Andrew Tate #2 - (High Value Man) - Therapist Reacts

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

This and the next few reaction videos were produced last week, so my commentary will not reflect what I learned in the comment section from yesterday's episode: his statements regarding his relationship with his father and the alleged criminal behavior.

[@luisafierro9147]

Will you be making a separate video talking about that?

[@mari.n.w155]

Please make a video just addressing that

[@hoodstripes]

"Why does anyone need to be violent"...clearly this is your typical first world, entitled and delusional doctor that does not live in reality. Look around the world and you will understand what he means by that. The men in Ukraine right now who worked regular jobs one day and had to fight in a war the next while the women get to flee with the children. These things are happening in real time, but somehow you supposedly intellectuals cannot comprehend basic human instincts that we all have innately. There are no feminist in Ukraine fighting to stay and fight along the men just like there were no feminist enlisting to fight in the front lines when teenagers were drafted.

[@kimberlyporter9555]

The reason the requirements for a male to be deemed as successful to a woman is that most American women live in the dark ages. They're under the impression they can live as trophies. I'm a real feminist. I believe in equality not privelege

[@ChiTown2k69]

Excellent video..I appreciate that way you that analyzed this with objectivity and was able to break down his misogyny talking points and diagnosed the narcissistic views . Using the analogy of how the senators would all be "good looking people" was a nice axiom to use as way to debunk " alpha male" persona. I won't deny the fact that I have always been sort of a fan of Andrew Tate but I also realize that a lot of what he was saying was really just silliness wrapped up in false propaganda masquerading ass philosophy is a way for him to gain more viewers. The fact that you used your psychological expertise to not really judge or attack him but rather CLARIFY many of the fallacies in his points was so refreshing to see. Very respectful analysis without criticizing him in a malignant condescending manner. I hope a lot of young boys get to watch this video so they'll learn how to discern from the professionals like yourself and the charlatans who try to give them false advice. Bravo well done, sir .. thank you so much for this video Dr Honda.

[@nice2meetyou631]

I hope this series goes for 100 parts. Watching someone who knows what he's talking about debunking all this garbage is so satisfying to watch.

[@amijacks]

true. true. but also the bile in my throat is almost perforating my esophagus, so let's wrap this up!

[@lindsay1971]

That will be exactly what Tate would want. Every second of airtime on other people's platforms is free promotion. Despite the debunking, some 14 year old in a basement can splice clips out of context and provide further free promotion for him.

[@lucia4836]

I don’t want this clown to get all the attention that he wants though

[@WitchPaper1]

@Likiba Zinorsi I love my cats. :)

[@roshie187]

@@amijacks yesss i want moreee

[@scribomaniac]

Dr. Honda is my definition of a high-value man.

[@LadyBlacksheep]

I second that!

[@elizak1459]

So true

[@klingonprogramming3868]

True!

[@bombadilloB]

Smart and compassionate with emotional intelligence. 100%

[@rainydayjane8257]

Yessss!! 👏👏👏

[@stellannie86]

If a straight man says "woman only needs to look good to get a man", isn't he saying that it's _his_ only criteria for a woman as well..? 🤔

[@klaythoring1326]

Well and then he bashes on these women who provide what he says they need to, by saying they haven’t worked at it. While not acknowledging that they would also be doing all this emotional labour for him.

[@lavinder11]

Yes. A male friend said this to me and I told him it's hella shallow and no wonder why he has a series of sh*tty relationships.

[@natashasweeting1867]

Funny I asked a male friend this and he said no this is not true...it's not only about beauty, yet his dating history suggest otherwise. Actions matter more than the words. Unfortunately, they all believe they NEED a supermodel on their arm

[@r410a6]

@@natashasweeting1867 It’s funny that your friend told you a lie and then by his actions say otherwise which Andrew tate talks about a lot because your friend,if you asked him would he sleep with you he would say no but deep down he wants to.But because he doesn’t want you to end the friendship or makes things awkward,he will tell you a lie which if you don’t realize is a big red flag even as a friend.

[@sundragon13]

My thoughts exactly

[@mimi-qt]

it is so frustrating watching manosphere-type men talk about women like we are the antithesis to men. like a woman is this completely opposite creature that experiences life in a way completely foreign to their own experience. honestly, i feel bad for them because they are unintentionally putting SO MUCH distance between us and them. they can end up spoiling their chances at having an emotionally fulfilling relationship with a woman 😕

[@sarahc2324]

He doesn't seem to be able to say 'woman' it's females but he will say men.

[@kakan1584]

Exactly!

[@kat4923]

Exactly!! They are so blinded by the "gender roles" that we don't look human anymore. I don't have the same sympathy for them though, if someone values other humans as inferior for whatever reason they're an instant "fuck off" from me. I have unresolved trauma too but I don't go around making people feel like shit because I have different genitals.

[@jayma31]

stop doing pseudo analysis, andrew is playing a character here, check it out in his interview with Patrick Bet-David

[@mimi-qt]

@@sarahc2324 i know 😫 it’s dehumanizing. i was thinking about how powerful the language we use to describe gender+gender identity is earlier, i.e. “opposite sex”. tbh, it’s probably intentional when guys like tate call women “females” 😒

[@hollystrebel6671]

To be a high value male, you need to wear sunglasses indoors while mansplaining.

[@sarahgabonay7082]

This is the comment I needed to see today

[@legzfalloffgirl5148]

Damn straight 😎🤮

[@deborah3783]

Spot on! 😂😂😂😂

[@alicjax7119]

😄😄😄

[@bombadilloB]

And only drink sparkling WOTer.

[@andinkify]

Tate sure knows how to turn a conversation into a weird one real quick

[@Super_Grover_]

I’ve been noticing for quite a while that a lot of people who hold these sexist views refer to men as “men”, but refer to women as “females”. It reminds me of how a research biologist might refer to their animal subjects. It’s very cold, distant, and depersonalized.

[@taranudelman4935]

That's exactly what they are doing. They are putting women on the same level as animals

[@stst77]

He toned himself down because normally he only refers to women as ho’s and b*thches.

[@DirtyJamesUK]

​@taranudelman4935 not necessarily. Tate likes young girls so maybe he mentally stops the distinction between girls and women. When he says females he can secretly picture a 14 year old but still put across his point. The guy isn't normal.

[@DirtyJamesUK]

I don't think it's cold or less personal than "women". They're both very broad terms. I think the main difference is that it does not specify adulthood.

[@politicaltroll8920]

Trying to imagine someone putting “Capable of killing someone and holding a baby in the same day” in their Tinder profile

[@s.melonita4454]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@justrachel4496]

Tbh, I've seen more unhinged things than that in online dating profiles.

[@joywebster2678]

That would describe an active duty soldier, but odd thing to focus on in a profile.

[@helena5442]

Block😂😂

[@paulavaleriaarenas9339]

Lol I saw few profiles with a huge explosion at the back and a man walking or running with a baby. They were soo funnyyyy! do you think he was talking about that ones? 🤔 lol

[@Shelovespurple]

Her patience is phenomenal. The grace she is giving him without so much as a smirk is admirable. She is "high value" beyond measure. What makes it especially sad for him is, he is incapable of recognising that in her. If there was anyone he could be vulnerable and feel safe with, it would be her but he is so riddled with his ideas and torment that he vehemently pushes away the very thing he craves. It is deeply fascinating to witness.

[@theamphibiousbicycle]

I had the same thoughts while watching this. The woman he is on the date with is a huge catch. I think it intimidated him. That’s..sad for him I guess.

[@priyanshjyoti2013]

@@theamphibiousbicyclenibba, wha?

[@larky368]

I think she's just scared. Kill a man and hold a baby the same day?? Who says that to a woman on a first date?

[@Fefe559]

lol yes, it kind of is lol. its normal today, to kill people at the grocery store while picking out the best tomatoes while holding my baby girl. Run over people with my car. then put baby down for a nap. Also strangle people at target and then pick out a jumper for the baby. hahaha too funny. I am just imagining his day.. sorry. I will see myself out.

[@JamesGreenier]

She’s on camera. Plus it’s a power play and she won.

[@justrachel4496]

Why can't men see that even when women are "given" things because they are beautiful, those things aren't free? You're almost always expected to provide some form of sexual favor in exchange, whether it's your number or a date or something more explicit. Even beautiful women being let into bars for free is with the expectation that the men inside will benefit in some way from them. Being a sugar baby is 100% valid if that's what you want to do for work, but it definitely isn't getting anything for free.

