All Things Gay With EMILY! - S2 Ep2

[@mikennadebruin6628]

When Emily was talking about why it took so long to realize she was gay, all I can think about is how internalized homophobia or heteronormativity transcends beyond socialization within your family.

[@TiffanySL1989]

Holy shit the story of Rachel breaking up with her ex is insane I'm sure the entire story is even crazier but even the little bit she told I was so shocked. Rachel I'm so sorry you had to go through that. So happy you're so much happier now.

[@izzybaumgartner]

two podcasts with Emily this week yay!! I know we all loveeeee and support Emily so much, we love you🥰🥰

[@smilingkelly5251]

The Teaaaaaaa about Rachel’s ex in this ep! I love it. I mean, I hate it all… but I love to know. Goodness, I’m nosy. I’ve never asked for it, that would be rude.. but I am glad you told the story!!!

[@ananyarayaprol]

I'm the same way, i won't do anything with the info but i just love to know

[@RP741930]

Rachel, when you started around 17:00 talking about people putting the label on you and you consciously rejecting it because you weren’t ready like holy shit I started to tear up because me too. I have only come out to a select few people because I’m afraid of peoples reactions that they’ve “known all along” or that I fit some sort of stereotype. Thank you for this episode.

[@lexbray4801]

I'm so sorry that Rachel had to go through this, but I CANNOT believe he had the audacity to ask HER to buy him a bed so they can sleep in separate rooms😂 I laughed out loud at that part omg

[@mondler107]

Rachel: "that's how I broke up with him" Me: 😮 Rachel: "have I told this story...?" On the internet?" Me: "no!!!" 🤣

[@setshegofortunemphaka4329]

😂😂😂😂

[@tealsteak]

42:45 💗

[@mondler107]

@@setshegofortunemphaka4329 🤣🤣

[@mondler107]

@@tealsteak Thank you!! 💖

[@ElizabethTheUnicorn829]

Same. I am like spill the tea!!!!

[@oliviahaus3620]

no dude i’ve grown up with my entire family always telling me im gay, or like “joking” that i am. i mean i’ve now just recently confirmed but damn, rachel spittin facts. them telling me all of this made me fight it so much just in spite of them. i’m still not out to them because i know their reaction is gonna be so toxic. so i just live like they do know cause they probably do. also side note, i’m literally 17 realizing i’m gay, that means they were doing that to me from such a young age and it suckeddd. anyways thanks for this podcast, def helps.

[@sammayyy265]

Podcasts with this subject matter just make me and my experience feel so validated. Thank you for sharing your story

[@leahz3741]

I absolutely LOVE what Emily is bringing to the podcast.

[@tessayo]

“Just keep going until everyone is gay” best quote

[@loriphillips8263]

Big fan of Rachel & her whole family! Loved this episode! My daughter is Gay. I have never cared about if she liked women or men n she has always known that, so her coming out was never really a thing, she just knew i loved her for her... Hearing your's & other's stories, does give introspect in what others go threw and how they deal with things. My daughter has grandparents that don't agree with her lifestyle and it is so sad that people let a person's choice, of who they love, get in the way of loving and accepting them.

[@cleosworld9096]

Been waiting forever for rachel to be ready to talk about the breakup. I'm so proud of her. Love it so much. He was an idiot

[@ashleymcallister9923]

Omg!! I would love to see you maybe do a Rachel uncensored with Emily, girlfriend, and joy! That would be an awesome podcast! These videos are amazing I always look forward to these!

[@onlyproblemmm]

AGREED

[@carolperry7695]

the internet would break

[@bekahwelch8004]

This is beautiful, I loved Emily from the 1st episode of Rachel Uncensored and I'm so happy she's doing ATI with you now

[@loriluyckx8333]

One of my favorite episodes… love to see the joy and genuine love you can experience so freely! My wife and I came out 22 years ago (things were different then!) We have a set of twins and the greatest group of friends. It makes my heart happy to see you living your best lives! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@maku8]

wow i am so unbelievably happy that Rachel was able to get out of that situation with her ex. She deserves SO MUCH BETTER than that and it makes me sad she put up with it for so long. Infinitely grateful to girlfriend for being an amazing partner and one she deserves.

[@Leafylex]

I specifically remember when I was younger, middle school era, my family would joke around and call me a lesbian and say things like "oooo your girlfriend is coming over?" but it was truly a friend and I was always so confused why I was the only one they would make gay remarks too when in my mind I liked boys. It kind of made me think a bit like you guys said "maybe these ideas of how cool a girl is was an actual crush" and bamn one day I was like woow maybe they're on to something and they see it when I havent realized it for myself. It was a lot of trying to find myself and confusion but now 24 y/o I'm bisexual and I dont necessarily come out and announce, just living my life as me.

