Wife Denies Having AFFAIR but now I Found PROOF - Reddit Podcast

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[@ImportedOlive]

For the first one, he should immediately makeovers to put him self financially up, make sure you have the mortgage on the houses, protect you assets immediately

[@nartworks557]

I’ve been in situations with women like the OP was married to and and it’s just so incredibly annoying and aggravating when they just act like they don’t care and don’t try to defend or prove themselves but yet won’t confess either

[@McLovinMcFlurry]

So form your own opinion and stop feeling pressured too do feel other wise. She doesn’t care because he’s being passive aggressive. If you and the OP were being honest with yourself, what did you actually want. Her too say I’m sorry and please forgive me and beg. But if she did that would you actually be happy? Probably not.

[@nartworks557]

@@McLovinMcFlurry Honestly bro you are 100% right, sometimes tho it’s complicated to be fair, after being attached to somebody for so long and especially in a marriage it’s hard to see somebody just not even try

[@scottcantdance804]

Reddit seems to be filled with kukqolds.

[@xenyadot]

Here's a tip, thinking cheating is a joke is a red flag, because if you think cheating is funny you have no respect for your partner or any relationship you might be in, ONLY CHEATERS THINK BETRAYING THEIR PARTNERS IS FUNNY and its sociopathic and selfish.

[@jeannan.barker9662]

I totally agree

[@Thelittledevilonyourshoulder]

To be fair tests are hard

[@xenyadot]

"I was drunk" is not an excuse, It's a confession of guilt because while drunk thats who they truly are.

[@Jadae]

That's only sometimes true. However, they chose to get drunk and at that age understand who they already are, so its still on them.

[@xenyadot]

@@Jadae when drunk you will not do anything your subconsciously uncomfortable with, so what you do is what your like without self control, its not a sometimes thing its a "this is how humans are when drunk." Thing that has been studied and people like you should stop being enablers to people using it as an excuse to justify their behaviour...drunk mouths speak sober thoughts, if your abusive when drunk, your simply an abuser who's exerting self control to not be abusive while sober...the only exceptions are those who can exert self control while drunk and end up behaving the same, or people that have no self control when sober thus act no differently when drunk. Stop being an enabler and start holding people accountable...you can forgert the harm you've done, but that doesn't automatically unharm someone, you can't unharm someone at all...the alcohol is no excuse because thats stuff that can out of a person when your alone and they feel they can get away with letting you see that side of them.

[@fanendey]

That makes me think about the only case where being drunk is an actual excuse, and that's when someone who's sober takes advantage of a person who's almost blackout drunk. There's always the abuse situation, that's why the "being drunk is not an excuse" quote rubs me the wrong way. I understand the people who say it, because the excuse is overused so much. But it depends so much on the situation! Because if there's like proof it has been happening for a while, pre planned or even just the initial intent then yes, definitely cheating. But if it's a situation where the victim is taken advantage of because of their inebriated state then... it's R^pe... I saw a case about a young woman "getting it on" with her sisters fiance. The thing is she was 10+ years younger than the fiance, and so drunk she struggled to remember anything that happened. She relied on the fiance to drive her home, he pulled the car over and "did it" with her, then dropped her at her house. This was a clear instance of a sober man in his mid 30s taking advantage of a very drunk young woman. Her family shunned her for being abused and completely excused the sober fiance... I apologize for my bad English, im not a native English speaker. I hope I provided another perspective by being the devils advocate!

[@rachelsarmientotack]

@@fanendey I agree with and understand that perspective. I just don't think it really applies in this particular case due to continued flirting, meetings, and secrecy. It could have been prolonged shame and belief that she was culpable in her r^pe... she could have been managing her r^pist/coworker (and thus her job) in secrecy the best she thought she could while doing her best to avoid ruining her relationship. That could possibly be why she was so eager for the OP to tell her to quit her job or work elsewhere. So, she could blame her sudden departure on an overly jealous spouse rather than her own terrible experience with the coworker (especially because her mother works in the same place... it could really rock some boats close to home). I don't know the bigger situation. And OP wouldn't know either unless she's willing to communicate. I know in many of these situations, victims may be more willing to lose valued people in their life thinking that they chose to cheat rather than be seen as powerless as they feel deep inside themselves. It may not be the correct choice. But it's their choice to make. And thus, all of this is just conjecture until more truth comes to light through communication, effort to heal the relationship, or further cheating behavior.

