Autism Meltdowns, Triggers, Tantrums, and Helpful Tips

We have 7 in our family, and 2 are Autistic. Sometimes they have Tantrums and Meltdowns. Here are some educational examples and helpful tips and triggers to be aware of.
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[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@burnoutteamclubbtcp7283]

I do know the golden rule about dealing with an autism meltdown is never EVER yell at the child. Yelling is adding more fuel to the meltdown.

[@7Aheadfamily]

You are right! Yelling and losing your temper at the child will only make things worse. And when a parent chooses to intimidate the child into submission, this is not a win, but will create resentment in the relationship. Thank you for sharing .❤️

[@elliesouza717]

Yelling at any child...or adult for that matter... makes things worse

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes. I agree

[@serenast.germain3469]

Ya you shouldn’t be yelling at an autistic child but any child.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Very true.

[@TheRoadGeek266]

It makes me sad that autistic people and people with autism have meltdown. I have autism, and I no longer have any meltdowns. When I see kids with autism do this, it makes me sad.

[@7Aheadfamily]

I am sorry to make you sad. That is not our motive for sharing his. But we do show Simon and Ezra feeling better afterwords. That’s great that you don’t have meltdowns anymore.

[@user-ow2wt7gk8d]

Thank you for posting. As a mom of a level 3 autistic boy who is 5. I thought if it's OK to ask...now that you are older is there anything your parents could have done that would have made it easier for you? Asking because maybe I could try it to better support my son! ❤

[@mayday5716]

Ezra has a whole bunch of struggles on his little shoulders, but he is a lucky boy to have such awesome parents and siblings 🎈

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for your kind words.

[@Bigbarb34]

I like how your daughter just helped calm Simon down, this how a family should be right.😊😊😊

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you ❤️, yeah Marie is great. 😊

[@lauraweiss7875]

My youngest recently started her career working with kids with ASD. She loves her work, and has shared so much with me about important life lessons she is learning. She has shared that we ALL could benefit by treating each other with the compassion and patience that those who live and work with ASD kids learn to use. Thank you for this educational video.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Wonderful. We’ll said. What you said reminds me of what my older kids said I. This video we did a year ago. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIW8go19mMd3h6s

[@Tawval_TeAyawah]

I love all your videos, it’s like a guide for me , it’s not easy having special needs children or child. It’s really really difficult at times. Your videos give me lots of hope.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for watching and commenting ❤️ appreciate it.

[@DA-gb2wy]

You are an amazing mom. I absolutely love watching you interact lovingly with your kids. Thank you for great videos.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you ❤️

[@darkchipz3016]

I used to have terrible meltdown when I was a kid, but now I rarely got any meltdown anymore, however I got major depressive disorder since I always hide my feeling and not talked to people how I feel irl

[@7Aheadfamily]

We’re sorry to here that. ❤️ Thank you for sharing and let us know if there is anything we can do. 😊

[@allison3132]

You guys are doing awesome as parents with children on the spectrum. Seriously! You are doing great. My parents were nowhere near this. I think that the sensory tent beds are probably the best thing to get an autistic child. I think they help the most. I do wonder though, just because of my own experience. Please pay attention to if your daughter has any autism symptoms that align with female autism. It is much more subtle and often goes unnoticed. It is more of a mental health thing, then a physical thing. I got diagnosed at 25. My brother was way more stereotypical autistic, trains, meltdowns, nonverbal till 4. I was more “normal”, but had a lot of my own unique issues such as obsessions Hyperfixations, anxiety meltdowns. But because of my brother being so much work, my parents just called me sensitive. Ended up I had autism the whole time too

[@7Aheadfamily]

Wow, thank you for sharing your story ❤️. We will definitely keep an eye on that. 😊 I appreciate you watching the channel and commenting.

[@Hypn0__t1z3]

Thank you for this. I have meltdowns sometimes especially over little sensory things, but with this its helping me calm down.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Your welcome!❤️ We’re so glad to here that!😊

[@ninastump7616]

another great video. at least I think you are helping in more ways than you can amaze. I don't have any small kids, but I do learn a lot from your videos and notice other kids around me and being more accepting of them.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much Nina ❤️

[@littlejonathorn6860]

Great video Holly!!!! Your kids are adorable. Sleep and Self care work wonders even for adults when we get grumpy. 9:09 Your Brother is a Wizard 🧙‍♂️ Holly!!!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you! 😊 You are so right!❤️❤️❤️

[@megangreene3955]

