Audience Suggestion | Why Martell Sabotaged His Life: 4 Reasons Men Push Good Women Away

‪@Theblackbumblebee‬ suggested that I review this view where a man explains four reasons why good women are pushed away by men:
1. The man doesn't want to do better
2. The man is intimidated by a woman who knows who she is an is a critical thinker
3. Can't control the woman
4. The man ain't worth a damn
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[@mindoflilith]

I'm going to do a follow up for this topic bcuz I didn't provide enough examples of how/why Martell pushed Melody away; I'm also going to include commentary about Tisha and Kimmie. Thanks @The Black Bumblebee!

[@sexybrownsugar7862]

I am a 77 year old senior citizen and I listen to you alot. You remind me of my mother and father. your knowledge is very important and it comes from wisdom they told all about men when I was very joung. I love 💘❤💕your wisdom. Keep talking our culture needs it especially our beautiful queens. Thanks so much 🙏.

[@inotherwords1177]

Yesssss! I decided after my divorce I didn’t want to live with another man if I get married again. I love my space and time to myself and I don’t desire to share the same home anymore! I can relate to you when you express not wanting to see a man everyday.

[@trishonya]

Martell has got by on hood looks…Mel was the brains behind the business and he got jealous of her so he went to someone less than to try and make her feel bad about herself and he never thought she would leave like she did…now he wants her back!

[@vanessabarnesmiller6015]

In my opinion, his starting a relationship with AC was more to make him feel good about himself than it was to make Mel feel bad. His feelings of inadequacy and lack of self-esteem led him to finding someone to idolize him, which in turn gave him a sense of self-importance. AC's limitations played right into Martell's scenario of being superior. In his mind, her lack of maturity, self-esteem, and socio-economic status elevated him well above her, which allowed him to call her a peasant.

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

Remember when Martell was asked what made him cheat on Melody of all women, why lovely Mel?! MARTELL SAID "GREED...I WAS GREEDY". This is a Deadly Sin that a lot of Men are possessed by: Greed.

[@tangajTANG]

Martell said in an early interview that he had a class with Melody and noticed how smart she was and knew she was going to be successful and has to lock her down. With Melody's ability to help motivate individual; I feel he uses those qualities to get her to do his papers to pass classes. With her falling for him I am.sure she was willing to contribute to him completing courses, etc He love bomb the naive young woman and monopolized her time everyday so no other man would enter her life, to lock her down as his golden goose. (Pimp mentality) Present day, he sees Melody as his POSSESSION (like Suga momma sees her)

[@divaslm1]

Suga momma is like Melody. You see the pictures, she looks just like her.

[@vanessabarnesmiller6015]

I don't agree that Suga Mama sees Mel as her possession as much as she is possessive where Mel is concerned because she only received/receives unconditional love from Mel and that unconditional love was/is given in abundance since Martell was/is a little reserved from Melani. If you all recall, Martell said to Mel that he wanted her to be the primary parent with Melani since he wanted to pull back from that role a bit. In my opinion, this was his feeble attempt to relegate Mel to a lesser role in an attempt to diminish her shine. Remember, he also was complaining a great deal about Mel taking on too many things that were not generating money while he was busy with endeavors that were generating wealth/income. So, for that reason, I believe, Suga Mama clings more to Mel. If you notice, she is reserved and far removed when she is with Martell. She is just biding her time until she can get back to her mom where she can shine and be herself.

[@tywonex2]

@Tawanda Hill I think she was piggy back on what Mel said regarding how Suga Mama treats her. Mel was just joking around.

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

WOE & WOW! I completely Agree

[@tangajTANG]

@@divaslm1 LOOKS like Melody BUT has Martell's possessive ways.

[@bluefish5145]

Have you ever took notice to Martell sticking up for Arionne when Mel mention her behavior, educational status and so forth? Martell felt the need to protect her because everything Melody said was true about her mental status and behavior. Arionne's most recently videos really shows that she is individual with special needs. Her conversational level is at grade 2. Martell himself also has a lower level cognitive and he covers it up with over using phrases like "most definitely" and so forth. He also loves winning arguments rather he is right or wrong but the big issue with Melody is he never wins and he is unwilling to listen and take advice. He can easily lead Arionne to the desert, leave her and come back later to pick up her up and she's OK with it. Melody on the other hand is to smart for him and that puts a frog in his throat and that b angers him because now he has to lie more and still end up losing the argument.

[@Seaney4eva]

great Observation!!

[@mindoflilith]

Yes, I talked about this several months ago. Martell wants Arionne to look good because people will compare her to everything he's lost.

[@bluefish5145]

@@mindoflilith This last video Arionne posted when the Holts were on vacation her mental status was so obvious I felt bad and I started to comment on the post half way thru I stopped and erased it. It suddenly clicked in my mind she's "handicapped". She also lies a lot and does remember or cares to remember what she's has said previously. She wants to be in love with Martell always believe it or not. Therefore Melody is her trigger point. She has stepped into the lions den unprepared with lack of knowledge She thought in her mind it would be easy to take Martell from his marriage and family. Why Melody have anything to do with Martell outside child when Arionne didn't care about her children. There has never been reconciliation between the wife and side chick .

