Do This When He Pulls Away Or Acts Distant 🥶

[@SabrinaBendory]

Having his love is easy when you understand him. Here's how: www.understandhim.com/ Hope you liked the video! If you have any questions, comments or anything you want to share, let me know here! 😘

[@jamieleigh807]

As a 37 year old woman i want to say the older you get the less options you have. Wasted my best peak years on unavailiable/ abusive men. Make every effort you can while young to meet men you like. Be intentional. What do you need, what hurt you in your past relationship? Was he emotionally unavailiable? Seek therapy, learn your attachment style and meet as many men as you can. Don't leave the house unless you look great, you never know who you might meet along the way. Never waste time on someone who consistently shows lack of interest. I promise you, you will lose so much respect for yourself and self esteem. Make lots of mistakes on new people. Dont drag it out wasting time in men who dont really want you.

[@karly6120]

This is great advice

[@sepomushaukwa9006]

Thanks even us woman in our 20’s struggle with finding quality men. But this advice is everything. Hope you find the one❤️

[@danilaroche1156]

Your still young, booboo.

[@TruBliss]

Something amazing I learnt in therapy is that you get what you put up with. Understanding my own attachment style blew my mind. We try to look at familiarities (people who mirror our caregivers) even if the person is toxic. If we have an insecure attachment style, we would find emotionally unhealthy men/women sexy, attractive & healthy individuals pretty plain & boring.

[@BOOMUMMY]

Great advice

[@lelasultana603]

Mirror his energy that simple

[@priyankalives]

Sabrina is right. Giving someone space when they pull away is more out of self-love than anything else. Have faith in the relationship that it can cope on its own, and leave everything to the Higher Power. Keep yourself busy earning money, getting educated, travelling, or doing anything else you love doing. The Universe will either bring that person back to you or send someone else into your life instead.

[@coldlogic-gt9kg]

My bf pulled away and I walked away. And I decided to do no contact. It hasn’t even been 12 hours and he is already texting me paragraphs. I see his messages on notifications but trust me I am not opening the chat anytime soon, one because I have a life and two because he needs to understand the consequences of his decisions.

[@beccawhite1887]

If they pull away, they're not really interested. So let them pull away, and move on.

[@mindyann8903]

No if he pulls away - you pull away. This isn’t a male problem … The energy you give is what you get.

[@kristineb222]

OMG!! Yes the man decides the plow forward at 1000 miles mph and you keep up with him and then he says see you. Definitely MY fault.

[@Ida-Adriana]

@@kristineb222Attachment Theory explains a lot!

[@luxvella1598]

As soon as he pulled away, I moved on to someone else. And guess what?? He came running back, crying. Literally. 😂

[@SabrinaBendory]

Yup, that's how it usually goes!

[@Almasbaking]

Me too 😂😂😂

[@jujai.akainu]

And you accept him back. 😜

[@neressakotas4396]

it a bit late to want you back after that

[@jamieleigh807]

Yes!

[@ansaksa]

reason nr 4 :he met somebody else doesn`t matter. it`s disrespectful to ghost someone and leave them hanging . they could notify you lwhat their needs currently are

[@asmisamaze1234]

Honestly We need these relationship coaches in high schools. So teenagers are aware.

[@kerryakashian731]

I agree

[@kristineb222]

Asmisamaze for president

[@literallyjen]

He literally said he is overwhelmed and has trouble expressing his emotions. At least he expressed it. But believe it and move on ladies.

[@pixiechiquita7110]

You have no idea how much this helped me. My boyfriend who I love dearly, just ended things right after he asked me to move in with him. Ive been in a downward spiral and even started thinking about suicide. Thank you.

[@theeladyj]

Relaxxxxxx , no man is worth taking your life for

[@k.molloy5503]

I'm just seeing this message but I pray that you are doing better mentally and loving yourself. I will keep you in my prayers 🙏

[@tammerry9496]

I messed up big time doing these things with a guy I am interested in. I regret it so much. This video is a good video because it helps me realize how much I messed up.

