how to stop buying clothes you dont wear

[@MPOTX]

I always appreciate your deep thoughts on creativity and consumption. You always give me ways to see my closet differently! Thank you. 😊

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

This is such a compliment thank you ❤

[@MPOTX]

@@AlyssaBeltempo it is well deserved. Keep up the great work!

[@tinaberlec8638]

I agree totaly. I realy love watching your videos. They are so deep, your content makes me think wider everytime. Thank you! And because of you I have the most georgeous watch in the whole world! ❤❤❤

[@tonichristiansen6347]

Well said!

[@gailcimon3982]

I have two three word options to describe my style. One for work and one for every day life. This works wonderfully well.

[@EmeliaSam]

You are such a breath of fresh air. Your energy always leaves me with a sense of lightness. Thank you. 🙏🏾

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

this is high praise and I take it to heart ❤ thank you!

[@RootinHarmony-yj4kp]

I love slow fashion. It never goes out of trend. Love to keep good quality timeless jewelry and clothing.

[@luciepaul1270]

Thank you Alyssa, you always give me food for thought. I am retired now and come from a Corporate background. I have a lot of difficulty coming to terms with my more casual lifestyle. I am able to incorporate my old work blazers into more casual outfits, but have difficulty styling some of my tops and skirts yet I still gravitate towards those items even though I’m not actually wearing them.

[@irenerivera6080]

I’m having the best style period now at 47 years old. I am so happy the 90s trends are back. I suppose I have always clung to them, and never stopped wearing them. Now that it is back, i feel “trendy” but with better styling experience and better quality items…

[@carolynm.8868]

Great advice. I rarely buy clothes that I don’t wear because I stopped buying for my fantasy self. I buy clothes suited to my daily life and the size that I am today.

[@arianiv]

Cheeky mid-week video and lovely summer setting…WE LOVE! 🤩

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

YAY!!! Thank you for watching!

[@louiseparisotto3630]

I enjoyed this video. The issue for me is that my body has changed (not running as much, turned 70) so I don't feel comfortable wearing what I used to be able to wear and and am very (extremely?) frustrated, needing to how to look nice but not 'old' or dowdy. I am classic and athletic and will have to do some serious soul searching to find what suits me now. Thank you for your continued guidance.

[@lenabuggs8003]

My style is exactly like yours in my 50s. There aren't any fashion channels for us.

[@SorchaRattigan]

I’m in my mid 30’s but I’d love to see either of you start your own YT channel and share your journeys 😊 that would be awesome. Let me know if you do and I’ll subscribe.

[@leahware3643]

I love slow fashion, shopping my closet, shopping my husband’s closet lol and vintage shopping. I fully agree that leaving items in an online shopping cart for a month helps with impulse buying.

[@Pigeon-44]

Such a beautiful video! Loved the backdrop - what a calming environment. Getting the dopamine hit from being outdoors in the beautiful weather 😀. Great tips, as always! For myself, I have been taking my son with me to window shop. Nothing like “Mom, you don’t really need that. Aren’t you doing a no spend challenge?” to keep a gal in check 😂

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

haha what a great strategy!

[@kristy_Henry]

loved the garden too ❤

[@jenniferorth4098]

Hi Alyssa! I usually don't comment, but when I saw your heart earrings, I got very excited. My mother-in-law bought me handmade hammered heart stud earrings back in the early 90s and I have kept them all these years and don't wear them often. I always felt that they were no longer in style for so long. But seeing you with something similar on, I am inspired to shop my jewelry box and bring them back out! Thank you so much for for that!!

[@TColoradoF]

I love the tip about taking the clothes off the “body” and look at them in a flat collage. I can see how it would help me focus on how the outfit would fit me instead of how it looks on someone else. Great tips all around!! Thank you 🙏🏼

[@rosabald5]

Thank you for another brilliant video. I spent the past days in Paris and of course I was tempted to get something new for the autumn. Somehow I kept thinking of your advise, asking myself, what are the elements of style in the "new look" and what do I have in my own wardrobe that I can use in order to create similar vibes. I even left one of my favourite shops, Sézane, empty-handed 😅

[@AlexLouiseWest]

Great video. Lovely to see your garden and to see Apollo.

[@susant700]

Realistic honesty regarding clothing and how most Americans over consume. My mom taught me years ago about the importance of classic clothing. It really is worth spending a little extra on key pieces that look great for a lifetime. If it's classic, fits well and a complimentary color for your skin tone: buy it. Consignment shops, thrift stores and even yard sales: you can find designer pieces. I've learned patience as well. Anything ( too trendy ) will usually look like your trying too hard and a waste of money in the long run. P.S. You; have everything you need. A home, beautiful garden and a sweet Siamese cat. ( blessings for sure ). ✳️🍃🌻🌼💮😽💮🌼🌻🍃✳️

[@susanbaker2796]

OMG! I haven't watched this video just yet, but I couldn't click on this title quick enough. Watching now... Thank you, Alyssa for knowing what I need to hear.

