The Dangerous Myth of Self-Improvement

These are the promises of self-help. And they sound pretty good, right? They sound like who we want to be. Because we’ve become convinced that we are not healthy, not smart, not efficient, not confident. Not happy.
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[@mithunravindran4178]

The reason I subscribed this channel is for the voice. Pls bring it back. Good content as always.

[@realYomi]

Same!

[@SmartMoveGraphics]

Agreed.

[@oompaloompa-t7o]

exactly

[@xartzk3579]

Please bring the old voice back that was a big part of the reason of why i liked your channel

[@therealyojames]

Bro went through reverse puberty

[@verygreenman]

different voice actor lol

[@therealyojames]

mans has never heard of a joke apparently

[@SamairaXA]

@@verygreenman it’s a joke 🙄

[@Mindset99-x6o]

The real takeaway here is that self-improvement isn’t one-size-fits-all. True growth comes from introspection, not just consuming endless books and courses!

[@therealyojames]

Wha-

[@sirenahenry4568]

Can we go back to the other voice? It was perfect

[@MSrl5xe]

Self help tip: When you feel stressed, take a nice deep breath, exhale and remember that your ancestors had to worry about being eaten alive by other animals.

[@LAKXx]

Well that didn't help i just got more stressed

[@JoFredr]

Self help tip : when you feel stressed, remember that u are mentally weak. Thats all there is to it

[@McPilch]

Uhh, everything is relative. And, I can assure you, pre-agriculture peoples were not "stressed" like the modern people are. But, if that visualisation helps you, then facts are irrelevant, of course. 😊

[@Nene-8090]

Here I am, panting for the last month

[@elinope4745]

I'm envious of that era.

[@melissazadrozny5167]

I don't understand the whole voice thing people keep bringing up, I'm here for your thoughtful content and this is great. I've been wondering lately why it feels like I can get better for a little bit, but never keep it up, and I think this video was really helpful in navigating that feeling.

[@fromzerotosomething3235]

Thank you for this video. For years, I thought I was worse than others. It was so depressing for me that I felt on the edge of life and death (not literally, but my psyche was dying). One day, I decided to enroll in psychology studies. The day before my first classes, I cried, telling myself how worthless I was, how little I mattered. However, after the first classes, I saw something that shocked me - I’m neither worse nor better. I am here and now. I want to live, and I want to change something. Maybe not everything all at once, but step by step. Even my brother's remarks didn’t hurt as much as they used to. I realized that through his "advice," he was expressing his sense of superiority, which used to hurt me, but now it evokes more compassion than pain. Of course, I had many setbacks along the way. I wanted to change my life for the better immediately, but over time, I understood that this isn’t the point. As the saying goes: "Fall down 10 times, but get up 11." Somewhere along the way, I found your channel. I started listening to and watching your content. Your reflections on various topics have helped me more than I can express in words. Now, watching this video, I have finally solidified my belief that it’s the journey that matters, not comparing myself to others. There will always "be" someone "better" and someone "worse," something "good" and something "bad." What’s important is to accept yourself and focus on your own growth.

[@melissazadrozny5167]

Well said. For a long time I felt like a failure because every time I would improve myself for a bit, I would end up falling back eventually. We can't constantly improve, because everyone will have bad days. But it's about not letting those bad days convince you that it has to be a precedent. Failures are essential for growth too. It's better to sit through those failures, absorb the information, and go through the coping process. Trying to escape from it is a trap, it is a form of suffering that is there to help us.

[@chimeraempire7376]

Like the Serenity prayer said "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

[@HatedNelevated]

This is exactly the prayer that crossed my mind when I realized.I could not change the narrator's voice back to the original. Lol

[@YoungGirlz8463]

stoic af

[@glewisl8791]

God didn't give me any of those, reality did

[@YoungGirlz8463]

@glevis you're a genius

[@glewisl8791]

@@YoungGirlz8463 aww don't make me blush

[@lleon]

What happened to your voice?

[@whiteShadow-yt9]

Right 😅

[@TheOrsBecomingDads]

Different narrator

[@groob33]

a i

[@OmerAsh]

I was wondering the same thing too. Are there multiple people running this channel?

