Being an Adult Child Of an Alcoholic (ACOA) | My Story & Healing

[@sksbc3895]

Thanks for sharing this, I'm seeing myself a lot in your comments. My father wasn't an alcoholic but did suffer from personality and mental issues due to abuse during his upbringing. Growing up with a parent like this is confusing because you don't know anything else as a child, during your most informative years. I also chose all the wrong men and suffered from anxiety, irrational fears, guilt, anger and depression brought on by so much family dysfunction. Now that I'm an adult and recognize what happened and sought counselling, I'm doing much better now. Just know that acknowledging the issues is half the battle and that you can feel whole one day with enough work. It's never the child's fault. I completely relate to your comment about being amazed by the fact that you're still here to talk about this. With all my self destructive behaviour in past years, it amazes me too. I am quite a bit older than you and I'm still dealing with feelings and irrational anxiety, it's an ongoing process. I too ran from the problem, travelling nonstop while desperately seeking approval and love from all the wrong people. It was only after I decided to isolate myself physically and learn to meditate, clear my inner dialogue and focus on the present that I was able to get on the road to being healthy. This video of yours is a comforting reminder that I'm not alone in my battle. I wish you lots of strength and a full recovery x.

[@olgatoja]

You are definitely not alone, and you are doing very well. Your words bring hope too, that you learned to manage it and that it does get better. Can we tell we are survivors? I think so :) I think if you ever feel like it, you could make a video about your story too :)

[@tlynn8120]

I can relate with this so much. I kept busy throughout my entire 20s and only once I was finally in a good career with a nice place to live and in a good relationship did all the things from 25+ years ago start coming up. I like to say 'I was finally in a safe enough place' for them to surface. I JUST found ACA after almost a year of searching for an answer. Thank you for your story!

[@drnik67]

Thank you for your honesty and bravery Olga. I had dysfunction in my family growing up too, and only really started dealing with it about a year ago, and I'm now 50! So you are clearly a wise soul to realise much sooner than that, that there was a problem. I'm sure this will help other people who are struggling. Congratulations and good luck on your continuing journey xxx

[@olgatoja]

Thank you very much, that's interesting what you say. How are you dealing with your situation? And how did you realise something was off after such time?

[@drnik67]

olgatoja I am really excellent at avoidance! I ignored so many problems I had, until in 2015 everything fell apart, my work, my living arrangements and my health, both mental and physical. I had to move back to Australia and move in with my sister, her husband and my terminally ill father. After he died (we nursed him at home) I started seeing a cognitive behavioural psychologist. She has helped me so much, but I've had to work on myself too xx

[@jessicanelson6885]

5:39 - I can relate! I am 29, a month into ACA meetings, and realizing how much my upbringing has affected me. Thank you for starting to share your story (I am subscribed!) and encouraging others to find help/healing ❤️

[@olgatoja]

It's a great step you took, thank you for being open about it and mentioning it here. It's astonishing how much the childhood affects our adult lives isn't it...

[@sarai5000]

Olga, what an amazing strength and honesty you showcase here ♡ I was looking for face massages but also found this. I salute your courage. I salute your growth. Brava ♡

[@aleenr4425]

Thanks for making this video!! My Dad was an alcoholic and that's what killed him in the end. I'm currently seeing a therapist too! I myself showed signs of a drinking problem and I've been 8 years proudly sober =)

[@aleenr4425]

You're so sweet and brave for making this video, thank you so much!! I used to be ashamed and never shared/talked about my alcoholic father, but it's not my fault and it's VERY important to open up about.. especially knowing how common it is!! Thanks for being part of the solution and healing =)

[@olgatoja]

I am very sorry to hear what happened. you are right, understanding that it's not your fault and you were never responsible for his choices is part of the healing. I've never been drawn to compulsive alcohol drinking so I thought I'm so different to them but during my sessions I realised that my 'addictive' tendencies were locked in working too much, seeking the thrill and chaos, exercising and many other things. That was huge eye opener go me. And now I almost feel obliged to share my story because many more need to realise there are solution to the problems. I wish you all the best in your new healthy life and congratulations on the soberness 😊

