Ask Mayim Anything - Part 1

It’s an Ask Mayim Anything episode! Mayim and Jonathan do a deep dive breakdown of listener-submitted questions surrounding addiction, family mental illness, sleep, EMDR therapy, and childbirth trauma. They discuss potential long-term effects of sleep deprivation on mental health, the correlation between phone addiction and binding anxiety, and give advice for those who have loved ones struggling with substance abuse. We’re also joined by a very special guest who shares her experiences with the increasingly popular EMDR therapy and how it changes the organization of memory.
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[@marianaortizgodoy7064]

I was convinced that "one fiction one fact" was because she has her real life Neuroscientist PHD but also since she was Amy Farrah Fowler she has her fictional Neurobiologist PHD LOL

[@karaleelu4597]

I thought the exact same thing.

[@tyme4dindin]

I thought the same thing...but then I'm a TBBT fanatic, so that's where my mind would naturally go!

[@paolagonzalezjareda4547]

Same!

[@TheTommyData]

It’s a better meaning IMO!

[@hannalowercase5928]

i think it is what it's supposed to mean lol

[@believer773]

Mayims openness never ceases to inspire me, thank you guys.

[@MayimBialik]

thank you for supporting our podcast!

[@paulsmith9192]

@Mayim Bialik u should get mitchio kaku on the podcast

[@smlorrin]

I always took the "She has a neuroscience PhD or two - one fiction, one fact" line in the lyrics to mean one in real life and one on The Big Bang Theory.

[@butterflynerd0078]

I am 26, so I remember when smartphones came about. It's a really interesting time to be alive because, some people just a bit younger than me don't know life without them... But it was a completely different world. People actually talked to others waiting in lines or at an office somewhere. It was lovely. I could cry thinking about it. I know we can connect to people on social media now, but that also requires us to meet people in person... And we don't do that as easily! I think the reason we are struggling so much with mental health is because we have such a large (yet tiny, right in our hands) barrier. I recently stopped using social media, and stopped watching TV, and now I've actually been more creative with my time. Watching podcasts, doing beginning painting, learning piano... Stuff I've always wanted to do!

[@punkishbear]

I'm 28 and I vividly remember the first days of the cell phone. Amazing what a couple years difference can make

[@madebymaddox2778]

I would love an episode listing your most recommended books to read!

[@angelabest4468]

The irony of watching this about phone addiction while watching from my phone 🤦😁

[@katkards456]

Your understanding and explanation of Al-Anon was excellent. Thank you for articulating it so well.

[@teresarydberg1450]

With the cellphone thing I found that when I stopped being involved in Facebook, my ability to put down the phone became easier. I've never been someone to look at it when in a line but I remember a lot of time going by as I scrolled through facebook. Now that I never go to it (and have removed the app from my phone), it's much more freeing and I will sometimes forget my phone when I got for a walk.

[@kateryneart]

Mayim, I had to write to give you and Jonathan a laugh. I’m one of those senior citizens that was never great at technology. However, I love my iPhone and iPad. They are easy to use and I use my phone for everything. I learned that I could take a picture of anything on the screen by touching the Apple logo on the back of the phone. It’s not as cool as I thought it would be because sometimes I try to take a screenshot and it doesn’t do it. Other times it takes one for no reason(just to show me who’s boss). Here’s the funny part. I noticed I had this photo of a man I didn’t know on my phone. It appeared on my sons birthday when I asked him to send me a pic of him. He didn’t send it but I thought maybe one of my sons sent it by mistake. Finally I asked my oldest son if he knew who it was. I was convinced someone sent it by mistake. He didn’t know the guy but used his keen observational skills to note that the guy was wearing headphones and the way he was looking at the camera it appeared to be professional. He actually put the image of this man into Google search and came back to tell me it was the host of Mayim Bialiks KZbin show Breakdown. Turns out my phone took a screenshot of Jonathan when I was watching your show. 😂 mystery solved.

[@alsoulmusic]

“If we are spending our lives looking outward, we are not looking inward”. Beautifully put. I try to live my life that way I hope that more people embrace those simple words. It can truly release you from thinking you can change people. Everyone’s journey is unique. You can add to their journey but you can not steer it.

