Before You Gossip, Watch This

Have you ever watched the negative chain reaction gossiping can create? Jay Shetty warns that gossiping and complaining create negativity in your life and the lives of those around you. The more negative you are now, the more negative your life is likely to be in the future.
Watch the full video to learn the truth about how gossiping can negatively affect your relationships, your attitude, and even your brain! If you don’t want to hear gossip about yourself, stop gossiping about others.
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[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.” ― Socrates

[@thewhizkid3937]

Bingo 👍🏿

[@katarinatibai8396]

👏👏👏❤ so thru !

[@doniaafrindisha6007]

So real. And only possible as the thought of great Socrates........

[@fahimhosanjuicy]

I thought it was Eleanor Roosevelt's?

[@tamanpreetsahni3757]

Soo true

[@AlexKashie]

The world will be a better place if people could just focus on their own lives!

[@Ercan4]

then you have a world full of selfish people ...

[@pavang1870]

Bro i think he means, looking positively on other persons issues..

[@pavang1870]

And focusing on our life too.

[@mandeeqahmed3611]

so eloquently said

[@pavang1870]

@@mandeeqahmed3611 yes his comment is a good solution for this problem.

[@QuotesDailyBook]

*Don't share your weakness with anyone* *You never know who is going to use it against you*

[@AndreyZenperial]

I don’t care about anyone gossiping about me. I’m grinding my youth away, putting real hours into what I am truly passionate about and what I believe will turn into a massive success for me

[@laurasharon6902]

Agree

[@magicschoolbus903]

Screenshooting this to be used as a affirmation. Keep that mindset girl!!

[@horrorfactory770]

Legend..

[@akshayanimesh]

All I know and believe is WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND 💔❤️💔🙏🌞

[@beverleyreid7572]

I hope so.

[@justanothersoul2245]

A gossip ends at the wise person's ears

[@andivlogs]

Trueee

[@rareresource]

You are absolutely right. Obviously, if you cut off the gossipmongers I don't the rumors or gossip will go further.

[@suriish3re]

This is why I stopped gossiping. What happens in somebody else's life has nothing to do with me in the first place

[@StephSancia]

Unless of course they are slandering you in public

[@sanprovictory3513]

i stopped gossiping for years.. gossipping is useless.. use our energy to do the right and healthy things.. GBU all

[@bramkayser445]

Agree

[@madagbehsheriff7472]

How do you do it?

[@vincentkingsdale8334]

I absolutely hate gossip....i used to participate in it, and realize how bad it is.....when you call someone out on their gossipping, they get very defensive and hold a grudge

[@coloringwithpatwilson1506]

I've been told that when we talk negatively about someone we are really talking about ourselves.

[@wandalee5010]

Coloring with Pat & Wilson it’s called projection!

[@lindaosborne1617]

That can be so true

[@tayogreatajibade3830]

@@lindaosborne1617 on point

[@ErikaK]

You never know what the other one is going through 💕 show respect and kindness to everyone no matter who they are. Kindness will always take us further

[@sarthakpatil7622]

Yes right instead of talking negative we can say positive things about others also

[@arjunsane7689]

Hi Erika how are you. Do you remember me

[@cjbarna]

This is the truth. The problem is we ignore the fact that they probably are going thru something and/or we assume we KNOW why they're doing what they're doing. "If your words are no better than silence, keep silent".

[@keytounlocksuccess2538]

Rightly said: "If we dont want to hear gossip about us, first we should stop gossiping about others..." And those who gossip to us will gossip about us too.

[@sarthakpatil7622]

N if we r gossiping we can say positive things about others also instead of negative.

[@archanahnagan2329]

Its so true. Karma is there. And i think there is no neccesity for anyone to gossip about other people. Life is short. Lets just spread only love😊

[@sarthakpatil7622]

Yes right instead of talking negative of other we can say good thing to.

[@SadafHeals]

I totally relate to this! I used to have toxic colleagues and friends who were gossiping and i knew they did but had to be around them as I didn’t know what to do. It affected my mental health so much! Since I became self aware and started loving myself, my life has changed completely ❤️🙏🏻

[@user-uw3fi2zg4t]

My "friends" gossip on me or that is what I think, I wish I could prove it, I see how out of control they talk when they get excited but I didn't see them gossiping about close friends yet, not sufficiently to be sure I should leave them yet anyway. I am loossing confidence in them, I think I gonna go my on way.

