ARE MEN BECOMING SOFT? GOT INTO SOME DEEP DISCUSSION! First Time Hearing Dax - To Be A Man Reaction!

[@Budini67]

This song brought about an amazing conversation between myself and my husband of 16 years. I played it for him and asked him if he felt this way and he said, "Every single day." I was floored. Completely blown away. I had no idea men felt like this. So, I stepped up my game. When he comes home from work and spends a few more minutes than usual sitting outside in the truck, I'll take him a cold drink, and say something like "Come in when you're ready. Dinner will still be warm, so take your time." I don't ask questions; I just give him a little time to decompress. This song gave me a whole new perspective about him and what he goes through.

[@420MRNICEGUY818]

Your amazing and your husband is very lucky man.

[@barsandbarbells2022]

You're a blessing. Amazing that this song changed your relationship dynamic that much!

[@tedharvick9010]

God bless you, Ma'am. Sounds like your husband married an angel for recognizing that.

[@stevestraining7291]

My wife made me feel like an asshole for even playing it. Mockingly asked “do we need to talk about your feelings…?” So now I’m back to shutting up and suffering in silence. It is just the way.

[@ryantrone4140]

​@@stevestraining7291 I have not played this for my wife. She will just mock the idea. She is so concerned with all the ways she doesn't feel validated.

[@HarmoniousHome]

This woman has no idea what’s truly going on in the video. While the guy can’t speak because he’s holding back tears.

[@vellemontinola6026]

agree

[@laupstad]

We're not allowed to feel. We're just men after all.

[@biggie25x]

Notice how the female instantly turns men’s feelings into a negative. Then we wonder why this song is needed. Men express emotions and women trash it. Women have a way larger support network than the vast majority of men. Women can lean on men but when men lean on women they get judged for it. It’s not about soft men. It’s about men waking up and realizing they can be strong and vulnerable. Bottom line was her reaction was everything wrong with modern women and the fact they make everything about them. Lost respect for her a little. She wasn’t listening and wanted to judge it as weakness. Message missed her and wouldn’t depend on her in a pinch. She’d be the one who dumps you for expressing an emotion.

[@james4598]

So you noticed that as soon as she 9pened he mouth she definitely a diehard feminist she did care at all and dud e went along he is no better

[@yucheng3054]

I like how the man had more facial expressions because he can feel the exact feelings along with the lyrics.

[@jordan9604]

He listenin' to it, she hearing it.

[@AspectofEvil]

For most men, we will only ever receive our first delivery of flowers at our funeral

[@coffeeguy957]

I loved the commentary on this. As a 28 year old man, I look around and see real men being degraded from every angle. It’s good to see that other men are standing strong and stepping up to be the men their family and society needs

[@barsandbarbells2022]

💯 👊

[@Dremooa]

Makes it about her... What a surprise.

[@byronousrobinson2694]

Lady your response proves 100% what the song is talking about

[@iam.marcus9254]

🎯🔥💯

[@Jchamaon]

The lack of empathy and depth of analysis in this woman's answer! Wow!

[@silentowlz3055]

There's a reason the song repeats over and over again : *"I don't expect you to understand".* Her reaction and many other women shows enough proof... 💯

[@Southern10Five]

Out of all the couples that I’ve watched review this song, NOT ONE woman has stood up and hugged her man. Not one….

[@philipkalin1928]

Says alot…

[@klemen96]

out of all people i played this song for, only man asked if im alright.

[@melissalaroche6406]

I saw one immediately start to cry looked at her husband he was flushed too and she rubbed his leg I was like finally geez are we really so selfish I cried like a baby and told my husband I'm sorry He is present away from me in another country I can't wait to treat him like a king ❤

[@mattconner6416]

This is one of the best ones I've seen: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bHWnlJ99grWJY5osi=gQz_01AzHDnAjoIq

[@frankstewart4819]

His Face Told As Soon As The Song Started Stay Strong My Man Much Love

[@JoeBizzle]

Men don't necessarily need to cry or talk through their feelings. They just need to be appreciated.

[@Chosen-Mal]

Sad reaction honestly I feel bad for the men in her life

[@JustNobodyforsometime]

She inadvertently proved wvery single thing Dax said. And if her guy here thinks she will stay around for 15 minutes if he loses his income he is delussional. You can see it on her face. He is a paycheck, nothing else

[@vellemontinola6026]

@@JustNobodyforsometime agree

[@Ttkmodas.]

