Andrew Tate #4 - (Psychopathic) - Therapist Reacts

[@lukachuthecat7063]

His method is pretty evident: 1) with a woman he immediately start subtly suggesting ideas to undermine her confidence (e.g. the implication that she must be crazy, that she must be lazy, and that her only value is that she’s attractive). 2) starts suggesting he is superior 3) starts subtly putting her down when she disagrees with him and starts subtly seeing what he can push her to do at this point ( you can’t lie). 4) appeal to emotions - men have it so hard. I have it harder than you tactics. 5) he doesn’t directly lie. He just dodged questions. (When asked about loyalty he switched it to talking about loyalty to god not a partner, and then with lying he switched to a question “why would I?”. 6) he’s going to reward her in some way if she gives responses that he determines to be desirable. It’s all calculated and formulaic. I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with him showing symptoms of narcissism and it stemming from trauma.

[@farangisehsani592]

You are amazing

[@alyssaw3412]

Just like a pimp does to his "products"

[@DirtyJamesUK]

His narcissism is very easy to see, even though its layered by other qualities. I immediately thought he was narcissistic months ago when I became aware of him. But I'm also aware that narcissism works, both as a boost of self esteem and to impress other. I'm similar to Tate in ways of intelligence and mental drive, but not being narcissistic actually held me back. Because the only family I've ever had, my mum and my sister, both have untreated personality disorders and abused the youngest child, me. I'm highly intelligent (like I believe Tate is) but I'm the opposite to a narcissist. I'm an empath and hate narcissists. The reason why Tate resonated with me was because I could see first hand how narcissism could possibly help me be successful. It gave me hope in a horrible world stacked against me. But it would make me a nasty narcissistic b*stard. Even though women online regularly call me one without me ever being diagnosed or them knowing anything about me. Women tend to be very nasty people when they've turned bitter. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Funny thing is, those same women have started publicly downing good men and only liking toxic ones. So if I wasn't actually a good person, there is easily enough motivation to convince me to be toxic.

[@geode_rocks]

Thank you for your clear analysis. It is very entertaining to whiteness his followers defending him on interview videos. It is also to my sadness to learn that so many are dazzled by him.

[@hawkwardart]

he ain’t a shoe salesman as he claimed

[@saladmonkey5901]

"Oh nooo the toxic male is being forced to not be a dick all the time" one of my favourite Dr Honda quotes 😂

[@jescuz1]

I really appreciated this quote too !!! Hahaha gotta love Dr. Honda !!

[@lisa123karlsson5]

It was worth a strike😂

[@leonyfourie3792]

Male loyalty and female loyalty is different. This statement says it all.

[@LadyBlacksheep]

Put it on a mug!

[@garlynjenniskens6466]

totally!

[@ckwanita907]

She talks to this man for an hour? 😭 She's a saint.

[@BexEtcArt]

Notice how he’s the only one responding emotionally and how calm she is 😂

[@lauma4207]

He meaning the Dr?🤣🤣😂

[@abbiealverez2960]

Funny that this is coming from the man who claims men have no emotions and females are more emotional yet proceeds to say things like men have the highest suicidal rates but yet depression doesn't exist now you tell me how that is even humanly possible

[@3raatein94]

She is calm because she is on a date and not living with him 24x7. But for someone who is their romantic patner just imagine the amount of emotional and mental pain. He reminds me of my husband who has BPD and emerging symptoms of NPD.

[@JesusChrististheonlyway777]

She knows how cold and prideful he is , that's why she's calm.

[@DirtyJamesUK]

That's Andrew's style though. He's always like that. Not that haters will consider the truth. And women are often calm even in attack mode and know how to manipulate situations. They fake cry a lot to swing things in their favour.

[@silviayantuche5791]

I tried my best not to know nothing about him because all the things he triggers. However I’m perfectly fine looking at this through the eyes of Dr Kirk. Thank you for creating a safe and informative space to learn and cope with this specific stuff

[@mariemoncada6980]

Same

[@katieism90]

Yes, I was just saying that to my SO! Thank you for saying this. My gratitude for Dr. Kirk's content is high :)

[@spde]

Pity I can't thumbs up this hard enough!!!

[@adegaming3998]

@@sabias3932 you really couldn’t help but insult him… people are so pathetic online 😂😂

[@amandaly2358]

Absolutely!!! I’m so grateful for Dr. Krik’s videos

[@giovannamoro8564]

The woman looks and act in a mature way while he seems like an hysterical, terrified, fragile little boy.

[@PENH5428]

Absolutely. She is way out of his league .

[@maryjanekapteyn8964]

Don’t forget arrogant

[@Overseer2579]

He acts and speaks like my ex best friend did in our last conversation (granted, this was over text, but still). Terrified he doesn’t have a grip over you, so he starts insulting you, doubling down in that department, because his ego is so fragile and breakable that his confidence depends on having people under his thumb who just accept whatever he says without question, and do what he says without question (qualities of a cult leader or a gaslighter, I.e. Mother Gothel from Tangled)

[@giovannamoro8564]

@@Overseer2579 exactly ! He needs dr. Honda asap .

[@CorporateG0th]

Honestly just seeing the first few seconds of him is enough without even paying attention to the conversation. He's consciously trying to stay perfectly still in this cramped uncomfortable pose. He is not at all relaxed or confident rn, he's really tense and anxious. His tone of voice too now that I think of it. Guess that's why he's going a mile a minute with all these theories of his. Completely glossing over her or the date.

[@SwedBaben]

Something I find very ironic about Andrew Tate is that he markets himself as a pickup artist, whilst 99% of all women find him repulsive

[@k.hotting4851]

Exactly! I really don't get the appeal. He's loud, rude, physicly unattractive and misogynistic.

[@CherryFlower24]

if he didn't have money, those girls wouldn't have touched him with a 6meter pole XD

[@stst77]

That’s why 99% of his followers are young boys even 10-12 year olds. The only women that I’ve seen that support him are a small minority of single moms who say they are showing their sons Andrew’s videos to help their sons become men, but I am guessing these women probably are as dysfunctional as he is. But a LOT of moslim women support him because he converted to islam and some of the things he teaches are compatible with their religion and they are just ignoring the stuff that isn’t compatible.

