Asexuality : My Discovery Story

I recently celebrated my discovery anniversary so it seemed fitting to share my story. If you'd like more info about asexuality or other topics I touched on asexuality.org is a great place to start!

[@bethmonroe7824]

Thanks for making this video. I feel like there is such an emphasis on letting people know that some asexuals can still have sex that I can feel invalid for being sex averse. It was helpful to hear your story.

[@EllunaHellen]

"Who do you like?!" 10 year old me: No-one?? 24 year old me: NO-ONE!!! Haha, I definitely recognise the 'why are we liking people???? What does it mean to like people????' train of thought! My response to naked people: "ok cool put your clothes back on sorry" I have wondered the 'am I gay' thing, buuuut nope, that didn't work either (for a while i thought it might've because the idea of being in a relationship with a girl was a bit less awkward, but... Still awkward and not what I wanted in the end). I did not actually find out about asexuality through AVEN, but rather a list of characteristics that might be signs that you're ace. I was basically mentally checking off all the facts like 'this, this, this, this, also this.... oh wait, I'm definitely ace, huh.' Then I spent another year or so telling myself that maybe I was a little young to know (at somewhere between 20 and 23, LOL!), or that it would eventually just happen. Aaand then I got sick of saying 'I am POSSIBLY an aromantic asexual' eventually at 23 (as I realised that knowing myself, it would probably go on for a really long time because 'you can never be sure?' even if COME ON YOU'RE 23 NOT 13, self. So many people have already had these feelings and you haven't and that should say SOMETHING.) and have been more strongly identifying as such ever since. (Almost 25 now). Great video! :)

[@TidyBetty]

thank you.