I’m woman, and this music made me think and respect about what my father and boyfriend are

[@riheimsmith9954]

It's not about being soft it's called being honest.

[@jacovermeulen9248]

He wasn't speaking from he's perspective. He spoke for all of us, all men feel this but cant say or know how to say. He just said what all men feel

[@vellemontinola6026]

right on

[@italianpoboy8874]

You can tell he was fighting back to not break down in front of her, and that to me was sad, he had to hide it because it seemed like she would think less of him. Just my take. He got the video, she didn't.

[@robertrushing9990]

Her emotionless responce is what gets me! Does she not have a man in her life ( husband,father,grandfather, friend) that she might see this as an issue......... oh, it's more of a ballad, deep message, good music production. REALLY? But we, as men(taught to be emotionless) are questioned for not feeling empathy for women's struggles. Thx for nothin miss...............👎

[@reactivereplays5666]

She only cares about herself and the plight of women. He barely looked at her because he did not want to sway her emotions to gauge them. Which were; a blank stare, with an awkward of beat bob. He asks: "what are your thought first, you can still speak on what he said from your perspective. do you agree he is right?" Her: "He was vulnerable and had a good message". Of COURSE she does none of this and makes him feel none of this.

[@Dremooa]

She seems so fake and soulless.

[@klemen96]

​@@reactivereplays5666i mean, he was holding back the; You just proved everything said in the song"

[@GeorgeinScotland]

Thank you B&B for bringing Dax into my playlist, I'm a 63 year old Brit who spent 33 years in the Army and I know soldiers and ex soldiers hide feelings the lyrics to this track are 100% correct

[@barsandbarbells2022]

Our pleasure!

[@reactivereplays5666]

She only cares about herself and the plight of women. He barely looked at her because he did not want to sway her emotions to gauge them 3:15, 4:43(The only times he glanced to her at all). 4:34 (he has to go out of his way to look away form her direction this much) Which were; a blank stare, with an awkward of beat bob. 4:40 ONLY time she looked at him (he was deep in it at this point and if she was looking to see if he felt anything. This shows yes). Nothing. He asks: "what are your thought first, you can still speak on what he said from your perspective. do you agree he is right?" Her: "He was vulnerable and had a good message". Of COURSE she does none of this and makes him feel none of this. Not once did she ask about HIS emotions or how he felt or if he ever felt this way or express anything to him. Emotionless until it fits her needs then she will put on a nice smile and "act" cute.

[@stavi82]

This is the worst reaction I've seen on this song. She's clearly very shallow, and he's had to bring himself to her level, likely for fear she'll take half his stuff.

[@reactivereplays5666]

I couldn't agree more. He seems like a great dude too... Shame what men will put themselves through for looks.@@stavi82

[@romanpawloski]

Agreed. This had zero impact on her.

[@ronallen3852]

Dude. You should run from her.

[@IYamWhatIYam136]

Wow. The words in the song didn't phase her. She enjoyed the music.

[@scionpredmore9818]

Went to a couple camp with my wife and it was the first time in our relationship where she understood the burdens that men like myself carry. As a man we are constantly bombarded about our masculinity. This speaks volumes on the things we want to say but can't.

[@colinswayze29]

Look, two people who have completely missed the point of this song.........

[@Plymonk666]

6:29 and here lady’s…. And gentleman is a primary example of all of the things covered in this song…. 6:29

[@jasonmcewen436]

You need to hear the Mega Remix of this track... it's 10 minutes long, and worth every second.

[@tamarrion1]

This!!! And also the new remix with Darius Rucker.

[@chrism6764]

As good as the original is, the remix is another level. 💯

[@rodgerussery9681]

I love the song. Great reaction! Great song y'all keep up the good work. I agree life is hard for a man and we have lots of expectations put on us from day one but we're also built for this. Being taken for granted doesn't make it an easier though, but a man does man's stuff if it was easy everyone could do it.

