Anger as a Depression Symptom: I'm Constantly Angry | HealthyPlace

Anger can be a symptom of depression. HealthyPlace blogger, Tiffanie Verbeke, has major depression and is constantly angry. In the video, she opens up about how frustrating coping with depression and anger can be. Watch.
Is anger a symptom of your depression? Comment below and tell us. (In a 2013 study published in the journal JAMA Psychiatry, 54% of people with depression reported feeling hostile, grumpy, argumentative, foul-tempered, or angry.)
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[@xNepsteR]

I've been constantly angry for a few months now. Every little thing, every person, everything just is so annoying and makes me angry. I've been trying to occupy my attention with different things, so I can cheer up, and it works... just as long as I'm alone. Once I go out among people, it all starts up again.

[@kweenkristenmsp7526]

Same 😭 I get so angry I pull my hair til I start to cry

[@taniasieiro169]

Same here

[@sparky8455]

And people call us crazy. So fucking done

[@dinaledimpho]

you are not alone

[@glennchinyangarara8225]

Join the club, I’ve been angry for the last year or so now

[@tinashebentura8884]

I feel like a ticking time bomb. I acknowledge my feelings and the worst part is that I know im not being easy on everyone around me. Sometimes I just wish to go unnoticed and get sunken by the ground. I’m just sitting on this roller coaster of emotions

[@jesusmanzanares8844]

Described it so well .

[@connor7329]

spot on. it’s exhausting for everyone

[@piXiesviral]

Same here

[@MahamNaseerBaig]

I feel you.

[@princessdee6294]

I'm angry almost everyday every hour. When i wake up every morning i feel angryyy. And i dont know why. And sometimes i cry too because i feel so worthlesss.

[@healthyplace]

Ances Day, that must be horrible for you. Have you talked to your doctor about these feelings? There is treatment available if you do have a mood disorder and/or anxiety.

[@healthyplace]

Ances, I've been thinking about your comment. I wanted to share a couple of things to provide some insight. It's possible that depression is causing your feelings. Anger is a symptom of depression. In addition, it can be confusing because you may ask yourself, "Why am I depressed or angry?" and you can't think of a reason. That's because there's a difference between "being depressed" and having major depression - which is a mental illness. I hope you'll speak to your doctor or see a therapist. At least you can be evaluated and find out more about what's going on. I hope this helps. Amanda

[@princessdee6294]

Thank you for your concern. It really means a lot 💓. I havent been in a therapy session before because its really expensive and unfortunately my parents doesnt believe in depression. I hope youll make more videos about mental health to educate more people.💓💓☺️

[@princessdee6294]

It's been two years I have this feeling of worthlessness but lately ive been feeling this anger.I'm not like this before tho. I've been very distant to my family and friends to avoid arguments due to my irrtability. Sometimes I cry without knowing the reasons why and sometimes i cry due to the feeling of hoplessness. Your videos are helping me a lot. Keep up the good work guys. 💓

[@stacram87]

That’s exactly how I feel. I don’t know how to feel better and therapy isn’t helping. I feel angry, sad, helpless and worthless.

[@skaksbdjdksn5436]

My anger depression is when I get so mad that I could kill someone then start to cry and go over every sad moment in my life.🤷‍♀️

[@sartainja]

Skaksb Djdksn Exactly. I know that feeling.

[@purpleflower6571]

I do that too

[@acid2213]

I just had that, been punching my wall, slamming on my desk, if there was a Person near by he wouldve been dead. Started crying after, then thought about my life and what a failure I am...

[@sabnamsings]

Same here😔

[@56username]

You need to believe on Jesus. Jesus Loves You

[@smolchild1343]

This makes me feel so much better. It’s good to know there are people who understand exactly how I feel.

[@kellyreilan]

Smol Child I absolutely do understand, and it’s nice to know someone out there can relate, and put into words how you’re feeling! 🌷

[@thewadsquad]

My anger, my sorrow, my sadness. It's was leads me to my madness.

[@kaileyannewilliams3817]

THE WADS call on Jesus.

[@arnb8895]

. . .

[@guidedlovemeditation1024]

@@kaileyannewilliams3817 I did and it doesnt help

[@cameronsteiner1971]

@@kaileyannewilliams3817 grow up. Jesus doesn't help those with disorders like this.

[@femrock4116]

SAME!

[@ministryofmike9590]

I am really relating to this right now. I keep apologising to those around me saying 'This is not me and just not myself lately.' But every little thing enrages me to the point I have lost the will to care. Situations have led to my depression and I am doing my best to sort it out, but it just seems to drag and still waiting for that light at the end of a very long tunnel. Your video was so helpful and I hope things will gradually improve for us both.

[@healthyplace]

Thank you for sharing, Ministry of Mike. Do you think it helps that you are aware of the probable cause for your anger?

[@kasperryd]

Exactly how I feel

[@robertlworley]

Mine is more a underlying irritability. It's there but comes out at weird times, like when I drop something on the floor and have to pick it up. It's not a nice emotion to carry around all the time. I keep everything well hidden, and maybe that's my problem. I should seek a group to share and support.

[@MrBrazilusa]

What kind of group support for "angry"

[@carakotopazinni6023]

Same.

[@DonatelloLabouche]

Yes. Support.

[@caddyman7725]

I think this describes my wife. When she was alive (she passed in February) she seemed on edge all the time and unhappy. Every little thing made her mad. I wish I had known this was a symptom of depression and tried to get help for her.

[@noellealdi881]

I’m so sorry about your wife, especially someone dealing with it as yourself. Don’t blame yourself man, it’s not your fault

[@caddyman7725]

@@noellealdi881 Thank you.

