My wife and I ask each other “do you want me to listen or problem solve”. That’s been very helpful for us!
@karenende52332 жыл бұрын
Nathaniel, my close colleague always asks the same. She was the one who introduced me to that question. Because of her intelligence and experience, I adore her problem solving ability in my life.
@CarlaSophieMar2 жыл бұрын
*"You are a good listener if the other person feels heard!"* ~ Simon Sinek YESSSSSSSS! 🔥👌
@Blessed777922 жыл бұрын
The ‘why’ is everything! Small, meaningful acts goes a long way…
@AdrianaElizabeth762 жыл бұрын
Five minutes with Simon is worth a full hour of a course. Thank you!
@polgaravasti2 жыл бұрын
Love this. I went to a hotel once and my in room gift was a packet of my brand of cigarettes. I found out afterwards that they called a colleague before i left for my trip to find out what i smoked. Inexpensive daily item, much cheaper than a bottle of hotel house wine, but i will remember the gesture forever.
@sanxi342 жыл бұрын
So important to LISTEN FOR MEANING NOT TO REPLY!!... One of the most useful ways I've found to make people feel listened is ask questions, but not for facts, ask CLARIFYING questions... In the example of "there is something in my eye" is can be as simple as "okay, tell me, where do you feel it? What is it that you're feeling?" It may make NO difference whatsoever in the response you get from that person, but they will feel like they can express themselves
@smallbusinessvirtualroundt1582 жыл бұрын
People are bad at listening but everyone wants to be heard. This lesson is so important, personally and professionally. That is the value of Peer-to-Peer advisory groups.
@avinashavinash37562 жыл бұрын
My perspective to listening has immensely changed now!!
@wellygeek2 жыл бұрын
I learnt something. Thanks Simon. My wife used to complain about her shitty clients and I tend to respond by giving her solutions, she was so upset with me. Now I know why. 😂
@mirelgoi78552 жыл бұрын
So immensely important topic, thanks so much!! "People are suffering because they are alone and are going unrecognized. All of their social behavior, their foolishness and their tragedy, is expressing this desire and need to be recognized. If you listen carefully, even beyond what they are telling you or demonstrating to you, you will hear the great need of their soul, and you will feel compassion for them. You will see that even in their anger or their frustration, in their judgment or condemnation of others, you will see this need for recognition. This will temper your judgment of them. This will enable compassion to arise, naturally-not as a kind of forced exercise, but naturally. As you feel your own need to be recognized and to recognize yourself, you will see this in people around you, and it will move you. You will feel compassion for them, and you will see their dilemma." (From Deeper Recognition in Relationships, by Marshall Vian Summers. It's a chapter which you can read online for free. Very inspiring one!)
@johnchapman51252 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Mirel.
@CarlaSophieMar2 жыл бұрын
This is beautiful! 💜 Thank you for sharing.
@mirelgoi78552 жыл бұрын
@@CarlaSophieMar Yes, these books of the New Message are simply amazing. 😍Worth exploring more.
@mirelgoi78552 жыл бұрын
@@CarlaSophieMar it is, and so does the original revelation from where this little quote is from. 😍
@BENDEKALMASIN2 жыл бұрын
When you listen you accumulate new things and learning mode is ON! When you speak you only distribute what you have and learning mode is OFF!
@phyllidaacworth52122 жыл бұрын
Great video. Can't help thinking someone who wants a room for yoga would already have a mat so you could go for something else yoga related but the point is well made.
@maryloustoddard33682 жыл бұрын
Love this video listening touched the heart and makes you feel you're special.
@Zalzal0192 жыл бұрын
I love this! Where is the full interview?
@nellie... Жыл бұрын
Soo true, we all need to learn how to listen....
@luissuarez58452 жыл бұрын
Thank you Simon!
@susanramnanan58842 жыл бұрын
Simon Sinek you are the best
@sagarsatara2 жыл бұрын
The host is so lovely and lively
@yasminjaneeyre17952 жыл бұрын
Simon - You always just absolutely 'nail it'! I would love to hear you speak in real life .. any time in the UK soon?
@007meri2 жыл бұрын
love every one of these short teachings!
@michaelthomas56232 жыл бұрын
Simon Sinek "FOR PRESIDENT"!
@walterroswell837610 ай бұрын
The yoga mat story....I really feel that.
@87kdparkinson Жыл бұрын
Listening is not hearing the words (and parroting the words back) that are spoken; listening is listening for meaning! The test of being a good listener is if the person feels heard!! Actionable- Listen for the reasons why (the meaning) behind something of what they are talking about.
@Medical-Andrea2 жыл бұрын
All starts with listening,..eye contact ..giving attention ..trust
@SpinDoc4202 жыл бұрын
why i video all whenever i can, not just call.. something about the ability to see discomfort, joy, anger, whatever.... that may be missed with a typical audio call. that little tweak has not only saved a ton of miscommunication and help relationships grow with coworkers, friends and such, but it shortened those calls... which i actually can't stand
@Steve-holm2 жыл бұрын
Goood Morning!☀️Thank you so much!
