6 Reasons We Self Sabotage

[@fravineas]

anna you live in my heart rent free

[@anidleteen]

Me too, especially her daddy squarespace

[@jgtbym601]

Me too! And I’d even throw in a mini bar.

[@serenamassimo6676]

Haha, same!!

[@mdnd8]

daddy squarespace lmao

[@Rukky98]

SAMEEEEE

[@spoorthiv5072]

The reasons 1)Low self worth 2)instant gratification 3) being surrounded by similar people 4)rejection/failure 5)familiar (yet harmful) patterns 6)all Try to be an assertive person and identify the above reasons as they come up.

[@VesDegree]

“Why aren’t YOU married?” Okay that was FUNNY

[@sunisthakundu6684]

shut up

[@OkinawaDrag0n]

@@sunisthakundu6684 no u

[@cinderlights519]

"interpersonal conflict..." "would you like a small or a large?" "a large" why must anna call me out like this

[@tanyiyunpenny1252]

boy tell me about it. covid has make interpersonal conflicts as high as a fuji mountain

[@traveler-a113]

I never knew we needed "French Anna" until now

[@vtr0104]

I think there was some Russian in there too :)))

[@AxxLAfriku]

IT is weird indeed. Everywhere I comment, people tell me how much they love me and my content. Sometimes IT is annoying. But right now, IT would be okay. So say something nice about my content, dear tra

[@Karan-Aujla]

All that's left is catgirl Anna.

[@the_mulattos]

Lesbians speak for their own communities.

[@laetitiacouteausuisse5296]

Hybrid Vigour troll

[@kikiii99]

I've been trying to be more assertive since the start of 2021 and DAMN is it hard, especially when you've spent your whole life neglecting your own needs to keep others happy and avoid conflict

[@Nanamka]

I wish you strength 💪 I've been there, it is a tough journey sometimes but it is worth every step!

[@Pssst.ByTheWay]

been a battle for 1o years. its especially hard if you dont have real autonomy. wishing us much luck and percevierance!

[@anushkaguptaa]

Me feeling attacked in every one of Anna's videos.

[@luckylara6610]

And we come back for more

[@pamela2012bernard]

@@luckylara6610 Ikr

[@rafadams22]

Cos it's fun!!!

[@firecats6754]

LOL 😂 “this isn’t a YA Novel” , slowly puts books down.

[@random23287]

Ikr

[@jerryloncey]

"Our specials today are drowning yourself in self pity with cilantro"

[@crazykenna]

"I just want to be normal like everyone else" Alina Starkov is QUAKING

[@chronicfish]

"With a side of constant self sacrifice for others, to avoid working on myself" .. ouch! That one hit *deep!*

[@gurudra]

Lack of understand one's true self leads to self sabotage🙏

[@rockymegaman8496]

Ouch, this got me.I'm on my way to finding my true self.

[@crtzy9626]

That’s so true

[@Mad.E]

_"maybe it's you"_ yeah no it's definitely me

[@o0OHermioneO0o]

You can't even imagine just how well-timed this insight comes!!! I've been pushing off writing my thesis for two months now. I'm gonna come back to this from time to time to reflect on my behaviour and progress. Thanks, Anna & team!!

[@Drugostanje]

Same here, but for longer. Any progress?

[@astolat2262]

Good luck you!

[@anonymouslearner2454]

Omg same here... How are you guys doing? Anything in particular that helps pushing through? 😣

[@TequilaCT]

Coincidences again... Was talking about this subject AND in desperate need of new glasses last night... BOTH stopping self sabotage and getting new glasses are going to take a while.

[@RaroHi]

breh same

[@Quark.Lepton]

There are no “coincidences” - you were _meant_ to be here, now.

[@NoEnvyNoFear1]

"So hopefully there's a personal attack incoming soon!" This sums up Anna's entire channel. Lmao.

[@kaitlyn.isntreal]

Ironically, I'm absolutely putting instant gratification over my long term goals by watching youtube right now...

[@thedesignnerd]

Your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth ~ someone great

[@natalieberkaw405]

Dang girl you look great in those glasses

[@sunisthakundu6684]

she really looks cool

[@KiloMedic]

“… with a side of constant self-sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself.” 😩😂😭 I feel so exposed

[@s.flanders]

Speaking for a friend, self-sabotage is a bit of a vicious cycle because you _don't_ see yourself as deserving good things, but in order to see yourself more positively, you usually need to improve yourself in some way. Like, this "friend" of mine doesn't like the way they look, but instead of working out and eating better, they get this delicious fried chicken every Tuesday for dinner.

[@goldfishcrayon]

It is a vicious cycle. Society is toxic. When we realize our own self worth, it makes things like exercise and eating healthier easier (though NOT easy). Change takes work but people won't be happy unless they are doing it for the right reasons. Self hatred regarding looks/weight (or it being perpetuated by toxic people) is not going to motivate someone to live a healthier life. It usually ends up in an eating disorder that continues messing with the person's mind and well-being. Everyone deserves to be loved and valued regardless of what they have for dinner. Once a person loves themself, taking better care of themself will feel much more achievable.

