Being Black In America | Ethiopian-Eritrean American Perspective | Black Experience | Call To Action

It's interesting when people say "I am not black?". This video is about my experience of being black in America, as a 1st generation Ethiopian and Eritrean. I share intimate stories about my upbringing, struggles with belonging, and finding my "black" identity. Lastly, in my call to action segment, I share #3 things each person can do now to advance our understanding of the black community-at-large to strengthen unity amongst all black people and the human race in order to fight systemic racism, stereotypes, and biases. Change cannot occur without understanding each other. Peace & Love Ya'll!
By the way, I AM BLACK!
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LILA TALKS
Career & Lifestyle Coach @ Lilatalks.com
IG @lilatalkslifestyle

[@markoliver2561]

I'm an American black man I can tell you heard some stories from other black Americans. The history of black Americans thru triumph , despair and suffering the result is becoming the world's door mat or joke is shameful. How do a people be so degrading at the same time so envious thru creativity of music, dancing, art, fashion, style, sports, entertainment, politics and so on. That light that black Americans gave the world only help them that give war. Great message your on the right track and much respect you.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for your comment. I think we all must keep our minds and perspectives open and conduct ourselves in a way that is aligned with the truth as much as possible. I greatly respect the ancestors of Black Americans, which has afforded my parents to come to this country and build a life (work, house, family, etc). There were a lot of sacrifices and the effects of those sacrifices are still systematically here in American society.

[@9thcason167]

This is awesome!! So beautiful and smart❤️❤️❤️🖤🖤🖤

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you! I'm glad you liked it! Check out my holistic living video too!

[@menenasfaw3579]

It is so refreshing to hear your prospective as a black woman in America with a twist. I can relate with some of the experiences you have experienced as a black foreign student in America in the 70's. There are so many stories of cultural shocks, values and acceptance that most immigrants have gone through; and hope your channel will address some of the negative and positive impacts that has on the black immigrant community.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for your comment!

[@malikyouell]

Wow my sister!!! You have learn much about the Black American experience in America!!! I salute you. I have been to Ethiopia,Bole and love it!!! Brooklyn,NYC!

[@LilaTalks]

Nice, we are both east coasters! Explore the world when you can!

[@redietabebe8000]

Omg Lila! As an Ethiopian that grew up in America since the age of 10, I can totally relate to your story. Growing up in the DMV, attending ODU was also eye opening for me. I was called a valley girl with the “Chantilly accent” 🙄

[@LilaTalks]

Wow, twin! That's crazy, yup. Very similar journey :)

[@retro2712]

yoo im in the dmv too!! so many habeshas are in the dmv wow

[@MonDieuMaCauseMonEpee]

I'm in love 😍

[@timhoward5]

*No lie, when I first got encounter with an Ethiopian, I asked her does she considered herself to be black. Then, she gave me the 🤨 facial expression. And, she said "uh yea I'm black. I'm from Africa". I felt that I asked a dumb question and was like "oo okay." From that on I've been loving Ethiopians ever since. They are so unapologetic proud of being black, beautiful, friendly, feminie, great morals, and always have a good attitude. They are my favorite type of women. I will be coming to that country soon.*

[@LilaTalks]

Wonderful! Thanks for your comment. I'm glad you had a positive interaction about that conversation. You should definitely visit! We have a rich culture and warm people :) FYI - This Sunday I'm releasing a video about Advice on Dating Ethiopians & Eritreans (catered mostly for Americans). Hopefully you'll tune in! Thanks again.

[@timhoward5]

@@LilaTalks I know so and heard it from people who went there before. It will be more than a visit might packed over there as well. Will certainly tune-in.

[@LilaTalks]

@@timhoward5 Great! Thank you!

[@morrisdavidmullings9833]

@@timhoward5 stay your ass here and stop using these women to get back at African American females

[@ditocerto]

No lie, when I first got encounter with an Ethiopian, I asked her does she considered herself to be black. Then, she gave me the 🤨 facial expression. And, she said "uh yea I'm black. I'm from Africa". I felt that I asked a dumb question and was like "oo okay." From that on I've been loving Ethiopians ever since. They are so unapologetic proud of being black, beautiful, friendly, feminie, great morals, and always have a good attitude. They are my favorite type of women. I will be coming to that country soon. = You've got to be out of your mind to think all Ethiopians or Eritreans consider themselves black. Many do not and black to many of them is linked to "slaves". "Their" historical slaves. Talk to other africans, specially from the south of Ethiopia, who have experienced it.

[@daniellelawson3437]

Similar experiences at Lee & ODU where I didn't feel like I fit in anywhere. My dad was African American. My mom is Filipino and English, and on that side, I'm the first generation born in the US. So at Lee I had a very diverse group of friends, but I was the "black friend". Then went to ODU where I wasn't black enough 😆. But our experiences make us unique and I'm grateful for that. Love the video ♥️.

[@LilaTalks]

Absolutely! Because of our experience we are able to relate to people pretty well. Everything happens for a reason and translating these experiences to an asset is a great plus! Thanks for sharing!

[@bethlehemtaye]

Great show! I was drawn to the topic, obviously :) and enjoyed hearing your experience and the lesson.