[@aleenr4425]

olgatoja Thank you =) xo

[@jungefrau]

Being an ACOA is a real struggle. My dad was a very heavy drinker (he took vodka in water bottles to work and ppl thought he was just really good about keeping hydrated) and a mean drunk. I had my nose broken, my hands, my feet...one night he got home from work and my mom told him I had mouthed off to her so he went into my room and literally dragged me from my bed across the shag carpet until I had rug burns all over my face. I grew up thinking that at some point my dad would just beat me so bad I would die, and this was in 70s when adults didn't give a crap. I went to elementary school with bruises all the time and welts and no one even asked me about it. Anywho...it has taken yrs and yrs to not be a freaking mess from all this. The only thing that gave me a real breakthrough was not taking it personally. I was in my late 40s when this hit me. My dad would have beaten another kid just as badly if one had been available. He would have been a heavy drinker even if I had never been born. His behavior had nothing to do with me. His rage had nothing to do with me. His whole life had nothing to do with me! Believe it or not, we have a decent relationship now. He stopped drinking because of heart trouble and gave it up cold turkey. No tremors, no bad feelings, nothing. So much for all the begging and pleading and praying I had done when I was a kid...a doc tells him to stop and he does it immediately. TMI, I know, but I just needed to get my little story out there. Hugs to all of you who are posting your own stories! Much love from me to you.

[@kabitapanchkoti7945]

not even heard the full story, but i have been through that.. well, life is beautiful and you are a beautiful soul. stay blessed

[@adasig892]

so brave and candid!

[@thegroovypatriot]

Lisa A Romano is the best and has helped me a lot too. Thanks for sharing.

[@sadusuvarna2287]

OlgaToja🌹 loads of Love n warm wishes from India. You are a very strong lady. To come on social media and talk about life problems requires a lot of courage and strength. I am so glad I subscribed to your channel. I wish and pray that your strength and courage increases day by day. God bless

[@olgatoja]

Thank you very much :*

[@كربلاءكربوبلاء-ف8ث]

Very courageous of you...live your life now, and take life as it comes sweetie!

[@ElizabethYateshair]

blessings to you sweetie , I also have found rest and peace in Jesus. thanku so much for sharing

[@olgatoja]

Elizabeth Paredes There is no one like Him 😊

[@MsBarbara.651]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family. My dad was a very narcissistic, controlling, angry alcoholic. I spent the first 18 years of my life walking on eggshells. Always trying to please him, but never being able to. Always trying to win his love, but never being able to. Even after moving out at age 18, the struggle persisted because I had many dysfunctional relationships. Mainly because of the partners I chose. They were emotionally unavailable. Some were narcissists. At one point I became extremely depressed, and finally went for help. That was when I learned that the bad behavior I was tolerating in relationships, was due to the fact that I grew up learning that's how relationships were. Now I understand that is not how healthy relationships are, and I am seeking a healthy relationship. That's just very hard to find! I still struggle with the way I grew up, and the bad relationships I had. I feel like I'm always seeking approval. Always seeking validation. Always yearning for love! But because of the scars that I have, I'm very very cautious now. To the point where I rarely ever let anyone in to my life. I still struggle with depression, and anxiety. I struggle with the loneliness. I know I need professional help again. Right now because of my work schedule and my lack of funding, I'm not seeking help. But I do know that I should. I think it was a very good thing of you to post this video, and I want to thank you for that.

[@ZzTEINzZ]

Reading this in 2022 I hope you are doing better along your journey

[@mimime5376]

Hi Olgatoja! You may not realize it now, but I'm certain you helped many by coming on u tube with this topic. Seeking professional help is the best step someone could take, to understand that they are not the problem, but are the product of that problem. Many live with the guilt and blame themselves without seeking professional help. So proud of you for taking the first step to your recovery. God bless. ☺💕

[@olgatoja]

Well said - "they are not the problem but the product of the problem". I completely agree. This needs to be talked about because too many suffer in silence not knowing there is a way out.