[@kristinej.4182]

Sabrina is so helpful! I am so glad I found her channel! Thank you for all your wise advice! It’s like having a sister or best friend talking to me in my best interest. 😊

[@LilacKoi]

lol I literally had a guy who ghosted me two years ago, call me out of the blue saturday. he didnt text, he called me. and I answered just out of curiosity. and he had said he was in a bad place at the time and now he feels like he has his shit together and now wants to get back on it. BUT im actually talking to a guy i like a lot more than I ever liked him.

[@neressakotas4396]

Sometimes I think is a form of control. some men just like playing a game. just use this as a excuse because he may want to be with another woman.

[@christianriddler5063]

I love how similar the comments of both men and women are, lol. PEOPLE like to play games, both men and women. It's equally bad, no matter who does it.

[@chrissysfitnessjourney]

I’m definitely dealing with #2 but it’s not fair to me. So I’m pulling back my energy. If he KNOWS he’s going through things and can’t commit then leave me alone. It’s not fair to me at all. If you love me like u say. Leave me alone and let me go

[@gemstar7286]

I can't be dealing with the mind games, what's annoying is men who are nearly 40 still messing about giving out mixed signals/ ghosting etc 🙄🤦‍♀️.

[@kristineb222]

40s???? How about my 53 year old ex? It never fucking ends.

[@NathalieLazo]

The more we work on our own selves, the better we attract, in this case, a better partner and a phenomenal relationship. There’s no such thing as the “right person” (to an extend) we have to become the right person first! You got this, I believe in you and invest into YOU! Best investment you can ever do is in yourself for your family, others, future and lives overall! 💯% back guarantee return on your investment! Have a great day! 🚀🎉❤️

[@SabrinaBendory]

Yes! Perfectly put!

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

😍😍❤❤🌷🌷

[@christianriddler5063]

Self-improvement is a very attractive trait :)

[@drkhushi_1]

I cannot put it In Words how helpful your videos are. I’m so happy to find you here. Love from India ❤

[@coldlogic-gt9kg]

There is plenty of fish in the world. That’s the mindset to go. I literally started dating again and he came back crawling and begging.

[@rbin5156]

Omg I've been watching videos for years trying to figure out things. This my first time watching you and wow everything you are saying is helping me so much and this is exactly what I'm feeling and going through ty 😊

[@karenobedoza1659]

Your videos are much better than watching tarrot card reading😅. Thank you.

[@AD-hh6dd]

We always assume women chase and are clingy. I’ve had men pull away because I’m so distant they think I’m not interested :/

[@christianriddler5063]

That's literally what I would do as a man. If a woman doesn't respond or talk with me. If she is distant then I will take that as a sign that she wants nothing to do with me. I will move on and find another woman who actually spends time with me. People should just talk more, about life, about things that connect people with one another.

[@corriemiller3297]

I have had bad relationships. My current love is constantly pushes me away.

[@neressakotas4396]

yes that is what is happening to me

[@orangemangas2465]

HER :He blocked me on everything. So I applied at his job. I'll see you in the morning babe.

[@kaoshi_kutie]

This 😂😂😂😂

[@shotpusher]

😂😂😂

[@SophYef]

This the one 😂😂😂😂

[@_Diaryofwealth]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@nollaazar]

Thank you, you just saved my relationship, this video popped up at the right time!

[@SabrinaBendory]

So happy to hear it!

[@realmsofthespiritarts8557]

Yeah I def acted like we was together when we wasn’t

[@xphantom1177]

How did it go and what did you do after?

[@speaknothingbutthetruth]

This was actually some good information and I have watched 20 others videos on this same subject from other people

[@asanchez-02]

thank you so much for this ,everything was on point . ❤ it feels like im just talking to a bestfriend that knows every details of my relationship issue.❤❤❤

[@lizzieh431]

Your videos are interesting and beneficial to watch even for singles and when there's no problem

[@SabrinaBendory]

So happy to hear it!

