10 QUESTIONS TO ASK IN THE EARLY STAGES OF DATING IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP!

[@FumiDesaluVold]

10 Questions to ask in the early stages of dating - [ ] What does he want out of this relationship serious or casual? - [ ] What happened in his last relationship and why did they break up? - [ ] Does he want children or looking to have more and how many? - [ ] What is his financial situation? - [ ] And what are the expectations on finances as a couple? talk about your contribution too. - [ ] What is his relationship with his family, parents and siblings? - [ ] Are his family going to be an issue? You need to be prepared and know what you’re walking into. That includes baby mamas. - [ ] Where does he see himself in the next 5/10 years? What are his ambitions and dreams? - [ ] Is he open to relocating to another country if need be? - [ ] Who are his friends? and request to meet them. - [ ] What are the things he will not compromise on, everyone has deal breakers! Believe him when he says it and do not try to convince him otherwise after the fact when you guys are married. - [ ] How important is sex to him and will he be prepared to wait while you take your time to access the relationship. Hold on to the cookies 🍪 for now! 😃

[@megayummyrockstar]

This is as a really good one… keep guiding us u beautiful earth Angel 😇 Asanté Aunty 🙌🏾

[@judithsandy9101]

Fumi, beautiful as always.

[@dorcaskay3477]

Awesome points

[@simplysony7308]

Love you fumi Being inspiring Have a blessed day 🙏🏾 🌟

[@kiskibella]

Awwwwww Fumi! Merci beaucoup! You’re wonda-ful! Bizoux

[@mleys3248]

Just today I let two men down gently on the online dating site, because they were not answering the question on what happened in their last relationship and what their good and lesser charactertraits were. So ... bye bye. I saved this episode and will revisit it a lot. Love from Belgium.

[@melissastephens2223]

Ask them in person! This way you can see there reaction..it’s too easy to lie and hide behind a text❤️

[@greenbutterfly2421]

Ah mellisa you are right, in person you can see how someone reacts to a question, can give you some insight.

[@vincyspice1]

They haven't ended their last / current relationship. That's why they struggling.

[@dr-k1667]

Hey good for you. If they can't even write about it... then imagine how they would avoid talking face to face. Next! You'll find someone who not only has the answers to your questions they will be glad you asked!

[@vincyspice1]

@@soulovelee_2433 I'm speaking of experience 😂😂. An Ex did that to me, while we were in a relationship he approached my friend online (dating app), he didn't know she was my friend, but i had previously shared his pic. She told me he approached her online, I told her to ask him why his last relationship ended.....he skipped that question and would change the subject.

[@foreverfeji1]

No one ever sat me down to tell me how important it is to ask these questions & it’s resulted in me getting into relationships blindly and for the wrong reasons, even at this age.🤦🏾‍♀️ I got out of one some weeks back & I can already see lots of reasons why the relationship failed & areas where I went wrong. I have to be able to answer these questions myself too. It’s not just for him. I have a lot of work to do on myself. I also have to prepare to become a high value & virtuous women just like I’d like my future husband to be. Thank you so much, mummy Fumi. This video has helped me much more than you can imagine.❤️

[@gjohnson5960]

Ditto@66

[@dorothymatthews6690]

So happy for you that you saw the truth!

[@nkeletsengseeko3095]

OMG talking about relocate I remember when one guy I dated told me that as soon as we get married I should be ready to move to the rural with his mother. I did the best ran as fast as I could and never looked back.

[@nancysamuel9530]

😂😂😂

[@Claraberl]

😂😂

[@m.l.2483]

Aunty Fumi is really helping us out here. And her lipstick matches her dress so it's a win-win!

[@justinaabubakar3448]

Yeah 😅

[@JoB1808]

Fumi I love you, but this is far away from what a relationship wants to be nice and lovely… I’ m really huge fan of you! I m married with my husband from 2009 and I did all of these questions! He gave me answers and I thought that he was the perfect one! He wanted two kids (he build a house with three bedrooms) and when the economic crises came, he barely wanted one. He was successful businessman with passion, and his job destroyed. He never gave up and he’s doing another job but it was a mess for a while. He had beautiful relationship with his family and his parents were so sweet until they moved near us when I gave birth my child. But I love him and all these stuff gave me the begging of finding my strength (I was very quiet person). So all of these questions are a little easy and easy to change. When you met someone the only question that should ask is by yourself. When the situation changes, will you care enough for him/her to carry on?

