Answering the Questions I’ve Avoided

Warning, this video is TMI in many ways but you guys asked for it! In this video we talk about drugs, sexual preferences, break ups, alcohol, moving, religion, depression, anxiety, and so much more! Please enjoy:)
Instagram: @josephgarner94

[@moshemordechaivanzuiden]

I have no idea how you could be nervous about posting this. You're the best. I love your integrity. I see this often in Mormons and ex-Mormons. Not necessarily in the Elders but in the believers: it looks really good. Thank you for advocating being oneself. It was a real pleasure to see the whole clip. And the editing was superb: it stayed interesting all the way.

[@phillipsmith7759]

Your positivity is enthralling. You are blessed to be lovely and loving.

[@bobc4d]

it makes you all the better for avoiding intoxicants and does not diminish you in any way, in fact it makes you the stronger for not giving in to "peer pressure". you are yourself, you are who you are and not ashamed of it. your dog is awesome.

[@todowd2]

You are so REAL and full of integrity. Love seeing your videos. You are very soothing to hear. I don’t think you said anything in your videos that your family would be embarrassed about. Keep being who you are. You are special.

[@karendaley292]

Don't be nervous about posting this. You answered every question respectfully and with integrity.

[@davidfillmore3151]

I agree

[@dude2meetu]

You are a child of God, heaven sent, full of compassion. We don’t deserve you, honestly. You are a model of love! ❤️

[@elliotkuo3917]

I'm surprised your channel isn't bigger. You have amazing content and a genuine personality~

[@kennethkauzlaric8948]

You had nothing to be nervous about. I loved what you said about dating, especially about looking at how they treat their family. That was a really important lesson for me. Maya Angelou once said, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time". Wishing you the best.

[@garygreely7782]

This was a great q&a. You were open and honest and avoided questions that are too personal and really no one's business. I have family in Austin and I lived there for a year. It's wonderful and going to lake Travis is fun. Keep up the great videos.

[@bobsykes]

This is great! The backstory about your move to Austin is interesting. It's not one city versus the other, I don't think, more like in my experience, the huge change that comes with a move can open you up to so many new things.

[@andrewtadiarcadrewtads]

This was very refreshing. I'm so glad you are out there you beautiful human🥰

[@bluemoonsy]

"Big, shocking lifebreaking news" is an understatement. So many coming out stories are traumatic partially because of unrealistic expectations of parents and family INSTANTLY accepting the news. It frequently takes years for a person to accept their own sexual preferences, so to give a 180 to those you love and expect full acceptance of the situation is both unrealistic and selfish. Your handling of the situation shows a maturity and empathy for others that is so admirable.

[@ag-bf3ty]

Why's it unrealistic to expect people to not be homophobic? It's not as if there isn't plenty of LGBT education nowadays. Now I'm not saying I'd expect people raised in a very conservative area to suddenly switch their entire mode of thinking. But the way you phrased this, it sounds like you're saying gay people are selfish and unreasonable to expect acceptance. When it's precisely the opposite. It's selfish to think a gay / trans son or daughter will just magically change their sexuality to appease the parent.

[@michaelbrown-gs1vl]

Joseph, it should be obvious from the comments that what you offer is what people seek. Be truthful, loving, dare to think about serious things. Every time I see another video of yours, I respect and appreciate you more. You are someone to emulate. Be your beautiful soul my brother.

[@darrylblack1022]

Joseph, proud of you for going down this path. I hope it was therapeutic for you. You did not say anything out of the way about anyone in your life. Everything you shared was cool. Glad you felt ok to do this and just be happy man. Love ya.

[@todd909]

Joseph, thank you for your honesty and sharing a big part of you, i think it takes strength of character to put your self out there like that, being vulnerable is not easy, Thank you for the wisdom. I truly enjoy your channel.

[@josephmillraney1061]

Joseph, I love your positivity. It's really uplifting. Thanks! The really personal stuff is not anyone else's businesses. 👍👍👍

[@thomasseiler233]

Clearly you are a good guy, which is why I enjoy watching your videos. Thank you for your candor. Enjoy your life.

[@michaelmacy6235]

You have such courage and I love that about you. Straight forward with your messages. I agree ,honesty is essential.