You are absolutely right, not all autistic kids are the same. My oldest son is level one autistic with a brain injury from an undetected birth defect on his skull. His skull was partially fused closed at birth and consequently his brain wasn't able to grow normally. My second son is more like your Simon, except he isn't triggered by smells and is more just hyperactive. He runs back and forth in the hall and makes his noises. He has learned to talk well and is very aware of dangerous situations. He would not run into the street or run off a cliff. Autism looks very, very different in girls. My daughter with autism was only mildly delayed in gross motor skills. Not delayed at all in toilet training because her trigger used to be nappies. She would scream because of a wet nappy. She was mildly delayed in talking. What reminds me of her autism is she doesn't like to be touched. Otherwise, I could easily forget about her autism. She has never needed PT or OT, and speech like the boys have needed and still need even though they are 9 and 14 years old.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Wow, you have a lot of experience in this area! Thank you so much for watching and sharing with us here. Let us know if there’s ever anything we can do to help you out ❤️.

[@katerinaptrv]

I am 28 and have adhd and autism(low support needs), i was very late diagnosed ,it was actually pretty recent. I been having meltdowns consistenly since i was a kid and i find interesting looking back now and seeing people and doctors try to explain it. When i was a kid, it was because i was a rude kid, a "bad" kid, since no one had a clue about what really was about i would be just punished and screamed at for my bad behaviour. That shape my meltdowns to this day to the point i always try to hide for them, have them i a quiet manner so no one founds out. After i was an adult they said it was because of my anxiety, that were panic attacks. No matter what age i was the feelings behind it was always the same, it was sense of being so overwhelmed by everything, like you can't take anything anymore, it ia like a spiral down of despair, but if you wether the storm it would pass and you would feel better. So, it can present in different ways depending on age, enviroment and etc. But i think the feeling is the same for everyone. It really starts for bursts of rage and being really annoyed at everything for me and blows up to a crying crisis and depressive spiral until it passes. For me music really helps sometimes, or try to do something i like if i can like watch a series to switch the focus, but i think is also important to let us feel it, because if we do is like an reset after it.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing your story!🩷🩷🩷 We appreciate you!🩵🩵🩵

[@munagameplaysrealchannel]

Thanks for sharing👍

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you!

[@catiehays3361]

Great idea with the milk pops!!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thanks!

[@vanessatoussaint7839]

This is so helpful my 2 year has just been diagnosed with severe autism and he's non verbal thank you so much for sharing your story❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

I am so glad this has been helpful. We recently made some videos on routines, hope they can be helpful too. ❤️

[@7Aheadfamily]

Night time Routine: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJbUmpt5jbWcjbM. Oh, and this is one of my favorites, I had the idea for this video for about a year before I ended up editing it and putting it together, hope it helps. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eoq5emuPrap_Zs0

[@20RRSCT]

I will certainly watch stuff like this if I have an autistic kid, or just for myself(on the spectrum too!) down the road. I'm more of level 1 or 2 as I can't recall ever having a meltdown. Easily my biggest trigger would be extreme chaotic noise. Sweet video

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing. Ezra and Simon both have a hard time with noise.

[@thomasschoeck9080]

I remember reading some time back in a psychology-related news article that people in general do best when they have only two or three choices (e.g. narrowing an ice cream selection down to chocolate,strawberry,or vanilla).

[@7Aheadfamily]

That makes sense

[@tommy4205]

I love this family always trying there best for these autism children and from my little Convo are very accepting of other people as well

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you ❤️

[@tommy4205]

Anytime watching you guys puts a smile on my face

[@7Aheadfamily]

So glad, thank you ❤️

[@tommy4205]

Your welcome hugs

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@nathanjw940]

Meltdowns are a huge anxiety attack at least for me they are way different than a sensory attack. I lack coordination so I will get super frustrated because I know I need to press and turn but don't and get frustrated. I get overly invested and try willing something which includes biting my finger. Sensory overload I feel the worst heartburn and exhaustion I have napped for a few minutes and gotten away from something overstimulating I have felt 100%. Advice I have gotten from a psychologist if it's a new environment take breaks 5-10 minutes before you get overload.

[@7Aheadfamily]

That is great advice. Thank you sharing that. That is very wise.

[@alexandershilling]

Eating outside during a thunderstorm is very dangerous however, I totally understand it but your safety is important

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for your concern😊❤️

[@kelseyarvin371]

You have such a beautiful family! My son is 3 and we’re testing for ASD in September, but he shows a lot of the signs. Your videos help to have a sense of community when often times life can feel so overwhelming and challenging! ❤️ Do you have any tips or videos on picky eater help for ASD??