[@KahluaFJ]

​@@OmerAsh maybe, or hired a freelance narrator

[@WillemDefoe]

honestly. i truly believe people want a philosophy to follow more than self improvement. “Why do i think the way i do?” Once you understand why, you can change how.

[@musab.muslim]

Willem, I can relate to what you’re saying, as I’m also struggling to discover my “why” - that burning desire to achieve or create change. Could you recommend something I could read on this topic? When you mention “philosophy,” are you referring to Greek philosophy, or something else?

[@Neutron311]

not "A" PHILOSOPHY But "THE RIGHT ONE"

[@Neutron311]

@musab.muslim Read non dual sufism

[@florisschreuders8569]

Thinking, quick and slow. By Daniel kahneman ​@musab.muslim

[@pereziobentey1584]

​Is there really A RIGHT ONE? ​@@Neutron311

[@Random-lb1qq]

If you take a self help book as a manual you are missing the whole point. You read, anything, to find perspective from others, take what you like and dimiss the rest. Like a chat with any friend or relative. Nonetheless, I believe we should be aiming to self-acceptance, most of the times this would save a lot of struggles.

[@YoungGirlz8463]

We can do better.

[@STEEvGEE]

Say that to 80%of people with long term sobriety from the big book of AA

[@rayybarra7864]

People want a handbook for life. A philosophy is a start.

[@Randomshrimpthatstalksyou]

Then what is the end?

[@rinzlr3554]

@@Randomshrimpthatstalksyouwho ever said there was an end? Your life is the end

[@rayybarra7864]

I’d say take that philosophy and live it. Create your narrative and live. Keep getting up ✨ “humans gonna human!”

[@riffz6065]

Funny how self help is so popular. We're all dead in the end anyways so no matter how narcissistic you are and think you're better than other people, you'll end up where they end up in the end. I just live for myself and my experiences and only pursue growth when it's fun for me.

[@slay3706]

this is a subject that needs to be talked about more, great video:)

[@callmeabd6546]

we dont need self help we need to be known for one self and others we just want to be who we are without any label or to fet certain criteria

[@mikayil3]

"diving into self-help can lead to perfectionism and burnout".

[@Jurmyhyle12]

I like perfectionism. It makes me feel good. I strive for it but I try to keep it realistic as well.

[@simulanation]

“If you're reading it in a book, folks, it ain't self-help. It's help.” - George Carlin.

[@tw06le1]

All my life I've been told "You are wrong". Whether or not I do something. Whether or not I say something. So I sit still, far away from everyone & everything, basically I'm wrong for existing. Family, when I had friends they all seem to know the absolute Right thing to do in every instance, and they usually get the supportive words, "They did what the had to do". No matter how distasteful, degenerate or dishonest their words or actions. Yet, little ole problem me is just so wrong in every thought, word or action, Yet I hold my tongue. - And that's still a problem, I should have said something profound, or kind. The few times my words slip in defense It's always met with heavy criticism one way or another. I have become a very quiet stoic person & through my struggles, no one ever calls, texts giving something cheerful- I have, but when seen in public they are not afraid of using destructive words to describe lack of communication even though it goes both ways. So, I sit still, far way from everyone everything. If I'm not there or involved I cannot be the problem. I don't seek attention, I don't crave adoration, I love quiet mornings, nature & animals. Somehow to many people I have to work with or some other public connection, that's weird or a problem. So I sit still.....

[@YoungGirlz8463]

Yup! People will gatekeep the most insignificant things for the dumbest reasons. Happens to all of us. ✌

[@STEEvGEE]

What's the common denominator in all of those situations

[@YoungGirlz8463]

@@STEEvGEE victim blaming

[@STEEvGEE]

@@YoungGirlz8463 self unawareness

[@Moon_Lando]

@@YoungGirlz8463 all you “victims” just whine and whine. What a waste of life

[@CherryMishmash]

Finally... a narrator who swallows his salvia before recording!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉 🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@The15back]

Look up iZotope RX mouth declick

[@13vo7]

LOL😂😂😂

[@user-yu9yk8gv2i]

Oh my gawd 😂

[@groob33]

a i

[@t.h.337]

lol

[@dddux]

I recently talked to a friend about my insomnia that keeps ruining my life, and he said that I should just get tired and that it works for him. But he hasn't got my problems and he sleeps like a baby. ;) I told him "yeah, that works for you, but not for me. At least not all the time. We are different and I have anxiety and ADHD, plus tinnitus. You cannot know what it's like and how to try to solve it unless you have it yourself. We are all different." At first he seemed offended, but after he thought about what I said he said "true, I cannot know what it's like to feel like you do... I can only presume based on my own experiences". Generally, some things can work for many people, but never for all people. It doesn't hurt to try, of course. Giving up hurts.