[@-beastie-2847]

Absolutely not your fault, I’m so sorry for your loss

[@wakenflake9347]

Fuck man, is there anything you need? I’m sorry you are living through that

[@caddyman7725]

@@wakenflake9347 It’s ok. Thanks.

[@NovakBogoslav]

Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.

[@robertpamela4316]

The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well

[@user-mr3di2mi7x]

@AdalinaVegaI was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across Sporeville , a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly

[@SchimdAlessio]

@@user-mr3di2mi7x Please how do I contact him?

[@user-mr3di2mi7x]

@@SchimdAlessioSporeville

[@user-mr3di2mi7x]

@lG

[@shavedparmesanprosciuttoan4317]

Man, this really articulated how I feel. I feel like such an idiot because I can’t control my anger and I wear it on my sleeve. It’s embarrassing especially at work when my coworkers can see that I am clearly angry with them over something small and they try to address it with me and I am just seething with rage and can’t even respond to them or look at them I’m just silent. Then I get in my car to go home and I suddenly feel so stupid and guilty for my behavior. They have started to dislike me after a while, obviously. I’m not a nice person at work I’m sad and angry. I feel confused all the time about my feelings like I want to have friends and do fun things but I also don’t want to be around anyone or do anything. Sometimes if it’s a nice Saturday I feel like I should leave the house, and I usually end up at a restaurant sitting alone at the bar bc I don’t want to take up a table if I’m by myself. And then I have drinks and feel even worse listening to everyone around me enjoy their company. Then I just go home and feel ashamed of myself for spending $60 on expensive food and drinks at a fancy restaurant I had no business being at. I feel ashamed anytime I do anything fun. The worst is that I have such a difficult time taking a shower. It is so hard for me for some reason. I will put it off just one more day until I haven’t bathed in a week. I hate taking my clothes off I hate touching my body to wash it I hate having to wash and dry and style my hair to be presentable at work I hate the whole ritual and the idea of it honestly seems insurmountable. Anyway this was just a stream of consciousness sorry to anyone who read this. I am just lonely and angry and empty inside.

[@bradtoombsey2394]

I feel you mate.

[@v0id_d3m0n]

Yeah very relatable tbh

[@AG-et6qp]

I feel you 😢

[@Butterflygirl327]

I feel you mate

[@gk9434]

Soo relatable esp the shower thing what is this 😢

[@lottahope6721]

I feel angry often with my depression. I'm glad you shared your experience. It can be validating to others who share the same stuff.

[@kaileyannewilliams3817]

Lady Gemini81 talk to Jesus.

[@divinedownloads4951]

i feel its holding onto things we feel was done to us that was unjust or not fair and it makes us feel angry or rage. its like subconscious traumas that have happend we are still playing in the back of our minds. but i can relate because im going through this right now i keep having to clear layers and layers of this.thanks for sharing your experience

[@meltaylor2339]

Thank you for writing this, i find it hard to vocalise how i feel and this resolves that.

[@Elise.Celeste.]

This is EXACTLY how it feels!! Makes you wanna screenwrite a whole show for yourself so that people can understand the inner rage...

[@alexisrush91]

Yes! This sums up my whole childhood...I was so disregarded as if I had no feelings no one cared how their choices affected me and I carried that around and it built up and came out as anger towards the whole world. But it doesn't match who I am on the inside and no one even knows.

[@humanbeing9522]

Exactlyyyy

[@noellealdi881]

I’m so sorry, this is the truth for me as well

[@sunnydaze5674]

Thank you for this video. I’m currently feeling this way and I absolutely hate it. It feels horrible!! I’m angry all the time, it’s suffocating. Even when I try to calm myself down and tell myself that I’m going to be okay and the anger will pass, it just comes back so easily. I hate being this angry, bitter person all the time and not feeling like I can control it. Ever since my break up it’s been so much worse. I was doing well for a few months. I was happy and optimistic, but for some reason I’ve lost my happy, optimistic self and all I want is for her to come back.

[@default9033]

I'm so angry that I can be in public I get this fury to harm people. it's like flashes of rage. I quickly withdraw to get away before it gets bad

[@chris200999]

ReDoX ReDoX I get those urges too! Don’t let the demons get to you.

[@Keeplifesimple9]

Im suffering with that A LOT recently, mind you I had homicidal ideation and issues when I was a teenager so that dosent help either, the only thing that stops from doing something is the fear or messing with the wrong person or ending up in a jail cell miserbale the rest of my life. I'm only 27 as well. This world is starting to DESTROY the way people feel and how they control there emotions. I just feel like wow if I have been this angry only a quater through my life, I really hope that I can always keep it under control, life is already starting to scare the shit out of me, but at the end of the day we do survive.

[@lewistyler2932]

This is me too bro I hate it

[@femrock4116]

Same

[@penderyn8794]

@@Keeplifesimple9 the world has done nothing to you. A human built system of financial oppression has tho

[@ZiCkFLav0r]

Just like you said, i feel like im trapped in a washing machine That is just spinning around constantly and i cant even look at people without getting angry or feeling sad-trapped-desperate-angry-raging

[@DrewMIATL]

This breakup has absolutely destroyed me mentally. I’m so angry all the time. I just yelled at someone at work, I’m just coming off as a total nut case when really I’m just tired. Really tired of not having a girlfriend to love anymore, just tired of being alone 24/7. I’m so over it.