[@urdadsonic1036]

how about this... your friend tries to eat healthy for 6 days of the week and eats fried chicken on tuesday. small changes overtime can yield big results :)

[@GymGirl88]

Therapy hour with Anna!! Love all your mental health content. It's hella validating and keeps me thinking about my therapy goals between appointments

[@johnypanta6208]

Self improvement can be exhausting...On the other hand, what choices are there? Universal Law: What doesn't grow, dies.

[@littleowl22778]

Everything that grows also dies at some point.

[@gabrielagrassi8237]

Maybe we need to think about cycles. The thing is that we self sabotage keeping the same cycles in our life that needs to die to some new things to come up

[@zeruszephuros5419]

The menu names are so hilarious and on spot xD! One of the best scripts you've made!

[@Leelz247]

You slid right into a Russian accent while attempting French, but that's OK, lol.

[@ale.jate.]

wow thank you for this needed call out

[@PazuJams]

Thank you so much, Anna, for giving me free therapy sessions.

[@fatemakhambati5943]

Everything is just perfect in your videos! The message, background, skits, makeup, dress, sponsor messages!! Everything

[@limherny]

This is so relatable, glad to know I’m not the only one

[@CACHCL]

"sorry girl this aint a YA novel" 😂😂

[@thisisdk7859]

0:48 that restaraunt is fancyyy. That not standing up for yourself entree sounded good AF.

[@strawberrycranberry3085]

Girl you have the ability to captivate the audience with such important messages

[@bsjeffrey]

i don't think that psychiatrist was really writing stuff down.

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

Waitress, not psychiatrist.

[@bsjeffrey]

@@ireallyreallyhategoogle potato, potahto

[@davidcrowther9504]

Thank you Anna. Sadly I feel that I might be sabotaging myself because no matter which choice I make I feel that I will be betraying some aspect of myself. Sometimes it feels like the only winning move is not to play...

[@sillygoose_8635]

"Good luck with that! :)" Thanks Anna... I'm trying

[@bosgotnojams]

maybe it's me but without the maybe

[@lauriechrisy1784]

*Restaurant McSaboteur menu* -> Stew of self-pity, with cilantro | recommended for drowning | ->impulsive spending | will lead to financial ruin | ->not standing up for myself | very simple and elegant | ->procrastination | voted most popular meal | ->Self medicating with drugs and alcohol -> Performing below my abilities on purpose ->Not showing up ->Comfort eating ->Interpersonal conflict | the large portion is especially tasteful | *Popular side dish* ->Self-sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself

[@FlyMontag]

That "can we split that" joke....I see you. I see what you did there and I lourve it.

[@kakaduvadu7827]

Absolutely perfect timing, thank you!

[@ltheelementalflowl]

I love your sense of humor Anna. I feel like my family and friends have a hard time understanding my humor, but yours hit mine really point on about mental health and our struggles. Thanks for making me laugh and bringing a smile to my face. Lol

[@benjaminseelking9483]

Fortunatly, this list also tells you exactly what to do to NOT change your behavior on Accident, and ensure you stay exactly where you are right now

[@namjesussssss]

*WAS JUST TALKING ABOUT THIS WITH MY SISTER*

[@CHopeBerlin]

2:08 why does this remind me of charmed where Piper and pheobe kept complaining about being the charmed ones and they just want to have normal lives and then when the angel of destiny one day let them choose to have a normal live, they suddenly wanted to stay witches. But right in the next Episode they complained again that they are witches.

[@thelemonpolice]

I love ur channel so much it’s free therapy man 🥳

[@dorcasola1528]

been on my mind this whole week. thanks for saying what needed to be said !!

[@kbunnieable2]

ugh ze french accent!!!!!! anna is too insanely talented

[@georgianapopescu1333]

It's so nice to get actually useful psychological info and have a laugh at the same time :)

[@lemonadeslices]

i feel so called out. thank you for this.

[@MrGutsTheBerserk]

"We did a line together, it was fabulous." Line made me do a double take.

[@angieinthecity]

The shooting of the foot was too good🤣

[@petitcactusamer]

Constant self sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself....why yes.

[@TY-qj1fh]

I relate to all 6 of the listed reasons for self-sabotage. My ex who I pushed away has all 8 of the symptoms of an assertive person. So this is what it's like to horribly screw up.

[@bettyreads222]

This is so realll. Anna coming in with the relevant advice.

[@kraziiXIII]

How do you figure out what you want? That is a question I've had for years. Depression has made me not want anything other than sleep for over 13 years.

[@smritibangera7133]

Your videos transcribed and summaries on notion would be a huge hit!