[@ydali898]

We’re harsh towards others because we’re harsh towards ourselves. Society places ridiculous expectations on us and we fail to meet them of course so we tear ourselves down and in turn do the same towards others. Someone who is full of self-love and in a positive place wouldn’t gossip about others.

[@wandalee5010]

I heard an amazingly positive thing about “good gossip” from a child psychologist on a KZbin video, he said after you praise someone (a child) let them overhear you whispering about their good accomplishment to someone else, even if you are pretending on the phone. Overhearing gossip is three times more powerful both negatively and positively than someone telling you something straight to your face. So let’s all try to spread good words about others to others, build each other up instead of tearing them down, life is hard enough without adding to it by intentionally hurting others.

[@taraharan4524]

This is the most positive thing I have read today... Thank you

[@jacquelinemanzano9328]

Red glory; very well said, thank you for sharing.

[@osse1n]

We live in the technological era so no one can escape the digital footprint. What you do today, will be known even after you are gone. Guard your reputation with your life.

[@thelmabukikun1485]

Iam always inspired with your messages in the comment section of almost all the channels I go to

[@osse1n]

@@thelmabukikun1485 Much love. You should join me.

[@thelmabukikun1485]

Yes...I should

[@AkshanyaA]

Omg I found you again!!!

[@shrutigupta250]

The most amazing thing is that I never indulged in gossiping until the last year. I shifted and the people around me changed. I participated in gossiping to mix in or just to fit in. Everyone was so into it. I remember one of my 'friends' telling me how she loved gossiping and I thought that was just weird...I mean, who openly says that they love gossiping? And I just realized that I was trying to fit in with the wrong people. Gossiping had put such a stress on my brain that I was frustrated at the end of the day, and I would blame the new environment for the frustration. Gossiping is one thing that will hold you back. Even if you are not afraid that your superiority is temporary owing to gossiping, believe me when I say this - It will place immense stress upon your brain and you won't even realize it until like 2 years of your life have been wasted owing to frustration, unexplained anger, and annoyance.

[@preciousakpordaughter6299]

Gossip is a Global problem which affects mostly us women.. I Pray that God deliver us from the spirit of God

[@epicbloxergang7327]

Not only us women.All over the WORD

[@madhurichakraborty1254]

Studies proven that men gossip more than women. Only difference is we hold on to it bit longer than men.

[@azifahmed6637]

@@madhurichakraborty1254 thank you my feminist mind was kinda irked

[@thepriestess5969]

The thing about gossiping is its sounds juicy and interesting, until it's about you!!!

[@Bitachon]

*Who thinks people gossip because they are jealous?*

[@mick9885]

Definitely 👍

[@ladyjade9494]

Reflective identity

[@sarthakpatil7622]

Yes n No both Because sometimes someone comes to you for jst to share their feeling ,thought etc N another situation where the some one will come n say the things that r not having any kind of meaning jst having negative words for other.

[@the.peculiar.chica__]

Hell yeah and totally relatable. They will rot in hell. Oh wait! They're already in hell. They've got nothing but miserable lives.

[@candyrox2023]

Yes!

[@akshaymundkur]

When people gossip with you, they will gossip about you. Powerful point. I know quite a lot of Indian Aunties who need to hear this. Hopefully, they take a hint and start minding their own business.

[@charissetan419]

People desire successful is by gossiping others.

[@TanvirAhmed24]

People gossip. People are insecure, so they talk about other people so that they won’t be talked about. They point out flaws in other people to make them feel good about themselves. Do you agree?

[@emmawatson6582]

Totally!

[@kurokotetsuya9456]

Yep..

[@fullmetalalchemist471]

Agreed.

[@misciatarlit]

Kinda.

[@gunnermc660]

Yes.

[@kid_judi]

I just made a video on this! Gossiping is so destructive to your life. When you get rid of it it’s like taking junk food out of your diet! You don’t realize all the additional stress it brings to your life until you stop doing it. I wish the best for all of you!

[@user-dp5qi8cz1n]

Although we don't want to gossip its so contagious that you get yourself into this cause if you don't you don't fit into the peer group and stand out weird ...but its true that gossip has a negative impact. Better not to gossip about anyone and get away from the ones who do so subtly without hurting their feelings too diplomatically.

