My Sexual Assault Story

[@steph15hudgins]

It's hard when it's family members, you never want to say anything

[@Lele62209]

true

[@nayelym7886]

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[@emersauce]

I haven't told anyone because it was my sibling and it was years and years ago. I don't want to mess up my sibling's life. We've never talked about it, I was so young I think he thinks I don't remember. But it still really bothers me, and i can't be comfortable around him alone. I don't know what to do, if anything at all.

[@robynshorr3852]

i had the same thing happen to me with my grandfather. Even if you're not sure how to act, know that whatever you choose is valid and one hundred percent ok. personally, i would advise you to tell someone, because even if its just to share what happened, itll most likely make you feel better (but be cautious about who you tell because some people can be total dicks about it-from first hand experience)

[@emersauce]

Thanks, somehow it really helped to hear that whatever I choose is valid. I've never talked (even online) about it before, so this is a good start. I will probably tell a friend who doesn't know my family when i move out of my small town. That should keep things simpler and take away the shock (and potential dick) factor.

[@annemariechase]

To everyone who has left a comment (or will leave a comment): I just wanted to say thank you so much. I have been reading every single one, and I'm so pleased to see that my video has helped you or that my story has given you an awareness of sexual assault. That's literally all that I wanted to achieve in posting this. I haven't been replying to each comment individually like I usually try to do just because this is such a delicate topic, and I just don't know the right words to say. But it's so heart-warming to come to this video, read the comments, and know that we're not alone. Love you all and thank you so much for your kind words and support xx

[@meesamiller1640]

I cried so much i'm so sorry you had to go through that my cousin went through the same thing with her boyfriend and every night id wish it was me instead because its so sad

[@princesslulu5795]

Thank you for having the courage and taking the initiative to tell your story. Too many people do not go to police or don't tell anyone for a long time if ever because they're blamed, ignored or not believed. It's even worse when alcohol is involved or the abuser is in a position of authority (i.e.: teacher, boss, doctors, law enforcement, family members etc). Sometimes they fear the abuser will physically harm them or their loved ones, are dependent on them, or don't want to disrupt family. But the first step is standing up and showing people you're not afraid. I know this because of my own experiences. I experienced a sexual assault and attempted rape, but didn't go to cops because alcohol was involved & I did not think I would be supported by my family or other people who were there. No one saw anything but it happened at my house. In hindsight the area we were in has a surveillance camera but I was unsure if it would have been enough. It can be very intimidating to report and not..

[@princesslulu5795]

...knowing if you will be supported makes it even harder. I am sorry that this happened to you, but I'm happy you seem to not blame yourself. You shouldn't and no other person who is assaulted or raped should. It doesn't matter what you're wearing, if you drink/are high, have been with 1, 5 or 500 people; if you're a hooker, have had sex with the person before or if you are married to the person. If someone does something you don't want or you cannot consent to, that is wrong. He or she (the abuser) is wrong because they chose to molest/assault/rape someone

[@princesslulu5795]

TRUMP WON Ouch, dude. I actually voted for Trump so joke's on you. Why are you so angry?

[@meesamiller1640]

TRUMP WON I don't think so my mom doesn't like baby carrots

[@DewiCactus]

I was sexual asaulted when i was 9 and im now 16. I feel uncomfortable around men and cant look them in the eye. It took me 5 years to tell my parrents because i thought it was my fault but now i know that it isnt. I find it very brave of you to tell it. I have respect for everyone that has been through the same kind of thing

[@yesennia]

you’re very brave for telling us this god bless you❤️

[@jairysantos2208]

I feel the same way , I can’t be around older men it makes me feel uncomfortable

[@ari9313]

I'm here for you

[@KK-sr1ee]

I was sexually assaulted at the age of 5. This is a very important video. I'm so glad you've shared your story, knowing it's difficult to talk about, let alone to millions of people. Bless you.

[@haleighmadison2002]

I agree with you and I wish I was as strong as both you and her to admit something like that online.

[@werkitbaby]

Kassie, you and Annamarie are both very brave for sharing. Stay strong. What has happened to you does not define who you are.

[@werkitbaby]

Sound Vector How can I five year old child be "seductive playing to tease him"????

[@werkitbaby]

Sound Vector no five year old has ever been horny I promise you. You're disgusting.

[@gwenmoore5915]

if you are sexualizing a FIVE year old you're a sick fuck who belongs in jail. reading your comments actually made physically ill. you need help.

[@elliesmith9121]

I totally agree with the comment about helping your friends or helping other girls. I was on holiday in August and was extremely drunk one night and a guy in a club starting pulling me to the bathroom and when security stopped him from entering the bathroom with me he started pulling me out of the club I remember shouting help me at passers by as he carried me out of the club, and I distinctly remember shouting it at a group of guys who just stared at me and watched me get dragged away. thankfully a group of girls saw me, ran over, pushed the guy away and took me back to my friends. I've never been more grateful in my life. Always look out for people especially in club/party environments when its so easy to get pulled away in a crowd.