[@fanendey]

@@rachelsarmientotack as I mentioned in my comment, it depends on the situation. I believe the OP in this story was indeed cheating. But my comment was more directed to the "being drunk is not an exuse" quote! I understand and agree with your comment, but my perspective was more general rather than this one situation. Thank you for your input though!

[@AlGggeee]

I'm distrustful. If I were the OP that would be the end of it for me, because I would never trust that person ever again. No matter if they are just "jokes", loyal people stay away from "jokers" like that. Don't do good things that look bad.

[@nopemanpsycho]

Fr

[@Heavygunner-yz9oj]

Always lawyer up, it doesn't matter if you think or if you've agreed apon and civil divorce. It can go south fast.

[@Jadae]

That was my first instinct. At that point, its self-preservation. She didn't care about a cojoined future, so why should he?

[@JohnJohnson-ym5wi]

Saul up

[@GrifoStelle]

100% She's not the bride he married, she's a bored wife sneaking around with a married man He's sure of a lot of things going into this marriage and he was wrong. If she were interested in a fair split she would have been honest, let him see the phone etc. She'll fight this to "prove" her innocence.

[@SourSyda]

The dude with the cheating wife shot himself in the foot. Confronting a cheater without solid information is a no-no, because they're very good at deflecting. He should've installed a back door on her phone to get a clearer picture or just bluffed that he had more information to pull a confession out of her. If you're confronting somebody who's capable of hiding a relationship on the side with no remorse always do your due diligence, because they'll feel no remorse about lying to your face either.

[@upbeat6168]

Love how hank is on the thumbnail while talking about two phones

[@grey984]

Simple... Ask the mans wife is he was sloshed that day

[@Simple_Minded]

when i think about it emotions are a big deal for women, so if she says it was all "emotional not physical", given how much they do care about emotions, it's pretty much cheating.

[@kungawoxako4104]

True

[@cnvdh3514]

OP - "I don't need a lawyer" (SpongeBob meme: few hours later) OP- "I'm going to use my mom's lawyer"

[@oliverdavies5233]

Who else just watched one of these videos and instantly got addicted 😂

[@raymak6129]

to all the boys in situations like this, make sure you stay calm , gather as much evidence as you can , dont show any changes , lawyer up, take away as much asset as you can , THEN dump her ass , ruin her reputation, she will be left pennyless and no friends or family

[@schizoidmeme5470]

SPECIFICALLY the Ruin part. Legit, send this shit TO HER PARENTS. Make sure she has ZERO support for these Evil Deeds. And sure, she'll probably have trashy friends. But, not like there ever gonna die with a family. They're gonna either be paralyzed with fear when their cats turn on them. Or already dead with their cats eating their faces. A fate WELL deserved.

[@boris7497]

i really love your channel man, keep up the good work :)

[@thecheeseballsmen8601]

Too right man

[@thecheeseballsmen8601]

Love this channel

[@stevenhardwick9922]

It's done. As he says, the emotional was there, for women that's as good as doing "the deed". She has left you and getting that elsewhere. Upsetting but walk away there is no recovery. I understand we all make mistakes but there has to be boundaries. How she saw your relationship then is how she would see it in the future.

[@gabrielalexanderkemp]

That's a finisher, it's over

[@elementaldamage1546]

Can never trust her again and yes tell everyone everyone your fine, they need to know the right to know.

[@themboys304]

The most sad and funny part is, every story when a girl cheats has the same explanation and story. I don’t even needed to predict here.

[@blizzardman7071]

Having being on the receiving end of infidelity. My advice is to brush yourself off and do the hardest thing (emotionally) in this situation. That is remove this individual permanently from your life. By the sounds of it no kids are involved that will make the separation easier. I am sure you don't want to build a life together on wonky foundations. Respect yourself and remove them out of your world.

[@karurosur1510]

For android phones, you can go see what you deleted text or pictures up to 30days

[@thecheeseballsmen8601]

Oh my god sue her that man who was in a affair with the op’s wife is a maniac

[@thecheeseballsmen8601]

I am replying to myself

[@thecheeseballsmen8601]

Yeet

[@thecheeseballsmen8601]

Bruh

[@thecheeseballsmen8601]

Yes myself I agree

[@HyperrealisticLuigi]

Hank in the thumbnail

[@evilsocietyHD]

10:35 ish, liar especially liars looks you straight in the eyes when lying, to see if you are buying their lies

[@chipsahoy4338]

Them gut feelings dont lie

[@Baambam1]

Get rid of her, OP.