[@emiiii]

That’s such a great point. I’d rather pay the cover charge than have to avoid getting groped or my drink spiked. 😬

[@aayushkhare308]

I think the overarching point in the interview was that in the start its easier for women to get attention but its not true for 90 percent of males (talking about attention from opposite sex), after that initial attraction things can go wrong for both the sides as it depends on what kind of actual value exchange is happening.

[@justrachel4496]

@@aayushkhare308 I agree that women more often get attention and that that attention is often not positive, however if that was what Andrew Tate meant, he did not express that clearly. He implied that getting unsolicited messages on Instagram is a positive thing, for example, when for most women that is unwelcome; and suggested that a 19-year-old immigrant being allowed to ride on an older man's yacht was positive for her in some way, when in reality she would probably be being coerced or trafficked. At the end of the day he has great influence and needs to take responsibility for saying what he means.

[@Kat22Kit]

There’s no such thing as a free lunch. Yes all those “free” things beautiful women get come with strings, they are expected to pay with their bodies or time.

[@basicpshychology]

@@justrachel4496 He was talking about attention with is the nr 1 thing girls want deep down. Man dont get any, they are ignored, blocked and try desperately to find a girl, while a girl can have at least 4 5 man even if she is a 2, just knowing that you have to option to have someting makes you wanna look at thing like it's a little thing, but it's not, the tought of being alone is scary for everybody except for older man that have poor jobs, because they dont have even the 3-4 women option

[@jamesmason7979]

Andrew Tate speaks from a highly anecdotal perspective. And when he gives examples, they're extremely specific: for example, the hot Ukrainian woman on the yacht. Discussions with him tend to go nowhere because he can always pull up an example unique to his lifestyle and use it to confirm his biases.

[@sf4010]

Many people (men and women) do this and unfortunately have great influence over the masses online and offline. It's quite sad really.

[@almostafa4725]

How is that a anecdotal example, young hot women are on yacht everywhere in the world lol

[@sf4010]

@@almostafa4725 people like to say things are anecdotal that they haven't experienced or can't admit the possibility it has or does happen when it comes to view points on certain topics

[@Overseer2579]

Didn’t really seem very specific to me, but whatever

[@CorporateG0th]

He doesn't pull examples he pulls naive idealisms. I'm really hung up on the "kill a man and hold a baby in the same day." He's describing a sociopath there. Taking a life is a very grave affair. Now I'm not saying I think Andrew is a sociopath, I think he hasn't developed the emotional range or life experience that would let him comprehend the gravity of what he's saying.

[@lanagustafson2905]

This guy is involuntarily hilarious. I laughed so hard at “kill someone and hold a baby in the same day”

[@lyndonbailey3965]

I have a feeling that that whole idea is ripped from The Godfather movies. Michael Corleone is not a hero though :(

[@mitsuha4788]

It was probably something metaphorical-not literal. He was emphasizing on the extent of differentiation. Edit: Nvm. He actually did say it in the literal sense. I take it as metaphorical tho. It was such an exaggerated way of basically saying “you need a man who is masculine in essence, as well as feminine in essence at the same time”. Tate has some brilliant thoughts, but the man puts it in such a pathetic way.

[@julie-wb8cf]

I laugh so much listening to him too so funny

[@please-lookatmysearchhistory]

@@mitsuha4788 well of course, he has far too muof a homophobia ideology to say men should be feminine - have you heard his comments on men showing emotions and crying - plus he's far to extreme to level his metaphors, but your so right - totally deminishing

[@CoolUwUer]

A man has to have that ability. If a man cannot defend himself or his family, then he is expendable. If a man can't neutralize a threat, he is useless, this is coming from a man aswell.

[@Jill-ih9dq]

I just find the whole discussion of people’s “value” in the dating pool, like people are economic assets, disgusting. People are people who have worth, period.

[@Overseer2579]

Amen!

[@xxxmochibaby]

Exactly! Everyone has their own inherent worth

[@crystalwu7400]

fr and its so hard to measure someones “value.” Example; if a war was going on, the soldiers on country #1 would be “high value” to THEM. But to the opponent, the soldiers on country #1 wouldn’t be seen as “valuable”. You just cant measure value of a person because people are complex

[@couch_philosoph3325]

Exactly. I also chringe when people rate others with numbers. I have never looked at someone and went like "yeah thats a person with no value". Like wtf

[@kurehanzo]

Yes, exactly! There are days when I feel like I need to get on top of a building and shout this out loud 😩

[@LucyInk121]

I'm a woman who owns a small business and have shed blood sweat and tears to get where I am. Nothing was handed to me because of my gender. We recently had a man come into the shop who assumed my male colleague was the boss, and I was the receptionist - based on gender alone. The struggle to even be taken seriously as a woman in business is exhausting.

[@PepeCoinMania]

nobody cares about your business

[@RxlredE]

Wouldn't you be surprised if there's a woman in mechanic shop or cleaning windows of skyscraper? Most women work at reception and its a fact. That doesn't make women less, there are also few women who are extremely successful in business. Life is not fair for both men and women. There's no point in complaining just deal with it.

[@stephi6792]

@@RxlredEshe’s telling you her experience not complaining about it. Simple comprehension skills will help you.

[@babysab8013]

Just count your money, it doesn't matter who is taking you seriously or not

[@C_Tolea]

@LucyInk121 women should take care of kids and give them attention, not working their ass off in a business. That's the task of men.

[@r.w.5254]

I'm impressed that you called Tate's childhood trauma and resentment toward his mother 5 months ago. 1 month ago, a story broke completely about how Tate was abused by his father and resented his mom. I don't want to make too many assumptions here, but it seems like you're good ar your job.

[@ALT-vz3jn]

That’s why they have to study for years… he’s also a professor and has many years of experience in therapy. Of course not all therapists are good (I’d say most are average to mediocre), but when you luck out with a good therapist it can be life-changing.

[@kakan1584]

Andrew Tate is a good example of everything that I find unattractive about a man. I think the idea of alpha and beta is ridiculous 🙄 but if I were to use those words I definitely want a beta-man! 😂 I want a normal human being who don’t have the need to prove how ”strong” and above everyone else they are.

[@humamairaj6750]

trust me nobody wants these types of girls

[@humamairaj6750]

I mean your type....

[@kakan1584]

@@humamairaj6750 What? You mean nobody wants me?

[@Dvlly99]

@@kakan1584 he’s talking about the dyed short hair piercings lgbt rally goer type of women

[@kakan1584]

@@Dvlly99 What?

[@kat4923]

I don't get why Tate is considered "controversial" instead of just misogynist. The amount of people who defend him is scary.

[@bab8771]

I think the honest answer is his provocative nature. A man who says these things in a less intense way will be just regarded as a sexist. But his way of talking, it's like he is trying to goad people into a reaction. I notice these types of people are more likely to get by as "controversial" compared to being labeled as what their core ideas really are.

[@idoling_yt]

Because of his audience, mostly. TONS of young men and adolescents follow him. He, as well as Fresh & Fit, have provided boys with a convenient cop out approach to life. Tate has this “Hustlers University” thing wherein he offers life and dating advice. Though he himself merely provides some guiding “principles” and otherwise has other people doing the helping on his behalf. He’s bleeding most of the subscribers dry while they resell store-bought items on Amazon. He is also on the “anti wokeness” train, so there is plenty appeal there too. Last but not least, there are the criminal allegations. Man for all seasons! /s

[@h.9089]

Thats because he is not a misogynist?

[@sitvisjes]

Because he's not a misogynist. He respects woman but just says some harsh truths and a lot of what he says is tongue in cheek, his followers get that and the people in this comment section don't. Whatever he says it's nothing compared to the misandry cancer that has infected the western world and what you are probably defending.

[@icu919]

@@h.9089 All he says about women is how they are just a shitty gender. Wdym?

[@katesimpson5098]

Tates right women will never understand how hard it is for men to be smart , funny , charismatic, and interesting when it comes so naturally to us. A man needs to be diverse with a bald head so shiny it requires he wears eye protection but a personality so shady it can only be tolerated on the internet, he needs to have pitbull vibes ( the singer ) but be disliked by all dogs or anything with good instincts really. We'll never know the struggle ladies

[@sally180]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@AbianahTheGemini]

😂

[@limabeanlimegreen]

LMFAOOOOO

[@Melinamiu007]

This was hilarious😂😂😂

[@baethamora]

Awesome! So funny!

