Am I Single? + Why I'm Always Alone 😢💔

In this Chat with Caitlin, I talk about appreciating the single life, my past with relationships, and a few other tidbits!
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[@HighCarbHannah]

I LOVED LIVING ALONE. I lived alone for 5 years, it was the best. Ill be your boo

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

Omg I feel like I would LOVE it too 😏 and awww thanks girl! I am seeing you on Valentine's Day after all 😘

[@HighCarbHannah]

im so excited to seeee you again

[@Danuxsy]

green machine They did netflix and chill

[@karalynnlovison1998]

I love living alone unfortunately I still at home with my sibs and parents, and I haven’t found anyone yet that fits my criteria of dating. And same I’ve always been alone and not dateable, I love hanging out with people, but after high school and college I gave up with meeting newbies for me.

[@SNAPVegan]

It took me 49 years to figure it out, but living alone is not depressing - it's liberating. No expectations to meet but your own, and no barriers to upward achievement. I too am an introvert - I love being social - but I'm ready to go home too. I feel EVERYTHING you just said. It's actually refreshing to hear someone your age to have this in-touch insight. After being burned 3 major times - I'm all done with "relationship attachments" other than deep friendships. Bravo, young lady! Carry on.

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

Thank you Carry! I'm glad you've found your own happiness too :)

[@SNAPVegan]

(Cathy) LOL | Let me know if you are the one I need to thank for all things good last week. You're the only YT Cait I know.

[@kayanderson476]

I think it depends on the individual. If you dont feel like you need that alone time, or that you need very little of it, then I could see living alone as being depressing. But for someone like me who needs their alone time and is stressed out by being social all the time, living alone is ideal. I could see someone getting depressed quickly living alone though if they're an extrovert and love being around people all the time.

[@estebritt9555]

I'm 23 and have been single for 23 years. I love it. Go do you, girl. 💁🏻

[@amaturearcadia]

este britt dude, stay that way. Wish I would have held strong haha its better to wait

[@annek.4181]

este britt so refreshing to read comments like yours! I'm 19 and also have never been in a relationship👐🏼

[@MisssPearl06]

I'm 25 and never been in a relationship too. But I would like to try, I feel lonely sometimes. It's hard to find someone right, tho.

[@nerdyniesha]

este britt Yes, I'm 26 and been single all my life. I don't feel weird about it. It's the norm for me and I love being alone. No urge to be in a relationship.

[@estebritt9555]

Diane Pearl do what you love to do and maybe you'll meet someone along the way who loves the same things!

[@chuckriggs1]

A tip from an old guy... Mutual love is very hard to find... My definition of love is, when just being with that person can take you out of the realities of life, and just being with them is enough to make you happy... An personal example, we went on a camping trip, and a front came through turning it cold, wet, and the mosquitos were horrible... That was the best camping trip of my life... Just being together was more than enough to make us happy... Mutual true love is hard to find... Wait for it, it's worth it...

[@lela3926]

Awww... that's so sweet. I hope someone loves me as much as you love the one you love 😭😭😭

[@lamb2004]

This is so sweet and I hope someday I can finally experience it 😭

[@sandynegron939]

I can not tell you how *"normal"* this video made me feel. I was considered the *"popular"* girl growing up and I hated it. I knew I was lying to myself. I truly enjoy being alone now and I never realized how different am I now to the point that I feel weird. Lol

[@celesteeeeeeeeeeeeeee]

Sandy Negron lol same! I was popular all the way until HS and then I just kind of retreated to myself. It’s nice when you find like minded people where you can chill with no expectations. :-)

[@sandynegron939]

Celeste Caguana seriously couldnt have said it better myself: *chill with no expectations. Just enjoying each others company*

[@reemh6321]

same here! thank you!

[@sararazor982]

I’m the same way too. I can’t handle people for long periods of time lol

[@ItashaDutt]

sara turner lol same

[@amandafuschak271]

Itasha Dutt same lol

[@ItashaDutt]

Amanda Fuschak lol same

[@zsofiapv]

I feel you on soo many levels

[@razenghidhaoui3183]

Same euh lol

[@SoulintheRaw]

I always feel that you're such a grounded person and Ireally value that about you!

[@BethGrantDeRoos]

Back in the 70's there was a poster that said 'A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle'. And my Dad told me growing up 'choose someone you cannot live without, not simply someone you can live with'. He also said a man of value will love a strong confident educated woman. He was right. We introverts can get the best partners when we are least expecting one to come along (I was married 38 years before becoming a widow). And there is no shame in appreciating ones own quietness, or company. And I love being a California native, because this is such an open minded state, with such diversity, as well as a pro vegan mindset, that I think its easy live here.