[@jkaugust3586]

The key is to simply ask anyone anywhere, "Are you okay?" Anything less than an immediate, voluntary "Yes," should draw an immediate response. That's how I've operated my whole life. The reaction of the "bad person" in the situation quickly confirms or denies motive. Any good person is glad that you are concerned for the person they are accompanying. Children especially just don't know how to respond.

[@corrie325]

I was sexually assaulted when I was a child and it happened on multiple occasions. As an adult now it doesn't really effect me, but I still remember the what he did to me and what he made me do to him. I haven't told my parents and I don't think I will. I have shared this with a few friends though. From this experience I will definitely teach my child to be aware and open with me.

[@dedalliance1]

Probably shouldn't tell your parents. It creates too much worry and would make them feel bad for never knowing. If you're truly okay with... well not okay but truly 'over' what happened then that's great and go on to living.

[@olivialovessnow880]

+dedalliance1 no, no she must tell her parents. This is too much for her to carry on her own. It doesn't matter if they are worried about it. She and her well being it more important She will never truly have closure on this unless she tells her parents and if justice is done.

[@olivialovessnow880]

+#DK4LGANG Princess Yes! Yes! Please tell your parents! This is horrible 😪

[@dedalliance1]

Olivia Loves Snow There's professional people she can talk to if she needs to tell someone to get help and coping with it. Your parents can do basically nothing but say they're sorry.

[@olivialovessnow880]

***** Im very glad

[@lunchablecheese5931]

I’m so sorry, this is awful and we love you so much. you are such a strong and brave human and this truly breaks my heart

[@inevitabledrifter]

As a man it truly hurts my heart that women all over the world have to deal with sexual assault, most stories are untold while the ones that are told are being made fun of or judge of others. We as Society and Men need to do better, we shouldn't take advantage of women or men just for pleasures. No excuse for that type of behavior, We need to have self-control and to respect each and look out for one another.

[@Johannesburg777]

Thank you for saying that sir. There are more people who realize that rape is a form of control and power, and SA survivors are not at fault. Keep in mind that men are victims of SA too, no matter if they're gay or straight. So everyone as a society should do better.

[@winstonmarlowe5254]

Who's we? you got something you want to get off your chest?

[@agbsunrise]

this is such an important topic to talk about and you honestly talked about it so gracefully and hit so many solid points i admire you and your sister so much for handling your situation the way you did

[@bangtanentries1950]

Those type of people are simply disgusting. Thank you for sharing, sending much love💘

[@annemariechase]

+America Castro thank you so much 😌❤️

[@101sanford]

@@annemariechase this is funny

[@Mikaylap713]

Thank you for bringing awareness and caring about important current events. This NEEDS to be talked about.

[@Mikaylap713]

Wow, I commented before the ending.. Honestly I am shocked how real you are and how much of a strong person you are for not being afraid to speak out and send a message to all of your viewers (girls and guys) to stand up for themselves. You honestly empower me to not care what people think of me in terms of standing up for what makes me uncomfortable. A lot of times, I just go along with the situation my "friends" put me in; I now feel like I can stand up for myself and not be afraid to trust my gut/respect my morals bc you are so right: what certain people think about you in a moment/at a party will not matter in a few years (or even weeks). There are much more important things than looking cool or trying to fit in.

[@nyssasamone8696]

I went through the same thing, but my uncle was the one who did the deed. I was around the same age as you, my parents had just gotten a divorce, and I was visiting my dad with his side of the family, which was where he was staying because he didn't live in the same state as us and his family. On the second or third day when we were staying there, I just remember everyone not being in the same room as me or my sister, when my uncle comes in with a really weird face, and he says he's going to do something to us both, but it's going to have to stay between us, and then he pulled down his pants and started touching himself, while also touching me down south at first, then to my sister. When we both came back to my moms house, she could tell something happened. I turned into a moody, tantrum throwing 4 year old over night. Somewhere along the lines of 3 weeks to a month after we came home, she decided that she had had enough and took my sister and I to a therapist, where the lady got us both to say that he had touched us. The lady gave us a teddy bear and said to point to where he touched us, and you can use your mind to think where we pointed to. My mom was in tears, just really wondering what type of man would do such a thing, especially to his nieces. The therapist called the police, and my dads side of the family, including my uncle, was called. They called my mother a liar, a bitch who lies to get through life. They said she almost caused him to have a heart attack. Apparently my grandmother on that side had recorded that phone call without my mother knowing, and came to my house and threatened my mom that she'll go to the police with it, even though there was nothing on there against her, more than likely my grandmother would have been the one going to jail as it is illegal to record a phone call if the other person isn't aware. Nothing really came of the case because who would believe a 4 and 2 year old and a mother believing her children right? That's when my dad stopped talking to me and my sister, stopped calling, texting, anything. To this day, I haven't seen him for almost 10 years. I talked to him the day I found out that this whole situation wasn't just in my head, and that it was actually real. He still blames my mom. It's pretty obvious about that. When i asked him if he and his family blamed my mom, he said in a tone that would make you think he was talking to the most stupid person alive, "no Nyssa." Literally that's all he said lmao. That's all the explanation I have gotten to this day from him. I personally think it's a blessing that for most of my childhood I wondered what I did to not deserve my dads presence in my life, because if I didn't, I most likely wouldn't be so close to my mom, and I could 100% with all of my heart say she's my best friend.