[@roshnisugeesh4780]

I'm 17..... I was depressed in past and anxiety is something I am dealing with every single day.......my parents are something of hard case......I remember them fighting abusing....their foul language in front of me in childhood.....I remember my father calling me 'useless'!...I always wanted to make them proud....but it's not working......!........I was emotional destroyed by them...............now i don't take their words personally ........my only escape from this is to divert my mind towards my goals....work hard .....thanks for the video big sister....I love you so much💜💜❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@safiabano5054]

Lovely to see you after a break.be blessed dear

[@happytrails699]

This was such a great video. I've dealt with a similar situation. Not with an alcoholic parent, but with a parent who had a mental disorder. Some of the same things you went thru I went thru also.

[@olgatoja]

Marla Robinson I think many things are similar when it comes to healing from the childhood traumas. I am happy to read you managed to overcome it too. There are so many people suffering in silence and not knowing there are effective tools to help with it. I wish you all the best 😊

[@eladan867]

Marla Robinson Me too. My mother was Narcissist volatile and very abusive !

[@Silviaisonblog]

I admire you greatly for what you said and for your courage. In the last few years I've been facing a work on myself similar to the one you described and I personally find that almost all the features you listed match me or have done it in the past. It was also very difficult for me to accept that this was true, because in my family there was not an obvious problem like alcohol and so I felt ungrateful and mad because I had no reason to suffer so much. The truth is that families with dysfunctional relationships are also possible in these cases. For this reason it is important to work on oneself, to seek help and to break the chain so as not to carry on this suffering also to possible future children. Thank you for spreading this important message. Love from Italy

[@olgatoja]

The dysfunctional relations and behaviours in the family can be present even if there is no physical substance involved. I think it's called a "dry home". I've heard many times in the past words "work on yourself" but I don't think I understood what it really meant until now. It really is a hard work but the results are worth it. I like what you mentioned about breaking the chain and not letting this pass to the next generation. When I was going through the group work I heard this sentence running through my head over and over again: This disfunction which I know for fact runs in my family for generations ends on ME and I'm not going to let it pass even 1 centimetre further. :)

[@animalsareourangels93]

Dearest Olga. So very proud of you for coming forth and being able to discuss this. My father was a violent alcoholic......After I lost my entire family in 7 months, I was so angry with God. I asked him why? Why did you do this to me. But I have healed so much now and continue to grow and heal. Thank you for that Olga 😉 I have asked for Gods forgiveness! I have my relationship back with God again. He is our light, love and peace in our life! He loves all of us. Thank you so much for this beautiful video Olga! Have a wonderful day! God bless you! Big hugs, Susan 🙏🏻💙🙏🏻

[@olgatoja]

Your story still shakes me Susan, I am very sorry to hear it. That's absolutely phenomenal that you are healing and doing well today, you should be very very proud of yourself. I am very proud of you and I am happy we came across each other :) All the best & Happy Easter!

[@animalsareourangels93]

olgatoja Dear Olga! It was because of you that I have started to heal! I was raw...and didn’t care about my life anymore! I did not know about co-dependence if it was not for you! I am forever grateful and believe that God’s plan was for us to cross paths....Never forget how very beautiful you are! I mean that your heart is so beautiful and you are amazingly beautiful from the outside too! I hope that you had a wonderful Easter. I was all alone and yes, I must admit that Easter, Christmas, and all special occasions are very lonely for me...That still hurts I must admit. May God watch over you and protect you! Children of alcoholics probably are not even aware how dysfunctional their lives are! Thank you so much for all of your help, understanding, love, friendship and NOT JUDGING me!! Ever....I was so much like you.....xoxox

[@adelegalaxi7895]

Hi Olga, thank you for this video! I appreciate your courage to openly discuss this topic and also that you have made a conscious choice to seek help and help yourself. I’ve also come from a dysfunctional family, and it’s been a long and bumpy road to get where I am now. The struggle is not over yet, and there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel! You are on your way to healing, love, compassion, kindness, and joy! Much love to you ❤️

[@writeintent3936]

I really thank you for being brave n making this video. It will definitely help so many ppl not just with this problem but other similar ones too. N u r so right, support groups r great when u r working on healing urself. Thanks again. Lots of love send ur way 💞

[@user-vs8be1vj2p]

So brave and heartwarming! All the love and all the power to you, Olga!