[@Afk1-e6d]

The main issue is that most women just do not appreciate that men do everything for them. For the time being i avoid spendng any money on women beyond what it costs to meet them since they wanna be "independent"

[@DrthRevan]

Men have not gotten weak, some are just helping put out how a man feels, men are still human who do have feelings and shit, be we can tolerate being worn down in life to give someone else a better one. I only have daughters, but if I ever had a son, I will make sure if no one else will be there, I always will if he ever needed to just let out cries, in privacy with someone who knows what he's feeling

[@Mr.International82]

I blame the feminist/Me too movement for a lot of how the roles are changing. You’re seeing more women that are more masculine and the men are becoming more feminine or staying quiet because of our ass backwards culture and society

[@SpectralWolf01]

I got two boys, 13 and 4. I tell them all the time, when the world turns it's back on you as long as I'm still breathing, I got you.

[@Jacko0_0]

This man should come home and tell this women he's lost his job and watch her reaction. But i think he already knows what would happen. Like most of us do.

[@George-kv6gm]

Absolutely fantastic. I'm 73, and I learned to be a man from my father. A heckuva lot of it had to do with keeping your mouth shut. Thanks for that.

[@glassontherocks]

Amen.. my friend.

[@barsandbarbells2022]

👊

[@sherrygraham7610]

When I heard this song my husband wasn’t listening just myself I just kept looking at him I cried my eyes out . After listening I dried my eyes up went to him I hugged him so tight he asbked me what was that for I told him for everything I never said enough to you I love you more then life I know my lord must Love me dearly he found you for me…

[@rmacdougallaliasdogviticus]

OMG! I can't believe I loved it. I hate auto tune with a passion and I can't call myself a rap fan 'cept a few tunes but this was great. Thanks.

[@barsandbarbells2022]

🙌

[@danielsouthall5819]

As people have mentioned I would definitely recommend Dax to be a man mega remix as it has other artists who wrote their own verses and stories. Its an eye opener and a tear jerker

[@betsybabf748]

One of the best songs of the year IMO. The original and the remix are excellent. Suicide for men is so high now. I'm a suicide widow.

[@barsandbarbells2022]

Very sorry to hear that - hope you're holding up okay! ❤️

[@Maybehaha755]

It's so sad. Praying for you 🙏

[@drewlamphere1826]

I have never seen you guys react, but that was an amazing reaction. The guy talking did an amazing job of describing the balance. Nowadays the world wants men to be soft, but truly they want a masculine man to take care of them. Great reaction! Dax did a great job with the song as well.

[@PatrickHufstetler]

Most of the women I've seen react to this kinda says something similar as what you said at beginning about not being a man. But the Song is a message "to" women. Us men can't "experientially" understand what it's like to be a woman, but from listening to women and what is shown in movies there is so much we see and can "intellectually" understand about you. And we still love you, but the opposite isn't true. If we show emotion or weakness, women reject us and we are seen as week or too sensitive.

[@silverdye7424]

For all the men who need and deserve their flowers 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@gammagong9435]

🎉

[@lordkabal2010]

Wouldn't say what men probably go through.....we do go through there is no probably to it.....and that's a true fact, Dax has experienced these and still is but he knows we do have these issues

[@GreyWarden122993]

Before I I even start the video. We aren't soft. We are tired. We are done. We are no longer giving a fuck

[@vellemontinola6026]

this song always releases my stresses, in a way that I don't always do...

[@wilson599]

I obviously don't know you, but you need to run away from this woman.

[@DarthChosen]

this was like watching two seperate reaction videos. the song isnt about feminizing men, or about being weealthy and getting attention. its trying to show what men go through everyday and how were treated like shit because men are supposed to be strong for everyone at everytime. his reaction was emotional as the words hit and he knew it spoke for all men, her reaction was "oh cool song from his perspective".

[@1111-b6u]

This guy need to run.

[@davidheeter602]

Dax is worth the trip down the rabbit hole. Trust me.

[@Promatheos]

Being emotional isn’t being soft, or being feminized, or being weak. It’s just being human. Women can talk all day about how men should show emotion, but what they say and what they feel is very different. It’s like saying you can see how a spider web is intricate and beautiful, but if you actually see one you get creeped out.

[@carambotirivera2402]

Damn..you can tell he felt every word😢...and she looks like she despises every word😂😂

[@IbrahimAbdulahi-n8k]

She really will never understand

[@kyleb5169]

Girl this is the worst reaction to this video I have ever seen. You are exactly what this song talks about. After listening and reading through the comments, I can tell you miss the mark big time on this one.