[@liannem]

- Think for yourself, don’t let something or someone dictate your life for you - Buying self-improvement books, courses, or coaches won’t be the solution. It may help but it won’t completely change your life or give you that happiness you crave. Only you can do that. - We are all different, and will experience different things. In the end do what YOU believe is best for you. - If it makes you miserable, don’t do it. - In conclusion, find the self help community as a way to gain knowledge from others and the world. Not as instructions where each step needs to be followed. There is no right or wrong way in life. We all live different lives so follow your intuition. Live as your own unique self and always THINK for urself.

[@SuccessSpark-o6r]

Watching self-improvement content isn’t enough-in fact, it can overwhelm you with too much information and make you feel worse about yourself. Real change comes from action, not just consuming advice

[@tarno89]

One particular idea just came into my mind after watching this. Going with the principle "less is more", cut off all the inputs of new information (delete social media, stop buying books and new seminars) and work with what you got currently. Work out all the tools you have, a few at a time and see what works for you and what doesn't. And then, add slowly to them. You might realize that re-reading a book or slowly working with a particular self-help tool will give you new insights or you will just realize it's totally pointless. The reason why the self help industry has gotten on the same level as others is because of the instant dopamine shot which makes us addicted to buying the next self help "pill"...

[@noart4you]

You are always one step ahead. Great videos !

[@jd7ub]

Goodnight everyone

[@luxdal4850]

lmao, the amount of people 'needing the old voice back' is rlly alarming

[@wafaken]

For me, reading self help book helped. It changed my life to be a little bit better. And I'm happy now.

[@liviodipietro7100]

Stock footages are so raw, and depressing. Also would've been better if some of the questions that are asked are written as a headline or bulletpointa

[@daliyoung]

does aperture have multiple narrators now?

[@andyw8064]

This guy sounds similar but doesn't quite hit the same...

[@zrnico611]

AI lol

[@ChaosAbsurdity]

Is it just me or does his voice sound a lik different in this video? Not necessarily in a bad way, just different

[@princing]

Upon hearing the news of Jerusalem, Nehemiah might have applied some self help technique to handle his despair and sadness allowing him to function in his career as cupbearer to the king.. In which case he may not have gone to Jerusalem and moved others to rebuild the wall. Parents of dead addicts might find solace in some mindfulness toward freewill and not be moved to an anger for action to help fix their locality. Lover your anger, use your horror, don't try to do away with you. Live you. And in good times rejoice and the story will be your story. Maybe not a long, armchair ridden story, but a real raw human story. Bless The Good, The Bad and The Ugly. Bless ALL.

[@Bromeliad_one]

Love the balance of motivation and actionable steps! Time to implement. 👏✨

[@JL-uu4od]

Welp, it’s been a good one. But I’m done. None of these newer videos have what initially drew me in to Aperture, it’s not fascinating anymore. And with this new voice they’ve cut the last thread. Current aperture might as well be a different channel nowadays. (That’s all, just need to vent).

[@tbraghavendran]

Did you get an self help ad, while you watch this video 🤔

[@NawazKhan-ve2vb]

Thanks 👍

[@riffz6065]

Anyone who's angry at the world and hates people should do psychedelics. At least once. It definitely helped me humble out and see things in a different light. I'm not saying depend on drugs, but if you've never tripped before, it can be an avenue for greater perspective.

[@F1NALB0SS1]

I hit my intelligence limit a couple years 😅I'm praying for a mental breakthru

Self help/toxic positivity is looking more and more cult-like now...