[@kirtilad7367]

Awesome stuff Sabrina! I'm wondering, the theme of "investing in yourself" comes up alot in order to move on or improve one's self-esteem in your videos. I recall your prior videos mentioning how much you worked on yourself for a period of time years back, to which, after this period, you rekindled with your partner and things just fell in place! I'm trying to get to that journey now. Things just have been so rusty the past months, and prior to that, I didn't have the best luck with dating. I'm trying to get to a point to improve my self-esteem, but how do I invest in myself? Where does that start? Could you do a video on things to do to invest in one's self to improve themselves? I don't know where to start!

[@SabrinaBendory]

Yes absolutely! You can get tips in my video on how to be a high value woman. But I will for sure do more content on this.

[@BluntlyHonest12]

Not sure if my husband is a narcissist or not, but I think he is. I just told him last night im tired of all this Negativity. I can't handle it anymore. Do they like Negativity and stay Negative?

[@christianriddler5063]

No, men don't like negativity. But as a man who used to be extremely negative I can tell you what causes it in many cases. Negativity stems from a mindset of defeat, that victory is impossible and the only way to cope is to complain and be negative. My mother taught me true positivity, she can alwways put a positive spin on things, even when it feels like the whole sky is falling in. As a man I learned that being positive is far more powerful, it leads to change, it helps people around you and it makes a difference in people's lives. Complaining and negativity just leads to more problems. But positivity brings solutions. I don't know your situation but if I were you I would fight negativity with positivity. Whenever he is negative, put a positive spin on it :D. I do that all the time in my job and one of the older men I work with who was always grumpy has actually become far more positive as a person in recent months. It spreads just like laughter does :).

[@mirlana3254]

Hello 👋 If I block the ghoster, what does it show: my weakness, worrying and vulnerability, or that I'm no longer interested in him and no longer need him? How would a ghoster feel about it?

[@christianriddler5063]

If someone ghosted you, why would they care? The act of ghosting is literally to not care, it's indifference. Move on!

[@beecat9951]

So men are allowed to retreat and "it becomes a problem when a woman can't cope and makes an issue with it when it wasn't". Wow. So this is just women being silly and emotional. It is an issue from the female perspective, clearly. But we just have to wait around for him and be compassionate while we have no clue what's going on and it is all on us? If a guy can't communicate and leaves me in the dark, I'm moving on. End of.

[@SabrinaBendory]

"Men are allowed to retreat" is an odd way of phrasing it, as if there's some rule of "fairness" being broken and you're entitled to a different reaction that he's not giving you. If his natural reaction is wrong in your view and you feel wronged by it, then you can expect that to fuel conflict in the relationship. That's not what you want. A more helpful focus is: What's needed here for the relationship to flourish? Men and women are different. That's a good thing, that's kind of the basis for the attraction in the first place! To then resent those differences doesn't make sense; it's the opposite of "relationship". If you understand & work with a man's nature instead of fighting it, things will go better in the relationship.

[@beecat9951]

@@SabrinaBendory nah. I think it's fair to expect some basic communication instead of tolerating being left in the dark and suffering in silence. Waiting for a man to meet my needs and being ignored just isn't something I'm going to tolerate. Perhaps men could start accepting women's nature too and meeting us half way, eh? You seem to be conflating women's needs with entitlement, which is disappointing. And you know what? I'd actually rather have conflict, which is a necessity in life at times, than bottle things up and let the resentment build. I like and appreciate your videos most of the time, I just cannot see that this is helpful advice for women, sadly.

[@kristineb222]

​@@beecat9951I am with you 100 percent on this one!! OMG! If a man is having issues why does he have to leave you all together??? He can't just say, "baby I need a week to get things together in my life"? Instead of making me feel like I'm the damn problem. If you think I'm wonderful then you should want to keep that. IMHO

[@graveyardking88]

New follower!!! LOOOVE your content, keep it coming!

[@SabrinaBendory]

Thank you!!

[@HannahJones-kf1kt]

I guess I'll never know now, blocked him after waiting 25 hours for a text. Nah i havent got time fo that.

[@karenshapiro2163]

You are spot on with this video. Thanks!

[@SabrinaBendory]

Thank you!