[@ronaldhensley2169]

Whoever typed the description did an awesome job

[@barsandbarbells2022]

Thank you!

[@dauddysdream]

You want 2 of my favorite, bad a**, Dax raps 🙏😁 "The Grinch" and "The Joker" those 2 are crazy and just a couple of my favs, but he has SO MANY good ones. Everyone that I have heard have showed nothing but amazing talent. ❤

[@myTERAexperience]

Agreed, The Grinch and Joker are amazing and my favorites too.

[@Renegade2987]

My opinion this is a message for women to try and understand what us as men go through on a daily basis for our families. And our image as a father it’s our responsibility as a man to teach our sons how to be a man and treat women so when they become a man and have a family of their own they will be able to stand up and just keep moving forward to provide for his family

[@normanvelez4657]

I am 60 years of age. Still feel this way, but I am 1 of the lucky ones with a great partner. I am glad you heard your husband measage as when i saw the video. i felt you missed his reaction and the point ofthee the song. Giid for bith of you. Thank you for the video.

[@josepharriola5255]

I don’t think men are soft, men are leaders. A good man does it with out complaining but it doesn’t mean it weighs less. Some men have hold it in due to the environment. Men also have to prepare themselves to raise a son that will do the same but better as society beats them down.

[@iaugustinisme2733]

Great reaction thank you

[@RockinMamaT]

Totally in tears right now.I have two grown sons I hope they're not this sad😢😢😢❤❤❤

[@trevor3575]

You both seem extremely intelligent but are still missing the message of the song

[@windellbryant3423]

He felt it in the 1st 3 bars

[@zacwilson6812]

You both missed the point of the song. Good try though.

[@RambinoYT]

Men hears truth, women hears song...story of our lives

[@markbrinson6090]

I can see what you are saying and I have to say I d o not agree with some of it. 75% of suicides are men because we cannot tell the lady in our life our feeling without being labeled as weak. Which in my thoughts is toxic femininity. I am saying we should be a blabbering mess and play the victim card but we should also not be considered weak by our women if we confide in them. What she said about handling our feeling like women really struck a chord with me. Personally, the message to me is that the women do not give the respect men deserve for breaking our backs and being the strong one all the time. A little respect and acknowledgment would go a long way. You know, tell him I see what you do foe me and our family and I appreciate it and show him you do. That is all we need. We want to provide but not feeling appreciated for what you do is the problem. Oh , you are a man that is what you are supposed to do. Yes, in a sense but are the women reciprocating in a way that the man does not feel like he is doing for no reason. The feminist movement took women from that role in the relationship and put it as you provide the way I want or I will find someone else. If a man shows his woman appreciation for all she does it should be reciprocated and I believe in many relationships these days it is not.

[@danielfife2162]

She doesn’t have a clue.

[@jarhead98gaming]

You guys should DEFINITELY react to the mega remix of this song!! It goes further into detail and from different point of views and perspectives

[@mmmmkay4773]

Anyone that heavily bobs durng this song is not understanding the message. I knew her response would be surface.

[@caleblocklear6216]

We need to make the softer men a little harder and we need to let the real hard men know it's ok to show emotions every once in awhile we cant be robots, but we cant be pussies either we need to find the balance lol

[@dontstopplay7258]

The whole point of this song is that men are taking whateva softness and shoving it in a box bcoz we take care of business n they dont see it

[@PCSkate401]

I agree so much with the perspectives you both gave about finding a fine line in the middle of us guys working on letting our feelings out to prevent strong mental health issues, but also not feminizing men where we become too soft and too emotionally driven to where we can’t perform certain tasks as as a man in society that protects, provides and serves, because of our biological strengths to complete said tasks. God created men and women different for a reason, but for some reason the western societies are adapting these crazy ideologies that are throwing us off in a way that’s very unhealthy.

[@Master-uw2kg]

you both are refreshing, genuine, inspiring. don't stop

[@sergioalvarez1919]

You know what this song takes me too? Bat country from Avenge Seven fold. The quote "you have to make a beast out of yourself to to get rid the pain of being a man." So i understand dudes that be distant or cold. It beats the alternative. Caring so much but realizing the world doesnt care. But i guess that's what the bible talkes about. Being like jesus. To care about others despite the world rejecting you. It takes a godly man.