[@Hannahhhconda]

Rachel you can definitely laugh during sexual encounters!

[@myboybieberrox]

Omg 2 Emily podcast in 1 week?! How lucky are we!! And being super gay I know I'm about to love this episode!

[@cami.nadamas]

both of you are so funny i can’t stop laughing 😭

[@karriqueen]

I don’t know how long i have been watching you, probably 5+ years. I had a bad feeling about your ex, and i felt like you where not happy with him. But then i thought, i should’nt assume. I don’t know their relashionship. It just felt like he where not supportive of you at all. But seeing you then and now it is completly clear that you where not happy with him. You smile and laugh all the time now. I am so happy for you!

[@giuliacacciatore4765]

you are both so comforting and this was a PHENOMENAL episode. so much love for you both thank you

[@TTPDforevertv]

Rachel I honestly I am so happy for your and girlfriend. I’m glad that other relationship is over! I’m so glad your happy and I can’t wait for your future!!!

[@m4rth444]

i was feeling very sad before watching this and barely 5 minutes in, i was laughing so much

[@AudreyII-]

“I’m gay. Get out.” 🔥🔥🔥

[@lissahammond2249]

Emily is killing this! I love her!!! (And of course Rachel!)

[@lisahaughn3522]

That “oh hell yeah” made me think of and miss Jenna Marbles so much!! Glad you are both so happy and supported by your family, friends and the internet! Keep being the amazing women you are! ❤️

[@mondler107]

I love how many uploads we get now! Also excited to see Emily again! Pumped to listen!! 🏳️‍🌈🥰

[@brianaburris21]

I really understand Rachel. Its really hard to let go and ACTUALLY end a relationship sometimes. It happens in a lot of relationships, people just stay together even when they’re not in love anymore. Some people just get used to the companionship, especially when they’re living together. It’s hard for people to be alone so they stay with their partners way longer than they should. I know Rachels ex was very manipulative so they had way more issues, but it’s still just hard to let go sometimes. Speaking from my own experience similar to Rachel’s 😅 (but not as bad or as long lol).

[@lunaviola4349]

I am sooooo sick and have no voice and this made my day so much better I love the story about matt . I can't believe he say what to you when you came and told him you where gay and you were crying he is so stupid but I am happy you are in a healthy relationship . Love you

[@emiliemanes4232]

I'm 30 and just realized I'm Pansexual. And I haven't even "come out", I just talk about men (in any form) and women (in any form) the same way. Like, "oh they're hot" or "I have a crush a them". Equal opportunity lol I don't think my family has gotten it. It hasn't clicked, but maybe they suspect. But if I came over with a girl, they wouldn't know what to think. And I'm a bit worried about it. But we'll see. Fun fact: I posted a picture on Instagram with these Twizzlers that were blue, yellow, and pink, Pan Pride flag colors. And I captioned it "Even my candy is Pansexual". Who knows if they understood lol

[@minidev78]

Free mom hug to who ever needs one. Gay, straight, bi, black, white, Hispanic, etc… you are accepted, and I love you.

[@mondler107]

*hug!!* 🥺❤

[@juliedrysdale9592]

I think this is my favourite podcast to date.

[@MaximusPrime177]

As a trans guy I think we are able to understand girl issues but we are the only guys who can

[@justicethedoggo3648]

But u are not a guy lol

[@MaximusPrime177]

@@justicethedoggo3648 yes I am lol

[@justicethedoggo3648]

@@MaximusPrime177 oh common stop it , female .

[@MaximusPrime177]

@@justicethedoggo3648 lol

[@MicLilly]

The ending on the Trevor Project is INCREDIBLE. makes me respect you guys so much more even tho it’s already through the roof. Love you guys sooo much

[@HassanRaashid]

Literally

[@hannahdiggle5362]

I love the way you guys approached these questions

[@elizabethbrann1029]

I freaking love you guys!! I am not part of the LGBTQ+ community personally, but I have several friends and family who are! Personally being in an abusive relationship in more than just verbally and mentally, I am so sorry that such a wonderful human being like you, Rachel, had to go through that for so long!! My heart breaks for anyone who has to go through anything like this in a relationship, whether it be romantic or not! I am so happy that both you guys are happy and living it up now! P.S.- I love that you guys brought in a little bit of Jenna Marbles at the end! It made my day, and I miss her on the internet SO MUCH! ❤❤

[@simraaaaaaaa]