[@LillianSteele-u9v]

Off the Hampster Wheel going on a year now. You are so realistic.

[@lisa34478]

Handy tip: if you put something into your cart online and wait for a few days, many (most?) websites will send you an email discount to try to get you to buy. If you have definitely decided to purchase something, it’s a handy way to get it for less.

[@gcoolie5272]

I do that too!

[@Turtles352]

I always like the questions you give thought to. Gets me thinking about my own thoughts on consumption. Trying to buy more timeless pieces and not buy in to the fast fashion.

[@ElisabethWeakley]

Very informative ,as always. Tips 4,6 and 8 really resonated for me, such great sensible advice. I loved Apollo's cameo appearance! By the way, Bellissimo Giardino!

[@33Jenesis]

I do pay attention to trends because they trickle down to where I shop eventually. By then I have seen enough fashionistas styling them that I know what I want to try and what would work for my lifestyle (retired). From time to time I take out a section of my wardrobe to try everything on. Be it tops, bottoms, jeans, dresses, or shoes. I often rediscover pieces I forgot or can fit back in (from weight loss). It’s good fun and motivation to return new purchases (found similar items already in closet).

[@susanalsembach6026]

Love these ideas, I’ve never followed trends but really liked what you said about appreciating them and then moving on. I will often decide on what I’m wearing while walking my dogs, it gives me time to look at my day and figure out how I feel with what is going on.

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

love this!

[@berliozchick]

Thank you for this refreshing and sage advice! You are an inspiration in this age of social media saturation. Another thing I have done to avoid getting lured into buying more is to stop all emails from my favorite shops; yes, I love certain quality brands, but without the weekly teasers, it's a "rest for my brain" as you say. And that's a lot of it - your brain gets overloaded with decisions and that's often the time when we make those impulse purchases. I have invested in some beautiful classics, which suit me just fine: again, thanks to you for introducing me to particular brands for shirts and belts. This weekend, I'm doing what you suggested to organize my closet and get my fall wardrobe ready, always a nice time to donate or take things for consignment. Good timing for your video, too, as we are hitting the 'back to school' time! Cheers and gratitude from Victoria, B.C.

[@Chrissy-e3n]

Great video and Apollo looked particularly dashing.😍

[@suzanschneider6163]

That last one is really good advice. Being a petite woman, I often ask myself about the model: How tall is she?, Are the lines/is the silhouette perfect for her but not for me? Thanks for another good video.

[@TampaTodayRealEstate]

I really love this video as it provides great insight and encourages you to take a closer look at your closet/wardrobe to capture your own unique style and feel. Window shopping is also an awesome way to observe the latest trends in the fashion world from a different perspective. Thanks a lot!

[@omhomelin]

Thx for breaking it down and reminding us to check in with ourselves- this goes beyond style 🙌🏼 and we can’t reflect on how we want to feel if we’re always on auto pilot #slowstyle #notfashion

[@aidastanco2945]

Thank for this video. Very eye opening. Makes me want to reevaluate my closet, and go back to more simple pieces that I will want to wear over and over again in my own way. Thanks Alyssa!😊

[@kittykittoon]

Oh, I love seeing that beautiful old brocade jacket, Alyssa 💞 Yes, I learned more & you reinforced those good points about pausing & evaluating. I'm heading to Firenze, Siena & Roma soon (Oct) & plan to travel light-ish. Do you have an pointers for vintage stores in those cities (or should I just google)? I've loved your vids in Croatia & Italy where you find vintage. 😊

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

hmmm Rome has some good stores which are chains, and there is a VERY good section of vintage stores in the small street just behind piazza Navona ... otherwise, googling has never steered me wrong ... I am not familiar with the other cities however!

[@charity2france]

Great ideas! As we are approaching sweater weather can you give tips for purchasing and caring for quality knits? I keep needing to repurchase every year because the ones I end up with pill and lose their shape so quickly.

[@denisedorsey2889]

I had a sweater that lasted over 10 years and no pilling. The secret was the addition of silk to the blend. Hard to find now, but if you ever do see a silk blend knit, snatch it up! I think it was cotton/silk. Not expensive at the time.

