Andrew Tate goes to therapy #7 - (Therapist Reacts)

[@stxrryd]

Personally, I believe that when your stomach growls, you're actually manipulating those around you to share their food with you. It's very manipulative.

[@i3mma]

😂

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Can you hear it??? Funny. If my stomach is growling, then you *know* I'm hungry, because I almost never go for very long without eating. It's a thing in my Japanese-American family.

[@stxrryd]

@@PsychologyInSeattle Don't worry, Dr. Honda. I was making a sarcastic joke about Tate's attitude.

[@i3mma]

@@stxrryd Yes I got it. It was funny.

[@Gokce-Aysun]

lmao

[@snowgirlpea]

Saw your feature on the H3 live show!! So cool to see you getting more recognition, thank you for educating me

[@Justjustin7093]

Oh man can you link to that episode I’d love to see it 👀 @Trippsies.Universe

[@sumrae.]

​@@Justjustin7093I second that motion!!! Please!

[@nice2meetyou631]

Which episode is that?

[@HappInesYT]

The latest show - Steamies award show. Best apology award part

[@daydream2622]

Yes I loved seeing my worlds collide!! I got so excited seeing Dr. Honda!!

[@kimmcdonagh6756]

Dr. Honda- your (over) explanations are perfect for this channel. I dont thonk its too much. Its a gift for explaining very clearly. Perfect as far as I'm concerned!

[@applegal3058]

The fact that he is able to sit and logically understand how this man ticks is definitely a skill. Andrew Tate revolts me, and to watch a video of just him spewing misogyny would be very difficult for me.

[@destiny6373]

We need an "Emotions are logical." clip and perhaps, merch. 😊

[@AllyMack23]

I would've asked Andrew, "why do you think people cry when they're alone then?" There's no one to manipulate.

[@hayleyb467]

manipulating ourselves 🤔🤪

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Good point! But I think he would say that they're just feeling sorry for themselves.

[@LeylaSKDR]

It's hard to watch any content with Andrew Tate. I am watching this just because I appreciate Dr. Kirk Honda.

[@lannaintajak80]

Same.

[@MKSouthernStar]

Ditto

[@powderandpaint14]

The man who ended up in a Romanian jail and is still on house arrest says that he never fails.......ok.

[@whatdoyoulivefor735]

I think Tate believing that expressions of emotion are nearly always a manipulation tactic is a sign that he may have NPD. There are several signs that he may be suffering from NPD. Captain Obvious comment I guess haha

[@missinterpretation4984]

Yeah as much as narcissism is thrown around, I believe he is a legit case.

[@vohol6158]

Or maybe he could have grown up with toxic/manipulative/narcissistic family members who he considers (possibly unconsciously) did something like this? I think that could also lead to an opinion like this. Though I guess the two situations aren't mutually exclusive at all.

[@gnomie06]

For the record, I love your "yammering". I've learned so much from you. Thank you for all the content you give us

[@thebowandbullet]

Why do I have the feeling that Tate came up with people being "emotionally incontinent" after he was accused of being "emotionally constipated"? lol

[@theamp1986]

😂. Emotionally constipated 😅

[@gracemkperrin]

It was so good to see you on The Steamys Dr. Honda!

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Yeah, it was funny when he reached out to me.

[@19katsandcounting]

He he is actually very emotional. He’s not crying, but he’s never calm. Instead of crying he gets a little hysterical.

[@FishnizyIzzy]

That is the impression I get of Andrew Tate too! He is so hyped up with his emotions and his covering it up. I kind of want to tell him to breath... In slowly and out slowly because he gives me this vibe he is about to explode or implode. And that's just through a video. I feel bad for him and his need for control

[@cesars.photos]

As Andrew struggles to be vulnerable, he says he can’t think of any weaknesses he has. His weakness is not being able to be vulnerable!

[@lannaintajak80]

True 😂

[@cesars.photos]

@@dariasmeh true 😂

[@Natasha_-_]

He is literally a narcissist so how is therapy going to work on him? He sounds like he is trying to counsel the counselor like he is the one giving the therapy not receiving it, lol ofc it has to be on camera lmao 4:09 Well sh*t maybe he is a psychopath by the sounds of that! He is the manipulative, weak one! He is stonewalling them and being emotionally abusive, they are not weak or manipulative, that is how they feel! How can you tell someone how they feel?! lmao

[@ExtraordinaryMachine333]

I've heard therapy can work for Narcissists, but they have to know recognize that it's a problem for it to work. AT doesn't seem to be at that point.