[@IJoAnZI]

intelligent, level headed plant based beauty - your an absolute catch!

[@evelister8228]

My goal for 2018 is to be able to say that if I never marry or have children or a long-term partner, I'll still have a fulfilling and contented, purposeful life.

[@marta0929]

Eve Lister that is pretty cool actually, I hope you succeed

[@KRLEEQ]

Oooh yass queen! Amen!

[@kellydenmeade2504]

I can so relate to you, I am a loner and I spend most of my time alone. I too could challenge myself to meet more people, but I pretty stuck in my routine. I just don't like large groups of people and I am home body. I do crave hugs from time to time!

[@bazthespaz95]

kelly Denmeade same here! I've learnt to love it. I never fit in to groups, and would find myself left out anyway. Learnt to enjoy my own company and I'm so glad I did, pleased for you too!

[@jamiemichellepena9014]

Dearest Caitlin, I love your honesty. And I know you’ve probably heard this a million times... but, you are still young and you have so much going for yourself. I didn’t get married until I was 35. I’m 40 now and I have to tell you that working on yourself is absolutely the first priority. I always did that and never settled! You’ve done everything right. My relationship is not based on any sacrifices. It’s a partnership. My husband is my number one fan and I his and we have each other’s backs and make our own choices 😊. Do you first and the person meant for you will come along when they come along. Much love! ❤️ enjoy your life!

[@maeg.1331]

Honestly, Valentine's Day is my absolute favorite holiday and everything you said is so true. I use valentines day to treat myself and show the people that i love in my appreciation. i send them cards and sometimes small gifts. I hate that valentines day has kinda created this sadness amongst people, like there are no requirements on how someone has to spend their valentines day. Living alone is amazing and it takes a lot of work getting to a place where you a truly okay with being alone or secure in your aloneness. Especially these days where people are in constant contact with other people so thanks for the uplifting message and sharing your past with us.

[@TheBlacktressDiaries]

Tamirra Glover This 🙌🏾 . You worded this perfectly

[@maggiecheyenne]

Tamirra Glover I feel the same way about Valentine's Day! I love showering others with love, so I use Valentine's Day to remind everyone how much they mean to me. I think it's because my parents always got me and my brother lil gifts on Valentine's Day, so I've always associated it with all kinds of love, not just romantic.

[@lucymcguren9643]

This video is awesome, I always try and teach my girls that you don’t need a boyfriend to feel complete. All her friends have boyfriends (she’s only 17) and they think she is weird for never having a boyfriend. She is just happy in herself and being by herself. I myself got my first boyfriend at 14, got married at 17, not we have 5 kids and have been married 19 years and I love him more than ever 😀

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

Yes, that is so true! Everyone is on their own life journey and some of us will find relationships and love sooner than others. All that matters is that you find someone who treats you right and that you are happy

[@RemyElysee]

I feel exactly the same way. My personality type is INTJ so it makes sense haha! I've never been in a relationship (I'm almost twenty), I don't want kids, I don't really have any desire to get married, I don't enjoy parties, I don't drink, etc. etc. So, that rules out quite a few college social gatherings right there. Regardless, my main new years resolution is to be more socially adventurous and say "yes" to more social gatherings.

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

Yes! I totally feel those inclinations as well, but it's also good to push yourself. As the famous quote goes, "Life begins outside of your comfort zone" ;) it's all about finding the right balance!

[@c0uc0u]

Did I write this comment? Haha

[@RemyElysee]

😊💕

[@annek.4181]

Remy Elysee relate 100%

[@liaj2694]

This comment is me in a paragraph. And I am here for it!

[@sylviamontero6030]

Introverts! I was at a superbowl party yesterday and I can totally relate! I'm just now recouping. :) alone time

[@leafgrrl]

I always watch the Superbowl alone for that reason and I can't deal with people distracting me either because I actually follow the game too. lol

[@kriztin221]

I’ve never commented on a video before but I’m so grateful that you posted this. I’m 21 and also an introvert. Lately I’ve been feeling down because I do everything by myself, and I see everyone else my age out with groups of people. This video is such a reminder that everyone is different, we are who we are.

