Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera and Lewis Howes

[@anitamattu4]

Absolutely loving this. Thank you both so much. I totally get the whole family boundaries xx

[@lewishowes]

You are very welcome!

[@anitamattu4]

@@lewishowes Thank you so much. My goal is to be interviewed by you Lewis and Ellen DeGeneres. I am writing my book and we have some childhood similarity like childhood abuse. I am going to send my book to Ellen DeGeneres for a foreword and would love you to do one too. I am open to any help you can offer in getting there. Thank you, Lewis, I totally admire you and your story xx

[@dinashackleton7888]

I appreciate you both for daring to fiercely search different ways to help the masses heal and to know that we are not alone. I am very self aware. However, I have felt so stuck in life by interruptions and my subconscious reaction I suppose. Watching your videos and staying focused on God chips away at the broken hardened parts of me. Thank you 🙏🏽 Truly and I wish you both lots of success in healing many !

[@pitbullmom214]

I really want to hear the message, but the *VOCAL* *FRY* is like nails on a chalkboard. A real friend has to tell her how un-listenable this makes her message! I'm sure I'm not the only one!

[@MicahbelieverinJesus]

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[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

Thank you so much for having me! This was a vulnerable interview for me and I appreciate everyone who took the time to listen.

[@bananeneter999]

Thanks for sharing your value. Can´t wait to learn the knowledge in this ep!

[@GhaimiNacer1982]

good luck for you and respect from me

[@debroo2128]

Thank you for this very exceptional interview Dr Nicole Wishing you all the Best

[@mellymelz24]

I listened to you for the first time on the show and i have to say, that I'm so grateful to have listened to your story and how you share your deepest, personal life experiences, especially when it comes to boundries and family. Thank you for your lifes work that helps us all heal in a holistic way and thank you for your gracious presence. Namaste 💜

[@rationalmystic5]

Thank you Dr. Nicole for talking about this topic . Lots of people will feel connected and understood through the words coming out of your mouth. I know I am one of them . Deep gratitude for your honesty and strength. Keep being you. Lots of love and best wishes for your life ahead.

[@LegacyTribeWorldwide]

I'm a FIRM Believer that when the student is ready the teacher will appear. I've been in a very complicated situation with my family for many years. Most of which I was unconsciously a participant in the dysfunction. However, after years of dealing with guilt, shame, anger, depression and anxiety I finally had a spiritual awakening. I'm learning to create boundaries but when it's with your children and parents that can be extremely difficult. I randomly woke up at 2:00AM and the universe sent me this video. Needless to say I'm beyond grateful to hear someone else's story. Thank you so much for giving me a peace of mind to detach from them unapologetically. It may not be easy but it's necessary for my own well being.

[@annetterobinson4061]

I left my birth family about twelve years ago. It was the healthiest decision of my life. Some people are toxic and they are best left behind.

[@11nica5]

Annette Robinson I couldn’t agree more, it’s hard to do but vital. I see it as survival

[@leoniabrahams5586]

I can fully relate to that.. 💯

[@234pinnni]

Annette Robinson absolutely I was suffering from anxiety depression and ED when I left Israel which I was born I got recovery I tried recently to back there and alll came back,,,,,

[@GuardImagination]

Me too, best thing I could do for myself🤗

[@Brightestlightt]

Annette Robinson family or not Period

[@lorikayser200]

I could relate to this so very much. I spent my life until my mother died (I was in my 40's) "taking care" of her. She was a hypochondriac her whole life. Everything revolved around her so I lost myself in that and did not create my own boundaries or identity. THEN I enabled and "took care" of my sister and her 2 kids for 6 years in her alcoholism. 6 years of drama which tore up my life. THEN I finally did the right hard thing: I changed ME. I wrote my sister the hardest letter I'd ever written and said I am not enabling you anymore. I admitted I was as sick as her and that I was going to go get well. I did. It is a work in process. WE have to change US. This talk reminded me of that so very much. By the way, that's when my sister got sober (10 years + now). I take no credit for it. But when her resources were gone, SHE got well.