[@yugutragui6125]

That can totally happen at work ; and that's a reason why I hate this place sometimes. Gossiping is an easy way to feel connected to people but it's so insidious. Why do you think people listen to the gossips without answering back ? I think it isolates people and instils a climate of distrust against each other. Have you ever listen or participate at a gossip session and wondered "do they talk behind my back when I'm not here ?". I feel that sometimes you have the opportunity to encourage more positivity and honesty at your workplace, and sometimes it isn't worth the effort because the climate is already messed up.

[@PracticalInspiration]

Gossip it's not positive, it doesn't make you superior and rather puts you in a position where you appear weak. Instead, build up those around you when they need help

[@parulthakur9716]

Hey ! I'm a 19 y/o girl . You know what Mr. Jay you are like a father who teaches so much . Your words are so powerful that you change thoughts. You even don't know that your videos helped me in my tough times when I needed someone who can tell me or teach me what's good and what's not. You were like that someone who told me at that time that things will be fine and you don't even realize how much that mean. Thank you so much for your words and helping me to make me a better person !!!

[@nyokdpwolnyokdp9658]

I will never let anyone walk through ma mind with their dirty feet,the more yuh gossip at me and make me feel like am not good enough, the more I learn that I need to love my self,and shouldn't seek approval or recognitions from them,so I take it as an opportunity to learn,thanks Bro jay for sharing that to us🙏🙏 #Peace#✌✌

[@estelleeteme4499]

The tables can turn really quickly 👌🏾

[@relaxinggalaxy872]

Thank you Jay for giving wisdom a platform. If there's no energy in our body's inner environment for growth and repair, we are more susceptible to pain and suffering from our outer environment. Gossiping and badmouthing zaps the energy within us. Meditation music helps to increase our energy within. As a pianist, that's what I have begun to do with my music.

[@laillaad1353]

True, very common thing this is which people don't realize the effect of....

[@brookeallen7931]

I’ve had jobs (and am currently in one) that are toxic environments. I’ve learned over the years to keep myself out of pointless discussions about other people. I just show up, keep my head down, do my work, and then go home. I also never voluntarily share information about my personal life, and when asked, I keep my answers as vague ad possible. My motto: “people can’t talk about what they don’t know about.” It’s actually quite horrible because I was asked a very personal question recently while many of my coworkers were in our staff break room by a MANAGER. I just stuck to my guns and just kept my answer vague. If she really wanted to know she could pull me aside and ask me privately. Not that it would have answered her question because there’s no way in hell I’d tell anyone (not even bosses/managers) anything even somewhat personal about my life. I even once just made an offhand comment about something in private to the same manager (I don’t remember what it was but it wasn’t even that bad) and by the time I was midway through my shift, half the people I work with knew about it. And that was MANAGEMENT.

[@mamathabandari346]

Ppl don't know the pain of others until they hear gossip about themselves. Dunno y ppl enjoy gossip, y ppl take out time to spreading gossip, even some ppl think gossip make them energetic.ugh! Super awkward feeling, when hear gossip about me from others. Of course, strong ppl never care gossip, either I do. Thank you Jay! ❤

[@arjunsane7689]

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[@ExploringWithYayati]

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[@Pagan_Heart]

I've never felt the inclination to gossip but have been on the receiving end more than a few times, hearing outright lies of what I have been supposed to have said. It is utterly hurtful, destructive & puzzling. I'm always polite & believe a little kindness goes a long way as you never *really* know what someone else's life is truly like... I am an avid comments section reader on YT & am often horrified at some of the mean-spirited or even completely foul posts I see, wondering if anonymity makes such hate-filled people braver or whether they just *are* that negative in life. I tend to live by the premise that "Harbouring hate & anger is like drinking poison while expecting the other person to die" & know that I'd just rather not live that way.

[@jillwylie3]

Gossiping creates Trouble .

[@sheetal1896]

Thank you so much Jay sir. This is exactly the time when I needed this message in my life; and here is your video. It has saved me from drifting my energy to complete waste things, like gossiping. Thank you once again for making me feel more positive and special about myself.