[@friendbynote]

Thanks for commenting on the rage emanating from him, completely unprovoked. She politely hasn't even challenged or directly disagreed with him and he's getting upset all by himself, and the resentment and anger is honestly frightening.

[@spOOkytimes]

Yeah, and then you see people looking up to him for his "unshakeable mindset", "resilience", and "hard work". People are seriously getting brainwashed by this dude. He has this thin veil of confidence which starts to fall apart in front of a confident woman who barely has to contribute to the conversation to see through him.

[@crystalwu7400]

fr people who are the most insecure make up scenarios where the other person says something shitty to them so they feel like its a valid excuse to be defensive.

[@Greatpacificnorthwesterner]

Andrew Tate is still a little boy trying to be a “man”. But he doesn’t understand how. So, he makes it up as he goes.

[@romanov3937]

He’s mad she’s not bending to his will like all the other leeches he knows, he actually met someone who doesn’t give into his BS and he’s pissed. It’s hilarious to watch

[@kurehanzo]

This feels mean to say but anyway whenever he talks he reminds me of a vicious barking dog..it's almost like he barks instead of talking..there's a lot of anger leaking off of him. not to insult anyone, including dogs.. just my thoughts from mere observation.

[@scorpioqueen4771]

Heterosexual men I've met on dates have argued this same topic- where he says "I disagree". My best comeback so far has been "have you ever had sex with a man?" Their response was an appalled"No!" I said, "well I have & I've even dated some, shock horror right? So even though you disagree, I don't think you know what you're talking about. Oh & I don't think we're compatible" Maybe I was harsh, but 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@angelicagabrieli7169]

Like this!

[@camiladovalle9311]

👏👏👏

[@r410a6]

What was the reason you had sex with them in the first place,Jus curious?

[@ronnie5329]

Is that what you talk about when you go on dates with men? And you respond that way? Are these dates in your head right now?

[@mbsimmer]

This woman is way more patient than I could possibly imagine being. But also something tells me she would’ve left way earlier if they weren’t being filmed.

[@jessondesign5847]

She invited him it's her show . How can she leaves when it's her shows

[@deedeeramone34]

She does it for the money, she’s that type to have an onlyfans to get a few bucks, too

[@mayankZed]

That was a show. He also said that he was deliberately trying to piss her off.. he as deliberately being hyperbolic.. that was the format of the show..

[@ALT-vz3jn]

@@mayankZedhe just said that because he literally doesn’t know how to be charming and behave normally. It’s his insecurity talking. He doesn’t want to risk trying to be charming and being told he’s a terrible seducer. He’s hiding.

[@matejpetrovic7377]

Andrew Tate: "A woman needs to obey her husband." Also Andrew Tate: "A high-value woman only needs to be hot."

[@Natttttttttt]

Hear the crickets? That’s the sound of the tater tots not liking you pointing out one of his hypocrisies

[@PepeCoinMania]

its not wrong

[@romanov3937]

Bruh Tate doesn’t even know what he wants, it’s so sad

[@annarennie]

When a man refers to women as "females" that's already a big red flag to me

[@realg7849]

What is a woman? Maybe that's why he prefers the word female

[@annarennie]

@@realg7849 a female is literally any species capable of producing an offspring. A woman is a human, self identifying as one. I've never heard anyone saying "a female" (noun) in a positive way, it usually has a condescending sub-tone

[@realg7849]

@@annarennie this is where the problem is. A female is well defined while a woman is vaguely defined. Joe Biden can come out as a woman tomorrow which a lot of us will not agree. This is why I can't use the word without a clear definition

[@unstable_7071]

@@realg7849 I am living in your walls

[@error1672]

Fancy seeing you here FEMALE☕

[@LivingLifeAsMaddie]

I don't know if this is good or bad but as a feminist I am not even offended by what he says. It has veered so far into the ridiculous that it's more funny and sad. I wish all sexists were this openly vile, it would make things a lot simpler.

[@emiiii]

Unfortunately his rhetoric indoctrinates a lot of young teenage boys which is part of the reason why was banned on social media. That and the human trafficking allegations.

[@xxxmochibaby]

You would think but sadly even when misogyny is this blatant and egregious so many men still still agree with him

[@r410a6]

@@xxxmochibaby I mean it’s the same with misandry on even KZbin and twitter but these people that promote misandry still has a platform which influenced women negatively.But it’s crazy because it also shows that women are not taken seriously even for those that say they support them because they know that men are leaders and are the back bone of society so I understand that people will take men way more serious than females.And what’s the reason for this…well it’s simple:Men are the ones that build the world and if you can control them then you can make them do anything you want.

[@Dvlly99]

@@xxxmochibaby it’s cause most men aren’t emotionally controlled to be scared off from someone with labels like misogyny etc. They hear his words and if it seems to make sense they automatically believe it to be true. Even if it’s completely sexist. I don’t blame them honestly. If you want them to stop listening, you should debate to win their heart instead of rushing to silence and label.

[@sitvisjes]

@@xxxmochibaby Well, maybe they don't agree with everything but it's a breath of fresh air to hear the opposite of all this misandry bullshit disguised as feminism. A lot of what he says is either true or he's just messing around and it's funny. Ofcourse men are drawn to his content after hearing woman whine for years and years about how horrible we supposedly are. Guys are sick of that shit, don't you get that?

[@Sandydeeeeee]

As a couple my husband and I grew to become high valued to each other.

[@thandondlovu5392]

That's beautiful.

[@Cherryblossoms110]

this is the way

[@acd1168]

As it should be.

[@MegaGreencarebear]

❤️

[@Sandydeeeeee]

@d a r l i n g J o thank you x

[@jennifera777]

The wole time he was interviewing/training her. At the same time devaluing her so that he doesn't feel threatened by her because his fear is being exposed by someone like her that is intelligent and beautiful. However, if he can get her to concur with the idea that she is just a pretty face (that comes a dime a dozen and can be easily replaced) while "high value" men (like him) are rare finds because it takes a lot to be one, then he wins. If gets her to agree with that premise then she in effect devalues herself which is his aim. If she is in a devalued position then, he has control over her, and she in an inferior position. Most of all she can't hurt him, because in his mind, she doesn't even respect herself so it doesn't matter, she was expendable.

[@epileptictrees5213]

Always thought it was weird when people rip out "value" rhetoric to talk about human beings. Weighing up people like commodities to be valued in a marketplace; bought and sold. The rhetoric of capitalism creeping its way into our interpersonal relationships.

[@epileptictrees5213]

I don't want a "high value" partner I want a partner whose values I align with and whose company I enjoy

[@sarah3796]

@@epileptictrees5213 ❤ just reading this statement makes me happy. Thanks Trees 😊

[@kingoverlord8503]

I think value pertains to the social standing of the individual if you have a good position in a certain company or government then your seen as highly a value and its not just limited to that

[@radiclelife]

It’s definitely a form to keep capitalism in play and in power. And what do most people seek? Power. And the main reason we seek it is because we feel powerless compared to those who oppress us. And the main thing that oppresses both men, women, and others is capitalism.

[@epileptictrees5213]

@@callmekirkland8 There have been no communist societies.

[@tonianderson4105]

Mr. Tate's definition of a high value man sounds like a badly written character profile for a James Bond movie.

[@jaimesfolly]

He's a flat pulp fiction character come to life

[@m.r.e.5731]

Bingo!

[@carmensavu5122]

@@jaimesfolly Yeah he's like a walking cardboard cut-out.

[@chubbshappygilmore3913]

Chian literally had the same criteria mate

[@fried_worms2827]

Ah yes let's use a 19 year old, exploited Ukrainian girl as an example that women have it easy. That'll really show them, Andrew 😐

[@guts8770]

Are you saying women can't make their own decisions and choices ?

[@fried_worms2827]

@@guts8770 Nope. But it was pretty obvious he was using an example of a wealthy older man paying for a barely legal foreign escort - situations which usually involve a lot of coercion and/or trafficking. Even Dr. Honda caught that vibe and mentioned that the girl probably has to do things she doesn't want to in order to be on the yacht. It's just a telling example for Andrew to use. It mirrors the general exploitative attitudes of men/Western men.