[@dustinsutton6166]

As the son of a recovering alcoholic, she's almost 3 years sober... now I have a very dear friend that is an alcoholic, who admits she has a problem, but she's getting much worse. So I would love to see a full episode on Alcoholism and the effects of (and on) friends and family.

[@KristinM626]

I'm loving these summer episodes! I always thought the "one fiction" in the closing theme song referred to Amy Farrah Fowler's PhD. I've noticed I also mindlessly scrolled a lot, one thing I did to help put the phone down was I dug out my old Kindle and keep it close. When I feel the urge to scroll, I pick up the Kindle and read instead. I enjoyed hearing Alyssa's story & would love more pop-in guests like that.

[@surfpaddletravel]

I have had same thought about fictional Amy’s PhD.

[@nikkia5399]

My friend asked me if she should leave her spouse bc he cheated on her. I told her I couldn’t tell her the answer but I would ask her does she want to leave- she said no. I asked worse case scenario- can she let the affair go? She said she didn’t know. She said he wanted to stay together and work on it. Hard situation for anyone- Ive been thru it. My situation involved physical/mental/emotional abuse so we had to leave for safety reasons. ALSO- EMDR WORKS!!!! It is not a cure to PTSD but it definitely helps processing trauma. Thank you for discussing this!!!

[@bettywith2girls]

Your friend should, privately, talk to other women who have been 20, 30, or 40 years married. You'd be surprised what you have to put up with to stay married, and there's several times in your life when they know you are especially vulnerable and t-h-a-t'-s when your husband will pull stuff. I believe in being honest with people so when things d-o happen, you don't just run out the door in shock. And I know someone who had a similar "situation" as you, and there's times when it's smart to run out the door too, for your and your kids' safety, if you can (the person I knew couldn't safely). Anyway, you'd be surprised what one will learn if you talk to an older person who's been married for a long time who is "honest" (not giving you the fairytale version) with you about what really happens in a marriage. I would recommend that to your friend. God bless.

[@matemahe]

@@bettywith2girls Its personal choice to leave a SO bc as good as someone is at giving advice they doesn't follow their advice

[@anisaromano5352]

Thank you to Alyssa for explaining her experience and Mayim for drawing it out so well and explaining so succinctly.

[@laceym314]

Loved this episode and that the title was Part 1, hopefully meaning there will be a part two? Thank you for always helping us all survive from all of our past breakdowns and hopefully handling our future breakdowns just a little better.

[@erickerry3368]

Dr. Bialik, having just found you and Jonathan Cohen, I have fallen in love with you both. And definitely want more of Bev! Please have Sarah Jessica Parker, Justine Bateman, I could listen to her talk all day long, and her message to women & girls I think is an important one. Also, Marianne Williamson her heart is so good and pure.

[@karenm45purple]

Omg the part about families of chronic illness revolving around that one person is so on point. In my family it's sadly me and I HATE it. My mom was the well sibling as well so she has always been really great and making sure my brother isn't left out.

[@harinidiasbandaranayake]

My phone did good. I tapped this podcast first thing in the morning. You two bring such compassionate, empathetic, quiet wisdom to my day. Thank you. Bless you.

[@pappypinel7484]

My daughter loves you never miss a Episode … 90,s were the best.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Yes the 90,s were the best 💯

[@RonEmerson]

I loved this episode. Hope there are more like this one to come. Very informative and helpful. Thank you!

[@barbrafermino6673]

Your my Hero Mayim!!!@ The planet needed this discussion...I'll watch it over and over...love to you and Jonathan!

[@Historian212]

From my experience: What happens as a result of the EMDR process is that you can remember what happened, but it feels like you’re a bit removed from it. Your emotions don’t re-engage the way they did before. You don’t lose yourself in the memories, and you can tell when you feel triggered - vs just reacting and not knowing why. EMDR doesn’t induce amnesia; rather, it gives you perspective and a feeling that you can choose whether or not to pay attention to the memories, and in what ways. Mayim’s explanation and cautions in re finding a good therapist are spot-on. That said, I’m not a fan of NLP, which Jonathan endorses. There are serious concerns about NLP and how it’s been used. With all due respect.

[@alexanderzelenukhin3960]

I recommend reading Unlocking the Emotional Brain by Bruce Ecker. Apparently EMDR reconsolidates emotional, emplicative memory without affecting explicative memory. There is also an article by Bruce Ecker, "Using NLP for Memory Reconsolidation," where the same is revealed with NLP.