Hopefully Emily can eat a orange after this😂

[@giuliacacciatore4765]

HAHAHAHAHA YES

[@playwithmeinsecondlife6129]

My neighbors are two gay men and they have frequent loud arguments to the point that the cops have shown up. The guy on the lease wants the other guy to leave but he won't because he doesn't have a job. I haven't seen the first guy go out to work either. Being a man doesn't make someone an asshole and being gay doesn't make someone loving. Being a woman doesn't make someone loving either. My ex kept telling me for a year how bad I was (I wasn't, just depressed over her violence and abuse) until finally telling me she "wanted two men". I moved across town, got my head on straight and in the meantime she came across town to my room once a week and talked to me of all the men she had been with that week. I calmly told her she needed to settle on one guy. She had 3 kids in 6 years while we were still married but separated. Finally it ended. She lost custody of all five of her kids including my two, all went to foster care. So there are bad men as well as bad women, bad straights as well as gay. And life is complicated. You are a very loving person and I wish you all the best.

[@spagetd1526]

the fact that this comes up in my recommended days after i confirm my bisexuality

[@devynlanna8287]

Why is nobody talking about Emily’s in Lizzo we trust sign that is literally every thing!

[@rowan2079]

My parents always told us growing up it doesn't matter who we're with. As long as we're happy and they are good to us is all that matters. So I never had to come out to anyone, I would just mention girls and they were all cool about it and excited for me to find my person one day

[@TTPDforevertv]

I LOVE YOUR PODCASTS, thanks! Love you ❤️ 🏳️‍🌈

[@cstump2005]

I would 1000% watch an Emily youtube channel

[@viibinkyla3720]

rachel is the friend literally everyone needs.

[@SarahELynchDesigns]

Have Colleen write a theme song... Something with bleeped out parts 😂 🎼🎶🎵Welllllcccoooome to Raaaayyyychel Uncensored!🎵🎶

[@MicLilly]

I agree w the line of crush and the other boundaries too. The best friend thing

[@fhay1]

Great episode!! I love hearing different topics that can be interesting to dive into

[@carolperry7695]

love the way Emily says yes Rachels ex must have taken notes from colleen ex...hold my beer

[@carolperry7695]

@@TheSkinnyZ do you know the story of j first proposal and their split? m was living with whentlys BF j is known for trying to enlist people into his mindset m moved in with r r worked with colleen m exposure to Ballinger's and how they are willing to peacemake m is a parasite j is blood kin teaching is the right way to live both took advantage of the girls I would maim for

[@alyssar7477]

@@carolperry7695 hold up can u explain this tea more

[@carolperry7695]

@@alyssar7477 both gals are better off now its best not to expand

[@alyssar7477]

@@carolperry7695 u right I was curious cuz half that stuff kinda confused me lol

[@carolperry7695]

@@alyssar7477 if you are dating someone who is shocked at what your doing find someone who wont

[@laurenblouch5344]

When rachel was talking about her story with Matt and how they broke up, I was physically shaking that's how mad I was for her! That's never okay! I'm so glad she is out of that relationship

[@elliebell1043]

ALL THINGS GAY! LETS GO!!!

[@kaileymarshall]

Does the sign behind Emily say “in leggo we trust” ? Lol

[@nickv5429]

it says lizzo lol

[@peachxtaehyung]

Rachel coffee is acidic!! Don't brush your teeth after coffee! You're going to wear down your enamel

[@tealsteak]

yeah I never knew that it’s bad to brush teeth right after eating. my enamel is gone baby goneeee💩

[@annikaw3506]

I was so confused! I was like I already watched ATI and it didn’t have this title 😂 Now I get it! Excited to watch!

[@brittanyfarias5211]

I jus wanna say no one can replace how good your mom was on your podcast👌💕lol she was #1 wit the world news and special days😍

[@tkaerich]

Best podcast yet!!! Loved every minute!!

[@londonpalmer3442]

It takes so long to get rid of toxic people like that it’s so horrible that you had to deal with that for so long

[@londonpalmer3442]

Like I want to be the best friend I would March up in there kick his ass out but like I get being in the toxic place it’s hard

[@rockandrollfantasy86]

I had a totally different experience, my click moment happened at 11 and I denied so hard for so long, like 15 years. I avoided everything even tiniest bit gay, like purple and thumb rings. So it was always a fear and obsession that I would betray myself and leak out some gay. Thank you for sharing so much of your experiences, it's nice to hear other people's journeys, especially those which differ from mine. I was nodding my head through so much of it though, like those universal baby gay experiences. The "Yeah okay, I see the boy, whatever. What about the girl though?" thoughts.

