BABY TOTU: The Most Disturbing Situation On TikTok.

[@Tortellia]

When I see TikTok and inabber together, I know it’s gonna be good content about a horrific subject

[@iNabber]

😭😭

[@karkador]

lookism reader

[@devonmmi]

real

[@raisedfromash]

Exactly my thoughts clicking on this video

[@pheebs_arts3405]

Real

[@whoami3862]

TikTok drama can either be the silliest, most-blown out of proportion thing ever, or something that seems to belong on a crime show

[@yungembarrassment619]

This is a bit of both

[@angeldm1]

And there’s no middle ground, it’s either full blown madness or close to nothing

[@lollertoaster]

I can't wait for TikTok serial killers. You know that narcissistic psychopaths are the type of person to post on TikTok, I'm sure there are dozens if not more active and future serial killers posting at the moment with no one being none the wiser.

[@silvertriforce2574]

TikTok is just Chinese spyware made to make the west look stupid by highlighting the dumbest of society.

[@TheMommyblue]

👍🏻Facts!

[@heatherdontcare]

I'm a mother and grandmother, and I think following a child on social media is completely freaking WIERD. IDC who the kid is. It's STRANGE. Wren, totu, or any other kid....WIERD. CREEPY.

[@heatherdontcare]

@r u srs it is incredibly weird. Sorry, but it is. ESPECIALLY when it's the child if a complete stranger!

[@Silvermoon424]

@@uglygeguri Lmao @ the people psychoanalyzing you. It's not that deep, guys.

[@jauume]

I understand why you'd want to see cute baby videos on the internet or something, but I dont understand why'd you'd follow 'child influencers', its so inmoral, they cant consent to growing in front of an audience...

[@alipennington3764]

I like kids as much as anyone else who does, still gotta say following a kid on social media or "kid influencers" (which is kind of an oxymoron due to the fact that the parents controlling the account are the actual influencers and that's sketchy in itself) is kind of a really creepy thing to due. If you actually cared about these kids, you wouldn't support these accounts existing.

[@beanybabyrabie]

@@uglygeguri “don’t know if” is a lot different than “can’t” Regardless, an adult following a child’s account and content they can’t consent to participating in or making is 100% ODD and supporting their exploitation.

[@jules6626]

I volunteered at an orphanage for several months, one near my house, and something they told us constantly is to never take pictures/share content with the any of the kids there. I live in Monterrey (Mexico) so we had kids coming from gangs or children of cartel members half of the time. That meant that someone from their past could track them down and possibly harm them/take them away. It’s so bizarre that a place like that could not only show the kids casually, but allow people to make creepy comments about them or force them to do it. It’s truly heartbreaking and I can only hope they’re safe and sound :((

[@Justignorekas]

This is what I was thinking. Orphanage is different from a shelter. Shelter implies they had to run from somewhere unsafe. And even then if the child was forcibly removed from a family and sent to an orphanage means their family may be a physical danger to the kid and everyone else living there.

[@lazynoodle6739]

Yeah that's kind of the aspect that I feel should be more touched on - it's not just putting kids that are too young to consent online. It's putting children in very vulnerable situation online to be seen by strangers, and as you said could put them in danger. The children at the shelter are in an extremly vulnerable position

[@SmoreObscureLore]

It's the same here in the Uk. When you adopt or foster you aren't allowed to post pictures of the children on social media because they are venerable kids already and who knows what kind of situation they come from or what danger that could put them in.

[@takocos]

​​@@SmoreObscureLorehis is how it is here in the US as well. As long as the kid is in foster care there's a lot of restrictions, and not posting pictures publicly is one of them. Edit: Or video

[@phyllisportieles4427]

This should be illegal everywhere! These poor kids are posted online where everyone knows where they are! It’s even worse than the tik tok and KZbin “family channels” that exploit their own kids bc at least THEY don’t doxx themselves but these kids can easily be found and have no choice and no parents to protect them! I know nothing about this country, but is it possible that the other shelters there are so much worse that this one seems great to the authorities and that’s why they can still post these kids? I’m sure the laws there differ from ours in the US.

[@geebee7934]

I'm Persian and one thing that people of other countries don't know about a lot of countries around here is that most people don't really care about children in shelters or how they're treated. At least in iran i know that a lot of people see adoption from shelters as burden or some made up sin. So having the western social media's focus on these things could be a great step into correcting these beliefs and treatments towards these poor children in our countries.

[@DevHazy]

😢

[@coatimundi69]

sadly western countries dont really care about the kids in shelters and foster homes either. :/

[@radschele1815]

​@@coatimundi69they try. But... it's not good either

[@giovanniaofficial6148]

Yeah, the whole Balenciaga theory is crazy because so many people wear fake designer clothing items. My boyfriend's brother's closet is basically full of fake Gucci. I just think it's crazy to assume that people in other countries don't wear fake designer. I know a decent amount of people all over the world that wear fake designer

[@catalinaventura2044]

there’s nothing wrong with the people wearing the brand. I think the bigger problem is one, they beg for donations while they flaunt a different lifestyle. look up Konuls son… he lives a great life… but these children don’t have clothes that fit them?? The B shirt video was weird, Because the women continually kept moving her cardigan in to show the shirt. It was off, but you’re right it proved nothing.

[@fernbush7856]

every video, he leans closer to the camera. one day he'll lean through the screen and steal my beans speaking of beans, love the effort you put into your content! hope you've had a good day so far !!

[@toxxickittie]

He would never jeopardize the beans

[@dragonrage122]

NOT THE BEANS

[@peachypear8765]

Naur not my beans 😭😭

[@backdoorsluts_9]

MY BEANZZZ

[@Emmastayofftheinternet]

Beans make tofu. And tofu sounds like totu

[@camilliatobler3810]

I really hope those kids are just uncomfortable being on camera and weirded out by being in a shelter and not... The other option. But I can't blame people for assuming the worst when it comes to the security of kids

[@wmdkitty]

Unfortunately, the innocent explanation is also the least likely, here.

[@HobieInTheBox]

I agree. And unfortunately I do kind of lean into the worst case scenario. Based on every scandal I've ever heard, I'm not surprised by people pretending to be good and well whilst actually being a monster in secret.

[@jackiearnolds]

I think, when it comes to safety, it is better to assume the worst and not be that bad, than assume the best and it be the worst.

[@1234GIRROX]

This is also happening in a country with a completely different governmental system, economic standing, and moral standards

[@ejedwards988]

The exploitation of children online has been entirely out of hand. Kids have been seized, raids have happened, abuse run rampant among some family bloggers. It's a reasonable conclusion to make given the last decade of internet history.

[@tamani1335]

As a person who was sexually abused as a child : this child is really really likely to be sexually and/or physically abused. The behaviors she does, the stare without blinking, the fear around men, the fact that she is always on edge. This child seems to be in "survival mode".

[@KarenMcgee-zd2qt]

and ow shes no longer there like the other kids

[@StarDustwolf77]

Huh?​@@KarenMcgee-zd2qt

[@BurningheartofSILVER]

34:22 For Real!!! As a Nigerian (and I’m sure this goes for most people from countries outside of the ultra rich areas), ain’t no way that shirt was real! That auntie got it from the market down the street for no more than $10. People on TikTok are insane!

[@rosstheboss2621]

What concerns me first and foremost before we even get into the issue it the fact that they are posting content of children in a shelter in the first place. When I was a child my mother ran a shelter for children and because of the fact that a vast majority of children who end up in this situation were previously abused by their parents or guardians. That meant we were not allowed to take photos of the children and share that with the world. That is because of the safety risks in regards with being found by their abusers or opening them up for future abuse as sick people will position themselves close to these kids in shelters hiding behind the facade of wanting to help or make donations. We had severe issues with this so I have major issues with just the simple fact that what they are doing by posting the vulnerable abused children online on tiktok where creeps are constantly.

[@liz090833]

If it's an abuse shelter, here in the states, it's illegal. Maybe they don't have that law there. They should.

[@witchykittyy]

Exactly!!! The moment he mentioned shelter immediately all the red flags went up!!!! That’s SHADY as f u c k !!!!!