[@madhurichakraborty1254]

Thanks for such positive messages. Ignorance is the key and only remedy when we face such situations.

[@diyadora3385]

I was doing this shit for so long than realized is a wrong thing. It's been 2years that I don't gossip about others. That 2 years was because I walk out of people's life to get a clean and positive soul. Kindness is everything,never do something which involve others. Let them be what they want to be. Don't judge people easily. No one is perfect. Don't let negativity ruin your life.

[@lovian-vg4ry]

I don't gossip regularly however I did when I was in school now I really regret about it. I told others my negative opinion about the one whom I talked about, I didn't make fake stories or insult anyone. Now I know it is bad, I feel guilty, regret, and don't know what to do to free myself from my negative thoughts about my personality.

[@V-2512]

I don't usually gossip but if I do, I spill the tea about beauty gurus.

[@costasgeorgiou6101]

The ability to understand overpowers the desire to assume!

[@realbennyluke]

You can't change the world, if you can't change yourself. Don't judge others before judging yourself.

[@mybiz4178]

Soooo real... You are such an awesome life coach... Ty for trying to make the World a better place!!!

[@whitetiger8652]

Thanks for your time!

[@SJH301983]

Gossiping is extremely toxic. It just goes to show that the golden rule still stands. "If you can't say something nice or polite. Don't say anything at all!!!" Which is why people need to mind their own business

[@jodi-anna.richards914]

Great video, Jay Shetty. Thanks for sharing. Gossiping has become a norm today. We have to respect other people's privacy and mind our own business.

[@swarnachoppella388]

"if you don't want to hear gossip about you,stop gossiping about others".. It's really a great message..👏👏👏.. You are always superb Jay bro.🙂😇. The content in these vedios is always inspiring us....

[@nilesshchandnaa1324]

I wish more people knew about this!

[@veew9500]

Thanks for sharing... Whatsoever a men soweth, that SHALL he also reap.

[@nabeelanees3559]

Love yourself for who you're and don't trust fake new all this while these are some tough times that we're going though but this too shall pass 🌍 help others and help yourself out too ❤️ try to do every positive thing you can in your free time and also indulge yourself in some good and your favourite activities 🌸

[@shatabdipaul18]

I hope few woman I have known will start focusing on work and stop gossiping.

[@neiloychowdhury9337]

I wish everyone at my college could watch this video and learn from it.

[@basitkhattak9634]

Well said Jey! I'M Amazed by the Content itself a real massage.

[@Silencio125]

The people who abused me were very malicious gossips. It's like in high school all over again, you tell someone something in confidence and even though you don't see them telling others, all of a sudden there are people you don't know making fun of you for it to your face. So you confront them, "Did you tell people about me?" and they deny it, even though you know that you didn't tell anyone anything that would have gotten around otherwise. I had people recognizing me on the streets and mocking me to my face and smirking smugly at me even though I had never seen them before in my entire life. A few times people even said something to me related to my life that I hadn't told that person. I made a joke to one of my family members about a Christmas story called the nutcracker, and I did the stiff arm and leg movement oddly, and I realized it looked too much like the Nazi salute/march so I got embarrassed and stopped doing it and then turned to someone I knew and joked about it, and then later one of the people who bullied me appeared near me with a group of their friends, like 5-7 people, and one of them ended up copying the exact same arm and leg movements right in front of me even though I had never told that person about it since I didn't know that person. Where I saw them was between my bus stop and where I was required to be, and I think they knew that. Do you know what it looks like to see recognition on a strangers face? It looks like surprise, like, "Oh, that person is here? I didn't realize they would be here". People will brush me off that they can't control how I feel and they won't walk on eggshells but then they'll intentionally pick at me as if they have no control over that. Personally I think that's really immature, and potentially abusive if they don't own up to the fact that they're denying my experiences/reality. Popularity contests and exaggerated bullying and malicious gossiping are all traits of a teenager, as adults people should know better, but that doesn't mean people do. Being an adult doesn't mean you're mature. There is this psychological functioning of the brain where if a person proves one thing true of a statement that others think the entire statement is automatically true. A manipulator would abusively use this to defame others that what they're saying is true by using bits and pieces of truth to support a more fictional claim or assertion. If you compare a person's behavior to like behavior that's acceptable. But if you try to assert that a person is like a character entirely including information that isn't true then that's not acceptable. Obviously the difference would have to be clarified otherwise if you simply make comparisons without stating your true intentions and without comforting the person that you don't think they're a certain way then it can get abusive. Obviously comparing me to a monster in a video game who is unforgiving isn't the same as just trying to prove my personality. If I can't literally be a literal monster because literal monsters don't exist then it's obviously not a person/people simply comparing like behavior. Manipulators like to give half-truths, and obviously people should fall back onto the old addage of "don't believe everything you read". That said, the question is, is something true to begin with, or did someone make it true when it wasn't in the first place? The facts as they are will prove one way or another.