[@maggiemconnor]

Lori, Thank you for sharing your story here. I "covered" for a younger brother for ages, even while overseas competing on National Team. One day, I had enough. I told him I loved him and always will yet I was not going to cover for him any longer. He got sober and has continued on his journey ever since. As you wrote (I take no credit for it.) Yet when my brother had few choices left and no one to be co-dependent with (as I was), he chose sobriety. Here is to your continued health and happiness. Thanks again. Aloha, Maggie

[@junemoon8675]

🌟😇🌟 Peace

[@oneness1112]

Am proud of you

[@tnt01]

You should be very proud of yourself, you did the right thing, Excellent. Enjoy YOUR life. Hugs. :)

[@martaborn9051]

I said damn 3x while reading your story. Incredible. And you still have the drive to find love for yourself by watching videos like these. Youre amazing

[@lisaaromano1]

Thank you to both of you for tackling codependency, enmeshment, and childhood brainwashing programming!

[@shawnawallace4582]

I love you lisa🥰. After listening to all your videos in 2018 I packed up and move and cut the entire family off. When I heard her say it just now all my guilt disappeared.

[@lisaaromano1]

shawna Wallace go girl!!!!I so appreciate you🙏

[@dapsolita]

Glad to see you here Lisa! So much progress in this arena of family issues, thanks to all of you💜

[@peacejoy8454]

Being part of your breakthrough class has changed my life!! ❤️ I appreciate you so much!!

[@lisaaromano1]

@@peacejoy8454 Hey April! So happy to see you here! Thank you for the shout out and you did AMAZING in the 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program oxoxoxoxo

[@ravishingtwinkle3811]

Emotional abuse , toxic family and attracting toxic Relationship , not being able to easily leave toxicity due to toxic conditioning being normalised since childhood , guilt shame manipulation and losing ownself people pleasing , keeping own self last as a way of survival , being passive Aggressive , not being able to form boundaries as conditioned made one believe you deserve love only of you are perfect and people pleasing. Its hell to live with thse patterns when one doesn't recognise it. If you have recognised it and is working towards healing them. I am proud of you. May the Divine force be with you. ♥️💜💙

[@Mzshaunafoolwitit]

She is absolutely amazing. The way she explains things to a T Omg. I’m excited for my healing journey. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@SilviaHernandez-lx4zz]

Yes I agree emotional intelligence classes would be amazing tool in schools

[@blessedbeautiful3872]

Among all the comments all for 1 year

[@localtucker22]

Wow. I feel healing by listening to Dr. Nicole. 🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@lewishowes]

Happy to hear this :)

[@AppleTY2015]

1hr 15 - some loud music come into the video. Absolutely fantastic interview. Nicole is a massive influence in my world and I really loved this interviewer. He has a warm, authentic tone and vulnerability. Just beautiful. Great job guys.

[@MiraMira-gb4uu]

Childhood is everything 💖

[@2011ariesrules]

The definition of greatness is to master one self, then go get life!!

[@ayoungethan]

For everyone who gets hammered with manipulative lines like, "family is everything" or "but they're family" you can weigh that against this, if you choose: family is as family does. I try now to choose people who feel and behave like family. And I realize now that ALL good family is chosen family. No matter the blood relation.

[@annap9441]

Lewis you have great guests but your way of interviewing and listening makes them be even better. You are amazing.

[@lewishowes]

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[@wendyfritz2652]

@TheHolisticPsychologist Thank you, Dr Lepara! You have been a gigantic source of healing, understanding, and waking up to ourselves amongst myself and a circle of friends I am in community with, we are reading your books over and over again, dissecting and applying, as we are learning to be conscious and aware through the challenges and struggles of life. Thank you thank you thank you for the bottom of my heart for the work that you were doing! I am finding so much freedom and empowerment that I never knew possible ♥️

[@stevensawyer5924]

Thank you so much for speaking in a manner, asking the questions that I had, and a answering them in a way that I could understand/innerstand. My subconscious has been formed over 64 years of physical and mental torture. Enough is Enough!!! Even with a loving therapist that really doesn't understand the big picture, I was sure I wouldn't live long enough to even have a innerstanding of how to change till now.