[@Natasha_-_]

@@ExtraordinaryMachine333 Ya, and even then they don't change 100% it just gives them awareness and they may get a little nicer to their loved ones, but there is no cure for personality disorders/mental illness even with medication unfortunately.

[@ExtraordinaryMachine333]

@@Natasha_-_ I think it depends on the disorder and the person and the treatment. Borderlines for instance can get treatment and be awesome (The Truth Doctor on You Tube for instance). And a lot of people have traits without having the disorders (ex. Dr. Honda has mentioned having Narcissistic traits, but he seems to bend over backward to make sure that he's being balanced in the way he approaches things). There probably isn't a cure per se, I think you're right about that, but there are ways to work with your brain stuff to provide better outcomes.

[@em8066]

I relate to Dr. Honda’s wtf moments when I meet other highly trained medical professionals who grasp the science around ethnicity, for example, yet they’re still racist. It boggles.

[@EssaryMichele]

I could name many of his weaknesses just because i have listened to him, but he either has no self reflection, can't bear to acknowledge them to others, or can't bear to acknowledge he has any to himself.

[@susanutaifa]

I enjoy this channel a lot

[@theclearfieldvlog]

Thanks!

[@Cai_saN]

Thank you forexplaining thesethings so well! In your videos your jammering is a strength :)

[@s.melonita4454]

I’ve been writing this from the first video of yours I ever watched in 2020. You do not yammer! If your sayings are gems, they just cannot be called yammerings. They’re gifts that keep on giving, literally!

[@Ununpentium]

This was a very interesting episode, both from the material shown and your inputs. Thanks!

[@Natasha_-_]

12:50 He doesn't believe he has weaknesses 😂

[@cantsay]

This shows people think the world is like them, Tate has mo emotions, so he thinks no one else does and is just "faking emotions"

[@kinesis4868]

Emotion is a manipulation!? 😂 so when I tear up through pure joy, well up through overwhelming sadness, sob or cry out through pain, grief or loss. That expression, that presentation of emotion is a complete manipulation!? Whatever dude. You’ve trapped yourself in your own illogical, psychopathic matrix and it looks like hell there.

[@majammmmh]

Loved seeing you in the H3 live show ♡

[@giandina85]

deserving listener/foot soldier here. ARE YOU KIDDING MEEEEEEE!!! JUST FINISHED WATCHING THE STEAMIES, I LITERALLY STARTED SCREAMING WHEN I SAW DR HONDA GUEST STARRING! LIKE WHAAAAAAAAAAT!!!!

[@buffy6673]

Agreed! I can say confidently I do not want his life, I would never sleep with him, and I definitely criticize him but I also almost never think about him 😂

[@Lucywald2012]

I think David talking about how women are illogical could have been him getting carried away with trying to appease Tate

[@kunsagiandrea1289]

I think you are elaborating complex topics - not yammering! Additionally your insights on studies and your knowledge is amazing and very valuable. I see that as a gift. Thanks for your contribution, Andrea Anna

[@noms341]

dr kirk, i love that you talk too much lol, i do the same thing but the over explanations really help clarify exactly whats going on and end up being very informative

[@sylviaowega3839]

Omg Kirk! It seems like you have the same weakness that I have. I know my hubby has complained that I tend to talk too much at times in a sense that my stories are long, I over explain and that I am too informative. My hubby is like, “Okay, okay, oka! -quit yammering!”

[@Nightswim_]

Dr Honda, It is good that there are therapists like this, whether you disagree with their ideology or not, as I am noticing a therapist like you is showing far too much judgment in order to work with him. I am a female, also have some more avoidant leaning attachment , though it’s the more mixed anxious one and it took me months of working with a therapist to be able to cry in front of him & it’s not because I am narcissistic. Although , I do not have the grandiosity of Andrew Tate nor care for the things he does and am more vulnerable in different ways , it takes longer, so maybe that’s why the therapist hung in with me .

[@pj20832]

Make this. Series. So many pods to chose from. Do the most recent sir with George

[@SmellyDogPaws]

I can relate. I yammer too, Dr. K 😂 I’ve found this series fascinating so thank you for blessing us with your yammerings!

