatiandjossy
@tatiandjossy 2 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail where are you guys stationed now?
@tatiandjossy
@tatiandjossy 2 жыл бұрын
@@kelseyrae792 where are you stationed now?
@Krystaleeacruz
@Krystaleeacruz 4 жыл бұрын
Im a new military wife and my husband will be leaving for basic training soon and I didn’t know what to expect, watching your videos definitely help me understand what to look forward to. Also I just binge watched your videos for the past two days lol super entertaining!!!!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you! I hope that time flies for you and your husband during this time!!
@alyssafrields6171
@alyssafrields6171 4 жыл бұрын
i absolutely love the way you explained having to be your own person while they’re are apart. the way you handle your sadness, very healthy. thanks for all the advice ❤️
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching! I'm so glad you really liked some of my answers! I was worried I might offend some people 😅
@alyssafrields6171
@alyssafrields6171 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail not at all! and you shouldn’t worry about that too much. there will always be someone who doesn’t agree but i think you’re doing a hell of a lot more help then harm. and i love it :) thank you!! hope you have a great friday!! :)
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
@@alyssafrields6171 Day = made Thank you Alyssa, your kindness is going such a long way for me today :)
@alyssafrields6171
@alyssafrields6171 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail aw yay :) that makes my day!
@anaimme4811
@anaimme4811 4 жыл бұрын
I love when you talk about military wife stuff, super relatable 🥰 but I do think some things are different because your husband is an officer vs. an enlisted Marine
@rebelprep
@rebelprep 4 жыл бұрын
I love this video.. literally the most accurate and candid information. Super important
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Glad you think so!
@irianacarranza8947
@irianacarranza8947 3 жыл бұрын
I love how much information you share!! thank you so much
@moji4325
@moji4325 2 жыл бұрын
I love this video. So real and raw. Especially about the fact that spouses are civilians lol Thanks
@HappilyEverHearrell
@HappilyEverHearrell 4 жыл бұрын
I totally agree to enjoy the moments you are together. Conner has been on 2 deployments for 6 months and we already know he’ll be leaving again, so it’s been tough, but we are thriving here in California with as much time we have had together and as a family recently!❤️
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
2 deployments under your belt already?!?! You're a rockstar! I hope Disneyland opens up soon and can be a good distraction for you then!
@HappilyEverHearrell
@HappilyEverHearrell 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail yeah his last job was intense🤣but yes I’m hoping they’re open before he leaves again so he can go and then I’ll be there all the time with Ryder when he’s gone!
@hutthuttlife731
@hutthuttlife731 4 жыл бұрын
I’m a veteran and was an army spouse for a little while, and it’s not the easiest life. I don’t miss the schedule struggles at all, but I’m glad you’re thriving in this life! ❤️❤️❤️ if you have questions I can always try to help (what I can share with the differences of our branches)
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I'll be sure to reach out to you with any questions I have!
@emilypilkington5811
@emilypilkington5811 4 жыл бұрын
Loved this video! Just found out that my fiance is going to be staying in Quantico for his next MOS, so I'll be moving there to join him at the end of March! We met when he was stationed at Camp Pendleton (my hometown is San Diego). Wish you were still in Virginia so we could be friends!!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Emily! So happy you enjoyed it! Ahhhh You'll love that area in the Spring! Make sure to check out all the parks there! That area has some great hikes. Hahaha you missed me by only a couple months!
@Danceologyforlife
@Danceologyforlife 4 жыл бұрын
Such good advice!! Thank you for making this video!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Cassie! I’m glad you liked it!
@mollymccann5043
@mollymccann5043 4 жыл бұрын
The animals make it better. My husband is not military, but he has a crazy schedule, and I'm a stay-at-home wife. Our dog is currently sitting at my feet while I work on craft projects, and the cats are snoozing in the other room. I don't know if you're comfortable doing this, but I am so curious about the commissary. I love watching grocery shopping in other places and wonder if the commissary is more like a grocery store, or a big-box store with everything, or like a military surplus store. If you ever want to do a shop with me at the commissary, I think that'd be fascinating, but I also understand if that's not ok to share! :-)
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad we have our dog now! It's going to make the time apart so much easier! Good point! Also I absolutely hate shopping at the commissary, so I probably won't film anything there, but ours is just like your typical grocery store!