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@kobalt77]

10.50 ... My Father was brought up in a working class family of 11 through two World Wars. The same atmosphere of poverty, struggle and lack was all-pervasive all the time I was growing up. No wonder I have that kind of sub-conscious/mindset. ....................... Thank you so much Lewis and Nicole.

[@tamaradasilva9908]

Lewis, I am a retired teacher and I DID TEACH and created a district-wide curriculum for my health classes that included WHOLE PERSON Health - Physical, Emotional, Social, Intellectual and Spiritual Health - We did all sorts of 'lifeskill' stuff - which I've put into a journal that launched on September 1st! People like you were my favorite students! Have hope!

[@tianiemitchell5692]

You hit the nail on the head about the subconscious mind practice practice and more practice

[@justynamaria0333]

The fact that she put herself through 8 years of schooling with a family like that is astounding

[@tianiemitchell5692]

I noticed that with people who especially for men or young men they could end up getting stuck into a fight mode instead of flight mode. But once aware of these triggers, you can step away from your fight or flight mode, think about it, and decide how to response. Sometimes it doesn't take it cataclysmic event sometimes it's just awareness for your self preservation because your tired of something and need to make a change. I like what you're both are saying. It's making me reflective on so many things but in a positive way.

[@danielpogonyi5885]

Nowadays, almost every teaching including psychotherapy starts to become "more spiritual" especially from the rise of Eckhart Tolle. That's beautiful how these things come together slowly, more people start to observe what is inside and outside of them. They start to awake and heal :)

[@theona3726]

Glad to hear this and see her give full advice, and even her own story .

[@felicitygrace5113]

Thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing about family. In my opinion it is a topic that would benefit many if it is spoken about more openly. I too cut communication with my family for some time. It was a long hard painful decision to make and after some time we are talking again but its limited contact because we live in different countries and one of the last gatherings was full of conflicts and drama so my wanting to connect is limited.

[@vvc_551]

This hit me so hard. It felt she was telling my story. Ty for this

[@vl9216]

You don't need the memory to heal- so true!!!!

[@kashkakent3190]

OMG.. This so resonates with me and my life.. I am 62 and finally have found a conversation/communication that relates soooo much to my experience 🙏🏻

[@kristinmac2472]

kashka Kent 62 and still learning & transforming ♥️👌🏼

[@lilag5679]

I love you...

[@Ladyblue7620]

Welcome 🙋🏻‍♀️🌷

[@dianasolfest7237]

62 too. I didn't even realize how much I needed to hear this video. Thank you. Onward & upward.

[@dirtytalkvegas]

I love your interviews you are an inspiration to me.

[@lewishowes]

So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

[@sherylhokianga3]

How Many Of Us Can Resonate With Her Story? Love It!

[@traceybaglow2631]

To the amazing human being that I meet today in Page &. Blackmore, thank you🙏🏼 for recommending Dr Nicola LaPera to me. It resonated so deeply with me. I hope we meet again. Thank you I feel my search is over finding my healing path x

[@eunicedetoiles9901]

She's one of the greatest and brightest minds of recent generations! Thank you, Dr. Nicole for your impactful contributions!

[@TheLord.IsMyShepherd]

you can feel the authenticity and passion for her work. I loved when she said she is helping other people in her field to update their traditional models of helping others heal and im so glad they were receptive . this is how real change in the system begins.

[@lewishowes]

🙌

[@michelles1517]

So many wonderful teachers out there. I do believe you have to do the work and once you get it you say, WOW I survived that and I’m OK. And than you become grateful that you actually had the experience and that you survived what seemed like the end of the world. When you become grateful and are detach from that emotion that had You locked up, how you couldn’t come out of your head that’s when you realize how amazing your life really is. When you can open your heart fully that is the path back to your soul.

[@eyo6812]

SHE IS Absolutely life saving. How she's all about the gut and brain connection you know she's all in to help us all, nothing better than diving completely deep. Such a down to earth empathetic being. Wish this lady nothing but the best, may the all knowing energy protect you at all times

[@naz0079]

I resonate with a lot of what Nicole says. Very intriguing.