[@yensid4294]

If the current trends (cut, silhouette, color, fabric) suit me & are "my style" I pick things up. When the trends don't suit me, I sit them out.

[@Tere_tere]

Great video! There's a lot of common sense in what you said. One thing that I've been doing and I found very helpful is to keep a record of every piece that I bought during a year or more. I come back to the list from time and I write things like "I only wore this once" "not good quality" "I loved this, I've worn it a lot" I also write a wish list for the following months or seasons and then revisit it and check if I still want those things It helps me identify my own patterns and keep track of how much money I spend on clothes as well. It takes time and patience but I think it's worth it.

[@tinaallen8846]

Alyssa - I love the jewelry....I also have been "shopping my closet" for many years since I started following you & WOW, it sure is fun, inexpensive & my goal is to donate 1-3 item minimum. Thank YOU :)

[@katem3961]

Always feel inspired by your videos, Alyssa. Beautiful jewellery, that really suits you. What was that lovely wrap dress you were wearing? Apollo is such a handsome fella 😌 Thank you, as always, and I am grateful to you for the consistency of your message/information.

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

ahh the wrap dress is a 10 year old find from Greece!

[@mollypayton_]

Always love your videos! This was super insightful. Would love to learn more about the resource you referenced about our mindsets, etc. Thank you!

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Yes! So sorry about that - just updated the description with some links!

[@bebeeru3066]

Such an inspiring video! Thank you! You are always so inspiring and thoughtful to share this type of information ❤

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

You are so welcome! Thank you for the kind words!

[@tplayspiano]

Thank you. Making lists is hard for me because often you don’t know what’s out there and what will appeal until you actually see it.

[@miraearles3372]

You're in such a beautiful garden today! I love it! 🌻

[@JudyLarkins-w9i]

I love your content. I am much older than you but can I say that I aspire to be a cool girl like you when I grow up?😁 You inspired me to really go through my closet. I am a bit of a minimalist but have trouble with the guilt of jettisoning pieces that I bought and never really felt right about. How do you get over that guilt of a poor purchase decision?

[@denisedorsey2889]

I am absolutely captivated by the gorgeous garden behind you. Thank you for the tips.

[@jennydavis2749]

This was really good. Took me back to some of your early videos. Thank you for this!

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

ah this is a great compliment thank you :)

[@chirpchirp8011]

Hi beautiful Alyssa and Apollo! Great tips, thank you for sharing these.

[@cltinturkey]

I love your beautiful setting and background. Really enjoyed that. Thanks and happy summer!

[@kathyffarney-keck8593]

I have that pearl pennant and love it

[@CathyHarbidge]

Great tips on how to navigate trends without running out to shop, thank you!

[@laraveal6968]

I love tip #5. What a great idea! Thank you❤

[@lindacurtis7267]

I still have trouble spending on my everyday wardrobe , then I’ll splurge on something fancy that I may wear once!

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

oooh we all do this I think! Its funny how we do that!

[@elisabettazedda7284]

Love the garden ❤ and your style!!!

[@pdk9903]

Great advice distilled! Thank you!

[@elenaleon9391]

Loved the tips! ❤ What a nice surprise to see you in the middle of the week 🙃 Thanks for the great content, as always.

[@juliegovier6570]

Brilliant. Thanks Alyssa. Some great new ideas here

[@marabolin3038]

thank you just what I needed to hear as I impulse shop too much and am constantly weeding out clothing I don’t really wear. I’m on a no spend goal as I have far too much everything! Clothing, shoes, coats, handbags, and jewelry! The simple questions to ask myself you suggested, (What do I FEEL good wearing? What is my daily lifestyle ? Do I like the outfit or the person wearing it? ) are very helpful, to make me stop ✋ before purchasing. So much I own needs to go, as taking up space, and not being worn. What is this obsession of “ I may want to wear it someday” as another year goes by not ever thinking to wear the items? Especially accessories! I have far too many pieces ( worked in office for many years so I did dress up, but no longer do) of jewelry! And yet every time I go through it with plans to give away, donate very little leaves 🙄. I truly want to lighten my load. Make room in my closet and keep the accessories I really really do enjoy wearing.

[@demarisb4680]

What a nice surprise! Usually have to wait til Sunday XOXO

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Thank you for joining me mid-week! xx

[@beccdorey2124]

I really liked the art metaphor. Very helpful!!

[@lorabry]

This video was excellent as always!

[@borg1964]

I love that pearl pendant🤩🫶🏻I have a tip: I wear my parent’s wedding rings as pendants paired with a Christal heart😊

[@drnicolebeaumont7884]

Super thoughtful thanks. 🎉

[@CJay-q9f]

Than you. Girlfriend!!! I love your thought process.