[@stst77]

@@CherryFlower24according to him (which is not a reliable source) he has always been able to get girls even when flat broke BUT I believe it’s because he only goes after girls who are very vulnerable and from dysfunctional families. He’s not going after strong confident girls from good families. He’s a pimp and this is what pimps do. The find girls desperate for love, quickly make them fall in love snd then make them sell themselves to give their money to the pimp. Andrew isn’t looking for relationships. He’s looking for broken young, co-dependent girls who will work for him and give him their money.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

He is selling something else, so he needs to keep his audience isolated enough and miserable enough to buy what he is selling. It's perfect.

[@CHK12319]

Omg he is so cringe. The thing Ive noticed about these manosphere men is that theyre *convinced* this worldview will get them women but the worldview itself is so unattractive that it kills any chance they could have had. It’s so obvious that this woman is super turned off by him.

[@hazelpret2531]

andrew tate is deeply insecure and has strong emotional and psychological issues. hence, he keeps trying to convince himself and others how dominant and powerful he is. dominant and powerful people dont need to remind themselves and others how dominant and powerful they are

[@elizak1459]

Yes he just keeps talking how powerful he is. Basically in his every answer. Really powerful people don't advertise it

[@OffbeatsMusic]

Word up to both comments. One’s product advertises itself.

[@Kinjo7]

It's called Narcissistic Personality Disorder

[@ThisMelMel]

Grandiosity and superiority. If he didn’t do it though, it wouldn’t be observable. Interesting.

[@kaitsa111]

@@Kinjo7 grandiose narcissist.

[@susannehuber3996]

I absolutely love it. As a woman with an engineering degree 📜 I have to work with these kind of men. I started hating men and I never ever want to have a relationship again. Seeing the men I hate getting analyzed makes me slowly feel empathy for them and my hate gets a little bit smaller.

[@allibell6795]

Same, I'm in a data analyst role and it's hard.

[@ksussl]

I work in Microbiology and I find that younger generations of men are so much easier to get along with than my own. They treat me like a person, it's refreshing. I know that sounds horrible, but my whole life I've been treated like a piece of meat and like I should just shut up and listen to the men folk, and now a couple generations later men are actually listening to what I say.

[@dianaselnekovicova948]

I have an engineer degree and know kind of what you mean but I always felt that it is minority of men. Which ist still very dangerous 😂and I definitely agree that those kinds of man are much more in older generations (like some of professors)

[@Fawn_Musics]

It’s hard ey, I want to stay soft and open to men but men often treat women so badly it’s so hard to stay soft and grieve it and stay open. I appreciate dr Honda so so so much and gives me growing compassion for mens injuries

[@ncg89]

OMG same! Although I’m a software engineer and actually like the men at work but you have to be kind to work at my company. It’s part of the interview process. I hated men more when I only knew them through dating and the internet and my family. But this does make me feel really bad for guys like this after watching this video. I wonder how this is going to change my interactions with them.

[@energymaven7537]

26:33 This is negging. He's essentially equating her with a cheater, to simultaneously belittle her, put her on the defensive, and redirect the debate before she can poke holes in his statement. His tone and demeanor don't convey that he's triggered. He knows she isn't a cheater simply because she started making a hypothetical statement for the purposes of debate - his whole purpose here is to belittle, manipulate, and control. He doesn't even care if she disagrees with him, he wants her time and attention. His goal is notoriety and the appearance of dominance. Other men do this with the goal of grooming a submissive sexual and/or financial partner.

[@elnazdavoudi]

Dr. Honda, what you are doing takes courage. To stand against the crowd and to educated the public. Your contribution has so much more impact on the world than a scientific paper in some journal. And I admire you for that.

[@jduque4190]

I second that ❤

[@cristinacampos966]

True 💖

[@deadams8905]

@@tonyanzalone384 Tate is t really universally despised. He has a cult like following that freak out anytime anyone says anything bad about him which makes is probably pretty annoying to deal with.

[@andedom]

@@tonyanzalone384 I think it was braver of him to take on the Amber Heard trial. But doing something that you know will bring you any level of unwanted heat takes a level of bravery, I guess. And I think that the OP was mainly talking about his commentary in general

[@hui975]

​@@deadams8905 they don't freak out. projection is when you apply your character traits to someone else and I'm afraid that's probably what's happening here. his fans are respectful and logical

[@karleegordon8907]

He’s gotta daddy issues, his dad left the family and moved to a different country when he was a kid (hugeeeee rejection). It explains a lot, however isn’t an excuse for the vile BS he’s trying to convince young boys of. My dad grew up in a household where all of his siblings were the result of rape, his father was an abusive alcoholic, and my dad had to start defending his mom at the age of 14. The difference is, he grew up resenting that rather than repeating that cycle.

[@cassavepiece]

No no, his mom divorced his dad and moved him and siblings to another country. his dad was a chess grandmaster and travelled the country a lot and Tate was considered a chess prodigy until the divorce as his dad was his chess coach.

[@joshua2510]

What are you talking about 😂

[@RR.LL.3B]

@@cassavepiece yeah what does that change he still left

[@ST-yc7uj]

@@cassavepiece he was an absent father

[@mandastarlight699]

​@@cassavepiece yes but he was also abusive. Tate himself stated he had to learn early on how to defend himself after being shoved by his father as a toddler... watch behind the bastards

[@peacefreedom4930]

Yesterday a male family member told me “ men lie, that’s what they do “. He was very nonchalant as if it was a given and acceptable. As I continued the conversation he was extremely upset by examples of women being dishonest and he wanted women to pay consequences for lying, cheating, manipulating men. Furthermore, he tied mens bad behavior back to women every time. He said things like “ women know how to push men’s buttons, women keep men from being good fathers “. It’s as if he believes men have no responsibility to control their own actions and should never be held accountable. I think society is indoctrinating us because there are so many men expressing these beliefs. It’s crazy to me. How are men blaming women for everything under the sun.

[@PENH5428]

I’m not Christian but I heard someone say that the Bible blames Eve for making Adam eat the apple ( original sin) … Eve.. evil … so is that where the idea of women being evil coming from ?

[@aarfan44]

It’s sad because that type of male is so common. They see the world through the way they are. He’s telling on himself, period. He doesn’t speak for other men and I’d love a decent male to disagree with his misogynistic comments. Women aren’t to blame for males’ behavior and men need to take responsibility for themselves. I know what you mean… why do so many of these males have this mentality? It’s pathetic.