[@amreshr4254]

@@fried_worms2827 all you're doing is making assumptions

[@spOOkytimes]

This example is especially relevant to an alleged human trafficker, like Andrew Tate

[@crystalwu7400]

@@amreshr4254 And all andrew tate is doing is also making assumptions.

[@germansnout]

He talks like being valued merely for your appearance is a win...

[@thebowandbullet]

I forget what this psychological bias is called, but people have a tendency to believe they're complex and others are simple. Tate demonstrates this bias (among many others) to an extreme extent.

[@robinnilsson9487]

I'm amazed at how polite she is, I'd be visibly cringing and/or laughing

[@rachel243]

Same I absolutely would not be able to sit there or I’d be sat pulling a Wtf face at him 😂

[@redemptionhappens7725]

I’d have told him to F off.

[@spOOkytimes]

Andrew could really take a page from her book of social skills. What he doesn't understand is that the Ukrainian woman he was talking about in his cursed "trust me bro" example has to be a decent actress and pretend to like the people she is with. This in next to impossible since people like Andrew exist.

[@r410a6]

@@spOOkytimes it’s funny because she admits that she agrees with some things he says in an interview lol

[@skyedestiny]

I think some of it might be for safety purposes. Like 'let me just nod so I can get out of here faster and go home and never have to think about this again'. I feel the same way as you do and I have no idea how she's doing this lol but...he is just kind of nonchalantly saying some archaic and honestly terrifying/disgusting things so it's like, "Okay, this guy is GONE."

[@cuppycakesrawrable]

His disregard of the concept of class. He doesn't know if that man on the boat inherited wealth and opportunity. Just completely disregards intersectionality - it's just gender binaries to him. No critical thought.

[@lisebarrieau111]

Notice how he doesn’t answer her question “is he loyal.” Yet he expects it from a woman. Maybe it was edited. But I have seen many of these men thinking they can cheat, while thinking a woman is trash if she does. Disgusting.

[@stst77]

He openly says a woman must be loyal to him but he can sleep with as many women as he likes.

[@_SunscreenQueen_]

Im a fairly attractive women (not a brag or anything), but I suffer from chronic medicine resistant depression, CPTSD from an abusive childhood then almost being killed by an abusive ex, general anxious f’ disorder and Borderline personality disorder. So not not all hot girls can get whatever we want. Ive had to fight tooth and nail to obtain my delete in international business and my esthetics degree. That was work. Hours of therapy, holistic treatments, and just dealing with and acknowledging my pain. And I am a better person for it. I would never fall for a man like this. I see all the manipulation. It oozes out of him. He literally makes me sick

[@taranudelman4935]

Andrew Tate doesn't believe in depression or mental illness. He thinks it's all just an excuse for weak people 🙄

[@PepeCoinMania]

no you are not

[@ALT-vz3jn]

I’m so sorry you had to suffer like that in life. Wishing you a peaceful future ❤ yes I would not have put up with Tate on a date, he’s as repulsive as a smashed dog turd on a hot sidewalk.

[@lblack1961]

"Getting what you can" is different from "Getting what you want". As a former "pretty girl", I avoided a lot of men who could've given me things because that (and they) were not what I wanted for my life. But the assumption in some men is that your beauty exists for a rigid paradigm of "I'll give you what you want and I will get what I want;i f I don't get what I want, you are my enemy..I will destroy you" . It is sad. It devalues men and women as PEOPLE. There is NO intimacy in that. And we were created for emotional intimacy. Living with that paradigm ensures a lack of intimacy on one's life.

[@sfooshy4517]

Andrew Tates dad was a champion chess player, so I believe Andrew is viewing every social interaction as a game he needs to win.

[@therabbithat]

My dad was a pharmacist so he always sees interactions as prescriptions he needs to fill. My mom was a bass player so she sees people as strings

[@helena5442]

@@therabbithat lol nearly spilled my water😄

[@aayushkhare308]

Actually tate was also a champion chess player as a kid, he defeated a 16 year old while he was 5

[@kingoverlord8503]

Yeah i agree there are just people who are highly competitive i think its also the same for some people when challenge in something they are competent or good at its a driven instinct i supposed

[@autumnlyyy]

@@therabbithat 💀💀💀

[@natashasilva47]

If most of the women he knows value humour, personality, independence and reliability in a partner, and most of the men he knows value appearance alone in a partner, doesn't that say more about the superficial values of the men in his circle? If men in general place highest importance on shallow things, surely that's their problem? I just don't get what he's trying to say at all🤷‍♀

[@deadams8905]

Imo men like him and the men in his circle view women as accessories to compete/impress other men. It about being validated by other men.

[@natashasilva47]

@@deadams8905 good point! Absolutely agree.

[@bec472]

Nothing he says makes any sense or checks out. He contradicts himself constantly because his argument is flawed.

[@ladyj.9350]

The amount of grace that dr honda allows tate is just… lol

[@irishhoopers6899]

I think Dr Honda probably pities him on a level we don't because 1. he's a man and 2. he's a Dr that understands just how dark AT's internal reality really is. I honestly don't think AT can feel love or happiness at all anymore. His reality is a dark horrifying cold and utterly lonely place.

[@klaythoring1326]

I appreciate this in part because I’m so tired of this, and it’s so wonderful to see someone else doing some of the work. Makes it feel less uphill. Dealing with dudes like this who think you need to prove to him that you are a human being with inherent value - because he doesn’t believe that about himself and has cultivated a horrible self.

[@tammv2306]

I think it's sad that he's forcing men into his box of value=money, women into value= look like a model. I bet we, as humans, have more to offer each other AND ourselves than just looks or money. Very superficial and materialistic. He's forgetting that nobody wants to be with anybody, in a long term, healthy relationship if the other cheats. No trust, no depth, no growth will be accomplished if another cheats. Not even when your value is an endless pool of money. A relationship is not a business, it's not a deal, it's compassion, trust, feeling and all that complex stuff.

[@tammv2306]

@Likiba Zinorsi none, what kind do you have since you're into cats?

[@tammv2306]

@Likiba Zinorsi and if I were single, it would be a crime or a shameful status according to?

[@tammv2306]

@Likiba Zinorsi did I say that? Where?

[@tammv2306]

@Likiba Zinorsi the only question I'd have is why would I give personal information to someone on the internet that comes across as very negative, demeaning and was asking about cats. Seems a little strange to do that don't you think. Maybe you do such things on the other side of the planet, I wouldn't know.

[@digitalgrandson9863]

you know, I was wondering, do you think Andrew's disdain for women is, at the core fueled by his possible hate for his mom. If he was an abusive house hold were his mother placated the abuse instead of protecting him then I can see how he adopts a view where women are weak and useless. So he may end up going to dates like this, thinking in the back of his mind, "Why do I have to work so hard to be with a woman who is as weak and useless as my mother". Also thinking this is why loyalty is an important quality for a women to have in his eyes. because if they are loyal they won't abandon him like his mother did

[@annarose477]

That's interesting. I always wondered what men mean when they say loyalty (not to put them all in the same box, I'm sure it means different things to different men...) When I'm on a dating app, so many men will say they're looking for 'loyalty' and I never really knew what they meant by that. Something about that word seemed strange to me. I thought they might mean they're looking for someone that won't cheat on them, but surely that goes without saying? You've just given me a reason why some mean might be seeking 'loyalty'.

[@darklausal23]

@@annarose477 "Ride or Die" type of loyalty? stick around despite the bull$hit they are put through.

[@annarose477]

@@darklausal23 yeah it does seem to be a 'ride or die' kind of thing. It does feel like a red flag when you see a profile with 'loyalty' on there

[@radiclelife]

It’s been said in other channel’s videos on Andrew Tate that his dad wasn’t around much as a kid, mainly by choice might I add. His dad would go from city to city, state to state to play chess for money. They both play chess really well. When his dad would come home, his mom would “nag” his dad about staying around and being a father. He would then tell Andrew that he’s leaving because of his mother always “bitching” or “complaining”. And then he wouldn’t see his dad for 6-12 months again. His parents ended up splitting and that’s why they moved to England. He was living in a good part, but then they progressively moved to worse and worse areas around London. So he didn’t always grow up rich and affluent like he tries to claim he did. So, to sum it up, yes I think him and his brother probably blame their mother on not having a father always active in their lives. But they also admired their father and saw that him being “a lone wolf” so to speak was what real men do: you go out, you conquer, you make money, and you don’t allow any woman to hold you back. So it’s a bit of a mix I think

[@Clodidi1]

Dr honda discussed something similar in the previous video.