[@ronaldgrimmig6659]

Check out dax "gods eyes" it's a really good mix of his singing and rapping. Awesome song. Go farther back in his catalog the man can rap rap. Love Dax.

[@Stan_la_menace]

I'm baffled at how low her empathy was for men...

[@rodgerussery9681]

She said doo doo 😂

[@Grunkdaorc]

Don't forget to check out the Mega remix. Lots of great additions.

[@HouseOfWrath]

So well said. Society needs to stop feminizing men and allow us to just be us. Fine, be understanding, yes we have feelings and deal with depression, but stop trying to make us show our emotions and make us look weak. We have our ways of coping. Just respect that.

[@RobertAdams1985]

Yeah, because those ways of coping where 75% of suicides are from men were really helping before. /eyeroll

[@zarinshapurjee9430]

You should react to Dax the abyss and dear alcohol next

[@sbradley3008]

Dude, your lady doesn't really respect you.

[@dnyce330]

Now you need to react to “To Be a Man (Mega Mix)”

[@mckennasnickel]

Men this completely destroys me don’t let her speak for us

[@52mx]

no puedo esconderme I can't hide myself No espero que entiendas I don't expect you to understand Sólo espero poder explicar I just hope I can explain lo que es ser un hombre What it's like to be a man Es un camino solitario It's a lonely road Y no les importa lo que sabes And they don't care 'bout what you know No se trata de cómo te sientes It's not 'bout how you feel Pero lo que proporcionas dentro de esa casa But what you provide inside that home Sí, sé que esta vida realmente puede derrotarte, uh Yeah, I know this life can really beat you down, uh Quieres gritar pero no harás ningún sonido, uh You wanna scream but you won't make a sound, uh Tienes tanto peso que has estado aguantando Got so much weight that you've been holdin' Pero no mostrará ninguna emoción, como hombre, que no se expresa. But won't show any emotion, as a man, that goes unspoken Que no podemos llorar cuando la vida se pone difícil That we can't cry when life gets hard Amor incondicional por mujeres, niños y perros. Unconditional love for women, children and dogs Sabemos que solo tenemos que desempeñar nuestro papel. We know that we just have to play our parts Y a nadie le importan un comino nuestros corazones rotos, sí And don't nobody give a damn about our broken hearts, yeah Como hombre, tenemos que allanar nuestro camino. As a man, we gotta pave our way Nuestra única función es trabajar y esclavizar. Our only function is to work and slave No hay respeto por ti si no te pagan There's no respect for you if you ain't paid Eres ignorado como humano y no puedes quejarte. You're disregarded as a human and you can't complain Y si alguna vez lo recuperas y llegas a ese lugar And if you ever make it up and actually reach that place Y encuentra una mujer que ames y dale tu apellido. And find a woman that you love and give her your last name Sentirás que las cosas que le das son la única razón por la que ella se queda. You'll feel the things that you provide is only why she stays Y cuando intentes explicar, dirás And when you try to explain, you'll say no puedo esconderme I can't hide myself No espero que entiendas I don't expect you to understand Sólo espero poder explicar I just hope I can explain Lo que es ser un hombre (lo que es ser un hombre) What it's like to be a man (what it's like to be a man) Es un camino solitario (es un camino solitario) It's a lonely road (it's a lonely road) Y no les importa lo que sabes (les importa lo que sabes) And they don't care 'bout what you know (care 'bout what you know) No se trata de cómo te sientes It's not 'bout how you feel Pero lo que proporcionas dentro de esa casa But what you provide inside that home No te rindas, sigue luchando Don't give up, keep fightin' Como hombre, nuestro hijo es nuestro horizonte. As a man, our son is our horizon Y las acciones de nuestros padres influyen y terminamos como él. And our fathers' actions play a role and we end up like him Entonces no pueden dejarnos verlos heridos. So they can't let us see them hurt Porque encarnaremos lo que hacemos y comenzaremos una maldición generacional 'Cause we'll embody what we do and start a generational curse No es de extrañar que la mayoría de los hombres estén tan deprimidos. No wonder most men are so depressed Todas las cosas que no pueden expresar. All the things that they can't express Van a la guerra, son arrojados al estante. They go to war, get thrown on the shelf Luego vuelve a la guerra con su salud mental. Then go back to war with they mental health Entonces toma esa botella y pide ayuda. Then grab that bottle and ask for help Intenta salir del infierno Try to pull themselves out of hell Luego vuelve a caer y luego te das cuenta Then fall back down and then realize Que tendrán que hacerlo ellos mismos That they gon' have to do it themselves Es el círculo de la vida, como hombre, tú proporcionas It's the circle of life, as a man, you provide No saben lo que vales hasta el día en que mueres. They don't know what you're worth 'til the day that you die Y ahí es cuando empiezan a llorar And that's when they start cryin' Luego pasa a un hombre en quien confiar. Then move on to a man to confide in Por eso sentimos That's why we feel No podemos escondernos We can't hide ourselves No esperamos que entiendas We don't expect you to understand Sólo esperamos poder explicar We just hope we can explain Lo que es ser un hombre (lo que es ser un hombre) What it's like to be a man (what it's like to be a man) Es un camino solitario (es un camino solitario) It's a lonely road (it's a lonely road) Y no te importa lo que sabemos (te importa lo que sabemos) And you don't care 'bout what we know (care 'bout what we know) No se trata de cómo nos sentimos It's not 'bout how we feel Pero lo que brindamos dentro de esa casa (dentro de esa casa) But what we provide inside that home (inside that home) esa casa That home No se trata de cómo nos sentimos It's not 'bout how we feel Pero lo que brindamos dentro de esa casa (dentro de esa casa) But what we provide inside that home (inside that home) Fuente: LyricFind