[@seashore3968]

❤️

[@sirineaibeche3346]

you're really strong

[@Hatjhaaa_]

Hey, just wanted to let you know that I think you are really strong and I wish all the best for you life, opening up on this platform is really brave of you❤️

[@brookemelton2865]

I was sexually assaulted by a female at early age. It sucks and i pray you move on from it and can continue to help guys and girls get through that or something similar. Godbless you and stay strong

[@localbaddie2766]

God bless you 🙏🏾 ❤️

[@izzlechappstick]

You actually made a huge impact on me, thank you. I'm starting college as a freshman late September and have been "worried" about coming across as a bitch.. but you made me see a different way with it and why it's important! Girl power!!

[@xm377Moyocoyatzin]

Just stay away from men.

[@laneyxoxo1772]

+xm377Moyocoyatzin that's not fair, just because males are more likely to do that doesn't mean all males are going to.

[@xm377Moyocoyatzin]

Laney XoXo From here on, I exercise my legal obligation under 18 U.S. Code § _2422 - 2243_ to end any, and all form of communication with a possible minor and/or child.

[@karinefonte516]

It's not the person, it's the environment. There a huge pression and unrealistic expectations from others for him to be a "man" and score as much girls as possible, by all means possible. Fraternities are specially strong on breeding and diffusing the so called "herd behaviour", that can lead an otherwise nice man to do terrible things and scar you for life.

[@xm377Moyocoyatzin]

***** That was probably true in the 90's. Today there is the MGTOW movement which is the polar opposite of encouraging men to be with a lot of women. Today it is encouraged that men be careful around women and avoid them as much as possible. A man who sleeps with a woman is seen as an idiot or a weak buffoon.

[@jojoyang3534]

you might think that your video might only reach one person but that's not the case, you're helping out thousands. By making this video you're giving many the courage to come out and talk about this personal matter. In some country the girl is blamed if it happens to them, just this one video is giving thousands voices.

[@oateolatte]

First off thank you. Admittedlty, I was hesistant to click on this video of yours (I religiously watch all of your videos) because I can easily be triggered by content like this. I was sexually assaulted by my step father at 13. Similar to you, I felt super uncomfortable telling my mom. In fact, the first person I told was a neighborhood friend and it took days for me to tell my mom. I agree with you that more people should feel comfortable to talk about it. This took guts to do this on such a public platform. Thank you so much. I honestly cannot even thank you enough.

[@sadiel.8328]

I did my research paper on this. The facts are so scary in life and especially in college. Be safe, everyone. Don't be afraid to speak up if this has happened to you, either.

[@gabbygibson8276]

Thank you for posting this. I have watched your channel for a while now and I have looked up to you for years. I have also been sexually assaulted and I suffered from an eating disorder, and while I havent been able to be open about it, your story makes me brave. So, thank you for being you. Thank you for being strong for those who couldnt.

[@ryanrowell8860]

Even 5 years later your video still is making an impact. I watch your videos and I have been researching sexual assault for some activism at my high school. KZbin is always watching me :) so it recommended the video for me. It totally underscored the importance of people who will stand up when their friend is placed in that situation. Amazing that you had the courage to share this on KZbin!

[@alicesbeloved]

Thank you for sharing this. I'm proud of you. I was sexually assaulted my 1st experience and my mom conceived me through a date rape! But I went on to be the 1st and only child to attend college and receive my Bachelors degree in Nursing Science. Also, I graduated from a 3 year theology school. I am working in ER Nursing and will complete SANE [Sexually Assault Nurse Examiner] Forensic Nursing specialty. I got saved & God used me to minister the gospel of Lord Jesus Christ to my mom & family (many of which are now saved too). What satan uses for evil...God can take and despite it do great good. May God bless you and your sister!

[@localbaddie2766]

God bless you my sister Jesus is King 🙏🏾

[@MatildaZuria]

I'm going to college in the fall & this is literally all I'm worried about. Anyone can be sexual assaulted at any time it's crazy :(

[@MatildaZuria]

Right I bring pepper spray everywhere I go.

[@werkitbaby]

I just finished my first year of college and unfortunately I know a few people who were victims of assault this year. Make sure that you are never alone. NEVER walk home alone. That's the most important thing I can tell you. Also, look out for your fellow girls. If you see something fishy offer to walk the girl home and tell the guy to beat it. You never know how valuable your help can be.

[@MatildaZuria]

+MakeupWithMonica Thanks great advice.