[@Kal.El1]

I’m feeling rage a lot recently. Suffering from depression and PTSD. I’m thankful for this video. I’ve been crapped on so many times in my life starting with being sexually abused from the age of ten. Then betrayed by so-called friends, family, being cheated on by the woman I loved and trusted more than anyone on Earth, the list goes on and on and on. I’m so sick of being treated like crap & I know that I’ve reached the end of my tether because of the injustice of it, which is why I’m angry but I HATE feeling this way even more than the feelings of sadness, despair and loneliness. I’m usually a calm and measured person, unflappable and emotionally centred. I know that this is something I need to feel to get through to the other side. Still sucks balls, though 🤬

[@bokccraigatron007]

Word bro I’ve been sexually harassed by my one of my family members when I was 16, treated like crap, violent statements said to me by some of my family members. Now I’m dealing with my boss overworking me insanely now. I deal with piece of shit costumers at my job, get my bosses problems thrown on me and it’s been irritating me too and making me a triggery person and I really hate feeling like this too. So I get where you coming from too and you don’t deserve that at all. 💯

[@seanguzy9601]

Hey Kal, I relate to you my friend. I dont like to use the word depression. I rather use the word, extremely emotionaly unhappy with my current situation. And these current sitations can last for years, even decades. I also, been betrayed by EVERY single women that ever came into my life. All my ex gfs, my ex wife, my aunts, my cousins, my mom. ALL did something to me that My consciousness just seems wont get over. Or it is a " warning signal " Guess thats why they call it PTSD. These triggers are their for a warning sign. I cant stand people any more. I use to be SO much different. Until I started to take responsability of my life. Even though its kinda to late bc, now I get seizures! And have a hard time maintaining a job hahahah " use to be so easy for me to work, i use to have a landscape buisness) I lost my old job because of deception. All while taking care of my mom. Helping my brother move and he was depressed as hell during that time as well, and his health is still shit. My mom dies, my ex wife brother dies. My mentor gets murdered. I ask my Aunt for help, they gaslight me, neglect me, some narc behavior going on. ( AUNT DIDNT WANT TO HELP BC SHE THOUGHT I DIDNT NEED IT, WHEN ITS BASICLY ALL BOUT MONEY WHICH SHE HAS PLENTY OF AND I NEVER A DAY IN MY LIFE ASKED HER FOR NOTHING ) I move to a shitty boring town with no jobs, women here are so lame. Covid happens, my dad gets sick, i get sick, my brother gets sick. They all were able to keep their jobs BUT me. It all led me into doing my own thing. Taking ownership, having self love. Saying SCREW YOU to all the scum bags that used my love to suck my life force all because of some personality disorder that happen to them bc of moma daddy issues. ( My parents suck as well, wont see me ruining peoples lives just so i get an emotional reaction out of it ) So its just one thing after another, and frankly way passed tired of it.

[@Gray_Studytube]

Me too! It’s destroying my life. I’m so tired. I don’t know how long I can continue like this. I’m trying not to blame something else for my problems so I internalize. But I feel like I’m about to explode.

[@shamatanveer9812]

I can feel you. It's like what to do. So many things going on inside. Why am I like the way I am. Noone understands

[@felixf4378]

You look so pretty and friendly that I can't imagine you as a person full of anger. I'm in the same place, depressed and constantly angry at life. It helps to know that I'm not crazy.

[@angelievd]

yeah when im depressed, on the outside, i tend to get angry and let it out on people which isnt right but in the inside i hate myself and feel numb

[@VFG204]

I feel that I’m powerless and I have no one to talk to. Sometimes, I talk to myself and try to organize my thoughts and I also have a severe case of Anger and I may think that I have a bad case of depression. I always feel worthless, and I can’t even make eye contact with people. I always fight with my brothers and I always regret my actions after wards and maybe I’m just a weak, but I always vow to change but I can’t. And if I try to go to my parents to set up counseling, they just say the same clique words “Just calm down”, or “Take deep breathes.” After watching this video, I realized that this women describes me in a lot of ways. I wake up feeling angry, and I always have problems. I don’t know what the problem is, and I don’t know when I became depressed. It’s hard, but maybe I just need to not let my emotions control me and not be a weakling. Are there any tips you people can maybe give me? I would really appreciate it!

[@healthyplace]

You aren't a weakling, NYJC. It's very frustrating when you try to change something and meet with resistance. Here are some things to try: Ask your parents to set up an appointment with your general practitioner and talk to him/her about what's going on (the doctor can then talk to your parents). / Use the Depression Crisis Textline at bit.ly/2H7l3fj / Collect this video and other information that you feel is relevant to you to show your parents. Talk to a counselor at school. / Talk to an adult your parents also trust, and ask that person to talk to your parents with you. / Your brothers may be willing to help you too if you have an open discussion with them about wanting to control your anger. / Not one of those people I mentioned can take away the depression or anger you're feeling, but having them in your support network is a good start.

[@VFG204]

HealthyPlace Mental Health Nice. I will definitely try that. Thank you for taking the time to help me out a little, I also subscribed. Have a great day!

[@justmet8147]

Never did I consider the notion that anyone could verbally state my almost exactly feelings. I wouldn't be watching these videos if I didn't want help, it sucks being angry at everything including inanimate objects.i cuss and hit things constantly. Just wished there waa a way to truly overcome these feelings/outburst that are far too frequent

[@gogoscorner1111]

You're describing me perfectly right now smh

[@healthyplace]

I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time, Gogo Anotshe Akhotshe. Could you talk to your doctor about what's going on? I hope you find relief.

[@MrShazaamable]

I seriously needed this. Its come out of what seems to be nowhere this week.. im angry at myself, i dont want to look anyone in the eye and i dont want to be around my family especially when they keep asking whats wrong with me because I. DONT. KNOW. WHATS WRONG!! 😔

[@Jaydenreco]

I feel that too

[@crystalcourtz]

I feel totally the same way ! I wake up in anxiety and within two seconds I resent even needing to be awake hate the idea of talking to others , feel like nothing matters ans I’m the same way as you I never feel “indifferent” … I go from “what does it matter” to total rage over the tiniest slight … and two seconds after that I’m criticizing and angry at myself for reacting .(and then get angry about being angry about being angry ) I feel this sooooooo much !!!!! And then I snap at someone and feel guilty and depressed and unconnected … which then makes me angry.