[@maryleonard7185]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It resonated with me in so many ways. You’re truly a beautiful awesome brave strong person. Love your face massage videos too!

[@sitisyuhada134]

Thanks for sharing this, beautiful Olga

[@shivanihutke3613]

You help so many minds to come up with this

[@goodtimetherapy2812]

Olga jesteś super, Pan z Tobą! Wesołych Świąt Wielkanocnych!

[@olgatoja]

Dziekuje slicznie, nawzajem :)

[@amiraamira4422]

You're so brave olga and thank you for sharing such a personal subject with us, keep looking for inner peace accept you're self and forgive yourself for anything that happened in the past ,I can see that's you're mentally and emotionally strong keep going God bless you😘😘😘

[@olgatoja]

Thank you :)

[@amiraamira4422]

😘😘😘

[@BenefitsofGinseng]

I´m so thankful for this video.

[@twinklekaur5804]

This is so beautiful olga. Love your beauty, vulnerabity and your strength to share yourself with the world. You truly inspire me so much. ❤❤

[@sophiaacierto7509]

Fellow traveler here.☺️ Thanks so much for sharing your experience, strength, hope. I, too, am involved with an ACOA Step program and it’s been so, so healing for me. So happy to hear your experience and to know that we are not alone. HUGS to you!!!

[@suesilva5252]

I'm so happy that you found a way to heal. I come from a family like yours; just know that healing is a life-long process and be kind to yourself. xo

[@emeryfamily6898]

THANK YOU! really appreciate your sharing and video--explained very well and so many out there with same issue as ACOAs! So many families repeat and repeat patters--you broke those patterns, you are very brave, smart and worth it!!

[@happilyeverangie]

I can relate SO much. Wow. Thank you for sharing.

[@bobbymadan8142]

Hi Olga thank you for posting. You took a brave step in bringing awareness of these issues which are very challenging as you described in this video. Thank you

[@trupscorner2989]

So good to see you dear.... Am happy that u did that and spoke openly about this serious issue... More power to you... Sending positive vibes..

[@monikongkanabharadwaj9915]

You are brave and I am sure you will overcome those challenges of your life 😘 all the best!!👍

[@michellelukic4690]

❤Thank you for posting... Very helpful

[@ninarekhi]

Hi Olga..I've always admired you for being a kind, sweet and honest person..you radiate good vibes. In a strange way I feel connected to you even though we've never met. Thank you for sharing this..it takes courage to be so open..a lot of us come from such dysfunctional situations and homes..I wish you all the best in your spiritual and healing journey. Lots of love😘

[@olgatoja]

Thank you Nina, I feel connected to everyone here even though I never met anybody :) That's right, there is still not enough about healing from childhood traumas, yet it's so essential for adults to get it. Thank you, I also wish you all the best on your path :)

[@ninarekhi]

olgatoja Thank you 🙂♥️

[@jyotisharma-hu8yb]

my first bf cheated on me almost 3 years ago. And i am living a life of denial since now. Changing relations from one after another. Now i am single but struggling with emotional breakdowns. For the first time in last years i am feeling i should live peacefully. Thanks a lot olgatoja!

[@olgatoja]

I'm sorry to hear this is what happened to you. Our psyche is a very complex and delicate thing that should be taken with care, but sadly many (including myself) don't realise it until we experience some sort of breakdown. A good think is that help is available and you are not the only one experiencing such feelings. I cross my fingers for your healing - living on the other side is so worth it!

[@floor274]

🥰 Thank you. Hope you experienced lot of recovery strength and hope last two years.

[@floor274]

Would love to hear an update of your recovery, now after two years, but also your recent videos are nice :) ☺️

[@bendangwapang1784]

Thankyou for sharing. So blessed.