[@matildaaninwaa]

Thank you

[@faithyqueency389]

Am dressing up for a date and just got the notification of this video oh my gosh just at the right time thank you Fumi ❤❤

[@nurselora681]

Fumi, could we possibly have a set of questions for us older folks who are dating and looking for that life partner? I just turned 60 and looking towards planning my retirement so many of these questions aren’t relevant for me. Dating is so difficult for all ages. I love watching you with all of your wisdom and knowledge. Thank you!

[@FumiDesaluVold]

Absolutely my love, I dated and got married when I was older too. 😃 60 is still relatively young considering that we’re living longer into our 90’s, so yes! I’ll absolutely have an episode for you soon.

[@debbiebarrow7557]

@@FumiDesaluVold Look forward to it 🙏💜💯🔥

[@verydark..1988]

Fumi...you are an 😇

[@cynthiaedwards3716]

I'm a sixties lady also. I'm so afraid of being hurt. When I meet men my age, they're so immature to the point I don't even want to date anymore. I don't want to be alone the rest of my life, but at the same time I'm tired of being disappointed with the losers I'm meeting. Any advice Ms. Fumi???

[@Mrstookie101]

Yes. 52 yo and oh how dating has change! I’m not sure where to begin

[@simplydemii]

Knowing his family and some hidden baby mama is very important 👌👌❤️❤️❤️

[@nancykerrigan]

First time I noticed you didn't put the lady waking gif in these Sister2Sister talks. I agree with Ole about keeping Adrian out of the spotlight. Protect his privacy.

[@elougaveroniquefrancine6350]

I'm living for your laugh miss Fumi. It's so contagious, so refreshing

[@lelianankunda9357]

I’m learning so much & leveling up in my dating life, thanks to you Fumi. Love from Uganda🇺🇬

[@jacintabasemera6777]

Me too.. same country as you Leila..@ Fumi is blessing us ladies big...

[@verydark..1988]

Mugyebale ko banyabo hihihi with love from Australia!

[@graceamanyo7740]

Me too from uganda

[@violaatuheire7845]

❤❤❤ 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

[@ayebareemily4491]

Naye banae 😂 Happy to meet you all fumination UG.

[@francescathegreat]

My husband and I have 5 kids and i can agree with everything you've said. On the topic of sex, quickies are there for a reason! You have en suites, pantries, and closets for a reason. Y'all better put on paw patrol and make it happen for 15 min.

[@amberd5318]

I love this! I'm single, in my mid-forties, my kids are grown and I now have grandbabies. Despite all of this, I fully agree with this! Keep passion alive!

[@VIsidore]

Great list, Fumi. I guess the question I have is, how to know if you are in a relationship? That's for my single and looking sisters. These questions shouldn't be asked on the first date. A lot of these questions were revealed without me asking early on before we were in a commited relationship. I saw that the man I met had a good job, a home, and two automobiles. He introduced me to his (one) son, family, and friends, so I didn't have to ask. No baby mama drama here. My situation is different because I met my husband 37 years ago. I don't recall any guidelines for dating at the time. Thank you for providing some. Some couples meet in college where you can see where his career is going just like your mother did. Good for Mother. You made good points on children, religion, politics, finance, potential, and sex. Everything should be on the table so both people know what the other is bringing to the table. You have to be on the same page to have a solid foundation going forward together. We have to remember that everything that glitters isn't gold, even though the man passes the question stage of the relationship. What people say and what they do are two different things. Thank you for another informative video. ❣️

[@Victoria-tk5qx]

Fumi, this was awesome, thank you 😊

[@haleyclarke1332]

The way I listened and hang on to every word, you would think I'm in a classroom prepping for an exam. Well said aunty fumi. Thank you!

[@jeanmusabwalya8341]

You are indeed a friend in a mother. Your advise is based on your experiences. Love you aunt Fumi.