[@LilaTalks]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@kinkale82]

The african women from the contient and disapora all look like they have been bathing in a bath of milk and dates and honey😍🥰😍🥰🥰☄

[@LilaTalks]

haha, oh I love that, so descriptive, thank you!

[@kinkale82]

@@LilaTalks The truth must be told as was since the creation of the black mother of mankind until now, and until the creator destroys the earth which he created

[@quinncole8122]

I don't understand this reference

[@kinkale82]

@@quinncole8122 meaning my brother that the african woman whether she darkskin or lighterskin her skin is smooth and always glowing, and like how the river nile is one of the blessed rivers that the creator created it is only natural to associate that with the african woman

[@quinncole8122]

@@kinkale82 o ok agreed

[@krystalsummers9479]

It’s good hearing your story yes we have different stories, but we do share similar experiences as black women… you really blew my mind I would never think someone like ( knowing what country your from) would have these experiences, thank you for share.. and please share more we as black need to understand each other better… others as well but we really don’t understand that we are all in the same boat.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you! I'll try to think of other topics that might be eye-opening. Some of my other videos highlight black content related to politics, activism, and my documentary in Ethiopia.

[@KaazamWay]

💜🤗 I love you sis. I admit as a teen that I did tease Continental Africans that immigrated to the states. I had no idea that I was causing them trauma , causing identity issues, and causing them to isolate themselves from American Africans. The things said were jokes in my mind. I had no idea, I was hurting them. The Caucasion (Westernized) media outlets program American Africans from a young age to see Continental Africans and the Continent of Africa a certain way, rather that be malnutrition, poor , or dirty. We're so ignorant of our race as a whole from in the States. I never realized as a youth that consciously black people came in so many varieties, shades, etc. We're so ignorant of our identities it's sad. It's crazy and I'm ashamed of not knowing who I was and not being aware of the African Diaspora as a whole for the first 26 years of my life. I was always for myself and I realize that's 1 of the 2 biggest problems for our race on a global scale. We have no unity to an extent, and that is the reason we have been taken advantage of for so long. And we are ignorant of who we are. Our history is hidden in books and sadly the majority of our race worldwide don't volunteer to read books. We should definitely all embrace and look out for one another no matter the walk in life. As an African, As a Black man, I love you. You are my reflection how could I not, you are the only one in the world who can understand me and my plight.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you so much for your comment! Please don't beat yourself up on your previous mindset / thinking. We are all ignorant at a certain level. But the important thing is to be open to our own ignorance, seek information and have an open heart & mind to change for the better. I feel we are in a new era, where the black race will have more unification - supporting and hearing each other's concerns, needs, and dreams. Thanks again for your kind words. We are all on the same growth journey.

[@amanireans2125]

I had no idea I was. Causing trauma yes u did yall don’t like taking accountability

[@alphasafe06]

Love your story my sister. I as teased as well, not growing up in a black community , nor attending any school through three college degrees that had more than 4% black. When my sister who was 1 year older decided to attend Howard I went woop whoop and visited every time I could. Howard University in the 70s was the place to be. You are a healer indeed lil’ sis.

[@acmaysnetworker]

LOVE THIS VIDEO, THANK YOU FELLOW DMV sister!!! I love your view, intelligence and how you in your own mind, broke complex issue down and then opened your mind. TEACH!!!

[@LilaTalks]

Wow! Thank you so much! I appreciate the support. Let me know if you have any suggestions on future videos that might interest you. I tend to struggle with what information would be helpful to others because I can talk a lot about everything, haha. Thanks again 😄

[@emjay6108]

Such a timely conversation considering all that's going on in the world. Thanks for sharing your story! The more we learn about others, the better off we are in understanding how we move forward together as a United front!

[@LilaTalks]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@defrocker0569]

I'm from Jersey and went to Falls Church, Virginia and i saw a lot of people from Ethiopia at a masjid on my visit.

[@LilaTalks]

Yes, we are all over the Washington DC, Maryland, and Virginia (DMV) area. I hope you enjoyed your visit.

[@defrocker0569]

@@LilaTalks I think the heaviest concentration of Ethiopians are in Minnesota.

[@LilaTalks]

@@defrocker0569 Actually it's 100% in Washington D.C. We have close to 1/2 Million folks in this area.

[@cameronallen6146]

Young lady you are black you are beautiful you are articulate I am a black American man you should never change who you are to fit in because you are unique yes you may speak proper but it's okay just be you and you will be excepted God bless 🌹🌹❤️❤️🙏🙏

[@danongarrett4775]

Great content. I just viewed several of your videos today. They showed up in my time line on KZbin. I’m AA who has traveled, and can appreciate your perspective, but more importantly the education to removing barriers of the diaspora to build on expanding our values through acceptance, healing cultural trauma and protecting our peace.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you! I really appreciate you watching my other videos and getting the core underlying theme I try to convey in my videos. I hope my videos are entertaining but also educational from the perspective of the world, especially when it comes to highlighting disparities in our society.

[@bbwapproved9778]

Wow this video just open my eyes to so many things such as me being prejudiced towards my own community. This content is amazing! You have a new subscriber ❤️

[@LilaTalks]

Oh wonderful! I'm so glad you found it informative. Thanks for your comment!! Let me know if you have any specific questions for potential future video topics. Coming soon is my recap on the recent 2020 Get Your Knee Off My Neck March. It's going to be DOPE, trust me!