[@aimejoseph1618]

im thankfull i found this video, new subscriber here, So, im in a long distance relationship with this guy i meet online, we are so compatible, we're doing super great and planning to finally see eachother this May and also meet my parents in person, he initiate this idea, and we're getting serious, We also set this one day in a week for our beernight/datenight ( videocall and beer😂 ) However, something happened at work that he got supper worried then he started acting weird and distant and he suddenly stop communicating to me for 3 days now, and it getting me worried what if something happened to him, or maybe he just need space to figure things out, or he realized LDR doesn't works for him aftr everything. IDK what happened im confused and hurt 😢. maybe I will just wait for our datenigt ( 3 days away from now) before i message him hopefully he will message me before that and just focus on my self for a while. I really hope he is safe. Sorry for a very long comment here 😅

[@drownedhorses]

These tips are so informative. Thank u

[@sept2866]

Your advice is excellent!

[@tenniebramlett8827]

Thank you Sabrina!! I am soooo thankful & grateful l found you & ANM!!💯🙏

[@SabrinaBendory]

So glad!

[@juliedunne2726]

How about just common courtesy...communicate

[@YvetteInnerGrowth]

You can communicate once, but if he has a pattern of pulling away, you trying to communicate will be seen as you chasing after him.

[@ZahrahYoung]

I’m not in a relationship with him but he told that he would call me back when he gets the chance.

[@supernovacastillo7866]

I watched several of your videos. But see the thing that’s confusing me is I think it’s been #2. It’s something I’ve done. But the thing is that he’s the needy one, he has already asked what we were. Then suddenly, he’s backed away. Not completely but just distant. He was crazy and in love before today and texts soooo much. But now he’s not.

[@dianavaldessaucedo6553]

Thank you so much! I love this message. I have a question though: what do you do when he has a history with depression and mental issues? Should you still avoid contacting him? (It's been over a week)

[@laurabepetty2735]

Yes please I need to know toooo 🙏🏽

[@fashionablefelines]

i have the same question? I don’t think he should be completely alone with his severe depression

[@christianriddler5063]

As a man who has suffered from extreme depression and severe trauma. I would just say this. Give him space and time, be in his life but don't take too much space at first. As any wounded or scarred person/animal, he needs space and time to heal. But knowing that you are there for him and that you want to be a part of his life, that will eventually get him to trust you and let you in closer and closer until you can truly be in a healthy relationship. People who are depressed often need understanding and empathy, not sympathy. They need space and they need to feel like they can control their situation, this makes any person feel safe, man, woman, child AND in order to have a healthy relationship both the man and the woman need to feel SAFE!

[@marymifkirne8396]

​@@christianriddler5063yeshe told me that hé want Space with out saying whts wrong that makes me mad but i give it to him a week now could u give me more information how to deal with it if he retourne to talk or wanting to meet and talk about it

[@eunicethebosslady622]

If he's not coming back,it's time to let him go

[@doramoraiti701]

I am such a fun of yours that I pushed the like button before watching the video 😁 Of course it was great and very useful as always!!!

[@SabrinaBendory]

Thanks so much!!

[@OShaughnessyC]

Wonderful advice, as always, Sabrina!

[@SabrinaBendory]

So glad!

[@felicitygrace5113]

very helpful. things I already know and practice but a reminder is great!

[@phyllismontoroula6454]

I had a man pull away from me but I don't care his loss to mine loss I have another one on my mind

[@Thecvsquare]

I really needed this thanks 😊

[@SabrinaBendory]

You're so welcome!

[@cynthiallaneta8353]

I just love Sabrina Alexis❣️❣️❣️ shout out from Philippines.

[@abvincent12]

Don't play games - when the first game begins that is your first sign of what will come if you try to have a long term relationship with this person. RUN

[@susmitap421]

As always very informative video Sabrina 😊…I would like to suggest you to do a video regarding how did u manage to make ur husband accept ur health issue(Coeliac)…Somany of us may be have suffered or suffering from different diseases…Many of us would be greatful to u if u could share ur thoughts regarding this topic🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@neressakotas4396]

I do feel as if it is a form of mine control.