[@qua_k]

The game is called Riders Republic for anyone wondering

[@mrgrimreaper94]

Once a woman is emotionally attached to another man she already checked out that marriage period GTFO with that ,get a good lawyer leave her with nothing ,bro u could have been raising his kid tf na

[@picklerick2534]

why is hank in the thumbnail 😂

[@animetalk8132]

I see you doing the vids today you normally doing then afternoon if I'm not mistaken

[@animetalk8132]

@@AmItheJerk I'm good I hope you're doing good as well

[@chaudx]

What kind of work environment is that people openly say "they'd do each other"? ...lamest excuse, no company would allow this kind of behavior...it's like fishing for harrasment law suits...

[@Cappucino__.]

Imagine if the guys name is Walter or his last names white

[@sougotokiwa8439]

Breaking Bad...lol

[@chrismc410]

No kids, sounds like minimal assets, if he can get proof of an emotional, physical or both affair,.he should be able to get out no alimony, no support, no nothing

[@oshanetulloch8740]

She lying 100% simple

[@Remembermyname324]

Hank shrader!!!

[@Sigmalicinius]

Divorce and leave. That’s it.

[@Sigmalicinius]

Absolutely go to his wife!

[@BeansMctuckin]

being cheated on by my long term girlfriend i learned if she had remorse shed tell you everythingh with honesty people mak mistakes lust takes over yes were still together stronger then ever but it took time but the thing that really set it in for me was her willingness to be truthful even if it hurt me because she cared. i never cheated back never even thought of it people have bad moments but they are not bad people this woman is evil burn it with fire

[@bonebush]

I GOT 2 PHONES

[@06sharhonda]

For the last story, there by means no way a MARRIED, male or female, should have any conversation like that! With anybody!!! There are no such things as"jokes" when you're talking about sleeping with someone. I'm with the OP. I don't believe either of them. They both had time to speak with each other at work to get their stories straight. And no need to bring this up to the mother-in-law bc she's going to side with her daughter. She totally slept with the coworker. Your best bet is to leave. You won't be able to trust her from now on and if you let this slide she'll just try to hide it harder next time.

[@marthajackson1388]

There is a complete version and yes they cheated and did the deed

[@GoonisMaximus]

Hank?

[@aljazskoktavcar5710]

yes

[@Bobbbyfishhhh]

Tell the wife

[@rachelsarmientotack]

Personally, I'd figure out why it happened between me and my partner. Then, I'd have a group discussion including all the people affected by this mess including the coworker's wife making it absolutely clear what we're all going through, what we all want, and what measures we're all willing to take to rebuild the broken trust. If we're all willing to work together to hold eachother accountable, I'd be willing to work through the infidelity. If we can't come to a mutual agreement, divorce/dissolution of the relationship would be the only option left. The coworker's wife would absolutely need to be involved in the solution, because I can't be the only person policing the situation between my partner and her husband. It would drive me insane. It would be all too easy to gaslight me into believing that I'm being unreasonable, paranoid, and unfair to my partner. I can't rebuild trust with my partner, if I'm feeling alone and paranoid 2 against me. It would be impossible.

[@richardchase9811]

open your eyes, she is cheating.

[@revanscurse7785]

She talked about doing it with another guy that’s the relationship. Done and over with.

[@tknier88]

An emotional affair is and affair Done, over Plus everything else is stupid sketchy and I would never trust her again Without trust there is no relationship Divorce and be happy you don't have kids

[@AKiller-jg2qj]

spotify is not working

[@newt1701]

This guy is so indecisive and useless,. He knows what is actually happening, but refuses to believe it or act on it. The guy needs to grow a spine, accept what he knows to be true, and start the divorce proceedings.

[@beavis-fu8369]

Op should just have gathered more evidence before confronting his wife. I know it's hard, but that way they can't make up excuses. By more evidence I mean screenshots of them sending pictures in a sexual manner. He dodged a bullet by finding out before they have a kid though.

[@rezebearz4501]

What’s the game your playing

[@franciscocv1995]

Joke or not. It's not a way to joke with married people. Lawyer up for splitting. Just cover bases like a animal in a cage she will be spiteful and angry. I'd ask his wife to be sure

[@Shabbadahagga768]

i got 2 phones

[@DERTHIX]

The guy playing the games in the background isn't very good 😕

[@jmjm1102013]

wich game is this?