[@leeoakley9508]

Constantly

[@revaya95]

my exact situation

[@starzintheskyz4477]

Same here

[@TheHeartbound]

I have always been a super angry person ever since I was younger. Its almost like I hate a lot of aspects of the world we live in. I feel like I'm trapped in a cage of expectation. Everyone makes me feel like IM the problem for not being so happy go lucky. I dont see the world the same way as a normal person. I see a lot of greed, a lot of vanity, a lot of evil, a lot of just really negative things so I feel my rage stems from the way I view the world. I'm unhappy inside of this cage where I HAVE to get a 9 to 5, I HAVE to have a career that pays well. I HAVE to be happy all the time, I HAVE to do things I dont wanna do just bc "thats the way it is" its bs & makes me hate everything that I see as a lie.

[@mr.e1220]

Welcome to hell. It's called hell. I am there. Forsaken and abandoned and demons of anger and regret swarming and biting...gnawing my soul

[@Princess_Lilly13]

It makes me sad to know tgat someone is actually living theur life feeling this bad... know that i have all the compassion and love for you...

[@zp6097]

Mr. C, are you Me? I live in an unpredictable world where I don’t know what will set me off or how mad I will get at normal stuff. The rage is all encompassing, seeing red sort of shit. I know nothing else at that moment but pure rage AND regret at not being able to quell the monster before it rears it’s head. It just happens SO fast.

[@spidee530]

If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there. Psalms 139:8 🕊

[@DystopianApocalypse]

@@zp6097 yeah that's dangerous fire you're playing with...seek some help before you seriously hurt yourself or someone else dude.

[@zp6097]

@@DystopianApocalypse I’m on some meds now, like a totally different and more mello person now. Thanks for the advice.

[@BlackPanther-cb7je]

Ive always inherently been angry, additionally because of some incidents in life and childhood insecurities. I take pride in it, as in i consider it my weapon and its who i am, but obviously it has got some of the worst side effects to it. I sometimes feel like im filled with wrath and i lash out when i feel offended, verbally or physically and not to mention when i see somethong really wrong taking place, i completely loose it........

[@teresaoverholt6253]

It's a matter of pride that you may need help in, I understand you but I'm wondering if you really want to hold on to your anger or are you protecting yourself from feelings of hurt? I hope that you can find a way through this and I wish you nothing but the best ❤ I think I may have answered my own question lol

[@kelliemccann9463]

Thank you for sharing. I’ve been having a difficult time finding people who are dealing with this so it’s nice to finally find someone I can relate to.

[@Zeeshankaykhayalat]

WHY I AM CRYING? RELATE ALOT.

[@mizMissusS]

I couldnt understand before why I always feel angry and easily irritable but also so depressed. Its like taking one step forward but 3 steps back. The way she describes the cycle of anger and depression is 100% me.

[@EnkiParker]

The anger I have been experiencing can be summed up in the following Sin City quote. "Most people think Marv is crazy. He just had the rotten luck of being born in the wrong century. He'd be right at home on some ancient battlefield swinging an ax in someones face." Anyways, writing in a journal seems to help a little. Getting some of the thoughts out of my head. I'm cool as a cucumber on the outside. But in my mind there is a 24/7 battle going on.

[@ChristelMontoya]

You just described my feelings perfectly. I feel so angry and so agitated all the time. It is not me. It’s terrible.

[@ellenjohnson9043]

I'm sitting here crying finally hearing what I've been struggling with put into well-thought-out words. Thank you.

[@alexander_666]

Wishing the best to everyone who's experiencing this

[@Reallyct]

And to you as well

[@faithwhatevers4165]

I have this same issue with anger. Great video! I hate dealing with stressful situations, because since I'm always angry now, something actually making me angry for a reason just drives me over the edge. And I never know how to react. I have to hide my anger all day, and I can't separate when it's ok to be angry and when I'm overreacting. So basically I'm stuck in an endless cycle of suppressed rage. I normally end up biting the shit out of my hand to try and alleviate the stress I feel. Or I'll bash myself in the head with the nearest book. And I know I look insane when I beat the fuck out of myself alone in my room, but it's the only thing keeping me from destroying my home and my relationship. I used to smoke weed for fun, now it's a prescription I have to use to avoid wanting to tear apart my world every day. I get high so I don't care for a while. But the truth is, I do still care. And the anger never leaves. It just keeps me still for a while. (Not advocating smoking weed, just telling the truth) I wish others understood that depression and anxiety isn't all tears and rainy days. It's also an immense rage that wells up inside. A burning desire to destroy everyone around you that even glances your way. The desire to scream at the top of your lungs and tear your hair out when your grocery shopping. That horrible feeling of laying next to your partner at night, and pushing them away because all you want to do is smash their fucking face in because at some point they pissed you off that day. (Not that I would ever hurt the love of my life, but the thoughts are there, and it's scary) I'm laying in bed right now, just trying to calm down after my bf passed me off really bad today. Off to watch cartoons now and forget my mental problems.

[@Luis-gh3in]

I know exactly what you mean, I have the same thoughts too sometimes and its okay even tho it sucks

[@thegingersquad2443]

I so relate to that. I curse while driving, imagining I'm getting out and beating the crap out of the stupid driver in front of me. I know I never do that, but I feel like a ticking bomb waiting for something to just explode. All this pent up anger is a living hell.