[@befuddled2010]

My hat is off to you for making a very honest and diplomatic presentation. It was nice to see a presenter with sensitivity on so many levels; and yet you spoke about character issues that you think matter most in yourself and those in your life. You will have a great life, and thank you for sharing so honestly!

[@mathiaspoelman1493]

No need to be nervous at all. I liked the video, but more than that, I like how you tell things and just are yourself. I am really grateful for the day I started watching your channel, you already taught me a lot. Best wishes from Belgium!

[@Ty-ko6by]

I’m certain this is coming from a good place, but being “wishy-washy” isn’t necessarily a bad thing. There’s a difference between being driven and being cocky, and anyone who feels they have their life completely together is a big red flag in my opinion

[@zanadu4]

Well done Joseph, you have wisdom beyond your years. Best of luck and continued success.

[@jedrzej1311]

I usually don't comment under a lot of videos but I absolutely love yours! You seem to be such a nice and genuine person, Joseph! I have to admit that your responses and views just seem to be really measured and well thought out. I think is't not very common in the YT community and you're absolutely gifted in that realm. Hugs from Poland👍🏼

[@michaelclarke549]

...really enjoyed this video bud. Quite uplifting and helpful, especially on the mental health issue. Thanks for sharing and much love...

[@OLDS98]

Very informative. I learned a lot and you explained a lot too. You keep moving forward and working on your life goals. I appreciate your video. I just want to see you happy and fulfilled in life Joseph.

[@josefbaez1873]

This helped me understand my own relationship better. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

[@fingers1]

Wise words Joe. Thank you for sharing them!

[@snowyowl7042]

Thank you for sharing. I know it was difficult but you braved through it 👏👏 Hope you are happy. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@davidmar442]

Hi Joe, this was a really enjoyable video ... and you TOTALLY have nothing to be nervous about ❤️😃

[@jaefellows5024]

Joseph you will not stay single for long. You are the love and gift of light all are searching for, the right one will lose his breathe when your eyes meet!

[@brian52763]

Thank you for your honesty and candor! I think that to even ask a person, Top or Bottom is just rude! What difference does it make if they are NOT someone that you are interested in sexually! You handled that very well! I wish your much success in your future both professionally and personally! Let love find you!

[@JD-qx3lb]

Hi 👋🏽 Joseph, thank you for your honesty and integrity in answering your questions. I believe as you gain perspective in life and yourself the questions answered would change. As in everything in life changes, I’ve been told I’m a straight acting gay person,yet that as not stop me from being who I am , a proud gay man. Yes I’ve been challenged in my life, I’ve been fired from jobs, threatened on my life, shoot at a with a gun and disenfranchised from family. I’ve led counseling sessions with professional involving parents of LBTGQ+ kids and to hear the hatred spewing from them with not a ounce of compassion or exceptance . I too faced this from my mother, using biblical terms. So yes I understand the magnitude of the problem involving gay culture. Today’s youth have it so much easier, because of the precedent we afforded you. I wish the best in your endeavors with great admiration.🙏🌈❤️🏳️‍🌈🙋‍♂️

[@Stephenrsm7600]

Excellent video!!! Yes I know you better and love you all the more.

[@kerryboilard7132]

joseph you are so pleasant to listen too i just wish i was 40 years younger cause so many things yuo said are so true i hope you find someone cause you are truly a great person ips i just love your eyes cheers

[@jackrichey4931]

two thumbs up for your brutal honesty!

[@Stephenrsm7600]

Definitely know you better, thanks for the Q & A.

[@stevegoldstraw6876]

“Answering MOST of the questions I’ve avoided”

[@josephgarner94]

😂😅

[@olly-kai]

Honesty IS important, and essential to a good relationship. But I don't include the little social or white lies that help us to get along with the world. As long as it doesn't hurt people (in fact most social lies are to save the feelings of others), then I'm alright with it. Most ethicists are too.

[@olly-kai]

Ugggghhhh please don't use the term "straight acting". What does that even mean? I've known tons of hetero men who are somewhat effeminate. Just say "masculine" instead.

[@rmorisse6001]

Hi Joseph love your Video. It was great to listen to your honesty you are a wonderful person and I wish you all the best and I'm sure you will meet the right person your such a lovable Guy.

[@thomaswilke6312]

Lots of positive vibes in your answers!