[@w4tt58]

Bro. Just get a fucking divorce.

[@Sxl4ire]

I am allowed in a all day and a week

[@sky64723]

ok listen if its a coworker or manager is u know banging his wife it could be considered a crime few legal things need to be specified dont know the specifics

[@gamingcastro9297]

What is the game?

[@seandeans1279]

Women are truly some big ass babies

[@sebjik3570]

cool

[@mehreeplays1506]

The OP didn't even bother involving the dude's wife (In uncle Roger's voice) so weak... so weak..

[@McLovinMcFlurry]

This guy I might feel bad for if I didn’t already think he was gonna get back with her. This is a fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me scenario. I understand being hurt but I never understood not believing your eyes. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it’s a duck. I understand buying into that special one, the “she wouldn’t do that too me” but no girls special if they feel like they can get something from another dude that your not giving she will eventually most of the time go out and look for that until you provide it for her. Girls don’t know what they want this is the creature we are dealing with

[@lixxor6]

Dont marry, and don't date 304's

[@Remi6531]

what game is this

[@Koitern]

Riders Republic

[@Projekt_Nightmare]

The last story I would give her one more chance and if something like that happens again and she doesn't show him aswell then that would be the final straw

[@anren1190]

Nah, he said he will never fully believe her anymore, it's over even if she didn't do the deed . op just wants to deny the reality

[@rosejabami9156]

don't delete him or get a new job, maybe get a new husband.

[@rosejabami9156]

since you find the need to cheat on him a must

[@dawnbreaker5008]

Shut up H03

[@davidpearson1788]

Soi sáng tụt tt r

[@charlesrogers8420]

Stop simpin. She is a liar and cheat. Have some self respect and a spine. Move on.

[@garyschoonmaker1486]

I'm a scorched earth guy, tell the wife, .. do subtle questioning of mon...

[@garyschoonmaker1486]

Trust is gone.........

[@weiava7709]

I have a story, where do i text u

[@ajonbouye]

Yeah having the forbidden bedroom dance with another man. Makes her totally not guilty

[@alanaalvey4620]

That's funny

[@jehorphac5503]

A

[@DumMonke-w4b]

*F O R B I D D E N B E D R O O M D A N C E*

[@runics8052]

Why did i find forbidden bedroom dance funny

[@DumMonke-w4b]

@@runics8052 idk but it is

[@schizoidmeme5470]

God, the first update had me screaming, "DUDE!" Legit, it doesn't matter your PREVIOUS FEELINGS If she is willing to throw her life away for NOTHING She will do ANYTHING to hurt you by holding her accountable.

[@schizoidmeme5470]

After reading the end, the dude is fucked. Holy shit, the idiot honestly is doing EVERYTHING wrong. Ffs...

[@kodoku6855]

He shouldn't have showed his cards so soon. If he had played off like he had no clue as to what had happened and played toward a hacker being in her phone. He could've had her give him her phone so he could bring it to some "tech people" to secure it. Then checked it, if she didn't give it to him for that purpose then he has more reason to be suspicious and with physical acess to the phone could easily have made a back door and planted it in her phone without her knowing and then watched from there.

[@chronobretz9511]

Yeah honestly I would have shown the dudes wife the messages if this guy was comfortable enough to do this knowing she was married its not his first rodeo and won't be his last he has 100% cheated before

[@altinhps]

Continue with the divorce

[@kerbodynamicx472]

Nope, divorces benefits women much more than men, I guess he should just forget about this situation and get along with it

[@lapislazuli4066]

@@kerbodynamicx472 no tf

[@lixxor6]

@@kerbodynamicx472 no wtf

[@alfgwahigain5544]

If you met my ex you'd think she's the nicest person in the world. She's engaging and sweet and very kind. She was also a serial cheater who would gaslight me and lied to my face constantly with no remorse or regret. Her main focus was always on anger at getting caught, and how I knew what I knew, etc. Personally, I don't have a problem with telling the affair partners wife. Think about it - wouldn't you want to know if your partner was cheating? I feel that it's the right thing to do - however, some may not want to hear it and blame the messenger.

[@schizoidmeme5470]

Yup. Cheaters DESERVE to lose everything. Love means LOYALTY. Which is why I encourage Men to get a passports to find love. Because legit, until there are laws that protect men from Western Women's Ego-centric bullshit, they don't deserve Love and Happiness.