[@thatonehatgirl]

Your ex (rachel) reminds me of my brother! He totally slept in the basement on the futon. They would get back together and then they broke up and he stayed in the house because "they were family." When I talked to him about the relationship and how she had taken care of everything, he straight up said it was their deal of the relationship. I used to adore my brother growing up but his ex helped me see from an outside perspective how horrible he had been and was. He seemed to get his "life together" after the breakup, wasn't depressed and went back to school. But at christmas he was still the same narcissist. Spending money on girls from tindr was more important than buying me a christmas gift. Nope, done. I am so much happier!

[@raejay3308]

Love love love Emily and Rachel pod casting.

[@hollymarie113]

Rewatching 2 years later. Having a horrible memory is sometimes a good thing 😅

[@devinnedianne]

Emily’s message at the end ❤️❤️❤️

[@kelsiantal]

It's the "No es gay. Kiss girl, yes" for me. Make it merch please.

[@devinnedianne]

MY FAVORITE PODCAST

[@Ferncovered]

the GIRLFRIEND THING THOUGH! I'm with an AFAB partner who took to calling me "wife" to others long before we were commited for that reason. He used masc pronouns, but we're both shorter people, so before his T really helped him a lot of people would hit on him like that guy did rachel assuming he was single @_@ it was the *worst* (that was years ago now, we don't deal with it any longer but dang that hit me)

[@Sab.86]

This was amazing 💜 very informative ❤️

[@htrainor1234]

Would love an ep with Kelly!

[@JoseBraghiroli]

And also, that guy should be forever grateful Rachel kept him mostly anonymous all those years. Can you imagine the amount of hate we would be dumping on all his socials, if we had them....?

[@HassanRaashid]

I love this episode!! Rachel I'm really sorry that happened to you, that's so awful.

[@evelyne-h9090]

I know this upload is old and I'm super late to the party here. But I wanted to talk about the whole "coming out all the time" thing as a gen z queer person, recognizing that I live somewhere that's generally accepting. I feel like Ive never actually fully "come out to someone" and instead I've just been able to say, "I met this girl" and it's treated as normal just as if I had said it was a guy, I feel like we're definitely moving in a more accepting and open minded direction! I don't know if I explained this very well, but I thought it might be interesting!

[@sitagoldstein8802]

as a pan person, this made the lesbian part of me feel rly validated and supportive and included

[@mrc2205]

Hi guys. It took me so long to know I was gay. I didn’t want to be gay, and I didn’t know anyone who was gay. I look quite masculine and very athletic looking. And people often think I’m a guy. But still I got into a long relationship with a man and had 3 children. I wanted to be normal or what I thought of as normal. I am around 50 years old and it just wasn’t the popular thing to be. Then one day I met a woman who just did it for me. I was confused and just thought it was her. But once I crossed that line I never wanted to go back. Finally I worked out why I was different.

[@jessyoung5265]

Why is nobody talking about the Trevor Project thing at the end?!?! Omg that was such an important message! Love you Emily 🏳️‍🌈❤️🏳️‍⚧️

[@YML8]

Love the podcast ❤

[@klaraz.9861]

47:51 had me😂😂😂

[@staceyerasmus7130]

I absolutely love you two. I am bi. But currently in a beautiful relationship with an amazing man. And even in a Hetro relationship I am struggling to have kids so I feel it's not just a same sex gender situation.

[@lexisdodson6722]

Emily and Rachel are very lucky that their families are very excepting of them. It’s hard for those, like myself, that don’t have excepting families. When I came out at 16 my parents threw me out of the house and told me to get lost

[@AshleyJade18]

The very first time that i saw Rachel on the internet was 7 (?) years ago when Colleen and Rachel were in one of Zoe Sugg's Vlogs (Colleen and Rachel were at Zoe's apartment in Brighton) AND my 'gayder' was going off when i first saw Rachel on my screen but after going to Colleen and Rachels (and Miranda's 😂) channels, i saw that she had a boyfriend and thought 'Ok, my gayder failed' ... But the more i watched her channels the more i realised that she just wasn't aware of it herself yet (totally fine) and of course kept my thoughts to myself. But seeing her soooooo happy now makes my heart sooo happy. 💖

[@MicLilly]

I’m 22, I came out at 14. My mom drug it out of me in the nicest way. I never had the thing of never knowing I was gay. I came gay out the gate😂😂

[@tashastakeonlife4733]

OMG crazy! He asked for a bed?!

[@tashastakeonlife4733]

More details, Rachel!