[@GurpreetKaur-li6tm]

He pulled me away so i blocked him

[@dizzleballzwonham]

soo my boyfriend and I got into a huge fight at the beginning of May. he would pull away and then ask to see me the flop. The last time he texted me was almost two weeks ago* he never said it was over* he just went ghost..he still has some of my stuff that he won't give back. Even when i ask for my stuff back, he ignores me now. I emotionally moved on.. i cried so much over him I can't anymore. is he done for good ?

[@twinschannel2587]

You are soo good! Thank you for your advice!

[@SabrinaBendory]

You are so welcome!

[@Claribel42]

Wow I was needing to listen to this video. I’m going through this right now. Me and my ex are hanging out He always text me two or three times a day but vey short texts and when he doesn’t text me I feel like what is going on why he is not texting me and so on. He doesn’t want to be back in a relationship he just wants to hangout with me. I need to let him go and I can’t. Please help me with this situation

[@lisamariejames2612]

I think deep down he wanted to delete the photos and move on but he's just being kind and deep down he's been happy with out me in his life but he doesn't maybe want to hurt my feelings by being honest with me.

[@christianriddler5063]

If someone breaks up with you, then respect that decision and move on yourself. It's not healthy to dwell on old things that cannot be changed. It's better to look forward and move onto new things.

[@blackcarriebradshaw]

12:14 makes so much sense. Im trying to be patient. 🥺

[@rion.x]

he said to me we can't be together because there are some things we can't change/control. i didn't believe it like how could this be a reason for a breakup? because i knew he liked me for a fact and if two people liked each other truly, i thought they would find a way to be together either way. so this seemed like a lie and i felt like i had been played. But watching this video, especially seeing the second point made me realize mens brain function on a different level

[@sepomushaukwa9006]

I need advice please 😭😭 I think the 2nd reason is why he pulled away, maybe because he is going through a lot. I am dating a physician in Canada and it’s a long distance because he is working remotely. Everything was good but then his father fell sick and he pulled away and said a lot is going on. Ever since I haven’t heard from him, it’s been 2 months now, he doesn’t answer my calls or texts. I don’t even know if his father is still alive😭😭The least he could do was update me. A lot is going through my mind, I want to more on cause this is serious disrespect, but then I feel bad because I am unable to support him during this time, but he needs to communicate!

[@Grayyy__]

I hope you moved on. If someone has contacted you in more than a week it’s time to move on

[@hastijafari3081]

If we had done all the needy and crazy stuff earlier ... What should we do now?

[@graceloreal1106]

This was so on point Thankyou !!!

[@brandiconverse1435]

What if he thinks it makes sense but won’t commit? And won’t tell me why?

[@lisamariejames2612]

He reached out because he has photos of me and he wanted to know if he should delete them and we met up but since he has been distant. I don't know what to do because why didn't he just delete my photos and not reach out. I don't understand the situation tbh.

[@ZahrahYoung]

I live in Baltimore and he lives in New York maybe because of the distance

[@Grayyy__]

No not because of distance my husband drove 4 hrs to see me & back home so 8 hrs total every weekend. If he wanted to he would. Move on you deserve more.

[@neressakotas4396]

he his been just pulled away from me I have actually asked him what was wrong he said sorry I I've been busy,

[@Didi-fr5ic]

but what do you do when you live in a small town, there is no such thing as space lol

[@hotmessmomchick7053]

So if it's the case with number 2, what I should do? just wait and hope he comes back?

[@kimberjennings1163]

Thanks. professional advice!! 🌷🌹

[@javierflores7888]

I really enjoyed the video 😁

[@hirschiegirl]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Thank you for the wisdom!

[@SabrinaBendory]

You are so welcome!

[@flowerchild89]

Cute shirt, SABRINA 😻

[@a.d.b535]

Simplistic question, but what can I take from his impatience and anger? He invited me over for dinner and said we'd go out, but wouldn't lower the tv volume so we could talk and said he was too tired to go out (again), so it escalated and I left. Waiting for him to call but in 3 days will probably have a defining conversation to figure out if we are a no-go.

