Autism Meltdown at the Playground with a Happy Ending

[@Bexarbestlawyers]

I got choked up when he said, "I guess the scary slide wasn't scary"

[@kimsutton4814]

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[@belindabrelsford1615]

To some people this may sound cruel but mum has done a brilliant job dealing with Rafael and his fears ect but if you look at how he is today they have done amazing hes like a different child and alot happier well done Andrea and Rafael. xxx

[@nihonious5647]

agree...

[@davelpz3340]

I also agree

[@retrogamingmodding2262]

As someone with autism the mum is doing an excellent job (I’m also looking at this (I have the same type of autism as the kid and I was very uncontrollable as a kid) and I’m going “god how the hell did my mother put up with me”) hope he is like me and turns out being one of the best people you could ever meet.

[@cjtramm8]

I do remember having to do these things with my daughter. I would want to stomp and cry too. You do a great job. Raphael is becoming a lovely boy. All because mom does such a great job with the children

[@zacbain1868]

I agree

[@elliott_hunter0510]

Good on you for making him do it, he has to face his fears. I had separation anxiety from my mom when I went to school, but I had to go everyday. So I faced them naturally. I couldn’t sleep over at anyones house until I was in my teens since I didn’t wanna be away from her. Things are scary, but in order to be safe you have to try things, especially in a situation like this. I compare it to quick sand. The longer you wait, the harder it is to do. The longer I stayed with my mom in the morning the worse it was. Just gotta get it over with. Like a bandaid. For example, lots of times standing in line for a scary roller coaster is harder than the thing itself. You deserve a Nobel prize or something because you have to “deal” with his mental differences. And you do a great job 👍🏼

[@FoolyLiving]

Oh my, that actually sounds a LOT like my social anxiety. You explained it so spot-on!!! I think I was meant to be my kids mom because they do struggle with a lot of things that I myself have struggled with and still struggle with. It is so nice to help that at such an early age, to be able to cope with the things that I wasn't able to cope with as a child because no one understood me. It is so good that you rip that bandaid off and get out there and do the scary things!! THAT is living!

[@soniabennett1674]

Oh, what a sweet child. Sad to hear him get so upset. It was great to see him get through his fear. Mom did a great job. ❤

[@kennethmarkel4720]

This is so wholesome and beautiful. I love the fact your so patient with him even though it's very hard sometimes. Props to you, you're doing your very best.

[@juvy-1223]

Even tho it looks like she’s pushing him she’s doing a really good job. To be honest it’s a little hard to watch but in the long run this mom deserves a day or weekend maybe even a week off

[@bxtman1]

Fax

[@Dankpressure]

I’ve followed her ever since this little guy was 3 the autism video and if you look now at how well he handles things she did amazing ❤️

[@FoolyLiving]

Thanks so much, guys. He is doing incredibly well and I havent seen him be afraid of too many things after this. In fact, we went back to this same park not too long afterwards and he showed everyone how pro he was at the slide np! lol! Thanks again!

[@wiggleroom6847]

I have no way to understand what is too much pushing for a child who is so sensitive to sensation, sounds, experiences... I would need TONS of parenting-teaching

[@jsmith317]

I remember being petrified of going down such a slide when I was a kid. My dad finally convinced me, too.

[@AfraidMonsters]

Not enough parents force their kids to push themselves and make them do real life things. Honestly I think this is partly the reason I’m so dependent on my mother and people supporting me, sadly. My mom like never made me do things on my own, pay for stuff myself, etc. When I’m a parent I’m going to make my children pay for things at stores all the time at a certain age. And do things in their own all the time, give them an allowance at age 13+. Etc. I feel like I was never taught lessons of individuality I needed. You’re good for making your kids learn these life lessons and learn to do things on their own

[@lc4life369]

Idk that's a pretty crappy excuse if your still being dependant on your mother. It's like you know your in the wrong for expecting her to take care of you and your blaiming it on her. She is just a mother who selflessly gives you everything because she doesn't want you to struggle/ be unhappy. You can decide not to take it. Show your mom your capable of taking care of yourself. I garentee that would make her worry about you alot less. I used to depend on my mom alot too but I chose not to at some point because I know she won't be around forever. I wanted her to know I can take care of myself before she left this earth and it's the best thing I could of done for myself and for my mother. She's not laying in bed worried about me all the time anymore. She knows I'm ok and can take care of myself. That's the best gift you could ever give your mom. Trust me.