[@adsahjames7154]

You are so beautiful both from the inside and out. I went through a terrible childhood because of my Dad who was alcoholic and abusive. I found peace and love in God and to be honest, I don't think I would have made it to being the person I am today if not for Him. Thank you so much for sharing. You are a blessing. ❤️

[@olgatoja]

I am sorry to hear about your situation :( but I can totally relate - I don't think I would be here today if not Him :)

[@pm4653]

Thanks for sharing your story. I've also been dealing with a similar experience. Healing takes time and courage, but it feels so good 😊 Stay strong Olga! 💗

[@mollymadeleine4676]

Thank you for sharing your story, it can help so many people. I SO relate to basically every symptom. I've been working with a therpaist for a few years but it may be time to seek out a group, thank you

[@olgatoja]

The group was a game changer for me (for the better) :)

[@justaset]

Thank you for sharing ❤

[@paulwoods84]

Thank you for sharing your experiences and healing. This will help so many in similar situations 🕊🙏

[@debbiehill2285]

So good to see your smiling face. Prayers. Thanks for sharing. 🙏

[@bullterriersmom4423]

Hi Olga, Thanks for sharing your story. I currently am in a dark place myself...my husband is battling addiction. I dont know what to do anymore: I have tried everything, and like u said, I’m exhausted. Unfortunally nowhere to go and stuck in this never ending suffering...I’m glad u found your peace and the strength to get out of that ugly situation. Xoxo

[@olgatoja]

Oh, I am sorry to hear this... Is he getting the treatment? How long has it been going for? I hope you know that your priority should be YOU and YOUR wellbeing. You can and should support others but not with the cost of your own health... I know it's very hard to find that balance though...

[@Maleblade]

I hope things have gotten better for you. hugs

[@fadhilaharifin1331]

Thank You Olgatoja for this video..! 👍

[@bendangwapang1784]

Please keep going. Happy life will surely be yours👍. God bless.

[@akankshasharma3046]

proud of you....i really look up to u

[@PRINCESS__SUHANA6]

So happy to see you after soo many times ☺ i missed you soo much

[@olgatoja]

princess patel 😘

[@PRINCESS__SUHANA6]

olgatoja sis 💋💋💋❤❤❤

[@seektruth983]

Thank you for sharing this. It helps others.

[@ghayathrib9339]

Ur such a lovly person..thanks fr sharing olga❤

[@jasonc2334]

Thank you for this Olga. I will definitely check out the other resources you posted in the description. 🙏

[@olgatoja]

Fab! Yes, they are worth it :)

[@aparna948]

Dear Olgatoja , I can understand you i see me in tis video. My husband was an alcoholic... npd too ... eye opener .. thnx .. i will be cautious of my actions ... My girl children are at a mighty risk of running down into such a life...I wish you get over such issue and reach for a healthy life... all the best dear.. love from India

[@tahiranwar157]

I want to be myself . And you inspire me so much

[@olgatoja]

Definitely please be yourself. It's freeing :)

[@jessicarabs5803]

You're such an amazing woman. You actually leave me speechless!!💖xx

[@ekashab350]

Thank you so much for sharing ❣️

[@virginiamichael7661]

Hi, thank you so much....the video was very helpful.

[@patriciaorozco4591]

my father was an alcoholic AND I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE FEELING. BE SURE YOU CAN GET OVER IT , IT TAKES TIME ,LOTS OF READING AND ASKING FOR HELP

[@MyTaurus1984]

Thank you for sharing! I have almost the exact same story . I thought I had come far in my healing so I tried to start a new relationship after many years alone. Nooo didnt work out and I had to take a break from the relationship. This was last week. Yeah one step forward and two steps back sometimes. But Im not alone. Always a good reminder. Thank you for sharing your story! One day I will too.

[@PaulinaPixi7606]

Bardzo dziękuje za ten filmik, szkoda że znalazłam Twój kanał tak późno, pozdrawiam!

[@rodintseva]

Hi Olga Can you make more videos about ACOA. Thank you

[@johncampbell7473]

Wow... I can relate to this so much and I am just starting my healing journey. Thank you so much for sharing!!