[@jada2061]

i was such a extrovert before and somehow i became more introverted and i swear my parents question that, i litterly used to hangout with ppl every single day and now it’s like every other weekend but i am currently trying to just get to know myself more and learn who i am , you’re a very inspirational loveyou girl!!

[@hucz]

you're a huge catch for sure

[@danamomani5565]

Yaass girl ❤️ we need to appreciate love. But never forget to appreciate ourselves too 🙏

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

FOR SURE!

[@jaminazhang7112]

You are such a sweet person and have a very calm and comforting personality. Thanks for this video. Much love from Germany 😘

[@BettyHorn]

You keep thinking that way! You don't need anyone else to be happy, because happiness comes from within. And you know, you can actually be more miserable in a relationship than not. Just be happy. Love will find you where you are.

[@abigailthomas6358]

THANK YOU! This is exactly how I feel about being single!! I really appreciate the fact that you made this video and opened up to us! I relate so much 💞

[@jess89O]

Love you, Caitlin!!! 💖💖 I so related to this vid and what you shared so much! Also a fellow introvert here and toootally feel ya on that too. Thanks for sharing this with us 💕💕

[@ilovemascs]

i’m the same way when i get home all i want to do is lay down and my parents think i’m just lazy but like you said it is really draining being around people

[@majp6126]

@Knowledge Reyes Two sides to a coin. Ultimately there is always a reason behind apparent laziness, because no one just WANTS to be lazy. So I think laziness is an appearance not a "truth", a facade that hides reasons that differ person to person. For some, the reason they look lazy is that they are drained by the energy they expend on activities like socializing. In the end, so long as u get what u gotta do done, who cares if u lie down in ur downtime

[@terezanovakova6778]

Caitlin, thank you SO MUCH for this video. I have found myself in many things you have mentioned and it gave me the feeling that I'm living my life the right way. I'm slowly moving to the period of life when it's common to be married or pregnant and social media do remind me of that (like you have said) and I'm becoming concerned about the questions that will certainly come in future. After almost 4 years without any relationship (which is in my friendcircle kind of unique) I finally feel that I can enjoy living my life. Of course, that it is not 100% perfect all the time, but here comes the part of your talk which I was completely identified with-that it's all about love and being loved and not about being/not being in the relationship. I'm really grateful for person like you, despite thousands of miles between us. :) Thank you for the courage to share your (not only personal) opinions and experiences with us.

[@AmyGedgaudas]

Thank you for sharing this post. I too, am quite shy and introverted. I had a serious relationship end because the other person cheated on me (for YEARS and I didn't know). It's been almost four years since then and I am still single and live alone. I have a small, but mighty, group of friends + my cat (he is kind of my number one)! There is plenty of fulfillment in life, even for those of us who chose not to be in a relationship, or enjoy time spent solo. xoxo

[@xxx-jx1hr]

Omg i feel you so muchhh! I think you should always put yourself first. So happy that you made this video thank you

[@mindyzuckerman936]

This insight into your life was such a treat. It sounds like you really know yourself.

[@Nicki13Lover]

I work with teens, and they were asking me how I felt about Valentines Day. I told them I preferred the Parks and Rec made holiday, Galentines Day better- where you celebrate your love for your 'gals" or friends on 2/13. And one of the teens who was anti-Valentines day lit up and was going on about how she wants to celebrate that this year and buy gifts for her friends to show how much she cares for them. You don't have to be in a romantic relationship to spread the love!

[@callahangralton4208]

Caitlin I highly recommend a book called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. An awesome read that really helped bring to light things I have always known about myself in terms of my introversion. It also taught me how to channel it for my own benefit. Great video, thanks for sharing ☺️

[@Ronetta222]

Next chat with Caitlin: favorite supplements, super-foods, and/or adaptogens.

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

ooh! nice idea

[@UlikeTammy]

I feel you girl, I'm an introvert person as well and I can't stand to be around loud crowds and people for too long. I have to charge myself too by being alone and meditating and just relaxing at home ❤

[@TheSkySailing]

you are amazing! i really appreciate how down to earth + kind you are! thank you for sharing, this video is so reasurring and encouraging :)

[@kimberlybouchard6913]

This is so uplifting and definitely something I needed to hear. Thanks Caitlin!

[@booksandbroadway]

Caitlin thank you so much for sharing this, especially since it's so personal and you are in no way obligated to do so. Recently I've been getting pretty down on myself because it seems like everyone around me and everyone on vegan youtube is in a relationship, but I've been coming into my own these past few years- due in large part because of lifestyle changes you've inspired me to take on (going vegan, daily yoga practice, etc). You are one of my role models in this community, which might be weird to say since you're only a year older than me :) Thanks again for sharing.