[@jesusyouneedhim]

@@lc4life369 Well if you’re raised a certain way, you’ll grow up and act a certain way. It’s just reality.

[@andread8]

My daughter did this at the park at this age too with the slide. She actually did it yesterday with some steps at the park that she thought she couldn't do. Thanks for the reassurance I am not alone. It's not mean to "make them" do things, I get told often it's no big deal to win the battle...YES, YES IT IS!! It is worth it!

[@Hwoman1123]

same thought here. people think they r children and its ok to let them win.. but my point is they r children why should they b stubborn!... my niece is like this at times specially about her mobile addiction, and her lack of interest in studies

[@AfraidMonsters]

Not enough parents force their kids to push themselves and make them do real life things. Honestly I think this is partly the reason I’m so dependent on my mother and people supporting me, sadly. My mom like never made me do things on my own, pay for stuff myself, etc. When I’m a parent I’m going to make my children pay for things at stores all the time at a certain age. And do things in their own all the time, give them an allowance at age 13+. Etc. I feel like I was never taught lessons of individuality I needed.

[@lc4life369]

Idk about that. Sometimes situations like this can make things far worse. Luckily that wasn't the case this time.

[@saffsuff]

I see some comments saying "don't judge " my mind can't comprehend why would someone criticize your parenting ... People pay professionals thousands of dollars to provide this kind of couching to kids..and you ARE his mom ..he gets this 24/7 ...he is a smart lovely kid and he is lucky to have a mom like you .. seriously I can't imagine how exhausting this must be. Sad thing is we r definitely becoming too freaking soft "don't push him " !! Will you help her raise him ? No ..then watch and learn. Respect and good luck for both of U.

[@FoolyLiving]

Thank you. He's doing so well because of the experiences that he gets when he pushes himself to do things - or gets a little push from us to try it. I appreciate your comment! I was terrified this day though! I did not want him to fall on his head down those steps!

[@thetalkwithmthakazi2494]

Your patience is amazing love from South Africa.

[@janegallagher95]

Please don't judge , she knew what she was doing .

[@FoolyLiving]

Thank you, there are a LOT of reasons why this was handled this specific way, and he went on subsequent trips where he just went down the slide and had a good time!

[@alexishewett916]

@@FoolyLiving hi

[@alexishewett916]

@@FoolyLiving i have autism too, and haven’t had a meltdown about going down a scary slide at a playground but have had meltdowns before 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@zacbain1868]

Yeah your right

[@messeduphina566]

He's a brave boy now and much more open to exploring. It's amazing how the parents have dealt with his ocd and fears

[@pochunwong7]

Patience with some pushing, then more patience with more pushing, but done it with so much caring love ❤️. The boy had trust in his mother’s firm and warm voice, he knows the unconditional love of his mother well 👍🏼👏🏼🎈

[@ceIIardoor]

Omg FINALLY a parent that actually guides and makes their kids do "scary" things to teach them that they can overcome things in life and not run and cry and scream about every little uncomfortable thing they don't want to do.

[@maykwl7719]

maybe I sound dumb but I feel him so hard in this moment, I literally began to cry because I was (and still am a bit) scared of this type of slides and I still need to push myself to do this, worst with water slides because I'm scared of dying in some way (even if this doesn't make sense I know) It's important to do those things even if it's really scary, to notice that it's fun and not bad at all

[@magmaken7274]

Yep agree

[@ExodusRae]

I’m 32 and most water slides still scare me so don’t feel bad

[@FoolyLiving]

It's a somewhat irrational fear, I can understand.. I have issues riding in a car with someone else driving. I'm always feeling like they are going to fall asleep or look away and we're going to crash. Although it could happen, the possibility is really low. What I've done with Rafael since he has autism and OCD, is to push him a bit and reassure him that nothing bad will happen either way. He only needs one try to see if he likes it or not. Exposure therapy works both ways. If you're afraid of something, expose yourself more to it until you are not afraid of it. It takes a LOT of work at first, but eventually you will be fearless!