@judithbutler9695
@judithbutler9695 3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely informative! Best advice, make friends outside the military! Keep some privacy. If you are not flexible and independent think long and hard about this life. This life can be lonely. Learn to budget, you might dream of owning your own home someday.
@HappilyEverHearrell
@HappilyEverHearrell 4 жыл бұрын
You’re not your husbands rank, you didn’t go through training👏🏼yes!!!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Retweet!!
@hutthuttlife731
@hutthuttlife731 4 жыл бұрын
God yes! This drives me crazy!!!
@michaelamay7929
@michaelamay7929 4 жыл бұрын
omg.. I LOVE this comment 😂
@yolanisalguero7861
@yolanisalguero7861 Жыл бұрын
How did you turn youtube into a career? I’m about to be a military wife and content creating has been my dream!
@nicoleboutin7566
@nicoleboutin7566 4 жыл бұрын
Love your vlogs and all your other videos! My husband says I should vlog since I’m watching vlogs all the time and I’m like I wouldn’t even know where to start!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Do it! Look up Cathrin Manning - she has a great channel about starting and running a YT channel yourself!
@nicoleboutin7566
@nicoleboutin7566 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail I really should I have nothing else to really do right now since my job just closed down again thanks to the pandemic! I’ll definitely check out her video
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
@@nicoleboutin7566 Good Luck!!!
@niemasaunders7669
@niemasaunders7669 4 жыл бұрын
I love your answers to the questions. My fiance is in Afghanistan and I had to realize that I am a reflection on him. So I had to change as far as not saying too much to protect him. It's hard because since he's away I have too be strong for him. If that makes sense. But, watching your blogs do help me a lot.
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
You are so strong for going through all of this time apart! I'm proud of you!
@niemasaunders7669
@niemasaunders7669 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail Thank you so much❤
@hutthuttlife731
@hutthuttlife731 4 жыл бұрын
Deployments are definitely hard! Hugs to you!
@niemasaunders7669
@niemasaunders7669 4 жыл бұрын
@@hutthuttlife731 They are so hard. Then you can't bring your emotions to the person that's deployed. That's one thing that I had to go to counseling for to talk to this person so I can deal. I just didn't want to put my problems on him and he had to worry about his safety and everyone else. So when he ask me how I'm doing its always okay or good.
@hutthuttlife731
@hutthuttlife731 4 жыл бұрын
@@niemasaunders7669 it’s okay to let him know you’re struggling sometimes. I me@n, it’s always good to have someone to talk to outside of the situation, and I wouldn’t constantly talk about how hard it is for you to him, but you shouldn’t have to hide it all the time either.
@michaelamay7929
@michaelamay7929 4 жыл бұрын
Allison.. I finally got my couch!! 😅 Mine is from Ashley Furniture and so far- I really like it. Make sure to get one that comes apart into pieces so you can rearrange it :) so excited now!
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Yay for finally getting couches!! I love the idea of rearranging it! I'll look into that for sure!!!
@larpart7168
@larpart7168 17 күн бұрын
With having to pick up and move at any moment. What do you do about your house plants?
@seamossbygiovanna5095
@seamossbygiovanna5095 3 жыл бұрын
How could anyone dislike this video ??
@jolie3548
@jolie3548 3 жыл бұрын
I Just Love How you Have Explain the Life of a Military wife In telling others how to Act Respectfully This is very important !!! 1st of all being a Christian and Putting God 1st Is the number One key Thank you for Sharing this story of yours I believe that it will Show others How to maintain and Deal with Military life... My father was in the Navy and My Fiance is a Navy Vet But the Funny thing About that is A lot of your Lifestyle Still Reflects from the Military lol 🤣 In a Very good way... God's Blessings BTW New Subbie Here I just found your Channel Just started watching your pantry Do Over
@TheRealBina
@TheRealBina 5 ай бұрын
Fact!! God first!
@richylherisson1273
@richylherisson1273 3 жыл бұрын
How long did it take for your on base housing to take effect
@teresa3705
@teresa3705 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your answers!👏👍😍😘🌹
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Of course! You're welcome 😊
@teresa3705
@teresa3705 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail 😘💖🌹
@palomarodriguez7431
@palomarodriguez7431 3 жыл бұрын
I love the fact you touched on spouses throwing their husband rank around. It’s annoying. Yes, being independent is highly recommended
@maddiegromm4009
@maddiegromm4009 3 жыл бұрын
im on camp pendleton too!