[@jordanalandry1866]

Yeah, that would definitely be true, and probably in most places the law in the United States for sure, but in the rest of the world much of it, those same restrictions don’t apply, and those things are just not thought of either because of cultural differences, or just not caring, you know, probably more of the former, and some of the latter

[@lindsjg313]

Exactly!!! This situation makes me sick

[@metannoya0073]

I’ve been down my own rabbit hole on this topic in the past and my main issue was the videos where baby Totu looks completely terrified and scared of the whole situation. Another thing I saw a lot was people being critical of the “newborn reflex” that caused her to open her mouth wide when the person behind the camera gave a signal. There was also a video where Totu was alone with two adult men and they were getting her to do a bunch of weird stuff including eating a lime with the peel on. That same video also has a man in the background zipping his fly like he briefly had his pants down. I know there’s bound to be tons of misinformation but something about Totu and the adults around her still give me a gross feeling.

[@armcollector5856]

I agree... another thing that bothers me is if TOTU knew the lady that works/owns the shelter why would she be so terrified & screaming that much. Either she does know this lady ( and the 2 men u mentioned) but she is terrified bc they do bad things to her, and also do bad things to her. I feel like she also sees those horrific comments under those videos & she has no problem, usually with kids u would disable the. I hope & pray to God TOTU is really ok, but either way something Is not right, why would she not be in the videos with her mom, but with this lady ( whoever she really is ) anytime chil6are involved I get my feelings to involved & it will make me think all kind of things. I didn't even know about the things with the 2 men that happened, that's SICK & DISGUSTING, why would u put a little girl on the internet ( tik tok all places ) and she's got injuries ( bruises & other marks ) & why have her on it as well if she's that upset & clearly don't want to be round them, she's scared. Wonder why inabber didn't mention it show this part here bc it would've really make me know something isn't right at all, guess I'll go find the rabbit hole so thank you for that info, lastly I don't think her mother ( but never watched really but they make it seem this way ) is in any video, and why would she pick only TOTU ( she gets the most views) I feel it may be bc she had the other children on it & just picked the child that got most views ( but just speculation) Idk maybe if it was a few videos with the real mom &, little girl, but to see comments & shares like that if she had no nefarious reasons she would disable them or not do it at all, if u got any other info I'd really appreciate whatever u can tell me bc this story breaks my heart ( reminds me of the channel with the little girl wren & her mom can't believe she still doing it knowing children are not safe from pedophiles & when she ( ABC she read that scrip she had or even something from her PR TEAM ) really don't like her, she deliberately puts that 3 yr old in bikinis & crop shirts, taking baths eating weird food then give her a tampon & ask her where it goes ) she tries saying all her followers are mostly women ( but u can't know that ) and she sees the horrific comments & sharea. I also think WREN mom sells some of her daughter pictures ( not sure on that one ) anyway if u know a way to direct me to just a video to find the videos on this topic like the ones u watched, anyways again thanx & have a good rest u week & weekend!!

[@metannoya0073]

And I understand why those clips couldn’t be added to this video because of demonitization and Totu being the main focus, but at the same time it feels unjust to make a judgement without acknowledging there are actual videos of Totu being in suspicious situations with people that aren’t her caretakers which as far as I know have yet to be addressed.

[@armcollector5856]

@@metannoya0073 agreed... I know we all getting tired of seeing videos & hearing stories of to many innocent babies being failed & noone ( not one person helped ) tried to help... sometimes u got to watch what u show & say, but then I think well the best thing to do is show everything bc they sure as hell are ( ppl that hurt children make my blood boil ) anyways what you've learned going down this hole from what you've seen what Is u opinion? I heard this "caretaker" with TOTU still isn't addressing TOTU mother. Anyways I just hope this little baby girl is or will be ok, and it's safe to say their is still to many questions round this whole deal, well hope u have a wonderful weekend & u be safe out there!!

[@blacksesamecandies]

Not saying some kind of abuse isn't happening in the shelters. I sincerely hope it's not the very extreme absolute worse possible abuse people can imagine - but who knows? Anyways, it could be possible the child is suffering from seizures, thus the confused 1000 yard stare or fussyness. She could also have a varity of issues, from being on the autism spectrum to having other neurological conditions to who knows? Obviously it is somewhat abnormal behavior for a child her age and I do sincerely hope she gets the much needed help in a safe enviroment. I think it may be too assumputious to believe everything she is dealing with solely stems from abuse and isn't already some kind of congential or neurological condition, as we do not know the state of her health outside of her being very sick.

[@kansasrush3444]

And in those videos Totu is well past the age for that reflex and it isn’t a jerk reaction opening like shown with her. The actual reflex shows infants opening and reaching towards whatever is touching their face but it isn’t an instant jaw drop & lock & stay open for the camera. I saw the video of the men & it’s scary because they’re holding her, having her sit on them, & all alone with her with their phones taking videos & pictures. I’ve also watched videos where the owners actual child & Totu are in it together & you can see the difference in a child who is loved , spoiled, and treated well vs one who is scared to move, make a sound, let alone touch anything set in front of her. Also, the video of her where her arm appears broken while a man behind the camera does stuff to her to make her cry basically. It’s absolutely disgusting

[@entycast]

this is the first time i've heard of this situation, thank you for spreading awareness on what's happening.

[@AwkwardBlackGal613]

Yeah I haven't heard anyone else talking about this, it scared me.

[@destroy2enjoy]

Same

[@cinnamonbeanbaby444]

My first time too😅

[@Naziah-oc6ec]

It goes very deep. Keep researching

[@amelcr]

I can’t stand people who PLASTER their kids all over their social media. Mum’s on FB with 1000+ friends are the most infuriating.

[@deealexander5325]

Yes! The most infuriating is the ones posting 1st day of school pix NEXT TO THE SCHOOL SIGN 🤦 or even tagging the damn school in the post...like do the really want strangers knowing what school they're at?!

[@OfficialDJLaxative]

Uhm… Moms on Facebook are the most infuriating? That seems hyperbolic. I agree with you 100% but no need for hyperbole when talking about something so serious. I would think the IDIOTS on tiktok and instagram with HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS and MILLIONS of followers posting their children’s faces and bodies in compromising positions, knowing there are 1,000% creeps out there watching and doing UNSPEAKABLE things with those photos and videos is the “most infuriating”. Jesus. Brain worms. Get hyperbole out of your conversations and comments when talking about something very serious like this.

[@KarenMcgee-zd2qt]

Especially when the kids are getting abused , like we need to save children in the world not ignore it

[@TK-dt8mw]

Eastern European here. All of these horrific things you described - torture, abuse, etc. are a regular occurence in Eastern Europe, whether it's a child shetler, homeless shelter, even schools. Corruption is everywhere here, with criminals paying their way out of prison while innocent people often suffer the consequences of someone else's actions. As awful all of these things are, it saddens me that it takes a famous tik tok for the Western world to notice the nightmares that Eastern Europe is experiencing on a daily basis. In a weird way I was not shocked by the things discussed in the video - I absolutely believe this abuse has been going on unnoticed for years until this tik tok. If anyone wants to fully understand the whole situation, I suggest researching into the standard of life in Eastern Europe. It will add many things up.

[@wideawake.9166]

Fellow Eastern European here. Many kids experience this treatment at the hands of their families at home, myself included. I was abused most of my life and cut ties with my family as soon as I managed to move out.

[@dunemae]

Instead of being sad about it being on TikTok be grateful that it’s even getting exposure

[@Hannahgs]

Don't misunderstand someone like inabber: it is a regular occurrence in western countries as well. people like him just turn a blind eye to it.

[@TheeEnglishKnight]

@@Hannahgs dont be obscure. if you looked at data its clear that crimes in eastern europe get reported a LOOOT less than in western europe. and thats either because its accepted and ignored, or the laws there are so loose that its not even considered a crime.

[@mcthurman8822]

I think it’s ridiculous that people share children on the internet. The only time I shared my siblings on the internet (Snapchat in high school) was when I made a post on Instagram celebrating the finalization of my sister’s adoption, we could not share pictures of her before that, but once I realized people other than my family were following me I removed the post.

[@lisamac1986]

@Crickets it's the same here in the UK

[@aurora8749]

I have a private Facebook account as my only social media (aside from this) and I'm only friends with family or people that are like family. Outside of that I'd never want my kids photos on the web

[@valtoton2982]

Yes! But people like The Dougherty Dozen will stop at nothing to exploit their children! 6 of the kids were foster to adopt, and now they're exploiting 2 kinship placement children even though they bio mom says no! Disgusting!

[@killergrooves2438]

@@aurora8749 That’s not enough. There was a real case in the U.S. where a woman was contacted by the FBI because her daughter’s baby pictures were found in an online cache of CP (CP meaning inappropriate pictures of children). They were innocent pictures of her daughter in the bath tub as a little kid. Her daughter was in high school by the time the FBI contacted her. Anyway, the FBI informed the woman that the pictures were recovered from an online CP cache and she realized they were taken from her private Facebook account that only family and close friends could view. The woman realized someone she was close with saved those pictures and uploaded them onto the greater internet. It’s a true story. It was in an article I read years ago. I forget the publication. The Guardian maybe? I don’t remember. But my point is that you never know what predilections someone has. They usually don’t advertise such things.