[@leahferre21]

Exactly. Even if he didn’t like it, he now knows that and can choose something else to go on. You’ve always gotta try or you’ll never know!

[@girlboss4446]

Please don't judge he said it wasn't scary in the end she needed to push him if she didn't he would of never knew how fun it would be

[@thrivinginlife5625]

Go momma!!! That’s SO hard! You didn’t give up-you chose the hard road to help him overcome his challenges. He’s so lucky to have such amazing parents!

[@alyssa_the_noodle5228]

It had to be done. If he doesn’t break through barriers he will never improve. Every barrier he breaks leads him closer to success. If you just follow compulsions they will become stronger and stronger

[@jaygurley9621]

Hello 👋🏿. I’m an autistic 23 year old that also has Asperger’s… I just wanted to say always keep y’all heads up and don’t let anything or anyone bring y’all down. Everyone is unique. Peace and love from New Jersey… ❤️✌🏿💯

[@andersen6422]

I assume that this sort of insistent assistance will help a child who is stymied by their fears and restrictions to begin to believe in themselves and their ability to go beyond fear and limitations. I would not have pushed my son to the point of distress but he was not autistic nor had OCD and so I must look at this mother (and others like her) with new eyes. Watching these videos are helping me understand children in public places who are having breakdowns and the parents who are not reacting in the way that I would expect.... the way I was raised and the way I raised my son. My own heightened sensitivity to distress and loud noises would prevent me from remaining but I am glad to have had this experience so that I might grow in compassion and understanding for these children and their parents.

[@FoolyLiving]

Well-thought out comment. I appreciate it very much. When a kid has a meltdown in public, all eyes are on the parents, but they miss most of the story behind the meltdown and they judge instead of being understanding. A little compassion and grace goes a long, long way! Thank you!

[@Joooo_Ji1]

Props to Andrea, she’s doing an awesome parenting

[@jancymathappan5751]

Rapheal you are strong you can come down from the slide like a super man . Good boy. God bless you.

[@SeekerOfTheTruth00]

I would have been scared to death too if I was his age... He finally faced his fear and found it was fun!!! What a beautiful soul...

[@Gyroeg]

His success is his mom's success too, it was a long moment but it was really refreshing when they got to the happy ending. Wish most parents were the same.

[@marekabrooks207]

My son has autism. That’s the way u have to do!! U have to! They won’t flourish!! U have to help them face their fears sometimes.

[@FoolyLiving]

We know!!

[@novablake6305]

I’ve been watching your video ever since the pudding cup one and I must have skipped this one. You deserve so much respect for caring enough to work with him and help him overcome his fears. He’s so lucky to have you as a mother. One day he will look back at this video and should thank you, which I’m sure he will because you have done such an amazing job raising him this far. High hopes for Rafaels success. He has so much potential and such a supportive mama.❤

[@sr6061]

I've watched this. As a special education teacher and mother. It is not uncommon for children to be afraid. Especially those children who have abilities that need special attention or individual instruction. Having children face their fear and overcome it is instrumental for their growth. My issue is with the way, you, Andrea, did it. Some of the things you not all but some things you said did not help him but exacerbated the situation. And your unwillingness to see it and say I could have handeled a few things differently is frustrating. The fact that Raphael was able to continue is tribute to him. You could have gotten the same results or better if you had supported him in a healthier way. Having said that I have seen changes in your technique sense the creation of this video. I know you won't agree with me and thats ok, I'm not a hater, and my comment was not given or. Meant with malice

[@hadast3806]

As a special ed teacher do you HAVE a child with special needs? It’s one thing to go to and from work and it’s another thing to LIVE 24/7 with a child with special needs. Giving advice when this was in the moment vs textbook studies applied are two different things.

[@skyblue3518]

It would be helpful to delineate what could be done differently.