[@zp6097]

We are the same

[@XxMiranda7786]

I completely hear you, I respect all that you do to take care of yourself and I’m in this rite cranky boat with ya :). I’ve had ongoing depression almost my whole life and didn’t realize it until I was 26.. it’s a process but a fulfilling one when you can address the issues head on. I’m fighting for you! 🌸🙏🏾

[@gopachowdhury1281]

Every low sounds of people chattering , buzzing of phone , even the sound of music infuriates me ...i just want to be alone with silence and die as soon as i can ..just i want to lay down in silence ..

[@healthyplace]

You aren't alone in experiencing noise sensitivity, Gopa. Here's a post called, "When the World Is Too Loud" at www.healthyplace.com/blogs/recoveringfrommentalillness/2013/12/when-the-world-is-too-loud-noise-sensitivity Perhaps it can help you. ~Amanda

[@GabiRosa16]

Thank you for sharing that. It's so good and comforting know that I'm not the only one.

[@healthyplace]

Hi Gabriela. Thank you for sharing that. You are definitely not alone, that's for sure! As mentioned above, more than half of the people with depression experience some form of anger. If you'd like, it would be interesting to know how often you experience anger and how it's affected you. Thank you, Amanda

[@GabiRosa16]

HealthyPlace The anger it's one of the most difficult parts. Because of all that you mentioned. What helps me is deep breaths, stay in a quiet place, and sometimes listen to some calm music. Because they can influence the mood, so they can help sometimes. Well, I'm still learning how to deal with. And for those lovely others in the same boat: you're a wonderful person, you're fighting, and I pray you keep on. s2

[@michellehill4704]

I feel this %1,000! 💕 I sometimes wonder if it's just me, but then I see this and I'm reminded that I don't have to do this alone...

[@melanietorres9020]

I love this video so much ❤️ it brought me to tears because I’ve been so emotionally everywhere and I’m so mad everyday.

[@jordabeenthat8253]

I’m angry everyday I don’t smile no more. And I hate being around people/family.

[@Mobinjacobphilip]

Total depression and loss is what happened to me with my ever destructive anger.

[@BitsofRealPanther]

Hmmm, I didn't know Emma Watson had a sister.

[@Kehwanna]

I was thinking the same thing. A U.S American half sister.

[@siddheshvishwasrao5450]

Was searching for this comment

[@1uniqueislander968]

Shawn you make me laugh when I'm feeling angry before the weekend. 👋🤣 stumbled on this video, my anger issues related to my depression everyone thinks is 'normal'... now that make me angry. 😠🤣

[@BitsofRealPanther]

@@1uniqueislander968 Oh, I'm sorry you've been feeling angry, Jason2Wheels. And yes, the complexities and nuances of depression can be overwhelming at times! :O

[@hypatia4754]

Having been depressive most of my life, I´m beginning to realise that when the energy or feelings you have suppressed is too great to be "depressed" anymore it comes out as anger. Because deep down we already know that society doesn´t accept ANY expression of anger and so we have to suppress it to be socially acceptable. If we don´t, we´re called things like crazy, too sensitive, thin skinned, etc, etc. So we depress the righteous anger, we BECOME depressed, until it become too great that it breaks through the depression and then with the anger our vitality returns. Remember, the opposite of depression is not happines, it is VITALITY. Now I express my anger and I havent been depressed in a very long time. I just have to deal with anger management because after depressing the anger for so long I really don´t know how to deal with the well. The thing is not to depress it though, but to allow yourself to experience it.

[@politekhosie916]

I'm also a very angry person reason being that I'm financial bankrupt. I'm 34 years old and I only managed to go as far as high school of which I did well but couldn't further my studies due to lack of finances. Have tried some little hustles and it's not working and I have to take care of my family and it breaks my heart to see my kids living the life that I never planned for them. And all this has now turned into anger and I just don't know where to turn have tried to reach out to my family members asking for help as I had so many ideas no body seemed to care or maybe they are also having a lot in their plates. I hate how I feel and I have detached myself from many people I just need God to help me aish I hate how I feel 😭💔

[@hedge931]

I will pray for you

[@hedge931]

I will pray for you for God to help you - he is the only one who has been able to help me. Sometimes it's through other people but I always know it's from His hand.

[@hedge931]

There is no greater name than the name of Jesus, God's Son. Put your trust in him and pray in his name. He is near to the brokenhearted! "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us or sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:9

[@bokccraigatron007]

@@politekhosie916 sorry man get better 🙏🏾🖤

[@babyjaguar9994]

THANK YOU!!!!!!! Thank you so much I've been feeling like this for the past year and I've felt so unbelievably alone. I've felt like I'm the only one feeling like this and I just cant understand what's wrong with me. Its really nice to hear someone else say EVERYTHING that I've been saying to myself for the past year. Especially when talking about how you get angry and you don't know why you're angry so it makes you even more angry because you don't know why you're angry that. literally couldn't have been more spot-on to how I've been feeling.

[@stardustsparkles22]

It's important to remember that many people are also battling depression and anger around us,so try hard to apologize if you feel you need to. Depression is endemic in our society and many people are feeling crushed by financial worries,lack of sleep and support,etc. It helps to try to be gentle with yourself and the people around you. Remember that the person you just snapped at may be suffering from it too.

[@sleepwalker29]

Intelligence creates anger. The more you know the madder you become. Ignorance is bliss!

[@healthyplace]

So if you aren't angry, does that mean you aren't intelligent? ;) Amanda

[@default9033]

Joe Smartballs so be stupid explain why human innovation has tanked

[@EdVizenor]

Nope. NOT true at all.