[@bigglock43x74]

whats funny is Andrew Tate says the exact opposite saying men need to take accountability for everything

[@Kikkarlin]

Had a similar experience where a guy's response to hearing what a man had done to me, he made the remark 'men are pigs' and I disagreed and talked about how while most perpetrators were men that it wasn't all men which was why I wanted to figure out why those perpetrators were men. And that got him to accuse ME of generalising 😅 as if his initial reaction had not been generalising.

[@OffbeatsMusic]

@@bigglock43x74 Agreed. It is funny.

[@feedyourhead731]

"I'm a terrible person and so is everyone else! " Good stuff my guy. I guess this is how morally bankrupt people console themselves.

[@cato7919]

I love how she’s handling herself! Generally they have these conversations with women who feed into these beliefs, who are the other side of the same coin.

[@andedom]

I like that she feeds into toxic masculinity enough that he sees that she is susceptible to his manipulation. However, she also knows enough to call out a lot of it. It led to a good conversation.

[@Dauerglotzer123]

Sje agrees with him enough for him to not write her off as a feminazi or put her in an unacceptable box so harder to argue

[@andedom]

@@Dauerglotzer123 exactly…

[@aleksismil]

In the later part she will agree with a lot of things he is saying. Her notions are rather conservative and patriarchal as well.

[@OffbeatsMusic]

@@aleksismil :-/

[@rabbitblue1083]

It’s not boring and people need to hear this, pls continue Dr Honda!

[@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus3]

its important to specify that people not use this video as a generic dismissal of someone who might look up to tate- its knowing why they look up to him that is where the value is, cause if you end up taking this aggressive stance of "no! he's x, y, z" its not going to change anything. people already don't like the guy so having people say all these things wont make any difference. but knowing the things they look up to- helps you understand ways to have conversations with them that allow you to offer wider and far more mature wisdom. cause this guy is basically an underdeveloped child in an adults body, so underdeveloped children will look up to him like a "cool big brother" whereas, if you're an adult, you'd realize he's just a loser with massive insecurity problems.

[@NorthernExposure20]

Its amazing to see a well adjusted man react to Andrew Tate. I feel bad for this woman who has to go on a date with him.

[@Hellothere-gg8id]

She invited him tho. Don't put it in a way that makes it sound like someone forced her to do this

[@NorthernExposure20]

@@Hellothere-gg8id lol as if that makes Andrew Tate more tolerable.

[@Hellothere-gg8id]

@@NorthernExposure20 it depends on how you view him

[@NorthernExposure20]

@@Hellothere-gg8id true. You could be blind and deaf

[@svtcarat6386]

​​@@Hellothere-gg8ido what do you think of him? Do you think what he says is credible?

[@KibaOuji]

A little note about what is feminine and masculine because of our biology, the concept of "All women are good mothers and nurturing just because it is in their nature." It's very very toxic on its own. People tend to discredit or diminish cases of abuse perpetrated by mothers because of this.

[@ms-corleone]

Fair point!

[@rainbow9987]

Omg yes just because your women it does not mean you’re going to be a great mother.

[@cateyu5547]

💯

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Patriarchy infantilizes women.

[@swinkee__22]

This is a very scary phenomenon that is happening. As a freshman in college, I’ve seen a lot of young men fall into these toxic ideologies, one of them being my brother. To see these types of men so readily demean and objectify women is so very sad. I’ve tried to reason with them but it’s always a losing battle… they’re always on the defense, always looking to win and not understand. So sad.

[@willclark4449]

yea well they are probably tired of being used by woman who run off with rich older dudes in the end anyway. There is a REASON its happening.

[@19Slim68]

Maybe it's because we live in a society where we empowered women so much, to a point where we demonized men. Women, especially in the West, have no clue how privilege they to be in the West. Female oppression in the West is a myth.

[@32dramaqueen]

@@willclark4449 It is predicted that by 2030, 45% of women will be single and childless. You think men are the only ones with dating struggles? Dating struggles are no excuse for misogyny, misandry, or toxic ideologies.

[@michaelvenne9386]

There is a possibility that your brother feel this way because your parents were not good parents. And I target the mother as with the father.

[@margaretr5701]

I feel sad, seeing progress undone, seemingly going back to square one.

[@herbandiva]

Kevin Samuels initially came out focusing on the betterment of black men and he didn't become big until he started denigrating black women.

[@lavinder11]

He said he knew he would be more popular telling incels what they want to hear.

[@monical1778]

Never heard of this guy before watching your videos. My boyfriend told me he is actually living in our country, Romania. He made some statements about how much he likes Romania because here "the corruption is at hand of everybody, not just powerful people" and because "rules about sexual assault and prostitution are much more relaxed". I am in disbelief!

[@tulip5210]

oh god, and i'm friends with a lot of romanians, that feels so insulting to romanians and just disturbing of him to think

[@Foto22417]

I wonder what he thinks now after being arrested for those disgusting things...I truly hope he won't get away with any of it. Fingers crossed.

[@darklausal23]

I always thought his father was selfish traveling to chess tournaments, leaving his wife and kids behind, coming home and leaving again blaming the mom for being the reason he could not stay...I think that's why his attitude towards women is what it is, he drank the dad's kool-aid

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Classic narcissist dad.

[@itsrainingmuffinss]

I couldn't resist myself and I read some comments on the original video. Should not have done that... Very weird and disconcerting to see the way they were talking about him, like he is the ideal. It's like stepping into another world.

[@Kwd123]

That’s so scary. This whole thing is just so scary.

[@Coastpsych_fi99]

Yep

[@Hellothere-gg8id]

I don't support everything Tate says but there are many statements that I agree with

[@dantehajime709]

The minds of our youth have been under attack for a long time, what`s scary is the majority of people who are ignorant to this and dont stand up for it.

[@miahershkowitz2632]

I’ve been watching this with my teenage daughter and I think it is so wonderful for her to hear this. AT has a huge teenage following and she finds it upsetting, but these videos are helping put it all into context.