[@RubyLav8941]

@@hadast3806 yea that’s what I was gonna say

[@norM_ystical]

​@@hadast3806 NO, NO, NO, NO, NO. The truth in fact is that NEITHER of you are guaranteed to know. NOBODY KNOWS BETTER THAN THE DISABLED THEMSELVES. As a disabled person myself, I will say that many professionals are foolish, and many parents are unselfish. In this SPECIFIC case, I am siding with the professional here. Neurotypicals are extremely impatient and often go for the solution easiest for THEMSELVES rather than the actual most effective. I have so so so much childhood trauma from this. I love my parents, they meant well, but that doesn't change what has been done to me. Seeing this person defend others like myself made me want to cry happy tears, I almost wanted to force my way through the screen and kiss them. I hope it doesn't sound weird... Honestly, it's really because almost no neurotypicals who think they know best have actually had this much sympathy. It feels kind of like being told you can eat for the first time in your life. Also, recording your child's meltdowns is never okay. I'm sorry if I seem touchy or particular, but I just really don't want any other 8 year olds to have the thoughts and urges that I had.

[@AleeyaIsEpic]

Mom, you have 100% of my respect 🙌

[@schlauersylvia9979]

Niemand , der diese Angst nicht am eigenen Leib erfahren hat , kann ermessen was dieser liebe Junge da gerade durchmacht. Er hat das Glück wircklich tolle Eltern zu haben.

[@FoolyLiving]

[@LisaGiel]

Da hast du recht ich hab auch viele Ängste und kann ihn total verstehen ❤

[@LisaPrincess93]

Ja das stimmt

[@littlehomeforest5972]

He is very lucky to have a parent like her. But every kid is this lucky unfortunately...

[@joelistovar8397]

This was so hard to watch! I felt every fear that they had... I am glad that there was no one there to judge her for what she was doing... Great job!

[@FoolyLiving]

It was literally terrifying because he kept reaching down with his head hanging over and the fall was SO FAR. I am disabled so I could not climb up to get him. I have EDS and at that point, my hips were not aligned and I had trouble raising my legs enough to put on flip flops, let alone an 18" step! I didnt even have a cell phone on me to call anyone for help. I got highly judged for the video, but a lot of people don't actually understand the entire situation. I just wanted him near the tube so I could talk him into going down, because the other way was going to be super dangerous for him! I know people were mad because I said "you're going to die if you come down this way," but the only thing that he listens to, because he has autism, is the truth! When I tell him a reason for not doing something, he listens better than if I say a blanket statement like "you'll get hurt" or "it's dangerous." He has to know why and what will happen. In that way, I am exactly the same way. I dont lie to my kids when it comes to that. This was a 2 story drop of pure terror, but it all ended really good, thankfully! Thank you!

[@joelistovar8397]

@@FoolyLiving That's exactly why I know, my little nephew did exactly the same to mea couple of months ago and even though the steps weren't that high I was terrified. He wasn't scared, he just changed his mind about sliding but I was waiting for him on the other side and I hadn't realize that he wanted to go down the other way, I just thought that he was taunting me, making me wait... The moment I realize he was trying to go down the other way I ran towards the other side, I almost lost my temper but I understood him and helped him. People was looking at me like I was careless, but I really though that my nephew was toying with me... Everyone knows their kids, over knows how to communicate with them, people judge without knowing, they make everything more difficult

[@norM_ystical]

No sympathy for the child? Seriously? You guys are so selfish... I feel for the victim here... I regret being born sometimes to be honest

[@josephlebard2061]

Life is boring without challenging our fears , this little guy is a challenge. GOD bless him 🙏

[@МилаС-г2щ]

He had no choice :)

[@Evv132]

For some people this video looks bad and looks like she's pushing him to do something he doesnt want to do, she is actually doing an amazing job.

[@zacbain1868]

Don’t think it’s cruel...because she is doing an incredible job

[@anjithaanil8690]

Omg..I really respect you mom..love u

[@alto961]

To anyone wondering why she was so firm and made him go down: 1. There was a high likelihood that he would fall and get injured trying to go back down the way he was, and she couldnt reach him. 2. Kids who never have to do something they felt a little afraid of have a high chance of developing a phobia of that situation. It's best to expose them to these things safely at an early age so it doesnt prohibit fun later in life. Notice hiw he went down the slide over and over once he did it that first time.