[@ΑναστασίαΚριαρίδου-ω1β]

Thank you for the video and for sharing your experience. It is very helpful and interesting. I've also been through a similar situation of a sick and hostile family environment (not having to do with alcoholism) and I've been seeing a phycotherapist for two years now. It's very hard trying to deal with some situations, because everything reminds me of the past. My suppressed emotions come out and make me feel like I' m about to explode! Because of my past experience I've also developed obsessive-compulsive disorder and all of that you've read... I would like to e-mail you and make you a few questions on the topic, because I think you could help me with your advice. Thank you very much☺

[@olgatoja]

Hi, I am sorry to hear about the situation you were brought up in :( There are many types of disfunction and it doesn't have to involve any substances to be toxic. I know it is very hard, I think I totally exploded last year. I was very afraid of it but it just burst on it's own, I couldn't stop it. It wasn't pretty for sometime but after that it got better. I'd be happy to answer your email, my address is [e-mail]. :)

[@ΑναστασίαΚριαρίδου-ω1β]

olgatoja Thank you for your answer. I'll contact you as soon as possible🙂

[@satyajitchattopadhyayyt]

Thank you for sharing. You are very Sweet. God Bless you. ❤

[@tinybarabo]

Wow we had a similar experience. Also Lisa A. Romano is amazing 😉

[@malenyluna5275]

You seem extremly anxious in this video, but it could be because you are talking about such a delicate topic. I hope you've find peace in your heart.

[@shiwanisingh9033]

Long time,today I saw you in my dreams,as always you look fabulous,you r doing great work,keep it up

[@mikel7371]

Hi, Im also DDA and also from Poland living in uk. Discover that there is name for my problem same age as You. Read lots of books about this topic and I thought im ok. Now Im 34 and still struggle with me. Decided I need therapy. Maybee You know any good groups in Kent? Thank You and great video. Also Im happy You won 😉. All the best.

[@syedsohel6489]

thnxx for mkng this vdeo

[@utahboxergirl11]

Me too...both passed on. I am over 3 years sober

[@olgatoja]

Congratulations :) Really!

[@jamunamoktan842]

Really glad to know about you. Jesus is the healer. There is no one like him. In him only we can find peace and love... Sending you a hug.. Blesd you

[@olgatoja]

Totally - there is noone like Him :)

[@safiabano5054]

Prayers for you and for all those who face such problem.luckily in Muslim families generally we don't face such problems because alcohol is total forbidden in our religion and most of people don't use alcohol.also we have joint family system so we don't face these problems but ofcourse for every setup there are some negative things also which we face,but thank God most of us generally don't need even phsycayrist.May God help and bless all.

[@olgatoja]

You are very lucky, I'm happy to read this. I've never been close to the Muslim culture and I know very little about it. Alcohol really is a very dangerous thing, unfortunately it's quite common to see this problem especially in Easter European countries. :(

[@thankyouforeverything6250]

great help for me Thank you

[@saraharif4859]

U always talk my heart...u always bring a smile to my face..I never usually comment but for this video ...I had to..stay blessed always Olga 😍😊😊

[@olgatoja]

Oh wow, that makes me feel very special. Thank you for leaving this special comment :) All the best!

[@saraharif4859]

olgatoja u r very special and genuine ...and thank u for being this way 😊

[@jessicalua7768]

Beautiful 💛💧🌿🕊

[@volkischfrau2957]

Both my parents were and are alcoholics. I live with my Mom and need to get off on my own, but am struggling to find a way to do so as I help care for her with my sister. We have never known them truly sober.

[@Karolina-rm6el]

Dzieki Olga Wiedzialam ze nagrasz takie video Bardzo pomocne #releaseyourself #grow #glow

[@Karolina-rm6el]

If you ever plan visiting US You can stay in my house I will show you around

[@olgatoja]

Pomyslalam ze trzeba sie takimi rzeczami dzielic. Czesto mozna sobie pomyslec ze zycie "youtuberow" jest uslane rozami a tak zupelnie nie jest. Pozdrawiam cieplo :)

[@Karolina-rm6el]

Oczywiscie 🗣 Kilka lat dramy a wychodzi sie z tego cale zycie, z tymi “boyfriendami” jest najgorzej Co jeden to gorszy Nie umiem sobie z tym najbardziej poradzic, co mi polecisz ?