[@janefenning]

Great idea!! Good luck out there parents♡

[@Gracie.Gardener]

Good job momma! 🎉

[@Sarah-gm9tq]

Amazing parenting. Very important 🙌🏼

[@m-4136]

you must be the coolest mom out there! raising her right to be a critical intelligent well informed young woman congrats

[@miahershkowitz2632]

@@m-4136 this is so validating and kind of you to say

[@rosiefication]

Loving this series, it’s been cathartic to unpack this man with you

[@hannamiller8749]

Couldn’t say it better myself

[@Tommy-se8xc]

Totally agree

[@lisaess6514]

I’m loving it too while being absolutely appalled at this human. I didn’t know much about him before this and half the time I’m sitting here with my mouth hanging open. Wtf.

[@OffbeatsMusic]

@@lisaess6514 Same here and I am really glad that I didn’t take the time to go exploring on my own first. That’s some time I would have dearly wished back.

[@DirtyJamesUK]

It's crazy. You should really do your own research and come to your own conclusions. There are many good things about this analysis but I've spotted a few concerning things that I don't agree with. I'm currently at the 22 minute mark and Dr Honda is telling us how we grew up in a sexist society. I'm 43 years old was raised by a mother and a big sister and the only sexism I've ever know is female superiority and all men are trash. People just do not seem to accept that society has promoted female supremacy for a long time. A man saying all women are trash is a misogynist. The vast majority of people don't even know the word misandrist exists!!! That speaks volumes. I had a good education, I have a vast vocabulary and I like words and numbers. I've even been on TV quiz shows for Maths and English, and even I only learned the word misandry in the last year or so. We blatantly live in a female supremacy!

[@carrietobey6091]

There's something about Andrew Tate's speaking voice that is so grating to me. Not just the odd, forceful cadence, but just the sound of it. Ugh, like fingernails on a chalkboard to me.

[@Chromebiscuit]

He's a great impersonation of a badly dressed junkyard bulldog

[@heliosphere9789]

Absolutely!! Gives me the goose bumps... referring to women as "females" like women are animals. It also has something slightly robotic - devoid of any warmth or soul...

[@maryjanekapteyn8964]

Many con artists, narcissists and psychopaths have been known to adopt word salad - trying to sound intelligent when not really saying anything. The person becomes confused and gives attention to learn more. Another way to create fascination is to speak differently in cadence, accent and speech patterns. It’s a luring and intelligent signaling tactic.

[@margaretr5701]

@@maryjanekapteyn8964 He mixes his accents up, sometimes British, sometimes American. He uses different accents in different video's. It doesn't make him any more credible, just the opposite and certainly not alluring, just irritating.

[@jip230]

@@maryjanekapteyn8964 I think you've nailed it and why Andrew Tate speaks in such an irritating manner. When someone speaks really fast, changes accents, and says much of nothing but seems concerned with sounding smart, odds are you're dealing with a psychopath or someone trying to scam you. This is spot on with Tate

[@zoebird5990]

I"m really enjoying this series. Please keep doing it! It's not boring at all :)

[@goosebump801]

🙌💯 Definitely not boring! Tate says such provocative things, and Dr. Kirk’s insights and analysis make so much sense. In a way, I think watching this series is helping me process my pain from growing up female in an extremely patriarchal society in the 1970’s. Hearing the core tenets of toxic masculinity stated so openly and explained from a psychological perspective helps me better understand how those men might have come to say and do the things they did. @Psychology In Seattle I hope you continue this series. Just as your commentary on BPD during the Depp/Heard trial gave me insight and some compassion for what may be driving Amber to manipulate and commit such horrific acts on those she loves, this series is giving me insight and compassion for the core fragility of the toxically masculine 💐

[@OffbeatsMusic]

@@goosebump801 So well put. I second all of it. I also grew up in the 70s and had a pretty untraditional male role model (my dad was an opera singer), but I still grew up in the society into which I was born, so this really is cathartic and for me figuring out sociological/psychological puzzles like this totally helps to tame the reactiveness my protective parts have grown to be on a hair-trigger response about out of necessity. These series help soothe some of these parts - at least for this “female” over here. 😊

[@Xxrocknrollgod]

This guy really thinks he’s smart. It’s utterly hilarious. School gets you no where if you’re not serious about the truth. He’s indoctrinated .

[@almahartman6487]

Yes please! Please do more! It’s very interesting and helpful, it really really is 😊

[@anitapeter1338]

You are absolutely right about his childhood trauma. I have watched several interviews about his father and it all starts with him about how he views women.

[@levantineking98]

Lol the minute Dr. Honda said “cult leader” I instantly thought about Tate’s “war room”.

[@JayKahlid]

He says in the same video that all you need to be a high value woman is beautiful, now he changes it to your actions. Be foreal.

[@izabelawyllie9996]

I actually can't believe how much my anxiety spikes when I listen to him. I have so much appreciation for Dr.Honda's insights.

[@michelewitte]

Completely agree.

[@TibetanAlkmist]

This may get buried Dr Honda/Kirk but i think it’s worth it to say. I think it’s wonderful that you chose to do KZbin and not strictly stay in academia. One of the roles of being a clinician is as an educator, and not just only in the classroom. You are reaching so many more people and having a far larger impact on society as an individual. Kudos to your bravery and heart. Secondly, please do more reactions of this guy. Theres a lot to learn here. I also find it funny that you did 4 parts and only got through 16 mins. 😂

[@saly4762]

Any man who must say, "I am the King", is no true king.' In the eternal words of Tywin Lannister.

[@carmensavu5122]

The Tater Tot is the court jester.

[@vividwolf6247]

I really appreciate this type of content because as a woman I faced a lot of toxic masculinity and currently facing a lot around it and it honestly make me feel hopeless so it helps to hear from a man that this isn't okay and us women are not alone and so isolated in this world of only us noticing these traumatizing acts towards ourselves and other women. It's a very lonely feeling at times. It's nice to hear a man who understands this craziness

[@vinnie4v277]

What are you doing to get out of that toxic masculinity situation?

[@vividwolf6247]

@@vinnie4v277 lots of talks around it if it's possible and/or boundries both with them and with myself too, to not get warped up in it because it's not worth my peace.

[@rishruck]

let me add my own voice as a man to agree with every syllable of Dr. Honda's words. I'm sorry for the abuse you've had to endure from men. This guy is an absolute disgrace as a human being and i shudder to think he is influencing young men with such self serving toxic truly dangerous bullshit. He claims to be "religious, a christian-pretty sure he's never read the sermon on the mount. or anything more intellectually challenging than a box of Captain Crunch.