[@Mama_Bear524]

I also yammer which is one reason I like him. I feel seen!

[@Gokce-Aysun]

LOL Tell Stacy, my husband talks too much too and has long winded stories. Sometimes it's so hard for my scatterbrain to listen to them and when they are too long I start thinking about random things while he is talking. And I get caught not paying attention. 😂🤣😂

[@danielleblackburn4095]

Dr. Honda, I don’t know whether this is true, but is it possible that David said that (women are illogical) either as a joke or alternatively, in a therapeutic context? David saying that resulted in Tate responding “lets not be misogynistic”. I took it mostly as him jesting about Tates ridiculous commentary in the past. Idk, maybe that’s giving too much benefit of the doubt, but I didn’t find it offensive.

[@virginiasoares826]

If you a little bit of digging he does also profess misogynistic beliefs

[@Gokce-Aysun]

You know what I find interesting. I don't really think people are being manipulative when they are being emotionally. But as a Schizoid person I feel like over emotional people are uncomfortable and it feels manipulative to me- even though I know they are being normal and not manipulative. The only exception for me is children. I believe children have genuine emotions and they are the most genuine and honest human beings. Anyway, that is kind of why I like other Schizoid people more than non-Schizoids. We can just sit there and veg together with no expectations or judgement and then not be bothered when the other disappears or retreats for a month or two. I never feel awkward cringe with other zoids. 😅 I also find it funny that Andrew Tate says emotions are manipulative and he is one of the most over emotional people I have ever seen or listened to. 🙃

[@lilangeles777]

@psychologyinseattle I don't ever mind you not getting straight to the point :) hahaha because same

[@Natasha_-_]

10:58 💯

[@kimmcdonagh6756]

This is a great segment. I always thought Andrew Tate must have had extensive child abuse when I first heard him, his personality, his point of views, etc. I dont have any degrees or classes in psychology, but his personality seemed so deformed; i thought he mist have undergone extreme abuse. I looked into it & couldnt really find any evidence or stories of him being physically or sexually abused....so i felt confused So, I 💕💕 this segment, because it FINALLY is providing some insight. Peehaps it will help formulate a better response than just horror & derision when i come across someone as insecure & misogynistic as Tate in the future.

[@adirondackmama7724]

He and Tristan often joke off the abusive nature of their father. Off handed comments like "my dad used to just push me over so I learned life can knock you over at any time " or the haircut story that they didn't get into in this. When at 11, its the first time he is seeing his dad in a year, he complains about his haircut because his mother had been upset about it. His dad flipped out screaming she was turning his sons into weaklings. She called the cops and he went back to his hotel. The next day he picks up Andrew takes him to a barber shop and has them shave his head as punishment for caring about how he looked, then drops him off and goes back to the US.

[@sintara8442]

To be fair, I do think tates laughter at 13:00 is partly manipulative. He makes it sound like its a joke so that it's perceived as no big deal. Instead of a genuine answer

[@caeliamoonshadow]

Poor man. You can see the hurt child in him that needed more love than he got.

[@daypeanut4406]

5:55 I wonder if David actually went to college, if he would lose his misogynistic views.

[@usedupchapstick]

Wait what did David do?

[@kicikicikicikici]

Watch last episode

[@rachelreynolds0430]

google him. he's at least as bad as Tate. p.s. love ur username!

[@collectiveunconscious3d]

If I look at the people back home actually the majority leans towards the mentality of state sadly. There's an underlying force of insecurity that leads to a lack of connection with woman, which leads to a lack of connection with woman with men as well. And this confirms the conservative bias because that's the bubble they generated. I know a lot of dudes who never had much attention from girls and they generate such an unpleasant atmosphere because of it which makes woman respond in rejection. Proving to them the bias that woman are this or that. While on the female side this leads to disconnection and a sense of objectification. Once you're in this loop, how the heck would they get out, they're bias gets confirmed everywhere because of it. I hate to discuss this with dudes in this position because I know its nonsense and they cannot because they don't have the experience because they don't embody the safety or lack of need for the attention

[@Natasha_-_]

15:22 Cause he doesn't believe he has weaknesses!!!! 😅 He has to buy himself time to think of some real quick 😂

[@elder1656]

If David was a student in your program and you realized his views on women, would you try to get him out of the program?