[@olgatoja]

Jeśli chodzi o 'boyfriendow' to mi bardzo dużo uświadomiła terapia grupowa i nieopisana była moja nowa relacja z Bogiem. On zalał mnie bezwarunkową miłością która poczułam pierwszy raz w życiu. Kontynuacja z Nim relacji nauczyła mnie jak się czuje i zachowuje osoba która jest otoczona bezwarunkową miłością i nawet nie wiem kiedy zaczęłam w ten sposób operowac. Jak ten mój 'default' zaczął się przestawiać zauważyłam że chłopaki z problemami nie znajdują u mnie już też 'pozywki' i bardzo szybko znikają zato pojawiają się w ich miejsce zdrowi, ciepli i kochający. W tym momencie mężczyźni w moim życiu są naprawdę super. Szanują mnie i wspierają. Nie do wiary że byłam tak ślepa na tego typu relacje przez tyle lat. Ogólnie moja rada to poświęcić parę tygodni/miesięcy żeby wziąć zdrowienie bardzo poważnie, zanuzyc się w materiałach, książkach, ćwiczeniach i pracy z psychologiem/grupa, bardzo polecam książkę z ćwiczeniami z opisu i gruntownie przewalkowac swój mózg na zdrowe tory. Fantastyczni mężczyźni sami zaczną się pojawiać w Twoim życiu 😊 Pozdrawiam serdecznie!

[@hashitasingh9134]

I know didi u r a good and loving person.love you so much

[@sushmitasen4161]

Ooooooo after a long time...... I missed you lots......💝💝💝💝💝

[@olgatoja]

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[@ammu1476]

please do a video for under eye skin lifting and tightening

[@Parthesh28-k1e]

your voices is sweet

[@EccoLivingLife]

My last relationship was exactly like yours, only he wouldn't accept me leaving him and he harassed and stalked me for 3 months after the breakup… I had to seek help from the police, but he found a new girlfriend during the same time, only then he moved on. Thank god for that, but it has left me deep scars.

[@qaisarnaqvi9368]

very nice

[@divyasasidharan2960]

I grew up I feeling pretty strong but then I saw how broken n desperate I was, but still kept on moving on abusing myself, even though I knew what the issue was, I didn't know what was the solution. I was too scared to go to a counselor or therapist, so I did everything I could to help myself but rarely got anywhere to the point that I have gotten so exhausted n stressed n severely anxious that I can't relate to myself anymore. This all happened after I got married I am so so scared of everything in life, I can't drive, I can't cook, I can't talk, I don't have the courage to break free of the relation, I can't stand up for myself when mistreated or abused, I can't make friends, I can't trust. I'm always scared that someone will mistreat me, I live constantly in the stress of being attacked n I have run down with it. m so tired that I can't think or even breath properly m panting just lying in the bed. Not only on my own m afraid to go see a therapist whenever I do get the courage my partner discourage me n I panic. I hope I will break free n will be able to help myself heal that's the only hope m living on, if that wouldn't happen I might die with this much pain n suffering soul. I wanna die in peace.

[@olgatoja]

Oh, I'm so sad to read your story...But this is exactly why I decided to share my experiences. My life may look different but the problems were similar - and there is nothing absolutely nothing shameful or scary about meeting a counsellor, this can greatly help you, in the ways you cannot even imagine. I'm just a bit worried that your partner discourage you from it... I don't think it's right. Please remember you don't need his permission to take care of YOUR health. It's your decision and your wellbeing. I'm currently reading a book which I recommend btw Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw, the author says that unresolved negative emotions from childhood with time affect our ability to use our mind, they create blocks. Emotions are a force that need to be released and if they don't they accumulate in the brain and affect the ability to think. This is why you struggle with simple tasks like cooking or talking. Something in you calls to be looked at and released. Please take time to take care of yourself. There are tools and techniques to help you, you just have to start somewhere :) Please check the resources I listed in the description box but I'd still encourage seeing a counsellor. I cross my fingers for you :)