[@chienism]

Dr. Honda, I wish I magically had access to your Andrew Tate videos when I was growing up. My friends and I spent a lot of unsupervised time on early social media (IRC, mailing lists, forums, imageboards, and others) in the 90's-00's. I saw the path some of them went down over time from content like this as we grew up-- for some it snowballed into them defending Gamergate or their actual terrible behavior towards women once they were adults. Back then, I didn't have the words to understand why I felt bad when people on the internet would insist that "men scientifically want to dominate women" and other nonsense. Even after I completed my degree in science myself and could provide scientific data rebutting their claims, I'd find that some people would continue to mansplaining that the only reason why women wear makeup is to attract men's attention. I really hope these videos get seen by more people as I think what you're saying about these sexist cults is really important. Thank you for all that you do!

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

I'm curious as to what you have found scientifically. Do explain as much as you can.

[@elizak1459]

What Dr Honda says is like music to my ears. So much common sense and consideration! He and Andrew Tate feel like different species

[@energymaven7537]

Dr. Honda, you are coming to this without knowing anything about AT and it says more about your character that you give him such benefit of the doubt about how he probably had more gray in his viewpoints before being "made into a monster" by supportive feedback from other boys & men. AT's early public figure career was stalled when a video that he recorded himself surfaced of him looking at his girlfriend's text messages, berating her, and beating her. He was already a monster. Our society is well-built to create monsters like him and then give them a platform as a reward. He is the product of society, his own upbringing, and his poor choices - as not everyone who is abused will become an abuser. I grew up in a racist, sexist, homophobic, violent household and I refuse to follow in my family's footsteps. AT is good at getting attention by using shock value and mixing enough pop psychology into his word salads to sound passingly credible - just like his weirdly selective British accent. What fascinates me is the connection between the ATs of the world and their audience; how they twist the words of feminists who've always said that sexism harms men into a message claiming men are victims of the world, resting on the grievance that not enough women will sleep with them. They simultaneously brag about how stoic men naturally are while lamenting the very real stress that comes with having to limit their emotions in patriarchal society transmuted into a vague claim that they just can't be themselves. I suppose that's how they hook you - by mixing a little truth into the lie.

[@lisaess6514]

Yikes, I looked that up and between that and some of his other statements about abusing women he needs to be locked up and deplatformed everywhere.

[@deathitself6985]

If you are talking about that belt video the woman literally came out twice and said it was BDSM foreplay there is even a video of her calling Andrew a pussy for not doing it like a man.. People who hate Tate will take any negative story and run with it disregarding the truth completely. If you want to dunk on Tate you have more than enough actually true material to do so but if you have proof it wasnt the same woman then sure

[@lisaess6514]

@@deathitself6985 thanks for saying that. He’s still a pathetic excuse for a human but if it was consensual at least that’s one less reason to despise him.

[@jabeoh9490]

About the beating allegations, the woman herself in the video had to come out not only ONCE, but TWICE to debunk those lies. But of course, you’re not gonna take the day of time to actually do your research, and see that theres 2 sides to every story, and you will keep running with this narrative that Andrews a woman beater, because you already have your mind set. You will turn a blind eye to the fact that the woman in the video came out and defended Tate of these allegations.

[@OffbeatsMusic]

I appreciated your comment and my only divergent take is that I think that Dr. Honda, per usual, was giving space for error in his understandings of facts of the subject matter, not giving credit to AT for having been a better human than he appears.

[@gab1888]

Every time I hear people say this BS that women are nurturing, men are dominant and lees caring I die a little inside. So, thank you dr Honda for your voice, you don’t know how much it means to me hearing, especially from a man, that this things are not true.

[@carmensavu5122]

I'm wondering if he hasn't met a woman who was not nurturing. Like me.

[@myra3266]

Holy crap. I read through the comments of the original video and people love this guy. They’re cheering him on for what he says and says it’s all true and give him props for controlling her. What kind of crap are we encouraging 🤦🏽‍♀️ She asked if he though she was high value and said “you’re hot so yes” what issss thhiiissss 😭😭😭😭 reading the comments of him winning this conversation makes me want to bang my head against the wall 🙇🏽‍♀️ I hate it 😭 we’ll I’ve dated men like this so it’s not hard to believe that people think this is how the world should work… but it definitely makes me want to cry.

[@MovieReview69]

Find a Simp and he will cry with you

[@mrtambourineman6107]

Your thoughts become your actions, your actions become your behaviour, your behaviors become your character, you character defines YOU.

[@jessicaflo5126]

The cult dynamic reminds me of the Duggars. Its opening my mind on how it enables everyone into a dysfunctional dynamic.

[@iTzAniraKbiTch]

It’s NOT boring. We need more people like you on YT. This is awesome!

[@allied4927]

Congratulations, you won the date! You won every conversation and weren't creepy and annoying at all!

[@alinaaikoolentaa8510]

Andrew must see this situation as a possibility to assert his domination, not only in the eyes of the woman, but in the eyes of the audience. If he wanted to actually date her, he wouldn't be so terrible. It can be seen how through the conversation the mood is getting all the time tenser and tenser. At first, she was open to the conversation, but as the conversation proceeds I think she is getting more unconfortable with Andrew. I admire her strenght and patience. Anyway, I would like to see more of your thoughts on Andrew Tate so please continue making these videos!

[@24zmofoz-metalzone93]

She did say at the end of the interview that she wants to see Andrew again. Is she truly uncomfortable??

[@alinaaikoolentaa8510]

@@24zmofoz-metalzone93 Okay, I didn't catch that. In that case, I think that she doesn't respect herself a lot. It seems though that she (at least) partly shares his world views. 🤔

[@nellyc3669]

@@alinaaikoolentaa8510 & what is the problem with her agreeing with some of his points? Who are you to sit there and say that she doesn’t respect herself because she partly agrees with him? Just because people don’t agree with you doesn’t mean they don’t respect themselves, she said that she’s a traditional woman & there’s nothing wrong with that.

