The Shocking Link Between Attachment Styles & Mental Health

[@jessicamorales2555]

This video is very powerful. I also love Adam's energy, and compasionate speech. You give us hope. I would also add one comment I have in my mind. Sometimes I have seen that comfort, or better said complacency has to do with the low energy to overcome mental challenges before they become illness. When we add hope, or a goal, or a new project in our lives, no matter the area as long as we take full ownership, it will impact other areas, and will boost our own self esteem. The more challenging, the better. Thank you Adam for all your insights.

[@fringbabyross4718]

I was with a woman with disorganized attachment. That was a very painful experience. She told me that no one ever treated her or her daughter so well. I was good to her and loved her. I can’t understand why she kept pushing me away and was hung up on the “narcissistic” guy before me. It’s like the better I was to her the worse I got treated. It’s like she just wanted a toxic guy

[@sf808opalaman]

Chaos and pain is all they know mentally and physically!!

[@incelgangofone4894]

Same here

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is unfortunately how disorganized style often works until it is resolved, usually with the help of a professional. The urge to sabotage is just so strong.

[@craig3525]

Why were you with a woman with disorganized attachment? my question actually is did you realize or notice this before you got involved? Unlike Adam I don't think it's the urge to sabotage, I think its 2 things...the fact she told you no one ever treated her (and her daughter) so well, actually makes them uncomfortable because it's not what they recognize as a healthy / good relationship. And you can't Love / care about someone more than they do themselves. Because at the end of the day they don't believe they deserve it.

[@monikaleszko5343]

@craig3525 wow well said

[@astudent8885]

This is such an important message, it's a crime that this channel is so underrated

[@AttachmentAdam]

We're getting there - and thanks for your support! That helps a lot!

[@oambitiousone7100]

Just came off a women’s weekend Catholic retreat. I was hacking it with Adam’s teaching as I went through it: how they got us to bond with problem solving, sharing, lots of snacks, rituals, music, appeals to emotion, assurance. It was fascinating to witness and experience it in a distilled encounter.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Once you know what to look for, you can both resist manipulative attempts AND make the process work for you!

[@lindamolyneux3536]

Wow, I just cried through most of this and I believe this is true...wow, so many can reach their potential and heal !!

[@AttachmentAdam]

I’m glad this video brought a helpful impact to you. What was your biggest takeaway?

[@lindamolyneux3536]

The connection between attachment styles and mental health makes so much sense. The beginnings of our family lives and the way we interacted with them, being related to how we learned to think and feel, is so interesting , too, and the hope of better relationships brings incouragement, knowing that a person doesn't have to be stuck, without solutions.

[@la6698]

This video almost made me cry. Just wish I could do more to empower the ones I love that struggle with bad attachment. Thank you for breaking this down in a simple way to understand Adam.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad it was helpful! This is definitely a sad topic at times, but there is so much hope here.

[@lindamolyneux3536]

Thank you for showing us there is hope!

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

Oh my goodness...the underlying connection is so profound...Makes completely sense

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm glad you see it, too. It changes everything, right?

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

@@AttachmentAdam yes it does

[@dvegas]

I agree with you. Fixing my attachment helped fix my anxiety disorder. I’m no where near as anxious as I used to be when I started the work with you. This did take hard changes and boundaries with people I care about, but who were unhealthy for me. I feel like in order for the attachment work to be effective, someone has to admit they have the ability to fix their issues. It’s not easy, especially at first. But it’s definitely worth it! 🙌

[@AttachmentAdam]

I am so glad to hear that my work has been valuable to you! You have definitely put in the work and are making a difference. Keep going! I know you've got this.

[@aliceinwisdom863]

Wish I could like this 1000x over! I agree with this completely!!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear it, thank you!

[@4funner66]

This is the most powerful video on KZbin. Hands down. If every person could watch every second of this, it would be world-altering.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you! I hope we get the word out and more can learn these truths. We CAN turn this thing around.