[@dustingross2967]

A parent is supposed to teach our children to face their fear. I thought she did a perfect job because he faced his fear and was so happy doing so. Good job little feller

[@CrazyTWow]

Wow she is really good at this and I respect her

[@jamestarrou3685]

"NO NO NO I DON'T WANNA GO DOWN." "Hey it wasn't that scary :D"

[@clark987878]

When he gets older he better thank his mommy :)

[@mdnm7]

Such a great Mom.. 🎉

[@jetproductions4084]

“I cant see you” almost made me cry

[@tavaleze1491]

2:56 "Lord have mercy" LOOOL every parent and older sibling with kids

[@hypernova9363]

Freaking felt lol

[@Bexarbestlawyers]

What an amazing and brave person he is

[@That.DaveyDelight]

this isnt toxic parenting pls understand

[@mikenelson9844]

I grew up in Catholic school system. Dealing with nuns daily. Part of OCD i think relates to how the nuns used to like to MICROMANAGE things and every little detail! Just too kuch to handle!

[@FoolyLiving]

I know the difficulty of being micromanaged, and its not fair. I try to not be a helicopter mom to my kids and let them play and learn on their own, only stopping them if they could get hurt.

[@darcithurston6538]

"I wanna go down again so it is fun!" Oh poor mom 😯😳🤣😂 Man he is soo smart..

[@Megan_life]

Ur a great mom because you always encourage ur children!

[@dawnsreflection]

what a wonderful mom!! i’m so proud of Rafael 🤍🤍🤍💖💖💖

[@lorisanchez2469]

Excellent parenting Andrea!

[@soniabennett1674]

He sure looks like his daddy. Lol, don't forget his surprise. Yes,you did promise. I went through the same. Kids won't let you forget. 😊

[@ethanhames4294]

I also had autism meltdowns awhile ago. people can't help autism meltdowns٫ its part of life I'm afraid. I hope things are OK again. 😢

[@Mewmewmeow]

damn, that must be frustating at times. hats off to the mother!

[@Livingwithweeze]

We accept the feelings not the behavior !!

[@srinivasch4193]

god gifted a strong mother to stand as his supporter He is very lucky damm 😊😊😊🙂

[@kellyverge8492]

She had to make him face his fear or else he would never go down the slide. Go job, Mama Bear!!🥰

[@BrendaD72]

Some of these comments. 🙄 What some of you may think was Andrea being “mean” and “forcing” him to go down the slide, was her trying to keep him from the danger of falling down the damn ladder. I’m sure many people wouldn’t have a calm and even tone if they were afraid their child was going to do something dangerous to avoid the unknown.

[@josevladimiraustria2736]

All fears are invitation to be brave.

[@chloejohnson9471]

I used to be like that I mean not that bad but I was terrified of slides like that. Your doing a great job with this and tbh I think that he will grow up to be an amazing person.

[@alyssa_the_noodle5228]

One…. Two…. Three…. (Thought he would go) counts to 10… okay now he goes right? Nope he keeps going 😜😂

[@eesakamaldien1917]

My son(4 years old) behaves exactly like this at every single park, all the children are going down slides and climbing things my son won't do anything so I don't even like taking him to the park anymore. It makes me so sad because he is missing out on having fun. Is there any advice anyone can give me on how to make him do stuff so he can see it's fun

[@myworldautistic6839]

This is not an Autism meltdown. It's a normal response for a terrified child. If someone spoke to me that way, even as an adult, I would be traumatized for the rest of my life. It's great that he got over his fear and found the slide wonderful. I think that's great. And I am glad that the mom kept her promise about the surprise. That's great. I am not upset at the mom at all. I am so glad it worked out. I am just saying how I would have been affected if someone had said those things to me like that. That's all I am saying. If this is what works in their family, that's great, and more power to them. I don't judge them. I am just saying how I would have been affected. And I am a fear of the water specialist/technical swim instructor for children and adults so I know how to help people overcome their fears.

[@myworldautistic6839]

I don't understand why you would love my comment.

[@FoolyLiving]

Why not? You left an honest comment and shared your experience and your feelings. Deserves a love.

[@myworldautistic6839]

@@FoolyLiving thank you. I am Autistic. I don't always understand communication. That is why I asked.