[@leena_asad7663]

I miss her saying "stay awesome gotham" at the ending

[@taylormoore2590]

After seeing what makes an assertive person, it’s become clear I’m taking L’s on all fronts😭

[@kalakshepam9000]

Self-sabotage,This is a very serious issue explained very well..The tough part identifying, accepting. It takes decades for some to identify and accept while for some people a month. Thanks for explaining the truth, reasons..Keep doing all these to increase awareness..

[@johnmuldoon79]

lol the gun pointing at your foot was a good metaphor

[@dracconcomet]

The upper limit problem!! Once you see it, you can't unsee it.

[@noemilicitra2587]

these videos are so underrated! they should have millions of thumbs up!

[@AnonymousOnimous]

These trio skits are the gold the dragon in my heart needed!

[@bethking5086]

My favourite KZbinr rn

[@alexia942]

A friend sent me a link of one of your videos and I'm so glad. I love that your videos are sharp, intelligent, engaging, and funny. Fabulous work!

[@julzamidala2865]

Loved "Why aren't you married?" and her reaction! 😂😂😂

[@rafadams22]

COS OPEN RELATIONSHIPS ARE FOR PEOPLE WITH NO ETHICS AND MORALS. NOBODY IS PERFECT, BUT THAT LINE SHOULD NEVER BE CROSSED. THAT'S JUST MY OPINION.

[@nopenopepoppop]

I WANT A LONGER VERSION OF THIS

[@millennial_fairy]

Anna managed To give us all virtual therapy and dish out the laughs at the same time lol

[@ChadMourning]

To the priest, "Why aren't you married?"

[@rafadams22]

DUDE IF U WANA BE MARRIED TO A PROSTITUTE, BE MY GUEST. NOT FOR ME THANKS. NOT TODAY, NOT TOMORROW AND NOT EVER.

[@caioferreira3562]

Anna, you’re incredible!!! Thank u so much for this, pretty sure it helps a lot of people. You’re an angel❤️

[@user-wc6jw6hb8z]

Those frames look amazing on you!!

[@mich8050]

Self-sabotaged in relationships galore. It's my special move

[@borofreak]

It's also super effective.

[@mich8050]

@@borofreak well yeah, I've been single almost 9 years now

[@ofeliabalderas1965]

You make my failure sound so fancy Thank you :’)

[@josietennyson5835]

I love that she draws her props

[@kamilamuratova7728]

Thank you, Anna!

[@Anesujubani]

This really couldn’t have come at a better time

[@ceebee312]

Got Godfather Prt. II vibes from this topic of discussion all in due to Michael Corleone’s character. .. thx for the therapy/lecture

[@TheBetsyBraun]

Perfect timing... I'm about to launch a business and IIIIIIIIII'mmmm definitely getting in my own way. 😬

[@jordantaber2438]

You can do it!!!

[@gabrielagrassi8237]

Same here 😁

[@shawnvirdree8593]

Wow the effort that you put into your videos is really impressive...I’ve been watching you for years and you haven’t missed a step hahahaha

[@niwasazuke]

Im so glad the youtube recommend her to my feeds. Thank you anna...

[@jochebedlapena]

aw thank you Anna! you should discuss more of these types.

[@sunisthakundu6684]

watching your videos literally helps me a lot, make me a pretty person inside and out. Thank you Anna Akana.

[@gold-fi5mk]

Anna's videos are always gold

[@FuzzyStripetail]

Before she shot her dream of being a track runner in the foot, Anna's waitressing career really tanked the day she decided to wear that fuzzy grey tank top while working at that extremely classy though decidedly depressing French restaurant.

[@sharukobe]

What to do against self sabotaging? Basically the opposite of whatever you have been doing and feeling towards yourself until now. Therapy goal 😂

[@vir_rm]

i’ve been WAITING for this one! turn it up!

[@marissawilson4644]

Great timing!!!

[@ruqayazuhair9047]

this was uncomfortably eye opening

[@skygirllove3669]

THANK YOUU!!!! I was looking for this

[@heatherclark2701]

Phew I'm on my way once I ditch fear of failure and comforting patterns haha 😬

[@superbhumanely7045]

super duper love the script for this one 😩

[@frankdeste7941]

This is great Anna....Great innovation and advice!!!

[@awesomeadamfrom2099]

Awesome job Anna

[@iheartjunkfood]

Anna never misses

[@ClariJoy]

The short hair looks so good!

[@yoshitheonly]

Every point made here was a direct attack and I'd never considered self-sabatoge.

[@MoneyGist]

"Why aren't you married?" 😭

[@batmanjeph]

The gun is back!!

[@punammishra6200]

Ah truth be told girl.. truth be told!

[@rickkaine2181]

Also Sasha is one of my favourite cartoon characters! 😀

[@erzascarlet47]

Because both my narcissistic parents always belittled me, gaslighted me and treat me like I was a monster; I self sabotaged. My career (which I'm to save), relationship (trying not to go down that path). It's a mindfuck. You don't want to do it but it's an instinct.