Bad week (post autism diagnosis)

[@radishraven9]

Hi, i mention su*cidal ideation at the beginning (go to 02:00 if you wish to skip) I am not taking any advice on finding God or Jesus and that is frankly unacceptable to go and proselytize to vulnerable people. Great that God made you feel like life was worth it, but i have found other ways. Please respect that.

[@Peaceforall20111]

@@radishraven9 u woild never get that from me; we all find our own sources of strength and it is no one’s places to judge or push theirs on others I promise

[@paunesjourney]

If that makes you feel any better, a lot of us autistic people experience suicidal thoughts on a regular basis; it’s been a part of my life since I was a teenager, so you’re definitely not alone in this and I know how much it sucks. Also I’m sorry you’re struggling at work. We’ve been conditioned to think that ‘visible’ or physical pain is worse than ‘invisible’ or mental pain, but please don’t minimise your struggle by thinking what you’re going through is less serious than someone who has diabetes, for example. Like you said, it’s not a competition! Sending you positive energy ❤

[@radishraven9]

@@paunesjourney thank you for the comment! Yes it has been a thing for me since my teens too. I have gotten much better with time and with coping strategies but sometimes my brain takes the quickest "easiest" route and i need to consciously steer it away. And yes i do need to remember to treat myself kindly like i would with any other kind of pain.

[@SalehaAkhtar-g1o]

Please read Al Quran. ​@@radishraven9 Keep praying for yourself. We all are created by same creator. Our purpose of life is huge. One of the best vedio of KZbin search purpose of life talk Islam.

[@TheDantsu]

Apologies if you only wanted to vent without soliciting advice, but I have some ideas to consider. 1) Hire a maid service every other week to take your mind off of household chores. 2) Try a personal trainer at a gym to reconnect with your body. Sweat in a sauna 3) Analyze your diet and nutrition professionally and try making some changes. The wrong foods for your body can drastically affect your mood. 4) Make sure you get 30 minutes of quality sunlight contact on your skin daily. Sometimes it's useful to talk things through, but sometimes it's not possible and you have to work through things physically rather than socially or mentally. A lot of the resources regarding support for autism you mentioned sounds more or less unhelpful, and that's okay. I think it's important to trust your instincts on that. What you said about reconnecting with your community outside of your professional network sounds like you're on the right track.

[@jaimesoto452]

I really appreciate your honesty in explaining your feelings and your thought process relating to this topic. This is very helpful to me and others dealing autism and trying to figure out what we should and shouldn’t do o what we can and cannot do. Thank you so much for making these videos.

[@radishraven9]

@@jaimesoto452 thank you, i am in no way an expert of the subject, but i hope i can be of some help to people who relate 😊

[@docbrown.]

Slow can be good it means you take your time trying to figure out mistakes 26:24

[@sicparvismagna1294]

Hi Ingrid, Sorry again but I didn't have the time to watch this video but from the the title abd description box I guess I got an idea of what it is about. I will recomment later but I want to say that I'm sorry that you had a bad week. I hope you will be fine. Take care of yourself and remember that you have all my support. Sending hugs.

[@radishraven9]

@@sicparvismagna1294 hi thanks, no problem! 😊

[@MonaM204]

A diagnosis isn't really accessible for me due to the required involvement of parents, so I assume that I will always be self diagnosed. I feel like I could benefit so much from slowing down too, slowing down a great deal. I hope the upcoming winter will allow for this.

[@radishraven9]

@@MonaM204 i have heard of people getting a diagnosis without parents being involved. Yes i hope so!

[@Peaceforall20111]

U have entered the “this is my new reality” phase which is difficult. I remember it well with my ahd when the moment came i realized that I was limited without my meds. This is totally normal and it will pass in time; I promise. But it will require u to accept this new truth about yourself and accept it is part of u. I know easier said than done but I know u are strong. U look exhausted; not slept much I bet- mind racing. Been there

[@radishraven9]

@@Peaceforall20111 hi thanks! I have slept, but not been very deep quality sleep somehow. I hope this period passes quickly.

[@Peaceforall20111]

@@radishraven9ya the deep sleep is what we need. It will take time but it will pass

[@ThePsychoticUnicorn]

Sorry to hear your having a hard week at work on top of getting the diagnosis, not that a diagnosis is a bad thing obviously but it's a lot to take on board in a short time. I hope things calm down with work and that with enough rest and accomadations you start to find things more manageable. Also you should not feel bad about complaining, I know that's easier said than done though. I had a friend recently apologise to me for complaining about something that she then thought I had worse and I told her the same thing I'll say to you "Don't apologise for complaining because your complaining doesn't take anything away from my situation and never will, and if someone says it does then they are only thinking of themselves". Even though she felt like my situation was worse, I never once felt like that while she was telling me her problems. If anything I was concerned for her and it made me feel sad that she is going through that. Ultimately, if someone doesn't like you complaining they can always just not listen and leave. Well unless you have them tied to a chair and force them to listen, in which case you would probably have bigger problems than them not being happy about you complaining 🤏🤣

[@radishraven9]

@@ThePsychoticUnicorn thank you so much 😊 yes we shouldn't compare our problems to other's it doesn't help anyone.

[@wiecmoc]

Being slow doesn't have to be bad. I really liked a KZbin Video "AUTISM - Why we need simple instructions..." by Pooky Knightsmith Mental Health, it's very poetic. Hope it helps. It's kind of about being slow. Oh, I work in IT-Support and I'm sometimes very fast about solving issues, but it has nothing to do with fast memory, I just can see, when something doesn't match. So I'm faster in that, but slower in processing new information. I'm really lucky to work for one company, because there is a limited variety of devices and software, it's easier to catalogue and recall information fast and see when some of the devices don't behave as intended. It's very interesting to see how depending on a neurotype pepole have certaind advantages or disadvantages.

[@radishraven9]

@@wiecmoc hmm interesting, thank you! 😊

[@michaelgarcia2973]

Hi Radish ...I'm preparing some Quiche Lorraine as I listen to some soft music

[@radishraven9]

@@michaelgarcia2973 hi I'm glad 😊

[@Peaceforall20111]

MY guess patients tried to manipulate u and u stood up to it when most doctors wouldn’t Sorry my friend Standing up for what is right is not easy ; please don’t give up we need hood people like u

[@MrDaydreamer1584]

poor short term memory: Yes; poor short term memory, great long-term memory. Is typical of mild autism. (Don't worry, the short-term memory isn't a problem, there are solutions.)

[@radishraven9]

@@MrDaydreamer1584 i don't think neither my short or long term memory are good, but thanks. don't love the term mild autism though

[@MrDaydreamer1584]

@@radishraven9 I understand. 'mild autism' isn't the best term.