[@alexanderzelenukhin3960]

In the context of EMDR, I liked the book EMDR Up Close, Philip Manfield. Philip talks about how EMDR processing involves a reevaluation of past events from an adult perspective. In EMDR, we look from a perspective of the here and now, looking at events there and then. By experiencing the emotional experience of the past we do not fall into the past, but observe it from the present.

[@soultrekotc6635]

Great stuff. So many phrases just hit home. Thanks for this discussion. Your back and forth is so impactful. Grateful for you both.

[@karenfryerenjoylifeaustralia]

I am in Australia, but i love listening to you talking about the help that is available within the US. Sadly other parts of the world do not have access to the kind of help. I grew up in an environment of addiction and narcissism. I escaped this environment at age 21 years of age but because of parental training I did not seek help. My apiphany came when a work place change made my physical symptoms impossible for me to deal with. I then got counselling assistance.

[@heathershinnie-gonzales3933]

Good morning from Canada Mayim, I love listening to breakdown, I wish you would go live with us being able to chat with you, we miss you on Jeopardy and hope you are filming Kat again soon, you are a special, talented person, I am a senior and have followed you since you were Blossom, now you are all grown up and as a mother I’m proud of you and what you believe and stand for! God bless❤️🇨🇦🙏🙏💐Shalom

[@megrose23]

Same! Also in Canada. I have so much respect and admiration for Mayim. She’s a wonderful role model for young girls and women, and me as a grown ass lady! Such an intelligent, reflective, talented, empathetic human.

[@marvintheys5616]

This is SUPER fresh Mayim and Jonathan!. Guess I'm star struck! God bless! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

[@carolgeorge6409]

This is new for me and you two are awesome together . So glad to find you ❤️

[@jessicaveganjessica2208]

Mayim & Staff: I think it would be great if you could cover EFT/Tapping on an episode! There are several people you could interview for it, including Dr. Dawson Church, who wrote the book that is followed for the clinical studies using EFT. You can find his website and YT channel, there's also The Tapping Solution, with Jessica and Nick Ortner. People can learn EFT in about 5 minutes and once you learn it, it's like riding a bike and you don't forget it. I find it is very useful and works great. Tapping With Brad (Brad Yates) is also a great resource about EFT/Tapping.

[@karen7161]

It is so refreshing how honest you are with yourself - I’m 59 and over the past few months I have embraced my inner self and my life is changing rapidly - I have listened to the teachings of Abraham-Hicks and other teachers with podcasts and understanding that you are a spiritual being living a human experience - which explains your past and what we have all lived through - which was chosen by us before we came here. It was a necessary experience but through teachings such that you shared, we can realize a new experience- one of joy, love, understanding, and appreciation.

[@mishlmao7315]

hi mayim!! i just recently did my yearly/bi-yearly rewatch of the big bang theory & just wanted to wish you all the best, i miss amy & the whole gang but it’s so lovely to see you so happy!! love you!!

[@mrs.e3909]

I agree about phones. I want a cell phone there when I need it, but I don't want to have to feel guilty if I miss calls from people. Not having a land line makes this all the more anxiety inducing.

[@kendallstark4302]

I never feel guilty about getting back to people right away, if I can't. I'll certainly call back as soon as I can; I'm not one of those people who lets days and weeks pass before getting back to someone.

[@vanessawhitneypro]

Love your podcast... Love "Ask Mayim"... Thank You, for sharing your experiences & vulnerabilities... Thank You for caring & for the help... For everyone.

[@MichaelBiebersWorld]

To the point of phone addiction... this is something that I've contemplated about, especially when I look at my daughter's phone usage, because she plays Minecraft and watches KZbin for a long time. I think back to when I was her age, and try to remember the time spent. If I wasn't reading, I was watching TV, or paying videogames for hours at a time. I did rollerblade and play sports, but the time spent on those activities were dwarfed by my videogame time. What is my phone? It's my watch, alarm clock, agenda, music player, video player, camera, camcorder, book, notepad, computer, fidget toy... I think the point, or justification, that I tell myself, is that I'm not addicted to my phone. It just seems that way, because it replaced a load of other things that I would be using in it's place. I've thought about buying an alarm clock. I've thought about replacing the need to grab my phone, by getting a purpose defined thing... but that then becomes a conflict with my minimalism. If the phone didn't singularly do so many things, I wouldn't have it in my hand as often, but something else would be. So maybe my addiction is just doing something.