[@4funner66]

@@AttachmentAdam yes! In the past 2 days my wife and I have come to fully understand our relational dynamic through your work. So, thanks from us. I’m (M) more of the anxiously attached type, but not quite to the extreme as described in some videos. My wife is hardcore avoidant (makes total sense due to childhood circumstance). Any tips on which vids are a good launching point now that we are both aware (after 9yrs! Lol)?

[@MartaHobzova]

I can tell I feel much better and most of my insecurity got solved during applying the steps from your book and bootcamp course. It sounds amazing that fixing attachment is so powerful even in those diagnosis that most people feel helpless about.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for this feedback! I love to hear that people are getting better and finding my tools valuable. Now that you've experienced better - keep going! And build those amazing relationships that fulfill you.

[@Ali-qr2yo]

Wow man, after 33 years of having multiple mental illnesses and having partners with the same issues, I have noticed that all of the mentall illnesses are linked with attachment issues and our parents behaviours, coping mechanisms, hormones ets... I have been studying a lot about each different subject to be able to link between all that, where I came across your video which you said all i was looking for all in one video. I wish I could see you in person man, Cause I have a lot to ask abd digest. God bless you 🙏

[@catboxcleaner3532]

Adam, this is superb. Many thanks.

[@tiffany00nelson]

Dude!!! This makes so much sense!!! Wow.

[@jeffh1266]

Adam, In many ways I needed to hear this today ...after what's been going on the last few days in my life. thanks

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey Jeff, there are times that can feel like total roller coasters of emotion. If you're in one right now, take heart in knowing they cannot last forever. And make sure you reach out to some people you can trust in your own life so you know you are not completely alone in this process. And I'm happy to help as well, as you know.

[@RevMarciaBoyerMinister]

Simply brilliant; thank you so much, Adam.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you liked it! 😊

[@magnarisu156]

That's just brilliant! Thank you so much for bringing up that topic and the link between those two, it can give hope for the better and healthier life to so many people these days. And many thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience, Adam, it's truly precious 🙏

[@AttachmentAdam]

You are so welcome! I'm glad you found this video valuable.

[@sirinhewitt6852]

I couldn’t agree with this more!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear it, I knew you'd resonate with this!

[@barbarathompson384]

Hi Adam. My avoidant attachment style is so profound that I couldn’t even trust you enough to work with you (yes I’m showing you the disorganized portion now my commenting… and I continue to find ways to make progress thru your content. This one was great. Listened several times. Question: with this attachment style we inherently get in our own way by not being able to find how we feel or trust help. Any tips on identifying values? I don’t really know how to trust that I can identify my values when I know Im vigilantly looking for a way to protect myself.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey Barbara, I definitely understand that process. Take all the time you need. And I'm glad you found this video valuable - As to your question, it is very hard indeed to start thinking about values when we are in survival mode. This goes back to Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs (if you're familiar) and keeps us stuck at level 2. The answer for more avoidant folks is often to build the framework under which you could trust someone enough to relax in their presence, and then to filter your people in your life for that criteria first. That decreases the unsafe feeling enough that you can stop just surviving and gain the luxury of thinking longer term about principles and goals.

