Best Advice for Dating Couples

Derek Rishmawy, J. D. Greear, and Jen Wilkin discuss what pieces of advice they would give to couples in the dating stage.

[@mchristr]

If you're "shopping" for a spouse, one who will meet all your emotional needs and fill your soul, you're not ready for marriage. If you genuinely want to walk intimately with another person, helping them grow and mature in their love for Christ, you're on the right path.

[@jaynicdao7185]

JD looks like Ryan Reynolds! :D

[@StarLordIRL]

Praise God for this, lol short but insightful

[@yjk5737]

I think Jen Wilkin's advice is good, but I also see it taken to the other extreme in more "egalitarian" relationships where both are pursuing their own careers and the man, thinking along the lines of this advice, is doing all he can to support the woman in hers. It can lead to a stalemate or a failure where it becomes unclear who's leading and who's following and how things can work together. I think it's important to keep in mind that Jen is giving this advice in the context of assumed male leadership.

[@marisamarino7596]

Consistency is so important in our relationship with Christ and with our partner. And definitely not making our partner an idol. We need to be one another’s cheerleaders. At the end of the day if we are both abiding in Christ we will love the other person with the love of Christ. I’m praying for my future husband. ❤️

[@preston6618]

Lady telling us that a marriage is not "A low level understanding of a stronger person leading a weaker person"... Also God the creator of marriage: 1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the *weaker* vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Timothy 2:1 For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. Men a woman both have their strengths within in the marriage, especially through complimentarism. However, it gets old seeing folks soften God's word and dance around what they are afraid will not be palatable to the world.

[@vknadine]

Dating? When will the church stop using the worldly vocabulary for relationship Status? Dating is temporary, it is about trying out a person. When a man chooses a woman, should he not already have a friendship established in the community of the church, friends and family with her? The world doesn't care about the extended family.