[@GamingwitD5]

Dope video I’m from the 757 born and raised lol. I’m glad you had a good experience at odu and Norfolk in general. I actually want to know more about Africa i feel clueless being here in USA since we only see negative things about Africa and National Geographic only. It’s definitely a big disconnect between African Americans or blacks and the motherland.. the time is now for unity how much technology has advanced we have multiple ways of connecting with one another and plan for the future and unite ✊🏾

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you! Yes, I'm glad you are curious about Africa because just like there are negative images and inaccurate depictions of black people in America, the same can go for images of Africa and African people (thinking they all live in huts, are starving, etc). I think following different youtube creates that focus on Africa content would be a good start. Good luck with your search!

[@GamingwitD5]

@@LilaTalks facts I’m planning to travel to Cape Town South Africa next year

[@ericstone2424]

Great conversation and awesome outlook in your upbringing, experiences and your outcome from an adult perspective.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you very much! I think a lot of first-generation immigrants might have had a similar experience, especially if their parents came to America at a young age.

[@TheFinancialFather]

Love this! Awesomeness in action! Go girl!

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you!

[@falconofbalasagun4163]

I stumbled upon this video by pure chance and I have to say you have a talent for storytelling that compelled me to keep watching. Great content

[@LilaTalks]

Oh, thank you so much Trevor! This was my first video. I really appreciate your kind words! In my Lila Talks Intro video, I explain my background so if there is anything of interest that you suggest I speak on, please provide me topic suggestions since I'm still in the early stages of building my channel and I'm a talker! lol, so I need help on what I should talk about. Thank you for watching!

[@alessandrahawkins7259]

Great first video, I ❤️ the call to action #3!!

[@LilaTalks]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@kayssansitti3607]

They thought you were mixed because of your Eurocentric facial features. it's sad but true, simple minded Americans don't think Africans come in different skin tones and regions. Somali, Ethiopian, and Eritrean people look mixed... everyone in the Western Hemisphere view africans as stereotypically being darkskin with a big nose, nappy short hair, big lips, gap tooth, and etc. East African women don't posses these stereotypical African traits.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for your comment. It sad that it isn't just Americans. Most of the comments for this video are from Habesha people (Ethiopians / Eritreans) declaring that we are not black. I'm like really? If you want to go there, then most African Americans are not just African. Due to rape during the American slavery era, most AA's are not mixed with white or native American blood. It saddens me that people would rather be associated with being Arab than Black.

[@senait5092]

​@@LilaTalks While it is sad that there are Habesha (and other Africans!) who prob look down on AA/"black" ppl. They are not wrong in stating that they are not black and are different. They are correct. We are different, not just culturally, but genetically. We have various admixtures, both ancient and more recent. The ancient admixtures stems from 30k (30,000) b/w West Eurasians and proto-Nilotic females. With more Eurasians further mixing later on. That was the "creation" of Kushites. In addition, we Habesha have admixtures from 3k years ago during Axum (Queen of Sheba!) from Southern Arabs. We avg between 40-60% West Eurasian admixture.

[@senait5092]

We are not mixed, per se, but our ancestors were, multiple times, hence our differences. It is not Eurocentric. We share features bc we have ancient ancestors who hailed from West Eurasia who migrated into the Nile Valley. However, the problem is really that North Americans are taught that Africa is homogenous when that is false. Africans are the most genetically diverse people on Earth. Bantus primarily in Central and South Africa have roots from West Africa from 3k years ago but over time became more admixed with Bushman and other groups becoming more distinct with differing looks!, though, though they are genetic cousins. There are mixed Nilotic groups with sizable Cushitic ancestry with straight noses and looser hair etc. There is no stereotypical look other than the ignorance that exists in a lot of N American minds believing this to be the case, sadly, partially due to their education system and partially (mostly?) due to the media.

[@mikailm6934]

@@senait5092 you're right except about eurasian men mixing with proto nilotes women. Actually men and women from both groups mixed altogether, somalis are primarily e1b1 because of a founder effect 1000 years ago. Other cushites/horners have more nilotes haplogroups(A is in the 40% amongst the Beta Israel, at least 15%amongst Habeshas...). If the mix only involved east African women, cushites wouldnt be 40% eurasians in their maternal lineages(close to their austosomal).

[@senait5092]

​@@mikailm6934 Yup, we have ancestry from both W. Eurasian males + females while the proto-Nilotic ancestry was found to be strictly maternal. You are correct that there ARE other paternal Haplogroups in Ethiopia but these aren't pre-historic like the original mix. Haplgroup A comes from much later mixing and remained isolated like with the Beta Isreal (41%); few mixed with others at some point but we don't yet know which groups. Hopefully, we'll get more data soon. The only other paternal Nilote group is B but at trace amounts (3%). Also, Habeshas from both Ethio/Eri have later paternal + maternal South Arabian ancestry from around 3kyo. The founder's effect with Somalis is bc they branched off from their Northern Cushitic kin over 3kyo. They only have their maternal proto-Nilotic ancestry without any other Nilote mixing but they also had further admixture from the ME too (10% paternal Haplogroup T). Your last bit confused me: "If the mix only involved East African women.." Do you mean that we WOULDN'T be 40% maternally Eurasian if we only had East African female ancestry? If so, I agree lol although, the % avg is almost 50/50 for Habeshas. For Somalis, it's 60% proto-Nilote/40% Eurasian. Edit: Not only the groups collectively known as "Habeshas" have the additional South Arabian/Sabean DNA. The presumed thought is that the original mix was with an Agaw population, evidenced by a linguistic substratum of (Cushitic) Agaw within Amharic. This didn't remain isolated but spread out into other groups.