[@ytpah9823]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🚨 The prevalence of insecure attachment styles in children is now at an alarming rate of 50%. 00:14 🧠 A potential link exists between the high percentage of diagnosed mental illness in Americans and attachment styles. 00:27 🔗 The connection between attachment styles and mental health issues is significant yet often overlooked. 00:42 🎓 Adam Lane Smith introduces himself as a seasoned professional in psychology and attachment issues. 00:57 🤝 Attachment styles are crucial in shaping personal relationships and mental well-being. 01:12 💌 The audience's concern for mental health, especially among women caring for others, is acknowledged. 01:26 📹 The purpose of the video is to educate on the impacts of attachment on mental health, targeting a female audience. 01:53 🌟 Smith aims to reveal the "harsh truth" about mental health and attachment styles. 02:07 👶 Attachment is defined as the early bonds formed with caregivers, affecting future emotional connections. 02:36 💔 The discussion on how a lack of secure attachment can lead to feelings of unworthiness and codependency. 03:03 🛑 The concept of avoidant attachment style is explored, emphasizing a lack of trust in others. 03:17 🔄 The anxious-avoidant (disorganized) attachment style is characterized by inconsistency in relationships. 03:44 🧬 Smith explains how attachment issues can alter the balance of key brain chemicals. 04:11 🧪 The link between attachment styles and the production of neurotransmitters like GABA and melatonin is discussed. 04:39 🤝 Vasopressin's role in problem-solving within relationships is tied to attachment security. 04:52 ☀️ Serotonin is associated with long-term emotional stability, affected by both individual behavior and relationships. 05:20 🍫 Dopamine's short-term rewards are contrasted with the long-term issues caused by attachment problems. 06:03 😔 The psychological struggles associated with insecure attachment are emphasized. 06:58 🗣️ The impact of attachment styles on self-doubt and the reliability of oneself and others is highlighted. 07:13 😨 Performance anxiety and social anxiety are connected to attachment issues and the pursuit of safety. 07:41 🏥 Mental health diagnoses are proposed to have a connection with attachment problems. 08:24 💡 Smith shares insights from his experience in psychotherapy related to attachment and mental health. 08:36 😟 Generalized anxiety disorder is suggested to resemble the effects of poor attachment. 09:18 📈 The potential cause of teenage and adult depression is linked to attachment issues. 10:11 🚨 The speaker suggests that the prevalence of severe depression among teenagers is not normal and may indicate broader societal issues. 10:39 🔗 Discusses the link between attachment, PTSD, and the brain's search for safety following trauma. 11:08 🧠 Explains the conflict between the emotional and logical brain during PTSD and the struggle for sufferers to find safety and understanding. 12:04 💔 Suggests that attachment issues may not cause PTSD but can significantly increase the risk of its development. 12:33 😨 Describes panic attacks as an overreaction of the system already stressed by constant fear, implying that attachment issues could be a contributing factor. 13:00 🔄 Posits that resolving attachment issues may help alleviate anxiety and panic disorders. 13:14 💊 Challenges the notion that bipolar disorder is solely a chemical issue, suggesting that attachment and behavioral issues may play a significant role. 14:22 👪 Highlights a case where family therapy, addressing attachment and behavior issues, led to the remission of bipolar symptoms. 15:05 🔁 Offers a theory that bipolar episodes could be a brain's response to extreme stress by temporarily altering brain chemistry. 16:16 🧩 Suggests that improving family dynamics and attachment can lead to a significant decrease in manic episodes. 16:44 🤝 Shares a study where schizophrenia symptoms were mitigated through family therapy without medication, hinting at the power of addressing attachment issues. 17:37 🌀 Connects personality disorders directly with attachment issues, proposing that these are extreme manifestations of attachment problems. 18:20 🎓 Critiques the medical and psychological education systems for underemphasizing the importance of attachment theory in adult mental health. 19:02 🔄 Argues that mental health issues and attachment issues are intertwined, advocating for a stronger focus on attachment in treatment. 19:31 🔍 Emphasizes the significance of attachment in how we learn to connect with others and how its disruption can lead to various mental health issues. 19:59 📘 The author's book "Slaying Your Fear" is introduced as a tool for understanding underlying issues related to mental health diagnoses. 20:28 🧭 Core values and authenticity in oneself and relationships are presented as the process to fix attachment issues. 20:58 💞 The significance of secure, stable, and loving relationships in addressing attachment issues is emphasized. 21:26 ⏳ It is highlighted that it's never too late to work on attachment issues, with an example of a 79-year-old woman who successfully worked through hers. 22:19 🌱 The potential for healing within families and creating a positive legacy through working on attachment is noted. 22:33 🧠 The role of attachment in enhancing brain chemicals related to connection and bonding is discussed. 23:15 💁‍♀️ The unique role of feminine energy in nurturing and healing through attachment is highlighted. 24:00 🤝 A story of a client illustrates the power of feminine energy in improving a depressive brother's mental state through connection and nurturing. 24:55 🗣️ Secure attachment interactions and open communication about needs and expectations are key to healthy relationships. 25:22 🚀 The attachment boot camp video course is offered as a resource for building authentic relationships with oneself and others. 26:04 🌟 The potential for not just fixing but enhancing attachment in relationships is stressed as a means for greater fulfillment. 26:32 💡 The video ends with an encouragement to believe in the power of love and authentic connection as the best 'psych medicine'. 26:46 🌍 A call to action is made for the viewer to use their feminine energy to heal and bring positive change in the world.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Quite thorough. Thank you.