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for your kind words and for watching and commenting. So glad to have you in the community ❤️. Yes, here are a few videos that hopefully will be helpful. 😊

[@7Aheadfamily]

Mealtime Routine for Mild Autism and Severe Autism | 9 Tips kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4vOqqmVbcR5pcU

[@7Aheadfamily]

5 Meals in 5 Minutes for Family RV Cooking! kzbin.info/www/bejne/gmapn2CprriVfZI

[@7Aheadfamily]

A Day in the Life of Mild Autism and Severe Autism kzbin.info/www/bejne/iKrOh4Z9Z7mBhrs

[@7Aheadfamily]

Praying for the best for your son and family! Keep us posted with how things turn out ❤️.

[@robinriggs4194]

This is helpful! My 6 year old struggled this week! We had vbs at our church, and there was so much stimulation for him, that he had some meltdowns. So hard for him! I feel so overwhelmed in those situations!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Church is difficult for us too. To have to sit for so long and try to be quiet, it’s hard. You are an amazing parent. Happy you found our channel. Keep in touch. ❤️

[@Christian_Martinez_yt]

I enjoy watching your videos

[@7Aheadfamily]

Glad you like them!

[@ExcellentsharkingYT]

i remember when i was little i would constantly have meltdowns and my parents didn’t really have a way to prevent them because they don’t know i’m autistic i am entering high school this year and i think of it as a huge milestone

[@7Aheadfamily]

That is a huge milestone! Excited for you. 😊 what are you most excited about about going into high school?

[@ExcellentsharkingYT]

@@7Aheadfamily the aerospace program so i can become an airplane pilot

[@7Aheadfamily]

Wow! 😊 That is amazing! We wish you the best of luck!❤️❤️❤️

[@karenveal4581]

​@@7Aheadfamily How many children do you have

[@7Aheadfamily]

We have 5 kids.

[@finite_ore4]

- It is interesting that your boys preferred milk popsicles over the usual method, I have an affinity for cold food over room temperature or hot, I get asked many times, ‘are you not going to heat that leftover pasta, lasagne, up ? ‘ - I wear a face mask when cleaning, as I can’t stand the smell of bleach. I like the repeating patterns of sweeping up with a brush as well as loading and unloading the dishwasher. -Squeaky shiny plastic of the type leaflets and junk mail come in gives shivers down my neck and back as well as agitation when touched or the sound of Someone else touching it. -Strong hugs from friends and family are very comforting especially when overwhelmed. -Tags and labels in shirts and on the back near neck level, get cut off, and I can only tolerate short socks than don’t go above my ankles, short socks have less pronounced seams. - Classical music helps a lot for me, I can’t stand some radio station music, especially the music played in Gyms, or by some taxi drivers, and people with earphones and loud volume. - I can speak well to 1-3 people, any more nearby and I get overwhelmed or I daydream strongly, this is most pronounced in busy places. - Stimming with my fingers, helps keep me aware of my surroundings, as I daydream quickly when outside, I describe it as shaking the mouse so the computer doesn’t go to sleep, -I have lost some of my favourite childhood stims to maturity, as your bones are much less flexible in adulthood. -Meltdowns are rare, usually one minute to 5 minutes of pure frustration at everything or crying, then I end up chastising myself for losing control, or scaring people in public. Thanks for reading.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes! I love this comment. Thank you so much for sharing with us. That must be difficult, sometimes. ❤️❤️❤️ and I love your example of shaking the mouse so your computer doesn’t go to sleep.

[@finite_ore4]

@@7Aheadfamily Thank you for your kind reply ❤️ there’s an analogy for eye contact too. ‘You don’t have to look at a radio to listen to it’

[@7Aheadfamily]

I love that analogy as well! 😊 Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

[@gangstamakaveli8183]

I’m 21 with no kids and I love their videos !!!! I probably watch almost every video already lollllll please keep the videos coming !! Very well narrated ! I also enjoy when you guys do the babysitting videos. And is this temporary for you guys ? (Living at home) Are you guys traveling in the rv anymore ? And sorry also curious do you guys live in California ? Can we also have a video where you guys talk about your marriage and how you work so well w each other.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Those are some great ideas. We did go live and talk about how we met, did you see that one? I’ll find it and link it. I’m so happy you like our videos. We will for sure keep them coming. We actually sold the RV, (even though we have quite a bit of video I still need to edit and post about our trip. We are in a rental right now, hoping to buy a house again. We aren’t done traveling though, we still need to go to Alaska and Hawaii! And I grew up in California, but we live in Utah for right now, though we’ve moved a lot. -Holly

[@ralph4720]

My brother's going to pick up my son who lives in Delaware. I'm having fun with my nephew's friends. A lot of m the old kids from the neighborhood, the other my old neighborhood, and they're really cool

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️❤️❤️

[@cole2408]

Lord please continue to bless this beautiful family and their amazing parents. Cover them all with your love and blessings . You all have been a blessing to me . I appreciate it more than you know. Thank you lord for leading me here regardless of my baby boys diagnosis I will continue to follow the journey of your amazing family