[@T-T-gmom]

Exactly

[@lakithameaux8121]

Dang can I share this comment.. u are goodt...

[@cynthiagarrett6060]

After all the mess from yesterday, I am convinced Arionne and Martell both taste sounds and hear colors. Something is OFF, OFF about both of them for real.

[@T-T-gmom]

Totally Agree 💯

[@charlahenry]

You are so right, I was married for years and miserable , he left 3 years ago and I've never been happier, I will never live with anyone! It's nothing like having your own space and peace ✌️

[@mindoflilith]

It's sad how so many wives are miserable in their own homes.

[@Andrea-gk1cd]

I feel the same way ! I am a introvert and I enjoy my own company and I'm happier being alone. I realize this in my early 30s that I am more focused and I accomplish more of my goals when I am single. Relationships are a distraction for me and be overwhelming for me, I tend to lose myself. So 9 years ago I stopped being in relationships. Like yourself, I enjoy my own space and I love my privacy. I don't even like sleeping with anyone 😂🤣 Tfs ❤

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

Amen 🕊️

[@sexybrownsugar7862]

Melody needs a court order against coleslaw and Martell needs to shut her up.melody doesn't have to deal with this child and her baby. Melody was Martell wife and they decided to cheat together and now a baby is here.little girl get a life.

[@SG-kp5hi]

Martell needs to shut her up or stop discussing his Ex with Arionne. Cuz she acts like she is in competition with Melody.

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

This is why Melody do not need that man. He served his Will of God by bringing 4 children to his Family. Deed Done!

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

@@SG-kp5hi the Side-Slave is a Virgo, who are the sign of Challenges. It's her nature to Challenge & Compete. She probably don't love Martell bcuz it's about the Challenge and Martell weak ass is Encouraging the Foolery

[@Weneed2chg357]

@@SG-kp5hi ..... her family or someone needs to remind this woman that her competition is the air because Mel divorced this man and he still has not wife(d) her up, but steady blowing smoke up her ass to antagonize an ex-wife who doesn't give a good got damn!

[@evettebell3976]

That is so true you have to know your self

[@paulettablock6901]

Excellent commentary! Thank you!

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

Remember when Martell was asked what made him cheat on Melody of all women, why lovely Mel?! MARTELL SAID "GREED...I WAS GREEDY". This is one of the 7 Deadly Sins that a lot of Men are possessed by: Greed, Lust/Temptation, Wrath, Slothful (lazy), Gluttony (food, money, sex, etc.), Pride, and Murder (emotions can be murdered according to the Spirit)

[@KathySimoneR-Colbert]

😊😊😊😊

[@divaslm1]

Lilith, I have been waiting for this analysis. 🙌 Why would a man who is in upper middle class/millionaire status due to his wife affiliate with criminals to go back to poverty where he came from?

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

It's FAMILIAR

[@marilynwilson7438]

Lill, you are what we as woman need to hear and some men also bless you and thank you 😊🙏

[@mindoflilith]

You are so welcome!

[@pamscott7430]

Hello Ms. Lady, and thank u for your views and perspective.

[@mindoflilith]

You are so welcome

[@trenapitts6462]

Hello, You're always speaking FACTS!!!

[@sspresswood3]

I agree…

[@carolynminter162]

Yep in fact she has said this before about Martell and why he ruined his marriage. I can't wait to hear more.

[@carolynminter162]

I'm so much Lilith and I'm so glad that even though I got married to a man who even though he is just 3 yrs older than me. He understood me and understood why I needed to be alone at times and he always said I think more like a man than a woman. Now that use to make me mad because I'm a woman, but the more I talked to other people especially men. I knew my husband was telling the truth. I learned to love myself for who I was even if it was weird to some or not.

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

Weird? Read Scripture to find out that We are supposed to Love ourselves 1st, foremost and forevermore. Loving others is what we do as an Action word (verb) relationship with other's are a give&take...get Wise bcuz if Men say your decisions are man-like, that means You Are Logical with your Decisions/Discernment and make Good Judgement/Discernment for your WellBeing

[@prettygyrlny7115]

Lady when I say I thought I was alone but sis I do not want to live w my man either I need MY SPACE and my last relationship it worked he had his place I had mines for 9 yrs cause I just cannot ‼️ Great commentary as always 💯💯‼️😍

[@mindoflilith]

Exactly!!

[@venessao.7285]

Thanks!

[@lynwill9946]

I agree. Martelle dated coleslaw because she’s not challenging to him. He is a step above her. Remember, Martell called her a peasant. Confirmation that he believes he’s a step above her. He can control coleslaw. He does not have to work hard to maintain with coleslaw. However, with Melody, he has to step up his game, which he either cannot, or will not do.

[@carolynminter162]

I also think that the high profile people that Mel was dealing with. Slowly began to realize that Mel was the brains of the business and he wasn't. That made him feel less than. I believe that Martell always knew in the back of his mind that he could NEVER be the man that Mel deserved because he would NEVER be on her level.. Martell didn't go to Coleslaw because he didn't love Mel. He went because he felt that was where he belonged. All those excuses about sex and Mel not doing this or that. It all boils down to the fact that he knew he couldn't be comfortable where Mel was going.