[@TO-md2nj]

Botswana 🇧🇼 in the building

[@joycestyleofcooking]

I could listen to you all day long and I don't get bored of your impeccable knowledge 👌 Thanks for sharing 👍 Nice work Fumination 👍

[@bonitakradikeledi4792]

Re mmogo

[@kudalavida3494]

Notification gang ....tuning in from South Africa

[@tjsproles4992]

I absolutely love, Love, LOVE your confidence! 💃 And, you are VERY insightful about the issues of life in terms of relationships. I am 55 and never married. I've made ALL of the mistakes in relationships, and I've ignored ALL of the red flags (even the FLAMING flags that were burning bright red, yellow and orange)! 😥 🔥🚩 🔥 I know that I am wiser, stronger and better because of my past experiences, but sometimes I briefly reflect on the fact that, as a result of my own choices, I had to learn so many life lessons the hard way! The good news is that I acknowledged then separated myself from the toxicity I allowed in my life, and now my heart is open to begin a life with the man for which God has prepared me! 🤴👸 Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I'll be watching! 🤗

[@tsholofelojoycelepota5356]

I’m soo obsessed with this lady wow

[@yh2059376]

I wish you, your husband, and child much love, health, & wealth. You bring light and value into this world. Hugs

[@jeaneevap7571]

Amen!

[@Vilane_Wenzile]

Ohhh darling these streets are rough on us just praying we find love and it all works out for all of us 🙏❤️ thank you Fumi❤️

[@waleskagracia4891]

Spectacular as always! ❤️ 💋Excellent questions. When I was single I went on a couple of dates with a gentleman from the Middle East. On the 2nd date we somehow got on the topic of children. Although it wasn’t my situation, I was curious so I asked him if he would consider marriage to a woman with children. He very quickly, and firmly answered that if he wanted to marry her she would have to give up the children because he could never accept another man’s children. Needless to say, it was our last date.

[@MrsMcKee-og2yn]

I love this episode. You are so young but you make me think of my mother. When I was a young teenager my mother spoke directly, truthfully and wisely as do you. My mother died in 2015, I miss her sorely. I am 68 years old and I made a good choice when I married because of my wise mother's words and my ability to listen. I am glad the young women have you to watch and listen to.

[@drchristamarie]

True. Especially for Q4. What he makes is the least, the ambition, the drive and thrive is gonna take him farther 🙌🙌 Auntie Fumi has spoken 😇

[@SweetMk28]

Auntie Funmi you are indeed a role model every young girls need in a mother❤.. I love my mom with all my heart, she's very caring in her own way but she didn't give me courage or advice when it comes to relationships. I am 33 years old and dated a couple of mens but because of fear i feel insecure to be in a relationship. I'm always concerned if he is a good guy or is he just acting to trap me. I built myself a high wall that prevents men from accessing my heart and i don't know how to let go. Now a couple of years has passed and i was not approached or asked out by men. I always ask my myself if God is driving them away from me and wants me to wait for the right guy or was i meant to be single. Please make a video in regards to this issue🙏 P.s. my parents had a good relationship until my dad passed away but i have witnessed many friends who were in an abusive relationship which contributed to my insecurity

[@carolchocho425]

Wish I had found you when I was in my twenties, thirties! Love you.

[@lashuanedunnawaysingleton9250]

I asked a guy all those questions, and in the end, it was nothing but lies. I asked him how many women he had been with a lie, what happened in his last relationship lie, what his future goal lie, and how can he know if you are with a liar; but also, I was young and very naive. But I have learned. So thank you for this advice.

[@simplydemii]

I wanted to add that if the money he is making now can’t take care of both of you but he is ambitious and striving for greatness then you mentioned it 😊to the glory of God I am not in this category but I sure do learn some tips that I can share with friends and family thanks for sharing Ms Fumi ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ByteMwen]

Please. This applies less and less the older the man is. Don’t marry a man in his 50s for ambition please.

[@akitamoore2185]

Lipstick, blush, blouse/dress, and flower headband is absolutely gorgeous on you! Our deep chocolate skin makes bright colors POP!!!! Thanks for the tips! Wish I would of found you 5 yrs ago! All is well tho.