[@patacual1]

This would be my worst nightmare of a date! I'm glad I'm not a "high value woman" and cannot aim to get such a "catch"! I feel very lucky 🤣

[@ALT-vz3jn]

You and me both. He’s such an insufferable douchebag 🫠 I would be hightailing it out of there in the first 10 minutes. No way would I waste my time putting up with all of his lies and insecurities. It’s so unattractive.

[@KJ-ut4rw]

You need a man who can kill a man and hold a baby on the same day…🤣🤣🤣 where does he come up with that? How many women does he think are in a relationship with a killer? Does he think that killing a man’s shows that you are strong? Also anyone can hold a baby, what does that suppose to mean?

[@dominiqued3888]

This guy is absolutely insane. Yea let me go find a man who I know can kill someone. What?? 😂

[@dedu98]

If someone said that to me, I'd be avoiding him going forward lmao

[@Dauerglotzer123]

Think he means like shoot a home intruder but then be able to shower then do a school run? 🤣

[@brandonwilliams4050]

Is it bad that I think this is one of the saner and more reasonable things Tate has said? I see this as a hyperbolic statement that means an ideal “high value” man should be capable of protecting and providing for his loved ones-even to the point of deadly physical combat-but should also be able and willing to take on more domestic and “tame” tasks such as looking after babies and children. Now, knowing Andrew Tate, he’ll distort this into something deranged and over the top, but I don’t actually think this is a bad thing for a man to aspire to. Gender roles are changing and women are expecting men to be more and more versatile while still maintaining our ancient traditional role. So a man who can do both will certainly enjoy a wide range of success.

[@justrachel4496]

@@brandonwilliams4050 I felt like he was attempting a poetic expression of what he thinks men should aspire to, and it just didn't come out very well. He's a raging misogynist for other reason, but that particular statement didn't bother me.

[@darklausal23]

the scary part for me: he has a following of young men that he tells his distorted views while charging then $50 monthly 😣

[@thebarkcrystal]

the popularity of his brand is scary but i think he has been de-platformed so his ability to make money online has been severely limited.

[@thebarkcrystal]

@Likiba Zinorsi statistically most of his following was on instagram and facebook. i was wrong that his ability to make money online has been severely limited, he only lost access to the audience of millions that he could market his brand to, which is what my reply was related to. despite you leaving 44 comments on this video i dont think you're going to convince anyone on this particular channel that he's not an idiot, regardless of his financial success. he's gained popularity but not everyone is going to appreciate him, if he accepts that maybe you can too?

[@thebarkcrystal]

@Likiba Zinorsi whoa buddy when did i say all men are trash? y u mad, bro? did you not get to the part of the video about compassion for incels? everyone deserves kindness and the opportunity to grow, especially people who suffer from isolation. this here is gender-inclusive feminist soyboy territory, so you're not going to find people ostracizing incels or cat ladies, or ranking anyone by "high" or "low" value. the original commentor here found the monetization of Tate's content scary and i hoped to offer some small remedy about that, but we have veered far from that point. take care and be well!

[@henrryb19]

@Likiba Zinorsi bro who hurt you? 😂

[@bev9708]

As usual, your comments are not only absolutely fascinating Dr Kirk, but also a lesson to us all in kindness, compassion and being non-judgmental … many thanks!!!

[@jantelopez5626]

bravo dr. honda for demonstrating how we can be critical of disrespectful behaviour but always remain empathetic.. i think a lot of men need to hear a voice like that in their life.

[@spde]

Oh Dr. Honda, the fact that you were surprised about LinkedIn is SO sweet! Absolutely, you have to seriously screen any and every public channel as a woman 😁

[@alexbogush]

Him being surprised about it actually worries me. He must know such things for a fact if he is a professional psychologist. It makes me question his competence.

[@jbrown8601]

Tate is 100% correct but his correctness only applies to the Lamborghini/yatch party/miami world. 99% of people don't live in that world, most men and women don't have a massive financial imbalance and don't view each other in simplistic terms. But in his world he is correct, men want hot girls and the hot girls want money. The problem for me is he is preaching it to men that have to live in the normal world, it dooms his followers to failure.

[@aayushkhare308]

I think what he is doing is trying to make all the man childs to be more masculine so women can view them as suitable partners, its more of a solution in my opinion.

[@realg7849]

@d a r l i n g J o I don't know why people struggle with this concept. In order for a man to be on a yacht he needs to work hard. In order for a woman to be on a yacht she needs to exist. It's not just about the yacht, a woman can get invited to celebrity parties just for existing but in order for a man to get invited he needs to be an important man who has worked hard.

[@realg7849]

@d a r l i n g J o I'm not sure if it's dehumanizing if the women choose to be there. For men to be invited on yachts they need to be important. You'll hardly find a 19 year old boy on a yacht because women are born with inherit value but men must become. There are cases where young men can get invited but that's an anomaly so exceptions don't disprove the rule. Now you talking about gays but this is about relationships between men and women. I gave an example of celebrity parties which you ignored. The only thing that upsets me is that women don't want to acknowledge their privilege position. Men love idealistically (they love you for who you are) and women love opportunistically (they love you for what they can extract from you) so most men are aware of that they need to work hard in order to get what they want and to get women. Studies have shown that women go for the top 10% of men.

[@crystalwu7400]

@@realg7849you’re so wrong. Why havnt I been invited to a celebrity yacht party? I know so many pretty girls, I dont see them with 10 boyfriends. Your view of the world is so black and white. Just because a woman is pretty doesnt mean people would just start throwing things at her. Thats no reality. In the real world, people wont throw expensive things at you just because you’re pretty. What you’re talking about is 1% of the population of humans and you’re applying this logic to all women. The men who give pretty girls expensive things do that because they are too rich and have things to give. They CHOSE to do that. God you’re so disrespectful. There are many women living in poverty, homelessness, and in abusive situations. And you’re just completely throwing those things out, saying that a woman has a better life just by existing? Are you fucking serious? My mom works every day, coming home tired/stressed and you’re saying that women dont struggle as much as men? Grow the fuck up and GO OUTSIDE for once. Use your eyes, to see how people in the real world are actually living, and how much they fucking struggle every day, MAN OR WOMAN.

[@realg7849]

@@crystalwu7400 Your reply has been deleted 'cause you used disrespectful language which goes against youtube. Maybe you should touch some grass. Women enter clubs for free and men always pay to be in clubs except if they are important. I hardly see women buying their drinks in clubs. Life for an average man is extremely difficult. You need a lot of shit to be an important man, you need to be rich, charming, smart, charismatic, strong, confident, etc. To be an important woman you need makeup. The whole system is set up against men and Andrew is simply saying that you have no choice but to work on yourself as a man. 90% of custody and alimony is paid to women.

[@levantineking98]

Thank you for reacting to this Dr. Honda. It’s important for people to hear clinical perspectives on this

[@sour_candy666]

Watching you read him like a book is therapeutic

[@chubbshappygilmore3913]

Yuri Tarded

[@michelledig2741]

Oh my gosh, if I was her I would be so triggered by how sexist he is coming off… thank you again Dr. Honda for continuing to help us view all people with a sympathetic lens but also laughing at how ridiculous it can be 😆

[@MegaGreencarebear]

Yes, he's so off-putting! I don't know how she's sitting there engaging so politely!

[@CorporateG0th]

I dunno considering her lead value was the man's bank account I'm starting to think they might go tit for tat in the transactional relationship department.

[@theb2694]

It is a one of the biggest indicators of pathological narcissism. The pathological envy. Tate has feelings of envy in bunches. The way he resents beautiful women is mind-blowing.

[@chubbshappygilmore3913]

That's how I got my girlfriend

[@chelsea7755]

There are men that I know that are hilarious and just have a great vibe. They constantly attract women because they feel safe and warm.

[@shaggyd00kale58]

When she threw that retort at him and he shot it down I was talking out loud "I've seen comedic charismatic but physically uncomely men attract women. I've also seen heavier set women who know how to make a man feel like he's the only one in the room without patronizing him and land a him with ease. It happens!!" These singular metric dichotomies for absolute success or failure are ridiculous.

