Avoidant Attachment: You Can Heal This!

[@xflow112]

I’ve always felt like the Twin Flame and Avoidant/anxious journey was similar. Thank you for this upload. Makes me find peace with what I am going through with my TF. Distant, No communication, etc. definitely not a toxic (narcissist) relationship. She was a people pleaser and so was I. We mirrored each other a lot and lived together. Now it’s somewhat of a stalemate but in due time, the universe will lead us back together when she feels safe. I’m doing the work, and I hope she is too!

[@onedivinelove777]

That is great that you are doing the work! Ironically, i am getting a video ready on people-pleasing this week. The good news is it can all be healed. I have found the Mirror Exercise to be the quickest way. Also, you and your Twin Flame are literally one consciousness so everything you are healing she is healing too. It only takes one person to actively focus on the healing. Keep going!

[@GreatOceanBrain]

Thank you. I have been looking for more about the avoidant person and I am grateful to have found your video. You described everything very clearly and articulately.

[@onedivinelove777]

@@GreatOceanBrain Thank you for your kind words and feedback! I will be posting more on this topic. 😊

[@koala01111986]

Here I am in this situation...with an FA (I'm FA too but more secure). Deep connection, strong feelings, he even opened up to me for the first time in his life (he keeps everyone at arm's length), he let me in (& I made him see his fears, I didn't know he has an FA attachment style, so I saw them coming up and talked to understand what I could have done to make him feel more comfortable) and then got scared as hell and run away and he is hard in the avoidant side, a complete different person. Now waiting, even though I made a few mistakes trying to make him understand that I wasn't going to abandon him. I hate deactivation when someone else does that!

[@onedivinelove777]

You are doing great! At the core, we all have a fear that we aren’t safe, that we will be rejected or abandoned because we aren’t good enough. I had huge walls up around my heart! I felt that would keep me safe but walls only keep love out. The key is that when you realize the truth that you ARE perfect at your core, and God is loving you through your Twin Flame and God would never hurt you (contrary to other relationship experiences we had which were conditional love and sometimes abusive). So it’s safe to stay present, to trust, and let love in. You and your Twin Flame are partners, learning how to love and to be loved. ❤

[@Unbothered_Boz]

This was very insightful thank you❤

[@onedivinelove777]

@@Unbothered_Boz Thank you for your feedback. ❤️

[@andybiddle9088]

My DA ex discarded me...with a text!....back in February. The week before, she was telling me how happy i made her and we were so lucky to have found each other. She also said, "i cant believe you like me". Which i thought was strange as she was/is, lovely. I just thouhh, This is great! Ive found someone that loves me, like i love them! She even used the "L" word!!! Then!.... A week later it was all over. When i text back to get an explanation, all i got was, "Leave me alone, im not in a good place". I became more concerned for HER rather than me....(like the idiot i am). Im now blocked. If only these people would communicate before doing something drastic like ending a good, healthy relationship that was going somewhere. Id have told her, id ALWAYS have loved her. Id NEVER have left her....and she'd NEVER lose her independence...I value MY independence too. Now im blocked, i cant do anything about it. So sad.....for me AND her. Because we had the beginnings of a beautiful thing.

[@onedivinelove777]

Your story is similar to mine. If this person is your Twin Flame, you can never break the connection. You are spiritually married for eternity. She is showing you where you both have blocks to love. Initially, I thought it was my TF with all the blocks and that he was the one running away, but you are One consciousness so you both have the same blocks to love, even if they show differently on the exterior. She wanted to connect with you and experience that love. God gave you a taste of what harmonious union could be like. Now you are being called to do the work to heal your inner child wounds, and heal your consciousness, in those places that feel that you aren’t worthy or love, love isn’t safe, love hurts, etc. You and your TF are partners in this, but usually only one Twin is called to do this part of the inner work. Don’t give up. Make the choice to heal and work through all your inner child traumas, love yourself, and prioritize yourself and then your true TF will be magnetized into your life.

[@TwinFlamesHeartsDesire]

Awesome video!

[@onedivinelove777]

@@TwinFlamesHeartsDesire Thank you for your feedback! 😊

[@Goldilocks444]

Is there any other way I can contact you? Email or call? I’m truly struggling and you seem to be the one I’m drawn to for answers. ❤

[@onedivinelove777]

@@Goldilocks444 Sure. You can email me at [e-mail], or you can DM me on Instagram. @one.divine.love

[@nadinepita]

Thank you❤

[@onedivinelove777]

@@nadinepita I hope the video helped you. This is completely healable. ❤️

[@Goldilocks444]

Mine calls me approx every few days for two years, we see each other once a month for 3 days together. Is this what I want? I blame him in my mind like he doesn’t love me enough but I push with neediness and pull away so is it me with fears or him or both?

[@onedivinelove777]

@@Goldilocks444 He is basically you. You share one consciousness, so anything you see him doing that you don’t like (he doesn’t love you enough) is something that you are also doing to yourself. When you love yourself (doing the Mirror Exercise) and make a new choice to love and respect yourself there, he will also make the same choice. Most of us were brought up seeking love outside of ourselves so this journey is about learning to give ourselves all the love that we want and need. Then your Twin Flame will reflect that love back to you. His main purpose is to help you see the places that you aren’t loving yourself. It’s a perfect design. When you do start loving yourself, and you are consistently committed to loving yourself, you will see him in your life consistently and fully committed to you. 😊

[@Goldilocks444]

@@onedivinelove777 thank you and I do see that what you say is right but it’s certainly not easy for me to love myself. Absolutely been cheated on and lied to by prior men which is a self esteem killer but trying to love myself and thank you for your words of wisdom xxxxx

[@onedivinelove777]

@@Goldilocks444I struggled with loving myself too. When you start, it gets easier, and you notice that you actually feel better and that motivates you to continue. You can mirror 2 things you mentioned: Step 1 - I am upset that men cheated on me and lied to me. Step 2 - I am upset that I cheated on myself and lied to myself. (They were only reflecting a part of yourself that you were doing that to yourself). For example, maybe you were cheating on yourself by putting other people’s needs before yours. For me, I wasn’t honest with myself because I felt that it would mean I had to admit I wasn’t perfect, or good enough. When you realize that isn’t the truth of how you were created, you can feel safe to be honest with yourself and just love the hurt inner child that didn’t get the love she needed. ❤

[@Goldilocks444]

@@onedivinelove777 you’re very amazing I really truly thank you 🙏 xxxx

[@onedivinelove777]

@@Goldilocks444Awe thank you for your kind words. I am making an effort to put more videos out each week to help others with the lessons I have learned. My life has completely transformed by choosing to love myself and apply these lessons. It is never too late to choose a new path. We are all worthy of love, peace and happiness. ❤️