[@ssjbreezy1010]

@@nellyc3669 facts

[@angellayaright9009]

@@nellyc3669 It really depends on what they are agreeing on. Just like if someone agrees to say be murdered or maimed (it happens), even though it's consensual, that doesn't mean others won't think that person must have mental health issues for agreeing to it. Same for people believing cult members that knowingly drink poisoned kool-aid must have been brainwashed by the cult leader. Many women that end up with men like him do so because they have a history of being abused and either think this is 'normal' or they don't think they deserve better because their self esteem has been diminished over years and years of abuse. Don't tell other people they aren't allowed to have opinions. You sound as arrogant as Andrew.

[@StarFire-fk9jr]

DEFINITELY NOT BORING. This made me feel heard as a woman. And makes me feel validated, and not crazy. In the sexism, I have experienced from men all through out my life. THANK YOU 💖

[@Generationalwealth94]

Go do the dishes woman

[@lifefan1]

​@@Generationalwealth94 Go kill a lion, man!

[@lilyanne7528]

Not boring at all Dr. Honda. It's always a treat to watch one of your clips. Also though, you are a good role model when it comes to topics such as these. Thanks so much for sharing your time & insight. : ) Thanks, - L

[@purplepeopleeater6880]

I'm so lucky. Both my grown sons are reasonably secure in their masculine identity. If Andrew were my son I would be devastated for him. He is so frail and hurting

[@danielwalley6554]

Don't mistake people like Andrew as frail and hurting. They might once have been, as small children when it all began, but they've grown into scorpions. There's no healing to be had - the clay of their personality is already set.

[@oliviannejb1318]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR DOING THESE!!!! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH YOU'RE HELPING WOMEN LIKE ME TO UNDERSTAND THAT HIS Behavior AND Beliefs ARE NOT OF THE MAJORITY REGARDLESS OF HOW MUCH MEN LIKE HIM TRY TO CONVINCE WOMEN THAT THEY ARE. T.H.A.N.K. Y.O.U!!! And please continue to educate us! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@SableRain]

Please, keep going with your analysis, Dr. Honda. My husband is influenced by the manosphere. I have a little girl, and I'm pregnant with a little boy. I have a lot of wounds from growing up with a father with toxic masculine traits. I am terrified of how my husband's beliefs may affect my children.

[@32dramaqueen]

I'm not a parent, but my parents had opposing beliefs on many things. I was exposed to many different perspectives and have formed my own opinions as a result. I don't know if this helps you, but based on my experience i would recommend telling your children your own beliefs, even if it aggressively mismatches with your husband's. If you live by your values, your children will see a good example of a confident woman who isn't afraid to be herself and not listen to the values of the manosphere even if your husband is telling them that women should do the opposite.

[@taranudelman4935]

Is there any possibility of taking your children and leaving him? It's not a safe environment for you or them

[@Mila-Sapphire]

You have wounds from your childhood so now you're going to willingly subject your children to the same wounds??? What we allow is what will continue.

[@sofya6553]

If you can get to a place where your husbands beliefs dont trigger you and you can poke fun at them, then you can teach your children to take beliefs like these lightly. If your husband is directly mistreating you then that's a different problem.

[@katm7255]

Why are you married to a horrible man? Why expose your children to this?

[@bjarbj944]

I really really like this analysis series because as a woman I’ve wondered my entire life where these people are coming from with their ideas. You really enlightened me and I could see myself viewing interactions with these types of men in a completely new way in the future. Please finish the series I can’t wait to hear more from you on this.

[@spde]

PLEASE 👏 DO 👏 MORE 👏 Dr. Honda, please think of us women out here being berated every time we deign to suggest that women have value!!! We LOVE this content - it literally gives us the power to go out into the world and not only understand why men act like this, but also what we can do about it!! This is absolute GOLD!! I literally click on each of these videos the minute the notification arrives!! Please keep teaching us - these insights are fascinating!

[@lauma4207]

Tate speaks for women this guy speaks for women

[@lauma4207]

4:32 men are liars babe😅😉 ... study the "Dr." Reaction closely He didn't have to react to that. If only he had half a brain cell. Or was telling the truth he would just watch bro was trigger because tate said most men lie bro all people lie

[@AliveBoldTV]

Please continue with this series, it is so relevant to our culture right now to discuss this topic. Not because AT is problematic, but because there are a lot of (young) people who are struggling and suffering in these echo chambers. Ultimately, it’s about wanting true connection, but it’s kind of hard to achieve with that type of messaging taking you further out in the tide.

[@cinni4858]

Keep 'em coming doc. This is the crossover I didn't know I needed. Thank you for providing a clear rational perspective on this crazy wormhole that people find themselves easily slipping into

[@spde]

I pray (as an atheist) that the woman in this video sees THIS video 😌 Universe, make it so! 😍🌌

[@Tcheera]

I have never been so delighted to have never heard of a person before this series came out. I mean I know there are tons of "manosphere" dudes out there who have WAY too much of a platform and that I sigh every time I see them pop up on social media or anywhere -- but blech. I kinda hope I never hear of him again after this.

[@margaretr5701]

I believe he's in jail in Romania for trafficking, holding a woman hostage and other nefarious behaviour. News I was glad to hear about regarding Tate. He went to Romania because he felt their law would be lax, compared to US law. It seems he was wrong.

[@jip230]

Unfortunately, that isn't the way any of this works. In de-platforming, 10 young men will pop up in his place because they see the formula is effective. It's about busting out the floor each and every time to reach new levels of depravity and take as many young men (and their money) along with them

[@secret_badass]

“Oh no! The toxic male is being forced to not be a d*ck all the time” 🤣🤣🤣 This has to my favorite thing Kirk has ever said

[@Srsrsrst]

Agreed

[@rishruck]

That made my day!

[@bumperchars5700]

I am very much enjoying someone masterfully analyzing this manosphere narrative. Seems like this series should be more popular... oh wait, that'd require self reflection from a couple billion immature men. Edit: more please! These are great to watch with my partner :D

[@saramcroberts699]

You’ve mentioned studies and research done on subjects, has he done research - here’s the thing: he refuses to acknowledge research and data because you can find those studies on google and google lies. He is impossible to talk to

[@marvelencyclopedia]

Yeah! Hasanabi told him statistically women are much better drivers and Tate is like "statistics won't change my mind, it's all about my perception" That's the crazy part about these guys. They don't believe facts, but talk about "logic and biological factors" And when presented with scientific evidence, they don't believe it or refuse to believe it because somehow their perception is reality. Which also shows how self centered they are, assuming they're correct over hard data and science.