[@ethiopianmommahelet1094]

Love this!!! Such a great content ❤️❤️❤️

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you!

[@mameseifu5588]

Giliayee you’re so awesome i love ❤️ it go girl

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you!

[@davidclass657]

You have spoken no lie in this sis and forgive us black American community sis we still love you we trying too grow with our African Americans 1st generation you see we are just gumbo people yes black Americans we had too rebuild our community we are trying too put in work too get too know your community in an respectful manner too thank you for sharing your experiences too

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you and no need for forgiveness. I have had great relationships with various black people in America, but as a kid in the 90s the world wasn't as exposed or blended as it is now. Although the internet and social media can do a lot of harm, it can also be a knowledge-sharing tool and reach people that would never get the exposure first hand. Thank you.

[@man_from_equator]

Nice - Ethiopia and Eritrea are places I hope to vlog about soon - love the hornland !

[@LilaTalks]

Okay, dope! I love vlogs and we need more people highlighting Ethiopian and Eritrea! We have so many hidden treasures and historical sites. Check it out!

[@man_from_equator]

@@LilaTalks will after the pandemic .....

[@tineshiabobbitt62]

This showed up in my news feed and I'm glad I watched. I'm American many generations and I can relate to not fitting in funny because I have been asked if I was Ethiopian so many times to the point I was at Starbucks and a man was speaking the language to me and when I said I didn't understand he was shocked.

[@LilaTalks]

Awesome! I'm glad you enjoyed it. From your photo, I can see how they assumed you were Habesha. Thanks for your comment!

[@tineshiabobbitt62]

@@LilaTalks I am going to do my DNA test I can see resemblance beautiful people.

[@LilaTalks]

@@tineshiabobbitt62 Many people have been very surprised by the results. You should do it! It's great to learn and connect with our heritage.

[@tineshiabobbitt62]

@@LilaTalks I am so excited to do!

[@nataliewalters2759]

That happens to me all if the time too.😂

[@davidnash4215]

Great video!! I learned a lot.

[@LilaTalks]

Wonderful! I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching :)

[@brietaha9063]

my daughter growing up was told she talked white, but tried too to change her voice when there every summer, she had to learn to to be herself and not worry about other people perception when in MD,DC; after high school she moved back to DC and that is where she learned more about black culture, and diversity. My youngest daughter want to move back east because she wants to have diversity .

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for sharing your comment. Being black in America means different things to so many people. But based on the comments I've received from this video, it seems so many women of color have experienced the same thing in their childhood as me. I'm glad your daughter learned to accept herself and her black identity. I hope our world for the younger generation will have a more acceptance concept of what it means to be black. :)

[@Ty_ThatGuy]

A lot in common. I'm born and raised in the south but most people ask me where I'm from because I've been told my accent sounds "non-regional." Racially mixed neighborhood, went to predominate white school, afterwards attended HBCU for the experience and still looked for where I belonged or "fit-in." I had to finally accept that I'm more than enough and I should figure out who fits in with me and life got a lot simpler. We tend to look where we belong and not give ourselves enough grace and not know that we're unique. Love yourself and learn to know who deserves to be in your own circle and not worry about whose circle you belong in.

[@LilaTalks]

Exactly! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Well said. Love yourself. It starts there and everything else will follow, whether it be friends or romantic partners, or even your job! Love yourself and you'll be in a more peace state.

[@primoxxl71]

I love the short story of your father's journey.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you very much! He does have a beautiful story - walking to Sudan, working in the Middle East, becoming a taxi driver in Los Angeles to later getting his PhD and teaching at Universities. We can do anything!

[@danielteka7187]

Thank you for sharing your experience and Joy.

[@LilaTalks]

My pleasure! Thank you for watching!

[@antowalk2743]

The sister raised some interesting points that we in the diaspora african community need to address and understand. Many of us like the sister here were not raised in predominantly black environments and we should be more understanding of that. But I guess a people under siege from racism in America might not see or understand our sisters journey. With the continental knowledge she has from her mother's culture she has a lot to teach us. I love Ethiopia and Eritrea.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your take on my story.

[@oldskoolscat3925]

Love your story, I have had the opportunity to visit Ethiopia several times and dated a Ethopian woman, did not wor out due to Cultural differences. Continued success on your channel.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you so much for your well wishes with my channel along with watching and sharing a comment. Come back soon!

[@AD-mw6ne]

great video! i love your channel so far. been subbed for about a year. i, too am 1st gen American and there are differences for sure. i love African Americans who are foundational yet i do recognize differences in some, not all. some are very closely aligned to the perspectives of many 1st gen African Americans, like us. That being said, it is more attractive to be with someone who parents come from a Black governed country with its own food, language and culture.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for watching! Yes, I find those with strong family ties can relate to our community well since that's a huge part of our culture. I hope you enjoy the other videos too.