[@cathywilson8768]

Miam always breaks things down so well. I love listening and learning from this podcast.

[@level-uplearning5095]

Thank you Alyssa! Very helpful.

[@sonialo777]

Such a great episode and I loved the phone addiction segment

[@wildblueline]

I love the way you to converse with eachother🥰 please keep that up every now and then, in between your guests💫

[@orland0110]

Thank you so much for another interesting episode. You answered these questions really well. You are so awesome and intelligent, and your podcast is absolutely amazing Mayim!

[@uyent5501]

This episode is so helpful, thank you Jonathan and Mayim!

[@dianaheilman5163]

OH MY GOD! Thank you for talking about Disassociation. I didn't have a word for that when I experienced it. I too experienced it after I had a c-section. And I had it for over a month. I'd love for you to do more shows on this.

[@karlakuriger2097]

Loved this episode! I personally have been professionally counseled by a woman who uses hand-held EMDR. Mighty effective, especially for PTSD!

[@kathleensullivanrye5868]

I’m ADDICTED to your Podcast!!! What do I do?? :) Seriously LOVE your series… never STOP!

[@m_brokenleg]

Barenaked Ladies are right, Mayim! You have two PhD: one your own and one..Amy’s! 🎓🎓😉Not the honorary PhD from BU (btw my hubby’s “alma matter”) but a sweet wink to TBBT by the good musicians group!💜 Regarding Apps monitoring your sleep quality & time, I couldn’t agree more with Mayim: from the moment I erased all them from my iphone, the bad sleeper here lowered the anxiety thereshold! And even more after putting some short nap (do you know the Middle Age monk & the key they held while napping?) at my regular day schedule! And a question: what the Ophtalmologist docs says about EMDR therapy? Any secondary effect at the eyes? Great episode, and funny one too! Thanks to Mayim, Jonathan, my dear Erin and Eliza!👏🏻👏🏻

[@Historian212]

Hi, I can actually respond to your question about EMDR: the eye movements are well within the natural range of eye motion, and the patient doesn’t do them so often that it would be harmful, generally. That said, there are people who have eye movement issues (sometimes called convergence insufficiency), or other vestibular system issues that make it problematic to do the eye movements. There are other ways that trained EMDR therapists know, that can substitute for the rapid eye movements. These include rhythmic, bi-directional tapping, hand-held vibrating disks that alternate vibrating left and right hands, or the use of headphones that use sounds that alternate ears. For example. My therapist is an EMDR specialist, and since I have convergence insufficiency which can cause dizziness, we used the hand-held vibrating thingies. Research has shown that although the method is still named for eye movement, any alternating, bi-directional method can work. When done by a well-trained therapist. Also, a good therapist would never encourage the use of a technique that would cause serious discomfort - certainly not injury - to their patient. That’s why checking out a therapist’s credentials, training, etc., is so important. I hope this is helpful.

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@Historian212 Great question. Great answer. Mayim tells at the episode something similar. I’ll check with son and daughter-in-law too, both opthalmologist docs though. And if I may, a question: is EMDR really helping you? May I ask how much sessions can be needed? The therapist gave you an initial estimated time at therapy? Please, feel free to answer. I don’t want to seem intrusive.

[@Historian212]

@@marisamartinezolivera Hi, not intrusive at all. But not easy to answer. Every therapist is different, and every patient is different. It took me a long time with my therapist before I was ready for the process. The therapist first must work to establish with the patient a very secure sense of safety and trust. Because they will be accessing traumatic memories, and the patient needs to have full trust in the therapist. Wasn’t easy for me. My therapist went very slowly with me, for that reason. And yes, EMDR really helped me. A lot. I witnessed the attacks on the World Trade Center, and developed PTSD as a result. (PTSD is post-traumatic, and can emerge months or many years after the actual trauma). Now, although I dislike remembering it, and avoid movies and shows about it, I can remember it and talk about it. Literally, before EMDR I had an incident while driving, because I was listening to the radio and the news featured someone describing their experience on 9/11 in NYC, I started reliving it and suddenly realized I was driving but couldn’t remember going from one point to where I was at that moment. I had to pull the car over and reconnect with my body and surroundings so I could get home safely. I don’t get that anymore - and I’m always making sure I don’t let my mind wander while I drive. So, yes, it helped. A lot. Just be sure you have a well-trained person whom the patient feels comfortable with, just on a surface level. It matters. Good luck!