[@aurora8749]

@@killergrooves2438 I think the fact I would never share photos of my kids in the bath and that nearly all my friends are female aside from like 4 people I am very close to makes it a lot less likely

[@jellylibra9306]

It makes me sick that there's a possible chance that this is another case of child exploitation. I saw an article that some videos have fans (grown men) doing things that Eleanor's creepy fans would love to do (hold and kiss the child, the stuff that looks innocent). Based on the article that was caught on video. I love that you are covering this and talking about it along with protecting the children's identities.

[@Stephaniemickle]

That’s so sick

[@jellylibra9306]

It's disgusting and most of the other videos with the same content is just the owners teenage / maybe grown son doing those things too.

[@goopbuni]

and there’s videos of her with the men eating lemons after and having no response. that’s something that ab*sers often do to wash out the taste and desensitize them. there’s also a man in the back that vaguely looks like he is zipping up his pants. there’s also many videos of totu where the woman in this video taps her mouth and totu immediately opens her mouth and sticks her tongue out. and those videos have hundreds of thousands of saves

[@Foxgurloli]

I completely agree. Also, cool sal pfp!

[@annappropriate_]

here (once again) as a senior BA psych student Totu is definitely unable to even understand why a camera is focused on them all the time - all they see is that someone stares at them with seemingly little to no emotion or feedback. The “still face” experiment explains this pretty well. When a mother/caretaker stops interacting with them, they become stressed, they start to cry - because they feel like they lost their primary caregiver. the theory of mind only develops around the age of 3-4, when they understand desires, wants, hopes and information of/from others. Basically, Totu can’t understand what the hell is going on around them and posting them even if the donations goes to helping Totu and the other children is wrong, and exploitatory.

[@theMoporter]

I’m really glad you commented as someone who knows something in an educated position. I would like to say, though, that Theory Of Mind is conceptually fallible. It was theorised in the mid 20th century and doesn’t have much basis in objective fact. For example, one of the ways it’s discussed is saying autistics don’t have Theory of Mind, because autistic children respond to roleplay differently than allistic children, They usually don’t understanding that a doll was supposed to be unaware of a fact the child knows. Autistic adults dispute this interpretation because it assumes that the children were supposed to ascribe sentience to an inanimate object rather than a person. When I took a university psychology course a few years ago, no criticism of this study was included. Other studies that support the concept are more compelling, but we should be sceptical of any conclusion that ascribes motivations and thought processes to subjects that can’t immediately dispute them. Hope that didn’t come across as rude but it’s such a common misconception!

[@qwandary]

I mean theory of mind seems to develop way earlier than 3-4 but yeah otherwise I agree.

[@qwandary]

@@theMoporter There's some research suggesting anthromorphaisation of non-human things (which autistics do a lot) might be a modality of empathy which is cool. Lots of autistic people empathise with things like ... old pens and stuff. It's not the same as theory of mind but does call further question into the understanding of ToM being the same in all neurotypes. I'd argue we express and navigate theory of mind, and empathy in a variety of ways and narrow research designs pathologise and deny any versions they didn't experience or consider themselves. But yeah some research shows kids displaying theory of mind skills as early as 18 months (such as the brocolli experiment).

[@theMoporter]

​@@qwandary that's really cool! And yeah I'm one of those autistics that anthropomorphises things lol. I end up giving stuff almost mini stories in my head. Not as difficult as some people get it, though - feeling bad about throwing stuff away because it would feel sad. I've heard it referred to as a kind of synaethesia, which makes sense in a way. My brother is also autistic and he has sound synaethesia, where he gets colours when listening to music. The other thing it connects to is that I have PDA autistic profile, which makes me naturally proficient at roleplaying. It's all so new and understudied 😅 I'm glad there are students like you who know what's up!

[@qwandary]

@@theMoporter I'm not sure I get the synaethesia link because that's coding empathy as a sense and not a feeling. By that logic misophonia (where you get emotional responses from sounds, usually negative) would be synaesthesia rather than a sensitivity. I wonder if that's an academic theory or a layman way of explaining similar but atypical 'crossed wires' type stuff? I personally don't think empathising with non-human things is a case of crossed wires but a way of exploring natural emotions we have. Like if we went further, assuming that's the argument, then empathising with non-human characters in stories, where we know they're just a character and they might not even be human, like an alien, or a talking ship, would also need some kind of explanation for the 'crossed wires' when in reality telling stories and feeling empathy for the characters within is a natural way we develop our empathy and explore it. I think anthropomorphising things serves the same function but is just a different manner of doing it that gets pathologised. I might have totally misunderstood the argument though haha (Also I'm not trying to make you debate for or against it, just mulling over an idea I've never heard before!)

[@wokeupdead3]

Totu was not sick when she first came to the orphanage. She looked healthy, with thick hair, her complexion was glowing, she didn't walk with a limp. Now her hair is falling out, she has dark circles under her eyes, and she has a limp. They claim she has diabetes, but is often seen eating sweets. They are lying about her medical conditions to garner sympathy and donations. The other children go in looking healthy as well. Then, as time passes, they get skinnier, have bruises, cigarette burns on their legs, and their heads are shaved. They dress boys up as girls at times. Grown men fly in to meet with Totu, a child.

[@DevHazy]

Yes

[@amberarmstrong8174]

He's got no clue how this works they want ppl to view it like this very lo key an also in plain sight poster is dumb to this

[@maddieb.4282]

@@amberarmstrong8174can you read your comment aloud to see how little it makes sense? Then maybe edit it so we can all understand what you were trying to say?

[@xrosyxposyx]

​@@randomlad830how dare the what? Have commen sense? It's pretty simple to see the things happening are not normal even under poverty.

[@CS-uc2oh]

That doesn't mean she wasn't sick.You are just speculating she wasn't sick.

[@cassiec9008]

A big part of the first theory you “debunked” is that there’s a lot of tagged photos with ToTu with random men. If you go through the instagram following a lot of the men the account follow have photos with her. Why would so many men be visiting a child in a shelter and posting it on IG?

[@Oraerilla]

Someone else posted they admitted they let men have alone time with her but I see no proof of this video anyone have a source ?

[@unlikeable.1554]

​@@Oraerilla Weirdly enough, I doubt that's allegation is true..i'm not saying it's fake or anything but come on....who in their sane mind would fucking let a baby in a room alone with a baby...

[@TrishisFlabbergasted]

I'm also wondering this. Why are there so many men around her?? Making her do weird things. She never looks comfortable around them.

[@nunyabizniz1983]

He hasn’t debunked anything. He’s clueless on the topic.

[@2Cuteandcrazycats]

I respect the fact you blur out children's faces!!! You're 💯 awesome!

[@iNabber]

pls like this video and comment beans the moment you see this, need as much support as possible with a sensitive topic like this :))

[@papercut931]

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[@p-__]

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[@entycast]

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[@Magical_turtle]

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[@freegfroog5485]

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[@alexkarnehm5446]

I saw a SC short on this topic last week and it made me feel so sick, I'm at least glad someone else is talking about this topic in more depth without using the child as clickbait because it's truthfully very scary, Thank you for raising awareness.