[@МилаС-г2щ]

My boy has many fears - toy robot, taking shower, stairs, spiders. I don't push him, otherwise he becomes a screaming mess. He has no diagnosis but I suspect it might be aspergers

[@meqqui8249]

What an amazing mom! ❤️

[@Hakuisfree]

I know the mom in the video it sounds and look harsh to her child. But she did everything she could to make sure he don’t have to be afraid and to learn him to trust and listen his mother❤ Whitchurch is very important for kids specially kids in the spectrum who struggle daily with small stuff like this. (( My friend’s grandfather learned me something called “ T.T.S.P it stands for “ Trust, Try, Super Pro. “ and that’s his motivation quote he told my friend and me❤ and it basically means: That you have to trust others and yourself that you can do this, and if you fail the first time just try again and again until you become super confident about the new thing and just keep working on it until you become a pro❤

[@TheSblore]

God bless her patience.

[@justsean5774]

Wow she's a great mum she's handling herself like a pro with raphael

[@allienav3000]

“If you go down this way, you’re gonna die.“ “Get away from here ,you’re gonna die” LMAO I’m sorry but that part made me burst into laughter bc obviously it’s not true but it was necessary to say, to get him to face his fear and in a child’s mind it was probably believable 🤣🤣

[@FoolyLiving]

I had to say this because he would have died if he fell 2 stories off this slide head first. He was reaching head first for the stairs below and I could not climb up to reach him and get him off of this. I wasn't saying it to scare him, but to alert him to the danger he was putting himself in. Kids with autism don't understand fall damage so they have to be told what happens if they fall from this high height. I just wanted him away from the stairs because he was not able to safely come back down this way.

[@godisgood6279]

She’s trying, I don’t think saying “you’re going to get hurt” is the best for a kid who’s already frozen in fear but he’s not my child. Mom knows best ♥️

[@madongseoksbiceps]

mom power right here

[@LisaPrincess93]

Ich schreibe auf deutsch da mein englisch nicht so gut ist aber trotzdem verstehe ich vieles was gesagt wird Ich kann ihn so verstehen und bin stolz dass er es am Schluss doch geschafft hat ihr seid eine ganz liebe Familie 😊❤

[@SomeoneElsesStory]

When I do countdowns now, I only do them to 12.

[@yourpiscespenpal7044]

You are incredible, Andrea

[@novianahanny]

So lovely and patience mommy..♡

[@thattatoro10]

People have their boundaries and their comfort zones, and i think that should be respected. And i am aware that she has to cope with this which is not easy.

[@BattleForOtisIsland]

No, the child has autism and she needs to teach him so he doesn’t do this later in life

[@abee131]

Good job Mom!! It took a bit, but he overcame that fear and put it behind him for good.

[@hypernova9363]

That mom has a wonderful sense of humor, I love her for it

[@ceIIardoor]

After all that we didn't get to see him go down!

[@tavaleze1491]

This is tough love, this will help him in a long run lol even though this was 5yrs ago

[@Beepsow7428]

this isnt autism he just didnt wanna dot the slide bro. also why not just tell him its safe and litteraly nothing can happen

[@JasmineGilmore-fw4wr]

This is autism, and it’s real and genuine problems everyday. If you watch to the end she explained how it was safe multiple times.

[@kimberlydoty6584]

Mom you have my utmost respect!!!!

[@hooman1910]

omg please i just can’t watch this am literally crying ik it’s kind of a mechanism may be she’s just doing what is right but just don’t push this hard try the other time maybe? 😔 i feel so bad rn

[@erikspeed8158]

Wrong

[@BattleForOtisIsland]

The people saying this is bad parenting are under the age of 10

[@tavaleze1491]

9:34 THAT LONG SIGH AFTER HE ASKS WHERE THE SURPRISE IS🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sakyibea1570]

Andrea 🥹🥹🥹 you are an AMAZING MOM!!

[@kimberlyakin8908]

Great Job Momma. It is Hard and your Heart was breaking from his sadness But every time Hey that was fun. My Son was IN Band in Middle school. we did a field trip to Six Flaggs. We Had ridden several roller coasters Before this so He said Mom I want to Ride the BEAST. OK darling Let's get it Line. Now Before we got In line I told him we only have time to ride one. Hs reply Yes Yes this One. After a Hour in Line with a half to go He starts to Look at it and say Mom I don't want to mom Please. I said " Ok But we don't have time to ride anything else." then Looked around and saw Little kids I mean 6 Year Olds " Look Honey she is going to ride You Like to ride these Lets give this a chance and If you Hate It I will NEVER ask you to ride another roller coaster. " After He was Jumping and shouting " That was GREAT!!, Can we ride it again?" we couldn't But after that I couldn't keep Him from roller coasters. Keep fighting the good fight and I hope You get some tender care yourself from Dad.