[@fizarrah]

Ignorance is only blissful to the ignorant ones, it drives the intelligent ones mad.

[@rogerbyson4627]

Strongly Agree! Maybe it's a way for our brains to take a break. It's proven that anger lowers I.Q. points which is why I try so hard not to get upset. Maybe that's why I end up going berzerk... It's like Dr. Banner and the Hulk.

[@SkyeDCUO01]

I’ve been suffering anxiety and depression my whole life. I’m 36 now. I’m only just in the process of being officially diagnosed with possibly BPD, GAD and DPD on top of anxiety and depression. The last few years I have just been angry. Raging angry. It’s not me though. It’s taken over my usual soft side. I cannot calm down when triggered and often it causes chaos within my family. I handle situations in the exact opposite way to what I should and normally would do. I am terrified of getting worse and end up hurting someone. I’m personally extremely scared. I don’t know what to do. My doctors and psychiatrists are next to useless or don’t care. As said it’s taken decades to get to the point of getting fully evaluated by the top in our area. 😢

[@healthyplace]

Hello. I'm glad you found a doctor who you can work with. The symptoms of mental illness, left untreated, can be devastating. I feel for you because when you know something is wrong but can't find appropriate help even when you try to, you are left to wonder what's going on within you and why is it that others can't see it. Thank you for sharing this. Amanda

[@tracierendell4422]

Thank you for sharing. You too are not alone. It's 3am and I've been searching You tube for hours for an anger/aggression sleep meditation and came across you. I also have been dealing with the sad type of depression for many years...about 6. Two months ago it seemed to lift. But now it's back to cave in on me. Things happen and I respond verbally...laced with aggression. This isn't who I am at all. Like you I put myself out there with energy and gusto. I immerse in and exude love. Im 50 now and I'm scared of becoming a bitter old woman.

[@ellabella4692]

OMG! I burst out crying while watching this video. It's very hard feeling this way and it is nice to know that I am not alone. Thanks you

[@Lilwanderer27]

myself 100% it's comforting to know I'm not alone although some kind of halt to being a ball of bitter rage would be great 😅

[@healthyplace]

I hear you, LilWanderer27. Anger can be so draining! Let us know when you find a way to disconnect from the anger. Many people have this issue. :) Amanda

[@samyasmr97]

I'm not alone😟😧

[@tahminadawood7250]

Thank you for sharing. I feel you. I'm so sorry that you're going through the same. I know it's not pretty. Hang in there.

[@kimiko495]

Thanks for sharing this! Lately I’ve been feeling easily irritated and angry, I’m irritated when i go to sleep and irritated when I wake up. I’ve been seeing therapist for anxiety and I thought I made some progress until this anger issue emerged. It’s so frustrating. It helps a bit knowing there are other people who share this frustration.

[@iMiranda702]

I struggle with anger caused by anxiety everyday. As soon as one thing doesn't go as planned I hit a wall and my anxiety sets in. I get very upset and want to start crying. My hands start shaking and as this sort of pressure of anxiety builds up inside me with nowhere to go it turns into anger. My shaky hands turn to fists. I want so badly to break something or to yell. I say things I don't mean when venting about it, being very extreme and saying things like "I am so fed up with this place is they don't take the reservation like scheduled I will burn the building down." Now never have I gotten in a fight and I would never actually burn a building down BUT I get so mad I just lose it. And than when I vent to even my Significant Other I hear myself and I think I sound insane and he doesn't understand anxiety and depression so I start to feel like he probably thinks I am insane too. He already thinks, because I vent to him, that I can't bite my tongue and withholds me from conversations with the landlords on subjects he thinks I won't agree on and stuff like that which I HATE. Anyways.. today is one of those days where I left work crying and couldn't find anyone to call that wouldn't make me feel crazy. I hate feeling this way.

[@MayankJairaj]

Thanks Emma! I hope you are doing well now

[@killyourtelevision999]

3:41 "And you''ll figure it out." Oh. That was very helpful. My life has instantly improved. Thank you, Tiffanie Verbeke.

[@psychestyle30]

I really needed to see this today. Thank you.

[@GM-fm9gm]

I've never had someone describe to me exactly what is going on in my mind.... I constantly feel angry and it's so bad and I cry about it because I just want it to stop. I lose everything that I try to do and I chased my spouse out of my life twice by being physical and I don't understand why I feel like I want to be alone and I hate everyone around me and then when i get what I want I feel alone and feel terrible sorrow for how I hurt the ones I care for.

[@efraintello2596]

Running is good for depression

[@torimaxson6796]

I'm sorry you're going through this but it does make me feel less alone knowing I'm not the only one. Thank you for sharing 😊

[@Namolinah]

Thank you so much for this. Thank you

[@boobass3148]

I feel broken...and sad and although i have a lot of friends, i still feel alone..recently i have been having trouble controlling my anger earlier this morning i got angry at my mom because she lost something of mine and i got super angry and punched the tv and broke it..i do not know what is happening to me..my depression is getting on me make me lose my temper quickly..please help me

[@nicolebrown1927]

thank you for this message. it helped a bit little to know l'm not alone in this.

[@healthyplace]

Hi Nicole. You're definitely not alone. For many people, anger is a symptom of depression. Is there a particular focus of your anger? Thanks, Amanda

[@nicolebrown1927]

well yeah. it's a long story with me so l will try to make it brief. l love to sing and for the longest time l was trying to become a singer. lt didn't turn out the way l thought and l'm not getting any younger so l guess l stopped. l still have that hope that one day something can happen. while all the singing was going on as l was growing up, l also had issues of being bullied and just being sad all the time and l only found comfort in my singing. now fast forward to present day, l have someone in my family that has made it in music. he's a producer. l won't give mention his name but he's is really a heavy hitter. he has the exact life that l dream of which leaves me feeling bitter and angry. there's more to my story but if l get into it, this would really be a long text . l also have this thing where l keep my true emotions bottled inside but at the same time l feel no reason to get up each day. l really feel like a waste of oxygen. l'm not living, l'm only existing.