[@creativesolutionsart-h3o]

I know why people don’t have the courage to walk away and create boundaries, because they are afraid of the punishment. I wasn’t afraid, I had the courage to do it, but no one could have prepared me for the consequences. Ultimately it was worth it but boy was it rough

[@huzaifapatel2491]

Can you find an expert on toxic shame. This topic needs to be heard by millions.

[@Epinaj]

Brene

[@padlolin]

Brene Brown

[@rachelsweets]

Irene Lyon Nervous System Specialist

[@11nica5]

Def Brene Brown

[@keliprice4171]

@@mirelazrepulya9963 I just now listened to six parts of Healing the Shame that Binds you. Short youtube segments. Powerful! And more wise than this interview. Thanks for the post.

[@ArchivistaLindhorst]

I am Italian and I can relate with this SO MUCH. I live abroad since 7 years, but my brother (35) still living with mum and dad. Mum constantly complaining she is ill, her sisters super sick all the time. Calling home gives me anxiety because I know they will have depressing stuff to tell me. I normally can't resist more than a week at home with them. Church Mass on TV daily, constant lament and crying from my relatives... Most of my Italian friends in Italy still live with parents after passing 30 yo. I did a lot of work on myself to be independent, loving my family but taking some distance. I know a lot of habit I had of panicking and having huge crazy reactions was because my home environment. I can now control myself better...but it took a lot of work!

[@jadetorrens8642]

I have been through much talk therapy and discovered I disassociate as a coping mechanism as well. Being in your 30s and trying to teach yourself how to manage your emotions can be so uncomfortable, I seemed to not recognize any emotion but anger at first.. but what i want to say is that i have found the experience has forced me to practice self compassion as well. I did not know at the beginning of all this I would be coming to a place of true self love because in order to do the work you must really learn to forgive yourself along the way. This episode is resonating so deeply with me, I almost want to forward it to my family so they can understand how hard its been to separate. Thank you both so much, and i want to give a special shout out to Lewis for introducing so many new people to my life who’s messages have become so important to me, and also for always seeming to ask the questions right as I’m thinking it! ♥️

[@asmalljoy]

"You don't need the memory to heal." I loved this. I am one of those that has a spotty memory. :D

[@AllMyAncestors]

I don't have the best memory either, but it's pretty incredible how your body knows what to do in the present moment.

[@ziontatad1554]

The only memories i have is when i was in school. Home life is so TOXIC. All i remember is i was treated as a slave. I have a Narc mom (overt) and an abusive alcoholic father(D). I am on a healing journey. No drama no toxic fumes from two dirty mouths ( mother and sibling). Evil duo

[@rebelhumanitarians9807]

The memory loss! I’ve always wondered why I couldn’t remember and came from a traumatic home. I share in the same lack mindset...I am currently reprogramming that! Thank you!

[@lisamariebasile2685]

The memory loss is the thing that plagues me most. Ugh.

[@AllIn1Studio]

Boundaries are an “I” statement. Brilliant!!! Changed my whole perspective on why I lacked boundaries for the past 50 yrs. Thank you. 🙏

[@NothingLastsForeverLauraLantry]

I had to completely walk away from my family. It's hard to try to explain to people so now I just tell them I'm an orphan.

[@taralilarose1]

You are not alone!!

[@GuardImagination]

You don't owe anyone an explanation😘

[@tnt01]

You did the right thing. Stay strong and happy :)

[@nancyginsberg1566]

Alone together on this topic.

[@sukhikgr]

I'm horrified instead of saying this I've attempted to explain my family under the pressure of society's probing. Even to therapists and psychiatrists I've tried to explain that I have parents, but I left them very young and they left me.

[@rationalmystic5]

One of the best podcasts on your channel. Honest about the secrets of family bullshit that we all have to deal with. Thank you. Your style of questioning and conversing has improved remarkably over the years. Great job and deep gratitude for your work.

[@lewishowes]

Appreciate you!