[@saramcroberts699]

@@marvelencyclopedia haha yes!! That debate is apart of where my reply came from! Men like this are so dangerous smh

[@marvelencyclopedia]

@@saramcroberts699 He took his headphones off when he asked him about his MLM and then when he asked the other guys how they make money off of Hustlers University they're like "I can't tell you that because it gives away the secrets of the course" when in reality the only way to make money from it is selling it to other people. If you drew it out on paper, it would look something like a triangle.... Or perhaps a pyramid? Haha 🤣 And men like this tell other men they're right no matter what, and so they resent women and society because they're being awful but see being told by Tate that they're always right.

[@Hellothere-gg8id]

Not believing scientific studies can be stupid. But I do think that if your 30+ year experience says otherwise one will probably view the study as fake

[@John-996]

@@Hellothere-gg8id Thats like the Whole all swans are white. You might see a small portion of white swans but one day you find out that there are actually more black swans then White. Just because you see something does not always make it true on a large scale.

[@celestialdragon3989]

He lives in Romania because as he said….the rules are more laxed here. So…this gives him permission to ‘do it’ with a 14 yo girl? It’s His trafikking case is still ongoing, he’s not been proven guilty yet….but also hasn’t been acquitted either! He’s bad news & young male kids are drawn to his extremist views….women are my property, I own them, they don’t own me…..WTH? I feel bad for women growing up in ‘his world’

[@hyuugafan2]

He didn’t say that…Romania has very strict sex trafficking laws he would be locked up…

[@celestialdragon3989]

@@hyuugafan2 also forgot to add….he claims he PAYS the Romanian police off! He’s really a narcissistic braggart that talks too much & only digs his own grave while trying to sell his Hustler University. I think him being banned from social media is only 1st step in his ‘troubles’ He makes great talk with his buddies while ‘smoking gars’ ( his word, not mine) & brags, which could come back to haunt him later. He thought he was the s*!&, but I think getting him off social media might save his azz because he just brags way too much on ‘how to get away with it’ idk? Maybe you’re a ‘Tater tot’? I’m most definitely not!

[@celestialdragon3989]

@@hyuugafan2 hmmm, my original reply didn’t post. Yes, he pretty much did say that about Romania! It’s reason why he moved there because the laws r more ‘laxed’. See….in the ‘western world ( idk where he thinks Romania is exactly, but last I knew, it’s part of western world). He can get away with more in Romania because he pretty much knows the things he’s done would get him locked up….in western world. He’s too stupid & doesn’t know when to stfu

[@hyuugafan2]

@@celestialdragon3989 if you are going to quote the man quote the man…he wise he gets parking ticket and speeding tickets he pays and it’s a done issue…he didn’t say he payed for the trafficking allegations..Romania has very strict laws against such things…do your research

[@lenemostert9849]

@@hyuugafan2he’s in jail… wake up!

[@Tina-wk2pr]

33:15 It's not boring at all!! It's actually really satisfying to watch. I always knew that this guy has major issues and I didn't understand why so many educated men would follow his advice and believe what he is preaching. Thank you for clarifying! Keep it up! :)

[@chelsbrindley9059]

I couldn't agree more... Masculinity and feminity are TRAITS any person can have, it's not gender specific. I'm a woman and identity as female but I have countless masculine traits and recognize some as positive and some as negative. I also have feminine traits that can become either positive or negative depending on the way it makes me react both internally and externally. People who consider those traits to be DETERMINED by physical body parts and predetermined gender labels are often unwilling to accept that they're not all the same thing.

[@Cherryblossoms110]

6:17 I really respect you for that, Dr. Honda. I've noticed how little access the public has to academic knowledge as well. It is truly a missed opportunity. Thank you for what you do.

[@saloni9006]

this series is gratifying on so many levels! For one, when women experience this kind of dialogue/ hostility, we are often too exhausted to logically defend ourselves or neutralise them by returning their anger to their own issues. As you’ve said, men that disagree often don’t feel safe countering these ideologies either. Most people that have fair perspectives don’t have the energy to counter dialogue. But ignoring it still builds fatigue, and leaves the undisputed content out for other impressionable men/ people to identify with. For once, the consensus is with us so we don’t have to defend our position, but it’s only because his language is so dramatically controversial and he’s publicised himself like this. His ideas and root feelings are obviously very common and may not always communicate themselves this clearly, and I think your education helps people identify it in themselves and others. You are truly one of the most balanced, fair, reliable, and safe sources of learning I’ve had the privilege of coming across (:

[@margaretr5701]

Yes, I agree, it's exhausting, whether argued with or not, it leaves one with a feeling of fatigue. It seems progress made earlier, was either a lie, or we're regressing. I feel sad for the genuinely caring and aware men out there, as they run into the Andrew Tate's as they go through life.

[@IWantToRideMyBike]

I’m so completely convinced that he is just an extremely traumatized man child. He’s stuck in the mode of middle school boy because of some serious trauma. His father did leave his mom and then he moved to a different country with his mom. Something broke him there

[@Samantha_Dulcibella]

He’s an adult though. Most people in prisons have mental health issues and have childhood trauma to deal with and many have psychopathic tendencies and personality disorders. These things are common even normal society. The fundamental issue here is, when someone is like this and they are an influencer they can be very dangerous. And, no matter how damaged someone is, they still have free choice and if they choose to hurt others they must pay the consequences.

[@rainbow9987]

Also he probably got rejected by a lot of women.

[@vagrantastronaut]

I really appreciate this series, Dr Kirk. I've been catching up on your videos and have been reminded of how to focus on an empathetic approach in my social interactions. "Not to win or humiliate in discussions, but seek understanding, change, and progress."

[@thelucywho3983]

"Boys will be boys" is essentially what he's saying. A lazy excuse to excuse men's terrible behavior without any accountability or need/urgency for change.

[@Kwd123]

Yes, please do more. This stuff is so scary the way it indoctrinate‘s young men into the mindset and your voice is incredibly important.

[@andreusdewolff]

As a gay man in Seattle . He does not speak for all men . And I don’t hate men for thinking he’s off his rocker ….