[@NewLife-qj9mx]

Really surprised the sponsor wasnt better help 🙄

[@sarazephyr8224]

I saw a quote I liked yesterday, I workout because I love my body not because I hate it. People do a lot of things as a form of compensation for not feeling good enough. Once you see it it's everywhere. The millionaire and the homeless person might both have the same belief that they are unworthy. The millionaire is convincing their self and others that they Are good enough. While the homeless have succumbed to the belief and given up. Same core belief though. I find that interesting. The why's matters imo

[@SameMoonMan-ww9oi]

His voice changed? It was one of the reasons it the channel, made it different a unique take I should say. Take it as my opinion and not the majority only they could let you know not me.

[@SubakiAzusa]

my problem is searching for the perfect answer/ system which doesnt exist and I keep looking for more and more

[@elinope4745]

You are the perfect answer system. Learning more and more is one of your best features.

[@unicron24]

you have to work longer and harder because the dollar is only worth 25 cents, and if you dont work harder there is always someone else who wants it more.

[@OctavianPhilipRadu-me2ok]

being better can t make you worse

[@YoungGirlz8463]

facts

[@alexdavis5902]

Bring back the old videos

[@DanteRodriguez.]

Where is indigogo?

[@KILLZONEPS4]

😂

[@ciao-yb3qu]

This is out of topic but- did the voice change or am I tripping?

[@STEEvGEE]

AI voice i think

[@ciao-yb3qu]

@STEEvGEE nooo, i hope not :( i liked his voice

[@STEEvGEE]

@@ciao-yb3qu yeah I'm not sure why he would do that

[@elinope4745]

I don't know that self help raises my cortisol. It was really nasty to begin with. Self help has taught me a couple methods of manually flushing out my cortisol.

[@deanlloyd3548]

A miracle is what I need

[@buggysponytail9703]

I dont want to dissrespect current narrator, but, your previous voice was too iconic 😭

[@PreggyDFroggy]

There is always nothing wrong to do self Improvements. It's only become bad when the Intention is wrong.

[@riffz6065]

I disagree. I believe it only becomes "bad" when you begin to rely on things outside of being true to yourself.

[@PreggyDFroggy]

@@riffz6065 Yes Indeed. That's the first step. Know yourself first!

[@Austin-t5s6h]

Aperture how do you have this much concentration

[@Austin-t5s6h]

I try so hard

[@MrBelles104]

No disrespect to the narrator if he's real, but if this is AI narration, I won't be sticking around.

[@JuXuS1]

now i'm stressed

[@TheWayoftheSith]

Join the New Rich is alright, but The Millionaire Fast Lane is better.

[@Pixel_scribes]

What happened to your voice or is this your true voice.

[@groob33]

it's an a i voice.

[@jemiller226]

@@groob33 You keep saying that, but this voice is far too nuanced for that. I swear to god if we're at the point now where we accuse actual people of being AI, we're fucking cooked.

[@groob33]

@ AI voices are getting soooo good that it's scary. There are some channels where there are debates in the comments about whether the voice is AI or not, but in the description of the video it says straight up that it's AI. But some people still try to argue that it's not. It is getting indistinguishable at this point and it's only going to get harder and harder to tell the difference. But yes... we are fucked.

[@carlosrodriguez-od4bx]

No freewill

[@simulanation]

The answers that people seek are never that easy whereby you can compress some philosophical musing in a book and expect that it will solve all your problems. People should first of all recognize their own specific needs and consult specific areas of knowledge. No one book will solve your life.

[@jaughnekow]

stopped listening to anything self help cos it is just noise nowadays. self help is basically lying to yourself to keep moving in times of crisis.

[@realYomi]

Dude....pls bring back the og voice.

[@N0URii]

Different voice sounds weird

[@WulfDragon-sf5hx]

Awesome ❤

[@Aqldnsh311]

well said!

[@Jihtxr]

Not to be rude to the voice actor but I prefer the original aperture voice actor personally.

[@cniv0703]

That is a Deep One

[@mobest3541]

Hey where is the original Guy is the best

[@yanuardwika3321]

no views in 34 seconds bro fell off

[@madmanjay2458]

Lame

[@STEEvGEE]

Can't imagine the title would be very enticing for many people

[@YoungGirlz8463]

@@STEEvGEE its a joke bruh 👍😂👍

[@STEEvGEE]

@@YoungGirlz8463 you think so?