[@divyasasidharan2960]

thank u for sharing the information. My issues ofcourse stem from my childhood but after marriage, i was cut off everyone n everything i ever knew. I am having some space to recover n hoping to incorporate every help that i can get for healing in my routine

[@PRINCESS__SUHANA6]

You know you make my day i so happy when you upload a video i m your big fan 💋💋💋💋❤❤❤❤😍😍😙😙😚😚😚😘😘😘

[@olgatoja]

That's so sweet princess 😊

[@PRINCESS__SUHANA6]

olgatoja didi when will you come live ???

[@olgatoja]

I think I'm too shy to come live ;)

[@PRINCESS__SUHANA6]

olgatoja didi plz come for me live but tomorrow

[@Ninaninanina1010]

Cześć, Mam nadzieje ze zobaczysz ta wiadomość gdyż wiem ze filmik nagrywałas jakieś 2 lata temu 🙂 tez mieszkam w UK i chciałbym się dowiedzieć gdzie szukałas pomocy dokładnie ? Mówiłaś o grupie w której uczestniczyłas . Czy jest jakaś dobra strona która możesz polecić, czy ludzie z którymi mogę się skontaktować w Londynie ? Dzięki wielkie

[@olgatoja]

Hej, gdy pierwszy raz "czegos" szukalam (mowie czegos bo nie do konca wiedzialam czego potrzebuje) to napisalam do kilku polskich psychologow w Edynburgu (chyba do 7 czy 8) z krotkim opisem i zapytaniem czy z czyms takim pracuja. Gdy odpisali wybralam jednego z nich i mialam 2 spotkania gdzie sie dowiedzialam ze jestem DDA i wspoluzalezniona. Wtedy tez jeden z psychologow ktorego nie wybralam ale gdzies mnie wpisal na liste napisal mi maila ze tworza grupe i czy bylabym zainteresowana i od razu sie zapisalam. Grupa byla prowadzona przez charity Health in Mind, gdy sie skonczyla jako grupa jeszcze sie widywalismy przez okolo rok, sami bez terapeuty. Zarejestrowalismy nasza grupe (juz teraz jej nie ma ale jak dzialala) na stronie www.adultchildrenofalcoholics.co.uk/ - tam bym Ci polecila zajrzec bo jest to taka wlasnie UK centrala i widze ze sa grupy w Londynie. Oprocz tego mozesz sprobowac poszukac i sie skontaktowac z Mental Health charities, albo bezposrednio psycholodzy/terapeuci moga wiedziec czy cos takiego sie dzieje. Rowniez powiem ze Polscy terapeuci mozliwe ze beda miec troche wiecej kontatow i wiedzy na te tematy bo niestety nie jest to rzadkosc u nas :(

[@vivekgovindraj8411]

U inspired me Olga mam 💐

[@mamere2843]

I Love you olga😄 يا ريت ترجمة الفديو بالعربى

[@916bigAl]

Do you offer consultations?

[@thankyouforeverything6250]

Can u plz help me with finding coaching for this same problem ?? is your coach or help is available online ?? any help will be appreciated

[@smurph4959]

💗💗💗

[@rodintseva]

Olga how did you get enough courage to go to psychologist and tell people around you that you need help. I never can ask for any help .

[@TheLipstickhippie]

I see you hunny

[@TheLipstickhippie]

I am also recovering from this. Took 4 years of therapy for me to accept this x

[@myshow1744]

hey my bf left me because he does not like my face i am not beautiful and my skin is so bad,acne ,itching ,dark spots,no fat on face and tan.I am depressed☹️

[@olgatoja]

If that's the reason he left you then let him go, he isn't worth it. Acne & itching - it sounds like you may have a skin condition - I recommend speaking to the dermatologist. Dark spots - try kojic acid. Fat face - try slimming face massage :) It's all sortable!

[@myshow1744]

Thank you

[@myshow1744]

olgatoja you are very nice

[@5star-shorts12]

you are lovely

[@olgatoja]

mubarak ali Thank you, that's very sweet 😊