[@jonmcintosh2729]

Here's another red flag: if the guy you are dating is verbally abusive to service people such as waiters/waitresses someday he will probably talk that way to you. Stay strong and thank you for the video.

[@jondon1106]

Your a beautiful smart well spoken down to earth young man how refreshing thank you.

[@jhordztv8041]

Hi...i am grateful to hear your story,i am also a "Return Missionary"which struggle same issue ,, it's a bit tough, sometimes depression came to my mind..i was amazed about your story being strong to come out..me as filipino and a return missionary it's hard to open up with my family..i am afraid that they will get disappointed about who am i..so hard...im happy to hear some advice from you 😪😪❤️❤️

[@jamjames1971]

JOESEPH you are one tough guy. I really like you. I've followed you for a few years. Hug I can't wait to see more of your videos

[@dereknewbury163]

Good to see a report from the other end of the age spectrum with such a positive approach to dealing with their sexuality and life in general. Gives me hope for the future. Sorry if this next bit is arrogant or unwanted, but as an atheist I would like you to know that their is a very active atheist community in Austin who might be worth a hearing. Look forward to hearing more of your journey whatever

[@chazgurrero3090]

It is so important to be spiritually sweet. Of nature as God would be to us. That shows whom we are. Thanks for sharing you beautiful in many ways. Best wishes in finding someone compatible.

[@richgenther3519]

I love your big cute fluffy dog. Notice how he's a little camera shy!

[@richgenther3519]

Surprised and thrilled to hear your mom beat pancreatic cancer! Go Joseph's mom!

[@jasonesapp]

Much love to you for your journey

[@jbowersxxbb]

You are a real down to earth kid.

[@maurinet2291]

Thank you so much for this! I've always loved and been touched by your honesty. Question, have you tried or might be interested in trying a church that caters especially to LGBTQ folks? There was one in Houston, though it disbanded over Covid. I'd be shocked if there wasn't something like that in Austin.

[@mjohnson9563]

Yes, there is an MCC church in south Austin. I went there a few times with some friends and met the pastor. She was very friendly. There are also many churches throughout the Austin area that are very diverse.

[@SimonStJohn]

I just wanna say your dog is beautiful!

[@TitanEagle]

Total inspiration!

[@oliverroche6040]

Helpful advice Joseph,stay safe,

[@yamahamasterfz]

Great video, was the clock in the backround intentional? Fun to see how long the jump shot were. ❤

[@nativetexan3811]

up the street from you at 901 Trinity St is First Baptist Church Austin. Despite the Baptist moniker, FBC is an affirming congregation and LBGTQ+ worshippers and members are welcomed. Same sex marriages are officiated there. Univ. Presbyterian on San Antonio St and Univ Baptist on the Drag also welcome LBGTQ+ worshippers. First Baptist holds open communions, and communion is celebrated about once each quarter.

[@noahtakestheworld]

just wanted to say your videos and channel have been very helpful as i have came out gay and mormon!! :)

[@sillychess7744]

It was cool watching the clock move as you spoke throughout the video. There was like a ten minute gap from the last question and your ending. I’m curious now if you cut a question or two... 😄 Thanks for your vulnerability and honesty!

[@josephgarner94]

I did! Didn’t want the video to be 20 minutes long haha

[@ethan-mylifestartsnowgo5598]

@@josephgarner94 I’m pretty sure most of us who follow you would listen to you for 20 mins and more 😉. I love hearing about the new things you are experiencing both as an exmo and coming out fairly recently. It’s a whole new world with two HUGE changes to navigate. From my similar perspective, you’re doing really well navigating both.

[@lewislindsey1946]

Comment #1, 03-18-2021, 8:18 pm, ET. Joseph, you are just likable!

[@chiron14pl]

As an older gay ex-Mormon I wish you well in finding new paths away from "The Church." Living away from SLC and Utah is a big help.

[@stevenbellusci9084]

Sooo 🤔🤔your a verse 😱😱🙄🙄🙄😂😂😂 J/k..your a really smart,cute guy & your dog is awesome ♥️

[@sladesawyer1201]

That was genuinely nice. It would have been okay to say the reason you are still in Austin is... because of Simba! 🙃🐕‍🦺

[@Mark_Richards_NZ]

Thank you for your authenticity and honesty, both of which are such wonderful traits. The video shows just how much of a wonderful human you are. Thank you for sharing your intimate self. 🏳️‍🌈😘

[@geekbettle]

Hahahaha still avoiding a couple questions. I guess too intimate. But hey! What about depression? You didn't talk about yourself. Anyways, thanks for sharing! You are a beautiful person!!