[@potatorchi]

You’re awesome! I totally needed to hear this today. 😊🙌🏼🖤

[@firefliesophia]

Im already exciteeeed to watch this!

[@Kyldrake]

I can totally relate! Thank you for sharing this Caitlin.

[@dasha.t_fit]

Loved this! Thank you, I can really relate to everything you talked about!❤️ you have great advice

[@courtneyhoare]

I can relate so much and I can’t tell you how much it means to hear you say you’re happy being alone/single! Why should it be a stigma to be single? If you’re happy in your own company and having freedom what’s wrong with that. I’ve learnt so much about myself and done things for myself whilst being single and I’m so happy. Thank you for this, even though you didn’t have to explain yourself. 💕

[@paigebromley3662]

I love when people talk about being introverted - that's definitely me and I always stress that people think I'm boring or weird. So refreshing to hear you talk about this stuff!

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

I'm glad you could relate!

[@MadalinaZbranca]

I'm glad that you learned to love yourself and that you know yourself. This is the most important thing! Hugs! 🤗 Personally, I'm a mix of an introvert and extrovert and sometimes I crave the larger group setting interaction, but that leaves me exhausted after 3-4 hours... So usually I prefer to interact with smaller groups or one or two people at a time. And I guess that Iwas lucky to find my husband, because he is quite an introvert too 😊

[@rachelhalverson5653]

I loved listening to this! Thank you for sharing.

[@sokos.kitchen]

I'm SO glad you made this video! You've definitely helped so many who needed to hear this (including myself). I think that A LOT of people are in this same situation and have experienced what you have. Genuinely made me feel so much better :)

[@colourfulballoon]

I didn't know you had studied here in Argentina, I'm from Buenos Aires and I would love to hear you talk about your experience, not only because you came here, but also because I would love to study abroad some day. So if you ever feel like it I think that story would make a cool video. Much love 💙

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

yes, I loved it! I can definitely talk more about it

[@julissam2264]

yess girl!!!! I think its soo important to know ur worth & know that u deserve someone who loves u fully & respects u & not just date anyone just because, so tru

[@zs9710]

I just watched this videos two times in a row 🙌🏾 it resonated a lot with me. I just got out of a 3 and a half year relationship that was really toxic and I’m taking some much needed time “to get back to myself”. Your video encouraged me to keep working on my self-care and healing journey and not rush into getting back into a relationship. I really appreciate this.

[@chloehalverson4253]

Thank you so much for addressing this topic! I cannot tell you the incredible extent to which I relate to your experiences and outlook! I am twenty and have yet to be in a relationship which people often find strange, and it is so nice to hear that someone else understands the value of being alone and really knowing and loving yourself first. Our time will come!

[@christinawoolvin5064]

I love all of your videos but I love this one especially ❤️. Enjoy your Valentine’s Day!

[@sarahemerson4032]

You sound like an empath or highly sensitive person. Those types tend to have thin boundaries and exhaust easily.

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

Yes, I definitely am!

[@fronschka]

That's me too🙋🏼🙅🏼

[@MegHilbs]

Sooo true

[@annek.4181]

me af

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

I'm also like that. :)

[@janaemilia9743]

I feel you! I get the exact same feeling when I'm with a lot of people.. but honestly; it makes me kind of sad that you seem to get questions about why you are single and have to 'explain' your reasons. There's nothing wrong with that :)

[@fitcwebb]

Probably the most honest, brave, and real "talk" I've heard in a long time. It takes real guts to be this open and honest about this kind of a personal subject. True valuable insight. Great stuff here and a fantastic channel

[@johannazarate]

Thanks for this video! I’m glad to hear that someone else feels the same way that I do about being alone and relationships. I am also an introvert, and I feel the same way when it comes to hanging out with big crowds. I honestly love being alone and doing my own thing, and for some reason, people find that weird. But it’s okay, because I am honestly happy with myself. Life is good! 😊

[@risuhana]

I agree with every single thing you're saying ♥ All I can think of while watching is "omg same, saaaaame!!!" :D SO happy I'm not the only one thinking and choosing to live that way (for now) hahaha :D

[@Sweetjasofmine]

Thanks so much for this video. I completely resignate with it! Definitely needed to hear this.

[@kheleesi95]

Love love love this!! And you❤️ you are amazing Caitlin, thank you for being so relatable and real!