[@danielen359]

I think it is also great to answer those questions ourselves. First because the other party might/will return the question. Second, we know ourselves better, what are values are and what you want/dont want

[@phina8392]

My man answered all these questions thanks to you my girl friend, been single for 16 years, 63 years young.. He also speaks with kindness about his parents and ex girlfriends…

[@thandisamqhaba7340]

You're an awesome advisor Fumi. I appreciate your advise..

[@dorothymatthews6690]

Fumi. Thank you! You just took us through premarital counseling 101

[@cherylreeves2188]

I agree...about Adrienne being on social media...too many children on social media. I also requested the same don't put my children (our) children on social media.

[@luthomayekiso1306]

Aunty Fumi I’m. 26 year old HR specialist and have my own small catering business and definitely writing down all the notes to find my Mr right.

[@obiwuruchisom]

Hi Lutho, we would find our Mr. right! Let’s keep growing and glowing!

[@carlaclement4229]

Aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh auntie Fumi, I love to listen to you and my uncle Ole story. Thank you very much for your insight and information as always. It’s very important to know all what you said. Sometimes they say one thing and find out other things. A man who doesn’t have respect for authority is not a good sign;he doesn’t respect his older siblings or a senior is a red flag too. Thank you very much and have a blessed week. Shalom 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@mleys3248]

That reminds me of another question I need to incorporate : "Does he jaywalk". Jaywalking makes me extremely nervous. All my friends don't mind crossing the road when the sign is red. That just stresses me out.

[@braunhilda5968]

He gave me the answers to al 10questions before I asked. We are now married and happy . And working on the next couple of years .Are things perfect?, A lot is perfect but some things we are still working on . However, he is the perfect one for me. He gets me and I get him. And that’s who I want to be doing this with.

[@themortgagechics_chronicles_ca]

I had to rewind! "The marriage will TEST the both of you. WORD! Babes !!! Please listen to her ! The marriage will test you both. Make sure you are doing marriage with someone that can stand by you!!!!

[@eno-abasiusanga2003]

Am so happy to listen to this particular Episode of your videos,I really needed this at this point in my life.

[@dianeb2349]

How did I not find your channel sooner. I subscribed to you only a few weeks ago and I love every single bit about you. What a beautiful and wise and amazing woman you are. I needed this. So glad I found you!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@chrislaudkelly4538]

veeery grateful to youu i'm a 22 young girl and am very happy because i'm learning a lot about relationship and dating thanks

[@reginatabb4068]

I love your spirit Fumi.. Learning a lot from you even at 73. Thank you

[@cherylreeves2188]

Auntie Fumi Wow, wow I wish I knew this before I married. Great questions,...so true ! Thank you for this segment!! ❤️ I loved it!

[@MoniqueSWarden]

Auntie Fumi 💕🎉🥰 This was the best!!! Cut & Dry… straight to the point and so relatable 🤩 Thank you 🙏🏿

[@tatendakondoni6989]

This is probably the VERY BEST Relationships video I have ever watched on KZbin. Thank you so much 💓

[@GabySeazarh]

Aunty Fumi you're a real wife material, your husband is very blessed Aunty 💕

[@coilyb2861]

Ambition, will, drive, passion!

[@Yorubapraises]

I wish you would have had this 10 yrs ago before I married the clown I did. Now at almost 40 (next year) and newly divorced with 2 boys from that marriage, I will implement these questions going forward. I blame my issues on having a domineering mother who gets off on dating broken men (past alcoholics, men with past and current drug abuse issues) she was engaged to a muslim Nigerian and always reminisce about their relationship and not accepting the multiple women theory. Her advice went against all femininity and being told "you gotta train him" all the time. I ended up stressed and Baker Acted twice. Because I'm like you Fumi: elegant, proper etiquette, open to learning other cultures and carrying myself like a lady. I was teased relentless by my family and called bougie. My mom did not teach me any of that and I had to learn as I grew up, a lot of trial and error. I lost a lot of good men because I come across as the "round the way girl" sitting on dirty stair stoops, cursing, loud. I was raised to relate, no embrace.