[@kimberlyevers7031]

Interesting. Would like to know that as well. I feel that David is a good therapist, and, so long as he doesn't let his views interfere with his practice, it should be ok??? For example, my pediatrician is opposite the political spectrum ( snooped on his social media. lol) as me. However, he is a great pedi, and I entrust my kids into his care despite his views.

[@shatzoren1]

How come you are a psychologist and still so surprised that someone like David sometimes agrees and sometimes disagrees with your worldview? That is essentially what makes people unique...

[@theamp1986]

Tate says all these things in the public eye but I’m sure behind closed doors he is probably an “emotional” person. The tone of defensiveness about weakness then turn to compensation of “wanting others dependent” on his strength. Interesting

[@dolorestrios4479]

tate is very nervous and defensive. what did his parents do to him?

[@shatzoren1]

It's not the parents, it's the matrix and the lizards feminist conspiracy, way more harmful.

[@vane12685]

My husband doesnt cry. Some people just dont. Im not like that. I cry at the drop of a hat especcially if Im angry. He didnt cry when his dad died. You know when I saw him shed a tear? When my 15yo dog died. It wasnt even his dog. I dont think Andrew Tate would cry for not even mans best friend. I hate this guy.

[@NancyRodriguez-ip5rj]

I also talk too much. I need to work harder on limiting how much I talk.

[@thevillagejoke]

Why not finish watching 90 day the last resort??

[@breashamorris1485]

Are we sure David didn't just say the ultra misogynistic things in order to appeal to Andrew's ego? Is it possible David was behaving semi-inethically in a bid to get Andrew on his side?

[@Sough]

Listened to each of the participants first sentences, and turned it off, typical Tate rambling. Why interview this guy, or pretend to do therapy, when he is just going to ignore it and stand on his soapbox about whatever random bullshit he wants to talk about?

[@Mama_Bear524]

He’s so obviously insecure

[@vulka1232]

1:21 that hit so ****ing hard, and that is the reality of our world. In my village, I've heard horrible things to do to tens year old and it's not hidden everybody knows, but no one doing anything.

[@Alright70]

It’s amazing what a well fitted t shirt can do for your confidence. 😂 it’s kinda sad.

[@ryan2270]

thats your opinion

[@Natasha_-_]

He is so full of himself. He's delusional. He does not care about anyone but himself. I pray he never has children. I'm surprised that anyone would say he brings them comfort 😅 Unless it has to do with business, I doubt you can count on him. He truly gives psychopath. I thought they don't even have emotion.. that's what makes them a psychopath, right? And a sociopath has no emotion, but also no conscience?

[@kimberlyevers7031]

I believe they naturally have some emotion, but don't understand empathy? They also don't have a conscience.

[@kimberlyevers7031]

For example, Ted Bundy would rage and get excited when doing his thing...that's emotional overkill...pun not intended. And, heard he was quite fearful of being executed. Unbelievable that he thought killing and torturing people for fun was ok. When he couldn't handle 1 second of pain when killed. Also,, heard he was abused and neglected, yet, like A.T. he defended his upbringing.

[@Natasha_-_]

@@kimberlyevers7031 Yes narcissists do- sadness and anger, but usually only when they are using it to manipulate/get their way or if they finally lose everything and everyone and then they throw a temper tantrum like a toddler and even then they are on search for new supply constantly. I was referring to psychopaths and sociopaths not having genuine emotion. They are a pro at being likable/charming and pretending/faking emotion/love.

[@samanthas8340]

Well, the condition of a psychopath or sociopath is just a construct that sometimes shows up in the literature, but they're not DSM diagnoses. They would fall under the umbrella of antisocial personality disorder - which only a small percentage actually commit serial murders. I think sometimes by drawing these distinctions and putting labels on things, it can dehumanize these individuals. I know how it can sound to call people like Ted Bundy human, when people like this have committed the worst crimes possible and with no empathy or remorse. However, we don't want to put them in some non-human category either. I think people do this sometimes because it feels safer. But at the end of day I think these people are just very underdeveloped. Like children, they have unbridled emotions and no way to cope with them. They don't have emotion to manipulate. They manipulate because they are trying to get their needs met. People do this all the time, and it's not always a bad thing. People on the antisocial spectrum can also lack empathy, similar to the way children sometimes do, but even this is not a given in. To recieve a diagnose means the individual meets enough of the criteria - a lack of empaty may or may not be part of that criteria, depending on the individual. Additionally, I think of these individuals as having an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex (controls executive functioning) that is responsible for moral reasoning and decision-making. It's possible they just didn't get/ relieve the attunement at the critical point in their lives (through mirror neurons), which prevented their brains from having the necessary foundation to develop these things in adulthood. Couple that with trauma or abuse, ideological indoctrination, bad modeling, or repetitive rewards for bad behavior, and you may get a really bad sh*t storm.