[@markegerpetersen8731]

Love your dog! I fled Utah and live in Roanoke Virginia. A cool small city with great outdoor opportunities and a cool lgbtq scene.

[@jmwjr1900]

I would love to watch the unedited version.

[@sendneutrals]

so much truth in this video

[@ronhessman8720]

God loves you and so do I. When near Grand Rapids Michigan say hi!

[@nexttsar]

You are a really sweet guy.

[@tonyanderson6235]

Thanks for sharing

[@Greenarrow2100]

♥️

[@bobgentry9208]

Like your shirt- (Sun Air Nature)are you selling then? Good video

[@darinlegore284]

Good job, Mr. #VersatileJoseph! ha ha

[@Richie07a1]

TBH, I don't think anything you said would have caused your family embarrassment or shock. In fact I would think that they would see someone who's got their head on straight (pun intended) and has a good grasp of what they want and who they are. Good job!

[@darinhareis9451]

💜💜💜

[@joeseeking3572]

At 21 (I'm guessing) you will probably go through at least one or two more significant relationships before finding 'the' one (and even that....). People these days are still discovering themselves; from the great heights of age, I sometimes wonder how anyone, married at 20, remains so at 40 (the kids). Be as kind and gentle with yourself and the ex as you can - or as he deserves - and you'll be fine. It's all a learning experience and if you both initially chose reasonably well, people become either vaguely pleasant memories or friends. On Austin - on the basis of 3-4 visits, not a fan - but if I were 21, yeah, it would be pretty cool. [Oh, and lots of people flip, and/or change roles over time or in context of who you're with - but it's of perpetual interest.]

[@markinfusino4242]

Luvyah.

[@TateBoss]

LOVE

[@johncharles304]

What would you say about body shape concerns?

[@darinhareis9451]

💜💜

[@denniscnaz2844]

Thanks for the vid

[@tommymorris5576]

Why does your clock have Roman numerals “I” for 4, that’s not correct. It should be “IV”. Does this bother anyone else?

[@MrC0MPUT3R]

Can't unsee 😧

[@donaldthomas1963]

your amazing

[@roderickshaka3626]

you are a beautiful soul

[@rupert99]

what breed is your dog ? He is lovely !

[@zacharyrocks1]

Nice, chill 👌😎

[@TitanEagle]

💝💝💝💝

[@eugene.brucebell8108]

I have never understood why people want to know if someone is top or bottom. To me that is very very personal and I don't think it should be ask. If it is so much an interest then we might not be compatible.

[@TheLongjohntim]

I'm married to a wonderful guy when that question comes up and it rarely does our answer is we take turns in the saddle. What they really want to know who's the female and who's the male in the relationship. Same answer.

[@MTheChequeGuy]

You started with saying, “Simba!” I immediately stopped what I did and looked up because my nieces call me Uncle Simba (due to shoulder length curly hair and green eyes) and thought you were talking to me.... until I realized that you’re talking to someone else in the room. 😉

[@josephgarner94]

I love it 😂

[@barron204]

Interesting video

[@WatchingDude]

Sweet dog 😊

[@hotrod9199]

I'm with you my friend I hope to get into long term relationship with nice young man

[@brandonshaw27]

😃

[@WithReggie]

Simba's a beautiful boy. Would love to know the Breeder website.

[@michaelmoore4700]

You are quite a very mature young man as well as being really gorgeous.

[@jimgrant3384]

Joseph, I noticed my recent comment to this post is no longer visible. Did I violate a guideline? If so, I apologize. I continue to enjoy your posts.

[@205004gs]

Beautiful 🙏👍✌️❤️

[@pablodejesus1373]

Hello Joseph👍

[@daveross7789]

Are u and David Archeletta an item and if so who's the top and who's the bottom?? Inquiring people like me need to know???

[@willpower6638]

True friends love you for & expect you to be that always 😚❤💛💚💙💜🔥thanks for being you sweetness 😉🕊PEACE 💜LOVE AND UNITY 🌏HARMONY ♾WILLPOWER ♆

[@tonyn5699]

You need to vlog more - honestly