[@ElliePlayzMC19]

You said for us to leave our thoughts below. So I will give mine and also just wanted to clear a couple things up. There are also a few details you must have forgotten to mention.... 1. Totu was NOT found rummaging through dust bins. You mixed up the children. The Mother you spoke about at the end, blaming the father for the child’s condition, is a TOTALLY different baby. 2. When Totu first got to the shelter, they said she was sick. Have you seen pictures of her when she got there? She looked like a happy, healthy, very well fed child. Not a mark on her, FULL head of hair. Yes, they have shown medical documentation of her “condition”. Yet, her symptoms don’t match her “illnesses”. Documents can be faked. 3. They also said one of her legs was shorter then the other. Odd that you don’t notice that until AFTER she’s been at the shelter and AFTER the picture of her looking like she saw the devil himself. 4. Did you happen to notice that it wasn’t until after that when she walked her foot would turn out and she was scared to move? 5. They said her hair fell out because she was sick. Did you see the video of her and Konuls daughter, where Totu imitates pulling her hair out? 6. Have you seen the videos of all the many rich grown men flying in to “visit” with Totu? To bring her gifts? In one video it looks like a man zipping his pants up and why were these strange grown men feeding her lemons? 7. Have you seen the videos of Raul (Konuls son) with Totu? Kissing on her? How about the video of Rauls girlfriend Aysel with Totu? 8. Have you not noticed that in 80% of the videos that there is food in them? She knows not to touch any food until she performs for the camera first. Sometimes she won’t even take the food w/o looking petrified or crying. They have to physically put it in her mouth. 9. The mind-numbing madness of the Symbolism you said right? One, people didn’t go “mad” because they saw a BALENCIAGA shirt on Konuls mother. This was after people had already seen tons of videos already. Ok, you say no bid deal right? Means nothing right? I guess you didn’t notice the Mother obviously, intentionally moving her jacket so that logo would be seen very clear?? BALENCIAGA also was not just a scandal. It was a scandal that referenced children with, child trafficking, satanic rituals, bdsm and panda bears in bondage gear. 10. Pandas are cute, no big deal right? No, unless you see all the many panda references and you know what pandas represent. In the world of csa and trafficking.. they call it “Panda eyes”. Why, because when a child is sodomized the trauma to their body is so severe that both their eyes turn black and blue and they look like a panda. 11. Did you see the many videos where Totu opens her mouth or sticks her tongue out on on command or when someone touch’s their finger to her chin? 12. Did you notice that they use filters on her most of the time? Why? 13. Have you paid attention to the videos enough to notice that the majority of the ones you see now are actually older videos? 14. It has been said that Totu is on the dark web in thousands of videos. 15. Have you noticed how often she looks like she is dissociating? Repeated childhood sexual trauma causes Dissociative identity disorder. 16. If all the other children were removed because of these allegations .. why was Totu and Nur aloud to stay? 17. Have you seen the videos of the house? The bedrooms.. etc... spotless always... that’s a lot of children to have a spotless house and not one toy out of place. 18. The huge billboard Of Totu eating sausages? 19. Queen Bashi flip flopping her “facts” about everything? Deflection, distraction ? 20. Have you watched the video of the child that was the victim? Her saying that they were not given food. They were burned with cigarettes. Sexually abused and had their hair set on fire??? I could go on, but I will stop there. I am grateful that you brought awareness to Totu. However, seems like you set out to “debunk” a lot of things. Could somethings like the symbolism be a coincidence, maybe to some. However, when you take these “coincidences” and add them to the FACTS... they are no longer coincidences. I’ll simply say this, unless you have seen all her videos on all of Konuls (many social media platforms) and all of the people who have been so kind as to come “visit” Totu, you don’t know the whole story. There is way more to this than you spoke about. Millions of people are concerned for Totu. With good reason and NOT just from the USA. We are NOT over reacting. This is a child who shows all the signs of abuse and trafficking. THEY put her out there to get $$$. They are the ones who exploited her. What about, “See something, say something “ ... only if it’s in our own country? It doesn’t work that way. This is NOT a bunch of insane TikTokers who saw a woman with a BALENCIAGA shirt and blew this up for no reason. The videos are enough in themselves for people to be concerned, but then on top of that an investigation, children removed from the home and victims stating detailed stories of abuse????? Why then is the shelter not closed? Why have no charges been brought? Why is the “media” not covering it for what it is? Why is Totu and Konuls daughter Nur still there? I’m sure it has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that her father is the deputy prime minister right and that they have ties to the military. Anyone can see by simply watching these videos, that something is very wrong. Anyone who knows a survivor of csa and have heard their stories, can tell somethings wrong. Anyone who has researched child trafficking, child sex abuse and elite pedophile rings can tell somethings wrong. Based on all of this, could justify coming to the conclusion that this is way more than “just” a “little Safe Shelter” for women and children”. Besides actually seeing the abuse happen, what other proof would someone need to see. All you have to do is look in her eyes. I don’t know exactly what happened to this precious baby. What I do know is that when it comes to the abuse of a child, I personally am going to assume it’s true until it’s proven not to be, than to assume it’s not true and ignore it. Let me just add that this is MY OPINION and MY OPINION ONLY based on my knowledge and observations.

[@neeren777]

I hope he reads your comment

[@pinklemonade8320]

> obviously, intentionally moving her jacket so that logo would be seen very clear Because it's a high-fashion brand and the point of having it on your clothes is to show it off (I come from a similar country and understand the show-off culture). I really don't get why people think that bad people are out here signalling their crimes to the audience with secret symbols like we're in a badly-written thriller. Also the balenciaga scandal in itself is just completely deranged and I don't even understand how it became a scandal. With the amount of mental leaps it takes to actually conclude something bad from that ad, I think a handful of people were just looking for something to be offended by. And I really doubt anyone in Azerbaijan has heard of it. I'm North American and I hadn't even heard of it.

[@jordanalandry1866]

@@pinklemonade8320 and I’m not even saying that everything is on the up and up with this shelter because I honestly don’t have enough information to know it’s difficult to determine because there’s a lot of language and cultural barriers and I just simply don’t have enough factual information to make that determination from being totally honest and I don’t like that even if their intentions are good, and they may be that they’re using these children in an exploitative way, and even if their intentions are completely innocent, the fact of the matter is there are perverts on the Internet and they can take the most innocent, and fun type of video or a photo off of someone’s social media, and they can twist it into something perverse and use it for perverse reasons for lack of a better way of putting it. No there very well could be at the very least neglect, emotional neglect abuse, and possibly, something more sinister. Yeah I mean it’s it’s possible but it’s not up to the public Internet to make that determination with a bunch of misinformation and wildly speculative, far-reaching assumptions you know that muddies the waters quite a bit. You have to really stick to the facts and you can’t use your emotions and, what you think because human beings are notorious for seeing what they want to see if someone tells you this is what’s going on you’re going to look for everything that confirms that belief. Confirmation bias is very easy way of explaining it is confirmation bias you’re going to look for things that doesn’t support that theory, and that truth or what you believe to be the truth, there are authorities involved and I’m sure there’s even more going on behind the scenes that we’re not being made aware of and yes, I know Azerbaijan is extremely corrupt as far as journalistic integrity, and the international corruption scale, a ring, quite poorly as far as having accurate media, and just corruption is really terrible there as it is a lot of places but falsely accusing someone of something so Heynis is just as troubling and just as irresponsible as doing nothing if a child is being abused so you do the best you can with the information that you have the facts that you have not the speculation not the bullshit you heard on the Internet because somebody told you that you need to have a more critical eye be more discerning and I think it’s weird that they’re posting all the children and things like that but the fact of the matter is it’s getting the money it’s getting them views I don’t think people recognize how extremely sheltered and poor, basically people are in Azerbaijan. You know people don’t have a lot of money to get. Yeah, there are wealthy people there don’t get me wrong, but the average person doesn’t have money to give so I’m assuming they rely heavily on international donors and support and look at how many other friends are either just outright clueless and completely naïve to the fact that they’re exploiting their kids you know it happens everywhere and there’s so fucking many of them, so why is it so hard to believe that some hole in the wall shelter in Azerbaijan and the people affiliated with it. Why is it so hard to believe that they could be ignorant to the Darkside of society and children on the Internet? You know if there’s thousands of American parents naïvely posting things of their children, publicly naturally one could understand someone in Azerbaijan, doing the same thing and having the same sentiment.

[@SalusKitty]

That is a long... long comment...

[@SalusKitty]

And the whole situation is... horrible

[@procity9284]

I worked with kids at the YMCA, and there were signs up that we are not allowed to take photos of the kids. That included just regulars as well as employees. Someone took a picture of a kid through the door window, and one of us chased him down to get him to delete it. It was a very big nono

[@snacks9294]

A lot of my career currently revolves around handling misinformation and this is honestly just a breath of fresh air to hear. I encounter so many people who jump right into the rabbit hole of assumptions or conspiracies and legitimately try their hardest to spread it. It's sad, but also extremely concerning when you see how adamant a lot of them are in trying to convince everyone else of their conspiracy.

[@keylimetea]

Do you believe this to be a case of misinformation or are ppl rightfully concerned?

[@checksam]

I believe the strive to convince others of their misinformation mostly has to do with online clout and attention, or stroke their ego in some way. it's really not much more than that, and it's honestly scary.