[@Danny-fs1hk]

Very good insight. Thanks! 👍🏾

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for letting me know! I appreciate it :)

[@rivieragolfgoldeneagles]

Real Talk Sister ! Thumbs up from Ivory Coast 🇨🇮, West Africa

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you! Cote D'ivoire is on my travel list. I hear you have amazing beaches. Much love.

[@rameses1979]

I've discovered this page tonight and I love it. 4 videos already 🤣🤣🤣

[@LilaTalks]

Oh wow, thank you so much!! I'm glad you are enjoying them.

[@shirobedabo]

You have to wonder how valid your testimony is when your speech has cuts after every word

[@LilaTalks]

This was my first video and I edit all my videos myself. It’s actually not that easy. You seem angry in your comments. Is there something bothering you about my videos?

[@BAn-mu4qe]

Hi,Lila.I'm African-American but my mom was black and my step-father was white. They married in 1968 so I can say that I experienced almost exactly the same things as you. I lived in California and I was made fun of by blacks and since we had no whites where I lived, the only friends I had were Salvadorean,Haitian and one southern black girl. I think that our experiences were more common than we think! Thank you for being so honest and for encouraging openness.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for sharing your personal story. The more we share, the more others will have something to identify with, especially the youth. Thanks again.

[@sotokaimon6311]

I have the very same situation but I had so many fights with both white and African Americans in New York City because of the issues of " otherness" . And poverty in the hood and the street wars that we partaken in the 90's.

[@LilaTalks]

Yes, I didn't think about it that way "otherness", if you don't fit neatly in one box or relate completely, you aren't accepted and it can be frustrating, so you end up hanging with other otherness people. In my case, it was other first-generation kids.

[@sotokaimon6311]

I have to say you are one enchanting looking woman absolute FACTS 😍

[@LilaTalks]

awww, thank you. You are too kind.

[@dennisstampleycali]

Love ❤️ your conversation! Very wise! Stay true to u !

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you! I appreciate you letting me know. Take care.

[@cameronallen6146]

You are of African descent because you are from the motherland you are God created be proud to be black ...

[@warlockthankless5323]

Wow. That was breathtaking!

[@LilaTalks]

Oh, I'm glad you liked it!

[@fabianlawstudies9497]

Thanks for sharing!

[@ትምሕርተሃይማኖት]

hello Dr. gelila. i have seen you on comedian eshetu live show and i am happy to see you.

[@lancebeamon9729]

I just stumbled upon your channel. I enjoyed this share so much that it inspired me to subscribe to your channel.

[@fidelcastro236]

Glad I found this channel you’re one ☝🏾 of the few Ethiopian/Eritrean women I’ve seen claim their blackness, ✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽

[@LilaTalks]

oh wow! Thank you so much for the compliment. The liberties I have in this country, being born and raised here, wouldn't be possible if it wasn't for the Africans who were forced to be here centuries ago. We are all one people just in different flavors, and that is what makes us so dope :) #africa #unity #blackness

[@domwilliams8301]

@@LilaTalks sooooooo DOPE I SWEAR I LOVE BEING A BLACK MAN FROM AMERICA

[@LilaTalks]

@@domwilliams8301 As you should, 100% The swag is real :)

[@Gee571]

Black is a social construct

[@matthewmarston5149]

Im a self taught Psycholog. Major.. Ge'ez word Psycholog is my Fash.CIA Cal: Schlaée.. I like tu, I am in an Ethiopian Household: Ethiopia was also Etria.. Etria is also a part of Ethiopian History..

[@ThisIsAfrica]

Wow! You are very beautiful and know how to deliver your message. I am fascinated by Habesha people

[@ranwinle-roy9414]

I related so much to this! Love you!

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for watching! Feel free to share with others :)

[@lionessslionesss3819]

lila you are beutifull and smart ethiopi/eritrean princess , great tallk even in canada we feel that way and i feel uscan be better even when it comes to were to fit etc ..

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you very much. Yeah, I think my story resonates with many other 1st Generation immigrant parents. Regardless if it's America or Canada, we can forget our beautiful home country's culture. Although I am very American and some Ethiopian and Eritrean people try to challenge that (comments in my dating videos), no one can define our identity. :)

[@saraw9740]

Love this! Thank you ❤️ question for you: how frequently will you be posting videos?

[@LilaTalks]

Originally, I was planning every other week, but right now, I've been posting once a week. Hopefully I can keep it up! :)

[@smithhbea]

I am first generation African too and I was raised around white people. Although I don't look mixed or ambiguous like you, I have had African American people ask me why do I talk like that or they say I like your accent just because I don't talk like a regular 'black' person. And I also have had people tell me I talk like I am from California too. I felt like even though I look black, I don't really fit in with black people (because of environmental circumstances) but at the same time I am not accepted by white people because I am black. I also don't relate to other Africans because I was raised in America and my parents didn't teach me their tribal language.

[@Hani-fv4sf]

I really enjoyed this!

[@LilaTalks]

I'm so glad!

[@larry_saytee]

You said it. Don't let entertainment define you. Entertainment is entertainment only!

[@LilaTalks]

Many thanks!

[@konjog5193]

Exactly like my daughter’s experience

[@LilaTalks]

Awesome, I'm glad my story was relatable. Do you have any suggestions on future video topics? Thank you.