[@DtheBEE]

At this point my rage is the only thing keeping me going.

[@melkerner]

My experience is that the outward anger and irritability is a secondary emotion. The fire is a reaction to the inability or subconscious avoidance of the root emotion. In my case security, validation, rejection, fear of abandonment, etc.. Facing these issues is hard because it requires introspection and painful confrontation of these past trauma issues that trigger and result in the anger.

[@marieelisa1]

This happen to me last year, for 12 months. Until I started taking St. John's wort, for a few months now, I feel a loooot more stable and calm.

[@stellaq3306]

That's_correct Thx worth a try

[@rikiamaru]

i feel the same thing, im can mad easily with anything literally anything, i want to withdraw from other but cause my work cant really do that, i feel like no one likes me, they maybe just being polite idk, but i dont feel like anyone want to reach me anymore, all i can do just crying alone

[@johnlime1469]

This completely fucked up my high school years. There were so many people that I could have gotten to know or even become friends with. It's very important to recognize these kinds of symptoms, before it's too late.

[@rahphae]

Knowing that there’s more people going through it, and know how I’m feeling… is such an relief. Sometimes is really isolating. But sharing this somehow makes less heavy. Hope things workout for us, I love y’all ❤️

[@EdVizenor]

Oh man thank you for sharing. I have so much to say about this all the thoughts are flying out of my head. So I'm going to just use voice to text and hope that it doesn't mess up some of my words :-). Exactly what I should just do is probably blog about this and then share that with you so it doesn't come off so messy here. Anger is a passion. It's one of the 11 passions we humans According to Aristotle. All the Passions come from love, either A) love of a actual good or B) love of a perceived good. Anger particularly arises because of a love of Justice, or order. If something is out of order or unjust then anger flares up because it desires to defend that which is loved, or to try to set it in order again. The more intense the anger, that is a sure sign that the love is intense that it's feeling it. So keep in mind that anger is moved by love, love of a good. The fact that you're angry shows that you love :-) consider that. Now, if anger is a rising and we don't know why, our task is to look at what we love that is out of order or being taken away from us. On a more General level you could be angry because it's a mechanism of self defense, because sometimes it's easier to deal with anger than it is sorrow, because sorrow is so immobilizing. For example you may recognize that there is something out of order in your life, whether it's a job or a relationship with the family, and that lack of order is, whatever that may be, is causing you sorrow. You love order which you don't have which is leading you to be sorrowful. you recognize that your life is not meant to be sorrowful like this and see that it's out of order and so you rise up and anger to try to restore what is out of order. In short your anger and sorrow is in your life because you love a good, or a perceived good that you don't have right now or you're not in control of it. The last part, being in control, is something we perceive as good, but maybe there are certain things we simply cannot control, and it's in recognizing that and finally letting go and focusing on the things we can control, that can help us restore order, which can lead to happiness. Perhaps we are loving, improperly, in order that doesn't belong to us, and other words when we love things that we cannot control and they go out of control, then we will be sorrowful. But we need to recognize that we cannot love things that are not in our control, well we can love them but we cannot love the control. For example the choices that other people make. we can love a person and we can try to help them to make choices we think are good for them but if they don't do it, that is their choice, and we cannot get upset about this or lose peace. Because if we are then we are loving only if receives good, that is it's not a real good because we don't have control. In short we need to recognize the things that we have control over and let go of the things that we don't have control over. This is obviously a profound and complex subject and there are millions of variables, but what is true for all of us is this, our passions are motivated buy a love of a good or a love of a perceived good. Our goal is to try to figure out what it is we are loving that we do not have, or again it could be a perceived good, something that is not actually good for us but we think it is. We need to try to figure out what these things are that we don't have, and realize that this is the source of our anger and sadness. sometimes we focus so much on the sorrow and anger and forget the why. But if we forget the Y, I think it's because we're not looking at the goods that we are loving. Are they a real good or is it a precedes good.... and most importantly is there a greater good that I can love in its place that will override the love of these lesser Goods. Boom. That is the key we need to focus unloving greater the greatest good for our life, And these lesser Goods we have been clinging onto will fade away and so too will our sorrow and anger. God bless you my friend I will say some prayers for you.

[@MrByelaw]

Well said.... I do have the same problem with anger...and tried to and still trying to figure it out but now I think your message has put me in a new path, and I'm going to start working on what you said and find out what love in mylife is messing and I can control it...ty.

[@cdubb8185]

I'm really angry and frustrated right now, I feel like just saying Fuck it and giving up, I feel stuck and I just want to scream cry and holler

[@healthyplace]

Hi cdubb. Dealing with a serious mental health condition, like depression, can be very frustrating. Who wouldn't want to get better, but sometimes it's a real challenge and you feel like giving up. If you are seeing a doctor and not getting the results you want, please be sure to tell him/her that. If you're seeing a family doctor for medication, maybe it's time to see a psychiatrist; a doctor who specializes in psychiatric medication. One of the frustrating things is that not all medications work for each individual and many times, you have to keep trying until you find the right one or combination of meds. I would also suggest seeing a therapist, if you're not already. There is scientific research that shows that therapy can be very effective in treating depression. One of the most important aspects of depression treatment is not only finding the right treatments, but using those treatments along with a wellness regimen on a consistent basis. I hope things start to improve soon. Amanda

[@shannon1542]

Lay your burdens on God who loves you and cares for you if you trust in Him he can deliver you from this frustration and anger, you can be free of this. Fast and pray 🙏

[@cassandraledezma1803]

Who ever made this video, thank you soo much for making me feel like I’m not alone..