[@snacks9294]

@@keylimetea Given the information that we do have, I think people are justified in being worried, but the reason for them being worried isn't quite the same. It's entirely valid to be skeptical of the treatment of children, especially when they're being used to advertise or entertain for a company/agency/etc. That being said though, the local authorities have already checked the place out and have done what they could on their end to ensure that the agency was acting accordingly and that the kids were looked after. I personally think that most of this is a good case of misinformation that has spiralled out of control. Does that mean that there can't be any corruption and that they're clear of any blame or fault at all? No, not at all. I've lived in a lot of countries where corruption for this kind of thing was far too casual and people's status or connections got them out of trouble with the law. Given the eyes on the shelter though and the constant research being done by people both within the country and outside of it, I feel like it's unlikely that this is actually the case. Misinformation comes in many forms, and this is a great example of it. People love to come up with ideas and theories on alleged wrongdoings, especially with the 'guilty until proven innocent' mindset that has been carried around the internet for a while now.

[@ArtTasticCreations]

Why do people have careers about deeming things as misinformation? Genuinely curious. How many of you would you say they are? What kind of companies hire these services?

[@snacks9294]

@@ArtTasticCreations People have careers that involve misinformation and handling misinformation to keep said misinformation from spreading. Things that were dangerous about covid misinformation, for example, had to be moderated and papers fact-checked to verify said claims. When you share misinformation on any public platform, it becomes the platform's obligation to moderate said misinformation and handle it to avoid spreading it- but most of them do it so that they don't get sued. Most platforms that involve comments, media sharing, or discussion-boards in general for any larger media groups will have paid teams to moderate and manage what goes through. And it honestly depends on whether the hired teams come with their own moderation platform software, an ai/auto-flag algorhythm joined with it, and a team of IT people behind it or if they're hired and use the site's platform. I'm currently in this career because it suits my lifestyle! It's not an easy job though since we deal with all the stuff that really shouldn't be aired to the public: namely hate speech, misinformation, extreme violence, etc. Given the state of the world nowadays, you can kind of imagine the nasty stuff that can come up. It's now a full-on need for people to hire moderation services to protect themselves and their clients from misinformation and conspiracy.

[@emiliawhatmore2608]

i have followed this story for a while and was getting so frustrated that no one with a platform had talked about it so THANK YOU BESTIE

[@abbewinter9249]

Thank you so much for not just covering this story, but doing a thorough job of it. I'd not heard anything of it until today, and there's a lot to dive into. It would be so easy to immediately jump to one side or the other, but you took the time to lay out everything you could find before you approached a conclusion, and that's truly admirable.

[@babblgamgummi6029]

It's so weird that people analyse the real world like it's art and there's intention behind every detail. Like yes, in stories names sometimes relate to the characters' fate or their backstory, in portraits the object people are painted with are supposed to say something about them, but in real life parents just like a name and kids just like a stuffed toy

[@maddieb.4282]

^^^^^^^ 🎉 so well stated

[@Datura981]

Concerning children being in the spotlight of social media, I absolutely agree with you. My generation, and my friends group, were the last generation that got an internet-free childhood. Our embarrassing moments, childhood photos, anything about us was communicated with only close friends and family through media that only circulated so far because there wasn't any sort of apparatus to share it. And I watched a lot of my friends absolutely invade their kids' privacy by plastering their entire lives online. Some did this from their pregnancy or the kid's birth all the way to the kid moving out or going to college, with every aspect in-between also made public. But then they would complain that their kids were 'glued to the phone'... well you've published their entire life online, what did you expect? 😞

[@JaneDoe-rj4jn]

Not only Tik Tok, but KZbin should not allow family vlogs either. Most exploit private moments of children’s lives in front of millions of viewers. Nothing like having your classmates learn you started menstruating, or you have a crush on Bobby in your class. Disgusting.

[@ichmeiner4531]

THIS is how you address a complex situation that's not concluded yet. Presenting every bit of information and then dissecting everything to weed out obvious misinformation and falsehoods to maybe get closer to a real explanation. Thank you for putting so much work and effort in your videos. It really matters and it does make a difference to have complex topics discussed like this, among all the blatant clickbait bs.

[@strawberryfox8819]

But he's not presenting every bit of information. There are videos on the account that present Totu alone with random men, one video features her eating a lime with the peel around them with a man in the background zipping up his fly. The caretaker has stated that she has meet and greets where men literally fly in to meet Totu and are left alone with her. He left out a lot of points and footage, probably because of age restriction, but this is not the entire thing.

[@winniefindstheway]

​@@strawberryfox8819yeah that lemon vid is messed up 😢

[@ash4628]

Honestly the only normal people I’ve known to watch content revolving around children like this is mother’s or fathers and just parents in general. When my aunt got pregnant she followed so many accounts revolving around people’s children and childcare. But I feel like that itself is rather innocent but that’s obviously not the only kind of people who follow these accounts. all you need to do is look at the comments of those accounts and you can see even if the intention is good there is just so many creeps and weirdos who take advantage of that.

[@maddyloveridge]

but i believe parents can make content for other parents without including their children in them

[@simransimran9339]

Kind of depends. I don't particularly follow children on social media, I don't have social media. But I do enjoy shows created around children. I don't think I'm creepy. Like the Korean show, the return of Superman and the Japanese show about children's first errands are some of my all time favourites. Children are cute and funny. To me it's very similar to pet videos. I don't like crying, disciplining or pranking (traumatising) videos. Those are not things that should be shared with the world. Your child's distress shouldn't ever be exploited. Same way I'd not encourage animal cruelty videos and would report them as well.

[@ash4628]

@@maddyloveridge yeah that’s true

[@ash4628]

@@simransimran9339 I agree. Tbh I think it really should be taken into consideration the intentions of the parents posting their children and stuff online as well and not just the people consuming the content.

[@iolacj123]

@@simransimran9339 KZbin is social media, just FYI 😉✌️

[@regitzehansen9700]

iNabber: " Did anything really happen in 2022?" People from Ukraine: 👁️👄👁️

[@wtaffam]

Why did I have to scroll so far to find this comment.. Then goes on to talk positively about their time in Russia and I'm a bit like, oof.

[@tuntalia]

There really needs to be a regulation on Tiktok whereas children under 13 cannot be posted or active on the app. Restrict the activity of kids and moron parents using their kids as a cashcow. This happens everywhere, but Tiktok is especially vulnerable to this crap.

[@LenoxxxPerl]

The app must be banned WORLDWIDE! Children up to the age of 16/18 should not be allowed to use the Internet! What I have noticed in the last 2 years hits me to the bone! There are a lot of bad people on TikTok and it's a collecting pool for pedophiles. But what can you say, the agenda is aimed at our children, it will only get worse in the near future.

[@justkiddin84]

I had a feeling when I heard the one woman say Tuto meant ‘taken’. For some reason, some translators (and English to Turkish and to Russian are the worst-Azerbaijani is a Turkish language) give meanings as the opposite. Searching, you will find that it actually means hold or given. Not sure why, but it makes conversation rather difficult😂. Another thought: these kids are in a shelter for a reason-they have experienced trauma of some kind, so they may look or behave accordingly-or even suffer from early mental illness. Having said that, it’s icky to put them on display for self aggrandizement if that’s what’s happening, or worse for profit-and if you read Wikipedia about the current regime and this woman’s family, well, that may be it. I hope not, but she is in such a powerful position, that it is impossible to tell if there was any real investigation done.

[@justkiddin84]

In other words, I’m wondering if this is a campaign to show wealthy people around the world that their money goes to this wonderful thing. While the country is raising many red flags for human rights violations. By this woman’s family. Hm.

[@madokami03]

I thought the same thing upon hearing it. Like really? The proof that she’s being trafficked is her name being google translated to “taken?” Sounds like something out of a bad movie! Also google translate is notorious for being wrong, any language teacher will tell you that. I hope more people do actual research on things as serious as this and get the real facts, rather than spread rather ridiculous sounding misinformation like that. And I hope more research is focused on the people running this place and their motivations and backgrounds

[@missalpaca6116]

I am turkish and I guarantee you tuto or totu means nothing. it's not a word. only description I can find in turkish says it means "parrot" in kyrgyz language

[@duygutezcan3341]

​@@missalpaca6116 maybe they're translating it phonetically so "totu" sounds like "tuttu" and they're translating it to "held" or "taken"

[@justkiddin84]

@@missalpaca6116 I said it is a Turkish language, but Azerbaijani is separate- I asked for Azerbaijani to English translation.

[@aliiien23]

So good to see a bigger deep dive on Totu! Internet Investigator also did a video but there wasn’t enough info out at the time, so good to see you making a deep dive!