[@angelakoshiol]

I know for my school that i will be attending in the fall you can call and have a security/ out of uniform police officer escort you if you are afraid of walking alone or something like that, so i would recommend looking into things like that at your school(:

[@MatildaZuria]

AngKosh Yes my school have those mini buses that picks you up at your location if you ever feel unsafe. Thanks btw

[@Rebeccarealest]

Sexual assault is a situation that needs to be addressed more in today's society and I admire you for telling your story and bringing awareness to this situation.

[@MyaMacRae]

Wow I love that you posted this, but I wanted to add one thing that people might misconstrue (not in any way a hate comment just discussion). While it is important to caution guys about the possibility of girls making things up, on the flip side no one should ever hesitate to speak up because they fear someone will say they are lying. Not sure about the true frequency of either of the situations, but from what I've seen it is more often that a girl is not taken seriously about her accusation than a guy is falsely accused. Lmk what your thoughts are on that, I wanted to add it bc I think it's important to discuss all potential situations.

[@DoubleEmzeez]

you are actually absolutely right. contrary to popular belief, false accusations are quite uncommon. the greatest studies in the world show us that they make up %2-%8 of overall sexual assault reports (which is the lowest number of any crime). the myth that false accusations are common is exactly why when women do come forward they receive a ton of backlash.

[@annemariechase]

I totally agree with you and I appreciate and invite the discussion! I didn't directly mention that in the video because I feel like I stressed speaking up and being aware in general. So when I was addressing guys, I only had to counter the argument for a girl speaking against a guy falsely! But I totally agree with the flip side that no one should ever hesitate to speak up in fear that someone might think they're lying. A very valid and important situation to mention! Thank you for bringing this up :)

[@XxLilMexixanxX]

Guy here. Only stick till the end cause like u said I've been finding out it does happen more often than u thinks. Thanks for bringing more awareness about this

[@JustMadeleine08]

I know this story is hard for you to share. Thank you so much for sharing this with us 💓

[@Parker-Green]

Thank you for sharing your story. I couldn't stop watching it, everything you said was so relevant and important to speak out about.

[@annemariechase]

Aww, thank you so much Parker! I really appreciate your kind words.

[@Angie_Malak]

I was sexually assaulted at the age of 12 I'm 20 now and I've never told my parents I don't even know how to tell them, out of trauma I even forced my brain to forget it that somehow I thought it was a dream or something I created in my head until something happened that triggered my memories when I was 16 . I was definitely confused I didn't know whatever was happening isn't supposed to be happening cuz no one told me what it was But I did feel uncomfortable so I knew something was wrong. He was a men "of religion" with his clothes and his long beard thanks to him now I feel uncomfortable whenever I meet a man that has the same structure as him and I beg my dad to not grow a beard cuz I don't wanna be scared away from my own dad . Also thank Annemarie for sharing this, talking about these kinda sensitive topics are usually always pushed away by ppl like it's something bad to speak about especially in my country they always say that it's the victim's fault for whatever reason they create

[@friedfishh]

I hope you're doing okay now

[@lenaslittle8059]

I just filmed my own. It's such a difficult thing to do but I think it's important for victims to not feel ashamed or guilty for something that was done to them. Opening up like this is definitely helpful so thank you for being so open and honest with such a large audience!

[@GabrielleLopes]

This is amazing. Thank you so much for this. It's ok to talk about it. I'm from Brazil and I'm not sure if you heard this but a few weeks ago a girl was abused by 30 guys in rio apparently, the country was shocked. This is so gross and sad.. Thank you again. We love you

[@emmajane2459]

i’ve been sexually assaulted by my uncle and to this day, i cannot bring it up in conversation with my family. it makes me so nervous even though i know i did nothing wrong. and it sucks because i still have to see him and act like i’m okay around him when he always makes me uncomfortable. i just wish it had never happened.

[@bensmith8957]

I'm sorry that happened to you

[@aubrey7530]

It is so important to talk about this topic and you uploading this video could have gave someone the courage to tell someone about their story. Thank you!

[@tanyasingh1402]

Thank you SO much for posting this. It was so incredibly brave of you, and you should be super proud of yourself, you're helping other people out there who are going through the same thing. You're such an inspiration.....thank you so much for sharing this.

[@annemariechase]

Hi Tanya. I just wanted to take the time to say thank YOU so much for leaving this nice comment. I was nervous about posting this video but seeing comments like this one make it all worth it.

[@fAnTaGeChRiStInA0319]

the world honestly needs more people like you ❤️

[@beymota4205]

Ive been watching you since ur freshman year of college. Its not that long ago but it brakes my heart to know that something so gross happened to you. I was sexually assulted as a child and I know how it feels I guess. But Im glad that you came out to share your story. Im sure you helped a bunch of people with this video.