[@SPACEDOUT19]

@@shaggyd00kale58100%. He has a juvenile way at looking at the world.

[@outoftheblue6587]

tate does not have any good vibes LOL

[@amanr6346]

It’s interesting how we (me included) have an split second summation of people, such psychologically short cuts makes sense as they don’t demand thinking and analysis. I’ve done this with Tate and countless others. What I love about this video is that the interaction is analysed from a completely neutral standpoint, and examined with no judgment just an analysis of words/language/sentiment expressed etc and trying to get behind the elaborate facade we often display! Loving this!👍😀

[@laurapatrice1986]

I agree! I loathe Tate, but it’s so interesting to see Dr. Honda dig in to what’s going on under the surface.

[@radiclelife]

He’s only neutral because he hasn’t seen/heard the other media clips/interviews/streams that he’s been on where he describes his very seriously dark motives and actions in life. Even the fact that he talks so often about “evading and not talking to the police” in this “date” is kinda concerning… I feel like a lot of the guesses he’s made is pretty much on the nose even though he doesn’t know that much about Andrew Tate yet so yes, his psychoanalysis so far is pretty close to truth

[@amanr6346]

@@radiclelife To try and understand the motivations and actions of people like Tate, we need to get beneath the surface despite all his outrageous comments etc. The defence mechanisms some people put up in order to deal with whatever has happened to them are quite elaborate and orchestrated be it unconsciously or consciously! Just fascinating to know how people get to this point! 😀

[@radiclelife]

@@amanr6346 let me ask you thins: would you have an argument with a friend over text messages, or would it be more effective and probably resolve the issue faster and better if you were to talk to them in person or even, at least, over the phone? When you text something to someone, that’s it: You’re just getting their black and white words. They may have meant to have said something in a different tone or inflection, but you could interpret it in any way because you don’t have the tonal or physical cues like you would on the phone or in person. Some people (I’d even argue basically all people tbh) need those cues in order to fully process something. When you have a platform like Tate (I’d argue if you have any platform but that’s just me) and you know what kind of people are listening demographically, or even just how your community is engaging in response to your content, you have a responsibility to that audience. Tate knew who his target audience is/was and knew full well what he was doing and saying. He felt like that his ideas and actions were empowering and uplifting, and some would attest that it is (or go even further with their praise) but for others, like me, it isn’t. And although you see him through the screen, his words and actions are still black and white because they’re forever fixed to be that way: no matter how many times you play the video back, that’s what it is. You can only get more info or actions from him if you keep watching more. And when you do watch more, it’s still the same concepts and black and white words…so yes, I’m comparing his content to like texting a friend when you’re arguing about something due to the fact that you’re not actually talking to him, you’re just listening and trying to “read him” through the screen. Even though many who do follow him will say that you have to read in between the lines about things, you also have to understand that there are people who don’t. Or, maybe they do understand some of the subliminal messaging, but they really do take what is said at face value as well. This is when you get into dangerous territory when you say something like: “I’m not afraid of a woman if she tries to go for your machete because I can grab her by the neck and fight her off easily because you’re a man and what is a woman to you?” along with other messaging. Sure in that scene he may be basically saying that “I’m not afraid of any woman because I’m a man and I’m stronger than her”, but was mentioning the abuse, along with somewhat demonstrating it, necessary? Or could he have simply said that he wasn’t afraid? No, he wouldn’t because he knows that the extra verbiage and physically “showing” of what he would do to a woman continues to stoke your fire of “masculinity”. There are many other worrisome incidents that he’s displayed but this comment is long already, and again these words are just black and white. I’m going to guess that a lot of people who love and support Tate are going to stand up for him after this one

[@dejavuchicka]

I really dislike describing people as "high value". Does these mean people who are "lower value" are lesser people? I would prefer to use "desirability". Its semantics, but i think an important differentiator.

[@s.melonita4454]

Absolutely right and well-put. Similar to the more misogynistic ways of alpha/beta male/woman. If someone uses that language in front of me (or even "compliments" me as a "high-value woman") my spidey senses definitely get activated.

[@Star-dj1kw]

That’s what I thought. I equate the Value with Worth. I think the Tate guy was getting at “well developed”?

[@evaphillips2102]

A person who can deescalate violence is objectively way more valuable to a society.

[@Dvlly99]

And escalate as well if needed right? Or else there is no society at all

[@dotenks]

@@Dvlly99 No, because anyone can start a war, but only few people can prevent it.

[@Dvlly99]

@@dotenks without proper escalation when needed, you can forget about a society being formed or staying alive. It’s all over if you can’t stand up for your people. That’s my point

[@jessp8238]

If you read The Art of War you’d disagree 😮

[@TosyaChan]

What is even up with that violence statement that he makes. Both men and women can be defensive and violent when someone's life at risk. It's a given and a normal response to a life-threatening situation. But do we want that in our daily lives where we are at peace? No! It shouldn't be a personality trait, because if it is one, then it will eventually turn into abuse.

[@MegaGreencarebear]

This guy's focus on the "high value man"'s status and power completely ignores traits that most people value in a long-term partner: kindness and cooperation. I'm unsurprised that he's single.

[@sitvisjes]

He's not single.

[@bec472]

@@sitvisjes I’m not surprised he’s not single .. he’s a predator and unfortunately there will always be women who value the fact he has some money over the fact he’s a psychopath.

[@stst77]

Actually he didn’t ignore these traits. He specifically addressed them when he said to be a high value woman you have to be hot. If you are nice that’s an added bonus but isn’t necessary. For andrew all that matters is a woman is beautiful so she can use her looks to bring him in money. All his girls have short shelf lives because women are only hot from adolescence to early 20s and yes he is into teenagers.

[@stst77]

@@sitvisjeshe will not give a woman the dignity of a legal marriage nor will he give a woman the dignity of fidelity so call that what you like but it isn’t the normal definition of a man in a committed relationship.

[@geometricdesigns3620]

I know a lot of pretty girls who don't do very well in life because of personality disorders and other things. To say all a woman needs is to be pretty is quite a stretch, but maybe not to men with the personality of a thumb tack.

[@flickswithnic]

Andrew tate is the worst.. he is the literal representation for everything I hate in this world lol. I’m happy you are breaking this down. Every time he speaks I want to call the police. (Joking.. kind of… lol)

[@LadyBlacksheep]

I think we would all feel safer if people like him got locked up.

[@marsukarhu9477]

Yeah, but I can't help thinking he's just a troll because he's so f*ing idiotic and ridiculous. But that wouldn't make him any better anyway because he is still promoting hatred towards women.

[@flickswithnic]

@Likiba Zinorsi I mean … I’m happily married soooo he would be life companion… so… 🤣

[@flickswithnic]

@Likiba Zinorsi you sound super vanilla. You must be a blast at parties. Anyways, My sexual history is no one else’s business except mine and my husbands because we tell each other everything. Thanks though. 🤣

[@flickswithnic]

@Likiba Zinorsi but also.. we have been together for 9 years.. sooo maybe your “research” is faulty

[@jmorphiscave]

How is she still sitting there? My ass would’ve been gone. Lol

[@DashaTheDivineDivah]

It's so refreshing to hear a man understand that just because you're an attractive woman doesn't mean that your life is suddenly easier. It is the most frustrating thing to do with people constantly telling me that if they were me they would have all of these bills paid and they would be taken advantage of all the attention as if all attention is good attention or wanted attention. People have no idea what it's really like to be a woman or an attractive woman. And then like him definitely have no clue. Thank you doctor H for just being you

[@AlexSmith-ln5eh]

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[@rebekahrw6670]

Ahahahaha I am here 👏 for 👏this 👏 Dr. Kirk debunking toxic masculinity and modelling healthy masculinity is so intensely cathartic for me personally I get so depressed seeing so much toxicity and sexism online.

[@sitvisjes]

All the men bashing not only online but in the mainstream media is pretty depressing... Newton's third law, you can't keep getting away with it. If the bitter misandrist feminazis stop with that toxic feminity a lot of the sexism and hate will stop.

[@ronnie5329]

I am danish, but its a little hard not to notice that america women also have their toxicity streaming out of particularly tiktok. Sometimes i wish the internet power cables were cut between europe and america, Andrew tate would be laughed at everywhere in the world outside of america, hes a character almost

[@ronnie5329]

@Likiba Zinorsi you do understand that tate is extremely fragile right, he needs to be told he is King by everyone or his world falls apart.