[@ExpertViewsonADRvidpodcastshow]

Powered words! Thanks, Jay, for this content.

[@cskofficial]

It's the weakest foundation to build your superiority on someone else's inferiority

[@omarscarlet559]

Never unmine someone. Never make someone feel unimportant

[@theforgottenbook7775]

You have no idea how true that was

[@slymunga8549]

yeah your right

[@fordz3781]

It seems no matter where you work. You can never escape high school.

[@kdkhaliq7441]

Awesome Sir I hate gossips

[@FeelGoodWithin]

So true 👌 You cannot gossip & feel happy at the same time😝😍

[@brittanyritenour4695]

I agree and no one listens anyways. Loyalty is rare today.

[@neetupatel629]

Thanks you

[@RapFanatic4ever]

People who gossip are such low life’s . That have absolutely nothing going for them .

[@munaame9598]

This is such an amazing video , short but so meaningful, i hope gossipers who watches this change.

[@krithikb8358]

I love your content man

[@senaykahsay630]

There is just something So poisonous and evil, it is full of uselessness. There is nothing negative that I hate more than gossip.

[@rabiabelhfid]

You should never care about others gossiping and learn the art of not giving a F

[@wandalee5010]

Rabia Azzaoui Amen! There is power in knowing who you are and truly not caring about what anyone else thinks of you! You get one life, live it to your own standards and happiness! ❤️

[@rabiabelhfid]

@@wandalee5010 wise words 👌

[@candyrox2023]

Say it louder for the people in the back!!! 👏👏👏 Also, women are not the only ones that do it.

[@kavkashyap9602]

Jessica looks like shailene Woodley.

[@patricklewis8008]

I thought it was too. Uncanny resemblance. Anyhow, my biological father's last name is Kashyup

[@Bitachon]

*Amazing!!*

[@chandansamrat8994]

I am really happy with this video jay shetty sir thank u for this video lot information to do

[@Lina-rf9nb]

Amen to that

[@lilheroofficial4pf473]

Gossip leads to short of breath then choke then stroke and death So don't gossip and try to be successful in life

[@denndenn9601]

That is so so true!!!!

[@mmommo-hx4dx]

super helpful, loved that

[@camillebarker]

"Out of a circle of friends, which one is really yours?"

[@anuragtumane5227]

Jay Shetty explains well what is a common and true saying: If people gossip with you, they'll gossip about you.

[@Geminis3505]

Thank you so much for this amazing video!!

[@dhivyarameshbabu2838]

Thank you!😇😀

[@Voltamel]

You are amazing! Thank you 😊

[@nahrohassan3855]

Exactly right

[@rohanrogers720]

Is she the actress from " fault in our stars" or her twin sister

[@ushababu5260]

God bless u dear.

[@Vegan_scorpioo]

🔄what goes around, comes around

[@3mb3rz10]

Exactly.

[@azifahmed6637]

But I don't gossip at all and people still keep talking about me behind my back and it huuurts

[@mansiverma3087]

Really Love u and your words too😊

[@yahnessahyahsharel6777]

STAY AWAY FROM GOSSIPERS!!!

[@jannaghaleiw5504]

Very true

[@mototech3903]

Great thought♥️♥️♥️

[@mubarakabegum5386]

You know what? In the Holy Quran gossiping is likened to eating the flesh of your own brother. It says that we will loathe the mere thought of doing it, so in that way we should loathe gossiping /backbiting /talking behind someone's back!

[@padmaangmo2265]

Good moral.....🤩🤩🤩

[@jay2384]

Very well thought Jay

[@BoomBangofficial]

So true

[@vaishnavibhogi326]

I understood this at the age of 14