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@Historian212 Hi! Thank you for sharing so brave and openly your experience here. Thank you for your kindness. Stay safe and well.

[@dianaheilman5163]

Also, in addition to EMDR...I've heard about Neuromapping as a treatment for anxiety? I don't know what this is or if it's even supported by science. I think it may not be because insurance don't cover it. I read one study where it was just as effective as a placebo. But for someone like me who suffers from anxiety, we keep hearing about "doing the work" but we're never told what "the work" is. And people tell you to "get help" and so you go to a therapist...and they listen to you talk...but nothing is ever "done." So it's frustrating to feel like there's nothing to be done about anxiety. ONly that we have to get used to it. So when people like me hear about things like Neuromapping and the like... it's easy for us to be taken advantage of because we're desperate to find a solution to our anxiety that can cripple our everyday lives. Your channel helps us see the real science behind things from someone who knows what she's talking about. So thanks for teaching us about these things. It gives us hope and something to search for when we're looking for therapists and their specialties. etc.

[@nicolewilliams2468]

Yet another fascinating episode - I loved it! Definitely want to find a good EMDR therapist for some people in my life.

[@keithmarty]

My phone is part of the scaffolding to help me deal with my ADHD. Setting alarms and reminders for medication times, leave for Dr appt, grocery delivery, switch laundry, etc.

[@Historian212]

As a person with ADHD I can say that I absolutely use my phone to generate dopamine, to block my anxious thoughts, and more. And yes, I fall asleep to KZbin vids and podcasts. I had resisted Tik Tok because I didn’t want to get sucked into it, but I gave in the other day and tried it. The worst! All of the Things, but faster, shorter, and more hyper. Even I can feel how harmful it is. So I took it off my phone. Ugh. Thanks for the encouragement to start backing off the phone. As soon as I’m done with this video, LOL! 🤪🙄😆

[@m_brokenleg]

LOL! 😵‍💫😳🤪😝😝

[@saylemilne7692]

Amazing episode (as always) and I would like to echo the comment made below about having Andrew Huberman on your podcast. It would such an interesting conversation!

[@matiaspereira9382]

Hey Dr Bialik. 5 days ago I finished watching Big Bang Theory. It's the best TV show ever in my opinion. I really want to thank you for your great performance as Amy. You did a great job playing her. She's one of my favorite characters from the show and one of the best fictional characters ever made in my opinion. Nobody could've played Amy Farrah Fowler better than you. You are and always will be one of my favorite actresses ever. I had never identified with a fictional character so much. Thank you for everything your character taught me

[@m_brokenleg]

Way do you post exactly the same thing here episode after episode and nothing related to the episode itself? Waiting Mayim answering you? Mayim quitted answering after few first episodes, pal. I suppose for her own Mental Health wellbeing..

[@Historian212]

@@m_brokenleg Maybe this person has mental health challenges, and repetitive behavior is soothing to them. If you don’t want to read it, just move on. No need to be snarky, especially on a channel that naturally attracts people who may not be neurotypical, or may have other mental health challenges. It’s just KZbin, however you might use the channel.

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@Historian212 I think has nothing to do with suffering mental health issues and repetition but about fanboying..:)) IMHO.

[@matiaspereira9382]

@@Historian212 it's possible I might be. Most of my posts on Reddit are movie anniversaries, lists of the highest-grossing movies in the world excluding re-releases or recreations of movie scenes

[@Historian212]

@@matiaspereira9382 Hi - tbh I was really trying to speak generally, rather than try to guess anything about you in particular. Because I think we need to be aware that there’s a wide range of people in this audience, and maybe we should show compassion and just ignore what we don’t like, rather than shame people. I wasn’t attempting to figure out your particular situation, because how would I know? Which is sort of the point.

[@pqrstsma2011]

14:15 today i finally learnt the difference between AA and AlAnon.... thanks Mayim!

[@debreed2558]

My great grandmother LOVED Sandy Koufax!!!

[@karendelgado2331]

Please have Andrew Huberman on your podcast to explain all things neuroscience and EMDR.

