Answering your dating questions. w/ Kerry Suttra

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Khadija Mbowe

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@magnoliaskogen 6 ай бұрын

6:00 Khadija & Kerry arrive 7:50 announcements start (plus Jubilee talk) 26:45 Love is Blind talk starts

@Shivs628 6 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@janeljohnson5833 6 ай бұрын

As a 47-year-old black woman in the U.S. I’ve discovered that the garbage folks bring into relationships isn’t “baggage.” It is literally the monstrosity of a mutated version of their child-self coupled with all the harm imposed on said child. We become conditioned to tell ourselves the ugly things our parents told us growing up. That is the person you’re in relationship with. The harm that they are causing is the harm that was caused to them, and they can’t stop because most of these people are walking around with fucking Stockholm Syndrome. They are literally on autopilot and couldn’t get off the ride if they wanted to. Two weeks ago I cried over throwing away some chips I didn’t need and didn’t want, because all I could feel deep in my soul were my parents’ beliefs regarding clean plates and starving children. Now, if I can recognize that after more than a quarter of a century working on my mental health, imagine where people who have never been to therapy exist. And I don’t blame the parents because they were victims to their parents. I blame the government because if all this cyclical pain and despair wasn’t profitable, they wouldn’t be allowing it to happen. Think about it, women got educated, became independent, and stopped having kids that they didn’t want to harm. And what did your government do? The U.S. is falling behind academically, and what did that do? It made us easy to distract and manipulate. There are solutions, but you have to actually try them, have them fail, try something else, have it partially fail, and then keep trying. But America’s got us so hemmed up in our harm…

@Cnichal 6 ай бұрын

I’ve been thinking that too these culture wars are so silly. it keeps us focused on little stuff instead of the bigger world. Parents arguing about what the other bought, and who’s bringing what to the table. And you have to focus on that, because when housing and water are not free, then you see people online fight within community, and bring it home. Honestly, if you’re starving and struggling in the United States, how will you have the energy to watch the United States bomb and steal from other countries?! It becomes background noise to you.

@sophiaisabelle01 6 ай бұрын

We appreciate how well you articulate your insights. You'll always have our support no matter what happens.

@slogurtyogurt 6 ай бұрын

I really enjoy when you bring Kerry on! I loved the Leftover Millennials episode that you guys did together

@kerrygoring1009 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, I love getting to connect with all of you in this way!😻

@choleymoley 6 ай бұрын

Side note - they didn’t just treat Rachel as if she were subhuman they actually told her she was subhuman. Watching the new season, it’s looking like fear of backlash from the internet has kept this going for a lot of them.

@jackjackson-ff2lu 6 ай бұрын

🎶"I dug my key into the side of his pretty little souped up four-wheel drive, carved my name into his leather seeeeeaaaatssss" anti-capitalist feminist song 😂😂

@ratgurl1 6 ай бұрын

maybe next time he’ll thiiiink…. before he exploits the working class 🎶

@MrJakewray 6 ай бұрын

Now I think about it, there's a lot of you break my heart, I break your car Songs. Others include bust your windows and caught out there (both bangers)

@Word-Smithy 6 ай бұрын

Gotta bring race into this. I don't know a single black woman who would dare to vandalize her man's property ... knowing how hard he would have had to sacrifice (labor, time and debt) to own it AND the possible,violent repercussion to such an action.

@ratgurl1 6 ай бұрын

@@Word-Smithy girl did you even watch the video? khadijah and kerry started this bit. plus jazmine sullivan (bust your windows) is black lol

@Word-Smithy 6 ай бұрын

@@ratgurl1 Still watching -- but my ADHD self is reading comments as well. Glad that my thought on this resonates with the host(s). Thanks for calling me out!

@mirithilrose54 6 ай бұрын

This is food for the soul. 💖

@joshuajames5707 6 ай бұрын

I haven’t gotten to this part if yall covered it yet but it incensed me how they let Laura and [Laura’s kardashian man’s name] off the hook for the bean dip thing. The overtones to how they were acting over AD at that first party in general were so unacceptable

@ColoringTheWind 6 ай бұрын

Ok this duo tho...I've watched the past two videos you have done together and they're so insightful and engaging! Love everything down to the technical difficulties on Khadija's side 😂.

@KhadijaMbowe 6 ай бұрын

If there’s one thing yall can rely on 😭

@kwarra-an 6 ай бұрын

Kinda wish you guys had spent more time on the questions instead of reality TV

@KhadijaMbowe 6 ай бұрын

Next time ✨

@kpcordero06 6 ай бұрын

Yes 🙌🏽 cuz I don’t watch this show

@Mole9961 6 ай бұрын

Loved watching this. You are both a gift. Thank you so much.

@naturalpanda1339 6 ай бұрын

Aww..Loved this convo! Loved Kerry’s insight and advice..totally reinforced all the positive messaging and work I’ve been doing on myself around dating (especially as a Caribbean millennial! :)).