[@RayReklaw7993]

Yes, please do more of this stuff. It’s absolutely fascinating. I get disappointed when the video ends. So much in these. Thank you again.

[@jenniferelizabeth7325]

Please keep doing these videos! I find them fascinating. From my female perspective, these notions permeate all aspects of our culture; relationships, workplaces, education and of course, politics. I think it is important to dissect these attitudes so we can all have a better understanding of where these oppressive and limiting notions originate. Personally it helps me feel like my experience of the world is understood by an educated few, which reduces my hurt at the injustice of being at the receiving end of such delusional and toxic attitudes. Please keep at it, Dr.Kirk!

[@ReginVamp65]

As a lesbian in a happy long-term relationship, his rhetoric is so crazy for me, so detached from the reality of relationships.

[@elyseparker5333]

Good job to her for being so level headed. I would have either got very angry or (less likely) said OH HELL NO! And leave.

[@cjgroom109]

this has been one my favorite reaction series you’ve ever done

[@MJCosterr]

Def not boring but absolutely important. As a woman raising a young man these days, thank you ❤

[@ThisMelMel]

Not boring. Fascinating. And validating. I like how you translate the emotional message. Thank you.

[@ambuhwuh]

I actually love these breakdowns. I really appreciate hearing the why's behind this guys ridiculous stances and it actually makes the content digestible. Please do more! 💓

[@allyiahluvsyou]

Whenever I see him with one of his girlfriends it makes me wonder about her and what beliefs she hold. I can’t imagine any woman wanting to be around him.

[@kate7011]

they’re not girlfriends. they’re slaves

[@Chromebiscuit]

they don't like him, they like his money (Assuming he isn't drowning in debt)

[@sonnyblc7287]

Women only love money, and he has tons of it.

[@margaretr5701]

@@sonnyblc7287 That is not true of all women, not even the majority.

[@daebak_hana]

Tate has said in other videos, flat out that men cheating doesn't mean anything, it's just s3x. In fact he said it's not even cheating, just something like fulfilling a biological need, like eating. A man can have a wife and kids at home that he "loves" and still sleep with other women whenever and it means nothing. He even went so far as to say biblical figures did the same thing.

[@leahbeah1804]

I would love for you to keep reacting to this video as long as you don’t get bored of it! It’s so nice to have such a well educated and articulated mind speak on Andrew Tate. I’m really hoping some people in “the manosphere” can see this and hopefully it reaches some people who need to hear it.

[@sarahisbell1918]

You have educated me on a lot about psychology and the knowledge I’ve picked up from you has benefited my life. I learned a lot in classes too but your videos help to keep it all fresh and interesting. It’s also refreshing to know there is someone spreading understanding and psychological understanding because it is seriously lacking in a lot of places in society

[@Katan_Ibrahim]

Noo please don’t stop reacting to him. I enjoy this way too much 🤣

[@pauloslemma1514]

women 🤣🤣

[@firstlast-yf8hh]

@@pauloslemma1514 You need help,therapy maybe?😂

[@genesisgreen3458]

Dr. Honda, its not boring. At least i am definitely listening

[@babaganouche9605]

I know I am preaching to the choir here, but obviously this man is trying to launder his image becase he was caught committing serious crimes. Glad to see that you are not allowing him to go unchallenged

[@Aerojuanas]

Everything you said about the social relationship between public figures and their audience made me think of Jordan Peterson. He's so reasonable and perfectly sound and fair 90% of the time, but that 10% of stirring shit up is what he banks off of, and I've seen his personality change through the years as his loyal audience reinforced that stuff.

[@kausha7135]

I've been on a date with a guy like him. I turned down sex and he immediately hit me (not literally) with a "lol you're ugly anyway". It's the most middle school thing I've ever experienced as an adult.

[@elizabethbarton7161]

"oh no, the toxic male is being forced to not be a d*ck all the time!" I feel like not only women, but literally everyone that is a non-toxic man can laugh at this joke. I wasn't prepared for how funny Dr Kirk can be 😂

[@cassiewild5141]

Please do more of these videos, Dr. Honda! Your analysis is elucidating ❤

[@VickyG212]

Dr Honda this is not boring at all and I find it very educational. It's great when you give examples on how to respond to these types of questions/ comments from people like him. I hope you keep doing it 😊

[@hynekkoudelka4492]

He is a king of incels, I've never seen someone so insecure trying so hard to put a rough mask on. Jordan Peterson for teens. Sorry for him, sure he had some abuse in early life, hope for a good therapist

[@YourPupsBestFriendNY]

I find it very interesting and telling that he seemingly, whether conciously or subconsciously, goes in and out of that so called "half british" accent, as if to make him appear more cultured or sophisticated especially considering he is talking with a British woman.

[@magtag853]

This was fantastic. The best analysis I've seen on him!!

[@Fatima_92]

Dr. Honda, if you're enjoying it .. we do too! Always trust your gut feeling, we love your content and it's sort of therapeutic while being educational .. it helps me heal and have a better understanding of people.. therefore helps me adjust my attitude and approach towards someone who I might not particularly like. Thank you.. keep them coming plz 🙏

[@paulminshall8793]

I think that 99% of people like Andrew Tate think that the 80% of all men are like him. I agree that there is some low level animal within all humans, driving them to mate and procreate, but some of us also have a high level brain which keeps us normal within a social environment and prevents us from being lynched by others.

[@mariag1926]

It’s not boring at all Dr Honda ! Love listening to you !!! Keep it up !

[@mardefondo1774]

omg it's not boring at all dr honda pls keep making these

[@ilikemaline]

Thank you dr. Honda for what you are doing! I've learned so much listening to you.

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

Amazing! I agreed with everything you said and nodded emphatically throughout. Having clients like Tate, my focus would be on making them feel comfortable enough to experience what they would call "vulnerability" but in a way that shows them that it's actually rewarding to do so. Once trust has been established, I'll gently push through their assumptions about the world. I notice it's much more to do with feeling internally unsafe. Very difficult work.

[@Alex-bl8uh]

Women won't ever respect a man that is often vulnerable. So it would be stupid of us to go down that path

[@thcintuitive222]

Yes, please do more, your analysis is fascinating!

[@yeosucarly]

Not boring! This is definitely going to be one of my fav series you've done.