[@amytea6845]

This is one of my favourite interviews of Dr LePera. You're a natural listener and interviewer. Thank you both for sharing your vulnerability, experiences and knowledge. xx

[@lewishowes]

Amy Tehrani thanks for watching!

[@eL-li3hp]

It never ceases to amaze me that interviews like this pop up when I need to hear them the most. I've been separated from my family for close to 20 years now, and no it hasn't been easy at all. But the best thing I've ever done for myself. My mother and I now write letters, I don't take her calls, she always manages to throw that dagger in and I'm left wounded and obsessing again. I don't talk to my two sisters at all, nor do I care to. Years and years and more years of therapy barely put a bandaid on my big T, it wasn't until I had a Theta Healing session with a local healer that my life truly started to turn around. I'm not dismissing any of the therapists, social workers, psychologists that I saw throughout my life, a few of them did make a difference. Theta healing was my breakthrough. Thank you Lewis Howes for bringing these interviews to all of us, love them.

[@claudiiia1]

This is exactly what I needed to hear after an emotional breakdown linking me to my past! Repetitive cycles can come up but consciousness is key to transcending it. Thank you both for having the impact you do - making a difference, love it!

[@LettySoul11]

Re- parenting... ourselves. I love that! Thank you so much for the video!

[@christopherdesigngroup3315]

Thank you for having this woman on your show. Like many people, I have a lot of guilt about "saving" my family from their own bad choices. I have wasted years of my life and creative energy in order to comply with my childhood brainwashing that I had to do things for family, and then others, first. Religious pressures, family pressures, and society's pressures are difficult to overcome especially when there is punishment, sabtotage, or rejection involved, as there was in my case. So, it helps to hear of someone who had the courage to live their truth. She also chose to honor her own purpose in life. AWESOME! I am inspired to keep on trying. My life isn't over yet!

[@MadaAtoms]

One of the most impactful interviews I have seen

[@georgiaryle-HHFW]

This is how I approach my health coaching - make one small change on a daily basis!

[@treevapeacock846]

Just turned this on .....so much in her first sentence!! OUR PAST IS PRESENT!!! AND I bet beyond the pain it's the most AWESOME present 🎁 once we open our minds to what's hidden in there for our discovery....like a treasure hunt....so exciting and fun but it was HELL in the beginning years ago as a kid.....no one quite like you around for me then like you Doc and I am so GRATEFUL for you and all the work you do helping so many at this prime time on the planet ......Blessings to every moment of your life♡♡♡♡ This came on as music video ended and that sentence is very timely....looking forward to hearing the rest this afternoon! YOU ARE A 💎 GEM.

[@tianiemitchell5692]

I think the most important thing I learned as I was taking care of myself mentally and physically the best I could was to allow people to make their own choices reap their own consequence in order for them to learn and not to take away that learning process because if you take it away then they just don't learn it and they will always be reliant on others instead of themselves mentally and physically.

[@donnagarcia1884]

Thank you Lewis for another fantastic show for inviting Dr, Nicole LePera for this awesome conversation such a beautiful topics about many dynamic healing mindset from many aspects to make life better. I hope you can invite Dr. Nicole DePera again and discuss more about people's body reaction and how it works by meditating and feel better at the end of the day. Thank you for this wonderful topics about mental stability from conscious to subconsciousness of our body and mind .. God Bless ..

[@PournimaB]

Listening to this the second time after all these years, and the thing that stood out this time, is memory impairment. I've been wanting to heal traumas, but somehow don't know what to heal, I barely remember anything before the age of 18 or so. I love Dr. Nicole's Instagram profile. Started following her after this video was aired. She is such a wonderful guiding light to so many like me. Love you both. Learning to have family boundaries to all new level. It is crazy how it feels as if Dr. Nicole talks of my family.

[@JBAikensMusic]

What an incredible woman! Brilliant . strong, and willing to conquer her fears and find out all that she really is Very much admire you Nicole. You are a beautiful soul

[@Magnoliasdiary]

I love her so much, her Instagram is changing so many people's lives 🙏

[@harmeetk2405]

I think this is the one interview that I will be listening to many times. Thank you so so much for shining light on things that we as a society don't even acknowledge. And sadly the cycle continues! I hope this reaches to the wounded children which is literally all of us. Thanks!! Love and light to you all!