[@Dlevin-qq4sx]

thank you for sharing your story. I can't even imagine show hard it must've been to share this story with the world. stay strong girl you are an inspiration to us all!!!❤️

[@princesslulu5795]

It makes me so angry and sad that currently much of the conversation (i.e. My school)talks about prevention (pepper spray, taser, concealed carry, security systems, self defense classes, not walking alone at night, etc have been suggested to me). Yes these do help in some cases, but they work mostly for when the abuser is a stranger. Many abusers are someone the victim knows (friend, romantic partner, relative, etc) and trusts. But even besides that, I am not mad at these suggestions, as they can help? but rather I'm sad that because of my gender I live having that fear constantly in the back of my mind. But at my college very little is said about what to do when it already happened. We need to do more to help victims get medical care & to go to LE without fear. People need to stop being so quick to assume the victim is lying or was 'asking for it'. If wastes of oxygen like Brock turner got more than a slap on the wrist even with overwhelming evidence and ZERO remorse for what he did..

[@princesslulu5795]

...maybe it'd be easier for people to understand that sexual abuse and rape are not okay, and if you do these things, you'll be punished

[@Lunetta5454]

PrincessLuLu g

[@Adele5554]

What do you mean "because of my gender" . It happens to both boys and girls. smh.

[@nina-hf2zu]

To know that there's parents out there that don't teach their children that it's not okay to perform unwanted sexual acts to another from a young age actually disappoints and disgusts me. From a young age, it is the parent's responsibility to teach their children the things that aren't okay to do, to both girls and boys.

[@kaycikay123456]

I was sexually assaulted by my cousin when I was younger (from like 9-13) as well and i haven't really told anyone, so you sharing your story is something I truly appreciate. Thank you for sharing your story and giving a voice to people who don't feel comfortable speaking up or can't speak up.

[@missjordan96]

Posting this took so much courage. You are so brave and strong, to go through something like this isn't easy, but I'm so glad you have moved passed it. It's so important especially as a college student who's female to stay vigilant and aware of your surroundings. I am so sorry for the girl in the Brock Turner case. I hope she can move passed this awful thing and have a great life.

[@rachelelizabeth5035]

I watched this video with tears rolling down my face. I love how open and honest you are about your opinions and experiences. Something I really loved you mentioning (that not everyone remembers) is how serious rape/ sexual assault is, because so many in our generation take it with a grain of salt. I remember as a young teenager, I never spoke up about my boyfriend raping me multiple times over the span of two years. I never spoke up because I thought it was normal. I heard many women say "you do things you're not comfortable with for the one you love." And this is just completely not true! I spoke up to my mom and friends and I feel so much better now that I have a support system. To anybody going through this- you are not alone!!! Please speak up! Even if you don't want everyone to know, or your a minor and don't want to get the law involved, find a close friend or trusted adult, and just don't bottle in your feelings.

[@JZeez96]

I am a guy and I was very touched by this video. I was also raised to be very cautious by my mom as she and her sister were also sexually assaulted as children. It's definitely something that strongly affected both of their lives. This video really touched me. To see you talk about this terrible part of your life is very inspiring to me and I admire the strength it took for you to share this story. This was a very important topic to touch on and I admire you for doing so!

[@Livia2015]

As a USC student in the greek community, I 100% agree with what you were saying about that. People really do need to be more aware and cautious. Thanks so much for sharing Anne Marie - hope to see you around campus

[@wendyherrera4861]

Hey Annemarie, you probably don’t read the comments anymore since this might be a lot. But before I say what I wanted to say.. I just wanted to mention that your channel was recommended to because of Kelly’s. So listening to your story.. it brought back a memory that I’ve forgotten. I was little too when it happened.. it’s just now I understand I was sexually assaulted by my cousin. I remember he would try to kiss me on the lips but I would move my head away. I just remember too feeling uncomfortable and honestly the way I handled the situation was pretty much the same. And he did go a bit further than that but if anything it was just inappropriate touching. Thankfully he didn’t go further but yeah. Idk what reason encouraged you to upload this but thank you Annamarie :)

[@tink6225]

me too lol I try not to think about it

[@floeymoo]

Thank you for posting this. It's something so many of us go through. You are brave xoxo.

[@margaretpettipas557]

I appreciate you for being that friend who looks out for their friends. I wish I had had someone like you with me for some experiences I have had. Much love

[@binaaa3331]

Do you still see those cousins? If so, is it like forgotten or awkward or what? Idk but yeah

[@MrsTheOnlyOneLikeMe]

I know everyone has a right to voice their thoughts, but some of these comments are disgusting! How can anyone even dare to try an analyze a person's personal story and pass it off as insignificant! 😤 Thank you for sharing your story cause at the end of the day, it happened to you and likely happened to millions of others.

[@MrsTheOnlyOneLikeMe]

Btw, I too am very protective of my friends. Yes, I know not all guys are looking to do that sort of thing, but that doesn't mean you can be cautious free now days. The whole thing regarding how this happens to guys as well is so true and if they do come out and tell their story people automatically think that since he is a male, he should have enjoyed it. Rape is rape and assault is assault regardless of ones gender, race, and sexual orientation.

[@FreshFabFine]

Thank you for sharing this💜 I had a similar thing happen to me when I was 8 but by a complete stranger. It's a really serious topic, so thank you for sharing this story. Means a lot to us all:)

[@annemariechase]

How awful. I can't imagine. I'm so sorry to hear that. Thank you for sharing and thank you for your supportive comment. It means a whole lot to me and I really appreciate it

[@rainbowdiva714]

These stories are not okay. People need to educate their kids since this leaves scars on the victims. I'm terribly sorry that this happened to you.