[@maddygrace7663]

Thank you for making this video and talking about this topic. I really feel like it isn’t talked about enough and I can totally relate to so much of what you said. I imagine that this took some courage, but your vulnerability truly shines. You are such a strong, successful woman and I have no doubt that you will continue to go amazing places in your life (whether you are or are not in a relationship). 💕

[@jessibellnatalie6382]

Thank you for mentioning everything you did in this video Caitlyn. This is just what i needed because for the past few months I've been thinking about how I wanted to be in a relationship because that's what all my friend are doing even though deep down inside I know it's not what I really wanted. I have never been in a relationship and it just got me curious to know what being in a relationship feels like. But now I know that that's not the case, so instead I focus on more important things that will build myself to become a better person.

[@uxnne4492]

Your authenticity is so beautiful 💕 thank you for existing honey!

[@alenahubackova4043]

I needed this, thank you Caitlin❤

[@kellyreadingbooks]

I just adore you and your personality! You are such a fun person to follow on your journey. Thanks for sharing these stories and this side of you!

[@louschnepel6190]

You’re such a great person! Thank you for sharing your experiences and showing yourself so vulnerable! I love this video ♥️ I was always in relationships for like 10 years (three different ones with just a few months in between) and I almost got into another one, but just felt the huge urge not to. I really liked him, but I needed time to concentrate only on myself and like you said don’t sacrifice, so right now I’m focusing on myself and you showed me that this is totally normal! So thank you very very much for this video! It made me feel really really good! ♥️

[@BUNTEBLUME111]

Thank you for making this video and for speaking so openly!

[@LiLKK123451]

I always love these types of videos because I feel like your viewers get to know more about you and get a deeper connection with you

[@nataliefields9009]

Wow this came out a year ago and now you’re in a relationship! Life is so full of surprises man :) happy for you

[@gabybastidas3253]

I love these types of videos so much! Your recipe videos are amazing, but chats with Caitlin are my personal favorites. I’d love to hear you talk about self-love and how you overcame your insecurities.

[@Elizabeth-ty8hv]

Thanks for sharing your life with us! I’m a newer viewer and have been enjoying your videos ❤️

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

thank you, Ellie! :)

[@SamisSweetLife]

I think it is wonderful that you made this video. I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. No one NEEDs to be in a relationship & it makes me sad that there are folks out there thinking that it's not OK to be single. It can be very liberating! It doesn't have to be depressing. The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. I think when you find the right person, you both are willing to sacrifice and compromise to make it work. I've been with my husband since we were 17. Sometimes you just know. You're perfect just the way you are, with or without a man.

[@anniesauer4424]

YES CAITLYN!! I was feeling down about being single, but this video just inspired me, thank you so much for posting! I love all of your videos and have been watching them on a binge for the past week! Haha, but I feel like we have such similar personalities and I can relate to what you are saying in your videos! You are an awesome person and I hope to someday have the chance to meet you in person!

[@alexcao4184]

I love this style of videos! Reminds me of breakfast chats!

[@briethompson439]

great outlook and advice! so much wisdom! I wish you all the best!

[@leoniekatharina4383]

I love this video! So honest and true, really enjoyed it!

[@stephaniea4282]

4:50 that casual scissor raise 😂

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

LMAO i was playing with them and was like oops i need to stop. I def talk with my hands!

[@leahpeci]

HAHA omg yes!

[@marystestkitchen]

Yup. I agree with so much you're saying here. Esp about not sacrificing parts of yourself for a relationship.

[@annd.68]

Thank you for sharing this! We share many of the same feelings about things. It helps me to feel like it's ok to be an introvert! Love your other videos and recipes too😊

[@sparkletone1684]

Caitlin, thank you SO MUCH for this video. It encouraged me and made me happy to hear you say these things. I am single and have always been, but like you said, it's nice to live my life without having to check in with someone. With the nature of my job, that's a great thing. I can't wait to start traveling, which will happen soon. I won't have to check in with a soul; I can send family and friends messages so they know I'm okay... but since I don't live at home or with anyone, it's not a big deal if I decide to not come home after a work trip. I'm bummed about not having a pet because of my job, but that's what cat cafes are for. Long story short, thank you again for being your awesome self, and for making this video. Sometimes us single girls need to be reminded that there's nothing wrong with us, that we're worthy of love, and that our lives aren't weird or defective. We are where we need to be right now. #singlegirlsunite

[@pixiehik]

Thank you for sharing things that are so personal. I am like you in so many ways! Glad to know I'm not alone.