[@ExodusRae]

It’s makes him see he can do it and is just fine

[@zaarazaaym3191]

The thing is you should leave him and he’ll say "no please don’t leave ok ok I’ll go down 😢" and that’s how ya done it :)

[@FoolyLiving]

The thing is, he doesn't listen especially when he's scared. The way down was certainly a 2 story fall and I couldn't climb up to get him because I could barely lift my legs at the time. I had SPD from ehlers danlos and my hips were out of joint. I had only my words to get him down and I literally tried everything my mom had ever tried on me, plus some lol. Finally a toy store trip got him down, thankfully! I was hoping that a kid would walk by and help me get him down but no one showed up that day at all!

[@psahibzadah4954]

Love from afghanistan.

[@garretthodges4873]

I hope you are doing okay...God bless...

[@clark987878]

Call upon Jesus and he will comfort you.

[@relaxer1148]

What's it like there? Hope you're safe...

[@adithyam9557]

Wait a min You guys have internet wow

[@bumfrog8513]

I wish half the parents today were Rafael’s parenta

[@kellyela4858]

I would be scared to go up the ladder😂 but it would be worth it to go down the slide I think it looks fun. You shouldn't force him to do something he doesn't feel safe doing. But everyone has different parenting skills!❤✨:)

[@FoolyLiving]

A lot of people don't understand why I said the things I did and forced him down the slide. I have EDS and just gave birth. During pregnancy I have a condition that causes me to barely be able to lift my legs because my pelvis is crooked and lopsided. Its called SPD - extremely painful and doesnt correct itself for about 6 months to a year after giving birth. A lot of women are in a wheelchair during this, and I should have been but I didn't have the luxury of recovering!! I was not able to (even in a life or death situation) climb up a ladder - I could barely step up to get my flip flops on. He was poking his head down and it was 2 stories, so I was scared to death he was going to fall on his head down those stairs. Since he couldnt go down feet first (because a bar stopped his hands from going down further than 2 steps from the top) he had to go down the slide. Like HAD to.. I was praying for some other kid to come walking by, but it was during school time and there was no one around. I had no other options available, so had to do what I could do to get him to go down!

[@kellyela4858]

@@FoolyLiving Sorry about your condition. Thank you! Now I under stand❤✨

[@jessicangangbam2268]

Ig my mom didn't push me like Andrea did to Rafael that I'm still scared of slides. Now I'm 22 but still have fear for slides.

[@rebeccawalters4271]

Can I please ask where this at the slide at please I hope that is hope that is ok me asking you

[@apeezyfguamy]

Dying inside lol! Awesome video !!!

[@fadedthanahoe41]

I know I’m 5 years late haha but he was saying he was scared, how do you know the difference between when it’s his autism and ocd or when it’s actually just a little boy being scared? No hate trying to imply that you don’t care about him haha I’m just wondering

[@jani__11]

please read the top comments, this is proper parenting.

[@jani__11]

and it's not only that he has a disorder she had to act like this to him most children are like this, this mother is just trying to teach him to face his fears and be brave because it couldn't be so terrifying after you actually go for it.

[@shahinavokh8617]

you are the symbol of Mother ❤️

[@lilah08]

bruh im scared to go down those😭

[@ta_li_tha]

Abigail Rafael Hadar ARE YOU ALL OKAY ? IM WORRIED ABOUT YOU????? IS UR MOM AND DAD OKAY ALS0?

[@dragonhero1280]

Awww he is so cute

[@brittanycollett86]

Poor kid.

[@tiyself]

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[@BrendaD72]

It’s either facing a fear or the danger of trying to go back down the way he came. How’s that poor kid?

[@sabrinamayhew2736]

he needs to face his fears!

[@laurabright8952]

If you go down this way ur going to die 😂

[@FoolyLiving]

Well, it was about 2 stories down and his face was coming first and he would have fallen on me and then hit the ground, so we wouldn't be having a good time if he decided to come down that way. There was also 2 steps and then a bar on the side and he wouldn't have been able to get passed that. Pretty scary, but I didn't take him to things like this by myself anymore.