[@emilymalech9959]

this video was truly moving. nobody should have to be afraid of being assaulted sexually in college or in life. this topic needs to be voiced and I'm very happy that you made this video 💘💘

[@michaelshi3811]

Just watched your old video and this is very brave of you to share it. This is still an issue going on in today's age and is really I feel a stigma in our society. I feel that what you said was 100% true and that it doens't only happen to women. Everyday on the news we see these sexual assualt scandals and people are starting to come out of their shells. I believe that this is amazing and you are amazing. Your videos are awesome and I hope that you keep vlogging and being the person you are today!!!:)

[@Nunya_Biznes]

This reassures me of the conversations I’ve had with my 4 year old are needed, I’m 33 and live in Australia, my wife and I have 2 children and this is a reality no matter what upbringing you come from, we try be honest and let our kids be honest with us, I’m glad to be watching this knowing things like this happen but you have enough courage to speak out, I’m sorry for what you went through and I hope your cousins conscience is heavy and hasn’t done it again, thank you for speaking out, I appreciate your courage, sending peace and love from Australia

[@mommi8888]

if someone does that to you again I will make you hire a bodyguard. PS ILYSM

[@annemariechase]

+Julia Dolanlover awww you're so sweet 😭❤️ ily!!!

[@mommi8888]

+annemariechase OMGGGGGGG U REPLIED!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really feel sorry for what happened to you.

[@SalvadorThe4th]

You're amazing for posting this video! As a college guy watching this video I appreciate you warning me about the crazy girls that can damage a guy's life.

[@linaaissa2136]

Thank you for sharing your story with other people! I think this is a very sensitive topic that definitely needs to be tackled and I believe that everyone needs to tell their own story and get things out to relieve themselves, first, and to to inspire others to do the same and not feel ashamed about it or guilty, because this is never their fault. I have been through similar "situations", I would say, but never felt the courage to tell my parents out of fear of their reaction. I am 22 and now I understand that I had to tell them to feel secure and probably get help and this is after I told my mom about my high school teacher that assaulted me when I was about 14/15 and she told me that it was okay and that she is sorry I did not feel comfortable telling her earlier.

[@mairelove4ever]

Watching this is beyond amazing, and the reason why I say that is because your bringing awareness to something so beyond horrible. As a victim I'm currently crying watching this, but I know that I am a stronger person now to be able to face this issue. I believe it is incredibly important that the victims to this issue have justice, that the person who did this horrible action do face some kind of punishment.

[@absophialutely]

This is such an important video. Thank you for sharing ❤️.

[@annemariechase]

+sophia christian thank you for your supportive comment ❤️

[@camiladalton7541]

So brave! It amazes me what a strength you must have for telling this! I am super proud of you, you are an amazing person.

[@aubreyhenson9438]

So beyond proud of you sis!! From one ADPi to another thank you for making this video! I completely agree with you about the Greek life thing because that is such a relevant thing that happens on college campuses everywhere! Love you so much girlie and thanks for everything 💕

[@friedfishh]

13:10 I'm so glad people like you exist. Those people who called you that don't deserve you as a friend :( you deserve the world girlie

[@xPrincessDoomx]

I've gone through this twice. The first time left me with PTSD and remember every detail. The 2nd time, I blacked out and I never in my life have blacked out, so my friends and I are pretty sure something was put into my drink. From the fucked up family I grew up in, we use jokes to cope with things but this is one thing that I could never find any humor in.

[@lmychocolate]

I'm really glad you shared this video with us. Even though I haven't experienced anything like this before, what you said was still really inspirational and helpful. I'm sure this video helped out a lot of viewers. :)

[@jasminehks]

I just wanna say that it's so refreshing to see you being strong and not be afraid of people's judgement! I hope more girls end up standing up for themselves

[@TheNerdReport]