[@shivalisingla8888]

Thank you for this video. The family thing. Having boundaries just because you have to take care of yourself and which is something they don’t understand when it’s about negativity and mental health connection

[@triciafree2bme263]

Sending love, light and gratitude.🌈 🦋

[@padlolin]

Lewis, I just wanted to say thank you for your contribution to this world. I watch your interviews frequently and it always makes a huge difference for me in my thinking and my life. You have made and continue to make a huge impact in this world. Keep pressing on my friend. God Bless!

[@resident9011]

every word that came out of your mouth is my entire life word for word

[@PaulGuerraTV]

I LOVE her content on Instagram and recently found her videos on KZbin. Thanks for this video and to anyone reading this, have a beautiful day. Much love to you all!

[@peacejoy8454]

Dr. Nicole LePera is doing absolutely amazing work. She has played a tremendous role in my journey. ❤️

[@Stars_intheskys]

Talk therapy just flares me up with all the symptoms it brings me back to the events that happend to me. I am greatfull for Lewis and Dr.Nicole.

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@tamaradasilva9908]

Thank you so much for this! YES! We need integrative counselors - a more whole-person practice that addresses ALL of us - The book I wrote addresses the physical, emotional, social, intellectual and spiritual health - We have to consider it ALL! Healing is possible and our bodies are designed to heal - but, we need to go far beyond talk therapy -

[@shelleypetersen1608]

Afteristening to the last interview, I had to find this one. Thank you for speaking openly about distancing from family. I just saw my father after 4 years. I put a boundary that was crossed and chose to eliminate that part of my life. I took alot of crap for my decision but did what I needed for myself! He's very ill so I saw him to see if I needed closure. I still feel okay with my decision.

[@MariaRojas-gr9ri]

I loved this interview, she is in point with everything she said, and yes, self consciousness requires work, and boundaries are hard but we must learn to have some in order to have a better life for ourselves.

[@LeezPgh]

Really love Nicole and believe she is really helping many, including myself. I can also feel a deep integrity and authenticity and caring in her.. that I think really comes through in all she does.

[@regulator8276]

Dang, you're such a good active interviewer! Really helped her put it all on the table.

[@MarkThrive]

I can relate so much to Dr LePera's story! Fight flight freeze fawn behavior! Childhood CPTSD and lack of childhood memories! How triggered by lack base... not deserving or considered because messaging not being seen or understood by parents. Scapegoated...physically and emotionally neglected/abused. At 55 started EMDR to regulate my nervous system by treating the unresolved CPTSD tiggers. By doing so I started to become more aware/conscious instead of constantly triggered, stuck in autopilot mode and dissociating.

[@MarkThrive]

4:20 Scarcity Belief (overcoming) Where is my half... G#%D#% it!!! 😂😂😂 I relate so much to that trigger response!!! 32:45 Dissociate around my family My father modeled scapegoating me to my brothers. To this day, they continue to unconsciously scapegoat me! Because they are not aware of, nor motivated to change (their messages to me are...you are to serious, relax we are just playing around) they will likely continue to scapegoat... baring some miracle! 39:00 talk therapy - addressing the conscious didn't work to address my unconscious/nervous system trigger response/limbic system. 51:15 Inner Child Work/Reparenting 55:32 Recreating Familiar Relationship Dynamics

[@tianiemitchell5692]

That's What I Call focusing on ourselves not just outwardly but inwardly

[@Caroline-Horvath-Rivera]

Geeez, I just love the way you interview. It’s like chilling out with a friends. Love it!!!

[@tianiemitchell5692]

I love what you just said practice it gives you the gives you the feeling of control when you pass practice how to interact with people in a positive way it's a positive thing. When people turn to outside sources ,drugs, drink to calm their nerves to help them cope through their emotions that's a negative thing because it doesn't truly address anything and it muddles their thinking to compound the issues in a negative way.