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! If you don’t mind us asking, what has been your favorite of our videos so far? God bless you and your little one. ❤️❤️❤️

[@cole2408]

@@7Aheadfamily i love them all they’re informative but also sensitive. I would love to know how you got your boys to play at the park or engage with the jungle gym and others if that was an issue . For example for me my 2 year old has little to no interest with the slide or jungle gym at the park he loves to just run freely in the field or walk around the park/ neighborhood he can walk for an hour or too but when it comes to actual play he’d rather not haha

[@cole2408]

@@7Aheadfamily i haven’t seen them all but the ones I have seen I love that you give insight on the day to day it’s informative but it’s also kind of that makes sense . I’m also struggling with food texture and sensory issues ..not sure how we will work that out I have put him on a multi vitamin for now ..also have you heard of biomedicine/ function medicine modifying their diets and detoxing metals ..I’m sure you have Im sure there’s a video I’ll look lol. Thank you for your blessings ♥️

[@7Aheadfamily]

That is a great idea. We haven’t r done park videos yet, but thanks for the ideas.

[@7Aheadfamily]

We have a mealtime routine video where we go over a few tips that we do to help mealtime go smoother, have you seen the video. I’ll post it here if you haven’t. Food textures are tricky. We use a meal replacement drink in Ezra’s cup for more calories.

[@FurbyFan-bx5bd]

Be Calm in Ahway Island would be perfect for your autistic kids. It can calm them calm down by taking deep dragon breaths and listening to stories. I sure hope I can see a video of them listening to Be Calm on Ahway Island.

[@7Aheadfamily]

What a great idea! We’ll have to try that sometime. ❤️😊❤️

[@thomasschoeck9080]

Kids on the spectrum can have sensory meltdowns or panic attacks. They can also have tantrums like other kids for the same reasons that they do. I had both when I was growing up but the details of that are probably too boring to go into here. I was just watching the new video that Autism Family uploaded to their channel about Conor playing a new piece by ear on the piano. He plays the piano pretty well. I can play a little on the piano by ear but only simple melodies with my right hand. I used to play the clarinet (sometimes by reading music, sometimes by ear) but I am about twenty-six years out of practice so it might take some time for it to come back to me. Back to the subject of tantrums, these can happen at any age when one is growing up, especially if there is a developmental condition present. In my case (from what I remember right now) I had tantrums from the time I was about two until I was maybe five or six. Some of those were for fairly ordinary reasons like my mother wanted me to take a bath and I was in the middle of doing something and didn’t want to be interrupted. Other tantrums were for different reasons that were probably too boring to go into here. After that until about my early teens I had sensory meltdowns that were virtually always mistaken for tantrums. I probably had sensory meltdowns when I was younger than five or six but no specific examples come to mind right now. By my teens I still had many sensory meltdowns and some panic attacks. I also started having tantrums again. Without mentioning any specific examples many of my tantrums during my teen years would often happen during clarinet lessons. Usually it was something along the lines of I wanted to play one song in the book for my lesson and my clarinet teacher wanted me to play a different (and usually much more challenging) one. Back to the subject of the Autism Family video mentioned above I watched it about four times (twice with headphones) and I think I could hear Simon and Ezra in the background. I don’t know specifically what was happening but if I had to guess I would guess that Ezra had something that Simon wanted and they were having some kind of disagreement over it. I don’t know if you have seen the PBS cartoon Caillou but Caillou who is four years old in most episodes (Simon’s current age) has interactions with his younger sister, Rosie that are often like that. I have only seen a small number of videos of Simon and Ezra interacting but from the limited amount I have seen it looks to me as if they might have a Caillou-and-Rosie-like dynamic at times. This could happen if Simon perceives Ezra as being like a baby brother. Only Simon knows for certain if that is the case and given that he has been using speech to communicate for less than a year he might not be able to tell you yet whether this is the case. Simon seems to be able to communicate in three and four word phrases now and that’s good. He still has a long way to go which is why a second year of preschool (in addition to his therapies) before he begins kindergarten will likely help him (especially with his social skills and verbal communication) as long as he learns new vocabulary words and concepts during that second year of preschool. This should be doable as long as every student in the class (somehow) has his or her own curriculum. You know more about his preschool than I do so you would have a better than I would about how that would work. If (for example) Simon was fighting with Ezra because Ezra was using the iPad and Simon wanted it it is possible (even likely) that Simon does not understand why Ezra needs the iPad. Maybe sibling interactions and learning more about what Ezra needs and why he needs the things that he does could be incorporated into his social skills training in some fashion. Part of how Simon acts is a result of being four years old (like Caillou) but some of it is also a result of his autism. I have seen situations like that unfold between siblings of different autism levels off and on (especially over the last three or four years, without going into too much detail.). I could be wrong about the situation because I didn’t hear much (let alone the context) but if by some chance this is what happened then the points above could be something to keep in mind.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for your insight!😊😊

[@thomasschoeck9080]

When I was around Simon’s age I once had a meltdown because I walked to the mailbox with my mother and when we got there there was no mail. My sister (who is also on the spectrum but is level one and only very rarely has meltdowns) still likes to laugh about how crying because there is no mail (even at age three) is (supposedly) “the dumbest thing anyone could possibly cry about”.