Hey Anne Marie, This was an incredible video! I really admire how open you were with your story, it really shed light on another area of sexual assault that I hadn't really considered before. Also, thank you so much for putting in that word of warning for Men at the end. As a guy who recently graduated from college, I couldn't agree more with what you said about being VERY careful about who you have "relations" with. Personally, the reality of that situation was made very clear to me during my Junior year of college: After being out partying for the night, I was heading back to the dorms with a girl that I knew (She was an upper-classman who stayed in the dorms as an RA). While we were coming back in, she informed me that she really had to use the bathroom so we stopped in one of the dorm's unisex public restrooms (I went in with her because we were both pretty comfortable with one another, she was EXTREMELY drunk, and I wanted to make sure that she was going to be okay [I was worried about her falling over and hurting herself or needing help keeping her hair held back while puking... you know... usual gentlemanly stuff). Upon leaving the bathroom, we made it back to her room and crashed for the night. THE END However, 3 days later, we were both called in to talk to a university administrator. Neither of us had any idea what they wanted to talk to us for (Actually, we were both worried that we had done something stupid in the elevator that neither of us could remember). But upon arriving to our meeting, we were split up and she was told that there was reason to believe that she was sexually assaulted. The administrator cited that 1) She was witnessed late at night, under the influence of alcohol [I was helping her walk because she could barely stand], being led into a bathroom by a man and 2) a desk-worker waked by and heard "commotion" in the restroom [Which I assume is standard when a guy is helping a girl who is incredibly drunk not fall over in a bathroom]. With these two facts, she was told that they had enough evidence to move forward with pressing charges if ANYTHING that resembled sexual assault occurred in that bathroom. Thankfully, because me and this girl were very close and she was not a terrible person, she simply laughed it off and told them that it was just a big misunderstanding. But I was still deeply troubled by the fact that I was brought in and nearly charged for sexual assault for simply helping somebody that I cared about. Nobody asked me for my side of the story, and frankly, if my friend would have said anything that eluded to the idea that she was sexually assaulted, nobody would have cared about my side of the story. I realize that this is unfortunately how the system has to work in order to protect women. I also realize that 99% of women aren't crazy and would never consider doing something as shitty as wrongly testifying against an innocent guy. But the fact remains that this is one of the few crimes in which a simple false testimony is adequate to put an innocent man behind bars, and to me, as a man, that is very scary. Again, I am so happy that you shared this story with the world as I know that it will empower many others to share their own stories. Moreover, I thank you so much for addressing both sides of this issue. This is a difficult topic that I wish that there were more simple solutions for, but for now I guess that we all just have to cling to our core value of being good to others and trust that things will work out! Best Wishes, -Jon

[@influenzamusk7435]

this is five years late, but this is a great comment. Thank you for sharing

[@briand1979]

I was molested as a child for 6 years and just put him in jail for 12 years, and than 3 months later I was raped at a park and the guy was released 2 days later 3 blocks away from my house. I still live across the street from the park it happened at. every time I leave my house, I'm reminded of that night. I'm so saddened but happy there's someone like you who can put a face to survivors , and you're sharing this message on a platform that not a lot of people do. you're a very strong person for this, you made me feel empowered.

[@victoriableszinski8345]

I went through a situation where he was trying to pressure me to do things and I kept saying no and he kept on trying to make things happen and make me do things, and it's so hard because even though I was saying no, he was still persistent and he didn't take my "no" seriously. He was drunk too, but that still doesn't validate why he kept on trying. Luckily I could walk away and get up from the situation, but if I had had more to drink or if I didn't say no I feel like I could have gotten raped.

[@gwenmoore5915]

Tan Ler you're an IDIOT

[@dedalliance1]

Don't drink.

[@marialynn9805]

I just recently found your channel through Gretchen & became obsessed with your vlogs, then started watching your main channel vids. you're so inspiring and this vide was so helpful to so many people. keep your head up, we love you 💜

[@redmoonwitch]

I'm so sorry for the horrible experience you had to endure but I also think you're incredibly brave for doing this and trying to help other people that went through the same. Keep it going!

[@erinharvey3595]

thank you so much for a video that is not only informative but it also goes against the popular opinion of many girls and guys of our age. Your point that you made about why you pull your friends aside in potentially sticky situations is so refreshing because in my opinion too many people friends would cheer on a one night stand because its "fun" etc. I feel like this video really benefited me with reestablishing my expectations for college. I will be starting out as a freshman in two days and even though I fully agree with your point of view about sexual assault and drunk sexual experiences in general, I have been sucked into the "popular opinion" that all college students experience drunken one night stands and thats just part of the college experience. you helped realize that this isn't necessary and can be avoided if you surround yourself with the right people and are assertive in your relations with others. I think you are so strong and wise to post a video like this because it is a much more relatable video than those you receive from your schools informing you about sexual assault. i commend you on your strength and dignity and you just earned yourself a new subscriber.

[@Alexis-rl5cy]

How did your parents react to what your sister told them and what did they do when they found out?

[@erhpin7796]

I found your channel a few weeks back and I just have to say that you are such an inspiration, Anne-Marie. Standing up for myself is something that I struggle with but I'll keep trying

[@clutterbugging]

You are so brave. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I've always loved your channel and this makes me so much more glad I subscribed so long ago. warning: a story about sexual assault is below . . . I have a friend who was sexually assaulted at a party while I and a group of our friends were there and gave up trying to look for her because she was so drunk, and we haven't really talked about it since, but I know we all feel responsible for it. I don't know how to help her--she hasn't mentioned it and it's been six months, and I know it's wrong to force conversation from a survivor, but I hope she finds your video somehow. I didn't really realize it was traumatizing to me--I didn't feel like I have a right to be traumatized when it wasn't me--but as I'm writing this I'm getting pretty emotional. I guess it's residual guilt? My mom works with survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault and I've worked with her on their cases and I guess I just feel like I should have done so much more. . . . Anyway, I don't mean to unload on you or anything, I just wanted to make it clear how grateful I am to you and others like you who never stop themselves from hurting people's feelings if it means doing the right thing. Please never stop doing that. You're a great person, bless you, thank you so much.