[@favourokechukwu3080]

Am addicted to ur videos mama praying God gives me the right man in life am learning a lot from ur videos ❤

[@PeaceLoveAndJoy]

Auntie Fumi coming through as always with the fabulousness and fabulosity. Fumi you look GREAT! Love everything about you. #fumination ❤❤❤❤❤

[@wamuhunjuguna]

The minute I clicked on this video, I knew I was going to like everything you said. I like your presentation the effort you put into the hair, makeup, and bold lipstick matches your dress just wow I recently called it quits and that is because I hadn't asked the most crucial questions at the beginning I am now learning to be the interviewer and to interview for the most important role in my life this is no joke ladies ask those questions because I learned love is not enough to sustain a long term commitment

[@joycedapaah4890]

I didn’t know anything about relationship but I’ve really learned a lot from you Fumi 😍

[@cherylblake6455]

Fumi, you look so beautiful. The colors in your dress and make up, compliment your complexion.

[@sblogan07]

Aunty Fumi, this was a great list! Simple summary both parties need to know what the expectations are in the areas of -Money (how much do each of us earn and I’m adding this, have the potential to earn) -Children (Does any person want and if so how many.) (Additionally if anyone has children currently what’s the relationship with the other parent like?) -Place of residence ( is either party open to moving locally, regionally, nationally or Internationally.) -Current Family (parents and siblings) relationship -Who are your friends( birds of a feather flock together!) 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️ Also I love the headband!

[@isatukoroma2483]

Thanks sis I love watching your videos to the end because all of them are interested ❤❤❤

[@ngoziiwunze5872]

I am in a situation right now and I don't know what to do. I dated someone for almost a yr and we broke up 4months ago. He gave me Chlamydia -an sti. I didn't know till about 3 days ago. I met someone else a months ago. He's my type, gentle, down to earth, serious about this dream and feminists. He supports whatever makes me happy and comfortable. I broke to him that I have an sti. So far he's working with me through everything, check in on me. I'm not used to this. The question u posted, I have asked him and he passed. I am shocked

[@aeiou0123]

So sorry

[@queenlanita4491]

May God bless you and your relationship 💖🙏..... forever and ever ♾️... Amen 🥰🥰🙏🙏

[@unezsimpkins9107]

Fumi , I agree .everything does not need to be on social media. Some things should be private. Awesome 👌you both are working together

[@didaciennenzamukosha3652]

One of things I love about ur episodes is ur laughter 😂❤

[@lynellefurbert6505]

My SISTA......you are a BEAUTIFUL breath of FRESH AIR! Straight up, to the point....LOVE your videos!! Keep up that GREAT ENERGY!!!

[@liamsmith3290]

Spot on Fumi! And I agree with Ole not wanting Adrian on social media. To be honest, I don't typically date men that have a huge social media presence. Unless it's for work in some capacity, I am not a fan as it can feel a bit narcissistic.

[@theresaforte2202]

Some good pointers! Yes I agree with not putting Adrian on social media! Nowadays kids have their own pages straight out the womb! Lol

[@joyopugbene9214]

Pure genius. I love you already! Very intelligent woman

[@JenSweetpea]

Fantastic video full of great advice. Thank you Fumi! Loving this wave of dating advice videos and all of them have great messages on how to manage yourself, stay emotionally safe as well as give yourself the best chance to find a suitable partner and sort the chaff from the wheat at the very least! My friends and I are eating up this content and implementing tips and reviewing results. My most recent date was pretty fun because I just felt more confident about asking questions about important things early. You are quite right, seeing how a guy responds is insightful and it is letting me see a bit more clearly who is and is not open to dating seriously. Loving the content and the way you express the key issues and ways to work through is absolutely my cup of tea. Your examples certainly have us girls giggling in awe and recognition. Many thanks as always and have a beautiful week to you and your family 💜 🔥 💫

[@Ashley08888]

Ms. Fumi! So happy to find this chat! It was a godsend and very authentic take, from a woman's experience, in comparison to the frequent male relationship coach advise. Very good, I appreciate this. 🙏🏽 looking for more of your chats!

[@kodwat2134]

Its true about asking about the last relationship. I once asked someone about their past relationship, and how they spoke about the ex, the anger I saw, made ma realised they were not over the ex. I chose to walk away because I was not ready to handle that emotion, I knew it will find its way to our relationship if we date.