[@gingerdevonshire1479]

I never seem to get if he's lying brilliantly to putting up a show, or he is for real, like that level of bottled anger, projection and insecurity is way too perfect to be all made up.

[@klaythoring1326]

I don’t think he knows either.

[@britt2973]

Apparently it’s all an act. The comedian Tom Segura has a podcast where he had Andrew Tate on (it was a long time ago too). Tom Segura said when Andrew would say these screwed up things about women and all of the hateful speech during the interview , he could see Andrew try not to break laughing, he said he was constantly cracking a smile slightly and seemed like it was all just for show. I’m pretty positive the guys still an actual duchebag but I also believe that he says most of theses outrageous comments to get attention. I mean look how much attention he’s getting right now.

[@gingerdevonshire1479]

@@britt2973 yeah he's a good actor but I believe that he's an absolute douchebag, and absolutely insecure and misogynistic, he just know that he's unjustified. He has no conviction whatsoever.

[@deadams8905]

@@britt2973 he says controversial things as his ticket to fame. It got him there extremely quickly but it also blew up in his face not that long after. Very short sighted on his part but also not all that uncommon.

[@cassavepiece]

It's all an act, in his apology video after being banned he says he and his PR team were working on cleaning up his act to avoid problems but since it's happened he sees no point now

[@codysmovingcastle]

Oop look at him dropping those "police problems" in there 👀

[@DrDrea-ey4oj]

I think a lot of misogynistic men they don't like their situation and they redirect it out on women rather than the systems that hold that narrative/circumstance. They never were taught to emotionally regulate and explore because that part of them wasn't developed ( you're on your own / boys don't cry).

[@babaganouche9605]

You have the most polite and articulate way of saying this man is coping hard with his own sense of inadequacy.

[@mayflyrose8195]

Urjh the chess analogy is so annoying. Like okay, the queen gets to go wherever she wants (which maybe bothers him because he thinks women shouldn't be able to go where they want) but any piece can become a queen. If the queen falls, the game's still on. If the king falls however it checkmate.

[@nini.purple]

Idk what is a “high value man” but We all value Dr. Kirk, this I know for sure 😊

[@angelaatwood486]

Thank you for constantly addressing sexism. I can’t tell you my facial expression every time he speaks. This woman that was on this date with him was beyond sweet most would’ve left by now with everything he has said.

[@sarahe1491]

I feel like this is a Sacha Baron Cohen character

[@lannaintajak80]

😂

[@SailorSlay]

Statistically speaking the person a man can kill is going to be his spouse/partner so …, no. I don’t need a man who can kill 😂

[@surf1589]

Value is inherently subjective. People from different backgrounds all value different things. Just as someone stranded in the desert values water over diamonds. It’s interesting Andrew is dismissive of what others value to look at another person as “high value”. Like you I could go on, but I all I will say is wouldn’t change my meaningful relationships and deep understanding on others values in my community over all the money Andrew has.

[@darklausal23]

Money and beauty does not equal happiness, just like the biggest diamond ring does not determine the love and loyalty of a man to his wife.

[@girlwomen515]

All I see is a 7 year old boy having a conversation with a grown up 😅. I forced myself to read books and listen to podcasts because I grew up in a dysfunctional environment and I knew something was wrong so essentially I wanted to save myself. So anyway I’m glad I did the work because I can listen to Andrew Tate and immediately realize he’s sooo insecure. So full of it. You’re affecting the young boys talking this crazy not men

[@realg7849]

Do you have the money that he has? Cars, status, accomplishments? A man who's a multimillionaire, a 4 times world champion in kickboxing, gets a lot af attractive women, has a Bugatti has definitely worked on himself. You can't achieve all that by not working on yourself as a man. You can't be a threat to big establishments if you're a nobody.

[@TosyaChan]

​@@realg7849 you put way too much value on money and materialistic things. Andrew's still a nobody. Even if people on the internet know his name, he's still doesn't have any real significance. Governments and establishments run as usual.

[@realg7849]

@@TosyaChan You can bend reality with money

[@AliveBoldTV]

I am very interested in the manosphere from a therapeutic perspective and I appreciate the way that you picked up on the subtle hint of vulnerability in the way he was speaking about the “hardship” that men experience. The KZbinr @FDsignifier just did an awesome series on this topic and brought in elements related to identity and capitalism to build out the conversation. You may find it interesting. The macro is the micro and I think there’s a shift in consciousness that is exposing the flaws in how societal structure and how it impacts our relationships. I agree, he is on a mission. That point about detecting the underlying emotion is so key for these very real conversations within this dynamic.

[@mandi4794]

I love FD! I've been meaning to start that video but its so long.

[@AliveBoldTV]

@@mandi4794 long but worth it! He recently retired the topic so there’s o chance of missing out on anything new.

[@TheeBabyDollJenny]

The Manosphere seems very toxic - I guess I can’t see how it’s therapeutic. It’s an echo chamber of toxicity and misogyny - which isn’t helpful to men if they seek something therapeutic.

[@AliveBoldTV]

@@TheeBabyDollJenny Apologies, I didn’t mean that’s I see it as therapeutic, I meant that it is something I am interested in studying more as a therapist

[@mandi4794]

@@AliveBoldTV maybe i've found my weekend plan :p

[@IWantToRideMyBike]

He’s a debate lord. Someone who gets off on debating even if no one around him is even debating him.

[@spOOkytimes]

nothing necessarily wrong with that, but people who are actually good at speaking and debating are using solid literature backed arguments or collections of real stories, not just lies, singular fake examples, and hateful rhetoric. Some people are genuinely persuading educated people with their own agency rather than preying on and scamming vulnerable, lonely, and hurt people like Tate is.

[@intuitivelogic5159]

The chess analogy makes no sense "the king moves one square at a time" Ok, the game of chess isn't a race , the pieces don't win when they reach a destination

[@Tyda777]

Dr Honda **IS** high value human!!!!!

[@linkridgeshelties7413]

A smart man won’t tell you he’s smart, a rich man won’t tell you he’s rich and an actually good man would never tell you he’s high value, it’s laughable!!

[@elmenchoUSA]

As a Andrew Tate fan I can agree it hurts but its truth

[@maxinejohnson7695]

Next time I get into an argument with one of these men about this topic, I'm definitely gonna say, "I can understand how someone who hasn't read the research can think those things." What a burn!

[@saladmonkey5901]

This series is so interesting! I already know a bit about Andrew Tate from Hasanabi debating him (which is another video I'd love to see you reacting to) and it's very interesting to see your insights into Andrew and his insecurities and how effortlessly you seem to see through him. Great work!

[@epileptictrees5213]

I clicked on this shit so fast

[@hannahmacdonald9040]

What about the majority of women who are average or below? Do we then have absolutely no value whatsoever and should just end it all? The logic is so flawed, majority of people aren't extremely attractive and given all these benefits for free, so what about us? He's basically saying women who can't afford to look beautiful or weren't born with such privileges are a waste of space, whereas men can build themselves up in other ways. Very sad that some men are falling for this kind of rhetoric, we all have value, we are born with value, all you can do is be the best version of yourself whatever that looks like for you.

[@realg7849]

Men are not born with an inherent value. When a woman gets killed you'll see it all over the news and social media but if a man gets killed it doesn't matter even if it makes the news its not a big deal.

[@myra3266]

He’s a gangster lol he said a high value man can kill someone and hold a baby in the same day? That’s the mentality this guy I dated had. Because he knew how to fight…he would say “you haven’t seen my bad side yet..I could kill you if I wanted to but I would never hit you” 😳 I think he thought that was a huge flex but instead it was like a huge red flag….

[@9395gb]

I can't believe someone said that to you. Glad you saw the red flag. Those are the type of people who actually get violent with someone to control them or kill someone if they break up or divorce them.

[@Itsme60804]

I can tell you Dr. Honda that getting hit on, unsolicited, is not something I want. Maybe some women enjoy that, but me and some of my girl friends that I’ve talked to/bonded with over this do not enjoy it. It’s not just on social media; it happens at grocery stores, gas stations, when we’re just going about our business. One time in high school even I was hit on at a stop light. My little sister was chased while on a jog at an unsuspecting, nice park and had to get the police involved. She was 16 or 17. It makes some of us feel very unsafe.