[@claireandco15]

This is so SO important. I know this must be so difficult to share, and I appreciate you doing so. You are going to change lives.

[@ijustwannafeelsomething]

Thank you for sharing your story, as it is something that's incredibly hard to talk about, and must be even harder to put on the internet. You are so strong and I loved how you said that no one should be afraid to be called a "cock block" because it's way more important to look out for your friends, and anyone in general. I agree that guys should also be cautious about who they hook up with, since the girl's intentions could be unknown. But I also think it's important to mention that boys and men can be sexually assaulted or raped as well. Overall, thank you for this video, I admire your strength and bravery

[@rentenjou]

I support your courage for being transparent and vulnerable to share your story. You are making a difference.

[@meaghanmahoney4358]

So much love and support for you! Thank you for sharing your story, it definitely is helping others and also helping to spread awareness. Again thank you for letting us hear your story.

[@JonasVandenBroecke]

[@AnonymousViewer1000]

Thank you for being understanding about how guys can be falsely accused. A lot of feminists like to claim that women don't do that.

[@engenemy7651]

So proud of you Annemarrie .I have been watching your videos these days and watching this ,made me realise how far you've come .🧡🧡🧡Lots of love

[@GhoulBunny]

I was sexually assaulted by my step sister as a kid. I don't talk about it often.... it doesn't really hurt me anymore, it it still happened and it was very, very hard to tell someone

[@BillyNguyen3]

I admire the fact that you'd rather do the right thing and be judged for it than to do nothing at all. We have a pretty similar mindset on making the world a better place. Respect (:

[@farzanarahman83]

You were extremely well spoken about this sensitive topic. You did an amazing job highlighting multiple aspects of this world wide dilemma.

[@rachelkay6953]

Thank you so much for sharing... I know first hand how hard it is to speak out about this, and I can't imagine how hard it is to do that to hundreds of people.

[@addiegriff]

thank you for this. I was sexually assaulted a week ago. I'm 18, and they told me my case was basically trash because I didn't run. people need to be more aware of these things. bless you

[@elizabethoest]

You are not alone. I have gone through the same thing, two different people in my family. It is sick that they target that specific age. I have never told anyone.

[@heyitslivjames]

Good for you, Annemarie! I'm sure this wasn't an easy video for you to film and yet you still did it for the sake of those in the same/or worse situations, which is something to celebrate! Keep up the awesome work (:

[@LiTtLeMiZzDiVa]

Thank you for your bravery for making this video because a lot of girls and even guys are afraid to be able to come out and tell their story. I'm so sorry this happened to you no one deserves to have that happen to them. Your amazing and brave.

[@prekshagupta149]

it hurts my soul to see that most of the women (including me) have been assaulted at some point of their lives. i really wish girls and women were safer in this world that we live in. more power to you annemarie for talking about this.

[@craziermoods]

I'm so glad you made this video, really helped me think about things. Especially being an incoming freshman at college this topic is superbly important for me.

[@isapaola9370]

this really touched me, because i went through something super similar. thank you so much for sharing this, and I'm really sorry you had to go through this :(

[@tartilali7872]

Do you mind me asking if you still talk to your cousins and are comfortable around them after the assault?

[@eleanorp9524]

You are so brave to share your story. Thank you for spreading awareness.

[@gabrielleisrad]

Thank you so much for sharing this story. It's approaching the one year anniversary of when I was raped, and it comforts me so much to know there are others and they are bringing attention to the subject.

[@annemariechase]

Hi Gabrielle. I'm so, so, so sorry to hear that that happened to you. It hurts my heart to think about it. You're not alone and for others to know that they're not alone either is comforting. So, thank you for sharing a little bit of your life and experience with us. You're very strong. Hugs xx

[@michellechow3197]

Thank you for sharing your story, it takes balls to share such an intimate story with so many people. This video means the world to a survivor like me

[@dhenib391]

Thank you for opening up to us. You're an incredibly strong individual and I appreciate your honesty and the message you have displayed throughout your videos. Much love 💕💕

[@darcey7288]

my heart broke for you when I read the title. thank you so much for sharing ❤

[@nikkifeltman8523]

I'm not sure if this is a good question to ask, but what do the cousins think about this now? Do they remember? Have you talked to them about it? Just curious. This is a great and important video. ❤️❤️❤️

[@shaunaxxxx9385]

I'm so glad you shared this video with the world. This is such an important topic, and you said everything in the best way it could've ever been explained. Thank you. ❤️❤️

[@jadebrewer4959]

To the people that disliked this video: LITERALLY WHAT??? Can you at least give me a reason why? This is such an important topic and it boggles my mind that people could possibly dislike such an amazing video?

[@annemariechase]

Thank you love. So grateful for the support xx

[@ceciliaweng3957]

I also have the same experience at a very young age, I don't even have the courage to share my fear to my parents. Thank u for sharing this with us ! This is encouraging!