@elviratukaeva56502 жыл бұрын
Thank you thank you thank you Simon 🤓 the second video about real estate job🤭 god thank god you talk about this. And the interviewer is just love 🧡
@rehanbaig9222 жыл бұрын
Mind blowing Sir, need more help to improve listening skills.
@eamonncarmel994 ай бұрын
Being present in the moment...
@utterderilision2 жыл бұрын
Everyone needs to her this
@NathalieLazo2 жыл бұрын
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤️
@Dude-16892 жыл бұрын
Thank you Nathalie 👌 All the best for you too!
@rayawake2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Nathalie. Your kindness is appreciated.
@Chetan-Seth2 жыл бұрын
This is some high quality information sir .👏 True meaning of being heard, shows you care genuinely. This can't be faked. A real person only can do this. That's why , we feel connected with someone instantly, beacuse of careful listening. Respect ❤️🙏🏻
@joshuabenton37852 жыл бұрын
Lovely topic 3:23 but lost me there 😂 we cant any more
@story_teller42682 жыл бұрын
Amazing 👏
@ferx9662 жыл бұрын
Where may I watch this entire talk? Thanks,
@andreasplattner2 жыл бұрын
I think I call this empathy or empathetic listening. Certainly a masterclass of ways of listening.
@christopherhason27392 жыл бұрын
I remember your week ass movie Talk Hard didn't mean shit did it!!
@groundzero6662 Жыл бұрын
Amen.
@hendrikmoons82182 жыл бұрын
I agree with most of his podcasts, sadly, not this one. I NEED my boss/college/underling to give me the facts, not emo's. This is work, not therapy. I ain't no millennial, I'm gen-x. I'll listen to the facts and everything that is relevant and makes sens. Keep your feelings at home, lets keep it professional and real at the workfloor.
@XPuntar2 жыл бұрын
No you are actually wrong. If the boss does not "listen" it is not your fault! Or just ask the boss on the subject, "Do you want me to listen or you want problem solving?" Vast majority of people even on top management position are bad listeners or even worse they want for whatever reasons (mostly selfish and egoistical) impose their own will on their subordinates or just instill fear to control those under them! And another thing you should understand is that in every conversation there are emotions even where data and facts are presented! That is what makes us a human!
@hendrikmoons82182 жыл бұрын
@@XPuntar That may be true, especially at high level. What I experience at work floor/factory level is however that this is abused to get out of the job by always the same folks. While the rest gets the job done. You indeed need to be capable to talk about these things, but for everything there is a time and a place. What I am getting at is that emotions should not be a reason to constantly 'dodge' tasks, so someone else does your job instead.
@zanetastefancova18192 жыл бұрын
To s tým súvisí aby poznal všetky súvislosti a mohol byť naozaj objektívny
@dezmion2 жыл бұрын
Question: how do I apply this to people that don’t share. Like if I’m trying to find meaning and a person will flat out say they don’t care. I’m noticing this with the men in my life. my father, friends, so.
@anitainmo4892 жыл бұрын
Wow!
@tomdrummy49842 жыл бұрын
True, but most people aren’t that deep……they are just on the surface………unfortunately.
@MisaelDiaz2 жыл бұрын
Nice
@isa-manuelaalbrecht29512 жыл бұрын
Where is your micro? Nearly not to be heared overhere in Zürich- Switzerland..😳☹
@roblianoofficial Жыл бұрын
I hope he was joking when he said he thought he was being original. Stephen R. Covey wrote in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, released in 1989, "Most people don't listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” If you haven't read it, do so.
@TheBanshee902 жыл бұрын
I am a typical guy, when I hear someone's problem I am looking for a solution. I learned women just like to vent. Me I'll internalize until something needs to be fixed, probably not the healthiest. Just different strokes for different folks.
@vincentpoole75882 жыл бұрын
S/S. If we are living, we are successful ! It's better to be heard instead of listened, which has meaning vs wasted words ? V
@wren52912 жыл бұрын
So few ACTIVELY listen these days😞.
@Rakan.J2 жыл бұрын
🕊️The test of being a good listener is if the other person feels heard 🌿
@rezanasiri69412 жыл бұрын
The lady is like: why my husband isn't like that? (with an I'm not happy about this attitude)
@sonypony67022 жыл бұрын
I wrote it …🤣🤣🤣💜💜
@kekaljaya87652 жыл бұрын
listening is not about hearing the words that are spoken.
@kekaljaya87652 жыл бұрын
listening is listening for meaning.
@kekaljaya87652 жыл бұрын
if the other person feel heard you are a good listener.
@kekaljaya87652 жыл бұрын
listen to the reason WHY. listen to the meaning, bacause that what someone feel seen, and feel heard.