[@7Aheadfamily]

I understand that you were disappointed that your expectations were not met.

[@bilamehaoued5704]

Hello thanks for video My son same as your son , he’s making a lot noise.Simon like my son, my son make noise . Running, jumping

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thanks for sharing

[@Bigbarb34]

You doing a wonderful job with handling both Simon and Ezra. I love your seeing the videos each week on your channel. Your 2 boys are amazing, even though I have a cousin with Autism, I still love him to this day and can’t wait to spend most of my time with.😊😊😊

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for watching and commenting ❤️. So glad that you have a great relationship with your cousin. How old is he?

[@Bigbarb34]

He’s 21 years old.😊😊😊

[@7Aheadfamily]

@@Bigbarb34 So cool. Glad you have such a good relationship. That is so important. 😊

[@sarahrose8029]

In Ohio, we are having a heat wave. 90+ degrees. I don't know about Ezra and Simon, but I get horrible meltdowns when it's bright and sunny and hot. Unfortunately, I have three roommates, so I don't have really anywhere to go and calm down, except my therapists office.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Glad you can stay in a cool apartment during this summer. It doesn't get that hot here where we live, in Utah. I was up in the 80's yesterday, but even when it gets hot, Ezra and Simon still LOVE being outside. They will get sad having to come in after goin g to the park, even when it's hot. Ezra likes the cool weather though, I think that's why he loved going inside the caves when we visited all the National parks together. He would laugh and run around in the caves, cause he loved how cold they were. By the way, since you mentioned that you live in Ohio, my all-time favorite hike was in Ohio, in Cuyahoga Valley national park,. The hike was called the Ledges trail. There is this spot where the rocks go straight down and they are covered is green vines, it feels like you are in the amazon rainforest. If you like hiking I'd recommend that one. But go in the fall when all the leaves are turning colors, and it's not too hot. -Holly ❤️

[@thomasschoeck9080]

I wonder if Ezra’s apparent meltdowns in the two to four year old age range were actually either caused by nightmares or night terrors. I already know that he is afraid of the toilet. Maybe there are some other things that he is very nervous about. In addition it’s possible that Ezra might have a sleep disorder of some kind. If he hasn’t been tested for sleep apnea they should probably test for it. Treating it (if he has it) might have some positive effects on his concentration, mood, and cognitive abilities during the day. He will still be autistic but he might start to come along a bit more developmentally if this is treated. You might want to ask his doctor if a sleep study might be worth getting (if he still seems to have any issues with sleep).

[@7Aheadfamily]

Now that Ezra has his big safety bed, he has a lot less problems with his sleep. He will usually sleep pretty well now.

[@caroleperret499]

Ces les imprévus qui declance mes crise je tape parfois

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️

[@roseybxlla3109]

My anxiety and where i get overwhelmed is when there is something really really loud and there is so much people talking like at a concert. Everything just gets scary and i go mute and only talk in words like “yeah” and “ok”. it triggers my anxiety but only time i had a meltdown was at a waterpark where you know those little areas with all the slides and the huge bucket that pours water out on a little ramp every 10-20 minutes? well i was scared of the bucket and i tried to hide from it but then a lot of water was just poured onto my head. I started crying and running out of there. Now i have an unusual fear of those buckets.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yeah, those buckets are scary!

[@roseybxlla3109]

@@7Aheadfamily yes, and now i dont go anywhere near that area in the waterpark

[@7Aheadfamily]

Smart. 😊

[@roseybxlla3109]

@@7Aheadfamily i love how you handle your kids when they have a meltdown/anxiety

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️

[@thomasschoeck9080]

A strong smell of coffee brewing would sometimes cause me to have a meltdown when I was around Simon’s age or slightly older. This was an issue because my father always had a cup of coffee before going to work when I was growing up.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Coffee does have a strong smell.

[@thomasschoeck9080]

@@7Aheadfamily Especially the cheap store-bought brands like Folgers and Maxwell House.