[@halloundtschuess]

Since I've seen her video about this situation, I can't stop thinking about these men traveling from Turkey to Azerbaijan to cuddle with Totu :(

[@haileennevsmom09]

@@halloundtschuess :(

[@goopbuni]

this still doesn’t have nearly enough information. there’s videos of her with the men eating lemons after and having no response. that’s something that ab*sers often do to wash out the taste and desensitize them. there’s also a man in the back that vaguely looks like he is zipping up his pants. there’s also many videos of totu where the woman in this video taps her mouth and totu immediately opens her mouth and sticks her tongue out. and those videos have hundreds of thousands of saves

[@ivyyyl0vessuu953]

i think something that should have been brought up in this video is the video of toto with two completely random men alone because it just stuck in my head and honestly concerns me more

[@anjanaaa.v]

Thank you so much for mentioning me in the video and appreciating my efforts, iNabber! It truly means the world! It's such a breath of fresh air to see someone else take a neutral standpoint and call out things that are objectively wrong such as the shelter owner still continuing to post Totu for views as well as the insane conspiracy theories that came up with the situation. Btw, I didn't notice Co-Sun's comment on my video until you pointed it out. I can't say anything other than I hope they would redirect their efforts to helping battered women and children in countries like Azerbaijan rather than being deranged keyboard warriors in my comments section. Much love.

[@beekneed]

Thank you for your involvement! 🙏

[@holleymariepreece9800]

The 1st tiktoks with her in she's beautiful big big bright eyes, then how ever long after she's a shell of herself u can clearly see it. So skinny & traumatised absolutely breaks my heart it really do. Thanks so much for bringing this 2 YT. My partner isn't on tiktok so I do tell him stuff bout it & you've covered the things I've spoken 2 him about & we love ur channel. Great job well done. Thanks so much 4 all ur hard work u pit into these videos much love & appreciation.

[@ohapqity]

You know it’s gonna be a great dive-in story when it’s an hour long :0

[@user-qr1cp3rc1g]

I nabber, ı can understand azerbaijini. Because I am turkish. She is not a boy, that part where they talked about her as a "him" was a translation error on the part of facebook translator. Because there is only one pronoun in turkish and Azerbaijan, so the auto translator chose a default pronoun to refer to her, in this case "him". If you don't know, Azerbaijani and turkish are basically %80 the same language, so speakers of both languages can understand each other.

[@lucydale3214]

I haven't had too in depth training on it, but since I work with kids, I have had required trainings about identifying child abuse. And know what it didn't say? If you believe that a kid is being abused that they 100% must be. And at least for my job, you cant accuse anyone yourself, you talk to someone higher up who is better equipped to handle that situation. That care center is shady, but people blow things way too out of proportion way too quickly ("this place is kinda shady, it must be the worst possible option"), which like you said, devalues the possible arguments that could be made against it.

[@strawberryfox8819]

I don't think it's wrong for people to jump to that conclusion given that men literally pay and fly over to have meet and greets and alone time with totu. She literally gets left alone with random men. In the best case, this is child exploitation. In the worst, Totu is a CSA victim.

[@anjiscool]

I think it’s great how respectfully you talk about these topics

[@gabriellewatson2236]

so glad someone is talking about this. Tried to search for videos on Totu a little while ago and couldn't find anything

[@emiliawhatmore2608]

i have been waiting for a video on this topic. thank you. it’s so concerning. i hope this kid gets care and security soon

[@siennabrown7083]

I’ve sadly been seeing tiktoks about her situation on my fyp the past few months. I’m glad to see someone take the time to bring it up

[@ShanaBanana3313]

“They sell them for……Cash prizes” I literally laughed out loud. Wasn’t expecting that 😂

[@aolivep]

this is such a sad situation, but I cant get over the fact that ppl ran the kids name thru google translate, saw it translated to "taken" and decided that was some sort of code as if people reading about it from that same country would see that and think nothing of it. Like, really people.....

[@electricroll4136]

I really appreciate the fact you explain things in so much detail, but not in a complicated way allowing everyone to understand. Its really helpful to understand the issue and many other issues you have spoken about

[@Ioonatic]

an hour long inabber video??!? there goes my afternoon

[@iNabber]

waheyy

[@Shibbylovess]

Praise be

[@etherealelf]

Loving the Death Note music in the background! Thanks for another well-researched video and thank you for reminding people that crazy theories only hurt people- even if they aren't meant to be harmful.

[@renee1961]

I appreciate all the Research you do for your videos! And your videos are Always Informative!

[@iNabber]

thank you so much dude

[@aivlysplath]

It’s so upsetting that adults mistreat the most vulnerable of our population. 😔

[@fancydeer]

There's something not right with this entire situation. The fact that these kids who come from a background of abuse and trauma are being used to make money for this organization is gross and that alone makes this "shelter" shady. The videos of Totu are unsettling in themselves and the fact that they just keep parading her in front of the camera for views is disgusting honestly. This baby is there to be taken care of and to heal, not to be a show pony.

[@jmarshal]

Do Americans see people wearing high end brand and just…assume it’s legit? Because it’s like the total opposite here 😂 Most people just assume it’s fake unless they know the person is filthy rich and buys from those stores.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

honestly, yes. It's easy to buy on credit so many americans live beyond their means with purchases like that. Which serves to fool others into thinking they're rich when they're deep in the red

[@dunemae]

Not most of Americans. It would be dumb to generalize

[@hausofphid3966]

It's because of the alleged connection between child tr@fficking and Balenciaga. They did a photoshoot with kids and bondage gear and shady documents about tr@fficking. The allegations started flying after that. Google Balenciaga scandal. Could be unfounded, but that's why that brand is significant.

[@maddieb.4282]

@@hausofphid3966yes and that is also a crazy conspiracy. Linking two conspiracies doesn’t make them legit

[@yupperdoodle]

Whenever iNabber mentions beans, I remember that awful day I learned he didn’t actually like baked beans 😭

[@MooseShower]

Canceled >:0

[@adnaP_esreveR]

We must ask him whether he likes green beans at least

[@Sofasurfa]

Not like baked beans 😱

[@RavenWing1972]

Beans!

[@BigBoyPoi]

FINALLY. A deep dive into this. Thank you, Nabber.

[@persephonessong]

I applaud you for doing videos like this! It's so important children are by far the most abused and taken advantage of and it's absolutely sick! I'm trying so hard to make sure I raise my daughter right and keep her safe and it's so important to know what dangers are out there! This world is scary this is a PSA that we NEED!! Thank you for keep us and the children safe! ❤❤❤❤

[@selinahopeformefarm]

I am a survivor of severe child abuse, minor sex trafficking, and CSAM (child sexual abuse materials) I was abused before I could even walk or talk. I was 6 yrs. old the first time I was sold to a man in a motel. I was 7 the first time I was used in CSAM. I worked so hard for many years to heal from the trauma I endured as a child and teen. I now work as a Human trafficking Expert and an anti-child abuse activist. I work with some amazing organizations and have worked with over 400 victims. I feel blessed to help others that have been through what I have, in fact, it’s my work with survivors that have helped me to heal the most. a couple of the organizations that I work with had been flooded with calls and emails about "baby Totu" claiming she was being trafficked. When the reports were made to the proper authorities, We were informed that it was FAKE! unfortunately, there have been MANY conspiracy theories focused on child trafficking that started around 2016 and seemed to have spread even more during Covid. It’s ironic... I spent years raising awareness of trafficking back when people didn’t even know what human trafficking was or they thought trafficking only happened in other countries. Fast forward 10 years and people are literally making up stories of children being trafficked! This truly is mind-boggling to me. I don’t think I will ever understand. There are so many REAL victims of trafficking with REAL stories of being trafficked, why do people feel the need to make these things up As a survivor and someone who has worked in the anti-trafficking movement for 11 yrs. I have never seen anything like the misinformation I have seen for the past 3-4 yrs. The problem: When people lie, start rumors, and spread misinformation it hurts REAL victims and the REAL movement. It takes resources away from children that are really being trafficked and used in CSAM! People see this stuff on youtube Tik Tok or whatever and instantly believe it. That’s the problem. We all have critical thinking skills to decern fact from fiction PLEASE I urge people to use those critical thinking skills! Use your discernment. I am sure many people that have gotten involved in this fight to "save baby Totu" believe it’s true and they just want to help a child that they think is being abused/trafficked. I commend that I really do and that’s exactly what people should do... if it is REAL! The TRUTH matters especially in situations where a child is being abused in any way! There is no room for lies rumors or misinformation when it comes to a child’s safety and wellbeing. There are many different ways people can help in the anti-trafficking movement and like I said before there are plenty of REAL victims with REAL stories! Imagine if the people spreading misinformation put all that energy towards the truth and real victims. So much awareness could be spread on things that truly need that awareness. Thank you for this video. towards the end ...you say "This only impacts victims negatively" and you couldn't be more right!!!