[@lisahooper7578]

I have two beautiful Ethiopian adopted teenage daughters. Your channel is very helpful.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you Lisa! I'm glad to hear you are enjoying the channel. Thanks for watching!

[@davidcooper177]

I CAN RELATE SO MUCH to your story. I am also HABESHA who went to high school and college in USA. Race and racism is ingrained in black and white Americans. AMERICANS ARE RACIST BOTH BLACK AND WHITE!!! I came from society that you treat all human beings with respect, acceptance, and love regardless of their race, sex, age, ethnicity, and economic status. The race and racism issues is brought by white people. Even in Europe, white people are racist.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you so much! Yeah, it was a struggle, but hopefully others (in the same boat as us), feel they are not the only ones. I think this could also apply to other immigrant first generation families. Racism in America is so strong and vile. Hopefully, this country can do better for all the people of color that reside here.

[@wassytesfa7505]

This is really good, I like that you address everything in all its complexities, by really showing the different parts of the black community that all come together in these United States. Indeed we should learn more about each other I think opening our eyes and ears is absolutely the way to go. I would recommend two films for now. The movie 13 and the documentary "Great Civilizations of Africa are a good start. Good job!

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for your helpful film suggestions!

[@calisd8050]

Thanks for sharing and educating.

[@LilaTalks]

My pleasure, thanks for checking it out.

[@bernardosa6690]

My sister, It's also important african diaspora and Black Americans or Brazilians to come back and discover Africa to maintain link with the continent We have a culture, history, gastronomy, tradition and a lot of countries and ethnic groups to discover Every year they must send back their children to interchange with continental Africans

[@LilaTalks]

I agree, I have been visiting back home more often lately. It's important to learn about different cultures in Africa. If people have the financial means to travel that far, they should definitely take the change. Africa is a beautiful continent that is super diverse and different. So far, I've been to Nigeria, Senegal, Gambia, Morocco, Cape Verde, Ethiopia, Eritrea, Zambia, Tanzania, South Africa, and Mauritius. All super different and amazing!

[@Dj-Luda]

Good job, go girl 👏🏾

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you. Do you have any suggestions on future video topics?

[@brietaha9063]

the experience was the same thing my oldest daughter experienced when in elementary, she had a crush on her friend who was white her best friend said the exact same thing your friend said... that's crazy! as her mom I told her the same things you mom did.

[@LilaTalks]

It seems like your daughter and I have great moms:)

[@mamokilo]

Wow awesome video! Don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t belong.

[@LilaTalks]

mamokilo thank you! It was a journey when I was younger but I’ve found my identity now ☺️

[@unrecognizedisraelite8112]

Loved your video....

[@LilaTalks]

So glad! Thanks for your comment. Any future topics you'd like to see?

[@tadessealene4340]

Great good job !!

[@carlosv7801]

Habeshas are so unique

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you.

[@ditocerto]

That's what they love to hear and what makes them think they're superior to the non habesha Ethiopia blacks and other africans.

[@twentyfaces62]

@@ditocerto we don't think we're superior at all. There are racists and supremacists in all ethnic groups bro. Look at the Hebrew israelites who claim they're superior to everyone and are African American. Come on

[@ditocerto]

@@twentyfaces62 I have nothing to do with African-americans. I'm not American, I'm angolan. Your excuse for racism, or Ethiopian historical racism makes me sick. But I'm glad all of this is getting exposed.

[@anthonyloveanthonylove2159]

@@ditocerto yes we are racists get over it

[@aborigineone2377]

Black Americans like Ethiopians too, once they get to know us they will find out they have been lying to about us, we are very nice people, don't believe the stereotyping you hear come and see for yourself.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for your comment! It is human nature to judge and stereotype others based on our experiences, but I think it's important for everyone to be self aware of their own biases and keep an open mind and heart about others. Life is a learning journey.

[@shiwadaay07]

I was told that I don't look like a black person and sometimes some Americans mistook me for being from India. Smh 🙄

[@Sonny361974]

Beautiful Habesha lady who is humble and intelligent.

[@craigblaylock3913]

Right! Always be the best you! Excellent Video!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you so much Craig! I appreciate the support! Happy Holidays!

[@mrredwhite1244]

Good video sister. Love from Va!

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for the support! Very much appreciated. It was my first video :)

[@FabioTheGreat]

I didn't know there were black policy makers who decide who is black and who is not black.

[@LilaTalks]

Thanks for your comment. The perception of who is "black" and "non-black" can be very subjective. But in America, most of the time, if you "look black" you are treated as a black person regardless of your background.

[@FabioTheGreat]

@Anthony Bush I'm talking about black people, or descendent of Africans. Africa is very diverse, and black is not a real race, it's a pan-race.

[@howtotieatie5845]

@@LilaTalks Lila Are you really black ??

[@rexfoster9629]

I like your Father's story. The Success Sequence: Work hard, Get Educated and Build a Life... is very Powerful. Avoid pitfalls that derail this. God Bless All.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you!

[@dinajoliemarie]

Awesome video!

[@LilaTalks]

Thanks for letting me know!