@slickandslaycious6579 6 ай бұрын

I cackled… cause it makes so much sense, you chant the things that aren’t already happening in your life… ie order and peace lol But hey, whatever works… do you

@serenity6831 6 ай бұрын

I really enjoy these segments with Kerry! Yall have very open and thought provoking conversations surrounding love and what it means to show love in real life (as opposed to the Disney trap lol). Yall understand humans and the human condition extremely well!! More please!! P.S: if we can get that dating app idea rolling, im signing up yesterday!!

@unknownjones786 6 ай бұрын

Dating question Why am I so turned on by the thought of being with someone that knows all of me but repulsed at the same time lol like ewww you like me (I’m a loser) so you must be too It’s weird it’s like I want the deep connection but. Judge the other person because they like me and how can you be awesome if you like me lol like nerd as if fetch

@tresvegan3633 Ай бұрын

Y’all said a WORD when y’all were talking about holding space for love and romance not looking like how we have been socialized as women. This is so true because before realizing this I held a lot of resentment, even animosity towards my husband for his perceived failings in my eyes based on a societal standard and not my own. Once I started asking myself what I really wanted I was able to find a compromise that helped bring the type of romantic relationship I am happy with. It took years and tears so not easy at all but it gets easier and most importantly you get better. You become the best version of yourself. 🙏🏽💜🙌🏽

@zuria07 6 ай бұрын

I 100 percent believe Clay was recruited to be on the show, but I still think it’s odd he didn’t watch the show until he was in the process.

@lisamarie852 6 ай бұрын

I agree with most of the convo here and I love the nuanced views y'all brought to the convo, especially Sara-Ann (spelling?). But there were just some things that got me thinking. ----------------------------------------------------- TLDR; I probably would've given it to Sara-Ann had she been a little more empathetic about the situation. Everyone is redeemable, and it is what it is, but she just could have done way better. I do not think that I could write it off as 'she did some bad things but she had a goal' for her cause she went out her way to be extra, just like Jeremey did. I dislike them both for that. ----------------------------------------------------- What I agree with: - She was not wrong for sending the message when she did bc they connected and it was sent right after they left (I think) - It was just her letting him know the door was open. - It was up to JEREMEY (spelling?) to field that, not Sara-Ann. I feel like 'girl's girl' gets a bad wrap, but it should be scrapped for what people should really be saying: be more empathetic towards others in difficult situations, regardless of sex/gender. We are always going to be the villain in someone's story. What Sara-Ann did was in bad taste but was more a product of the situation so I didn't read too much into it initially. Now, what made it *wrong* imo was when they did the jet-ski thing and they went out of their way to disrespect Laura in her face, in front of others also. The disrespect and lack of empathy in that moment was crazy to me and, even though Jeremey initiated it and he was an ass for that, it was then in Sara-Ann's hands to not participate in that. But she did, happily, and I could not feel much empathy past a certain point for her because I feel like that showed me her character. She's selfish, detrimentally so. Yes, you should be your own priority but you should try and do that in the least negative/destructive way that you can. And if Sara-Ann's friends think that she's a friend, when she not really able to step away from someone who put her second, and she is willing to hold on so tightly to someone she loves who doesn't really seem to take her seriously like that.... Idk if I would trust her much, unless she works on herself a bit. I feel like when someone cannot put that value on themselves, it creates the opportunity for them to put me in a bad spot in an effort to either (1) prove that value to themselves or (2) show their SO of the week/month/year that they are willing to do whatever for their approval. This is a fear of mine (as it has happened) but also, I don't think it's far fetched to believe that it is more widely applicable outside of myself too. - I am aware that Sara and Jeremey were together during the reunion, but they were on and off and he seems like the type to play around. That being said: LOVE THIS AND LOVE Y'ALL. Cannot wait for future projects/content

@rejectionisprotection4448 6 ай бұрын

At 43:40. It's not about what "constitutes a good marriage", but about ratings and propaganda. Misogyny (misogynoir) and patriarchy underpins all of these shows. Women, esp Black Women, are VERY disadvantaged in these formats. That's no accident either; they're meant to be.

@SRHisntSilent 6 ай бұрын

1:33:01 please make this an app

@lizziedanse8335 5 ай бұрын

@1:39:00 Lawd fuck a gem a whole mine was dropped. lol My struggles in dating is that I have a strong aversion to superficial relationships that are under the guise of being 'deep'. So many just fumble into a relationship like they aren't something that is mutual, or reciprocated, or deveoped- I don't want or like that. A guy that gets my attention are the ones that make an effort to get to know me not approach me like I am and could be anyone or give them anything. Why does that have to be said, though?? Is that not the basis for every 'deep' relationship? Is this the Sunken Place?

@spacecadett222 6 ай бұрын

Living for Khadija & Kerry roasting the ex at the same time 😆

@chomskyjunior 6 ай бұрын

love you guys so much ❤

@Oscarnodwannabe 6 ай бұрын

Oh no 😢 I missed the live!

@stupidteous 6 ай бұрын

me too lol i was cooking

@kerrygoring1009 6 ай бұрын

❤

@sophiathedandilioness 6 ай бұрын

Oooo, we love a Kennie shoutout! 😍

@ipsilonia 6 ай бұрын

43:39 preach, kerry!!! as someone who watches LIB for anthropological reasons, THAT is the question on my mind every season!!! like i get that it's propaganda for marriage but to what end?!??