[@maddieb.4282]

@Jack-px8lf”it can’t be fake! People are saying things and making statements!”

[@maddieb.4282]

@Jack-px8lfwhy would an anti trafficking organization declare something fake without investigating it?

[@catalinaventura2044]

@@maddieb.4282Why would CPS not protect children… you see the logic. Just because they’re an agency it doesn’t clear them of anything. This child has some pretty intense bruising, Back alignment issues after meeting with men…. 1000 yard stare… & sure it could be from anything else… but is this child taken care of at the end of the day… no. If there’s is no SA then theres PA… if theres no PA .. theres MA. This in general is not a good situation for a child that’s TWO

[@nephco]

I am glad there are people trying to make sure kids safe.

[@ZekDraco]

The TikTok app isn't getting shut down, its just being banned off US government devices.

[@cjhunt9532]

if this shelter is indeed connected to a political official, i would point out that one reason people might print false allegations (idk if they're false or not, this is just an example) would be to attack that official for political reasons

[@Minnabehere]

Honestly disgusted by how some people out there fetishize children. Really makes me feel worried about the future. Thanks for making this video, despite how uncomfortable it was.

[@lesbiagini]

I love how inabber only says five things in the span of an hour it’s really impressive

[@fermentedfeelings]

I really, really love these hour+ long videos. They’re so good to have on while I work and I always relisten for little parts I miss due to working. Appreciate your research and content!

[@owlme]

Reminder that these children also just deserve to have their identities kept private

[@anna00913]

love the consistent objective analysis of important topics, it's too rare, and so important. thank you for being one of the most reliable and unbiased commentators on youtube.

[@slothdance2020]

Children often get bruises and it by no means is hard evidence of abuse. My 3 year old nephew gets bruises constantly. He is hyperactive and often trips, falls, runs into things, throws things, etc. I am not saying to ignore bruises, but to look for additional signs of abuse. Look at the Childs behavior, look for signs of emotional distress, etc. I really hope that someone does look into this shelter to investigate if the children are being abused.

[@ladymacbethofmtsensk]

Seconding this. I bruise extremely easily and I’m uncoordinated; growing up, and even now, I constantly had lots of bruises on my legs from bumping into things or falling over. My mum also hit me when I was a kid, but the abuse pretty much never left a visible mark.

[@slothdance2020]

@@ladymacbethofmtsensk Yep, me too. I was a competitive gymnast, i was always bruised and often injured. The ER knew me and my mom by name. My father was abusing me but not physically. There is more to abuse than bruises and more to bruises than abuse.

[@sansequanimity5998]

I'm so glad you're covering this. It's hard to know what to believe with everything going around, but I trust you to do your research and give us the full scope of the situation. Definitely looking forward to hearing what you have to say on the matter.

[@taystrilogy]

my personal opinion, tiktok being banned would be a big W for 90% of people

[@iNabber]

would remove a lotta content for me tho sadly

[@alexx5064]

that certainly is a catch 22

[@heatherrniicole1552]

If tik tok is a problem for you, you are the problem and need to find the root issue.

[@beruskaletuska]

Yeah I'm not too torn up about it going away lol

[@yuki97kira]

As much as id love this..there are some good creator that rely on that guy making satire skits on shows or as a safety checker of fantasy settings

[@alauram.6416]

Thank you for making this incredibly important video. If Beans will help get this out to more people than so be it! Pork BEANS recipe: ½ cup Bacon (small-dice slab, thick-cut bacon slices, salt pork, or pancetta, about 3 ounces) ½ Medium Yellow Onion (finely chopped) ½ cup Tomato Sauce ⅓ cup Molasses 3 tablespoons Apple Cider Vinegar 1 ½ teaspoons Dry Mustard 1 teaspoon Worcestershire Sauce ¼ teaspoon Black Pepper (freshly ground) 3 (15-ounces) cans Cannellini Beans (or navy, do not drain)

[@AlterEgo373]

Hey just out of curiosity what is a yellow onion?

[@boggie8754]

Thank you for the long videos. Im a night cleaner and I’m constantly looking for new content to stuff into my silly little brain. I’m writing this before actually getting into the video so I’m sure my positivity will fade in a second. But thanks :)

[@BENJIHONEST]

imagine growing up years later and you’re all over the internet 😭

[@tommyboyio1363]

Thanks for covering this and getting the word out. I hope something can be done about the whole clock app issues.

[@MustAvoidScurvy]

This case made me remember the "psychic" and the Idaho murders investigation. Great video as always, Frasier ❤

[@Katieririxx]

Thank you for highlighting this and blurring out the children involved❤ loving your long form videos lately

[@devonmmi]

you: baby totu my brain, every single time, for the entire video: baby tofu

[@adnaP_esreveR]

Kinda cute nickname though sgsysjshks

[@aidene5513]

Thank you for reminding again what enabling is❤️ if you feel something is off, go for it. Hurt feelings hurt less than abuse.

[@SorasShadow1]

i still remember when tiktok viciously attacked and doxxed someone who didn't understand that tiktok _sometimes_ uses "make-up" as a stand-in phrase for "SA" so seeing the madness continue to spiral like this isn't surprising

[@Sam-fq5hc]

Excuse me, *what*

[@coatimundi69]

​@@Sam-fq5hc a man made a video following a trend where he said "my girlfriend and her friend used my mascara wand without my consent" (mascara wand being a metaphor for his penis, so they raped him) and a celebrity, not understanding the trend and thinking he was whining over nothing, said "i dont feel bad for you lol". people thought she was making light of [men's] sexual assault, she had to make an apology, it was a whole thing. very dumb

[@katiebiles3317]

Im so glad you covered this, I saw a one off video not too long ago but passed it off as tik tok being over dramatic. This situation either way sounds sad as children are being exploited

[@chocomelo454]

So I know it's been disclosed that the sausage and a lot of other things featured in the video are all cultural and not disturbing, but there's no explanation for flying out grown men to just hug and cuddle a baby. Literally none. Like, literally everyone knows that having a baby do basically meet-and-greets is distressing and weird and that male fans of kids Totu's age and younger are fuckin' weirdos. As much as I'd like to believe Totu is all right, the fact she's put online in the first place is concerning enough and that her caretakers are so willing to make ads featuring her. They definitely know who's watching their videos I'm sorry.

[@coatimundi69]

definitely not the point, but id find it just as creepy if grown women were doing this. any kind of parasocial relationship is bad, but when it's with a child... hoo boy!

[@chocomelo454]

@@coatimundi69 yeah no me too. just seems like it's ONLY men and never women who are flown own (even though you'd think that if it was innocent they'd fly out fans of any gender and not just the men.)

[@winniefindstheway]

​​@@chocomelo454it's not only men sadly 😢 there have been women who went to see her as well... i feel so bad for this little one and the rest of the children there 😪 and women can be the same as some of these men out there if not worse 😕

[@chocomelo454]

@@winniefindstheway oh god

[@KestrelDC]

Reminds me of that daycare people kept trying to sneak photos of and all that weird stuff because they for some reason decided it must be a front for something…..

[@FirstSvMiIn]

Yeah no. Very different. Totu is literally used to cater to pedos online. Its not a conspiracy theory

[@emmmma143]

Even if the allegations are all false and the children aren’t being mistreated, there is still an important aspect that the children are being exploited. Okay, it’s possible it’s a good intentioned rehabilitation center and tiktok is taking things out of proportion but they are clearly being exploited. Posting children for millions to see is only getting harder to defend but some will still die on that hill 😵‍💫

[@maddiesharpe7118]

This child is absolutely being exploited, but I honestly think these overly severe theories are just unfounded. I went through every video that is currently on their TikTok, and I honestly didn’t see anything particularly concerning. Maybe things were deleted or I didn’t look close enough. Who knows what the situation really is. Praying for this little lady either way ❤❤

[@zozocecp]

They deleted a lot of videos.

[@Alexandraadftxr7052]

There are men on instagram who toke pictures with her.

[@maddiesharpe7118]

@@Alexandraadftxr7052 yeah that’s exploitation. I’m saying I didn’t see any dramatic difference in her appearance or bruises on her

[@Alexandraadftxr7052]

@@maddiesharpe7118 the theory that she is being trafficed doasn't seem unfounded. I mean men treveld there, and payd to meet her, and to be left alone with her. I hope that this is just made up.