[@Theblackbumblebee]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿☝🏿☝🏿☝🏿☝🏿

[@trishonya]

Sounds about right!

[@tywonex2]

Yessss

[@T-T-gmom]

Exactly 💯

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

TRUE but I believe people don't Seek to Cheat. Martell was at a party, saw Coleslaw, was attracted to Coleslaw, they exchanged numbers and that's when cheating starts... exchanging phone numbers

[@punkinpunkin6524]

Awesome commentary on a thought provoking topic!

[@yogicdance240]

Ok, Uranus in the 5th. I understand more about your POV now! Very interesting!

[@marilynwilson7438]

Misty Blue, I love your truth and. Bless you and your new journey to a much better life YESSSSS👍👍🙏🙏😊

[@tangajTANG]

2, 3, and 4

[@kianidavis2042]

I think similarly to you!

[@trisha1989]

🚩Number 3 sums it all up for me! When they can’t control you they will try to destroy you!!! 🚩

[@divaslm1]

FACTS

[@T-T-gmom]

Y-E-S

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

Like children and pet dog's. When they yearn attention they will do Bad Things around the house

[@tw4232]

FACTS on FACTS🤡

[@jesseenblanks3428]

Sex is different from romance,and intimacy!

[@thestudtherapist2435]

You have an interesting take on dynamics in marriage, what about this lillith. What if you guys are a power couple in your respective careers and have a huge home with your own separate wings of the house including a guest house? Would that suffice your level of privacy while still being connected to your spouse? If you were intellectually stimulated on a level that was unmatched never before experienced do you feel that boundary could be revisited? Soooo many perspectives with this topic.

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

Women adopt this way of life after being mistreated as if we're Owned like pet animals (my cat is a House Ornament). Your home is supposed to be your Refuge / Place of Peace to run from the outside/world. Scripture says that Man should not be alone, nevertheless, women Can be alone. We were made especially for men going off to wars, exploration, making money and bringing it home. That's time spent Alone

[@thestudtherapist2435]

@@kenyagreen-Maat honestly, that was the dynamic because there were more of a plethora of careers that required extensive stays away. I believe women who adopt this stance have created a defense mechanism to control their environment from someone getting too “close” to them emotionally. Lillith perceives and digests information and behavior from a logical standpoint, not considering any form of emotional exploration. I could suspect her heart chakra is blocked due to previous traumatic experiences or has no experience with processing her feelings with emotion. Sapiosexuals need intellectual stimulation in order to form a level of closeness with a partner. If this is the case for lillith this would be equivalent to a person never falling in love but longing to experience it. If she found someone who could intellectually stimulate her on a language she resonates with I do believe her viewpoint would be flexible. The reason I feel she didn’t respond to my post is because she’s never considered someone being able to match her intellectually so she had no clear response to my question. Hopefully, she puts some thought into my position I took on this and is willing to open her heart some day to the right man who is compatible with her intellectual needs.

[@evettebell3976]

I love yoUR comatery it is calm

[@bluefish5145]

Arionne has facial characteristics of an "Elf" like the ones that are on "The Grinch That Stole Christmas".

[@mariedavis8622]

11:25 mark I love it

[@639ONELOVE]

Soo good!

[@angelajackson5797]

Lilith, you’re far from boring.

[@nelly4692]

I would love for you to do yung Miami and Diddy…she has been getting so much backlash online and people seem to be laughing at diddy for dealing with a city girl..I think their relationship is transactional and he is using her to get hot again but I would love to hear your thoughts

[@mindoflilith]

I don't know much about that story, but I'll do some research and share my thoughts in a couple of days.

[@nelly4692]

@@mindoflilith thank you

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

I do know that a Queen & a King ASKs the RIGHT questions....I hear you will do well with an Aries Man which are naturally Alpha yet extremely in-tune with All emotions. They express, verbalize and take action

[@gwendolynbeatty2058]

When NFL SCOUTS are looking for you they pursue you.

[@Weneed2chg357]

LOL!!!!!!!! YEZZZZZZ!!!!!!!! Nailed it! They know potential when they see it!

[@CandieTalks]

Do you think that it is possible for a man to feel secure with a woman that makes significantly more than he does? What about couples where the man "builds" while with the woman, any thoughts? Lol

[@evettebell3976]

You have standers

[@Noki_budgets]

Wow! this commentary was so good! I enjoyed every second of it and you remind me so much of me :)

[@mindoflilith]

Glad you enjoyed!

[@kenyagreen-Maat]

Love is a VERB

[@_empresslioness]

Can you do a video on martell and his recent appearance on this show on FoxSoul called Cheministry on a panel called rejection and the stuff he was saying and not saying.

[@wambui5652]

I know many people dislike Marsau but atleast he always been a provider for his family all along🤐🤐

[@Theblackbumblebee]

Thanks!

[@mindoflilith]

You're welcome!