[@elizabethsepe7360]

The sperm bank stuff must vary depending on where you go. We had to use a sperm donor because my husband is a trans man and a bunch of info was free, and a 25 page medical profile was like $5. The sperm itself was a couple hundred and I was able to have an unmedicated IUI for $250. Still not as nice as free, but nowhere near the numbers you have seen!

[@candaceabernathy7568]

Rachel I feel so sorry that you had to deal with this toxic thing! Did you ever tell Colleen/ your family about it.. how you broke up with the guy -- but he didn't leave?

[@arinavarrato14]

How did you come out to Chris and Jessica?

[@rachellombardi4735]

I love you too so much and also Emily it deserves that game frame

[@alexandralaird5949]

I didn’t know that Emily was gay too love that!

[@MicLilly]

As a lesbian.. I’m EXTRA queer for this

[@gypsyfyre411]

Now we know why he was never in the videos lmfao. Rachel also I'm so sorry he put you through this hell. I felt something of about him on the very few occasions we caught a glimpse. But he definitely stayed for the benefit of himself. He's a piece of shit.

[@jenloves4260]

So that you know who is speaking, I’m a middle aged cisgender heterosexual sexual woman. I have multiple kids and several of them identify in the LBGTQ community. Some are young adults but my younger kids are too little to really know yet. A few observations, I think that regardless of a person’s sexuality, when you are with the right person, it’s right. I don’t think a sexual relationship with a woman is going to be better for me because I’m not gay. I find understanding and compassion and all those things within my heterosexual relationship. At the same time, no matter how hard a person tries…you are not going enjoy being with someone that isn’t right. As the parent of kids who are gay/bi/trans/gender fluid….I have realized that I don’t like the fact that *I* assume a person is the gender they appear to me and they are heterosexual unless I’m told otherwise. I would so much rather assume that I don’t know the gender or sexuality of anyone until I’m told. AND, it’s not my business to be told a very big portion of the time because my interactions should not need that information for it to be a good interaction. At the same time when I do assume to know my interaction *could* be negative from my assumptions without knowing. It’s something that I am choosing to really work on because I think that’s the right thing to do. I hope that the culture around us moves that way over time. Finally, I do wonder if something we (all of us) are a little too black and white. Black and white with gender and sexuality. We know that chromosomes don’t determine gender or sexuality. Or at least not the ones science knows the most about. I wonder if we tend to even box our own selves into these descriptions of ourselves instead of maybe not needing to be so black and white. Just musings/thoughts. I’m glad society is getting better with sexuality. I wish it was with gender. I know that I’m very privileged as a cisgender heterosexual woman. And as a mom, that’s hard because I hurt for my kids and the bigotry that they sometimes face, the shame they have felt, etc.

[@suomynonaanonymous]

This made me wonder if I am gay. YES to the normal best friend thing. It was normal for girls to sleep together and cuddle/hold hands/etc for people in middle/high school.

[@StephanyTrujilloA]

Down side of being gay…the fact that I can’t marry a woman and have the same rights in getting her citizenship like a straight couple.

[@heatherbillpotter1266]

I am so glad to see talkon

[@JoseBraghiroli]

ExBoyfriend is disgusting. What an absolutely awful being. I am si happy Rachel found the strength to get rid of him. Shes my hero.

[@Itsadibmirza]

Rachel! What tiktok was it lol I’m so curious to see the tiktok that made you realize you’re gay

[@planetsarah5317]

all things gay? yes please

[@Kevin5262]

Every time Rachel talks about how much coffee she drinks I’m just how is she ever tired?

[@rowanneramsay4397]

Do the no coming out rule where they know they can be like I’m dating this person and you won’t make a big deal or anything because you wil love them no matter what

[@deaky-jz5bp]

The way I came out to my best friend which is now my girlfriend was amazing, we were roommates and I went to her room and said hey I'm gay I like you and I'm gonna go take a shit, then I came back she said I like you too we made out and here we are

[@davidstratton696]

And they were roommates.

[@TTPDforevertv]

Tell me why this hole podcast i was drawing in the stripes on her frame in my head...

[@delaneykeller1389]

I want to know if it's just a gay thing to remember every conversation/debate/argument you've every had about gay people with every one. I feel like it's not completely ordinary for people to remember every interaction like that. Like I remember in 3rd grade my state was voting to legalize gay marriage and I said that I wanted it to pass and everyone at my lunch table just looked at me and someone said "you want boys to marry boys and girls to marry girls??" And I was like "uhh... If they want to?" And it was kind of a big deal. In middle school a bunch of the kids tried to get me kicked out because I was holding hands with another girl (just galls being pall's ✌🏻)