[@mimi12341234567]

It doesn't sound like something you want to have in your life for the next years, imagine what you're loosing

[@jihadnoaman7529]

I have a very complicated situation. I really need help!

[@SabrinaBendory]

I'd love to help. You can book a session with me here: anewmode.com/coaching

[@lindiwentombela7412]

Thank you for this video.

[@MightyistheRCGamer]

My wife was and is still cheating on me she doesn't even try to hide it Good enough so I don't know what exactly to do. We have been together for over 20 years married by law and I begged her to not marry me because I NEVER TRUST HER AT ALL but she tricked me and now my life is completely GARBAGE and she is even more of a cheater. I am scared I am going to get a DISEASE from her. I need some help really badly. So please help me KZbin and I really hope the host of this channel will help me.

[@gretalsosaoro438]

Excellent advice

[@SabrinaBendory]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lisamariejames2612]

What if you had a whole year space n then he reaches out and then goes distant. Why is this?

[@siriglisson1984]

I am a woman and I can’t make space if there is an issue pending in my life, either. This may be a temperament trait as well as a gender marker.

[@vicm5272]

Thank you for this

[@barbaraolewnik7337]

thanks Sabrina

[@peacejoy3629]

It's not a male mindset only. am a girl and for an instant I was lik so am a man!

[@susanagarcia9646]

In question number 2 is when I send them back with their mothers

[@iamella96]

How do u know what's going on my life, Sabrina?

[@ashleym1849]

What if there is a guy that likes me? But i ignore him. Its been months. He is still trying to get my attention. What does that tell you. ?

[@Grayyy__]

That he likes you and wants a chance

[@francessozioma]

Thanks so much for this video 😊...

[@SabrinaBendory]

My pleasure 😊

[@InoKanzakii]

Thank you Sabrina! 🌸💗

[@SabrinaBendory]

You are so welcome!

[@hanajohnson-jones411]

What if we live together?😢

[@flowerchild89]

Thanks 🙏🙏😊

[@ZahrahYoung]

He dosnet like me. He would act interested but then end up pulling away

[@chelseadavis7990]

You look like Jennifer love Hewitt!

[@SakuraKate]

Hello Sabrina, I was wondering if there is a way to contact you personally for love advice for free. Something like an email. I really appreciate what you do and your love advice has helped me a lot during the past year.

[@SabrinaBendory]

You can email me- [e-mail]

[@hayatmaleeha]

But if he DOES CALL YOU HIS GIRLFRIEND BUT ISN'T GIVING YOU TIME 🥺🥺🥺🥺 on monday he just sent 3-4 texts, tuesday 2-3 texts, wednesday none, thursday 5 min call and on friday just - didn't talk to me at all

[@christianriddler5063]

@AliSand Or he is just busy and stressed.

[@kamillepierce7271]

@@christianriddler5063 what about 4 days without talking at all

[@christianriddler5063]

@@kamillepierce7271 I went like three weeks without talking to a girl once simply because I was very busy with work, projects in my spare time, taking care of my family and a few other things. It like her but I also like other things and my whole life can't revolve around her. A man's time is limited and a girl should not be more important to him than his own family, personal life and health. Respect his time and be happy if he choose to share it with you.

[@kamillepierce7271]

@@christianriddler5063 Okay I understand I always try to understand but what if they have time to post a story on instagram. I don’t see how hard it is too send a good morning text or a goodnight text. He use to sometimes now it’s just completely nothing.

[@christianriddler5063]

@@kamillepierce7271 Well what I said was simply a possibility. The other possibility is that he is just playing games. Which would be sad. Both men and women play way too many games these days, almost one knows how to flirt, connect and build passion anymore.

[@Ida-Adriana]

Men can’t multitask? *Chefs have left the chat.

[@ninamarceline6697]

First ♥️♥️♥️

[@nightmareoracle]

Ty

[@kimberjennings1163]

Ps. Keep your head up ,And walk on and never never look back.💜💕.