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️❤️

[@ralph4720]

My kids always want freeze popsicle you know. I always buy big bots of auto pops from eBay and we go through a while. Get a given to my two-year-old grandson. I cut him in half from my grandson. He loves freeze pops. I haven't always in the fridge yet in a Freeze pop

[@7Aheadfamily]

Nice 👍

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Ei sunt atat de frumosi,au stari atat de intense,sunt minunati.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you ❤️

[@fragrence2000]

I am confused now. when my son was 3 yrs 7 months old SCHOOL ISD speech therapist and clinical psychologist said my son is mildly autistic and for Pre-K he was in normal class room ( even with speech and developmental delay he scored 95%) receiving speech therapy 2 times a week from ISD. He is going to be 5 in July improving in every way. I switched my son to a different pediatrician ( in wait list for 1 and half yrs due to her being too good) and last week I saw her and she says its not autism cuse to my surprise he listened to everything pediatrician said and showed his ears, chest for her to examin, pediatrician said not even mild autistic kid will be this obedient. She asked him questions and he responded correctly, draw shapes, wrote his name as instructed by pediatrician. Ofcourse he is smart, can read and write, has vocabulary equal to his age ( got private speech therapy started last week, so they evaluated the speech aspect and wrote expressive language disorder)has eye contact, but speech I felt robotic, does clap hands and walk then repeat everything he learned from school when he gets boared ( delayed echolilia?) he is a great helper in kitchen and chores. But yes he been in home for 2 years without seeing anyone, also me working nights and hus working days that time he hadn’t heard much conversation, plus we were talking differet language and then when we realized he don’t catch up ( anyway we don’t talk much infront of him) we stopped our language and started english when he was 3 yrs old nd I quit my full time job. I had 2 more kids after him, so couldn’t get him out to socialize until now when my 3rd one is 5 months. He had meltdowns last year once every 3 months or so when he wanted to say something but couldn’t, but now his speech improved last 5 months had no meltdowns( still can’t hold back and forth conversation but will say all his needs and wants) My confusing part is now he responds to his name even deep inside TV and also stops television by himself saying its time to school( for feeding him food in morning tv was my only option) or if I say lets go outiside and play then he himself will switch off TV and come with us. after 3 yrs inside home( after covid last summer I got pregnant again so he didn’t get much exposure last summer)we started walking through neighborhood and my son stopped his bike turned around and asked another 5 yr old stranger boy what is the color of your bike mine is blue.. blah blah .. then we went to church young kids familiy gathering and there he ran towards the kids crowd but was awkward cuse he can’t speak like them, nd those kids being familiar with each other kinda shoo him away but he went back again to them and joined their running.. atlast i had to drag him out since I realized they are making fun of him not understanding their play routine and started bullying attitude , since he didn’t want to go ended up having a bad tantrum and crying..so my question is does autistic kid interested in these??? From the look of it I felt like if he get fluent in language and understand completely he will not be awkard socially. What u think??? I am wondering if it was virtual autism then cuse of extreme screen time ( otherwise him nd younger son will fight to death) I can see here and there some mild symptoms that feel autism but in google it also stated normal pandemic kids can have those .. atleast based on his social aspect what you think???? Developmently he is catching up well too, will put his cloths, but trouble with shoes, will hold spoon and yogurt but wont hold spoon for rice. Will hold fork for pasta semi okey.. loves slides . Had a fear for swing last year but surprisingly last week he was okey with swing I wanted to ask you cuse u are more experienced than a pediatrician since u got kids on your own so social aspect of it u might understand better

[@donnahilton471]

My two sons were never diagnosed with autism, just ADHD, they both had other things going on, too. But , overall, I think it is autism. Aspergers as they used to call it. Mine pretty friendly, so the psychologists were reluctant to say autism. But the tantrums and stimming were not accounted for with the ADHD.

[@7Aheadfamily]

These are very good questions and concerns. ❤️. We are actually working with the doctor, who diagnosed Simon with mild autism to do a video with us, talking more about the issues of diagnosing autism in younger children, so stay tune for that. As a parent, you know your child is the best, but we always recommend getting multiple opinions if you are concerned about the outcome of your child’s doctors diagnosis.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Right, yeah, not all doctors equal in their ability to assess. Second and third opinions are important to get sometimes. Thanks for sharing. ❤️

[@fragrence2000]