[@alifleuristal4121]

The dress is colorful like you Auntie Fumi 😍❤️ love from Montreal

[@bubbly7324]

Mama Fumi you never disappoint!!! I’m grateful for you.

[@aderonkeaishat9606]

I am listening to this like a younger sister picking so much knowledge from a big sister. Thank you so much Aunty Fumi, you are really a blessing to the world

[@giovannamoro8564]

Brave woman !!! I love her . Sending you positive vibes from italy

[@kaysteph02]

PREACH AUNT FUNMI!!! PREACH ON 🙏❤️😍

[@victoriaolieh6440]

Wow, any time I watch your videos, I never remain the same..... There must be something from your words that will hit me so hard, deep lessons to grab, deep lessons to learn..... Thank you so much Ma, may your oil of wisdom never run dry.... Much love from Nigeria..

[@alexisagginie4574]

Fumi, in this relationship series, your advice is great! In interviewing these fellas, what should be our approach? They must not feel as if they are applying for a position, tho they are?

[@melaniiepalacio]

Her laugh is my favorite thing ever

[@Lydia_m]

This video just made me feel better about walking away from someone i still lovedealy because he did not mesure up to most of these points.Thank you aunty

[@indriadrayton1132]

This is perfect. We made a year and some life changing things are about to happen. I have questions and this vid has more to ask that I didn't think of! Thank you.

[@beniematoka]

Congo DR 🇨🇩 in the house 😇

[@juliemiller4461]

You got to be extremely passionate and hungry to achieve your goals....pursue them with bulldog tenacity

[@thapediannahmaleka9701]

Thank you Fumi so much I'm turning 52 but I never know if I can ask much I was like the man must be the one who ask questions but I was wrong thank you so much for teaching us all ages and I think is very important to do so sothat you will know exactly who are you dealing with and to see if there is a change in him.we really appreciate ❤🎉you dear sister

[@mariabobinihi5701]

Mumy funmi....this is exactly what I need now....strugling to lift someone who doesn't want to be lifted

[@jonir.2044]

Once a again great content,love the questions. Very informative. ❤️

[@sanghaysumo-ps4us]

Think you madam I really injoy this lecture my dear

[@awardsafaris7749]

🇰🇪🇰🇪 representing Kenya

[@yemi5193]

Thanks so much Funmi for this segment. Much needed and I’ve made note. I’m 49 never married and dated per se it would be nice to have questions appropriate to our age group if you can. Much appreciated for all the good work you are doing to help us get it right. I like all these questions they are relevant to my situation.

[@divestedmelanin1790]

Once again Auntie Fumi you have brought the right video for me. I'm looking to get back into dating, so will definitely use these. Love your fashion

[@jayeedwards1735]

Girl I love your advice and your personality. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

[@umwizasalama1328]

Thank you Mama.infact i got to know this channel at the right time.we really appreciate for what u share with us .i've been in dilemma asking myself many questions.but here i got the answers.may God bless you Mama.Thank you❤

[@mleys3248]

Hi Fumi, my last relationship was 12 years ago. The psychiatrist diagnosed the father of my son as a "a dominant narcisist"-. I have that in writing. If I am asking the question, how did your last relationship end, I have to be prepared to comment on my own story. Does it make me look bad if I state the facts ? Does it look like I am badmouthing my ex partner ?

[@babyjells]

My ex was a narcissist as well and I’m thankful that I escaped that toxic mess. I don’t think it’s badmouthing if you’re stating facts, buuuut I think what’s most important to talk about is what that experience thought you and how you’ve grown from it. When I ask men questions about their exes, I’m not interested in what the ex did wrong; I’m interested in what they feel was their own culpability, what they would’ve done differently, what they learned from that situation and what they would do differently going forward. That to me is indicative of growth and self awareness. If I ask these questions and all they can talk about is how terrible their ex was, then that’s a red flag 🚩 to me. So yes mention it, but focus on you- your own culpability, what you learned, how you’ve grown etc

[@VIsidore]

Telling the truth isn't bad-mouthing. Keep in mind your delivery of the facts. Timing, tone, and temperament goes a long way. Good luck! 🌹

[@peejay3826]

This is a great question! I'm wondering if it's safer one water down the facts a bit... Waiting on Fumi's response to this.