[@dinajoliemarie]

@@LilaTalks You're most welcome! 🙂

[@LilaTalks]

@@dinajoliemarie :)

[@golisabetsabet2085]

I had many Ethiopian friends growing up in Silver Spring... I've felt that my Ethiopian friends often related to me because I was a 1st generation American of Lebanese descent and that the Ethiopian community was an extension of the middle eastern due to cultural and linguistic similarities.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for sharing! I can understand your experience. My family and I have many friends from the Middle East region from Lebanon to Afghanistan to Iran. Although I don't see the Ethiopian community as an extension of the Middle East, I definitely think the cultural similarities create a certain level of comfort and understanding of one another. Thanks for checking out the video!

[@millionweldesenbet1101]

are you crazy

[@golisabetsabet2085]

@Hannibal Barca I'm just giving my opinion and perspective. I'm just recognizing, comparing and contrasting the similarities and differences between the two respective cultures. There are some obvious similarities we share culturally, linguistically, etc. That's all.

[@marori1037]

The similarity is the Semitic languages, love of coffee and tea, white clothing, and the ululatation chants during weddings and parties. Hebrew, Arabic, Amharic, Tigrinya are all Semitic. In fact, I have family who speak all four of these. Culturally, Lebanon has a ancient Coptic Christian population and a Muslim population as well that live peacefully side by side with each other for hundreds of years just like Eritrea and Ethiopia

[@retro2712]

ayee im in rockville

[@delinaamanuel9211]

Omg when I heard you were Eritrean American I was like 😧 and then I was like omg because I am also Eritrean American and YES

[@mothernature12]

Lila your a doggone breath of fresh air.

[@LilaTalks]

Oh thank you so much for that wonderful compliment. I appreciate the support!

[@Eurael]

You are right!

[@maxlilly7961]

Fantastic job

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you! I appreciate the positive support!

[@sammiesmith6690]

Very informative video.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for watching. I'm glad you enjoyed it!

[@berhanuyoussouf6674]

I am black just different culture and bailiff and value system we are not all the same even though we came from the continent of Africa. yes we all are African Africa is a continent no a country each country have its Owen languages culture and history.

[@forceforgood4669]

You should try to visit your route, Eritrea and Ethiopia. You will be amazed what you will discover. If you do, plan to spend enough time maybe plan a sabbatical to absorb the whole culture. It is an amazing place, you will be glad you did so.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for your comment. I've been back home. Eritrea way back in the early 90s and Ethiopia more recently and frequently. I love where I am from, the places, the people, and the overall culture. Although I am very Americanized from being born in the US and my upbringing, I'm very proud to be habesha, and I continue to seek more knowledge about us. I would love to go back for an extended period of time, hopefully soon when things are better.

[@forceforgood4669]

@@LilaTalks Glad you are proud as you should. You would have been too little to appreciate Eritrea though. The way to appreciate our culture is to peal off the current circumstances to go deeper to feel the ancient fabric, and there is lot of it. My story is much like your dad’s. But I have been fortunate to return close by in the Middle East for work with my family and had the chance to take my daughter (who was born in Canada) to camp on the mountains in Eritrea. It did not seem much then as she was only 12. But she is now 19, studying law at the university of Edinburgh and the impression seems to have lingered. She now likes to talk a lot about that camping experience. 25 years ago I had a serendipity to embark on ancestral information gathering and that took me many centuries back in history. I tell you there’s a lot of riches in this ancient land and people. I hope some day you too will be able to explore.

[@LilaTalks]

@@forceforgood4669 Wow! What an amazing story! Thank you so much for sharing. I'm so happy to hear you and your daughter are doing well. Congrats to her on her studies! Yes, I plan to go back to Eritrea soon (but I'm older than I look :)). I have a very large family and many of my relatives are still in Asmara. Thanks again.

[@handlebusiness9322]

Although Ethiopia in Africa, Ethiopia reminds me of Indians..

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for your comment. Yes, I've heard that before. I can see how some people see similarities with our facial features and food. For example, the Indian dish vindaloo is very close to our dish, Wat.

[@lg24s58]

@@LilaTalks Yeah but usually you can still tell apart Ethiopian features from south Asians like Indians, Also I think Wot and vindaloo look kinda similar but taste significantly different

[@amiryassofficial]

Love ya!!!

[@sponsponm1]

Damn I always thought ethiopians/somalis weren't black or arab? But unique because yall look like a mix of african black and Semitic arab

[@twentyfaces62]

We are. There isn't a total consensus but the best evidence eindicates that thousands of years ao western eurasians migrated back into Africa and some settled in North Africa and others went to horn and mixed with the indigenous East Africans to produce us.

[@howtotieatie5845]

We are from different shades.

[@TR-vh1fi]

I sooo want that lipstick

[@LilaTalks]

Anonymous thank you! Maybe I’ll do a video about my lipstick. I have so many different types, even different reds, lol

[@habenmokenenn8283]

Most Eritreans had to escape illegally on foot from Eritrea, that's how it is 😂😂😂

[@bernardosa6690]

For Americans if you came from Sub Sahara Africa or your parents came there than you are black Also if you have 1% or more african blood you are black people In Africa we have differents varieties of Black Africans but if look of physical aspects we are Africans If you are in Sub Sahara Africa like Ethiopia, Sudan, Nigeria, Angola or South Africa despiste you speak Arabic like Sudan, you always be black race No doubts for Americans :geography and skin colour matters in definition of race

[@kassahunretta8826]

Dear brethren fellow citizens of Ethiopians who are living in foreign countries. Million Ethiopians precious children are searching for DNA, sad but it true. True culture is abused by our feelings. We must look our origin way back our history. Our bodies are not for sale The new generation never knew our unique country because parents are mixed and straggling to choose and to follow their fathers and mothers. That is not fair to confuse the children's minds. Think about the parents responsibility and how much we value our children. They are the gifts of God. Therefore when you learn teach them and when you get give them. Thanks a million!