@@donnahilton471 my 2nd son ( 3 yrs 6 months old) is very energetic , stubborn, cry baby type frequent tantrums but no meltdown, he used to bang his head when we don’t go his way , he loves cars but now I don’t think he is obsessed with it, cuse when he see it he gets very excited and play with it , lines up sometimes for maximum 10 minutes and he will go his way..my main problem with him is loudness. He gets excited very fast so does his voice ..He is too loud that entire church / restaurant or neighborhood can hear him.. my pediatrician said he is too young to say its ADHD, we put him in montessori school to get some discipline and surprisingly he behaves better, do his work in school. He is too social and good at sports and fine motor skills. He has articulation issue so speech is little unclear so i am still not sure he has speech delay or not but he can understand every instructions I tell him and has created sentences way earlier than my older son.. I wonder atleast his stubbornness nd loudness will go away as he age.. i am still trying to debate if he is too hyper or its normal active cuse he behave like a typical naughty indian kid i have seen in india. But when u see American kids who stand still at church nd my old son too behaves okey in church then I am not sure if anything going with my 3 yr old

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing ❤️. Sounds like a great little kid. 😊 we did do a video about speech delay versus autism that you can see here, but it sounds like if you are concerned, you him set up for an evaluation when he’s old enough. Getting on the waiting list early as well. Can be a good idea.

[@nattyznook]

How long do your melt downs usually last? I am asking to try and get a gage on my kiddo…

[@7Aheadfamily]

Usually when Ezra’s or Simon get upset, because they want some thing they can get upset for up to an hour. But when Ezra’s was little, he would have sensory meltdowns, and those were a whole Nother story they would last for hours.

[@nattyznook]

@@7Aheadfamily thank you that is actually very helpful.

[@7Aheadfamily]

You’re very welcome. Thanks for watching!

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Tpti vor doar sa te bucuri intens,hi hi Treaba este ca emotiile si trairile circula

[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@TentoesMe]

A friend's autistic teen sleeps in her closet. She has a bed, but that's not where she sleeps.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Does she like the closet because it is enclosed in a tighter space?

[@TentoesMe]

@@7Aheadfamily I think she said that when she first started sleeping there.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yeah, Ezra and Simmons both like the tight spaces for sleeping…

[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@serenast.germain3469]

Just saying but that other bed is a dog soft sided crate. They don’t make beds for kids like that. I would know it’s a dog crate bed cuz I was looking into getting one for my cat

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes you are right. It’s a dog bed.

[@awangtaiepalat7308]

1:26 Are you not afraid he might get choked stuffing his food in that manner?

[@7Aheadfamily]

That was actually sped up, so it wasn’t really that fast, but he did scarf that tomato down. We were watching him close though. ❤️

[@AdamAndersonP]

❤❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@jeffmattos6574]

Did you notice less meltdowns as they got older? My son is almost 4 and hoping it gets less with age.

[@7Aheadfamily]

I would say yes, in our experience, but it’s more about us understanding what causes them and avoiding such situations as much as possible. 😊

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Inceput simplu Daca te place,ca orice copil,dar mai intens... Iti amintesti? Cine o supara pe mama,pe tata...etc

[@7Aheadfamily]

🤔

[@ralph4720]

The oldest twin has to be by my side or he will have a meltdown he is so shy I bring him everywhere with me he tells me he don't want to be with anyone else because he gets scared I asked his teacher he hasn't even cried in school except when we moved and changed schools I think he misses his best friend back home but we see them all the time I'm getting mad at my 6 year old grandson everytime he comes over he kinda picks on him but when they get together they Really get along well ❤ I try so hard to keep the peace around here I think he's going to get really jealous when his new baby brother comes in September

[@7Aheadfamily]

Sounds like you’ve figured out the triggers and are adapting accordingly. 😊 great job!

[@ralph4720]

@7-Ahead I have been singing him to sleep lately I love all my kids the same but right now he's my favorite lol I shouldn't say that but he's the sweetest 💕

[@7Aheadfamily]

@@ralph4720 ❤️❤️

[@ralph4720]

When both of them together in the grocery store, they have a meltdown but when I take one by one I know it. It's always Ivan but I need sometimes take Ben just to be alone with them. They're fine in the store but I usually just let them get what they want but I'm gonna start saying no see healthy act cause when I had to say no cause I always want candy I don't want to have I don't give a much candy because I'm diabetic. And I don't want that happen to my kids because I do eat a lot of candy cause they get a lot of candy from all the people so I think I tell him you can have candy bu. T don't eat it all. They always eat at all. I try not to give my kids candy. Because I never ate candy when I was old. I always wanted chips hard, it's very hard.

[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@kalegolas]

Im not suprised that Ezra and Simon is very close :) Like I have written alittle about before, they in many ways shares a language (not english, the kind of ”autistic language”) and a unic way to think. To have a brother who have autism to is the best that could happend to Ezra, he have someone to share his struggles with and who deeply understands him in a way no one without the diagnosis have any chance to do. You truely have amazing little boys, and they have the big luck to have amazing parents and amazing older siblings ❤️

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! ❤️ they are unique boys and we are happy they can have each other. We hope they will help support each-other in different ways.