[@kimberlyevers7031]

​@Natasha_-_ oh, they are great at faking emotions when they don't feel them, for sure.

[@rachelreynolds0430]

isn't it just another toxic masculinity thing? Tate is here and all our problems will be solved..sounds a whole lot like a big strong man is here and all our problems will be solved 🙄

[@theamp1986]

Leadership Run by men and still problems haven’t been solved 😂

[@Natasha_-_]

He loves hearing himself talk and truly believes when he speaks he can fool anyone 😅

[@nerveona]

Hey don't talk about Kirk like that! Lol jk

[@Natasha_-_]

@@nerveona Lol, who is Kirk? Dr. Honda? I meant Andrew 🤣😭

[@gigiarmany]

unable to listen, judgemental, aggressive, nervous, rageful, boastful, grandios, on edge, dismissive, unempathic, disrespectful...I could go on for days about this man -child "without vulnerabilities"..🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

[@SANTIAGOMARTINEZ-kp1tf]

And this is why he is there interviewing andrew and u are here on the sidlines. Because this is a therapy session, not a debate. You can NOT go into another mans house and debate him about his mental model that took him his whole life to create. You have to let him speak and see make good questions to assure the speaker that he is safe to express more. If you go in there right off the bat trying to challenge his way of thinking his guard is gonna be the stongest it can. However going in with a friendly demeanor and asking the right questions allows the guard to ease off more and get to something more profound. The therapist also doesnt just agree with everything he says. He inputs his idea and if he sees andrews guard coming up he'll back off.... easy

[@adeelahmed2442.]

How was saying that women and children depend on him misogynistic 😂😂😂

[@19katsandcounting]

He could say people depend on him. His employees depend on him. And he depends on them too.

[@nickyphenix4146]

he was referring to his multiple children with multiple women.

[@sylviaowega3839]

That is one of the things that I dislikes about Trump, is that he has drastically changed his political opinion through the course is his adulthood. He went from being a staunch liberal to a staunch conservative; and it is obvious to be that he did that to fulfill his own agendas.

[@kimberlyevers7031]

weeelll, a lot of people change as they get older. Some a lot, some not so much. Older and wiser kinda?

[@kimberlyevers7031]

with Trump, I genuinely feel he was a middle of the road businessman....giving $$$$ to both sides, but preferring the old time classic democrat... Thing is, he noticed policies that were harming his businesses, looked into it, and felt pragmatically, that he wanted to change things. That put him more on the right side of the aisle. You notice he hates establishment, whether it is R or D...And D has gotten more radical throughout the years, so classic liberalism isn't as strong of an influence as the more "progressive" side. So, maybe he's "rebelling" against the establishments on both sides???

[@sylviaowega3839]

@@kimberlyevers7031 Yes, but not as drastic as him.

[@kimberlyevers7031]

I have a friend who married a kook, and has literally, seemingly, shifted her views almost 90 degrees. In a space of less than a decade.@@sylviaowega3839

[@kimberlyevers7031]

despite the fact I have changed somewhat as well, and I have wanted to discuss this with her. She has cut off almost all her former friends...she is so intolerant....so sad.@@sylviaowega3839

[@RetentionLedGrowth]

I think you’re unfair to David. He has to agree with Tate so much otherwise Tate would get super defensive and never open up

[@virginiasoares826]

He had that doubt on the last episode and he found David X feed and his website and sure enough, David is as misogynistic as Tate

[@Hadria7777]

What you may feel is a flaw, I think is a gift. The more in depth you speak about everything, the more helpful you are to all of us. Thank you for being you and doing what you do. You have honestly changed my life 🙏🥹