[@masonripton2574]

This is gaslighting at its finest

[@gamingwithpankajagarwal6773]

in a country where your assets are split after divorce the 1st thing he should do is gather proof that she cheated and get a divorce and walk out you deserve much better my guy

[@schizoidmeme5470]

Unfortunately Judges can and have thrown stuff like that out. Legit, don't get married to ANY women in the West. Get a Passport, and go over sees. You'll find someone who TRULY loves you and will never do THIS bullshit, there.

[@The_nega_ch1n]

lmfao dude is doomed, don't even feel bad

[@McLovinMcFlurry]

That’s what I’m saying. He caught her red handed and he’s still wondering is she did him dirty? Well next time she cheats on him at that point it’s on you

[@shawnvogel6055]

This guy has no balls! Leave her!

[@jamestan5105]

If it was me I'd be p.oed. "So, you think you can go behind my back to do this against me? I'd have a sad but honest revenge. I'd make sure she doesn't carry a job (I'd get both fired)

[@dykgamer6958]

that breaking bad reference doe... hits so hard 🧐

[@khure711]

Whenever you suspect your partner of cheating like the OP this is now your opportunity to burn them as hard as they have burned you. First is get a lawyer and start the process of protecting yourself and your assets. Second hire a private investigator and get a back door app the cheaters phone. This way you can gather all the information you need to prove unequivocally their infidelities. Lastly timing is key when confronting your affair partner. Figure out a time when the affair partner is going to be gone for a few days, schedule a little holiday retreat for them so they are out of the home. After they leave get the cheaters personal belongings into a storage unit, change the locks, file a no contact restraining order. Have the divorce papers and restraining order served. Remember the person in the home usually get the leverage over the home, the most valuable asset. And in the immortal words of the Cobra Kai, strike first strike hard no mercy

[@sync4183]

op should learn from some of the revenge stories on here because he had 0 evidence, and his wife is definitely lying about everything as well, she obviously toned everything down and took a couple hours so she could create the proper story in her head then relayed that information to her boss, this guy messed up so badly, and a divorce if it does happen may not go so well for him

[@sterlinggottlieb6575]

So, the op isn’t the jerk and he should lawyer up just in case it does go sour. Also having a lawyer involved could help defuse everything that’s going on, especially with kids involved.

[@blackhand8299]

First story: loved the fact that he was specific about the phone. First, it tells us he is likely a phone geek like me. Second, it's a subtle way of telling us what year this happened.

[@NeoRazgriz]

This guy is a doormat and an idiot. “Why should I get a lawyer after seeing this evidence?” Why didn’t he think of hiring a PI or tracking her/AP on his day off himself for hard proof? He thinks she is cheating, and has fairly good evidence pointing towards that; so why I’d OP leaving the house instead of her? She knows OPs default reactions to her so she is consciously acting the opposite to gaslight him. Also trickle-truthing; only admitting to what she knows he knows. If she gets “nasty” in the divorce then I don’t feel bad for OP at all! He did it to himself since he was unwilling to listen to advice and hire/speak to a lawyer. OP wants to ignore/believe it wasn’t true, that’s on him. He can’t blame anyone but himself when his life goes to sh*t as he ignored it, buried his head in the sand and allowed it to happen.

[@macandrews9548]

Don't be a simp!

[@islandsunset]

Taking a screenshot on snapchat alerts everyone in that chat. Maybe he didn't know that as he new to all of that

[@ObsidianFaux]

Should have told the guys wife, those two messed up, the husband didn’t do anything wrong

[@ThePikminCaptain]

Why is Hank on the thumbnail

[@DripSaul.308_-Onepiece]

Why is Hank Schreider on the thumbnail

[@devanrobison1683]

First

[@rodey6594]

Go and confront his wife, Eye for an Eye.

[@RVMaz]

I am worried this is a story on reddit wrote by my father because i have a half sister we share the same father but not the same mother and i dont know much about it but i know it ended in a divorce we rarely talk to her in fact her mother and father that has now moved to canada mostly does not allow communication with my father and me

[@terrancelittle3652]

OP is dumb

[@NotUrGuru]

To think you don’t need a lawyer for a divorce because you think it would be amicable is WILD!!! Lol you also though you could trust that person…how did that turn out.

[@bananarama6808]

Divorce that chic before getting praying Mantis'ed with a kid. Also tell the guys wife and her mother.... Horrible people deserve horrible outcomes..... Save your life and close the door on her slot face!