[@strwb8361]

You are so genuine! Made me cry because the hate has filled my heart and I hate it.

[@CG-ve9pg]

I'm so tired of myself that I get so angry that I cut myself deeper than I do

[@healthyplace]

I'm so sorry you're going through this, Grandma. I hope you feel relief soon. ~Amanda

[@nickbrekalo3756]

Everyone in here, please understand that suffering can ONLY come from conflict. If there is no conflict, there is no suffering. So where does conflict come from? Conflict needs to have at least 2 opposing forces. For example, someone said something and you think they shouldn’t have: CONFLICT! As soon as you realise this, you will also realise that you only create conflict yourself. If you choose to accept EVERYTHING the way it is, there will be no conflict, and so, no suffering. Accepting your own random thoughts and emotions (not fighting them and hating them) will bring immediate relief and peace. Every thought and emotion will eventually pass. Please don’t take them so seriously. They are just reactions to the conflict between your own opinions and the outside world. Please read “The Power of Now” by eckart tolle. It is a guide into these matters. Good luck!

[@markjones8787]

Same here. It's an uncomfortable anger, but it's like I've woke up and moved to a different level, looking around at people and out in public, it irritates me, I feel like people are living out of reality, I am out and I feel overwhelmed with anger and leave and have to be alone. I know I feel different but it's a valid feeling. I am fed up of how the sociatel norm is and it makes me want to just live life single. What can I say, I accept how I am, maybe my time around in this life will lead to a better life in the next life, when the world is a different more less egotistic, selfless place.

[@ironwolfthefirstandonly1224]

My depression started in 4th grade. Since then I’ve had some really low places. But the worst is the anger. My therapist says with depression some people drag it and some people swing it. I happen to swing it. And I hate it. I know I’m in the wrong. I know I’m hurting people but I just feel so angry. My brothers voice irritates me, it’s not even what he’s saying. Reading these comments and watching this video helped a lot. It made me realize I’m not alone in this struggle. I also wanted to add a quote I think is relevant. “Anger is a punishment we give ourselves for someone else’s actions.”

[@dnbdave772]

Does anyone no any good ways to try and deal with the anger

[@Tsunad360]

Maybe excercising or running full stop in a new place. Or experiancing a situation thatll force you to step back from the point of view of your anger.

[@RobinLundqvist]

tsunad exercising is temporary if it’s the kind of anger/depression addressed in this video. If it’s only one thing (maybe you had a fight with your partner) exercise will make you forget it right away.

[@J1Z06]

I think I need a couple million and I’ll be fine.

[@ibrudejude]

Thank you. Your words are so articulated & eloquent.

[@adthgu6336]

I just feel a constant bottomless source of rage, which feels like it comes from every aspect of my being. It isn't directed at anything or anyone either, it's just there. It also feels as good as it feels wrong because when I don't feel it, I just feel completely hollow. Masking it is also great, feels like a challenge of iron will.

[@ghostrider2664]

Try having it for 25 years. That's me. And I never knew it was depression. I just thought something was wrong with me, because that's what everybody always said. Even my therapist didn't figure it out and I was raised by silent generation parents and so therapy was a big No-No. The answer was to just suck it up and deal with it because that's what people did when they were adults. So we never got treated I never understood where it was coming from why was there eventually at age 38 39 end up getting arrested because of my anger with a very serious felony charge. I didn't hurt anybody which of my words. And even after that I was still discouraged I'm going to therapy but I did anyway. I did learn a lot. I even learned why my parents didn't want me to go to therapy. But the anger and depression would never linked during all that time up until now and I-44 now.

[@raphaellavelasquez8144]

Surrounded by judgemental gaslighters. That's why Im angry.

[@Pooker7]

This video helped more than any session with my therapist. 🙏

[@teresah4190]

This video describes me . I was hoping for a magic cure but take comfort knowing I am not alone. Blessings to you!

[@HjorGaming]

If you are angry here is some tips you can do to get rid of it. Lower expectations: Don't expect anything from anyone. Workout: Anger can come from not being stimulated enough - get rid of that extra energy on working out and you will not be able to be angry. Eat: Going hungry will make you angry - eat a good breakfast.

[@scottblack7182]

Your becoming jaded. Its an affect of being smart enough to know this world is shite and there's nothing we can do about it. Depressed ppl are just enraged ppl getting ready to snap.

[@gra6799]

Hey you can articulate yourself REALLY WELL ❤Big respect

[@delbird119]

Thanks for sharing this dude.

[@stevensmith6979]

I'm crying right now listening to this while trying to work. Seems to never go away.

[@cicinebula]

I needed this today, thank you 💜

[@michaelwelsh9700]

The last 2 mornings I’ve woken up with fight or flight and a severe need to do something. Internally empty with a hot head and a whirlwind of energy. It’s not pleasant, it’s anxiety inducing and generally enraging.

[@clarebono]

Thank you so much. I felt that I wasnt alone. ❤️

[@stevebri9161]

I feel the exact same way, nice video by the way! Except for me...being around people is kinda the only thing that calms me down, but as soon as I'm by myself i get mad and depressed as hell

[@slay-thoven1357]

My dad has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and I have bipolar disorder. I managed it for a long time but with his recent diagnosis I am losing it. I'm mad all the time and I can't calm down.

[@ChocolatetyChoc]

Thank you. I needed that.

[@alekss7373]

You described this state of anger is so accurate i can 100 % relate and this is instantly helpful as I struggle to put this to words thank you