[@nyshanastymusic9713]

I saw her video on emotional addictions yesterday and now this interview today. She’s great! Very knowledgeable. Thank you guys 🙏

[@maggiemconnor]

Great discussion you two! In field of Mind/body healing, talk therapy does not work as the unconscious mind does not know the difference between what is real, as in happening now and what happened in past, meaning the body biochemically reacts the same. When you talk about past trauma, the unconscious mind responds as though it were still happening. This is why so many people feel stuck. The only way truly through it, is to clear it. You can't erase past yet you can clear past emotional trauma so that you still have memory yet the emotional charge is gone. That is true healing. What Dr.LePera states about breath work and gut health is huge! Keep on keeping on with the great work. Aloha, Maggie

[@ronjakh]

I’m in this process of some kind of evolution. I’m learning more and more where all my patterns and thoughts belong and where my reactions come from, who taught them to me. I have realised that I have experience so much pain, lack of saftey and sheer terror throughout my childhood that it has had a profound impact on the development of my nervous system. I have gotten to the point where I understand why I am who I am and working on becoming a better more secure version of myself every day

[@lewishowes]

Pumped for you!

[@rachanafen]

Huge Thankyou to Nicole and Lewis for this fascinating and extremely helpful interview. I started a gratitude list and list of 'I Am' affirmations with gratitude to get me unstuck out my rut and depression. I will be following you both on instagram & facebook. You've both been a great help this morning on boosting my confidence to move forward on my healing journey. Big Love To You Guys!!! 💞

[@creatingmomentum777]

Thank you Lewis!Loved this interview and the rawness of it..and a big thanks to Nicole for sharing not only where she's been at but also where she's at now,showing that there's a continous unfolding, and healing or evolving isn't just about getting somewhere..there wasn't just a mental connection in this interview, it went deeper than that so thanks to both of you for putting that out there!

[@TheKinsWay]

Thank you so much for this. I too have had to separate myself from my family. The stress of being the family scapegoat got too much. It is a relief to know that there is someone out there who feels the same as me. I have always felt that I am a freak because of the way my parents made me feel. Everything that was wrong in their marriage was my fault. Even though my Mum is now dead, I have hate poured out on to me whenever I see any of my family. I even have my 10 year old nephew repeat back to me what an evil person I am.... Having heard the adults judge and criticise me behind my back....he repeats what he has heard.. much to my sisters embarrassment. Being totally alone and having to deal with these feelings on my own is hard, but it is still much easier than revisiting my family situation and having to relive that hell over and over again. I feel comforted to know there are people out there who understand. Thank you.

[@brendasuepete1518]

This is so good. It Occurred to me that when you said boundaries and people in relationship try to manipulate and demean you and say whatever they can say to get you back into the way things were, is really a fear of losing relationship. At our core we all need to know that we are valuable and lovable unconditionally. I’m not saying don’t set boundaries they are absolutely necessary. I’ve always been concerned about the fear of retaliation of what that would look like, but I realize on their end the fear of losing relationship is what drives them to behave poorly. When really what we all need is a new way to interact with one another that’s based on maturity rather than an immaturity

[@Emily-jr9ql]

Such a riveting, awesome interview. The depth of this conversation is breathtakingly beautiful.

[@lewishowes]

Thanks so much!

[@SilverDragonCloud64]

Loved this talk! Thank you Nicole for having the courage to be so vulnerable and openly honest about your story that is the story of so many others, myself included! Much gratitude ❤️

[@dylanlach672]

I absolutely love this and can't wait to look further into all her stuff.

[@passioninfusedlifewiththes8918]

I can relate to so much of Nicole’s story and experience. This discussion gave me some great things to implement and validated the path I’ve been on.