[@saylemilne7692]

Totally agree. The two neuroscientists would have an amazing conversation!

[@Nancy-yw1rr]

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your podcast! Please do, as you suggested you might, an episode on alcoholism. I am recently split from my spouse with NPD who is also a serious binge drinker. I have often wondered why he drinks so much and was very unsuccessful in getting him to even cut back on his drinking. He's 62 now and shows no signs of giving up what many think of as a college age behavior. He is also an exercise addict, and these 2 things strike me as being diametrically opposed. While I recognize that I cannot change any of his behaviors, I'd like to try to understand them as our only child, a grown daughter, has suffered greatly with issues due to exposure to her father from childhood through her early twenties, and I have things to work through from my exposure to him as well.

[@judyann1953]

Fascinating, thx

[@vroberts5269]

I'd like to echo her cautions about attempting EMDR on your own. My individual sessions of EMDR include diving into the memories for no more than 30 seconds at a time, and checking in with the therapist before going in again. After several dives she then directs me to take these memories and visually lock them away in a "vault" so they don't come out during the week, and then meditating on a safe place for as long as necessary to feel secure. If any of this process is rushed for me it results in a several day anxiety attack. Also since my sessions are done via zoom due to Covid I have auditory tones that I play on noise canceling headphones, a tone in each ear at precise intervals so as to access the correct part of the brain. As visual stimulus was not possible over a little computer screen. It took almost a year of therapy with this particular therapist to be ready to do the sessions. My understanding is that it helps you reprocess the memories so they're not so traumatic. They get reframed so they don't affect you in the same way.

[@emilyminchew6131]

I appreciate the question : explain everything on your desk.

[@Gigiyoungerme]

Thank you Mayim 👌

[@jenniferedwards7615]

I LOVE Barenaked Ladies and recognized Ed’s voice right away. He would make a fantastic guest on your show.

[@mexicanspec]

When I am standing in a line it is more interesting to observe and judge the people around me than anything that is in my phone.

[@sarahsmith937]

Hello Mayim, I have wanted to ask you about how do you handle your social anxiety and family members who try to run my life and I have tried to get them to stop and what good advice can you give me to get me through this, thanks

[@annazudis9850]

The talk about alcohol aa alanon ect.. hit home. In the end my husband lost his battle with alcohol

[@elizabethramsey7706]

Mayim really enjoying your breakdown stream - would u ever consider having someone on your show who is not famous & has a trauma /deliverance ministry ?

[@marlenebrown2569]

I had EMDR and I don't remember any of those 8 phases. I also don't remember having anything in particular resolved. What I DO remember is that my therapist had severe chronic headaches and had BRAIN surgery but it didn't help her.

[@RaidenShogun1145]

I thought the same about the theme song! But the second thought told me it is not sang by him immediately. Make up on this episode is easy to observe.

[@Crabbycancer23]

I KNEW IT! I’ve been meaning to ask if The Barenaked Ladies song your intro theme song and just haven’t gotten to it! Ha! I’m good

[@rebeccalara4982]

Thank you

[@lorazick7966]

Thank you Chandler for this episode 🤪

[@emilymclane5965]

This episode is so fun, but I do miss the interviews! I’m guessing none until mid august?

[@marvintheys5616]

I was sold at "The place where we break things down so you don't have to!'! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

[@maiagainza6537]

More call me Kat please!! I LOVE it so mutch!!

[@maggiedynasty1859]

My new Anxiety calming channel

[@lalah9481]

Oh birth trauma… I so wish my boys had an easier entry into the world! I’ve always wondered if the ‘EMDR’(?) stuff could assist me in forgetting the bloody, tough and scary parts. Aren’t we supposed to forget the awful parts so we can get prego again without hesitation? What about long term PTSD? Can this work with that??