[@innisneill7510]

Those are not „quick takeaways“ at all. These ai-generated summaries are badly done and annoying all across youtube.

[@TheKatoreilly]

Love this messge❤

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear this resonated with you!

[@Detour-2002]

How about this episode of podcast? I have been diagnosed PDST since my early to mid 20s was given Prozac, but I quit taking them shortly after I was prescribed I’ve simplify my life since then I avoid stress at all costs although sometimes it’s unavoidable then it takes me days to get over this situation in the meantime, I am waiting to read your book :-) my fears, and I could actually know what to do. Thank you Adam.👍

[@AttachmentAdam]

I am so glad to hear you are finding the answers now! The road can seem so hard when no one is clear about what you're supposed to do - but with the truth, you can make some great changes. Let me know how I can support you as you move forward in your journey.

[@Invisibility397]

I believe that it's the 7 decades of women living in Chronic & Acute Stress & Anxiety. Autism (Narcissistic, Sociopathic) Asbergers Syndrome (Psychopathic) increases in young children. This is the best outcome possible for everyone involved

[@AttachmentAdam]

Sorry, do you mean that you think Asperger's syndrome is psychopathic?

[@Invisibility397]

@@AttachmentAdam kinda seems like it's in the 15 symptoms on active beat's site and on others as well. Yet that's only the effect. The cause? I believe that it's the Mental Environment of the woman who chooses to pick the men she does for 25 years then thinks that the good man will gladly be the next free ride through life. Like we don't remember what we experienced in our 20's... we really need to start connecting the dots from lifestyles to physical conditions for the opportunity to learn what can be done to cure people who have no say in the life they are born to. While we celebrate the adults who are the root cause of the problems of the future

[@dvegas]

What is your advice for interacting with people diagnosed as Bipolar, but who consistently stonewall and promise things they don’t deliver? The only resolution I’ve found is massive boundaries. I have not been able to communicate effectively otherwise. Prior to doing this, I tried to no avail to communicate with them. And my anxiety spiked as a result. It was unhealthy for me and for them. They supposedly go to some level of therapy, but I think it’s more for managing symptoms rather than fixing trauma or attachment??

[@AttachmentAdam]

Keep in mind that while we should be considerate and compassionate of others, we cannot let someone's diagnosis override our life or be a reason for constantly violating out boundaries in a way that makes us feel unsafe. You are within your rights to draw lines with what you are capable of tolerating. And encouraging them to do their own work to resolve some of their behavioral issues specifically, that is OK.

[@weremiuk]

Great fingers symbol!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Uh oh, what did I do? 🤣

[@thegamingbros1199]

Hey Adam, can you make a video on dopamine binging I heard you bring it up in a video but I can’t no info on the internet online about it

[@AttachmentAdam]

I do talk about that a lot, what aspects of it are you more curious about?

[@thegamingbros1199]

@@AttachmentAdam like the causes and how to fix it

[@Foxie770]

10:31 it’s not surprising that kids are doing so poorly. Moms are not being moms and dads are emasculated. Almost 50% of households in America are fatherless today. It’s not surprising that kids are struggling and are being raised by peers instead of their family.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Families are being broken down by the system, and it's getting worse. We've got to fix that before we can fix anything else.