[@christinamelfe6581]

Also to consider.. all the other children were taken from the shelter due to abuse and torture. The reason Totu is still there is because Kobul adopted her

[@nikkiube]

thanks for making this dude, I heard about this a bit ago and tried to find out more but quickly stopped because of so many weird conspiracy theory leaning tiktoks

[@kiwikrg]

Thank you for doing these videos! I don't use tiktok so I honestly haven't heard about this at all!!! Thanks for opening this can of rotten beans

[@axolotlthrottle]

Oh my God, thank you for covering this! I wasn’t sure if you actually would or not, since it is VERY heavy. But thank you for covering this. It is so disturbing and important, especially if the assumptions/accusations turn out to be true… 😅

[@heatherlaaman3593]

Before I really considered children on the Internet I would sometimes give accounts with cute babies a follow just because the videos made me smile. I’ve even sent some to my sister like “Omg look how cute this baby is” I was def part of the problem 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@cjboyo]

My advice? Go through and unsubscribe from as many channels that center kids as possible and make a point to not engage with any content centering kids. There are plenty of channels that make “cute kid” content where they tell stories about their kids and don’t put them on camera

[@TheElf_Online]

At least you are able to recognize that you were part of the issue. Many people aren’t able, so I’m glad you could, it is the first step towards changing your behavior after all.

[@b3nt079]

Yeah, I've unfortunately done the same thing. When you just come across the videos you never really think about the deeper aspects of it, you just clock in on "Aww, cute kid doing cute things!" so you interact with it. Best thing you can do now is to just not interact with anything that high focuses on kids. Or at least, do not follow the account.

[@ddl4374]

THANK YOU for your solidarity - mankind needs more like you to stand up and step in like you do. GOD BLESS YOU !!

[@lance.7124]

it just saddens me that the adults clearly dont give a fuck about the child (duh), that unless we get to actually do something about this we can only watch as the child gets exploited despite showing signs of abuse and illness until she unfortunately passes.

[@chazzo3759]

You work so hard and we APPRECIATE it.

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

I can't speak to whether there is or isn't any abuse going on in that shelter because I just don't have enough information. However, it is very clear that the women and children who are seeking staying there and seeking help while in a very vulnerable condition _ARE_ being horribly exploited for money. They're in no position to give any kind of informed consent because even if it isn't directly coerced, they are still at risk of being manipulated into consenting when they don't want to (eg out of fear of being thrown out), whether it's done overtly or passive aggressively, eg "we need to do this so we can pay our bills, it'd be a shame if the power was cut off, we wouldn't be able to keep everyone here," or "what took you in, fed h clothes you and took care of your medical bills, you owe us this much," etc. These adults are highly vulnerable & suggestible right now, they can be easily manipulated to do things they don't want to...and even if they do want to they can't necessarily see that they have been manipulated and that there is a power imbalance that exists between them and the shelter owners that means no matter if they want to do it or not they are still being exploited. And, as always, kids can _never_ give consent because they cannot understand the consequences of doing so. On top of that they are all being put in danger. It was already said that Totu's father was a drug user, and I think they said Totu's mother was economically abused? So what's to say that the father isn't also physically and/or emotionally abusive, and by it being plastered all over the Internet where Totu and her mother are living they are being put at risk, the same goes for all the others staying there. We don't know their stories, but usually women & children do not end up living in a shelter because their life has been rainbows and puppies, there _will_ be women there who have been physically & maybe even sexually assaulted by their husbands/partners or their families. Further more, these already vulnerable women & children are being pushed onto the Internet where it's clear there are people with ill intent. Sadly, there are gross people watching kids accounts, we've seen it with the predator playlists and with the fact that people are saving videos of other people's kids...for what purpose? I don't want to know, but I would bet there are many people in that group who have sick intentions. Hell, we saw that document with someone saying they would kidnap Totu, and if that's what they're saying aloud imagine what they're thinking in the privacy of their own heads & even on the dark web. And the world knows where these women and their kids are! Anyone with I'll intent could cause great harm. This shows a reckless & willful endangerment by the people running the shelter its tik tok account. I understand that they may need to raise funds, but there are ways to do that where you can protect people's identities and locations. These people running the account are likely raking in the money and I have very serious doubts that _any_ of it will be seen by the people being exploited...the ones who need it most! I agree with you, there's usually no smoke without fire, whether that's a fire in the chimney or the whole house ablaze remains to be seen, and really that doesn't matter because there is already plenty we can see with our eyes to be outraged about. And that whole "secret signs" bullshit has been driving me nuts for ages now in these kinds of situation, where people lose their minds trying to prove that "wearing this ring on this finger while tapfancing inside down wearing balenciaga means you're a trafficker and groomer" [/hyperbole]. Because of course these people are going to put very obvious "secret" symbolism in their videos. 🙄 People and their conspiracy theories have gone a little off the deep end. When all they really have to do is focus on the facts to have a reason to be outraged, same with family vloggers. I don't care if everyone staying at that shelter was being treated like royalty, they are being still exploited and endangered by having their faces, location and stories put online for the financial gain of the shelter owner.

[@liz090833]

NEW Rabbit hole unlocked! I was in the foster care system in Los Angeles in the 1980s & I experienced some significant trauma. When the 15 year old told her story, she told the truth. Recently, I've been encouraged to write an autobiography and I started it. I can tell you that she's being truthful bc of the description she's giving of the actual acts perpetrated on her. They're not stereotypical, the details are too descript, far too unique for it to be done hoax. I mean, we live in a day and age where anything is possible but I don't think so. I'd put a substantial amount of money on it. She's telling the truth. I recognize it in my own writing. I'm truthful and due to my rough start, I'm very, very good at reading people. I had to be & I'm telling you, this wasn't some machination of the media. Azerbaijan doesn't even have the free press. Drew Binsky has an excellent travel channel and he actually went there. It gets real weird, real quick homies.😂 Apparently, there are other victims too. 😢

[@beekneed]

Yes. The testimony from the former child resident holds a lot of weight in terms of my sense of the realities of this shelter. Former residents who felt they benefitted from their stays don't have reason to just make up such unique & detailed horrors. Victim statements, especially from people who are talking about terrible childhood experiences, need to tell their stories, be believed, and have action taken as a result.

[@Violet-zq4xx]

I’ve been waiting so long for you to pick up this topic! Thanks for covering it 🫶

[@danielsantiagourtado3430]

Adore your videos Nabber! thank you so much for this! Love you!

[@iNabber]

thanks daniel!!

[@carriegracious]

Depending on the severity I don't think marks and bruises are necessarily indicative of anything considering there's a lot of children in one place. I'm just saying, I have two girls and half the time they're brawling like they're in WWE 🤷🏻‍♀️ I'm not saying the kids aren't being exploited or abused, it very much seems like they are.

[@jamie1602]

Agreed. I was a super clumsy kid and my parents were always panicked with how many skinned knees and bruises I came back with. I always tore a hole in my stockings or ripped open a pair of jeans somehow. Bruises alone aren't enough. You also have to make sure the children aren't coached. This happened to me! Tore my stockings open five minutes before my adoption was finalized while playing in the hallway outside the courtroom. My mother burst into tears and both the judge and social worker remarked how adorable I was and asked if I was enjoying myself. Apparently I replied something along the lines of asking if they had tried sliding down the hallway. It was long and recently carpeted. Fun for sliding on. The adoption went through due to my innocence and want to play. I scared the hell out of my poor mother!

[@carriegracious]

It all depends on how the wounds or marks look. I'm pretty certain one of my nieces was burned and their mother got away with it by saying it was a rash. She's told everyone she had a doctor's note saying that it was a rash but I never saw that doctor's note

[@jessicaflynn1919]

I Saw a video of the kids 'playing' they were just stood still it looked like they didn't even know what to do i understand its possible but the kids don't even look like they interact with each other 😢

[@Xephyr2209]

Man, Fraser, I have to say that your content lately has been extremely high quality!! You and your editor(s?) have been doing amazing work! :] Also BEANS!!!

[@sassyshima6421]

35:53 when you started talking about the whole Balenciaga thing I was ready to comment that it's a common thing in Europe- to wear fake designer items that is. Here in Italy we have markets both in big and small cities which only sell fake designer items and I know that this practice is common in Romania, Poland, Spain and many other countries in Europe lol. Sometimes Americans make me laugh, because around here, I can assure, very few people know about the balenciaga scandal.

[@starlinglamb13]

The Kenji fur on the mic in some of the close up shots is a paid actor, thank you. I love it.