[@elieteg6449]

Mayim I love everything you do. You are an example. 😉

[@marisamartinezolivera]

BRAVO! How I loved the ‘phone addiction’ segment of this episode beeing myself an ‘addict’ as Mayim has described it! I liked a lot about how JC speaks about the evil side of a technology I believe we’ve no other solution than to embrace and immerse ourselves in. Probably our brains full of plasticity will evolve differently than our ancestors ones because the very big amount of info we’ll need to process. And at the same time we’ll learn how to manage the new tech better. As happened with all machines and human inventions since the fire itself…We’re just the ‘immigrant’ generation from having no smartphones/tablets/computers to have them from birth. Next generation will use them better. After all, we’re now as monkeys fascinated with new toys (or new working machines…) or fire! 😉

[@amora5085]

I was literally going to search for do it yourself EMDR 🤣

[@susanbrown6458]

Regarding EMDR, Mayim, are you able to explain how it might be related to neurofeedback, if at all? I'm also curious if you could talk about BodyTalk therapy, and how it relates. I'm hearing similarities, but maybe I'm mistaken

[@deborahregen1319]

I am part of the late Baby Boom generation. Like Mayim, for most of my life, I did not have a smart phone. I do now, but fortunately my anxiety level is not so high that I need my phone as some sort of adult pacifier. But when I look around and see how smart phones have become as vital to the human experience as breathing, I jokingly tell others that in the near future babies will emerge from their mother's womb clutching a phone.

[@alexbalistreya]

EMDR would, in my experience, be better described as integrating the traumas instead of leaving them fragmented from our conscious state. Mayim described it as "wiping them clean" but I think this is a strange over simplification, and maybe it was just my experience with EMDR, however, it allowed my brain to resolve the traumas in a kind of healing way unique to me. I would say this was the most profound aspect of my experience with EMDR, how there is a natural resolve, weather it is being able to process and then find some sort of acceptance for what happened in the past, or understand how it specifically affects other areas of my being in ways and discovering a possibility of "being" myself with the new integration of memory or understanding. Overall EMDR is fascinating, and I think it is more a personal experience of integrating our past. Integrating here, in this context, meaning, connecting reality of what happened and finding our resourceful states of growth beyond ill effects from those past experiences. I know some may have issue with the concept of integrating trauma, but I have found integration to be the most profound effects from EMDR. Otherwise the traumas or experiences that have affected us greatly remain hidden or fragmented from our consciousness, effecting us in unconscious ways.

[@justinekessner2645]

!!!!!!!!!!=PASSION!!!!

[@LindaC616]

Speaking to the technology issue, Mayim (I am a tad older than you and didn't get a smart phone until somewhere around 2005). Even though I resisted tying it to work email, once the pandemic started I started picking it up more. That was exacerbated bymovong and living without a TV since last October. And sadly, even before that, the amount I was reading dropped drastically. Anyway...Speaking to the issue of its effects on us, have you had Jonathan Haidt on? (Social psychologist)

[@Buschcat]

...love this woman!!! Wish she was my next door neighbor. B'ezrat HaShem, I will meet her one day.

[@thebigbangtheoryenthusiast4264]

love it I have an Amy bobble head on my desk

[@alerosan3477]

I can't say that I know the english language a 100% but i enjoy to hear both of you speak. Please do the episode of your thoughts about alcoholic behavior.

[@marisamartinezolivera]

Hi Alessandro! Check their website, they did some great episodes about it. And watch them at your own pace. They speak so clearly that it’s very easy for a non native English person as you and me to follow! ;)

[@LindaC616]

@@marisamartinezolivera I feel like Mayim goes a little fast when she gets excited, but I'm sure they have subtitles

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@LindaC616 I was kindly trying to help a fellow non-native in English language here. I don’t need subtitles. Mayim, even if she speaks very quickly sometimes, is very easy to be understood, probably because her acting training. Jonathan is a calmed person and also speaks very clear. And till now no problems with guests here. I use to watch at Apple podcast, a better morning schedule to my country’s timezone.

[@LindaC616]

@@marisamartinezolivera Consider the possibility that someone else's comprehension level is not the same as yours. And if you don't want the subtitles, don't use them. But allow the captions for people who would like them.

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@LindaC616 No one says the contrary. I think you’ve never understood from the first moment my coment to Alessandro. It was a friendly one. And you got it as it wasn’t. Have a nice day.

[@Deisi666]

On the whole phone addiction thing. Do you mean that in some way nowadays, we as a society suffer from anxiety? I know that’s not exactly what you said and I’m sorry if I misunderstood, but as a person with anxiety (self diagnosed 🙈) i found this very interesting.