[@natiseyoum8337]

Wow ❤❤❤❤😍😍😍😍

[@marietedla9997]

It’s obvious people are living their experience. Some unfortunate one can’t have a similar life with the fortunate one. I wonder how your mom can’t have family or close friends from Ethiopia? Or she didn’t teach you who actually you are and at the same time, she advised you to be yourself. Otherwise, appreciated your general views and. Observation.

[@Sophia-angel]

Her mother definitely taught her some really questionable values...the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree, as they say.

[@quincybrownsr.4612]

Beautiful words from a beautiful woman....many blessings to you!

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you very much!

[@EddieBsTakeout]

Hey I'm learning allot from this video as an African American man here in the states. But I am curious, do Eritreans trace back any part of their lineage to the Bible like Ethiopians do? And what was your experience with Christianity in the states VS the version you know of from your culture? Do you think that Christianity from an Ethiopian/ Eritrean perspective is more authentic due to its roots and cultural origins? Would love to hear your thoughts? Thank you this video. I've really learned allot and been blessed by your perspective.

[@LilaTalks]

Oh wow! Thank you so much for your comment. I'm glad my story gave you a different perspective. Well, Ethiopia and Eritrea were once one country so in regards to the Bible, it's referencing the same region. Well, there are big differences between Ethiopian/Eritrean Christians (which is primarily the Orthodox denomination), and African American Christians (primarily the Baptist denomination). The orthodox religion is more conservative (traditionally men and women sit separately in church). It is somewhat similar to Catholicism in rituals and practices. In my experience being a member of a Baptist Church, it's more entertaining, including more songs, dance, sometimes poetry to express "the word". Also, Baptists do a good job related the bible to real-life practical experiences. Orthodox is more so emphasizes praise and worship through prayer. As a child, my mother and I went to all sorts of churches.

[@jrreese2633]

I have a question though because I do not want to sound ignorant believing in false information, is the Term Habesha derogatory towards East African people? Only reason why I ask is because I was told that the Arabs used that term to identify the Eastern African which confuses me because that is what Ethiopians refer to themselves as. I have always looked at Ethiopians as Black but I know culturally and spiritually we are very different just like any other culture on the continent our abroad. People do not know the history of Africa therefore they look at an Ethiopian and automatically assume that person is Indian our Arab not knowing the dynamics that led to the beautiful genetics East Africans carry. Africans come in all beautiful shades and features but unfortunately my fellow AA people justify Black as 1 look.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you so much for your comment! Ethiopians and Eritreans refer to each other as "habesha", however, I understand that the word does come from a derogatory Arabic word - 'burnt skin'. I honestly, don't think most Ethiopians and Eritreans are aware of this fact. The concept of 'Black' encompasses so many sub-ethnicities. Black comes in all shades and all areas in the world :)

[@ditocerto]

@@LilaTalks said: Ethiopians and Eritreans refer to each other as "habesha" === Not all Ethiopians are habesha. This is a very racist mentality cause it tends to leave out many black people from the south who have been highly discriminated for centuries.

[@lllumo1389]

So relatableeee

[@LilaTalks]

Glad to hear it!

[@KAIZORIANEMPIRE]

@@LilaTalks your skin tone isn't really the only reason they thought, "you werent' black enough", i am blue black as dark as south sudanese but i wasn't "black enough", too more likely due to my interests in anime nerdyness and also being a hyper intellectual. In your case it was your middle class background thanks to your fathers hard work. The so called black culture in america and united kingdom comes from the natives and we are all black it's good to appreciate theiir unique experience. As immigrants we are actually priviledged with perspective. This allows us to understand that the discrimination we face here really isn't bad but the blacks born here it's their natural home and it's sad cause they are being mistreated for us we are like.. well, i have seen worse. That's a priviledge, but yeah i ended up marrying a habesha girl, you girls are too beautiful. My favourite women are south sudan and habesha, lol (am kenyan)

[@LilaTalks]

​@@KAIZORIANEMPIRE Thank you for your comment. You bring up a good point. Back home there are many people who are struggling to survive, which makes us have a different appreciating for the luxury we have in the US. However, although we may not have much, we still have a since of pride, self-esteem, and honor of where we come from, which is a true treasure! This is definitely a privilege that we should not take for granted. Black discrimination to many Ethiopians/Eritrean immigrants is a confusing concept. When my mother came to this country (in the early 70s), she didn't understand why at times she was treated unfairly because she had no awareness of their maliciousness of their actions. Back home, discrimination is based more so on social class and sub-ethnic groups, the concept of 'white' is better is foreign to most Habesha people because everyone back home is BLACK! and since Ethiopia was not colonized many do not view white people as superior. Thanks for your remarks.