[@HélèneZielasek]

Thank you Alyssa. Thanks to ideos of youabout decluttering and thos one. I hsve decided to do a no bu, challenge for a couple of month. The onl, thong I could "need" os a warerprofRain jacket or coat...what I need is more space at home and cresting other outfits with my contempory life style and my own feminine and romantisch style thst hS to find New was and definitwly no further shopping. I love the whys of this Videos and Shopping this instant gratificstion thst is a bad habit and forced by the society that whants to feeling a Lack. Good job 😊🎉

[@hwin743]

This was fun. I’d love to see you do a whole video on the glazing milk/face milk genre. Not sure if that’s even possible with drugstore items.

[@clarehatfield2914]

Yes I really did enjoy this thank you xx

[@margiekraftkindt4208]

You are the best--always helpful and inspirational

[@paulasahms3668]

Good information to process & implement. Thanks

[@callalily79]

SO GOOD! SO HELPFUL AGAIN!❤

[@milotherescuecat7924]

There was a reference in video to sharing a link to a resource on the psychology of shopping but I can only see Klarna links in the description box (a little ironic lol)

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

lol oh man the irony - i've added them to the description! there are 3 links there!

[@megans204]

I’ve noticed that when I’m shopping secondhand on Vestiaire (maybe similar to a European Real Real?) nearly all of the pictures are simply the garment on a white background. No model, no mannequin, no styling. It honestly tends to make things far LESS appealing for me! I need to do this when I’m shopping new now

[@stranger.in.a.strange.land11]

Could you please address the topic of types of shoes that are appropriate for office but are also comfortable enough to commute to work? I find that trainers are not always accepted, and heels are not always the best choice for commuting.

[@jcgnbd7410]

It is amazing how i have in the past gone to buy something and asked do i have something like it and say yes, but i have no idea where it is because of too many other things being in the way. Need to clear out so many items so i can really know what i have. #8 - i always see thing on tall slender figures with great shoulders and collarbones and want those, but i do not care for my shoulders and arms showing. It is always how it look on someone (same with hair) love the style but i have to figure out how to make work with my body type (NOT tall-lol).

[@ruthacuna4385]

Great tips and reminders

[@kmissjudicious7169]

Could you please mention the terms you used for finding your style descriptors again? I couldn’t quite catch them, but they sounded fascinating! 😍

[@caroline7096]

Great suggestions 👍

[@shannonrolfes5171]

I think another thing to ask yourself when you like something is "Do I already have something really similar?" Sometimes I'll like something and realize "Of course you like it, you have something similar in your closet already!" Something that may be a "trend" now is a classic in your wardrobe.

[@daniellemeijer99]

Hi Alyssa! What brand is your tulle skirt from? So pretty. ☺

[@Mama_Tina]

A very well thought of post!❤

[@fashionandluxury101]

Great advice 😊

[@nicoleeast3796]

Great video

[@whiskersBOOSTER2]

So good!!!❤

[@rebeccajordan4491]

My current strategy, which hasn’t stopped me from buying but has definitely stopped me from buying things I don’t wear, is to methodically wear everything. That sounds like a silly sentence, but in practical terms, it’s been a real game changer. I have my current season, current size wardrobe on my “wear now “ rack, separated from the rest of my collection. As i wear an outfit, I put it away on another rack. I have to wear only what is in the primary rack until I’ve completed that category. For example, I have 13 bottoms in my current rotation. After 13 outfits, I pulled the bottoms off the worn rack and put them back on the top-be-worn rack, and continued wearing the rest of my tops. For my shoes, when I got to the last 3 pairs, I realized I hated them and put them into a quarantine bag. This method, combined with my perfect palette (that took some time!) and finally nailing my keywords, has really changed my buying behavior and increased my satisfaction with my wardrobe and style exponentially! But it takes time and shopping and mistakes to get there.

[@SorchaRattigan]

This was really helpful so I’ve screenshot the comment, thank you 😊

[@kathyesargent9088]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😻

[@robyncoe6441]

Great job collecting all these ideas in one video.

[@victoriaquezada]

Hi, please post Amy S... name or youtube name, thank you for great advice!

[@bw07_r]

Amy Smilovic

[@luluandmeow]

I wouldn't leave an item on my wish list for months, surely your size/colour, etc. risks selling out by then and then you've lost your chance.

[@jeanmaddison2362]

The only thing is when all influencers are all wearing the same stuff, are you not making them a trend?

[@luluandmeow]

Your videos would look better without the white border, thank you

[@katdziu5317]

Puh …. nothing new