[@kenrichardson8026]

I've watched a bunch of the reaction to this song. The sad oart is women just dont get it.

[@drewbombs7059]

you guys really need to do the mega remix its so much better and hits a lot more topics

[@locustsun]

Tone deaf. If you can’t shed emotions, you aren’t tough, you’re a liability in waiting. This isn’t sucking it all in, at all times, and there is no one-size-fits-all. Some dudes cry when their dog dies, when they fail a test, or don’t lift what they want one day. If they do it, then they are coping. I worry more about the solider who won’t show emotion, because they almost always won’t make good decisions.

[@shinjusmith5293]

Gets me every time I see it...

[@patpowell862]

She is not there, just full of wordage not a real reaction. So worried about her hair. DNF.

[@Qboyz]

Balance…women will jump on men if they open up and show emotions unless it’s about things they want. Double edge sword, too much and a woman starts to look for others. It’s human nature, men can’t have balance without a great woman.

[@jamesbench2032]

He did another song and it has other people sing in it should check that out it is amazing

[@Unknown15908]

Everyman on earth is battling demons every day and night.

[@Marcus-p5i5s]

Too soft is an understatement. I'm 60 and 5 guys between 25-35 years old started harassing me on a deserted backstreet a couple months ago. I gave a right cross to the largest thinking I'd take out a couple of them before being beaten and the rest ran away. The one I hit sat in the street crying. If we get involved in a real war, one like 80 years ago we are toast.

[@AnthonyTaylor-gf4lq]

Your lucky bro your girl ain't no thinker ! 😂

[@danielhrp1]

You need to react the mega mix version of to be a man, you can see different perspective of this.

[@lostsoul7845]

Its like watching two bobbleheads.

[@bad633]

Leave this woman. Thank me later.

[@iam.marcus9254]

🎯🔥💯

[@JJLovesMusic87]

Please please please do alot more dax🙏🙏🙏

[@Nate-n2h]

Get rid of that woman

[@kkingthemotivationalspeake1576]

Awesome

[@EricSchlichting-r7h]

If you love the original song, you should check out the mega remix of this song

[@EricSchlichting-r7h]

As a man, I was raised, that it's not ok to cry. I was told to (suck it up),and (deal with it).With the help of my wife, and the mega remix of this song, I'm finally able to cry in front of my wife now.

[@Josh31287]

Ummm 🤔 what kinda reaction was that 🤔 wow

[@LegitLucas69]

I respect an opinion from both genders but we should take a bunch of mean how many hear those words and relate maybe ppl will understand better

[@PatrickHufstetler]

You should react to the Mega Remix