@larpart7168
@larpart7168 17 күн бұрын
You mentioned having 2 pets max. How do they feel about fish tanks?
@mirandatanner
@mirandatanner 4 жыл бұрын
Hi! My boyfriend is at boot camp and about to graduate in December! I was wondering what Christians MOS is?
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Christian’s MOS is low altitude air defense
@Xlilmunchkinx
@Xlilmunchkinx Ай бұрын
How does it work being married going into becoming a military police officer?
@gisellegamez2977
@gisellegamez2977 3 жыл бұрын
What about a career as a teacher do you think I would be able to make that work with moving to different bases and states ???
@yestrech
@yestrech Жыл бұрын
My boyfriend will be on board for 4 months and no communication with me at all. How will I survive this?? Pls help
@niceeslice3415
@niceeslice3415 12 күн бұрын
so...i have epilepsy and cant drive...by what you are telling me im screwd...
@rebeccabushmaker4907
@rebeccabushmaker4907 4 жыл бұрын
My husband is in boot camp in San Diego. Should be graduating in Jan. He asked me what bases to put down that we would like and I have no clue. What are your favorite or do you think would be good
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
That's hard for me to say! It really depends on you two. You can google a list of Marine Corps bases and decide based on that. If you want to know what we chose, Camp Pendleton in San Diego was our second choice and Hawaii was our first choice :)
@lilyhunt7795
@lilyhunt7795 2 жыл бұрын
How did you find out all this stuff about being a military wife?
@samserrata1366
@samserrata1366 3 жыл бұрын
How long has your husband been in the military ?
@dominiquedixon
@dominiquedixon 4 жыл бұрын
Your fiddle is so cute 🥺😍
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! He's my first, so I'm doing my best to not kill him!
@dominiquedixon
@dominiquedixon 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail you’re welcome. I got my first one a few months ago. He got root rot twice but I figure out a good watering schedule that works for him and he’s doing well. They seem to be really forgiving plants. Or at least give you signs with enough time to correct the issue.
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
@@dominiquedixon Good to hear! I bought this guy maybe 2-3 weeks ago and I'm not sure if it's the weather or what, but he still hasn't needed to be watered... fingers crossed I'm doing the right thing by holding off
@lizsightler9209
@lizsightler9209 2 жыл бұрын
Did you change your name? :/ have to?
@lauren9004
@lauren9004 3 жыл бұрын
I have nothing to do with the military - I’m not in it, I’m not a mil spouse, I’m not a military brat - nothing. However the MILLISECOND that you said “cringed tiktok” I though of “he’s a marine”!!!!!!!😂
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 3 жыл бұрын
Lololol that’s exactly what I was referring to 😂 so glad you got it!
@alexas34
@alexas34 4 жыл бұрын
Did you guys get married before him becoming a marine? If so, how did y’all do it? My bf is a marine and im thinking we’ll prob have to do a proxy marriage and then go from there in order to be living together
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
We got married while he was going through training. Our wedding was before he was sent to another training.
@alexas34
@alexas34 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail so did you do a proxy marriage?
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
@@alexas34 I'm not sure what a proxy marriage is. We had a wedding where someone from Christian's church married us in front of our friends and family.
@alexas34
@alexas34 4 жыл бұрын
@@AllisonMcPhail oh I guess I’m confused because you said y’all got married while he was at training so I didn’t know how y’all could be together for that haha. A proxy is where one person stands in for the other and marries you both. I guess it’s all done online and then the certificate is sent to both people
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
@@alexas34 Ohh gotcha. He was in between trainings. So he had gone to OCS over the summer and then our wedding was about a week or 2 before he started at tbs.
@dominiquedixon
@dominiquedixon 4 жыл бұрын
Ha! Yes!!!!! You are NOT your husband’s rank 😂😂😂
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
BIGGEST take away from this video!
@delilahsilva2965
@delilahsilva2965 4 жыл бұрын
Ha cringy video 🤣 I’m also a Marine Wife on Camp Pendleton. Call United Concordia for your dental if you didn’t know.
@AllisonMcPhail
@AllisonMcPhail 4 жыл бұрын
IFYKYK... And I definitely need to pull it together with Concordia - just need to find the motivation to call them 🤣
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