[@Titanium_eater]

npc comment, the first time I laughed, but after that, this joke is a waste of comment section

[@umbra_24]

Just got a suggestion after a self help video on youtube 🐥

[@jrxbonaobra6298]

we need the original voice bro

[@jasonphoenix3569]

dude get the old voice back. we don't care if this is your 'friend noah' lmao

[@MooShaka89]

You conflate capitalism with consumerism.

[@Prototype10_]

What's with the voice?

[@kirksharples2959]

Don't compare yourself to anybody else ..... compare yourself with who YOU where yesterday... this isn't a fix all but it helps

[@jalaluddin3702]

I understand and know that we as humans don't like or want change, i don't either but always try to accept change. Maybe come to understand and accept the change of voice in your video but still i would want old narrator voice to bring back as that it was more soft, deep and natural flowing. But this one feels forced or fake motivated to be engaging. PS bring the old narrator back.

[@mmi75]

Good bye APERTURE👋 it was hell of a journey

[@STEEvGEE]

Lol

[@simontavious]

no way this guy sold out to AI

[@ToXXic369]

"aout", nice

[@arushitmudgal3729]

What happened to the voicee. Noooo

[@RohitSingh-rd4sr]

Where old narrator 🙄

[@mamellomolokwane1762]

Who's this guy?

[@cosmicnavigator801]

I dislike Sigma trend and Stoic trend. I've read books such as 'Think & Grow Rich' and 'The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People' . They sucked. In my opinion, Biographies such as 'Steve Jobs' by Walter Issacson and Business books such as 'Zero To One' made more sense.

[@felern4384]

I've always thought this to myself. Why do people turn to self-improvement programs to improve themselves? It's literally called self-improvement, not get help from other strangers that tell you they know how to get better and then take all your money while doing it. If you really want to improve yourself, then do exactly that, improve yourself, find the problems yourself, understand your problems yourself, and find solutions to the problems yourself.

[@phoule76]

Deepak Chokur or whatever

[@MF_Muse]

What have you done with the voice I know? This one is a big nope.

[@t.h.337]

self help 'gurus' are similar to mega church leaders and leaders of the 'prosperity' movement of Christianity, in my opinion. behind the shiny image and charisma and seduction, it's all about making $$. people who GENUINELY wanted to help others "self-help" (or in the case of Christianity, want to bring you closer to God) should NOT be ultimately motivated by money. thats my opinion anyway. also, happiness is a side-effect. if you are trying to be happy, you are most likely not going to be happy.

[@riffz6065]

Ok but on the flip side, we live in a world where money is required to survive and everyone knows if you're good at something, you shouldn't do it for free.. Should money be the motivator? No, but I don't think reaping finances takes away from those willing to help others.

[@fk_219]

What happened to apature man.I don't know why but I enjoy watching his oldest videos a lot but I feel like that mysterious/unique vibe that his voice and video once had ,have been now lost😔

[@combatwombat2134]

Having watched a bunch of self help videos lately the upload time of this video feels harrowingly unfortunate. 😂

[@radulescudorin3988]

Did you changed your voice ? I mean the AI voice

[@bhavikshah9521]

Voice????

[@bgaming93]

Hi👋

[@SammyYsl-z4u]

Here at 500 views yayyy🎉🎉

[@ryankuiyukia]

Ok bro voice just feels off

[@mauimitch89]

Bro is definitely not America First. He’s out here telling us about “Brazilian Potash” like we give a shit. Get over your climate change obsession dude, we’re making America great again.

[@Knanio]

Based lmao

[@lingarajsahoo2159]

But at what cost, by f*c*ed the whole nature ecosystem of earth.

[@Jellystial]

dafuq do you do things for, if not closeness and warmth ?!

[@Kero7th]

All yall mlm dudes pay attention!

[@NeurotizismusDoodle]

[@vikasjmehta]

True this seems to be ai channel now it's a shame i adored aperture but without capital a person can only go so far.

[@GeorgeOnatu]

New vpuce pr this isnt new??

[@ridoyempire829]

Why bro sounds ai?

[@DrVickyHarris]

ChatGPT stuff. Not like you.