[@hanibee22]

@@babyjells Yes absolutely, its not about the ex but more on him, bad mouthing and talking **** about somebody else is never alright, but sharing your experience with them in a light aspect is key. Important for both parties man and woman alike. If the last relationship was really bad and chaotic, don't just blame the other person, maybe you could talk about in light of the situation, add things like blessing or luck, the relationship was not bless, and what we learnt from it and how we handle it, how we go on with our life and of course many more. Make sure to always end the note on a positive side because we are redeeming ourself for the new relationship. 😁 Good luck to all, cheers 🥂

[@nibabi]

@@babyjells Good advice. I am sure there are things you learned from dating that person. Even if it’s my boundaries were too loose and this louse took advantage of me or you can spot red flags faster or you know what you will and will not tolerate.

[@perfectly_imperfect7972]

This was a good video👏🏾🥰❤️ one of first questions when I do meet someone is how many children do you have and do you want more. I knew when I was pregnant with my youngest, who is almost 12 that I wasn’t having any more. So I prefer a man who already has 2-3 children and preferably at least one of each, boy and girl. Because baaaabbbyyyy this shop is closed and its not negotiable 🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️ I’ll be 43 the end of the year but look significantly younger so I do sometimes, ALOT of times attract younger men. But one of my major #1 reasons to not even consider him as a serious potential partner is him not having children. By my mind being SET about the issue, no amount of being in love with anybody is going to make me change my mind!!!!! And to not waste both our time down the line if he changes his mind and want a child, that’s something I can not do. My sons are 22 and 11, me having another one would be starting all over again with even more years between the children, number one my body can’t handle another pregnancy and furthermore I don’t want to raise another child, not from birth at least. IM TIIIIRRREEEDDD CHILE 😂 Quick story: I was talking to this guy a couple of years ago and of course I asked how many children does he have, he tells me two, boy and girl and one was 18-19 and the other about 16. We’re talking for a couple of weeks and really feeling each other but I really wasn’t in the space of wanting a relationship but he did. So it was a frequent topic in our many daily conversations. With it being something he seemed to be adamant about, I told him that to even get on that road all cards need to be on the table, meaning we need to have some serious conversations about the important issues not just that we’re “feeling” each other. Well I guess he starts to feel guilty about not being honest about the children topic and let’s me know he doesn’t have 2 kids, he has…… 10 TEN 😳😒😩 like how did you think you were going to hide that????? At that very moment all the “like” I had for him literally left my body at that very moment!

[@Actavella]

Whaaaaaaaaaattttttt!!!!! How in the heck!!

[@ninnahevitta2289]

Firstly, you look fabulous . Your hair is giving 😘🔥 everything about you is amazing 💯. Then I have died everyday waiting for this particular video. Thank you Fumi🥰

[@dmiller2055]

Fumi love the make this week!!! On point!!

[@tyhudisa-gal]

Ncoooooh am learning as a new KZbinr , 🇿🇦 love u

[@cherylliz99]

Something must be around the corner for me………!!!!!! Wow! Thank you Jesus!

[@dorisdreezy6371]

Its my first time watching and lemme say oh my! This is amazing and I'm glad i come across it coz its gonna be of helping.Thank you.

[@hopeejuraiyaji9942]

You are so sweet and loving, very wise woman, thank you ma

[@jeanjeang8914]

Awesome im equipped for my first date. #1 question what are your intentions w this relationship accordingly.

[@emaevenye8048]

Waooh . I have learnt a lot and am happy. No one ever educated me on this important things. How i wish i knew this things before now. I would love to know more.👏👏👏👏💯

[@cherylliz99]

Hi Fumi, love your sisters sister advice! Should we ask “Would they like to adopt children”?

[@fordaiffa6022]

Fumi your statement are very pertinent! N I’m inducing my 18 years old son to watch your channel and reflect on them Thank you 🙏

[@bonetobe5164]

I absolutely love you, your personality, your wisdom, etcYou are such a woman of grace and beauty and class. Bless to you and your family