[@sarahmarco2595]

Dr Nicole has opened such a huge avenue for understanding myself, my family relationships which are mostly difficult, my negative patterns, where they emerged and how to face these things. I'm only new to this but definitely looking to be committed. I see a lot of myself in her childhood lack mentality and not being seen or considered. Im sure once I look into her ego work, shadow work, reparenting and other activities, I will discover more. I really aim to explore these things. I'm grateful and inspired. 😊❤️

[@debroo2128]

Lewis ... PLEASE consider interviewing Dr Robert Waggoner, author of "Lucid Dreaming, Gateway to the Inner Self" He teaches how to contact the subconscious directly thru lucid dreaming This is an amazing mind blowing book. Hope you will consider. Delighted to have recently discovered your channel Best to you & Dr Nicole who is outstanding 🙂👍

[@1love754]

Exactly I’m in this too, hat to cut contact completely to my family. Reflecting meditation have new experiences and learn new ways to live life, without having to move out of my marriage that is still very dedicated to each other and LOVE was never a problem just I couldn’t get out of my programming and disassociated from my feelings for years until I produced one nervous breakdown after another, only now and somehow through meditation yesterday 31.12.2019 I had a wonderful day with lots of beautiful experience met people seaming random and my husband and I had a nice evening together and today I am just incredibly tired but good and I have taken an out time to relax and sleep and meditate and yet here I am listening to you guys, thank you for sharing your self with all of us. Best wishes and energies and ❤️LOVE ❤️ to us all for the wild 2020!!!

[@1love754]

I would like to add that about 5 years ago I subscribed to the KZbin channel of Teal Swan she was able with her videos not personally connected to her but she woke me up, then I had a horrible fight with my partner and so I could sleep for 4 more years until I was able to listen to Teal again and allowed myself to feel bad and communicate my emotional state not very fruitful we both have little knowledge about psychology and that to become multidimensional being is scary for all of us. And since Teal I have found countless people who have KZbin channels that are some way or another helping the whole! Grateful to everyone who puts themselves out in the web and helps others to find themselves in it. ❤️

[@nevillebrianmcginty8078]

Thank you Nina, for your beautiful comments

[@sayusayme7729]

So grateful to have found this, hopefully unstuck soon. 🦋

[@MvskokeWolf]

Great interview! I would like to suggest not interjecting and cutting the guest off while they're speaking though. It's a bit disruptive. Other than that, I love the show and love your energy. Much love!

[@francesca_ragucci]

This video has come at a perfect time! Dr. Nicole LePera is living my life! I too live in Philadelphia and am an Entrepreneur. My manifestation is to live a lifestyle of freedom and choice, along with moving to Los Angeles! WOW. 🤩🤩🤩 I am now having the courage to announce this publicly. My desire is to travel to Los Angeles in May 2020!!

[@EveningTV]

Thank you so much for addressing this topic. We hardly ever hear about how reasonable people can become estranged from family, and how it doesn't mean that we are ungrateful or lacking in love. The decision for adult kids to separate is always a long and painful one.

[@justinesprice9782]

I really love what she is spreading , I discovered her on "Woman Of Impact" I really recommend this channel (if you don't know about it already)

[@mariazeta8756]

Beautiful I love Dr. Nicole & grateful for her and the work she does it really helps how it’s so grounded and down to earth and holistic as well!

[@kristinmac2472]

Feeling so grateful to find a mentor type that actually understands that we need to take a (w)holistic approach, mind, body & spirit. The way Dr Nicole explains everything so radically open, honest, absolutely enlightening and inspiring. She really knows and understands the human psyche. And Lewis you did such a great job interviewing her!! You asked Fantastic and intriguing questions, things that the viewers would really want to know and hear more about. You gave her time to speak and say everything that she wanted to say on a subject without interrupting her and you were very relatable and open. Thank you both for creating and sharing this content for, and with us. I’m looking forward to exploring more on this channel and learning more with the holistic psychologist!!

[@evieball4162]

Stunningly brilliant! I will now re-watch this entire interview and take notes in my journal. I'm just beyond grateful to both of you and so respect and admire you, Dr. LePera, for your insight and knowledge, as well as your candid self-revelations and vulnerability. xo

[@goodrayoflight3434]

Thank you for being so vulnerable with your life!!

[@annastayziaa]

The music around 1:15:00 was too loud😞

[@darias.7149]

I'm a psychoanalyst and got did I HEAR and FEEL those limitations in my gut. Thank you so much! I feel where I want to move with my practice!