[@david9920]

Thank you Adam lane Smith my hope is that 150,000,000People See this video like you use it Knocked it out of the park with this 1I have been using the things such as Living from my honor code in setting reminders on my phone It has helped immensely Thank you. I am building my loving tribe around me A person does not have to live from Perfection just from who they truly are The things you said about female nurturing was amazing. The polarity of the masculine and the feminine Truly a journey to the self.building trust love and Connection Is more important Then Building a A cursed wealth that doesn't benefit eney one

[@AttachmentAdam]

Sounds like we agree on all of this. I am glad you found this video valuable in your journey. Let me know how I can help support you as you move forward.

[@jimmy6886]

I thought it was higher than 50%. I thought it was around 2/3.

[@carlnakouzi555]

What if your brain is like that, missing all the chemicals including dopamine? Thankful for your channel

[@AttachmentAdam]

Then it's time to fix the relationship and attachment issues that are leading to this breakdown. Doing that can help a lot!

[@robertdeskoski9783]

You can't be missing dopamine. Dopamine is needed to help keep you awake and for your muscles to move smoothly (this is why Parkinson's is a dopamine based disorder). You can have less sensitive receptors and less dopamine reuptake, but you'll still have dopamine.

[@alphaomega3766]

We are social creatures but our society has become deeply broken.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I agree, this is true.

[@craig3525]

The issue I have with your "attachment style" label is especially in todays environment it allows for "victim" mentality and it can't be addressed singularly. Which I think is where it really needs to happen. I do believe you are correct in your assessment of parental relationships effecting people / kids even to the point of what many would consider mental issues. But I think it def depends on an individuals interpretation as well, that's why children growing up in the same household have different experiences. We all grow-up with a personal "Stockholm Syndrome". This is how we identify "love" / security. I think what needs to happen more is personal responsibility and more individual strength of character. I think we are now in a sense too attached, or see that as a necessity, which then compromises our truth. I think fostering and nurturing, or being able to be okay with a sense of detachment is more important. Because then you can look at the things that are creating issues personally, in family, relationships, societally and address them without attachment to them or feeling of obligation.

[@jacktaylor1801]

It's hard to make money from fixing the problem, but addicting people to drugs creates a lifetime customer. Glad I stopped trusting doctors about 20 years ago.

[@AttachmentAdam]

A lot of people do feel they are not getting adequate care anymore. It's sad to see so many turn away from the system that was designed to help them. Hopefully we can transform that system to be more useful to the people who need help.

[@hectorp7006]

A disrupted gut-brain axis will negatively impact mental health. Optimizing the gut microbiome with appropriate diet will help achieve self-improvement goals.

[@AttachmentAdam]

There are a number of issues to examine, it's true. And your thoughts on attachment?

[@hectorp7006]

@@AttachmentAdam A healthy gut microbiome is an important source of endogenous serotonin, GABA, dopamine and norepinephrine or their precursors, This meshes well with the neurochemistry of attachment.

[@Foxie770]

0:38 The truth is, decades of pawning off children on strangers all day so mom can “work” outside the home have led to major mental health issues, the breakdown of marriage, and the destruction of society. It starts at home. With husband & wife, mom being the primary caregiver or at the very least, a female relative (granny, aunt, sister). Dad needs to be the leader and conquer the outside world.

[@AttachmentAdam]

We definitely need to solve this family crisis before we can fix anything else.

[@Jesuswalks7475]

Can semen retention cure bad attachment styles?

[@AttachmentAdam]

I have never heard of that being helpful.

[@JannaMeyer]

Feminine energy can’t do its job when her partner expects her to work full time AND be a great mom and wife. And then resent you because you’re too mentally torn, rushed and exhausted to give others what they need. It’s no wonder why most divorces are initiated by women. We have nothing left to give and are tired of the implicit blame for everything that goes wrong.

[@fitwithartin]

I have a critic. I think your videos given the content can be presented in a shorter form.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for the feedback!

[@SD-mi2vc]

Become sasuke got it

[@AttachmentAdam]

🤣

[@SD-mi2vc]

@@AttachmentAdam you watch naruto damn. Didnt think you get that lol