[@karinebale4889]

I see myself so much in your story!!!! I have lots of friends but I do get really exhausted hanging out with a huge group of people. This so so inspiring for me to see that I am not alone.

[@AngelGarcia-cy7xs]

I think I need more videos like this. I truly love how you express yourself about your life. Thank u, just what i needed to hear ❣️💖

[@fromemilie]

I'm not single anymore but i totally relate! I love being alone, i love my own company 😝 It can be refreshing to step out of the box and go out and socialise with new people, but i always need time to recharge on my own lol.

[@morganwebb3091]

Girl I needed this video right now. I just got out of a bad relationship of 3 years and figuring out single is a big change. Thanks for posting this💚

[@KristiA72]

I get it totally! I love my own company and I’ve been single for seven years now and love it! You don’t need a partner to fulfil your life! Also I have two close friends! That’s it! Keep the circle small that way less drama! Love this chat! Thank you for opening up to us! Xx

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

Thanks Kristi! Sounds like you're rockin the single life in style too ;)

[@StanleyCarpenter]

Yo Cait, thanks for your honesty and sharing so much personal information about yourself. Keep it up.

[@alicem4736]

Caitlin I love all your videos, but this one is definitely one of my favourites! Thanks for making me feel normal, I agreed with everything you said and it's true when you get hurt you don't crave it anymore but in some ways I feel like we are happier bc these experiences shaped us and led us to the journey of self love. I am still learning and I feel it in waves but I'd rather evolve myself and use this time to live MY LIFE

[@annirorke2398]

Interesting and thoughtful points, thanks for putting this out there! It amazes me to see how curious people get about the personal lives of those they see on these platforms. It must feel invasive at times. Keep up posting your rocking videos x

[@Toni-rk4nt]

Great message, I love my alone time, wish I had more of it! Sorry to hear you're leaving South Florida. The west coast sounds like an amazing new adventure 😊

[@meredith_design]

You put this video out at the best time! I just ended things with the person I was dating because I knew we were going in different directions. It's hard but you're so right about needing to love yourself wholeheartedly first before you can love anyone else.

[@emily.castro]

This video is so relatable. 💖

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

[@emilylaughlin5812]

Yes being introverted and recharging by yourself!!! I always do “weird” things by myself - going out to eat, going to the movies, traveling, etc. I’m thankful for my close and true friends rather than a big friend group who aren’t true. You’re such an inspiration to so many people and I’m so glad you’re speaking out against “norms” and setting a good example. As for relationships, as a person who was in abusive relationships, lived on my own, dated myself, and am now engaged (and getting married in 2 months!) I totally agree with all of the statements you have said. There is nothing wrong with being single!!

[@charlottegrippo4638]

Caitlin your skin is GLOWING omg

[@Bbg346]

I can relate a lot to this, you're so awesome for opening up to this topic even though it's your personal life ❤

[@iamaproudbookgeek6266]

That's such a good video!!! I feel just the same way and it's so nice to hear someone say "it's ok to be an introvert", "it's ok if you're not going out every night", "it's ok if you're not in a relationship"... And you're so calm and ok about it that it really makes me want to be even more ok about it ! You're great, thank you again :)

[@shayreader8140]

Oh my word, thank you. I agree with so many things you said. Kudos to all of us who are single.

[@jessietamayo113]

Girl good for you! It’s not worth wasting time, emotions and dealing with heartbreak to be with someone you’re not attracted to or feel like you have to put so much effort towards or whatever. You do you! 👌🏻

[@radnessbysam]

UGH, THANK YOU CAITLIN. It's so nice to know someone else in the world shares the same exact thoughts and emotions! lol you go girl! Treat yourself well this single appreciation day ((:

[@janalarcon5225]

Fantastic video. I wish every girl who did not get invited to the prom could watch this. You are so emotionally healthy and such an inspiration to all of us...besides cooking great food. Thank you.

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

thank you

[@---sm6ve]

Omg introvert here!! I love going out with friends but I hate getting ready and walking out the door. I have a huge family so when we get together for a day or two the next days I need to be alone in my room lol

[@CaitlinShoemaker]

I can totally relate!

[@zsofiapv]

i am like literally the same lol

[@fruitysmile3272]

I can’t express how glad I am that someone finally thinks the same way I do about relationships! I agree 100% with everything you said! 🤗

[@languagelynnie]

Thank you for your honesty. This is an awesome video.