[@DartJedi]

A cell phone is like chocolate. It is not necessarily going to kill you, but too much is not good. So, I am a little older than you Mayim, I did not get my first cell phone until I was about 31-32. I also had to start carrying a pager for work a couple years earlier and hated it. I got my phone because I was remote for work and needed to have access to my child as a single parent. Here is what I do to remember to not use my phone all the time. The short list: 1. Remember that I once had life before the cell phone and was able to live for 31-32 years without. 2. Tell everyone that I feel comfortable to tell. "The phone is not a leash, don't expect an answer right now". I tell friends, coworkers and family this, and now that my child is 21+ tell them that too. 3. Put the phone down at home an don't pick it up unless it rings or you have to make a call. 4. A phone should not be substitute for entertainment, find something more constructive to do. 5. Do not answer/text while the car is moving, as driver or passenger, it can wait . (emergency exclusion) I know these things are hard for people, but it is like other addictions in that it is a mask for other issues. #2 on the list is the hardest thing, but lowering the perceived expectations of availability is also the most freeing. Other people should not expect you to be able to answer and you should not feel like you have to. Emergencies are an exception, but that is just it, not everything is an emergency. So you missed dinner out with friends, or you did not learn about someones day until you got home. I also do not let work use my phone to get a hold of me device. I know for some this is an issue, but maybe a line needs to be defined. Maybe I did not like sitting next to the wall talking for hours as a teen, (if you are not a Gen X or older you will not understand this) maybe I hate sitting in parking lots in hot/cold cars, and all the other inconvenient things I have done to take calls.

[@ababy6074]

I can't believe how anyone can do a PhD of any kind! It is so stressful, and here in Australia where I live, I found doing postgraduate Honours hard enough and soooo stressful.

[@nancun2837]

What is the name of the self hypnosis style used for pain control during child birth? Where the hypnosis is directed by self and not another person.

[@FiinalFlaash]

25:39 i never thought there would be a title for someone like me lol grumpyholics lol in my case there IS a reason for me to be like that. I love laughing, i love being in a good mood. But im just NATURALLY bad at everything and bad luck seems to be a real thing for me. And so, im grumpy bc a good day is just rare. My face is already reacting to whatever negative thing is gonna happen throughout the day. Thats why i watch the big bang everyday, so i can laugh.

[@loriportnoy993]

I would love to hear your thought on body dis morphia….

[@Barb.....]

PLEASE Mayim, have you heard of this happening? I've had panic attacks when stoned where my mind starts to spiral with insecure thoughts about myself and the paranoia gets so intense that I pass out. (that out of body feeling prior) When I come to, my hands are deformed and locked that way. My fingers are bent at the connecting knuckle to the hand but the other finger joints are locked straight if that makes sense. It takes several minutes for them to begin to loosen and go back to normal. The first time it happened I thought I was having a stroke. Very scary.

[@jess-vs4jf]

Where can we ask questions?

[@mackenzietyler2723]

I did emdr to process ptsd from child abuse. I don't think I gave it much a chance in my early 20s because it didn't seem to work for me

[@Dylan-wn9jq]

Like many people I’ve been confused by the apparent change in Britney Spears from before to now. Without getting specific about Britney’s situation, can you explain what actually happens to the brain during a “mental breakdown” and can it fully recover?

[@ensambleconsultoriabarragan]

Many you discuss is explained at Huberman lab , ask Andrew

[@thebigbangtheoryenthusiast4264]

I love Amy and Mayim to

[@SheepofTheShepherd-nu3lz]

different topic, How often do you get the question about working with Bill Bixby

[@jeanninewelfelt8255]

Do you think EMDR would work for someone (family member, not myself) that is blind?

[@funkiemonkie5976]

Hello mayim,. I miss The Big Bang Theory ... Until now i watch it on netflix season one to twelve, do you think in the future TBBT will have a reunion episode just like Friends and Harry Potter movies.. im a fan qouting Sheldon..... good day mam

[@Authentistic-ism]

I have a free lifeline phone by the government - it's so shitty you can't even see the screen in a public place that is well lit. Easy to ignore it when driving or waiting in line :) I got used to not being on my phone all the time and my friends with high quality modern phones just can't put theirs down.

[@4Kendall100]

Just wanted to note, EMDR is 💯% dependent upon the practitioner and very few holding themselves out there are any good. Yet all of them charge a fortune. It’s so unfortunate such a great modality is so hard to find and afford. A good practitioner can work miracles with EMDR.