[@sarahcollins7220]

Can't believe so many young men turn to this guy for relationship advice. Really hope many of them learn what a real, healthy relationship is about.

[@LeftyBlue]

Him disagreeing with her when she explained her experience is only one of about a million examples of mansplaining that women experience on a daily basis. Also, notice that he, once again, added the "living with his mom" to her example of being attracted to a funny guy even if he was just average looking. She never said the funny guy lived with his mom. He added that detail. Hmmm projecting?

[@AliveBoldTV]

I am very interested in the manosphere from a therapeutic perspective and I appreciate the way that you picked up on the subtle hint of vulnerability in the way he was speaking about the “hardship” that men experience. The KZbinr @FDsignifier just did an awesome series on this topic and brought in elements related to identity and capitalism to build out the conversation. You may find it interesting. The macro is the micro and I think there’s a shift in consciousness that is exposing the flaws in how societal structure and how it impacts our relationships. I agree, he is on a mission.

[@ghostfrequencies]

fd signifier does a wonderful job at this; i'm so glad you brought him up!

[@henryclamore4791]

Why do you put hardship in quotation marks, you always trying to minimise the very idea of men having concerns.

[@AliveBoldTV]

@@henryclamore4791 Hi Henry, thanks for responding. I’m not sure what you’re referring to when you say always as I don’t believe we have interacted before, especially in person? I used quotation marks to highlight the way in which AT is trying to weaponize the idea of men having hardships in order to prove a point as opposed to actually speaking genuinely and with vulnerability to connect. It’s clear that all humans have hardships because we are …human. And yes, men experience hardships as well. Did you look into the video I raved and recommended? That may give you a clearer indication of my interest, care, and activism around the topic of mens mental health and wellness. Have a good day. 😊

[@MJ31579]

He's talking to a women that is groomed from head to toe, well spoken, in shape, and well dressed. That all costs money. And a similarly groomed and good looking men would get dates too.

[@cynthiahule]

I listen to your episodes every morning on my commute to work, or on the elyptical at the gym and it really brightens my day to get a dose of “good intention” and positivity every day. I am doing a lot of inner work and hearing you validate these things through your episodes is really healing! Thank you and Podwife for all your hard work ❤️❤️

[@AlexSmith-ln5eh]

yikes

[@dotenks]

@@AlexSmith-ln5eh yikes

[@shadiyahslifestyle9147]

I don't know if you know this Dr. Kirk but there was a man named Kevin Samuels his platform was all about this and I believe he was the current originator of speaking about a high-value man and high-value women.

[@MKSouthernStar]

I haven't been able to hear two sentences from this man before watching your opinion. Props to the patience of this woman. I can see why he's single.

[@sorellla]

It's jenuinely sad listening to Andrew Tate talk. I mean for me, but also for him. He's honestly pathetic in the literal sense

[@thandondlovu5392]

Preach Doctor Kirk Honda Preach!!!

[@tanyamilewski5700]

I have friend like him I feel bad for him. Whenever someone breaks up with him he says she found someone richer and can’t accept any other reason is possible. When I tell him I wouldn’t leave my relationship for someone richer he doesn’t believe it, he is convinced if someone with a yacht comes along interested I will drop everything for him. I asked him what would I do in the yacht when I leave my relationship. He says I only say/ask that because I don’t have prospects like that or I can’t attract such a person. So I am talking cz I have no such options or possibility. If someone comes along I wld go with them. It’s a very strange mentality or perspective about the world and what women want or should want or would want. He is also very driven to be rich-works in tech making several hundreds wc he shows all the time- but still believes he got left for someone richer. And he talks about prenups all the time and scared of then family courts taking everything from him WHEN she leaves. I don’t think he will keep someone because he is too uptight about relationships. Don’t know how to help him relax a bit. Oh and he expects someone who will stay home with his kids while he works cz he believes that’s better for the kids to have a full time mom. I told him you can’t want that and also afraid of family court.

[@deadams8905]

It reminds me of the age old idea that women like "bad boys" instead of "nice guys." There can be a million things a women can be attracted to about someone. Whether someone is"nice" or "bad" is a very small percentage of the equation when it comes to attraction. A person can be a "bad boy" and still be nice to women. A person can be a "good boy" and be a total ass towards women. I think it's just a way to blame the other gender for someone's own insecurities instead of themselves. All humans probably do this to some degree when feeling insecure but I hear this quite often with young men who get rejected and don't know how to process it.

[@realg7849]

I agree with your friend. Men love idealistically (they love you for who you are) and women love opportunistically (they love you for what they can extract from you) so he's looking at it logically and willing to face harsh truth. I think it's a bad idea for men especially successful to get married in 2022 since we live in a femcentric/gynocentric system. I don't believe that you won't leave your relationship if you receive a DM from Future or Drake. Of course there are women who will not leave but they're an anomaly, they don't even make 1% so exceptions don't disprove the rule.

[@tanyamilewski5700]

@@realg7849 who told you that men love idealistically and women opportunistically? What does that mean exactly?

[@realg7849]

@@tanyamilewski5700 I explained above though. Who told me? Well I observe and others have observed the same so this is gospel. A multimillionaire man can date a woman who works at McDonald's, he doesn't care how much money she has or the car she drives or her status but women only love men where they can get something from them. Studies show that women are hypergamous in nature and they only go for the top 10% of men. Women don't mind sharing a high status man. Women don't care that Future or Drake have multiple women. I also read that women initiate breakups and divorces more when they receive a promotion. Hypothetically if a man is making $100k and she makes $60k it will work until she makes about $90k then she will leave 'cause there's nothing much she can get from him now. She'll go for someone who makes about $150k

[@tanyamilewski5700]

@@realg7849 1-how do you observe relationships which are intimate/private things? What is happening inside a relationship and what you see from afar maybe 2 different things and you make incorrect judgments about what is happening and use that in your own life even if it may not apply to your situation? How many multimillionaires are dating McDonald’s workers? How do you know the cost to that woman of dating that man? How do you conclude relationships are all about money and nothing else? Or how do you conclude they go for the 10% men, so only 10% men are in good relationships? Basically you are making many generalizations which aren’t reality. Eg saying women initiate divorce with promotions therefore it’s all about money. What if it’s because the man doesn’t support the promotion Eg time commitment involved and the relationship breaks down when it could have survived if he was onboard? What if those initiations are responses to ultimatums Eg me or the job, not money? And they choose the job due to the lack of support not because they want someone else? And I am sure it’s not easy navigating a relationship with someone who believes they will be left as soon as a richer person comes. That person will probably be detached, or controlling, or putting you down to stay above you to prevent hypergamy. How is that love idealistic? Like my friend I know his break ups are because he is a lot, not money. But he is convinced it’s all about money and probably adds to the “statistics” you use of women wanting material things.

[@user-fo6kp6nt5b]

15:24 That is such a good point that I will be using! Women can't be as powerful as they say if we're still underrepresented in powerful positions.

[@saiyamoru]

first date, a man tells me he's 'a shoe salesman' and that 'a man needs to be able to kill someone and hold a baby in the same day' - I am not walking, I am RUNNING out of there. It'd be a funny story to gossip about with the girlfriends afterwards until we found out about the sex trafficking and physical abuse charges. How this woman stayed composed for the cameras, I do not know.

[@agamamama1351]

In my experience, when someone resents how hard they've had to work, it's because they missed out on having healthy care and support in childhood.

[@karinarosales4803]

The guy’s fake British accent is so annoying 😂 the lady had so much patience!!

[@joolz2305]

Yes, it is really weird… it’s not a British accent, but not an American accent either… and not even a mid-Atlantic accent. 🤔

[@sfessaha]

The high value man or woman concept is a thing in the black community. There's a guy who created this concept. I forget who it is. But it's essentially rooted in misogyny and superficial ideas.

[@jimmyteerex2177]

Even if I was Andrew Tate and believed everything Andrew Tate believed, I'd like to think I'd have the self control to keep the conversation low key and casual on the first date. Give a brief overview of myself and get one of hers. Find what our common interests/experiences are. Share some funny stories. The objective of the first date is to get the other person comfortable around you and build a base level of trust and interest while preserving some intrigue so they want to meet you again. Acting like he does will limit him to attracting only women with low self esteem and/or women who just want his money. Any other woman will dismiss him as an insecure control freak and walk out.