[@Tawval_TeAyawah]

Right now I will let my son fall asleep with the iPad at times , I’m not sure if it’s working, I’m going to try some of your techniques. My son non verbal loves hair , and smells, unfortunately he goes up to complete strangers to smell the hands ! I’m thinking of Covid and germs.. anyway I spray cologne on him to help him with his smelling neeeds … when my son screams in middle of night I take him to go pee .. that’s usually the need ..then he sleeps well after that ..

[@7Aheadfamily]

That’s great that he screams rather than wetting the bed. 😊

[@Tawval_TeAyawah]

@@7Aheadfamily I agree, my doctors mentioned to me he may be in diapers even into adulthood . ABA and I worked very hard for almost 2 years to get him to eliminate into toilet and now he wears underwear regularly at home , but at school he still needs a diaper. I’m so proud of everything he’s overcame already! Thanks for the comment 7ahead!

[@7Aheadfamily]

You bet! Great job and awesome progress for you and your little guy!

[@FireZombie9168]

700th like!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much!🩷🥳🥳

[@emilywells7415]

As a sped para iPads piss me off beyond belief! They increase and cause behaviors and many of their parents dont have limits on iPads

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for watching and commenting

[@ankitasingh-mn3zx]

What's your opinion on virtual autism?

[@7Aheadfamily]

Honestly, i don't have much experience with that particular diagnosis. We limit our kids screen time and especially when they are in their toddler years, they don't have their own ipad. Perhaps this article could be helpful. www.autismparentingmagazine.com/children-virtual-autism/

[@ankitasingh-mn3zx]

Hii btw I had one more question, my son is 2 years 4 months now he started speaking a bit after screen removal, his receptive language is Improving I can see that he now at 2 word pharse language level but he can sing all rhymes that I sing for him, but can't talk, did you had any such issues with your son?

[@7Aheadfamily]

Neither of our sons were that far along in terms of speaking at the age of two, Simon is now three, and just starting to get a few words in, so you’ve got some good things going for you. 😊 keep up the great work!

[@ankitasingh-mn3zx]

Okay thanks🙂🙏

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️❤️❤️

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Trebuie sa le.masezi centrul fruntii gandind ceva bland,lunar

[@7Aheadfamily]

🤔

[@user-vr9xf9zu2j]

I got autism I still have anxiety fits

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing

[@wesleylanceadam1612]

we don't have melt downs with our one we normally just put on the tv

[@7Aheadfamily]

It's smart to have a distraction like that. Good for you! ❤️

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Mie imi.convine,eu nu.ascund nimic,doar depoluez

[@7Aheadfamily]

🤔

[@burnoutteamclubbtcp7283]

one more thing, some kids on the spectrum would often develop Pica.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes. Many autistic people do sometimes develop pica. 😊

[@burnoutteamclubbtcp7283]

@@7Aheadfamily i know what Pica is. It's basically eating items that are non-edible

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️

[@jeanjones2281]

My 5 year old grand daughter is very sensitive to sound. Gum chewing, cabinet doors, toilet, hand dreyer, dog bark, construction motorcycles etc. Storms or firework s cause melt downs for hours. Even with the sound proof head phones.

[@7Aheadfamily]

I’m sorry that sounds bother her so much. What have you found that has been able to help her?

[@jeanjones2281]

@7Aheadfamily not much. We are working on having her wear head phones For longer lasting noise like thunderstorms.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Interesting. Thank you so much for watching and sharing! ❤️

[@ralph4720]

Ivan always threw up and choke when he was a baby

[@7Aheadfamily]

😢

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Normal ca nu te intelege,iti spun eu de ce este normal,candva. Ce gandesti?

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yea. Simon understands a lot more than we often give him credit for. It is responding he has a hard time with. ❤️❤️❤️

[@robertpotenchin6628]

@@7Aheadfamily Why?

[@robertpotenchin6628]

@@7Aheadfamily Cum functioneaza un copil la inceput? Ce intelege,piritatea naturii la inceput? Vine sufletul,spune cum functioneaza

[@robertpotenchin6628]

@@7Aheadfamily Indicii Viata este miscare,intelegi,vei avea suflet,nu intelegi,vei fi nebunul distrugator

[@robertpotenchin6628]

@@7Aheadfamily Voce obosita. Specific Trebuie sa identificam Fara dovezi,sa innebunesti din.asta??!!?

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Ceva infricosator,dusmanul va insista,terapeutic Stie ce gandesti,chiar daca nu constientizeaza

[@7Aheadfamily]

🤔

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Adica? Daca nu tine nimeni ritmul... Daca il deranjezi,pe ritm? Simplu

[@7Aheadfamily]

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